How do I get men interested in me (~3 years HRT MTF)
No one ever really goes out of their way to approach or talk to me. The ones that's have only talk to me off and on. I try and send dirty pics but rarely get any actual replies about them.
Is it my hair or not passing well enough something that I can change?
pic unrelated
>>5784723
Post selfie so we can see you hon
>>5784732
What if someone recognizes me?
>>5784768
How can we see if you pass or not?
>>5784732
>This
It's the best way for us to help.
just get slutty
post slutty pictures online
If we can't see where do you stand in terms of attractiveness we can't help you offering solutions, retard.
>>5784732
>>5784801
>>5784870
>>5784922
Here's me in a dress
I dunno if I'll post face. I post in passing threads but I don't want anyone seeing this post and my face together. Would be embarrassing.
>>5784944
You're on fucking 4chan. It's not going to get far, although it'll end up in plenty of fap folders.
I dye and bleach my hair sometimes. No super far out colors but does that turn some cis men off? Seems like the guys I meet think that's too tumblr. Is that a small majority I should ignore?
Definitely. There's plenty of people into the whole alt.girl thing without being the kind of sputtering retard that's going to go off about SJW out of nowhere.
>>5784944
You look pretty good, I suggest you to not post your face here because there is people fucked up.
im not sure why somebody wouldnt want to fuck you, where are you trying to catch boys?
>>5784963
ok, I was starting to get worried and thinking I'll have to dye my hair to its natural color (which is black and that's kinda hard to make it look not blue imo) for anyone to be interested. The lack of attention from anyone is starting to get to me, I feel like being trans just makes people uncomfortable. I poked a guys toe with my toe once and he just kinda froze and left a few min later, never heard from him again.
>>5784977
lol wtf are you trying to date autists?
>>5784969
I don't really know, I tend to not go to bars or pubs or whatever cause I'm diabetic and can't drink so it makes it kinda hard and awkward. I mostly just sit around random places. I smile and wave if someone looks like their looking at me but they never say hello or anything. I have no idea what I'm doing desu..
>>5784723
>Is it my hair or not passing well enough something that I can change?
that is very specific
how would we know if its your hair?
>>5784991
you're being retarded lol.
just try okcupid or tinder, say that you're a tranny otherwise people will feel like you're cheating on them.
i would gladly talk to you if i had the chance
>>5784996
I dunno, I changed it to red recently. All the comments about how people like it more than blonde made me kinda sad.
>>5785001
in my opinion, blonde is more cute and innocent, and that red is more hot and fuckable.
>>5784997
I messaged some people on okcupid but no one replies. I only get people from like random middle east countries that message me. I downloaded and installed tinder on my phone, I'll try it soon. I don't know much about them, whats the difference between tinder, grinder and whats the other one?
>>5784988
What? haha
>>5784944
>hides face
hon confirmed
>>5785001
First time on /lgbt/ tonight and I come across your thread. You seem like a great person, just with insecurities about your looks. I have had a few MTF friends, so if you want to chat feel free.
My instagram if you want to contact me, and to show I'm being legit and not trying to perv it up:
@_Mark_Davis_
Keep your head up, as someone myself who's been single for five years its easy to start doubting that you have something to offer others. I do, and you do as well. It's just a time game.
>>5784944
Hey, the legs look very good, at least, and you don't appear to have a large frame. Naturally we can't tell without a face shot, but for the love of god, don't post that on here.
>>5785009
>as someone myself who's been single for five years
warning: red flag
>>5785009
>First time on /lgbt/ tonight and I come across your thread
Suuuure you did.
>>5785025
I've quite literally been working on myself and traveling the world. I lost 80lbs and, well, travel the world.
Just got back into the dating game this year. I'll admit, I'm nervous as hell since it's been so long, but I was away from the game purposely while getting my own life together.
Not everyone who has been single for a long time is a red flag.
>>5785031
>First time on /lgbt/ tonight and I come across your thread
LOL what a funny guy, he should become a comedian
>>5785004
I can see that haha
>>5785007
Maybe
>>5785009
I don't got instagram but I'll remember
>>5785017
Thanks, I can't find any new pics of my legs but I got this. This was pre HRT, I only found out was diabetic when I started HRT so I'm kinda skinny here. I'm 35lb heavier now.
I'll keep looking
>>5785056
Here this is newer
>>5785064
4chan can be pretty shitty
>>5784723
your body looks nice, but cant give you a full opinion without your face, but i understand not wanting to post it. Just there is someone out there for everyone op. even big fat fuck ugly cis women can find lovin, and your def not a fatty, and dont appear to be fuckugly, so you got a good chance of finding a guy.
do you go out at all? clubs bars...etc? get yourself out there, see who you can meet.
i would also advise not disclosing your trans status right off the bat, if you meet a guy who seems interested. get to know them a bit and then tell them if they seem like someone you want to pursue, just tell them before things get physical.
>>5785073
Bae, it looks like your jeans have holes in them
>>5785009
Not op, but I just looked at your instagram and oh my gosh I want to go on an adventure with you.
>>5785144
i dunno, white knight traveler dude up there offered to talk to you and you passed him over
maybe the problem is that you pass up the chances that do come up. i met my girlfriend through a friend i met in school.
>>5785001
Oh hey, I recognize your hair from one of the passing threads. I think you pass.
>>5785163
i-i know. They're so comfy but they're getting worse.
>>5785184
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>>5785254
you said you don't have instagram, how do you know if he is local or not? you know what, never mind. I see the problem now, and hopefully you do soon too.
>>5785266
>you know what, never mind.
Please calm down anon. I book marked his page and looked at his instagram, I don't think not running after him like hes my saving grace is a big deal
ITT, and every other advice thread that has ever existed:
>OP asks for advice
>OP is given a solution
>OP ignores advice, argues with advice givers
>????
>...profit?
>>5785333
What on earth are you talking about?
>>5785289
I looked at his instagram as well. Seems like a cool guy, though hiking isn't my thing. No one said anything about running after him like he's your saving grace, you're overreacting now. The point other anon was making isn't that you should go suck adventure-guy's penis, it's that opportunities come up for you to expand your social circle and you shut them down without a second thought.
You want to meet someone? Get off dating websites like OKCupid and Tinder. Make some friends. Get a hobby like hiker dude did, that's probably where he will end up meeting someone (I'm the one that just added you on IG btw, if you're still lurking around).
As ironic as this may sound: grow some balls and network. Friends first, dating later.
>>5785385
After 40 posts, some extensive, some not, I think people may have lost interest. There's only so much attention people will give to someone who could solve their problems on their own, but doesn't.
Why IG
Isn't this for pictures, I did not even know you can message people on this. Am I tripping
Well this has been a weird experience. Just told me his work hours and pay rate. I think I'm gonna go to bed now. I'll be back tomorrow to check if this is still up.
Keep trying OP. You look great! Do you snapchat?
>>5784723
I think you look incredible and dont know what anyone's problem is. Just stay healthy and you will be fine ;) kik jo_johansen if you like..fit 36m oregon
>>5785404
>Thailand Enthusiast / Nature & Girldick Explorer
Well in the real world most heterosexual cismen will flirt with a transwoman in public. Only if she passe flawlessly and is attractive.
So if you don't pass 100% well there is your problem. Even if some guy likes you he won't show it in public. Only if he's openly gay or you meet in a really liberal place like a big city or something...
I pass in most situations in public and some men hit on me but when they know my trans-status only creepers and gay-guys openly hit on me. There is room for hetero guys though when they are drunk. Two of my old male friends tried to get into my pants maybe hoping for a friendly fuck...
>>5786769
>So if you don't pass 100% well there is your problem
(._. )'
>Even if some guy likes you he won't show it in public
This seems to be a running theme. Most men won't be seen with me in public. I've gotten invited to a guys house a few times but whenever I asked him to come biking or do something with me he always said no. So where should I meet someone? Like a coffee shop or something?
>when they are drunk
Maybe that's a problem with me too? I can't stand people that drink.
>>5784944
Socks?
>>5786861
I don't really have any cute pairs :c mostly just Christmas themed socks
>>5785041
It's my first time in here too despite spending 6 years on 4chan and I stumbled upon this thread so this is sth that can happen.
I'm amazed how people in here are nice and open to discussion compared to other boards.
>>5784723
i couldnt tell you, id date a mtf in a heartbeat
>>5786709
I like receiving sexy snaps like the pictures you've been posting, I'm sure many others do too :P
>>5787093
ok i'll make one when I get back. Gotta go get eye drops right now.
>>5787104
thanks bae
>>5787123
Turns out I had one with my email already.
Username: samxalex
I think thats all you need? I'm so bad at this lol
>>5787291
gotcha!
>>5786744
kek
Hi, saw your thread. You definitely have a great body and I'd probably come up to you. Do you leave anywhere in souther Cali?
>>5785001
Your hair looks kinda greasy in this picture. Not trying to be rude, just giving you a heads up.
Honestly? My bf of 3.5 years and I met on here. I'm a secret from his parents family but he's always been public with me (except to a handful of old ignorant friends back where he's from).
We did the LDR thing until he moved in with me. I'm full hon mode and he's still lovey dovey with me in public.
What I've learned:
1. Be submissive but have self respect
2. Be able to take care of yourself
3. Therapy/counseling for your crazy ass.
4. Exercise.
5. Do girly shit. Idk for me it was natural. Cook. Clean. Play with makeup. Organize.
6. Be your own person.
7. Shut up. Literally talk less.
Pic related it my babby
Did the OP specify anywhere they want a bf?
>>5789216
Half this shit sounds like you're trying to be a fucktoy and not a partner. Get some standards for yourself, anon.
>>5789216
He's fat and has bigger boobs than me tbqhon
>>5784944
>dress
>blonde
>snes
Well I'm pretty much ready to marry you.
>>5789489
You should play Crystal Chronicles with me
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ogpvzHrLCPU&list=PL5F286D0D14A5E1B0&index=4
>>5784723
A very small demographic of men are going to be attracted to you. Straight men aren't going to care if you are passable, and lots of gay men don't want someone that looks like a girl, for obvious reasons. Don't be surprised by this.
>>5789562
>>5789573
what?
>>5789778
I love this kind of music. Even just having low volume OSTs playing for ambient noise in the house is nice. Curl up on the couch with a book and tea. Snuggle the gf and read sections to her when she gets curious. <33
>>5790139
haha :D I've been listening to the OST for it for last hour and playing bloons in bed. You sound cool
W-what do you read
>>5790157
It depends on my mood. I think my favorite genre is biographical novels. I like to read other things though, from polisci textbooks to philosophy. I'm a nerd lol.
You seem nice. Is there somewhere I can reach you where you won't have to worry about this public pressure?
>>5790196
yeah sure, my emails [email protected] I can give you my skype there if you want : >
>>5784723
from pick i see a thick brow ridge and large nose.
a funny unappealing voice that would be possibly the greatest factor. boys don't want to have to explain to their parents what their date is and why they sound and look so strange.
>>5784944
Dress look's nice. But if you want to talk to someone. As a girl. It;s not about them approaching you. Alot of guys and i mean ALOT will 9 out of 10 be to shy to go up to and start a convo right out of the blue
>>5784723
Walk's up to you* Hi.
253?
>>5784723
idk if it means anything to you. but as a straight man, if you were anywhere near me, i'd date you right away.
>>5789028
I try to keep better care of it than I used to. Used to get dry and horrible, so I'm improving.
>>5784723
>http://strawpoll.me/6940345
loooooooooooooose the hat
>>5784723
Popped a boner
Pass/10
