I haven't come out to any one yet, I've got suuper bad anxieties, but maybe your stories could help me out ?
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When I came out to my mother, she acted like it was a real load off of her mind. She'd suspected for quite awhile and knew there was something going on with me, so knowing for certain made it a bit easier to understand what I was going through. She was extremely supportive thereafter, though she kept pressuring me to tell my father because she didn't like feeling as though she was keeping a secret from him. I still haven't told him and likely won't until I feel it's relevant.
When I "came out" as conservative...that did not go over well. I can't even remember the specifics of the conversation anymore, but the end result was we haven't spoken to one another in a little over a year.
>>5438404
Well my mom is a lesbian but my parents got a divorce when I was seven (I'm 18 now) and I haven't seen my mom for like ten years, and I don't think my dad or brother would be very accepting at all.
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Mom found gay porn on my computer freshman year of high school. Became hysterical, treated me like shit on daily basis or just refused to talk to me. Sometimes she acted normal. Told her it was just a phase and I was really straight. Had hysterical manic episodes off and on again about my homosexuality. Eventually she got over it around sophomore year of college. Dad never gave a shit. Senior in college. Never mention my sexuality ever. Whenever a gay topic comes up on tv etc. everyone acts awkward. It's okay I guess. My mother said really hurtful things that still affect me to this day and I have awful social anxiety/no friends/no relationships because of it. But I'm a pretty positive person aside from that.
>>5438535
Is she deeply religious by chance?
>>5438719
She randomly decided to be once she found out
>>5438776
What a twist, did not see that one coming. Anyways my mom too has said a lot of hurtful things that affect me, only difference is she doest know yet. Go read Prayers for Bobby it will help I promise.
>>5438381
I came out to mom and dad. I felt I needed to warn them incase them or one of their friends noticed my picture on the front of the local paper holding a bisexual pride banner. Mom came out to me. She's also bisexual. They are fine with it.
>>5438381
I have only come out to one of my little brothers so far, and that was on the 16th of this month.
>We were putting insulation on the walls in the attic
>Was asking him various questions like if he rated himself as more conservative or more liberal
>He said, "What if I told you you're going to be an uncle?"
>I asked him if his girlfriend was really pregnant, he said no
>If she were actually pregnant, I would have said, "I would be an aunt then" immediately
>Instead said, "Well, let's just say you would be a bit off, then"
>He doesn't get what I'm saying
>I drop other hints throughout the conversation
>He knows whatever I'm keeping secret is what makes me hate my father and that I'm going to say what it is to him in the middle of January
>He says, "Whatever you say to him, don't say it in a way that's going to make him mad"
>I said, "What I'm going to say will make him mad depending on how he chooses to take it"
>He's asking me to tell him
>I quickly go up to his ear and whisper I'm trans because I'm worried someone else might hear
>He's like, "No... I was worried and you came at me with this pangender, agender, bullshit..."
>I said that I'm not any one of those, I'm just MtF
>We had an honest conversation about why I hadn't been motivated to do anything over the past two years, me wanting to kill myself, and being transgender
>He was skeptical because "If you were gay, you would know a lot about fashion. If you were a girl, your eyebrows would be on fleek."
>He was worried I would get assaulted for dressing as a girl in public
>He said he had a bit of a homophobic reaction at first, but that he reminded himself people have different ways of living after we were done and he said I shouldn't try to kill myself. He was also glad I felt a bit of relief to have told someone
>I was left with an impression of him being more mature than I originally thought
>>5438381
>>5439135
>I sent him some pictures the day after of girls after transition because I wasn't sure what he was imagining of trans women, especially with the concern over assault
>He must have thought only hons existed because he was surprised
>I asked him that day and the day after if he was done "processing it," he said no
>I decided to check if he's understood it around the middle of January
>2013: My bro hears it through the grapevine
> tells mum
> mum has a meltdown
> mum collapses in a chair
> after a while she announces she's going to watch a film to get her mind off the shock.
> asks everyone what they want to watch
> brother: "How about Brokeback Mountain?"
Still lol about it to this day
>>5442362
>How about Brokeback Mountain?
my god why is this so funny
>>5442362
based brother.
I actually came out to my best friend and another friend that I was bisexual last Halloween. Us three were having a conversation on some pretty important stuff (like religion) and somehow the topic of "If you were gay, would you tell us?" came up. Right then, I looked into my friend's eyes and came out as bisexual. At first, they thought I was kidding (I make a lot of sexual jokes around them :P) but I was able to get him to believe me. While they accepted that fact about me, I'm still worried to come out to my family and other friends. My family is pretty religious too. My cousin is FtM and she recently came out to me and her super religious mother. Surprisingly, her mother accepts it and supports her. I know that my mother is okay with homosexuality, but I know that my grandparents, whom I am very close to, will not accept it. They are very old fashioned in their ways. Anon, if you're wanting to come out, I say come out to your friends first. Of everyone, they'll definitely be most accepting. However, if you think your parent(s) won't like it, wait until after you're out on your own before you come out. Currently, I (kinda) have a boyfriend and I'm not coming out until I'm out of college, which will be in another five or six years. Good luck with coming out one day, Anon!
>>5442362
Holy shit it's a good thing I didn't need my sides.
From what I remember it went alright, I came out as trans at 17 to my mom. We were sitting on the back porch talking about whatever. The topic of how I was feeling came up (I struggled with depression, and had anxiety/panic attacks pretty regularly since I was a kid), and I told her I was feeling pretty unwell. She asked why, and I just came out with it telling her I think I might be trans, and how it's making me completely miserable to live what I felt was a complete lie. She cried, hugged me, and told me she didn't understand but she loved me.
I'm still not out to most people, including most of my family (and may never be to some) but knowing I have my moms support makes the idea of someone rejecting me from the family / friendships / relationships etc due to this a lot easier to handle.
My story went pretty well but its just kinda boring
However OP i do struggle with insane amounts of anxiety and i learned one major thing in my years.
Repression and hiding and such is not a lack of emotions, its still a fear reaction. afraid of what is to come, so we hide because its more comforting than confronting.
That fear of the problem is almost always short term or can be dealt with, but we choose to hide it which just draws it out.
Its kinda like feeling like you need to throw up, you try to keep it down and down because you dont want to throw up, but you know that throwing up will make you feel better in the long run
>>5438776
Sounds like she's a lez
>>5438381
>be in denial tranny
>fear my family will disown me since they are conservative and my dad is a bit of a redneck
>go through adolescence as a super awkward boy that has no life and 0 friends
>dysphoria and trans feelings never go away no matter how hard i try to repress them
>attempt suicide and fail
>finally come out
>family shocked for about 2-3 months but they come around
>they support me and help me start on my transition
>fast forward 2 years
>pass as a girl
>family still loves me (cept for a few cunts on me dads side)
>have friends
>have qt bf
>have part time job
>finishing college
>feelsgoodman.jpeg
Sometimes great things can happen, even though we fear the worst. Just gonna have to take the plunge and see what happens.
hope this helps OP
>>5438829
Oh I have seen that before. I have family members who don't go to church regularly but won't let their kids watch Sponge Bob because he is "to gay"
>Be about 18, dad is 80+
>Go upstairs for breakfast one day, pour myself a bowl of Honey Bunches of Oats
>Dad comes into the kitchen
>Pouring my milk
>"Son. I'm going to ask you a question, and I want a straight answer."
>>'Straight answer' what a retrospective knee-slapper.
>"Are you gay?"
>I've thought this over a lot in my life; my dad's wealthy, and being on his good side would do me a lot of favors later in life. But circumstances like this are what define a man's character; I'm not going to lie.
"Yes."
>There's a long silence, and we haven't looked at each other yet, but I can tell he isn't happy.
>"Hearing you say that... you might as well have hit me in the stomach with a chainsaw."
I don't say anything.
>"Your brother Steve, he was a real disappointment; here I thought I did alright with you. But apparently you're a fuck-up too."
"It's not like I think I'm a girl."
>"IT'S SUPPOSED TO BE ADAM AND EVE, NOT ADAM AND STEVE."
>OhBoyHereWeGo.jpeg
>He storms out and I don't see him for the rest of the day.
>It's just he and I on top of a mountain, in the middle of fucking nowhere.
>He's noted on several occasions that the only reason he bothers to live is for my benefit.
>I question if that's still valid.
>Don't have any type of transport.
>Spend the next several days fortified in my room because I think my elderly father might try to kill me.
THANKS FOR BRINGIN' THE BIBLE INTO MY DAD'S HOUSE, COUSIN J; HE WASN'T AN ASSHOLE UNTIL YOURS SHOWED UP.
>>5449749
>Repression and hiding and such is not a lack of emotions, its still a fear reaction. afraid of what is to come, so we hide because its more comforting than confronting.
>That fear of the problem is almost always short term or can be dealt with, but we choose to hide it which just draws it out.
I can confirm this. I had stuff hidden in my bedroom nearly all throughout my teenage years. I went out my bedroom every single day with the fear of it being found.
If I had told what was up, I would never have had the constant fear. I still think the constant anxiety has changed me
> be bifag and 17
> be in relatively conservative grandparents household
> have nosy mom who visits occasionally
> dont live with her because she wanted to have "fun"
> working out in home gym to get dem gains
> hear the loudest ear piercing scream
> sounds like a banshee was released from hell
> mind racing for connections
> hear her stomping on floor
> comes in room with my Ipad in hand
> see picture
> mfw
> mom shouting, "WHYTHEFUCKDOYOUHAVETHISBLABLABLA"
> say to her, "Oh yeah mom Im bi"
> "WHAAAAAAATTTTT?"
> "Yeahhhhhh."
> she sits down and is shaking and crying
> shouts at me once more for being bi
> leaves room and flips shit at my grandparents
> grandparents come in and ask if im gay
> reply, "No, no im not."
> they're ok and think my mom just saw something on my ipad and overblew it.
> i didnt talk to my mom for six months after that
Eventually my grandparents found out I was bi but they were cool with it as long as I had kids, either adoption or actual babymaking.
>>5453260
>forgot mfw
>>5438776
Sounds like reactionary religion to me
Told my mum I was trans. She was pretty taken back, and was in her christian mode for the next hour. Then she comes to her senses and starts to realize that this shouldn't have been much of a surprise, seeing how I used to wear girl stuff all the time as a kid, which ironically my parents put on me for teh lulz
I think she's fine with it, but she said the next line with so much enthusiasm
>don't tell your dad or he'll fuck you up :^)
my dad doesn't know yet, even though I've already started transitioning and gone shopping with my mum to buy more feminine clothes. I'll tell him on his deathbed.
I'm Korean btw, if that matters.
I randomly came out as bi to an old friend about 3 days ago, I hadn't seen him in years. He was pretty drunk and actually got upset and stormed off, which I can somewhat understand but it was still pretty dickish. I always thought he knew to be honest.
Other friends I came out to usually said something like "Yeah, I always figured something was up with you" Which made it a hell of alot easier. Even my wife said that when I told her while we were dating.
> realise I'm trans
> at a bbq with some friends 2 weeks later
> talking to a friend by the bonfire
> decide to tell her
> we hug
> it's cool
next day
> at her house with her bf
> don't like making couples keep secrets from each other
> decide to tell him
> tell him
> totally cool
Scary as shit but nothing bad happened.
>out with two friends
>a religious straight guy (looks ok), the other one is straight too
>talked about gay guys trying to hit on reli-friend
>the other friend goes; "Weren't you bi, anon?"
>dont often talk about my sexual things so feeling kinda akward
>"Yes"
>reli-friend goes "wut?"
>the other says it's just fashion, mental-illness, etc.
>reli-friend seems to be ok with this
>friends start joking about it for some time
>leaving home at night
>live in another town
>get ride to home from reli-friend
>during the car ride asks if i have any sexual thoughts about him and the other friend
>anwser "No" to avoid further akwardness
Only thing that bothers me is the other friends reaction. He didn't seem to be that okay with me coming out.
>>5438404
>being conservative for any reason other than family approval
You fell for the meme.
>>5455741
>Korean
Even on his deathbed he'll still tweet about it to bring shame on the family
>realize i was trans early in my childhood (like 10 cuz internet helps)
>live in latvia with scary family
>doesn't tell anyone
>try to commit suicide when i was 11 but pussies out
>same year we move to uk.
>dad and mom split up when i was 13
>happy and sad at the same time because i got away from the worst parent
dint realize my mother was useless at paperwork and talking to people so i had to help her for a long time and with school added it kept me busy most of the time
>help her with shit and move to a way bigger house and fix her financial situation
>fast forward to early 2014 early 6th form first year when i was 17
>want to start transition even more but afraid mother might not like it and hate me
>meet a lesbian who is the most open person ever
>talk with her lots +confidence and can act more flamboyantly and grow out hair (i dint know what else to do)
>friend comes out as tg so ++confidence
>wait for the end of my 2nd year of 6th form and come out to my lesbian friend (due to trans people being not treated well or cared for by staff and teachers)
>shes cool with it
>tell other friends
>their cool with it just weren't expecting it
>tell mother 2 months afterwards
>doesn't care and understand it completely but gets the point
>start on the waiting list for horomes
>turn 19 and soon to get apoitment
>>5467646
you gotta move
Do failed/aborted attempts at sort of coming out count?
>mother telling me about trans related story in the news
>she doesn't really get it
>i'm trying to set her straight without making it seem i know a suspicious amount on the subject
>"i mean, i've considered it"
>"but you've never had any actual interest in being male though!"
>"how do you know?"
>"... fair point, but anyway..."
Conversation moved on. It was weird.
>>5467699
? what do you mean? like reason wise.
>>5467728
how do you think latvia treats trans people?
>>5467737
He said he moved to the UK when he was 11 you dingus.
>>5467749
>i thought that was a place in latvia because it wasn't capitalized
kill me
>>5467753
kill me for not capitalising sorry
>Write a letter to parents to say that I'm a big tranny.
>Unsure how they'll take it, so I leave the letter, pack all my shit in a van, and go to live with my sister.
>They don't actually notice the letter, or that I'm gone, for several hours.
>After they read it I get the phonecall. My sister takes it. I refuse to talk.
>"Son, just come home son. You need... help."
>Parents get hysterical.
>Hear a dull thud.
>Dad says, in a deadpan voice, "I have to go. She has just fainted."
>They hang up.
>My sister and I laugh so hard we cry.
It was so weird. It was like the atmosphere of a prank call.
>[insert normal coming out story here to a few friends, all cool, posted once so not repeating]
>next day
>"Hey, I went home early, what did you want to talk about?"
I forgot about that guy completely. Missed out all the fun and awkwardness
>"I will tell you later when less people are around"
>sort of just played around with his head because he's just nosy and gossipy all the time.
>he bugs me for half a fucking day and others are just brushing him off which was kinda funny how all worked up it made him for the thing
>after hours I give in and tell him
>"So what is it?"
>"Oh, just that I'm bisexual."
>takes a deep breath
>"Dude what the fuck?"
>don't talk for the rest of the day
>all of it was still funny, thinking back he's a friend I couldn't care about loosing
>next day
>picture related.
>fucking picture related
>that asshole outted me to some friends that I was not going to tell pretty much within 6 hours
>made me more stuff to sort out, had to talk with people to put shit in place
And the best part: He was called asshole after this and besides him, pretty much everyone was cool with this
Bonus story, because related:
>same guy
>he was a real life /pol/ack
>middle school, in another city
>calls someone a flaming fag on the street
>standing next to him: Me, a gay guy and a lesbian. Like the fucking pride of our school year.
>later
>same guy
>calls a muslim on the street something I can't recall
>on the side of him, there is the one and only muslim from our school year.
>I took a different direction to have a laugh
That day he was rolling the dice only to get ones.
>>5468218
this was a good story
