After trying to figure out how gay guys socialise and find people Ive come to the conclusion that if you needed to ask, it wont ever happen
If you begin in a state of prolonged loneliness, you wont ever find anyone, because you needed to know people from the beginning to be part of it
Is this a fair assumption?
>>5883934
No, it's self defeating and cyclical.
You don't need to know how to get where you're going to start making your way there, though every vague general idea you have will help(EG. it's east of here), or in more literal terms, you're going to be socially ridiculous if you don't have the experience, but that doesn't discount you from being able to acquire that experience.
Just get out more, man.
>>5883934
There's grindr and crying your self to sleep
>>5883934
>needing to know people
this is not fucking 1492 we have internet now
>>5884079
The internet is a good way to meet old fat guys on craiglist
Not so good as a way of meeting mentally healthy, normal people
>>5883934
jesus that is the most relateable image ive ever seen and i hate myself
anyway op thats probably not true but i havent figured out a solution yet and i doubt anyone has. i think the only friends ive ever made were from sheer luck and now almost all of them are gone and i dont know what to do.
>>5884049
I'll stick with crying myself to sleep thanks.
>>5884136
>>5886321
This is harsh, but likely the truth. I've never had any problem meeting well adjusted people on the internet in a new town. I'm not even good looking.
>>5884136
>sane, good looking people dont use the internet
Sure, sure.
>>5886321
im not saying ive ever tried it
just that from what i know, people dont form normal relationships from apps
The world emerging since the late 90s is the world of the beautiful, if you are not part of that clique you are right, it will most likely never happen. But this is an experience most of us share as most of us are average or ugly, so you take solace in that and find something interesting to occupy your time with before your last breath.
>>5887698
I dont think its due to facial attractiveness
I mean good looking people obviously have it way easier
But I see ugly people with SOs
Theyre just plugged in, most people know so many people that they can actually choose who to ask out and
Whereas I can go 4 months without using my vocal chords
>>5883934
>don't make being gay your only conversation topic
>don't get political
>be interesting, play vidya/sports/instrument etc
If you literally have to be a flaming catty bitch or always talk about how much you love cock, then go hang out with some sluts or something.
>>5883934
>Is this a fair assumption?
you still can
problem is, the longer you stay lonely the harder it becomes
I can 'fake it', I can socialize
but I cant get any closer, too afraid
drugs should help I guess
>>5883934
if you don't share interests with anyone, you'll have a tough time. It's hard for me too because I'm very opinionated and people tend to be turned off by that. Also nobody wants to talk about anime or shit like that, but luckily I also know enough bullshit about history and music and politics and can bullshit intellectual. Idk. If you live in a big city try to find and join a fan club of something you like. Find the nerds and geeks, man. You're somehow hanging out with the d-bags
emo music is great i love i hate myself and sdre
I've downloaded apps out of curiosity before, but I could never bring myself to upload a picture. I didn't want anyone to recognise me, especially not people I know from highschool/uni. Grindr looked really bad anyway. Somr Tinder people actually looked nice/interesting. I'm probably just going to die alone, though. So we can all die alone together if that helps.
>>5891288
yeah i live in a big city
so literally hundreds of guys could see my face and laugh at me
i have no idea how anyone could use an app like tinder or anything and just put themselves in front of so many people like that for evaluation
>>5891387
they're not going to laugh at you. I've uploaded really strange pictures of myself (I've done "modeling" for art photography), and gotten more replies through that way rather then showing my own face and just getting ignored.
I live in a really small town as well, and people don't recognize me.
>>5891391
if youve done art modelling then you probably arent comically ugly
