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Best way to make a straight guy let me suck his dick?
>>6213696
I'll start this off easy. My doctor is basically clueless when it comes to transitions, or at least it feels like it. I was his first patient and he's pretty new to everything. My question is, is 2mg oral a day typically bad? I've changed over from 10mg biweekly injections and I feel like it's not really working well anymore. My mood has calmed down, I don't feel the same. Not nearly as emotional. I've talked to him about upping it and he seems adamantly against it. What do?
How do I pry to see if my best friend likes me or at some point liked or not? She gay but I dunno. I don't wanna come across as a weirdo.
>>6213716
You probably wont. I mean best real way is to get him drunk, have his inhibitions dropped and then slowly suggest it over the night but if he's really straight he won't go for it.
>>6213718
Could you perhaps find a more experienced doctor?
bumparoo
>>6213716
Ask.
>>6213696
how do you lower your libido to the point that you only feel the urge like once a month/full moon?
T is less than 30 from lab about 2 weeks ago
>>6213782
get married.
>>6213720
Start getting more touchy-feely with her and see if she responds.
How do I go from a Kinsey 5.9 to a full-on bisexual.
>>6213795
Just keep doing the opposite sex until you like it. Had the reverse effect for myself, except I was fucking hella dudes because lol puberty.
>>6213716
>start hormones
>become beautiful
>live in dikland
>>6213716
Lots of alcohol, him having blue balls, sexual tension and someone playing the saxophone.
23/Mtf here, would like an opinion from other transpeople. I have a pretty good job, the only downside to it is I have to present as male to keep it even though I still take all my meds and everything.
Does this make me scum? Will this make me look bad infront of my doctor? I dont want to get my prescription taken away because thats the one thing I have left to hold on to. I've worked this job for about a year and I have no desire to quit my transition, in fact it just makes me want to keep on it more. I had to cut off my hair and that in itself kind of killed my soul.
>>6213805
You mean doing lots of guys turned you more towards women?
>>6213876
No I went from completely straight(or at least thinking I was) to like about half gay. Well I was sucking a lot of dick telling myself I wasn't gay.
>>6213852
Why would they take it away? Lots of people stay closeted at work because it could jeopardize their job if they came out. Are you worried that your doc thinks you're not 'trutrans'? They probably understand it's a difficult situation.
I just talked openly with my doc about it and said it's best to come out when you're comfortable not because of others expectations.
If they don't understand this you need a new doc.
>>6213852
unless you pursue procedures that require you living full-time it's fine
How do I get over the eternal shame and disgust I feel about wishing I was a girl ?
>>6213897
>>6213905
Really? Thank goodness. Idk I've avoided a lot of people and going out altogether for fear of other people seeing me. First because of my appearance, I hate it. I basically look like a stylish twink. Secondly I don't want people to think I stopped my transition and have to explain to them.
Its definitely a big relief to hear that, I kind of had it in my head that my doctor would react negatively.
why doesn't my gf answer my texts
>>6213928
Stop being a faggot and go to a therapist.
>>6213953
replying to your text is not a priority for her at the moment
>>6213969
I could never admit to it and I don't even know if the therapist place near where I live does that kind of stuff
>>6213791
I'm an autist. What do I look for?
How meet someone for the sole purpose of sucking their cock?
>>6214321
I'd rather I not be like this. I really think I'd rather just die/kill myself than ever tell someone how I feel.
>Could also just be nothing
I've wished I was a girl since I was 5/6 and used to pray to god that I would wake up as a girl. I also dreamed/daydreamed about it constantly until about 13~ when I figured out most guys didn't want to be girl. I don't think it's something that will go away.
>>6213981
how do I make it a priority
anybody got hormones in canada?
How did you do it?
How do get hormones if you DIY?
What are the requirements?
Please help, I really don't want to have to go see a therapist and/or tell my parents.
>>6214527
stop being so needy, unless its an important matter you can wait. The more you want her to text you back the less she will.
>>6214609
im very needy tho
I'm pretty sure I'm gay but being a nigger cuts my pool of boys by a lot so I guess I have to pretend to be straight for the rest of my life
>>6214689
Find another gay nigger faggot?
>>6214548
I think qhi ships to Canada. If you wanna go the legit route it's different depending what province you are in.
>>6213696
No bf or xe-f. Done with "real" gfs.
Will cardio be sufficient if I want to be able to last longer as a bottom (in the ability to not get tired sense)
Sometimes I can't maintain position on knees and I can barely last grinding on top of him as it is.
>>6216726
Just try different positions? My favorite is the standing missionary. Like laying on a table while getting fucked. I suppose cardio would work too or just working out your legs
>>6216726
if positions are your problem you should try yoga.
> Boyfriend has a lot of very unusual tastes and hobbies (videogame music, chess, poetry, and some others)
> Makes him a little sad that no one understand his hobbies
> Try to get into some of the ones I understand
> He seems really happy at first
> Slowly stop not getting into his stuff because there's lots of things to do and/or I'm busy with my own life
> Says that's on and nothing is happening
> Suddenly gets sad and don't want to talk to me
> He sometimes calls himself a boring person and that he should change and everything is his fault
> End up telling me that I don't love him enough because I don't truly like the things he likes
I mean, having hobbies and tastes that are not very common is one thing, but measuring the love I feel for him based on how much attention I put into the stuff he likes it's just weird. Makes me feel guilty, but at the same time I feel he's just overreacting to trivial stuff.
He wants to live his hobbies and if I don't put attention enough he acts cold and stops contact for a while.
What should I do? It's not that I don't like the things he likes, but the way he sees our relationship and the things that make him sad are just so surreal.
>>6218400
say clearly to him what's on your mind
>>6218419
I already have. Many times. He just keeps blaming himself for being a boring person and running away cutting contact for a while. It makes me think he wants to end our relationship but can't.
I'm scared.
>>6218430
then just say to him isn't boring, he's got special hobbies but everyone is different and what interests you doesn't interests him and it's the same in the other way
>>6218461
That goes without saying, but he feels I might be saying that just to calm him. In the end I dunno what he want from our relationship. We love have said we love each other, I would do anything for him and he knows it, but somehow he's still unhappy and minor things like this makes him feel sad and unloved. How can anyone feel like that over hobbies, over tastes?
>>6218400
That sounds awful. I don't know if I would be able to put up with that very long.
>>6218520
Maybe because he doesn't have friends of his own to share his hobbies
I feel pretty sad that my brother and sister don't share my all my interests anymore ( we used to play video games all the time as kids, they used to play music like me but they stopped) because I seriously love them and I enjoy spending time with them. I feel pretty lonely at home now.
Maybe it's the same for him
>>6218400
Also, none of those hobbies are especially weird. Chess and poetry are both exceedingly mundane. Videogame music is a bit weird but still not that out there.
>>6218585
I'm starting to feel emotionally drain now, but I really love him and I don't want to give up on him.
>>6218604
He has some friends that are like him but all around he surrounded by normal people. He feels frustrated that no other people understand what he likes and can't make others feel interested in his hobbies and tastes.
>>6218614
I know, but he wants to "inspire" people with them or make the "discover" how good those hobbies are and feel frustration when someone doesn't appreciate them like he does.
Sometime I feel he's very immature in that regard.
>>6213782
tie a strap on to your anus 24/7
>>6218400
he is a fucking pussy, slap his shit
>>6214654
You're not emotionaly stable enough to be in a relationship.
>>6218400
How the fuck are those hobbies unusual there just not exciting there's a difference between unusual and something YOU don't care for. A wired hobbies would be something like collecting Ecstasy pills or nails and peoples hair or some shit.
>>6213795
Try just watching lots of lesbian porn (or gay male porn if you're a woman) and masturbating to it. Try to develop fetishes specifically having to deal with the opposite sex. Notice them out in public and think to yourself how they seem exotic and enticing.
I have to assume you'll fail, because people have been flipping their shit for the past 70 years over whether there's a way to change sexual orientation or not and most people have concluded that you can't, but I guess it can't hurt to give it a shot.
>>6218400
I'm like him. Get enough rudimentary knowledge to understand when he speaks about new developments in his interests. You don't have to be active but if you actually have passive interest and occasionally offer another perspective he -should- be happy. He's not gonna find a perfect nerd fit but I don't think you should tell him that.
>>6218835
He considera his hobbies weird and feel none "gets them". He just feel boring and inadequate because he likes those things and no one else does.
>>6218886
Kanye of the things he likes I know a thing or two, but I feel he wants me to be part of them or show real interest in them. I can do that and have done that, but he wants to do it often and I must be ready to talk about them or know what he means or else it's sadness for him and suffering for me.
>>6214353
I could list the logical reason why you should go to a therapist, but, why?
Just go already!
>girlfriend didn't feel like making long drive to my house last night at 1:30am
>get filled with thoughts about how she must hate me and not be interested in me anymore
How do I stop being such an insecure little bitch lmao
>>6219042
Stop caring. Not about her. Just get it in your mind that you are your own personal and you don't need to attach to someone else to be valid. Or get a hobby.
>>6213696
hwo to effectively hide tit growth during hrt? i will have to hide for atleast 1 year, preferably 2 years.
>>6213782
Cypro 50mg per day
>>6219027
It's so scary though!
>>6219174
Half buttoned overshirts. Works for me at least. No reason to have to look gaudy while trying to hide them.
Can you take estrogen by putting it in your butt or is that too dangerous?
>>6219348
just inject into the brainstem for quickest absorption :^)
Need advice.
I've recently accepted I like guys too, my attraction tends switch back and forth and am not sure which one I like better.
There are times where I come across a guy and my gay-dar or trans--dar goes off, but I create this emotional barrier even though he's attractive.
Am just avoiding having attraction to some guys because of my family and I want my own children some day.
Any advice?
>>6219348
yes you can just make sure to hit muscle, not fat or blood vessels
>>6219418
Pills
>muh liver
>>6219409
I thought I was asexual for a while. Just give it time. If you're eventually exposed to enough healthy, well adjusted gay men you'll naturally destigmatize. Once those emotional barriers (which you can't keep up forever) are gone, you'll know what your true feelings are.
>>6219409
Fucking hell, I love that look.
Anyway. I really want to learn to skateboard (have since I was a kid but was too shy to go practice on my own) but I'm 25. I'm normally fairly secure and outgoing but I can't bring myself to try. My gf used to but her legs are bad so it's hard to get her to come with me and it always seems like wherever I go a pack of 14 year old boys show up and tell me to do a trick and then I feel awkward and walk home.
Should I just forget about this? It seems fun but I'm kinda old. I always feel like that "how do you do fellow kids" pic
>>6219727
You should be fine. If you're that concerned with it just practice tricks at home. Or just tell them to fuck off.
My straight friend seems to be either getting more curious about her sexuality or just having a phase.. I came out four years ago and just this year she's been doing this shit.
>100% more touchy feely
>tells me about cute lesbian couples she sees all the time
>tells me she's jealous of our other (gay) friend and her girlfriend.
>apparently "hates" guys now and yet
>states that she's straight at least once daily
>when a guy was bothering me she suggested she pretend to be my fake girlfriend and meet up with him. (i obviously stopped her right there, but still.)
>tells me how lucky I am that I'm a lesbian and how fun and easy it must be
I don't know what to do. Could my sexuality be affecting her at all? it's been four years and she hadn't done this shit. I'm trying to make sure I'm not judgmental about her being straight at all, in-case she feels threatened or something? I point out guys she might think are cute, ask her about crushes, recommend sappy straight movies, etc. but maybe that's not the way to go? I also reject all her touchy-feely stuff in a nice way, and try to not make things weird.
How do I be a nice lesbian friend. I'm such a fucking spagetti I don't know what to do.
>>6220309
Girls like that just love attention. They'll string you along for the rest of your life pretending to be interested until the day they die. Either give up on it or be super forward. Really the only shot you'll have is a 3 way with her boyfriend and most likely all you'll get is to make out with her while getting femcucked.
>>6220389
no no, I don't want to fuck her i just want her to go back to being normal or actually come out or something. Also, we've been friends since middle school, like, best friends. Doesn't really seem like her to be trying to get attention when we already spend tons of time together and i haven't reciprocated any of that stuff.
>>6219270
It's only scary for a while, regret lasts a lifetime.
>>6220475
It would be the scariest thing ever. I've never shared feelings or said that there is something wrong with me ever.
>>6220189
I guess I can just fuck about on my street. Maybe when I get better I can drive into the city and go around town without looking like an idiot.
I'll just pretend im cool af
