Can you learn to love anal play? Or "grow" into it?
I have a prostate massager, which is nice, but any other kind of movement really hurts my butt at the moment. I want to be able to ride a dildo or something but from just using my fingers, even just using a sharpie, I get sore very quickly. at times it feels really great and the idea of it makes me very fucking horny but then I get sore ;_;
How much of a difference does a proper dildo make? sharpies and fingers are very small but still hurt.. my prostate massager's broadest point is 1.1 inches in diameter and that makes me feel fairly stretched out even.
>>5773696
Yes, first time is weird, second time is kinda good , after the third time you start learning how good it can feel.
Just remember if you take too long between the sessions you'll be decreasing the effect. Regular practice is the key.
>>5773707
Also yes, a proper dildo feel much better than some short hard thing.
Don't do anal if you don't like it. I hate it that anal became a social norm. It's just not pleasant for a lot of people and you have a right to take the risks into account.
>>5773731
I do like it on some level, like I said in the OP. I love my prostate massager.. the probably is anything beyond that starts to feel painful.
>>5773731
Frot is hot.
Anal is not.
Thigh sex is good.
Oral sex is fine too.
>>5773752
thigh sex sounds pretty unappealing
I'll take the anal
>>5773696
It all depends on the person.. Some no some yes for me it was a big yes..
>>5774319
was it just persistence?
>>5774319
Shit answer famzaurus. He wants to know if he can get into it by simply doing it over and over again.
I'll share my limited but relevant experience.
>>5773696
I'm still a virgin, so I don't know how the actual sex will feel (I probably never will, pls end me now) but I do finger myself on occasion and have stuffed various objects up there.
It was simple boredom at first. And also the slight kink. I think I'm a sub, so I wanted to try out and see what it did for me. There was no explicit sexual pleasure I gained from it at first. It didn't feel specifically comfortable and the prep for all of it was tedious, so I never did it very often.
But that changed when I found what I think is my prostate. When I pressure it, and Jack off, holy lord. I cum with the force of a thousand exploding suns and have weak knees for quite a while after.
Also, general anal does feel better because I know what to do. I like wiggling my fingers around, for example, instead of doing the in and out. I also like stretching my entrance.
It took time, but it gradually became pleasurable the more I discovered. I would recommend you clean yourself down there, perhaps try and shave, get some lube or similar and go to town with your fingers. You can control them a lot better and have much more accuracy than with an object. Try it out while Masturbating. Go slow, fast, play around and just see if there is anything that feels pleasurable to you.
Good luck.
>>5774868
Definitely seconding the advice to try wiggling fingers instead of thrusting. You're trying to hit the prostate with male anal, not stimulate nerve endings like a vagina.
>>5773696
It really depends on how much you're willing to relax, go slowly, and explore it. You're not going to figure out how you like things in yer butt (if you do at all) by jamming something in there and expecting it to feel good.
If putting something as small as a finger in hurts, it's probably because you're tensing up and resisting it; practice breathing and relaxing while wiggling a finger or a small vibrator against your anus until you relax enough that it easily slides in.
And don't feel bad if you don't get there for a while. Relaxing takes practice. Googling some specific pointers can help, but it really comes down to just slowing down and taking it easy.
>>5773696
youll start to get more and more comfy at it
before you know it you'l lbe cumming from just slamming on a dildo with no touching of your penis.
i used to have to jack off while i played, but now i can just cum from fucking my ass
use alot of lube btw
>>5773752
>intercrural sex meme
What are you greek?
Hoping this'll do as a place to just talk about butt stuff, didn't quite feel like this post has quite enough to it to warrant a new thread
Just moments ago, for the very first time and completely by accident, I experienced my first... not anal orgasm, but first "experience in which I felt a wholly positive sensation from having a foreign object (or much of anything) in my butt." Holy fuck, that was a pleasant surprise.
I felt like the physical embodiment of that cringey, cliche line of hentai/smut dialogue; "Wait! It feels weird~" (tn: weird~ means good). My mind honestly produced the thought, "I feel like something I've never experienced before will happen if I don't immediately stop," in the frame of a second. It was just all warmth and soothing and god DAMN.
And it was just from an accidental poke in, I assume, just the right spot.
This is just so fucking funny to me, because my first conscious orgasm is in recent enough memory (never masturbated until after I'd first had sex, long/irrelevant story ), and not only was the sensation different (as, I am realizing, may be obvious to anybody who's had an orgasm from both butt stuff and dick stimulation) from then, my reaction to it was not even close to that awkward.
I just had to tell this to somebody. Like I was half-ready to run into the street and yell, "Hey, world! Your butt really CAN make you feel good!"
Now I guess I have to learn to, uh, be sure that wasn't a case of lightning striking once, and once only
>>5775046
>You're trying to hit the prostate with male anal, not stimulate nerve endings like a vagina.
then why do women like anal? no prostate... so...?
>>5776741
what "accidentally" made it's way into your butt?
>>5777176
On toilet, was wiping, etc. Ain't got a bidet or moist tp, so. Had to get in there a little.
It was the second of prostate-fueled bliss that was "accidental."
>>5777483
oh wow, how deeply did you go? your prostate is a ways in your butt.
>>5777145
Really shitty picture, but look at the difference. Females have much less tissue separating the sensitive areas from the rectum. They get stimulation of their nerve endings in the vagina. Guys get stimulation of the prostate.
>>5777515
Hmm, not like whole-finger-underground deep, a bit more than the shortest joint of a finger/the intermediate phalange. Pardon the mistake if whatever I hit probably wasn't the prostate, then.
...of course, if that is indeed the case, what the hell did I hit? Can the ass-core just feel good if you put something of some perfect girth in at some perfect angle even just a relatively small way in, like putting your pants on both legs at the same time in midair by falling into them?
>>5776741
I feel like most men are deprived of pleasure they could possibly get since they never explore other erogenous zones. Just massaging your perineum can feel amazing. And anal is something else. it makes me feel euphoric though I cant ejaculate from it alone and takes a long time of practice to really learn to enjoy it (maybe not that long if you start young)
>think anal is super hot
>buy dildo, vibe, lube etc year ago
>can't find prostate, fapping with something in my ass is still great and I like the way the vibe feels
>keep trying, buy longer and thicker dildos in case that's the problem, try aneros, nofaps etc
>still can't even find the sweet spot
I must be secretly retarded or something, is it even possible for a person not to find their prostate for a year?
>>5777963
maybe get something that's designed to hit the prostate?
>>5777685
I love playing with the 'shallows' of my ass.... I think there's potential for a lot of things to feel good in that area so I don't think what you experienced is anything strange.
>>5773696
Everything hurts my ass but actual cock. I've taken big fat ones but put a finger in and I might lose my hard on. Though some daddies manhandle my ass and I like the abuse but will beg for the cock.
Plastic is just weird
>>5777979
I have an aneros and some off-brand way more aggressive looking massager
No luck so far, I've tried both pushing it with a finger and using muscle contractions. It feels kinda nice but I never get even close to any kind of peak.
OP here.
I picked up a little dildo by Vixen Creations called the 'Spur'
It feels fucking amazing. it's very realistic feeling. It was actually a little strange playing around with at first since it felt like a disembodied cock. feels great in my ass though. I need to find a good way to fuck it. I can ride it pretty easily without it being secured anywhere. no suction up on it unfortunately.
this is exactly what I was hoping for though. I cleaned out my ass really well and have been playing around for about an hour. lots of precum.
>>5778046
You can hit it just with your thumb, but to climax from it alone is another thing and most people need lots of practice to train their body, cause your nerve endings change and brain rewires too.
>>5778043
I don't like the feeling of fingers much either, they make me sore, but something that's MADE to be inserted feels much much better.
>want to put a plug on
>there's shit in my ass
>go to the loo
>lost all desire
kill me senpai
>>5777963
Its possible. Fap a while before starting and clench deep in your ass while fingering usually helps.
>>5784629
don't douche... its terrible for your sphincter
laxative, intermittent fasting, go for a dirty run --> clean --> clean run
Seriously if you rely on douching u in trouble longrun
>>5784663
Whys that?
It makes my ass feel great for the most part. I can't imagine how water could be bad for it.
Whenever I fap with a dildo in, my whole body feels amazing until I come, and then I feel nothing. It's like I'm so focused on my butt that my dick gets lost in the shuffle; coming while there's something in my butt almost feels hollow. Anybody get this too/help me understand this?
And no, I've never come from anal alone, though I've tried a little bit.
>>5785084
I'm confused. you cum and then your dick gets "lost in the shuffle" and your butt feels "hallow," am I following this?
>>5773696
use heat,more lube and modern sized dildos. don't jump to wanting giant things or whatever. pace yourself
I don't know how relevant my story is but I've only ever stuck a finger up my butt and it didn't feel that good. Cue to years later while I'm fucking some guy he decides to stick it in the pooper without saying anything and it felt pretty good actually. So maybe a proper dildo would do you good, since it feels vastly different from a finger.
>>5785284
I don't get these "and they just stuck it in my ass" stories... how does someone get a dick in an ass without lube?
>>5785084
yeah I think its cause of over stimulation and too much pressure on your prostate while it spasms it can feel almost too harsh and not as pleasant
you should try relaxing and letting go of either
like when you are getting close, let go off your dick and work your ass and you will leak or even squirt but not fully cum then stroke and let go again
or try to fully relax and stroke really gently, whatever works best for you
>>5785334
they probably got lube nearby if they were already fucking?
but yeah if you are not prepared and not stretched it would be pain, even doing it after a ~month break needs a slow warmup
why are you trying to force yourself to enjoy something?
you know healthy sexuality is the total opposite of this. healthy sexuality involves open mindedly exploring and understanding your own body - what feels good and what doesn't, and how to induce those feelings in yourself.
This post to me, sounds like somebody is either under pressure from someone else, or most likely from themselves. You think that you 'ought' enjoy x, or you must enjoy x, or you need to give x to a partner.
well that's wrong way in my opinion. everyone is wired differently and you need to get it out of your mind that the only way of having sex involves a penis thrusting in and out of a 'receptacle'. That is only one small type of sex, there are myraid other ways and there's the way that best fits you, your situation, your partner, etc.
Stop pressuring yourself (or stop being pressured by someone else) to have a particular type of sex, when clearly you do not enjoy it. Your body is hurting, it's quite clearly telling you to stop doing what you're doing or you're going to damage yourself.
this is why porn is so detrimental to a lot of people. It's made for a specific audience but people watch it and get this impression that this is how people have sex, when that's simply not true. Most porn is a product aimed at straight male solitary masturbation.
Ask yourself, if you never watched porn or learned these things, would you really be trying fit bigger and bigger things in your rectum, even though it hurts you?
The problem is not that you don't love anal play, rather the problem is you think you 'should' love it.
Why can't you just go, well I tried that and I didn't like it I'll try something else now? Why all the pressure to force yourself to like something?
that's not healthy
>>5784663
>douching is bad for you
>but laxatives aren't
Ok m8
>>5785736
Read this: >>5778164
In the OP I stated I found it to be enjoyable but that I become sore sometime anyways. I never prefaced this like I was trying to force myself to enjoy something I didn't. It was to try and get more comfortable with something.
At any rate, I'll reiterate by saying I love my little dildo. It feels fucking amazing. Much better than the prostate massager and because it's so small I haven't felt any soreness or discomfort. Maybe a bit of a "stretched" feeling but it wasn't bad.
overall I butt stuff 10/10, will buy more dildos
>>5773696
A proper dildo, or a real penis, can make all the difference.
Of course, it's gonna hurt at first. Putting any foreign object of that relative size in your butt is going to.
After a little practice, lots of lube, and some tolerance, you will be riding that dildo in no-time. It's really an amazing experience, I'd highly recommend it if you like prostate-stimulated orgasms.
Also, just a pro-tip: A real penis feels better than a dildo
>>5785901
yes... OP here and I can confirm the dildo I got does feel much better than my fingers and my prostate massager even.
