Straight man here, I really need your opinion about something.
So let's sum this up quickly:
>I've had fantasies about getting fucked by a man for quite a few years now
>thing is that I don't find men attractive at all, have no desire to date one, no desire to kiss one, don't like being touched by one
>gave a friend a handjob while very drunk once, I didn't finish him but it did turn me on
>a week ago I had the opportunity to get fucked
>the friend I was with was very gentle and took it slow
>we used a lot of lube
>I hated it, I wasn't turned on at all
>tried really hard to enjoy it but I couldn't get into it at all
>had to ask my friend to stop and pull out
As of now I really don't want to try this ever again, it's just not for me, I found no pleasure in this at all while I do find a lot of pleasure in straight sex.
Yet, somehow, I still have fantasies about getting fucked and it does turn me on when I fantasize about it. How the fuck? I don't want to actually do this, I don't actually like it, no matter how hard I think about it I just don't like men. Yet I have those fantasies.
So what the fuck?
Am I some kind of repressed bi guy? Are those just fantasies and I shouldn't think too much of it? Help.
>Am I some kind of repressed bi guy?
pretty much, man
try practicing more, until it doesn't hurt anymore and you don't have to think about it before sex
>>5432607
I don't want to though, wasn't turned on at all. Why would I keep forcing it?
>>5432617
When you first fantasized about girls, did you go straight to fucking? No, probably not. Take shit slow.
>>5432644
I was always attracted to girls and I did fantasize about getting physical with them pretty early on.
>>5432651
Right, I'm not disagreeing with you there, I can actually relate. However, in my experience, I didnt go straight to fucking girls in 7th grade lol. It took a while. First I had some girlfriends, then I kissed them and shit. Then I had one girlfriend where we progressed naturally from hands to mouth to fucking.
What I'm saying is, it might've been a bit of a rush to go from "I'm physically attracted to guys?" to "Lets fuck a guy". You skipped a bunch of steps.
Not saying that that's wrong, that's just how I'm dealing with my whole bi-sexual thing. Right now I'm perfectly happy being attracted to guys and just doing PG shit with them. I'm sure I'll get assfucked one day, just not soon :>)
>>5432585
>Straight man here
>I've had fantasies about getting fucked by a man for quite a few years now
What?
most likely its just fantasies.
Bi, straight, gay doesnt matter but dont force yourself to enjoy what you dont enjoy
Sexually and fantasy wise i am into some messed up stuff but if it came to the real world i wouldnt and havent enjoyed it.
explore the fantasy, find the appeal and go from there. doesnt need to be IRL but maybe its more related to being controlled or something like that.
This usually garners an utterly bizarre response when I type it, but...
Have you considered getting a girl to fuck you with a strap-on?
You know you're into girls (can get a girl you're into), you can get to know the dildo BEFORE getting railed by it, and assuming it still doesn't work, presumably you and your partner can think of another sexy use for the evening.
>>5432877
Solid advice, feminist scum.
>>5432585
Fantasies are often best left unrealized. That's why they're fantasies. There is huge difference between what could turn you on in the perfect scenario that goes in your head, and reality.
I have a fetish for black dick, but after several dates with black guys, I just couldn't do it, I wasn't turned on at all and was pretty much repulsed. I still have that fetish, but I know I can't act on it and it has to stay a fetish, and I'm ok with this.
All humans experience this, that's why rape is the number one fantasy of women, but they get trauma when it happens for real.
So you're just a straight guy who gets off on the fantasy of being fucked by another guy. You tried, you didn't like it and you still fantasize a lot about girls. You should just accept that you have that fantasy and go on with your life as a straight guy.
It may be that you just don't like to get fucked in the ass. Plenty of people have fantasies of getting tied up and whipped but after the first time it's "no thanks". But the erotic fantasy is still there.
Or, maybe you need a smaller cock to fuck you.
>>5432585
I like the idea of getting fucked, but I hate the actual act because I just cannot relax down there. Not all guys into guys like anal. That said, try giving a blowjob. I certainly enjoy giving them.
>>5432722
>maybe its more related to being controlled
This OP
Maybe its not the dick you are attracted to but just the concept of getting dominated. You can find a femdom or go to a SM-club and try it out.
>>5432657
This. I'm in the same situation right now. Taking it slow is the best advise right now
>>5433150
Nothing gets my dick flaccid faster than femdom.
Unfortunately, that's exactly what they want.
>>5432585
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EeaAvNj1DHA
this?
>>5432711
Welcome to /lgbt/. This is a daily occurrence.
>>5433188
so you want to be dominated but are too sexist to let women do it so you look to men
>>5433261
Actually, I want to dominate women - or be about equal with a slightly-aggressive tomboyish female partner - and be dominated by men.
>>5433268
you sound 1 step away from going gay because you think women are terrible people like some of the retards on here
>>5432929
You sound like you couldn't take that BBC
>>5432585
first and foremost, every guy i ever fooled around with in highschool and even early college said 'im not gay, i only like to date women i can never imagine dating a guy'
but ten years later they are all openly gay. they just couldnt understand it at the time cuz they had never really been with a guy and grew up only seeing the romanticized ideas of regular hetero relationships on TV. ur not gonna be any different.
as for your ass fucking and fantasies, i am an openly gay man who fantasizes all the time about getting fucked in the ass, and being a total sub slut. but if a guy so much as sticks a finger in me, i hate it. i can anally masturbate myself and get quite a lot in there, but with other dudes it doesnt work. i figure its a control issue.
point is im not actually a bottom. i prefer to fuck a guy than be fucked. you imagining getting fucked in the ass is probably not really YOU so much as any random bottom.
its like watching porn. you dont imagine fucking a girl, you imagine a girl getting fucked. but since you are having gay fantasies you assume its you
my advice? find an actually sub gay slut who wants your dick and fuck his brains out. you will probably love it way more than straight sex and it will fulfil that ass fucking fantasy.
