Hey there, I've never been to this board before, but I figured this would be a place for a question like this.
So eight months ago,I met the woman of my dreams. I met her at a trans support group when I first started transition. I'm mtf btw. It was be sheer chance that we met and I'm thankful everyday I went to that one meeting. I've always been into transwomen, but she's into men. Well , we really hit it off and she kind of made an exception for me and we started dating. We fell head over heels for each other. I was her first love and things were just magical. I've got to live the d/s role I always wanted to with her. But the thing is, I'm not the kind of person she had imagined herself being with, and though she loves me, I can see things are slowly deteriorating because of it. We have an open relationship so she can get what else she needs sexually, but its not working so much anymore, and the more female I become, the less physically interested she's becoming. It fucking hurts because I searched for someone like her forever, and I would do anything in the world to get her to feel the same way about me as I do her, but this is life. I'm just a mess right now.
So I guess what I came here to ask is, how hard will it be to find someone like her again? She's a open star, dominatrix, passable, tranny with a huge working duck who only tops. Are there a lot of other tranny tops out there? Dommes? Ones that are into other trannies? It seems like everyone of them I meet is a sub bottom, besides her. I just wonder if it's realistic to be able to find someone of her caliber again.
Can someone set my mind at ease? I don't know how much longer this will last and I just want to kill myself at the moment.
>>5748469
Whoops, porn star* not open star
>>5748469
Goddammit, working dick*
I hate Swype
Don't really how fast threads die here, so bump
>bumping your own thread 4 times in 20 minutes on one of the slowest boards
kill yourself
>>5748630
I apologize, I've never posted here before. I'm used to /b/ where threads die in five minutes
>>5748469
What you are looking for is very rare, but it exists. I'm verse, though I'm also pre-everything, so I don't know how much will change once I start HRT.
>>5748639
Yeah, /b/ is one of, if not the fastest board on 4chan. Here on /lgbt/, threads can go for weeks, so chill out, relax, and let the replies slowly drip in.
>>5749166
That's unfortunate. I will really wish I had simpler tastes at this point. I also wish I could verse, it would probably help in finding someone.
I hear a lot of people change in that way during/after transition, personally I have not, I think I'll always be a bottom. However my girlfriend was a complete button until transition and then became pretty much a pure top, which is strange to me.
>>5749213
Wow, I've never heard of something like that happening, it kind of makes me wonder what'll happen to me. Either way, I'm sure you'll find somebody out there that suits your tastes, you just gotta keep looking I guess
There's slots of wierd transbians like zinnia Jones out there that will top you hon. Don't you worry
>>5749280
I think it comes from a newfound sense of confidence in yourself. I've known several subs who transitioned, both mtf and ftm, and then became doms. I've had it described to me that they were subs and wanted to be abused due their own self hatred and lack of self esteem, but once they learn to love themselves, they switch sides. Although, a lot of us are subs whether we love our hate ourselves, the reasons aren't the same for everyone.
And thank you :)
>>5749447
I hope you're right. Most transbians I've met have been rather scary looking. Zinnia is alright I suppose
>>5750389
>Most transbians I've met have been rather scary looking.
Don't worry, you'll be scary looking too. ;)
how good you look has more to do with the state of you masculinization when you started and your genetics. It's just most transbians can manage to live as male longer due to being able to semi fit in.
I have nothing to add aside from transwomen that top are hot but it's kinda strange if they only top because it's such "male" thing to do.
It kinda make me question their transness desu senpai but that's my own hang ups/neurosis showing up. Good luck with your relationship op.
>>5750806
>Topping is a male thing to do
I thought all you /lgbtq/ weirdos were about breaking gender norms.
Y'all need to pick a side.
>>5750806
It does seem like a male thing, but she's kind of the man in our relationship. Like another anon said though, gender norms and such. I think it just comes from her extremely dominant nature
>>5750862
retard
>>5750389
I'm a transbi (leaning towards transbian) dating a transbian and i would say neither of us are scary looking, saying that I transitioned before male puberty finished and she is very pretty, but both of us our bottoms. She's just less of a bottom than I am.
>>5751046
I didn't mean they're all scary, just the ones I've known through support groups and such have been rather dykish. Just not exactly my thing. I'm sure there are pretty ones out there, I just havent really got to meet any.
How did you two meet?
>>5751098
On a chatroom initially, I always thought she was pretty , but I wasnt really ready for an online relationship at the time, so it was several months before we started dating. Now we are going to meet for real in 3 days, i'm super excited.
>>5752051
That's so awesome!
Was it like a chat room specifically for dating?
>>5748469
Wait, are there transwomen who exclusively or mostly top?
>inb4 not my job to educate cis scum
I thought the hormones made getting hard difficult.
I'd heard that only porn shows trans topping and they have to cycle off hormones to do that.
Well, I managed to find one myself, though she is very submissive despite being a top. She's my fiancee and we've been together for a year and a half now, engaged for a year. She's an absolute sweetheart and there are plenty of girls out there but you gotta look in the right places. I found her on Rizon of all places.
>>5755183
That is true about some of them having to cycle. But a lot of us are still very functional. I lost my ability to produce sperm, but I can still get completely hard whenever I want. She has been on hormones for 5 years and has no problem getting and staying hard, she can still cum a lot too. Granted she never got a lot of physical effects from hrt so most of her transition was surgical. It just varies from person to person
>>5755338
Have a submissive top has got to be a bit strange. You're very lucky though. What exactly is rizon?
Hey OP. I'm mtf too and I'm a dominant, passable top with a working part. I'm not super into topping but I will if my partner gets off from it. It's not impossible to find someone like me. Trans women come in all shapes, backgrounds and orientations.
What you're seeing before your eyes with your partner happens to MTF lesbians all the time. You're in a relationship with a straight girl, over time she becomes less attracted to you because straight. It hurts. It SUCKS. It's such a sad thing to see.
But hold on hope anon. There are plenty of fish in the sea and you may be surprised by what you find. If you both open yourselves up to change that particular relationship will probably change. But new and better ones open up afterward that are more stable and healthy.
Good luck anon, and welcome to /lgbt/. It's a hive of scum and villainy with a super gay twist. Trust even less posts here than on /b/. It's 90% trolls trolling trolls.
pic unrelated. but it's some tornado in Oklahoma that looks like Cthulu.
>>5756045
Thank you so much. This is exactly the sort of thing I was looking for. I just wanted to know that somewhere out there, there's another potential owner/domme/trans girlfriend for me and this wasn't just an extreme stroke of luck.
And yes, it sucks. We fell in love while I was still a boy, and we knew this might happen. Some days it seems she wants me again like she first did, but then others it's like she can't even stand to touch me and it just fucking hurts so much because she was so deeply in live with me while I was boy, and though she loves me as a person, physical attraction is a big deal. This same thing happened with my exhusband. We married with me as a boy and him as girl, but we both came out as trans to each other. He was still into me because he likes any gender, but I wasn't into him anymore because I'm just not attracted to masculinity. Now I know how it felt for him, and it just sucks
Any good places online to meet someone like this? Most trans dating websites seem more for straight couples, trans-trans dating service seems to be hard to find.
>>5752648
No just a trans hang out room. Kageshi actually.
>>5756154
Cool, thank you!
>>5756154
Kageshi?
I remember that name.
Have you heard of a person that identifies themselves as Mikisha?
