How do you stand the embarrassment of being gay or trans?
I feel so depressed, i wish this never happened to me, im probably gonna be bullied by some of my friends and society. Its just the hardest thing to accept, its like your whole life is being changed and you can do nothing about it. How do you accept that?
How do you come out to family and friends?
"Hi im gay" + cry ?
How can you not miss your old life when you banged girls?
I read an article from my country that was about girls having sex with homosexuals. Is this really a thing? Is it common? Whats special about it?
Im not gonna be able to let go of women :( maybe some day i dont know but jesus christ i cant, im obsessed with women and their sexy ass body parts and the way they wanna get fucked turns me on.
Does the gay communities out there accept people that are actually trans but wish to be gay?
Being trans seems like such an hard way of living your life.. personally i am not sure if i am trans or i am gay or even lesbian for that matter.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=90esKAij8A4
^ She speaks about her sexuality and stuff she likes. She is MtF trans. She says she likes anal and oral, even deepthroating her girlfriend. Which means she is lesbian i guess. But she still likes anal sex. What i find interesting is that she also likes giving anal sex and oral to her girlfriend, she finds it exciting.
Anybody who can relate? Are u trans-lesbian? How does one know if you are trans-lesbian?
Im currently studying at the university. But when i found out i might be gay, i couldnt study anymore, all my concentration and passion just flew away. My life is more important than some gay ass study. Although i know i have to study to live so yeah my last question goes:
How do you get through the whole coming out process the easiest way? How do i get through it without fucking up important stuff like my school?
I am very scared.. for my future, my friendships, everything basically.
halp meh plz i dunno what to do or what to feel
>>5743527
step one;
DEAL WITH IT. sure, some people might argue that 30 40 years from now you'll be "over it" but let's be real. That is very unlikely to happen. Let that thought sink in.
Whether you're gay or trans, that shit doesn't go away, so sop trying to force it to. Start accepting life as it is and not as you'd wish it to be.
Step two; GET BETTER PEOPLE.
Seriously; if people are fuckwads, decide if they are worth trying for (like if you want to deal with them, or if they just suck and need to be dropped.) It sucks but some people really won't be worth your effort. Find better friends/ people to just talk shit and hang out with, better companions/etc etc.
step three: quit fetishizing women.
Women are people, not fucktoys. enough said.
Finally, (if you've got the stomach for it), go out and have a gay old time! Just try and relax into a different means of living.
>>5743663
Some good arguments i must say but i didnt get this part:
"DEAL WITH IT. sure, some people might argue that 30 40 years from now you'll be "over it" but let's be real. That is very unlikely to happen. Let that thought sink in."
Is it fun to have a gay old time? It seems fun, maybe i need more gay friends..
But im still crying all the time, almost as if im never gonna be happy again. And it[s every fucking day. I just want things to get better.. How the hell am i supposed to be studying when im constantly thinking about gayness??
I need to let it go and accept. But how?
Women are sexy so i wanna fuck them :s but i understand what youre saying...
If you're in a position where you are often around homophobes then it's probably best.
I know the feel of being ashamed. It's just like, everyone else thinks and acts differently, even If I can't help it I feel like I'm in the wrong.
>>5743663
Not OP, but thank you, anon. Seriously. I'm really unhappy in my life and this and other things are giving me the push to get myself out there and change things. Even if shit's scary/difficult/etc.
>>5743527
What the fuck are you talking about? If you want to fuck women, you can, what's stopping you?
>>5743663
>GET BETTER PEOPLE.
But nobody wants to be friends with a lonely and depressed tranny apart from other lonely and depressed trannies, and like 99% of them are transbian weirdos who I wouldn't want to be friends with under almost any circumstance.
>>5743527
For me it's something like that
I have long given up on human relationship
I don't want to deal with all this bs, I don't want the drama, I am unable to form emotional bonds, I don't want to be mocked, I want respectable life tc etc.
I don't talk with anyone more then necessary, etc etc
And yet, I can't help but feel submissive whenever attractive guy acts dominant towards me
And yet, I can't help but have these weird sex/romantic fantasies every evening now and again
This is humiliating for me.
How do I pray the submissive bottom gay away?
What helped me was realizing how stupid it is to feel bad for liking the same gender, you just like more people! Its not a big deal, society just made it a big deal.
Unless you're a bottom, that's a good reason to feel bad about yourself. Forcing myself to be a strict top took a lot of the inner shame away.
Stop being a faggot pussy and get over it. Real men don't care about what other people think about them.
>How can you not miss your old life when you banged girls?
FUCKING NORMIES. GET OUT. REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
>>5744095
i think you want /r9k/ hon
The embarrassment of being an ugly, socially uncomfortable, unemployable, failure of a human being outshines any embarrassment I might feel over being a faggot. It's not as if I get to act out my faggotry anyway.
>>5744150
i dont like that place
I don't like making selfies
I dont like attention whoring
I don't fap to people's photos either
I'm just submissive bottom and I hate that
>>5743758
you sound bi
>>5743527
>i wish this never happened to me
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pjAAC13al9s
>>5743527
Toughen up
>>5744453
OP here.
Im just angry and sad about im might be a bottom and not a top and not bisexual.
Jesus christ. But im not sure desu.
The worst thing about this is not really knowing..
Its so weird tho.. i have always jerked off to straight porn. Always. And i still do..
Maybe im 80% into guys and 20% into girls?
Dunno, and i dont even know if im into guys.
Sometimes when a dude does something dominant it can kinda scare me off and i feel something in my body.
But i tried stuffing a banana with a condom on it in my ass. I didnt really like it. It didnt even really go that far in i think.
>>5744453
Maybe but i dont think so. Havent got much from the girls lately. Well a bit actually but yeah.
The thing thats concerning me is the probability of being a bottom gay guy or a tranny... none excites me at all.. and im 23 now, and life is just getting hard on me man.
Dont know why im still watching straight porn and looking at girl's asses and shit like that, it just feels right and normal. Like who doesnt like tits and asses? I dont get it.
Is the guy on the left trans without him even knowing, and the guy on the right bisexual?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tDdmm8zhh-c
Just a basic question i would like to know.
>>5743758
I mean that in my experience, the few people who know about me have either said
"Oh okay yeah neat"
or
"that's not a real thing Anon, you'll get over it"
Basically find a way to work through the discomfort you have with yourself, and also work through the whole aspect of "What will happen in my future?" because worrying about it only drags you down.
And hey, if you live anywhere near me, I'd love to be your friend!
>>5743979
My pleasure to help out, even a little.
If you want a friend to talk with ever, let me know!
>>5745719
I'd be up for that. (though I'm not the most reliable with replies sometimes, js.) Any contact?
>>5743527
>I read an article from my country that was about girls having sex with homosexuals. Is this really a thing? Is it common?
Yes, it is a thing and it is common.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CW7zR6DGDZA
>>5743527
Just another closeted bi-man that think he has to conform to the "gay" identity simply because he likes men. If you still miss the days where you would fuck women, why not choose to do both anon?
>>5743527
Trans lesbian reporting in!
>How do you come out to family and friends?
pretty much the way you said it, but "trans".
>How can you not miss your old life when you banged girls?
I bang way more girls than I did before I transitioned, soooo that ain't a problem
>Does the gay communities out there accept people that are actually trans but wish to be gay?
Yeah, for the most part. This board isn't representative of real life. A lot of it can come down to how well you pass, though.
>How does one know if you are trans-lesbian?
Do you want to be a girl? Do you still want to fuck other girls? There you go.
>How do you get through the whole coming out process the easiest way? How do i get through it without fucking up important stuff like my school?
So yeah, that might be harder. If you're prone to being really distracted by heavy emotional events, I suggest you wait until a break or until summer or something. You can come out to close friends who you think would be accepting, trusted doctors, stuff like that, but for the bigger "come out to everyone", you need to either be prepared or be in a safe place to handle the fallout. Luckily, school has a bunch of breaks where you can get important/difficult shit done that would otherwise get in the way.
>I am very scared.. for my future, my friendships, everything basically.
Eh, it can all go to shit, but it can all be better than you possibly could have imagined. Just live life on your terms, its the most liberating thing you could possibly do. That said, I'm not going to sugar coat it, how well you pass greatly dictates what your quality of life will be like.
>>5745772
basically email. :P not enough money for a phone; or skype could work.
>>5748646
Email sounds good, sure
>>5749505
shioku@live dot com
