Is asexuality just a convenient excuse for virgins?
>>5883885
we used to call it abstinence but as you know, the tumblr crowd of underage b&'s think they're special snowflakes because they're too cool to have sex, voluntary or involuntary
>>5883885
Yes.
Also it's an easy way to get free oppresion points.
There are some people that are actually asexual, though. But 90% of the people who claim to be asexual are just eternal virgins or have special snowflake syndrome.
>>5883900
>there are some people that are asexual
there are also some people that are ponies :^)
>>5883896
Abstinence = not engaging in sexual activity
Asexuality = lacking the desire to engage in sexual activity
>>5884097
>desire
ability
>>5884102
That's "involuntary celibacy", not asexuality. Asexuality, like pretty much all sexuality terms, describes which genders one is sexually attracted to.
>>5883896
Abstinence isn't asexuality, you can steal feel desire even if you consciously stop yourself from having sex
>>5883920
>there are also some people that are ponies
I'd date one of those pony people.
As long as the pony part is between his legs.
>>5884102
I legit knew a guy that literally had no interest in sex. He could have smashed women or men and he just didn't give a shit. It was actually really funny to watch the frustrated women who flocked around him at parties. If anything I would think he was gay, but he did not go with either even though he seriously could have.
Some disorders, diseases, medication and trauma cause loss of libido.
The majority of self-proclaimed asexuals have none of these, only teenage angst/confusion and poor sex ed.
>>5884221
Loss of libido isn't asexuality, asexuality is about the "direction" of attraction, not how horny you are. And if anything, poor sex ed would make people less likely to identify as asexual since they wouldn't know it's a thing.
>>5883885
pretty much
>>5883885
i knew this really hot girl in high school who was asexual. so no probably not
>>5884325
tumblr special snowflake
>"I'm a virgin"
>"what a loser"
>"I'm asexual"
>"what a fucking weirdo"
As excuses go, it's a pretty shit one.
>Brutally raped from age 8 to 13.
>Still have knife wounds around my ass
>Picked tattoo across my dick that says "My bitch"
>Have had zero sexual interest from then on
Nope.
>>5884146
>That's "involuntary celibacy"
InCel is the thirstiest sounding shit, as if for most people sex falls from the sky on a silver platter - as if sex is the most important aspect of all the things incels are missing out on. E.g. normal human relationships.
>>5884160
Lewd.
>>5884434
hawt
post more stories.
i jerk off every day, but i can't handle being in a relationship or having sex
not sure if that qualifies me for asexual, or maybe something more like schizoid personality disorder idk
>>5884434
Picked?
>>5884510
Sounds like depression to me.
>>5884534
When they use a needle to tat without the needle gun.
>>5884448
>he doesn't know how to tell if samgefag
hello new friend
>>5884654
>he thinks there is a special way to detect samefagging
hello new friend :^)
>>5884342
This. My guess is that for some its a phase, or a clever way to hide their gayness, with a handful of legit asexuals. Truly the master race if you ask me, but only if they aren't attarcted to anyone period, none of that halfway bullshit.
>>5884772
yeah if only the thread told you the numbers of posters or something like that :^)
I have no libido.
I am almost 30 years old, I have never had erections outside of touching my dick.
Please, if you have the solution tell me so I can be normal and not considered asexual by doctors that tell me I have to get used to have the situation is.
>>5884811
>16 posters
>29 replies
I'm sorry that you're too retarded to assume that one person out of 16 people can't post more then once in their own thread. 29 posts in total makes it very likely. :^))))))
>>5884842
Not to mention that the unique posters counter is anything but foolproof. This is the website from which sprang the assholes that hack opinion polls every day, and supposedly the website frequented by the people that shut down all of the Syrian government's internet access and sifted through their top secret files. It's stormfront meets Kevin Mitnick. And supposedly everyone here is a pedophile who is behind seven proxies and uses Tor and visits motherless. I think maybe a counter that keeps track of the number of posters is no obstacle, at least to the shitposter type.
>>5884892
Trying this hard
3 lines to your paragraph
3 sides to a triangle
Newfag confirmed.
>>5884160
bazinga
>>5884928
zimbabwe
>>5884434
>mutilates dick
>wonders why his dick has problems functioning
>>5884448
Two of those posts are only 41 seconds apart, isn't the cooldown period like 40 seconds? If it is the same person, they must have been really impatient to make that second post.
>>5884956
I was saying there is a tattoo there that says "My bitch"
I didn't pick it.
>>5884984
>it's pretending it doesn't know about auto post
>>5884816
Well there are various drugs to increase libido, but if your doctors say it can't be fixed then either you live in some severely backwards country or you have some kind of unusual condition causing it.
Also, just curious, are you able to masturbate "normally"? And do you ever feel a need/desire for sexual release? You don't have to answer if it makes you uncomfortable.
>>5884448
you'll probably just accuse me of photoshop
>>5885025
Which drugs are there to increase libido? My doctor tells me there is now such drug, and my private research tells me there are no such drugs either.
If you have heard of drugs that increases libido, that is arousal, please tell me.
>>5885103
420 blaz it
you probably think im memeing but im srs
>>5885134
I've smoked for five years straight, no change in arousal or libido, only anxiety and intrusive thoughts.
Please, if you know of psychotropic medicine that rises arousal tell me the name so I can tell the name to my doctor the next time we meet.
>>5884984
it's 1 minute
>>5885152
yea i hear that alot(the anxiety part) and expected that reply
you have to make it past the anxiety portion for the libido benefit and alot of it has to do with underlying guilt issues, low confidence, etc. really. if possible you should get as high as you can without going into an all out full force anxiety attack and just accept your thoughts and question why you feel that way. i use to be the same way until I accepted my being mtf and interest in cock, now I smoke and sex/masturbation is pure bliss
>>5885201
I smoke from waking up to the end, no libido change. Unless you know of an actual medicine please don't talk to me again.
>>5885211
ok faggot w.e then i'm actually diagnosed schiz and have to take meds outside of smokinv weed i do know what i'm talking about i was genuinly trying to help you but obviously you're too good for it because you're a special snowflake. your libido wont get better because you're a stubborn shithead
>>5885227
I've smoked daily now for five years, from waking up to I go to sleep. Obviously this is not helping, so don't suggest that, there is no science behind that, all it has brought is making me more crazy.
If you know of a pharmaceutical medicine that will give more arousal I'd be happy to hear. But cannabis does nothing for libido as far as it goes for me. Neither sativa or indica
>>5885264
like other posters have said, there is no perfect libido drug. if cialis/viagra type drugs aren't doing it maybe you should take the advice and work out your internal mental issues and try again with the weed. not even being able to admit weed is a real "drug" and has "no science behind it"(obviously this is mainly because there is a drug war agenda in america that demonizes weed) is like a glaring signin itself...you sound like a baby boomer still living in denial. just try it, literally nothing to lose. except ego that is if you're proven wrong.
>>5885775
First. Cialis/viagra are not arousal medications, they increase blood flow. Arousal has to already be present or they will do nothing.
Second. I have smoked so much cannabis that it has already have me committed to a psych ward for being botderline psychotic. For me, cannabis is not some miracle drug, it does nothing for me other than make me nauseous, shaky, obsessive and sick. Doesn't matter if it's indica or saitiva. Doesn't matter if it's hashish, marihuana or keef. Doesn't matter if I smoke or eat it. I see no qualities in cannabis because I have during five years never had a positive experience with it, only bad.
If there is a real drug, that has properties of giving arousal please share, but don't suggest cannabis because it has been tried and tested.
>>5885827
if you can't mentally prepare yourself for improvement nothing is going to work. it's painfully obvious you have attitude problems just from you word choice, selective reading and sentence structure.
If you can't get past your mental block to loosen up, nothing will work, which was also the key talking point in my previous reply. deny deny deny is not going to fix your anxiety, which is probably the source of your arousal issue.
>>5885896
I don't have anxiety except for when I smoke cannabis, or eat it for that matter.
If anything my problems would be classified as being to loosed up in sober state.
I have never experienced arousal in my life for almost 27 years now. There are pills for almost anything but not for arousal?
I don't mean to attack your precious cannabis here but for you it brings arousal, for me not. Since there is a law preventing people from conducting scientific experiments on it all we have is anecdotes, and so your experience doesn't matter to me as my own private one does. Cannabis have never made me relaxed it has done the complete opposite of that.
All I'm asking is if anyone knows of anything else beside cannabis, it has already been suggested, thank you.
>>5885927
>if anything it's because im too loose
if you know what your problem is then why is it still a problem? inb4 strawman inb4 if i knew how to fix them i would. inb4 ad-hom. tension is a common problem for men and women sexually. you aren't an exception despite your thinking otherwise, unless you're some 1 in a million special case with neurological wiring that cannot be changed(special snowflake).
idc if you believe it or not i was just trying to help but obviously you werent but were looking for help, hence asking anybody if they know a treatment that may work but when proposed going NUH UH NUH UH NO EVIDENCE. different methods with the same products do have different effects. inb4 denial
one last time because you're just being a troll probably. work on your mental issues(you have them, everyone has issues) then try it again, or look for a miracle that absolutely cannot involve weed because it pains you so.
>>5885152
researches link arousal with dopamine
but the root of your problem might be very different than lack of dopamine, so dopaminergic drugs like Cabergoline might to nothing
your doctors should know better (in theory)
>>5886416
Dopamine levels are normal now. Anything chemical or endocrine has been ruled out.
Common known aphrodisiacs such as oysters can also be ruled out.
>>5884102
There are asexual people who have sex because their partner isn't asexual or they want kids or whatever. Doesn't mean they want to have it or have any interest in it
>>5883885
I really don't get the hate towards asexuals. Gays you an at least have some borderline retarded arguments that it spreads aids or "the bible says it's wrong" but asexuals the absolute only reason why you hate them is because they are being different.
>>5887182
The bible says it's a man's duty to put his seed inside women's wombs, and it's women's duty to take it.
>>5887182
maybe because they're a group of people who want nothing to do with sex trying to invade and flag plant into a group of people who are trying to openly embrace their sexuality?
>>5887190
ah I get it now. for I told someone I wasn't interested in sex and he trotted out that same line.
"It's your duty as a man! bla bla bla"
I also noticed that as usual it's the males who get the worst of the hatred just like with homosexuals. Nobody would dare force a woman to have sex in this day and age but it's still perfectly acceptable to force men to.
>>5884310
>dumbass teen gets half-assed sex ed lecture because god forbid the christians get butthurt
>"gee i bet the internet can tell me more!"
>dumbass teen teaches self with AVEN and porn
>dumbass teen assumes that because they don't want to fuck relentlessly like a pornstar, they MUST be one of those demigraymanticasexuals they just read about
>>5884510
Being a schizoid (or any Cluster A really) and allosexual is the worst feel.
I want to be left the fuck alone. I don't want these urges inside me screaming for a connection that the rest of me is absolutely repulsed by.
>>5887625
Personally, I just want to cuddle and kiss.
I tried being sexual at many points in my life and while the machinery often did the job, I'd feel disconnected, apathetic and the only fun I was having would be talking dirty or cumming through literal friction. The worst was when partners had mirrors and I'd watch myself fucking them thinking 'what am I even doing?'
>>5887203
I'm asexual, I have a legitimate lack of sexual interest.
I don't want to be acknowledged.
Don't group me in with those fags.
It doesn't matter what your opinion.
It's a documented by actual medical professionals, not neets on 4chan who's profession it is to bait and shit post the LGBT forms.(Which I admit I'm biting into right now)
If some one is faking then they'll show later on in their life that they're not actually Asexual.
>Me
>45 years old
>Has had zero sexual interest from middle school onward.
>Make enough money were even if I was ugly it wouldn't be hard to have sex/get married
>Constantly asked out at work.
>>5887866
why are you claiming to be the superiority on asexuality.
I've had no sex drive either, but I want to have one. I've spent most of my life trying to get it back, you might be ok with not having one but I have no desire to be asexual I think that's a horrible fate that no human should have to settle into.
>>5887888
I didn't claim to be anything.
I said it's an actual documented orientation.
If you want to get your sexual interest back I don't care, I'm stating it to be an actual thing. Not an excuse for some one in their 20s who hasn't gotten laid yet.
>>5887888
Not him, but why the issue? My only problem with being Ace was that people find it hard to get. How can you miss it like that if you don't have it?
Also
>getting it back
Did you have one?
>>5887914
I'm not that ace, but my lack of sex drive makes it difficult to have relationships. Because I still want to have one. Without the sex. This anon resonated with me:
>>5887643
>I tried being sexual at many points in my life and while the machinery often did the job, I'd feel disconnected, apathetic
I didn't enjoy feeling constantly pursued by my sex-deprived partner. It made me uncomfortable and like I was doing something terrible to turn them down.
Sexuals seem to enjoy sex so much. They'd happily have it every day. They call it "making love", a way to express intimacy and they always look so happy. People relate a dead bedroom to a loveless relationship, and relate regular sex to a happy relationship.
Why can't I have that?
>>5888307
Well, you're replying to me, if you can believe an anon.
I haven't entirely moved past those feelings, but they're not healthy and I do my best not to feed them. I'll never be what those partners wanted me to be, maybe some day I'll find one who's happy as I am. They may be sexual (and either finds outlets or we try polyamory) or ace.
I don't know why we can't have it, but from what my friends and ex partners have told me, it's not all that. You're buying into a very idealised version of sex and that'd be bad even if you weren't ace.
libido and sexual attraction are different things
u can have a high libido and still be asexual
asexuality has existed long before tumblr
>>5888908
>asexuality existed before tumblr
you could never prove that without a firm revisionist history story
>>5889035
Sir Isaac Newton, Nikola Tesla, Emilie Autumn, Tim Gunn and J.M Barrie.
tumblr created in 2007
asexuality identified in 1994 and 2004 (before then under a different term)
>>5884807
I've never actually been attracted to anyone sexually. I never looked at anyone that way. I didn't know about asexuality until a few months ago and I refused to identify as asexual until I did like a crap ton of research on it. No one even knows I'm asexual or even needs to. I'm sick of hearing about this whole "asexual Spectrum " thing on Tumblr, there's no Spectrum about it. You're either attracted to people or you're not. You aren't Grey asexual, you're not demisexual you're either asexual or sexual. This is why no one thinks we exist...
>>5884221
Yeah, because Tumblr decided to pretend it was a spectrum. It's black and white come on you're either asexual or sexual .
>>5890764
Not really, there's little point in calling yourself allosexual if you're like 35 years old and have only experienced sexual attraction like 3 times in your whole life.
>>5889035
Believing otherwise would require you to believe that asexuality doesn't actually exist and that every human ever has experienced sexual attraction. Which really doesn't seem reasonable given the diversity in human traits.
>>5893868
Btw allosexual just means not asexual.
