Didn't see a thread for it in the catalog so,
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>>5688854
Don't do it.
I even had friends and family accept me.
It still destroyed and consumed my friendships and my life.
>>5688854
Far as I gathered, if you're in some third world country like the US, just don't come out.
>>5688872
>destroyed and consumed my friendships
how does this work? would you just go up to them after transition and say hi im <girlname>? isnt that like coming out? or do you mean that you just cut ties with them all?
>>5688854
Not really coming out but more of a realization.
>be 12 only male child
>crossdress In secrecy, full on make up
>learn about trannies and transitioning
>thinking about doing it
>turn 16
>got into sports since new school PE is heavily required.
>swimming, tennis, badminton, athletics, martial arts.
>now more than ever appricate The male pyshic, obsesse about it
>borderline fitizen tier
>thinking of becoming a nutritionist and a trainer in the future or a gay pornstar.
I guess transexualism is really just a phase maybe we just needs to trigger our testosterone.
Im so happy, secure and confident about my future and life in general
>>5688854
> be me (cis guy) a few months ago
> on phone with mom
> "I'm about to rewatch tropic thunder, anon!"
> blurt out "so mom I'm bi"
> stunned silence
> "you know when I was in my early 20s I considered myself bi! I support you whichever side you end up on!"
I ended up losing a FWB but other than that everyone else has either been positive or not really given a fuck.
>>5688854
>be 20 something gay dude
>grow up hearing parents rant about how gays ruined the country, "traditional" marriage values, etc. etc.
>they bitched about and bemoaned my state making conversion therapy illegal
>stay in closet until financially independent adult.
>during that time it had become less socially acceptable to be homophobic, so they toned down their ranty screeds.
>come out to friends and family other than parents when I move in with bf after college.
>parents hear about it, and refuse to believe such horrible insulting rumors. Then I confirm it for them.
>ask me why I didn't tell them earlier.
>tell them I already knew their opinions on the subject that's none of their business.
>In the same conversation my parents dis-invited me and my bf to family get togethers they told me they were hurt and angry at me for assuming they'd react as poorly as they did react to me being gay.
>tell mum I'm trans
>'are you getting your dick chopped off?'
>tell dad I'm trans
>'are you getting your dick chopped off?'
>Be 17 at the time
>First bf coming over my place for some cuddles and movies
>Tell my mom I'm gay and that my friend that's coming over is my boyfriend
>"Oh, sweetie, you aren't old enough to know that."
>"I support you, but I know you and I just don't think this what you are."
I mean I guess denial is better than outright disowning me.
>Few weeks later my dad asks who this guy is in my pictures online
>Tell him I'm gay, been seeing this guy for a bit etcetc.
>He literally can't wrap his head around it for 10-15 minutes
>Just puts his head down and says "Really? No joke?" every couple minutes
>Him + my stepmom are cool with it, just didn't expect it since I'm not a prancing faggot
>Highschool class find out
>Suddenly get attention from fag hags that never talked to me before
>Wow anon we had no idea, now I know who to ask if I can't pick out a pair of shoes, etcetc.
>Just stare back or ignore whenever this shit happens
>Back to no friends within a week
All in all that's about as good as it could have went. Coming out is cringey at best and will swallow your life whole at worst. Don't even bother, just live your life.
>>5689996
>tfw my mom said the same thing
>are you going to get your penis surgically removed?
>>5689593
>trigger our testosterone.
/pol/---------------->
>>5689996
ahahahahahahahaha same
parents say the darndest things
I don't think I'll come out until I'm in a relationship with a guy. Mostly because then it'll be like secure proof that I'm actually gay and also not a desperate manslut.
Regardless It'll come with the same shit I've seen a thousand times; "Do you think I'm attractive?", "Can you help me look better?" "You'll grow out of it", "But you never seemed gay", "Oh cool I'm an a(utist)lly". The best are the people who you can't tell are really homophobic or really afraid of offending you so they'll constantly make shitty gay jokes 24/7 to seem comfortable or just be really quiet around gay people.
>>5690210
anytime i tell people the first question is always "did you get surgery yet?"
my default answer is always "why? are you going to donate $10,000"? since that shit is expensive
Happened a few days ago:
>Be smart, not-femmy, cis gay guy.
>Everyone thinks I'm hetero (aside from the people to whom I've explained otherwise).
>About to come out to crush at school on Monday.
>Jump to Saturday afternoon.
>Talking to parents about trivial crap.
>Dad suddenly says "Anon, are you gay?"
>Me: "W-what? No! Why would you think that?"
>Think parents are pretty clueless on this stuff.
>Dad: "Well, you've always shown more of an interest in school than in girls. You never look at girls when we're around."
>Me: "So?"
>Dad: "I think that you're actually gay, and I know that you'd be smart enough to stay in the closet, because you know we'd kick you out. Not to mention, you don't seem gay, and gays tend to be where you'd least expect them; you can't just single out the stereotypical ones."
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>Me: "Ha! You think that's likely?" *internally screaming*
>Dad: "Yes, and I just want you to know that I think it's OK if you're gay. I'd still love you."
>Me: "Really?"
>Dad: "Nah, I was just testing you!"
>Proceeds to quiz me on sexy women.
>Manage to pass heterotest somehow, but have just been forced way back into the closet.
>Probably never going to come out.
mfw
>>5690267
Then again, how does one attain a boyfriend without initially coming out?
>People you meet on grindr, at gay bars, during pride parades, etc. don't count.
>>5691174
>How will you find a BF without being openly faggy
>Ways of doing so without being faggy don't count
>>5691198
>Grindr, gay bars, and pride parades
>Not faggy
>Saying "I'm gay" to someone
>Faggy
>>5690057
>Coming out is cringey at best and will swallow your life whole at worst. Don't even bother, just live your life.
If you're trans you kinda have to come out.
>>5691244
What's faggy about chatting someone up at a bar?
>>5691251
When I was "straight" i would loose a whole lot of respect for people(celebrities, didn't know any gay people irl) that came out gay.
>>5691275
Well, again, if you're trans you don't really have a choice. Eventually people are going to notice.
>>5691263
A gay bar. A place specifically designed to be gay.
>Femboys in tight latex clothes
>Crappy disco/diva music
>Limp wrists everywhere
>Everything is fancy cocktails
>Back rooms for anon sex
What isn't faggy about it?
The concept itself isn't bad, but the execution is terrible.
Coming out, not being a fag about it, sarcastically shutting people up when they try to stir shit (works best when british), and finding someone in your peer group seems like the easiest route.
Obligatory coming out tips:
Keep being yourself afterwards.
If people don't like you because you're gay, point out how shallow they are and insult them before blanking them forever.
Try not to vomit while coming out.
Always find a valid reason to do so:
>Valid reasons: crush on someone, have a partner and want to introduce to family/friends, someone asks and there will be few/no negative repercussions, selfless cause that requires you to reveal sexual orientation, medical check-ups, etc.
>Invalid reasons: gay themed thing is occurring, you're so fabulous, want to stand out and/or attract attention, looking for new friends, etc.
>>5691372
I have literally never been to a gay bar like that, Anon. Not saying they don't exist, but they seem like the exception, not the rule.
>>5691437
Never been in a gay bar desu. This is just the general vibe I get from them when I pass them by. A lot of them seem like degenerate fag discos in the UK. (Then again, the UK is extremely faggy; one can effeminate by US standards, but more masc than a stereotypical, non-skinhead British hetero easily).
Then again, something seems a bit slutty about going to a bar designed for a sexual orientation. It seems like people would go to them more for sex than for drinks.
Also, for us handholdless virgins, going to a gay bar (or any public gay thing) is kind of throwing ourselves in at the deep end. Something about finding a bf in school/classes seems more comfortable.
>tfw we're literally just debating our opinions of how relationships should begin/work and none of this actually matters.
>>5691665
>he UK is extremely faggy; one can effeminate by US standards, but more masc than a stereotypical, non-skinhead British hetero easily
That's why you got cucked by us in the War of British Aggression
>>5689951
lmao your parents are fucking dumb
>current year
>coming out
I MEAN COME ON
>>5689642
That's because she knows you will end up with a girl.
Tho good on you if it's with a big strong bara man
>>5691665
They're pretty tame. Often "regular" bars and clubs have gay nights if gay bars aren't your scene. It's basically just a bar, but more guys are gay
>>5689996
Well...are you?
I never came out. I simply moved far away to college and didn't lie to most of the people I met here if they asked me personal questions (which they rarely ever did).
And I've blown off my family's questions about my personal life (girlfriend? grandkids?) so much they don't even bother asking anymore.
IMHO, coming out is for attention whores and drama queens, and I fucking hate attention.
>>5692111
Sweet trips
>>5692139
well I didn't consider her reaction positive. basically she told me it was just a phase
just do it
it feels like a weight is lifted from you and you don't have to constantly filter yourself. You'll have an easier time coming out as bi since most people seem more accepting of that then gay.
So come out as bi and then say you're gay later or just say you're mainly into your same sex.
>>5692700
this bullshit is the reason no one believes bisexuals exist
also its not the fucking 90s anymore, and, as I said, no one believes bisexuals exist. when you lie they will know you are lying. so not only will they think youre a faggot, they think youre a lying pussy faggot.
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>>5692700
fucking douche.
>>5690057
>Suddenly get attention from fag hags that never talked to me before
Sounds like the movie GBF
I was lucky in that I never got the fag hags bothering me. Whenever I meet someone now and they find out I'm gay, they usually try to make me their best friend lmao. But that isn't too often though.
>>5690267
>constantly make shitty gay jokes 24/7 to seem comfortable
>The best
literally these people ruin my life
>>5691039
Don't let that fascist piece of shit ruin your life, senpai.
>>5690057
>>Wow anon we had no idea, now I know who to ask if I can't pick out a pair of shoes, etcetc.
>>5689593
Enjoy the break hon, see you soon at Susans. Ta Ta!!!
>Me: Mum, I think I might be gay.
>Mum: Cool.
SO TRAUMATIC!!!
>Coming out
No need to.
The closet is your best friend.
Humanity wishes death upon you.
>>5691039
>>Dad: "Nah, I was just testing you!"
That was just a line to save face, he seriously thinks you're gay and the fact that you didn't offer evidence to the contrary confirmed his suspicions. Now he knows you're too pussy to come out. Just do it.
>Very liberal college
>Get drunk at party
>Finally come out with it
>I-I, I'm voting f-for Trump...
>I've known this for a long time now...
It was worse than coming out gay, which is probably the only reason they didn't stop being friends with me.
>>5698206
But he's a Muslim...
I personally like sleeping indoors and not dying.
>>5698206
>Dad: "Yes, and I just want you to know that I think it's OK if you're gay. I'd still love you."
>You: Well I'm actually gay.
>Dad: wtf get out of my house faggot
>You: Nah, I was just testing you!
>>5688854
>Been buying cute/girly clothes and posting lewd pics online for about a few months when in High-school (was 18)
>had always been afraid to come out because my parents are baptists
>order a skirt and cute panties in the mail
>one day at school I'm getting checked out early
>don't know why, get a little nervous because my parents hate when I don't go to school or have to leave early
>ask mom why when I get to her
>she's acting all cool and says "You have a doctors appointment, remember?"
>knew I had a doctors appointment soon but thought it wasn't that day but figured I must have remembered wrong
>when we get in the car my mom cuts the act and says "Look, we both know your appointment isn't today. I found something in the mail."
>start shaking and saying I don't know what she's talking about
>she knows I'm lying
>finally admit it's mine, tell her I'm gay
>she seems a little uncomfortable but says she's okay with it
>when I get home have to awkwardly explain to my parents I'm gay and get get boners/genuinely enjoy wearing girl clothes
>they're clearly a little uncomfortable but are making their best effort to say it's okay if I like dudes and I gotta do what makes me happy and they're sorry I was so scared to come out
It was scary and awkward but I guess it was really sweet of them to try that hard to be accepting, it's all I could have really asked of them I guess
>when it's all over my mom tells me I better not be doing "cam-shows or anything like that"
>mfw she doesn't even know
tfw still haven't
>>5696560
Fuck you, you just didn'the pick up on any of the social cues yout autist. I came out to my best friend and the draining away of any respect/humanistic views he had for me was fucking tangible. Don'the come out ever, it makes you step back and look at yourself and then promptly feel like pure shit for knowing how much of a faggot you are.
Came out as an atheist and bisexual to my mom is one go. She took me to McDonalds and cried in the parking lot for an hour. We were cool afterwards.
Never got around to telling my dad. Not that I tell him much of anything, our relationship works best if we just talk about videogames and pop culture
>>5701018
To add to this, my friends already knew about my general sexual deviancy. It turns out when people know your whack it to lolis and furshit, they don't think less of you when you add dudes to the mix.
Protip: make sure people have zero respect for you and when you come out nothing will change
>>5688854
>be mtf
>too chicken to come out pre-hormones
>too chicken to go to a therapist and tell them about it for hormones
>say "fuck it" and order hormones online, start taking them
7 months later
>still too chicken to come out
>still boymode because too afraid to go around in public in girlmode
>go to a party of about 25 people, most of them friends ive had for years
>have seen none of them since I started hormones
>walk in the door
>"WOAHHHH dude you look way different!" Instantly, from everyone
>comments on my hair being long, etc.
>nobody connected the dots (I think...)
>later start conversation with this random dude i had never met before that party
>he comments on how he thought I was a girl the whole party until that point when I started talking to him, appologizes profusely
>I start smiling uncontrolably
>feel amazingly happy
>realize i need to start coming out to people i know
>come out to friends a few days later
>100% positive reception, much "lol that explains a lot" from people who saw me at that party
>come out to my faghag sister
>she is surprised but also very supportive, as expected
One month later
>see my mother for the first time since pre hormones
>we talk for a while
>she keeps commenting on how different i look
>work up the courage, and tell her im trans
>she starts crying
>wonders why im wanting this
>for months, keeps trying to talk me out of it, keeps crying over it
>"why cant you just be gay?"
>she goes into a phase of not talking about it for a few more months
>eventually starts being very supportive of it and nice
>around this time i go full time girlmode
>had not seen my father for 3 years prior to starting hormones
>have not seen him for 10 years now
>5 years ago he started trying to get back in contact with me
>i still avoid all attempts
>in town relatives have not seen me since pre-hormones
>have been avoiding them to spare them the feels
>>5698928
>Jellybones
Are you a fan of The Unicorns?
>>5698638
hella jealous
poslali su me ovdje
kako ste dečkići???
>>5702540
>kako ste dečkići???
eksju na intu? Hočeš da guziš trandžu? Nije da mogu birati momke pa mogu i anoni.
>all my coworkers/friends know
>They know I know they know
>They know I know they know I know they know
Yet I just can't do it... All it would take would be a casual mention but I'm irrationally afraid they'll tease me and embarrass me for it. And revealing it now would make having kept it hidden all this time seem silly, and the more I wait the more of a cowardly insecure faggot I will look like instead of having at least the excuse of apathy/decency/whatever. I'm already such autistic /r9k/ material, this may push me and my few friends apart, they'll all think I'm dishonest and untrustworthy and don't care about them... "Oh by the way I've had a boyfriend for a whole year haha" what a pathetic loser faggot
>mom knows i want to be a girl
>keeps pushing me to get a haircut every day
>makes passing remarks about how me shaving my arms/legs/etc is weird wrong and i should stop
>doesn't even know im self-medding as of 1 month ago
>tell mum I'm transitioning
>she actually breaks down and cries about losing her beautiful boy
>'I'm still alive'
>starts uploading old pictures of me on Facebook, changes her profile pic to an old pic of me
>leaving comments like 'what a beautiful boy'
>ask her to call me my new name
>a good few months in she still 'forgets' about it
>keeps making remarks about 'if you ever stop hormones will you be able to have kids again?'
>'just don't rush into anything you can still come back'
Thanks ma.
>>5688854
>mom: hey anon are you gay?
>"your brothers all have gf's why don't you?"
>two weeks later
>"anon are you gay?"
>repeat over and over throughout middle and high school
>few years later, graduate etc
>mom has seen me crossdress numerous times
>mom i want to be a girl
>"are you sure you're not just gay?"
>i like dudes but yeah i want to be a girl"
>ok sweet i always wanted a daughter
idk how my mom was able to eyeball my homolust for so many years
>>5702982
good taste, bruh
WWCOHWWG is my GOAT album, got the original pressing and everything
coming out is an american meme
literally "look at me i do thing that isnt the same as how other person does thing"
enjoy never having people really look at you the same way, forever as being defined by your sexual preference rather than as a regular human with feelings and a purpose
>>5688854
>be 18
>1am
>sneak cute guy into house
>first time gay sex
>morning comes parents call me up to there room
>they play video of what i did last night
>it was like tripping out on acid
>they installed a hidden camera to see what i was doing
>Get kicked out becuase of sex on couch "my 5 year old brother could have walked in
>parents basically told me it was just because of the sex and that i should start dating girls again
I didn't have to come out as bi to anyone really, cause that's so friggin normal here that nobody really cares. My grandparents may have been a little weirded out if I came home with someone of the same sex I guess but they'd come around.
I did properly "come out" as trans though
>Dysphoric cup finally fills to the brim and spills over
>Have an existential crisis and come out as trans on my instagram
>People are supportive and kind of don't care. "ok bro- uh I mean sis we don't care"
>Already been wearing a skirt regurarily at boarding school, people probably just put the dots together
>Come out to my mom one evening when I was home on vacation.
>"So like, you want to become a girl or something? Are you sure about this? Lots of boys have a feminine identity without actually being girls you know"
>Come out to dad on facebook. He's confused and isn't good at chatting in real time but he just says "I never suspected it. You never showed any signs"
>Had been showing signs all childhood
>Start going fulltime, change my legal name (super easy in Norway) and come out on facebook
>Hundreds of likes on facebook and loads of supportive comments
> Started hormones a few months later
No sweat desu. I only came out properly to people who didn't see me regurarly. It was kind of obvious already.
2 sisters and me,both of them lesbian,I trans, what a family...
>>5703242
>I'm irrationally afraid they'll tease me and embarrass me for it.
They will.
They will bully you.
They will try to get you fired.
They think you're disgusting.
>my few friends
Those aren't friends.
Friends support you and protect you.
These people will ditch you the moment you need support and they'll turn a blind eye when you need protection.
The only friend you have is the closet.
It's the only friend you can trust and rely on.
It'll keep all your secrets safe.
>>5688854
why ever come out?
>>5692629
>I never came out
That's my plan as well. I'll just move away from home (currently considering Denmark or Finland, long term Amsterdam or the US) and just never tell anyone back home I'm trans. It's a perfect plan as long as my parents never come to a visit and find me wearing woman's clothes and makeup.
>>5698298
this would have been the alpha response and the best way to keep up the banter with your dad
i am positively disgusted by most of you. Honestly, I expected way more from a 4chan fagboard. What the fuck shit is this closeting praise going on here? Seriously? Seriously? I mean, come the fuck on!
> coming out ruins your life
> don't ever come out unless you have a reason!
> scratch that, only come out when you're fully independent.
> you know what, forget that too. Just NEVER COME OUT
i feel sick in reading so many shit. Like, I feel disgusted. It's people like you who are a step back in the lgbt fight for social acceptance. Even in the CURRENT YEAR and being in usa...
I'm from south america, a third world country that's extremely religious and extremely homophobic, and coming out was the best thing I ever did. Was it easy? No. Was it simple? No. Was it necessary? Absolutely.
You really want to base the foundation of your relationship with friends and family in a fucking lie? You really want to live hiding yourself in fear of persecution because you are too fucking WEAK to face the ones around you? Grow the fuck up and tell the fucking truth for anyone that you care about, and the truth shall set you free!
Bunch of moron cowards. If every gay just came out today we would face and incredible revolution in the world, because every person would have to deal with the huge amount of gays. Every family would have at least one gay relative, every person would have one gay friend. They would change their perspective as soon as they realized we're everywhere. It's the first fucking step in lgbt activism, coming out, it's what milk told us to do fucking 30 years ago, and yet a bunch of american youngsters like you still hold this pathetic and weak viewpoint of living in secrecy and hiding yourself. Fucking saddening and most of all, fucking PATHETIC.
>>5704336
Your alternative is to hide the truth about yourself for fear of what others might think?
Yeah you sound very well resolved and in peace with your sexuality.
>>5688854
I tried to come out but my mom pushed me into the closet
>>5700959
Are you like... Trolling? Are you from pol? You should leave now.
>walking home from school with my sister
>talk about stuff that's been going on at school
>tell her i think i might be gay because i had a crush on a female classmate
>she says she had her suspicions because i would often talk about how pretty girls are and i never showed interest in guys
>doesn't mind and confesses she's done things with other girls before and that she's probably bi
>double come out
>feels good man
>come out to older brother
>"yea we all suspected since jack hill and that sausage thing"
> fast foward two days
> brother has been more interested in my life than ever. Always questioning details about gay sex and how it works, talking to me more than he used to.
> drunk weekend, brother asks for a blowjob
Only two days in, it was surprisingly fast.
>>5707498
Something similar happened to me, but noinsest bullshit after I came out to friends, basically all of them started questioning about their own penises.
> is it small? Is it thin? Is it ugly? Would you suck it?
They were straight andnever let me actually touched their dicks, but more then onceI got to see i nice teen cock shoved in my face so I could "analyze" it and give my veredict on its fuckability. Shit was cash. But it was such a tease...
>>5688854
>parents had me when they were nearing 40
>come out when they're around 65
>they're too old to give a fuck
>dad jokingly said "Just give me a grandson to hug, you fag"
>had a good laugh
>everything was good once again, lovely
>>5707202
is this pasta or just reddit?
>>5690208
>diet and excercise doesn't affect hormone levels
>using your muscles doesn't raise testosterone levels
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>>5707202
Thank you.
>>5692700
That's what my old friend said before he was essentially abandoned by everybody and dropped out of college spending all day at home getting high.
My friend was not a smart man.
>>5707202
>You really want to base the foundation of your relationship with friends and family in a fucking lie?
welcome to the real world pablo
My wife bought me a buttplug and told me I was a faggot.
It made me want anal, dicks etc
>>5707853
>children shouldn't get on hormones
children are constantly on estrogen though (a higher dosis because of the food)
Pretty uneventful. I suspected that I was asexual until I reached college, after which I came to see myself as gay. I can't remember any strong reactions to it. Hell, it even feels like the only person I've confessed to forgot the whole thing.
I spent a bit more time being honest to my parents, and the conversation was kind mildly awkward, but that might be as much because of social anxiety. Brought it up on some kind of "I'm sure you would make a woman happy" topic which I objected to. My mom had a couple 'Are you sure?' and 'Do you have someone?' remarks. I think it came as a surprise, as my lack of interest in girls is pretty easy to explain through my shyness, and I'm not very feminine. Haven't told my grandparents yet though, my parents said they might be apprehensive about it. There's a part of me that really wants to drop it during Christmas dinner when they start talking about me getting a girlfriend though.
>>5704895
Somebody had a bad experience...
Mind sharing?
>>5688854
I came out as a trans girl and my family still thinks its a phase. mostly because I liked women up until I was 20 when I discovered anal masturbation.
>October 31, 2015
>I'm 17
>Talking with best friend and one other friend
>Get onto some pretty deep subjects
>Look my friend in the eyes and come out as bi
>Takes me about ten minutes for my friend to believe me
>(I would make "sexual advances" on all my friends in the past for no real reason)
>Get friends to believe me
>Make sure they don't tell anyone in our friend group
>Fast forward two months later
>Hanging with best friend and another friend (not the same one as before)
>drop hints of me being bi all day
>even ask my best friend to say one thing my other friend doesn't know about me as a joke
>"I... can't say that."
>FML.jpeg
>Almost don't come out to other friend because awkwardness
>About 1AM
>Come out to other friend
>Other friend doesn't really care
>Fast forward to about a month ago
>At school with the only friend I haven't come out to
>Been kinda teasing him over the fact my other friends know something he doesn't for the lols
>Have him guess what it is
>He completely fails
>Tell him anyway
>No bad reaction when I thought he was gonna give one
Now, I still have to come out to my mom and the rest of her family... I'm pretty worried about that, for I live in a really rural area, and a lot of my family are pretty religious. I have a cousin who's a FtM, and his mom is okay with it (somehow...) even though his mom is probably the most religious in the family. Thinking about coming out after graduating from college, and when I'm completely on my own. Any tips for coming out to my mom and other senpai?
>>5710648
>coming out bi
Pointless.
>>5710726
>1
Not pointless if you like guys more than you like girls.
Best advice I've got is to come out to your dad when he's in the middle of taking a shit. That way he can't get up to beat you. Gave me time to run and he ruined his briefs.
>>5710648
This
>>5710648
>biscum attentionwhoring
>"coming out"
Typical
My partner came out to her dad over text with
>dad I think I have the same taste in women as you
and a bunch of articles talking about what a bisexual person is.
He didn't get it
then
>I'M BI!
His response
>I love you honey. good night
>not sure if he takes her seriously or not
I thought it was decent, but she was pretty upset, since she'd been trying to come out to him for months.
I'm trans, and I've only come out to my partner. I had been experimenting with my gender, trying out being female online and shit.
Later that night we were having sex and I just couldn't stay in the momnet. Cried and told her about it.
They've been helping me explore and think about why I want to be a woman. Not sure I'll ever commit to surgery, but we'll see.
>also family wants grandkids, and i want kids/. So penis stays for now.
>>5710750
10/10 advice
>>5689642
I feel like bringing that up immediately after Tropic Thunder was not the best idea.
>>5707202
You're right :( you had me at milk
Why do people feel the need to come out?
Why not keep your preferences to yourself and your significant other and live a quiet, private life?
>>5707217
do you run around telling everyone you like cheese sandwiches or what your favourite restaurant is?
>>5713236
Because all gays are attention seekers
>>5713236
Only reason I 'came out' was as a courtesy to my family so they wouldn't be shocked when I brought a girl home. With most everyone else it just came up in conversation (mentioning dates or whatever), not a big deal.
>>5691665
LOL
so you have no clue what is in a typical gay bar. I'll give you a hint, go to a het club or corner pub. That's it.
What you described is a sex club, not a gay bar. There are far more of them for heterosexuals than gays.
>>5691372
Have you ever been to a gay bar in your life? You're so uninformed it's funny
>>5713236
Because if you don't then everyone gets upset.
But if you do then you're flaunting your sexuality.
I'd advise staying in the closet.
'Sup legbutts.
Any tips on coming out to a friend? I want to try to do it subtly and as part of a conversation, rather than by sitting him down and giving him the whole "we need to talk" crap.
I have a valid reason for doing so; I want to ask him out, but I would rather make sure that I know his sexual orientation and he knows mine before I try anything.
Any topics I could possibly bring up in which I could just drop in an obvious but natural admission to my sexual orientation? I'm British, if that helps.
>>5689593
You wouldn't get the impression here, but it's actually a very normal experience to have some degree of gender dysphoria that fades in adolescence or early adulthood.
There's been research that's found that a majority of children who meet the DSM-V criteria for gender dysphoria, including "significant distress" with regards to gender identity, grow into their biological sex and no longer want to transition when they grow older.
The more you know
>>5714133
>Any tips on coming out to a friend?
Yeah.
DON'T
>>5703466
>idk how my mom was able to eyeball my homolust for so many years
people notice who you are watching.
>>5714133
Why not just handle your attraction like an adult, tell him how you feel, and see if he feels the same way?
Undersell it a bit if you want but playing games will always make you look dumb because it's a dumb thing to do.
>>5713449
>With most everyone else it just came up in conversation (mentioning dates or whatever), not a big deal.
Best way to come out. I came out to many people when they asked about exes. I just told them plainly about both the guys and girls.
Came out as MTF trans yesterday... for the first time in my life. To my mom. She's been great, i'm feeling weird as fuck that my secret's out though. Hopefully that feeling will go away and i can start transitioning soon. I've never really given her or anyone for that matter reason to suspect it so it's kinda shattered her perspective. But goddamn mom's are amazing, she's been nothing but supportive and curious. Boring story but it's been a fuckin journey of 25 years to muster the courage to do it.
>>5688854
Never have come out of the closet.
I dunno what the fuck i am.
I like girly and slim guys, girly girls, and masculine girls.
I tell everyone i'm straight, i lie, and feel like shit afterwards if i do something when i'm drunk.
>Didn't think 4chan had any life outside of /pol.
>>5714190
That's exactly what I need help doing. I want to undersell it so I don't seem like a meme or an attention whore.
I'm also worried that, if I ask him out directly (or even just try to give him "the talk"), he'll assume that the only reason I maintained the friendship was in the hopes of a relationship.
I'd try the whole "my ex bf" thing, but I don't have any (and I'm pretty sure he's never had a relationship, so the idea of an experienced person might turn him off).
Any ways to make it as natural and nonchalant as possible?
>>5691039
holy fuck your father is awesome
>>5710648
>coming out as bi
what's even the point of coming out when you are bi what the fuck.
>>5707202
boohoo
shut up faggot. there's no reason for anyone to know my personal life. even when i thought i was 100% straight i didn't talk about it
>>5714137
Surprisingly that's not really all that true. It's a common point that comes from mis-representing a study. Of course, I know a knee jerk reaction is to immediately dismiss it because huffpost but this is actually a really good break down discussing why people are using that study wrong. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/brynn-tannehill/the-end-of-the-desistance_b_8903690.html
The first time I came out as MTF was in High School. I told my teachers to address me with female pronouns before I had even solidified a name. I think I was in social studies and I was answering a question from the teacher and after I had finished giving my answer, the teacher referred my answer by saying something along the lines of "she said." The class was giggling and I could hear comments behind me like "hehehe, that's a dude" and we both had to clarify what was happening in that moment. It was very awkward lol.
>>5689951
>dis-invited me and my bf to family get togethers
The answer is: "k." It was supposed to be harmful and saddening, but reversing it is the easiest thing ever
>>5710726
>>5710833
>>5714783
(Not that anon)
The only reason I did it was because of something like "Why haven't you ever had a girlfriend before, anon?" and since those were close friends I told them I'm bi and that I had a pretty confusing time with it previously. Also into guys a bit more. They didn't really care. A few hours later one even started asking so much shit that he even managed to get being a bottom out of me. After that I didn't even have to come out to anyone else as gossip was passing it around.
It's not attention whoring, it's more of an excuse or explanation sometimes.
>>5713236
Because I want to be in a relationship. I want to love and I want to be loved.
Our potential dating pools are already like 90% smaller so there's no sense shrinking it down to other down-low guys.
I've secretly hooked up with guys every once in a while over the last decade. Outwardly straight, but secretly bisexual. I finally admitted my secret to a gay friend of mine about two months ago. Very helpful to have someone to talk to about this stuff. We usually end up having sexually charged chats, and I really want him to fuck me. Never bottomed before, but I really want to be fucked.
>>5713247
No because those aren't core elements of who we are
>>5692713
Yeah but who the fuck wants to deal with the shit you get for being out as bi. Twice the shit with half the reason. Like fuck, a friend of mine randomly came out to me one day and as a show of support I figured why not do the same. Not 10 seconds later got hit with a slut joke :/ like really dude. Made me feel really shitty about even bothering. If that's how accepting people deal with it, what happens when they aren't.
>>5707217
Coming out to family is a case by case thing. If you want to move away, don't bother. If you are close and want to stay close, test the waters first.
>>5707202
It's mostly keep it from family until you can support yourself. Which is the best course of action for survival in most cases. A lot of America lives in small shit holes where they need family support. I'm all for being out, but if you really think that being out and proud is worth losing your food and shelter then you put too much of who you are into your sexuality. Staying closeted sucks, but until you can support yourself look at it as gay welfare. Use it until you are on your own feet.
>>5707202
wow, what a faggot
>>5710648
>autism
>>5707202
>They would change their perspective as soon as they realized we're everywhere.
That's literally the best joke of the century.
>>5707886
I'm just telling people what's best for them.
>>5714270
Oh hey you just described me mostly too. These feels suck senpai
>>5710648
Please don't be one of those bi faggots that like to talk the talk but don't walk the walk. Go suck a dick, get fuck in the a hole. Have a guy cum on your face and slap you with his dick.
But then again if girls know that you're into that sort of thing they'll wont look at you the same way as a straight guy, it's like girls loose respect for men that like sucking dick(even the more progressive ones).
>>5718871
>it's like girls loose respect for men that like sucking dick
Do they really? I think about it more like they stop considering you a true man, but that doesn't really relate to respect.
Also if you are gay they stop feeling sexually pressured by you and can tell you some things more freely, like what they think about your appearance and they thinking you are cute, since they don't fear you'll develop feelings for them and ruin the friendship
>>5688854
Posted this little anecdote a few days ago on a different closet thread, but I feel like it's relevant in this thread too.
Hanging out with straight friend and chatting about TV shows (I was not only secretly crushing on him. But he had already figured me out as gay long before I was willing to admit that to anyone; including myself). When out of the blue:
>"Anon, are you gay?"
>"Wh- [oh shit] what no I am not gay."
>"Alright, then name two hot women right n-"
>"Grace Park Tricia Helfer." (pic related).
>Hmm, okay.
>[Yes! I said something straight guys, like me, would say. He totally bought i-]
>"Wait; aren't those the two main actresses of that Battlestar Galactica remake you're always talking about?"
>[nogodfuckingdamnitno!]
>>5721456
battlestar galactica is a gay thing?
>>5721871
BSG is not particularly gay, and I'd say 90% of the sex on screen is hetero or lesbian fan service for heterosexual guys.
It was one of the TV shows with actresses I could name off the top of my head. And my friend noticed that, then called me out.
>>5718906
how does having your maleness be treated as illegitimate not relate to respect?
also if you are not gay you don't get those benefits you describe
>>5721456
>>"Wait; aren't those the two main actresses of that Battlestar Galactica remake you're always talking about?"
>>[nogodfuckingdamnitno!]
I don't get why you panicked there, you should have said
>Yeah, and? They are hot.
>>5722229
It's more like you get a different kind of respect than hetero men do. More kinda like the kind of respect females have for each other. But I wouldn't call it losing the respect from women.
But you're right on something, no good thing can come out of you telling girls you want to fuck that you like dicks.
>>5714783
There is a point. Myself, I'm from a pretty rural area. A lot of people I know are pretty religious, including my friends. I came out to them because I felt like they deserved to know. I can honestly say that my parents and the rest of my family are going to be pretty shocked that I bring home a lover of the same sex. Anyway, there's also the fact that I like guys a bit more...
>>5718871
I won't, m8. I honestly would prefer to have a boyfriend. A girlfriend would be nice, but meh.
>>5698252
>Muslim
kek, if you're smart you know just how fucked you are. You can either chose to be out and forsake your family or live in the closet forever. Pick one and only one. Best of luck figuring out which one you wanna do, and remember that not choosing is choosing to do nothing.
>>5722456
I paused for two breaths two long, then muttered something close to that. Which only got me an eye roll from my friend, instead of reinforcing my lie.
>>5704774
>Already been wearing a skirt regurarily at boarding school, people probably just put the dots together
no shit dude
i have a crush on a straight friend and its been driving me crazy cause he recently got a gf (and they're fucking like rabbits, which he never fails to tell me about ;_;) so i'm just feeling /feels/
i kinda wanna vent to someone, is it worth coming out to 1/2 close friends just to vent about it? does it actually help? pros/cons?
>>5691372
So, straight men going to "normal" bars where men buy drinks to women is slutty dresses and having sex in the alleyway or the restrooms is totally OK at the eyes of society. That and strip clubs.
>>5691970
This is why the French called being gay "The British Disease"
>>5725128
Never said they were; all anon sex and hooking up is pretty degenrate desu. This board isn't called /hetero/ though, so it seemed irellevant.
Still, I feel like one can go to a normal bar for drinks and just drinks. Gay bars have a requirement to be gay, so most people go to them in order to meet other gays and (most likely) have random sex.
>>5722958
Being out in a Muslim country means that he will have to rely the disgusting gay subculture as his only means of survival so no. He should just leave.
>>5688854
>Be me when I was in 5th grade
>Was really smart, like in gifted class or whatever smart classes they had
>Introduced to the wide world of TG TF stories and porn
>Eventually see a pic of a guy hammering a girl, realise I'm bi
>Tell my mom a week later that I'm bi
>She was supportive
And now I'm glad i said that early so my family won't be judgemental if i start dating a guy
>>5725765
This is untrue. I have had my bp pounded by many sand daddies.
>>5726627
I said healthy relationship. Having casual fucks is not a healthy relationship.
>>5726579
>like in gifted class or whatever smart classes they had
Did you also take the "special" bus to school?
>>5727481
Nice loaded question
>be female
>be bi with a preference for girls
>currently dating a man
>bring up my bisexuality to my father
>he laughs and says I'm straight
>tell bf this
>he laughs his ass off because I'm a flaming faggot
It's a good, inside joke kind of feel.
>>5707202
>i am positively disgusted
>i feel sick
>I feel disgusted
>CURRENT YEAR
ok then, fuck off back to (twitter|tumblr|reddit)
>>5688854
>coming out
AY LMAO Nice meme friendo :^)
>15 at time
>mom comments on how close 'friends' me and gf are
>mom i'm gay
>oh okay
>18 now, still with gf
everything went p well
>hey dude i gotta tell you something
>i actually have a girlfriend in another state who i met through the internet and i was too embarrassed to tell you
>oh...yeah, well, i got something to tell you too
>im not actually a virgin
>and it wasn't with a girl
>oh that's cool dude i don't care
(spend the next few minutes trying not to vomit)
best friend is the only one who knows
>>5688854
>coming out as mtf
>be me, 17
>"mom I'm trans"
>"wat"
>"i identify as female, I'm not comfortable in my male body, and havent been since early age. I want to be a girl."
>she cries and goes on about how she's losing her son forever and she never asked for this
>go inside to tell dad, with mom still crying
>"well ok anon, that mustve taken a lot to tell us. just let me know if you need me to contact the insurance company to get referrals for gender therapists"
>based dad
later, after a few months on hormones
>be me in car with mom
>"so anon, i noticed you and [best friend] have been sitting closer, hugging more, etc. is there any substance to that?
>"oh, yeah he and I have been involved as a couple for a few months now"
>"WHAT? SINCE WHEN HAVE YOU LIKED MEN? WHY DIDNT YOU PICK [more attractive friend]? WHY ARE YOU DATING A FAT LOSER NERD?"
>"m-mom I'm bi, and I'm dating him because i really love him, and he's really sweet and kind and good for me"
>"ANON YOU'RE GOING TO GET AIDS AND HE'S STRAIGHT SO HE'S JUST GOING TO JUST LEAVE YOU FOR A REAL WOMAN ANYWAY"
>ouch.jpg
>awkward silence the whole car ride home
>mom drops me off at father's
>I tell my dad about what happened
>"i know you and [best friend] are together"
>"what? You knew? How?"
>"because that collar and lube you keep under your bed only appeared there after he started coming over more often"
>mfw
>>5735433
holy fuck I wish I had a dad like yours
>>5735441
Yeah, we have an unspoken understanding about that kind of stuff since we are both sexually active living together in a fairly small house. Locked doors are sacred here. If im doing lewd things and he knocks, I know i can just say "don't come in please," and he'll respect that and go do something else.
>>5707509
girls do this with gay guys do. Have them check out their ass and tits.
>>5735441
>mfw both parents are like that
Neither of my parents believe me on the sexuality or gender front. I came out bi 3 years ago and trans recently. Takes time I figure
>be me
>asex aro agen
>goddammit
>am in 20s, but look like jailbait
>pretty much nobody hits on me because it don't seem legal
>get a joj
>coworker is super nice to me
>cool
>coworker anon is 20+ years older than me
>seems super cool though so whatever
>bored and chatting one day with coworker anon
>come out as a/a/a to them
>first person I came out to, super scary
>coworker accepts this, but has become cold and indifferent to me ever since
>cry.jpg
>fast forward a few weeks
>coworker anon gets pink slip for unrelated reasons
>other coworkers gossip
>find out coworker anon was into loli and was only nice to me for a chance to hit that
>oh.png
>>5707238
i just hate myself is all.
I mean, I REALLY hate myself.
>>5737402
Is a/a/a the new tumblr identity? What happened to the transtrenders?
>>5737453
dunno what tumblr's up to, never visited for longer than a minute. Can't stand the place. I might not qualify as trans, but I'm definitely not cis either so *shrug*
>>5737497
it's okay to admit that you use tumblr, anon. this is /lgbt/, where we all know what loneliness and shame are. you can be yourself here, and [spoiler]nobody will hate you for it[/spoiler].
also [spoiler]holy shit b8 u got me i epic failed =([/spoiler]
>>5737497
lmao no, you're cis.
>>5737402
>asex aro agen
>asexaroagen
is this some kinda of mythical beast
>>5735433
best fucking dad ever!
>>5737402
How do you not feel like you either gender?
>>5737649
lmao, I like you. Keep it up.
>>5737700
>anon in /lgbt/
>tells other anons what they are
try a little harder, friend.
>>5738180
yes, everybody knows asexuals don't really exist. we're just attention whores with low libidos and a clergy-like resistance to hot booty. aromantics and agenders are the same, but somehow worse.
>>5741337
Honest answer? It's hard to explain. How do you feel your gender? I never felt comfortable with my post-puberty body. This isn't to say that I want to look like a child, I really don't. But the markers of being either gender specifically make me uncomfortable. I don't want tits, I don't want a bulge. Just, neither.
I dislike being gendered, but I'm not gonna make a fuss if somebody does, that's just society. I can live with that. Still, the few times I've been referred to as 'they', those moments are special to me. I don't understand it either, I just live it.
