Anybody wanna share their coming out stories?
>be 18
>bf living several states away
>bf's homophobic mother finds out and takes away internet
>know bf has suicidal tendencies
>develop ulcers worrying about bf
>out myself to my liberal grandmother
>she suggests I out myself to my parents
>I comply
>fuckmyshitup.png
>hear from bf again a few months later
>bf decides to call it quits
>live single for the next 3 years
>post on image board
Your turn.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KZbHcAPsllE
>>5386131
>be 19
>decide to stop hiding part of myself from people and come out to my parents and my brother, very supportive
>try to find someone
>slowly accept I'm a shitty person
>become depressed because still no bf
>friends stop talking to me because they lost interest in me or something
>completely lonely
>don't even depressed anymore, simpl full of hate for myself
I've been suicidal in my early teens for various reasons, right no I don't think I even deserve to die. That's probably the reason why I can't get stuff working with guys I meet, I think I don't deserve it.
My friends just leaving me without any reason probably gave me the final blow.
>as bitter as it gets
>post on cambodian image board
>no one in my life suspects anything because I'm so used to faking smiles, that it seems natural
Well I've only told a few friends so far but the first time I came out was a good story
>anxiety has been building up for a while now
>I just wanted someone to know
>finally get the courage to text a friend
>"hey I need to talk to you about something"
>go for a drive with friend
>freak out and don't tell him anything
>drive around for 2 hours and I still haven't told him
>go to drop him off
>he asks me what I wanted to talk about again
>I couldn't say it
>he tells me he'll guess it
>I say he wont
>"anon, are you gay"
>holyfuckwhat
>say yes
>he just hugs me and says it's ok
the next day we talked about it more in depth and I told him how I realized etc. It was really great
>>5386290
this sounds so great. I wish I ever got the opportunity to talk about it to someone, that wasn't my mother (who mostly wanted to know what type of guy I like).
It's kinda shitty when people go for the "whatever"-treatment. I mean, it's good and all, but it still feels like a let-down.
>>5386290
Oh Anon, I envy thee.
>>5386320
talking to someone about everything is what made me really start to accept myself and move on with life. I encourage you to find someone that will listen and just let it all out
>>5386352
I promise there's nothing to envy. That was a great experience but only about 6 people in total even know I'm gay, and no one in my family knows
>>5386412
Have you thought about telling your family?
>>5386465
Yeah and then I remember that I like their financial support and general non-hatred
Not sure if this belongs here but this just happened
>first time using tripcode or name
>try coming out to family toward end of senior year of hs
>do it right before april 1st
>mom and dad pissed af
>talking therapy
>and just overall phone taken away, grounded, asking which of my friends is gay
>no way I should go away for college if I'm gay
>h-haha april fools
>still in closet even after graduating uni
ha
>>5386988
Classic.
>sophmore
>dating chubby 8/10 chick
>know for a bit i find pretty much anyone 7/10 and up attractive regardless of gender
>2010 so acceptance in my state is really kicking off
>figure nows the time to come out to family that i'm bi
>family meeting
>just sort of blurt it out
>waiting on dad to explode or something
"....okay? You're still going for varsity though, right?"
"....yeah."
"Good talk, son."
mom just never quite got it though. She thinks it means i'm secretly one of those lispy effeminate types and me being me is just some "disguise" even took me out for pedicures on my 18th birthday 7 months later.
>be almost 18
>Poland (speaks for itself)
>Hebdo attacks day
>peeks over friend's phone
>'r u gay or what, anon?'
>me:well... i'm bi
>friend:bi don't exist
That's the only coming out I've done to someone else than a parent. With parent I just sat silent for five minutes, finally said what was to be said and she said she accepts me. So that makes three of them.
To this day I'm not sure if LGBT even real where I live.
>be 19
>realize I want to be a girl
>found out about hormones
>ask on forums/ib just to see what kind of stupid answer they give me
>>live with homophobic parents, shitty country, no friends, gave get beaten for looking feminine
>people tells me to take hormones (as if they were cheap), they say nobody will notice, and I before hormones make any effect I will probably be able to move and live on my own
>its been 4 years and I'm still in the same situation
Thanks god I didn't started taking hormones, otherwise I would be probably dead by now, just like 2 of my friends.
I always like to ask things here to realize how people give advices without really thinking about the situations.
>>5386131
I've only told one person but I'll still contribute.
>be 19 (?) at a party with my surprisingly very Christian friends
>drink
>one of them who has an extremely huge crush on me gets practically felt up by this rando at the party
>freaks out, crying in the bathroom
> go to console her, she reveals that she was abused as a child by her father and that she's just extremely uncomfortable around this creepy dude.
>make her feel better and she stops crying. All is well.
>drunkenly let it slip that I might be gay and that the only reason I haven't shown interest in her is because of it.
>oh shit
>she's super Christian and conservative
>she hugs me and tells me that it's okay
>that I'm a great person, that a lot of people look up to me and that me being gay has no bearing on how they think of me.
>start crying because im still extremely drunk and I really was not expecting this. Especially from her.
I wish I wasn't drunk the first time I told someone and I wish I had reserved it for a closer friend but overall it was great. I felt so much better. You know how they say it's like a huge weight being lifted off of you? Well it really does feel like that. It was pretty intense. For me at least.
>>5390470
Lol. Nice.
You rock those gel tips hunty.
>change Facebook status to interested in men and women.
>few days later hide details
That's about it, I did tell a pansexual friend of mine I was bisexual. Wouldn't consider that much if an outing though.
>>5391931
>pansexual
>>5391931
>change Facebook status
Almost every site I go to I have changed my gender from male to female. Zero comments on that so far.
>realize I am gay at 11
>my parents tell me all gay people are either victims of abuse or perverts.
>pray that god takes away my desire for men for several years.
>notworking.jpg
>fast forward 11 years.
>cannot keep this secret any longer
>tell my sister in a IHOP parking lot
>one of her best freinds is gay so I figure she cannot judge me
> she is cool about it
> probably will never tell anyone else unless I find a bf.
Also, my best friend calls me fggt as a joke occasionally. He does not mean anything by it. I find it hilarious how embarrassed and uncomfortable he would be if he found out I was actually gay.
I've accepted that I just have a fetish for guys, makes me easier for me. Like all fetishes, I wouldn't tell my parents. I don't think they are interested in that I enjoy being spanked with a belt too. Or have a thing for being tied up.
I like guys but I'm not gay.
>One night about a month ago
>Been feeling really dysphoric
>Panic attacks all week
>I had to do something
>I only had one person I felt comfortable
>The only way I can talk to them is through steam chat
>whatever, it's the best I got
>Type out messages, be a coward for 30 minutes before pressing enter
>finally do it
>"I have something to say, I'm..."
>"I already know and it's okay"
>They suspected it, in there words saying that they were 99% sure a year ago and almost positive recently
>Talk for an hour
>recommends me to go to a LGBT clinic (which I have)
>Next day of class they're super nice to me
I never told anyone I ever felt like I was a girl before and to have someone so accepting and supportive honestly made me feel like crying. I wish it was in person.
>me, young and retarded
>suffered my sexual awakening
>discovered lesbians
> fell in love with a non-lesbian
>she finds out
>tells everyone who knows me
>laughing the whole time
>ritually picked on by ginger dickhead from her scout troop
>his cronies join in
>humiliate me regularly in public
>throw my books on the floor n shit
>fast forward six years
>20 yrs old now
>I'm an adult so fuck off
>off my tits drunk
>dickbutt.jpg
>so i don't drink anymore.
>like girl in hs
>she's straight
>but painfully hot
>kinda friends
>in theater at least
>hanging with just her in sound/light room
>she mentions wishing I was gay
>w-what? why?
>cause she's horny and wants to make out with me
>but I'm totally straight
>oh
>um
>no I'm not actually
>she laughs awkwardly saying it was a joke
>never brought up again
>>5393277
0/10
>>5392245
I had a friend who called me faggot a lot before he found out. He hasn't said it since. Kinda disappoints me, honestly.
>>5393488
God this is ridiculously similar to me, pansexual though
>>5393898
That comment made my night.
>>5393575
I think you had an opportunity right after >she mentions wishing I was gay
And you could have made a move or kissed her or something, but after the explanation the moment was gone.
>>5393626
>wah wah why don't you conform with my labels :((
I'm 26 and haven't come out. My dad said he'd kill me if I ever became a faggot. His actual words.
I hate to say this but I can't wait until my parents die.
>>5386131
>19
>having lunch with two friends
>they cant stop staring at this girl's ass
>I ask what the big deal is, it's just an ass
>they start joking, "haha anon is gay". I don't say anything.
>they notice, I tell them I'm having my doubts. They tell me it's okay, either way they support me and shit
>fast forward two years
>haven't brought up the subject since
>talking to one of them (don't spend much time with the other friend anymore)
>ask him what the deal with Tinder is and if there's a gay option
>"hahahah I'm asking for a friend, you know?" In the least subtle way possible
>assume he noticed
>spent the entire four months assuming he knew, occasionally bringing the subject up, but never explicitly stating I'm gay
>riding the bus one day
>make fun of his phone wallpaper, two football players hugging after celebrating a goal
>tell him that's the gayest thing I've seen all day and I watch gay porn
>he suddenly stops talking
>"what do you mean? Like, do you watch it out of curiosity, for the novelty?"
>"I've been telling you I'm dating a dude all week, are you kidding me?"
>...
>…
>"well you never said it was a dude"
>we both start putting two and two together
>he's shocked, but okay with it
>start going over past conversations, wondering how he didn't notice, both laughing
I still mock him to this day. I wasn't subtle at all.
I'm actually closeted. As in nobody other than some anonymous sexual health nurse and the guy I had sex with to lead me to visit that nurse know.
It's a weird place. My parents said they would accept me I'm gay but I just don't want to accept it.
Fuck this.
>come out as lesbian to my Irish-Catholic parents at 17
>get thrown out of the house
>homeless for three years
>living on the street
>addicted to heroin
>two stints in rehab
>get my shit together
>get degree, good job
>spend the next 25 years trying to reconcile with parents
>to them I'm still the druggy, pierced, tatted queer
>fuck them
>>5395427
>fuck them
Yeah, fuck them.
And you turned out better than they did.
>>5395427
17 + 3 + 25
Does that mean you're at least 45 Anon?
Anyways I think I've read your story before.
>>5395427
>gets kicked out
>homeless for 3 years and gets addicted to heroin
Your parents hate you because you were a fuckin dumbasss
>>5395427
Druggy, pierced, tatted queer
>>5395176
Haha, this was a hilarious read! Not a lot of people lead with their porn preferences when they're coming out. Why do you think your friend didn't get it? Just didn't even occur to him that he could know someone gay?
>>5391765
Buhuhu, this is so sweet! I'm glad it was a positive experience for you, even if it wasn't your ideal scenario.
>>5395472
So what, you don't like your kid so you throw it out like garbage? What kind of logic is that? She was still 17 you retard. Parents should STILL feel responsible.
Jesus. You must be a delightful person.
>>5395552
I didn't think I was coming out, I thought he knew. I didn't lead with my porn preferences technically... that time at least.
>semi drunk with friends
>making fun of one of them for being into fat chicks
>the conversation shifts to fetishes and shit
>they ask me
>"I don't know if there's a term for it but people tired and sweaty after working out. And beards."
>they all laugh as I keep a straight face
>wait, what?
>>5395427
iffa
i'm the family black sheep, the druggie tranny fuckup. in their eyes i never can do anything right. i was always the one doing things i shouldn't have. i barely finished hs, and they all have phds, law firms, professorships, whatnot, so i'm obviously the fuckup. every year at the family reunion it is i got this or that expensive thing, or i went to this or that exotic resort for vacation. yawn. so boring. never about what charities they help run or support, they don't >:(.
>>5396469
do they have to? if you work your ass off to have a luxurious life you can do all the shit you want to do.
I guess a fuckup who barely finished hs doesn't understand the concepts of discipline and ambition though.
>>5396872
No they don't, but these are the people who told me when I was young that it was important to give to charity. So, as an adult I am giving more money to charity than they make, and they are criticizing me for that.
BTW: The reason I barely finished hs was to many days absent. You see, I was already working...
>>5393277
I, too, have read Angels in America gr8 b8
>>5386290
That's more or less what happened to me. I was pretty baked with my friend, he was dropping me off, I said something like "hey wait i gotta tell you something", except for when he asked what it was I freaked out and pretended to forget, which was plausible because i really was that high. So i sat
in his car for like 2 minutes in silence, staring at the ceiling with a fake "thinking" face on, until I eventually just said "I'm gay, text me when you get home" really fast and hopped out of his car and ran away. All in all pretty good, my friends are all ultra down.
>>5395700
So is outing yourself to people that you thought knew earlier a thing?
>Talking on skype
>Mention that I'm going to go hang out with some gay friends
>Friend asks why
>Because I'm gay...?
>What?
>You aren't being serious right
>What the fuck
>Oh don't give me that you've known for years
etc
>>5386270
Look, I'm just being an obnoxious moralfag, but at that age, it's hard to maintain friendships, with everyone trying to figure out their lives. It's not necessarily that you're unlikable.
Still sucks.
There's always ways to create new connections, but it does require being proactive. Schedule a meeting with a counselor, join a volunteer group, join a neo nazi rally - at least you can say you tried.
But seriously, I'm starting to annoy myself with this prattling, so take it or leave it.
>>5399739
Oh and my "out" story
>drinking wine with mom and sister
>moving in a few days
>surrounded by boxes and talking shit
>admit I like girls as well as guys
>both admit girl/girl stuff is hot
It was really chill, though I had to defend my fujo tendencies.
>be 18
>finally get a girlfriend
>tell my mother
>she is glad that I am finally coming out as straight to her
>she says she has been pretty sure i was straight for a while
>be me, 23, on the phone with mom
>mom asks when I'll get a girlfriend and settle down to start building a family
>say to her the girlfriend part's probably not going to ever happen
>tells me to stay optimistic, and that she knows there's a girl out there God chose for me to find.
>tell her half jokingly the unlucky girl with have to wait for me, because I'm already in a relationship with a guy.
>she asks if I'm joking
>intend to tell her I am both serious and happy with him.
>mom hangs up on me half way through the word happy.
>get an email the next day from her that she'll talk to me again after I give up my sinful lifestyle, then apologize to her and God.
>three years later. We still haven't talked.
>Although I did wave at her during a cousin's wedding reception last year. For a full four seconds she glared at me from across the room as if I had knocked over the wedding cake. Before continuing her conversation with a new step father I have still yet to meet.
my parents found my porn and yelled at me for hours because i was into gay bear porn
they said i wasnt a normal faggot
it would be funny if it didnt make me want to an hero so bad due to pure cringe
>>5399857
are any faggots normal????????
>>5399888
I literally don't even fucking know.
I never talked to it about them after but they ended up involuntarily throwing me in psych wards and hospitals and my therapists knew about my porn and shit. It was fucked up. I honeslty think it's on my medical records.
I was actually diagnosed as a porn addict too. The doctor gave me anti depresants that killed my sex drive to cope with it. It was fucke dup and horrible.
I just want to die.
>>5399898
dont let faggot haters kill another faggot, fuck those niggers
>>5399898
>closetted bi with years of therapy here
Watch it with the ant-depressants or any other meds somebody tells you will help.
Don’t die. You are fucking normal. Bears or whatever. It’s just your context that is a problem.
Stay normal. And just try to love yourself.
>>5399898
Are their any single males NOT addicted to porn?
>Be me, 16, junior year of hs
>At best friend's house, before school year starts
>Crushing super hard on him
>Wanted to tell him
>Words are on my lips, but I back out
>Fast forward 2 months
>Still crushing super hard
>Tell him, first person I came out to
>"Im flattered, but you know I like someone else right now," or something along those lines
>Talk about it for a bit
>"If you told me over the summer, I probably would've asked you out"
>tfw
>>5399898
I want to swap lives with you.
>>5399840
fuck your mom
>come to terms that I'm gay in high school
>made me super depressed
>fall in love with a guy
>move in together after I graduate high school
>get in fight with mom one day on the phone and tell her
>she hangs up midway through
>dad tries calling to bitch at me the next day
>give them time to cool down and call a couple of days later
>agree to talk
>they say awful things, i could go into more detail
>leave, block them, and don't talk for almost a year
after about 6 months they tried reaching out to me through my sister and I was like fuck that. Eventually things didn't work out with me and the guy so I moved back in with them. They like to pretend it never happened and look the other way when I bring guys home.
If anyone wants to talk, needs advice, or whatever my kik is imodster.
>coming out
>ever
>live in Russia
>no money, no exceptional skills or talents, and thus no way to move to a better country
>will have stay closeted forever
>>5403780
you moved back in with them? fucking kek.
that's pretty spineless.
>>5405424
Canada was accepting Russian gay refugees if I recall correctly.
>>5405424
ur gay in russia. Plx tell me u have a makarov?
>>5386131
fag
>>5399898
Holy shit that sounds horrifying
>>5405447
how is that spineless? i'm living rent free while I save up for a house.
>le me, 14 years old, gay
>super nervous about coming out to senpai
>almost don't do it, but after dinner I say it
>dad: "is that it? oh, I thought it'd be something bad"
>sis: "it's okay brother, I'll support you"
>happy af
forward 5 years
>get cute bf
>my parents love him
>>5405356
this guy gets it
>>5409466
>be 23
>parents are liberal but casually homophobic
>struggling with depression
>telling my mom about how miserable I am
>she's really supportive and loving
>accidentally reveal I'm gay
>tone changes, she starts crying
>"what will your dad/grandparents/family think"
>out to no one else
>still depressed
>mom still says shitty things about gays around me
>still closeted
Sucks but it could be worse
>be mtf
>too chicken to come out pre-hormones
>too chicken to go to a therapist and tell them about it for hormones
>say "fuck it" and order hormones online, start taking them
7 months later
>still too chicken to come out
>still boymode because too afraid to go around in public in girlmode
>go to a party of about 25 people, most of them friends ive had for years
>have seen none of them since I started hormones
>walk in the door
>"WOAHHHH dude you look way different!" Instantly, from everyone
>comments on my hair being long, etc.
>nobody connected the dots (I think...)
>later start conversation with this random dude i had never met before that party
>he comments on how he thought I was a girl the whole party until that point when I started talking to him, appologizes profusely
>I start smiling uncontrolably
>feel amazingly happy
>realize i need to start coming out to people i know
>come out to friends a few days later
>100% positive reception, much "lol that explains a lot" from people who saw me at that party
>come out to my faghag sister
>she is surprised but also very supportive, as expected
One month later
>see my mother for the first time since pre hormones
>we talk for a while
>she keeps commenting on how different i look
>work up the courage, and tell her im trans
>she starts crying
>wonders why im wanting this
>for months, keeps trying to talk me out of it, keeps crying over it
>"why cant you just be gay?"
>she goes into a phase of not talking about it for a few more months
>eventually starts being very supportive of it and nice
>around this time i go full time girlmode
>had not seen my father for 3 years prior to starting hormones
>have not seen him for 10 years now
>5 years ago he started trying to get back in contact with me
>i still avoid all attempts
>in town relatives have not seen me since pre-hormones
>have been avoiding them to spare them the feels
I'm only out to two people so far, and it hasn't really gone great either time. Doesn't help that both outings were accidental.
>On shrooms
>Having a bad trip
>Admit to two friends that I was gay
>One gets touchy-feely, and I freak out even more.
>Now we don't speak much
>The other seems cool at first, says that everything is cool and nothing between us will change
>About a week later he asks me to suck his dick.
>Don't respond
>Now we don't speak much
I wonder if I can ostracize myself completely by 2016
>>5409685
>>About a week later he asks me to suck his dick.
>>Don't respond
nice "friends" bro
I came out to my psychiatrist and it seems to have upgraded my status from "sad neet loser" to "misunderstood gay boy ;__;" in her eyes.
>>5399840
I'm >>5395427.
Don't spend one minute of your time trying to reconcile with her. Live a good life, have a good job and don't worry about what she thinks. I wasted 25 years trying to reconcile.
The day I stopped:
>be january
>run into a cousin
>he says "sorry you couldn't make it to the Christmas party. There was about 75 people there"
>I ask "which party?"
>"The one your parents threw."
>I was never invited.
>They made up some excuse why I wasn't there
>fuck
>them
>>5395045
It's freeing when they do :)
>>5391529
>how people give advices without really thinking about the situations.
this so much! it's astonishing how many people can't imagine other people being in different situations than themselves and advice that may be good for them can be absolutely terrible for the other people. some just can't imagine that other experiences than their own exist.
>>5392037
people don't just check out gender regularly for no reason.
>hmm i haven't checked anons gender in awhile. i wonder if he's still male...
>>5409891
Not at all, that little piece of information would make it easier to help u
>>5391931
>stopped using facebook a few years ago
>started using it again 6 months ago
>fall deeper into depression about being trans
>still not out to anyone
>basically disappeared and ignoring current friend requests
>>5409685
Woah, I hope you know that they are really shitty friends - the first one shouldn't have tried anything with you when youre tripping, let alone having a bad trip. The other one was trying to use you, which is just shitty.
Hope you have some better experiences in the future m8
>>5405653
Pretty sure they don't put you in a camp. I think when countries accept refugees and open the country to them officially, rather than taking them on asap in an emergency (like a sudden influx because of war or whatever) its all done properly like putting you in a house/flat or whatever. No harm in looking into it, right? Hope it gets better for you, Russia seems like a complete hole
>>5409891
hiding something so big for a long time can cause serious personality disorders.
>>5409969
yes they do.
>>5410410
Well, I've known about it since I was 11, but never had much angst over it. Just the notion of "never tell anyone about it".
I'm bit of a schizoid (also according to my psych), so maybe it has something to do with it. It actually lines up perfectly with the start of my problems, but I've never felt like it was the root of my social problems.
>be 18 and in college
>drinking at a friend's house with 3 other people, celebrating that she didn't get knocked up by her waste of space bf
>get completely wasted
>not pregnant girl gets touchy-feely, eventually start making out
>somehow get to the bedroom
>have super loud sex with our friends right outside the door
>fall asleep right after
>wake up to her telling me she's had a crush on me for months
>go on to come out to all of my close friends as bi, no one gives a shit
>get a kiss goodbye before going on holiday, three days later
>keep thinking about how I could get with her if she broke up with her bf
>finally see her when classes start
>tells me she found out she was pregnant all along
>be 18
>come out closet as bi to closest friends
>apparently inspire another friend to come out
>everyone is accepting
>parents are homophobic
>I will never ever come out to them
>>5409891
Do they not ask such things right away? It seemed to me that a huge part of psychology was based on that bullshit Freud came up with, you know, about wanting to sleep with your mother and all that.
>>5410373
I'm not even sure how to start looking into it, I'd probably have to go to the embassy which is probably located in Moscow which is on the other side of the country. I don't feel like quitting my job and spending all my savings on flights and hotels.
And I'd have to try to prove that I'm that one fragile special snowflake out of two million gay people in the country, that is so endangered that it deserves to be gently transported to Canada or wherever.
>>5410643
>inspire another friend to come out
Reminds me of how I inspired my friend to quit smoking. It must have felt really good for you to make a difference in someone else's life.
>>5414148
>Do they not ask such things right away?
Nope. I was in therapy for like 6 months and my bisexuality came up for like 5 minutes total after mentioning sleeping with a girl. My psychologist was surprised, asked if I wanted to talked about it, I told her I was in terms with it and I didn't think there was a reason to talk about it, and that was it. It was never brought up again.
Also Freud has said a lot of weird things but his conclusion on homosexuality wasn't terrible at all. His daughter on the other hand...
>>5386475
Haha yup. Still need to talk to some people who think that I am gay.
>>5386131
>Be a month ago
>Me and mom sitting on her bed
>Mom.. *gf's name* and i date...
>unleashes series of curse words
>wtf
>calms down
>says she doesn't support or oppose it.
>feel like shit
>Show up to dads house
>Haven't spoken to him in years
>Sees me, hugs me
>Talk for a while
>Pop... I have to tell you something
>what?
>I have a girlfriend
>Laughs
>Hugs me
>Are you happy?
>Yes
>Good
>Get in car and cry
>Regret being mad at him for this long b/c he reacted better than my mom.
Anyone have positive stories? I'm trying to build up the courage to come out to my parents/siblings/friends. They're all generally pretty accepting, but I'm still super nervous.
Also, should I wait until after the holidays, or do it before?
>>5421954
>Also, should I wait until after the holidays, or do it before?
if you dont have a significant other in your life I think is pointless to come out ever...
>>5421954
You can always anticipate what may happen, but honestly you can never tell until you do it. I thought my parents would react one way and it went a completely different route than I expected. (Hoping for a good, got a bad). However, when I told my grandma, I was so worried it would go terribly and it didn't. Matter of fact, nothing changed.
Hope for the best prepare for the worst, I guess.
>>5421954
I said, "Hey, I'm trans" x3, to my friends, to my mom's household, to my dad's household, in one day. Response: "Kay." x3
Most anticlimactic coming-out story ever.
>be 15 y/o me
>born in a muslim family
>prefer girls over boys
>try to talk stoned mom about gay people
>listen to her laughing and calling them crazy, calling the, pussylickers and assfuckers
>decide to be closeted untill I'll move out
>>5421954
Yeah, both my parents are fine with it. It was really anti-climatic. I just told them and they were like "ok cool". I'm just glad my dad doesn't want grandkids.
>>5386988
You should have just gone to therapy and let them beat it out of you
>last year, age 19
>eating dinner with my mom
>been wanting to tell her for years, didn't out of nerves
>assume she'll be accepting because she's friends with a few lesbian couples
>"uh hey mom, i'm gay. and i have a girlfriend"
>she wrinkles her nose and gives me this annoyed look
>"don't be stupid anon, you aren't. you're in college, it's a phase. tell me that again in five years and we'll see"
>say ok, clean up, and go cry in the shower for an hour while she goes to meet her boyfriend
>>5421989
that's a shitty advice. I really changed after I came out. Some people are heavily affected by being closeted.
>>5421954
tell your friends first. You can choose your friends, you can not choose your family. It's probably good to have someone who has your back before telling your parents.
Do it after the holidays. You may feel like this is shit and all, but it's certainly better in case they don't react as well as you think. You also don't want your parents to tell the story of how you came out EVERY SINGLE CHRISTMAS.
If my mom wouldn't remind me of the exact date like every two months, I wouldn't know when the day was I came out at.
>>5422142
That's a good thing to do either way. It's harder to stay in closet that long, but it's safe. Your parents will probably have more respect for you when you have you own life (and you can just walk out of there when they react poorly).
>>5423215
>say ok
fucking beta. you'll die in the world of predatory lesbians.
I'm out to my friends but I've kept it from my family as it's advantageous to seem like a good young Christian boy. Been that way since middle school a gorillion years ago.
Been over to my LDR BF's place twice, but this Jan hes coming over here for a week. Parents think hes just a friend, I've spent time at other friends houses for a few days so this never made them suspicious that hes more than that.
Would it be generally better to tell them before he gets here, while he is here, or after he leaves?
>>5424925
Depends on how you think they'll react, you're a better judge than any of us. If you think they'll be accepting, even welcoming, do it before. Otherwise, wait till after or else you have the danger of them forcing him (and maybe you) out of the house.
>>5421989
Trans, so significant other doesn't really apply, but I get what you mean.
>>5421995
That's a little disconcerting, but my family has always been really open minded. The topic has popped up once or twice and it seems there's mostly just a lack of understanding rather than a lack of empathy for trans people.
>>5422033
>>5422445
That's actually really comforting to hear. I'd rather my coming out not be a huge deal, even if it's toward the positive end of the spectrum.
>>5424486
Fair point, but I'm not entirely sure where some of my friends stand on the topic of trans issues and trans people.
As for your timing advice, that makes sense. Seems like it'd be a little obnoxious to deal with.
>>5399898
Bears? Have you seen the board /d/ yet? What about /trash/? Just think about it. How weird is gay bear porn? I in comparison have been a regular on 8-chan's /furry/ since more than a year and that's not even the worst stuff. If anyone is a porn addict here, it's not you. You are fucking normal, bears my ass. I would say like what, every 4th gay guy is into that?
>>5429388
Not him, but it's about how much you use it, not what you look at. Of someone spends 8 hours a day looking at the most vanilla porn, they're still an addict.
>>5393575
>she mentions wishing I was gay
>w-what? why?
>cause she's horny and wants to make out with me
>but I'm totally straight
Is you stoopid anon?
>>5386131
> Get drunk with mom
> "I think I might like men"
> "I kinda guessed that
I was worse with my grandma. I had long hair at the time and would use my hands to swish it out of my eyes, she said
> "You look like a faggot when you do that!"
So I didn't come out to her.
My mother outed me though, and there were no hard feelings. She has no issues with me being into men now, and was upset that I didn't tell her, but I think she is just about old enough to care about linage and stuff. But I have four cousins that are straight, so she will get her continuation of the family line.
>>5431125
>I'm 16
>posts furry porn
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wn_iz8z2AGw
Judging by your story though, I'd say you have things pretty good. Being bi, you have like 800% more compatible matches than a gay person would. And if your dad just isn't used to it, he can grow accustomed to it with time.
>>5392027
Pans are hot dood, especially if you but them on a stove, and put a little oil in it.
Mmmm, I love me some pans.
Kappa.
>>5393648
My two closest friends know I'm bi, they call me a fag, and a faggot all the time, never in reference to my sexuality, just to take the piss out of me.
>>5395045
26?
Buy shotgun.
Tell him.
>Dad breaks into home.
>00 Buck.
>Pew
>Ded
>Lif insurncs
Keklasovocia.
>>5395427
Murder them.
They deserve it.
>>5399888
Nice b8
>>5432161
Bump
>>5421705
Your dad is a true bro
>Raised in mormon family
>Thought I was bi at 12
>Came out to mom
>Was hit and yelled at for it
>Dated men for 10 years because it was easy
>Still only ever fantasize about girls, including during sex
>autoandrophilia.jpg
>Think this means Im trans, socially transition ftm
>Fall in love with girl
>Realize previous times I thought was 'in love' were bullshit, this is the real deal
>finally realize what love songs are about
>become more comfortable with gay identity, detransition
>first few people I came out to think this is just more of me being confused
>dont tell people anymore
Came out as Trans to a few people, mostly friends but my brother as well just recently.
Friends
>Queue page of awkward text on skype or steam
>"If you don't want to talk about it that's okay"
>No but I want to
>I'm actually trans
>"... Oh I had no idea but that makes a lot of sense now."
>"I'll still support you, it's k"
Pretty much all friends I've told, so not too bad.
>One friend did however sit with his mouth hanging open
>He did say he was supportive but kept making sure I didn't have a crush on him
>Didn't have the heart to say he turned me off because what if that offended him kek
Brother
>Walk into living room
>say, hey bro awkward question but you know I'm trans right?
>"... -what-?"
>welll...
>Tough luck kid, you have a sister not a brother, here's a kitkat.
>Toss a kitkat at him and bounce.
>Later asked him if he was weirded out
>Non-answers
>Still no idea how he's reacting.
I am 29 and still in the closet / dateless / virgin
I want the respect of my family members so I decided on never leaving the closet. Ever.
It feels bad. It feels really, really bad. I am on a lot of antidepressants.
>>5438828
That's a horrible way to tell your brother.
>>5439600
You're missing out. My parents were pretty accepting to my homosexuality, they did however tell me to not date people, that are older than me. apparently a six year different at the age of 20 was too much for them.
I didn't give a fuck because he makes me happy. Happiness and love is worth a lot more than parental acceptance.
>>5438828
I fucking love the way you came out to your brother because that's almost the exact way I've been coming out to people. Pretending like me being trans is almost entirely a simple non-issue that they shouldn't give a fuck about. I'm too awkward for an emotional sloppy coming out.
>>5440685
According to my family, "Faggots are caused by Satan, and should all be killed and sent to hell"
so I think I will pass anon
ok, got to go back to the family room for Christmas now and hang out with them.... be back later
>>5440848
I'd probably just get the fuck out of dodge and live my own life far away if I was you. You don't deserve that stress and agony.
>>5436450
>raised in mormon family
Holy fuck, OP here. So was I.
>>5440848
>Faggots are caused by Satan, and should all be killed and sent to hell
>mfw I read this in redneck voice
>>5386131
it's funny how most the people on here make it a big deal
usually i come out to my friends by joking about degenerate shit like porn, watersports, vore
and then it just becomes really obvious that im gay as fuck
and then they ask about it, and im like 'fuck yea nigga'
if you're self confident in it then usually people don't even really question it
>>5440932
I need to be you tho
I had an RL friend once. I was out to him. Whenever I called him gay, or said stuff he liked was gay, he got so fucking offended.
>>5440848
Best thing to say about any of that is wwjd.
>ultimate Jesus Christo blind follower buttrustlement
>>5436450
>socially transition
>become uberdyke
>detransition by wearing girly hair/clothes
Sweetheart, that's just deciding you don't like being a dyke, but still a carpet muncher
>>5440848
>americans
>>5440858
I love my family though, and since I have no friends or social skills, that's what I've got :O
>>5386131
>be closeted mtf
>go out to eat for Christmas
>aunt comes running out of the bathroom making a huge scene
>THERE IS A MAN IN WOMENS CLOTHES IN THE GIRLS BATHROOM
>everyone at my table starts mocking the hon as she walks past
>closetheclosetdoor.jpg
>>5441421
Haha. Touche.
>>5440863
Im sorry OP. It sucks. My family is the type of mormon that always wants to be all smiles, even when they're completely fucked up. They dont outright say i'm a piece of shit apostate sinner + loser, they just slowly excluded me from their 'perfect family' until I got the point.
I'm super drunk right now but I'll try my best to share my coming out story. Do you want my coming out to my bisexual best friend or my parents?
>Listening to music with best friend
>Turns to best friend
>States that I think I like dick more than pussy
>friends.wat
>Next week I see them again
>Admits that I only like dick
Super drunk anon from earlier.
>Be me 21 finally figuring out I'm bisexual
>Decide to tell my parents on Christmas because why the fuck not
>buy some shitty book about accepting you xyz kid and circle bisexual
>place in box and fill it up with confetti because why the fuck not
>comes Christmas Day and make parents open it
>what the fuck anon!?!
>make joke about how it's not that serious that it's not that important
>dad is quiet while mom is like why not one or the other
>mfw I'm mostly into guys
>almost a year later my dad is all like why can't you talk about guys I'm interested in.
>mfw I realize my parents don't really care about my sexuality but rather of I'm happy or not
>be 12, cross dressing in secret bc I thought it was weird didn't know about trans being a thing
>puberty starts and start feeling like my body doesn't match my brain so I push it really far back in my mind for years
>be social awkward AF throughout middle and high school, been on adhd meds since 11 which cause weird anxiety driven psychosis during puberty but didn't know any differently since I was by default pretty shy
>~14yrs old parents start being abusive bc I'm depressed and have no motivation, they think I'm lazy
>16yrs old, discover 420chan trans board and find out this is an actual thing still suppressing the thoughts tho, but want to start hormones
>17yrs old have gf she thinks I'm gay, have long hair get gender mistaken all the time, still in closet tho about whatever the fuck gender I am
>get uber depressed at end of highschool and break up with gf, started smoking weed everyday, still depressed after 2 years
>18yrs old come out as bi to parents and friends, they're totally okay with it and said they kinda thought I was anyway
>19yrs old, find new gf and come out to her as trans bc trans memories bubbled up after years of repression
>tell parents, dad is cool, mom cries a bunch but never says why and I feel like shit bc of it
>rest of family doesn't even care "what took her so long?"
>wait an entire year to start hormones bc introverted as fuck and didn't know what I wanted
>present day be 22 on hormones for 3-4months things aren't so shit anymore, major regret not starting hormones sooner bc growth plates are done doing their thing. Still not out to coworkers eep!
>>5443450
you openly assumed they'd have a problem you offensive shit
>>5443003
it's only normal to mock hons
anyone with a shred of self respect wouldn't go out when they didn't pass
how do people not know better than to do that ?
That moment when you tell your dad you're gay and he just look at you for long moment before saying "follow me". He leading you down in the baesement in the room he chops wood. Him saying "See that axe and chopping block?" With tear in eye nodding fearfully. He say "whenever someone bother you just tell me and we'll have some talk down here with him." Laughing and looking at me "I have frightened you, anon?". I hate hm for his cruel jokes but love him still.
>be me 19
>log onto dropbox on my 16 yo female cousin's laptop
>leave it logged in
>i don't have pervy stuff in there anyway
>but
>the next day for some strange reason she decides to google my dropbox email address
>i used that mail on a teen gay forum when I was 15
>she finds everything
>screencaps one of my 4 years old posts posts saying "I'll trade pics with a boy my age ;)"
>sends screencap on whatsapp group (me, her, her sis and my sis)
>i want to kill myself
>i want to kill her too
>i don't deny anything
>just play it cool
>"yeah anon you got me haha teen boys do strange stuff you know haha"
>everything fades away
>so I'm still not officially gay
pic related
>>5391371
i'm polish as well
i go to a high school in a medium sized city and it's rather accepted when somebody's gay, some korwins just throw slurs at u, but not much else
you can get beat up after 10pm for acting faggy, that's pretty much all, cuz I act kinda faggy and nobody ever called me a faggot while i was out or waiting for a bus
>>5445997
once a gang of kibole bydlo with maczety started to chase me in krakow because I had skinny jeans on. they called me parówek.
>>5445693
So how did you kill your cousin?
>>5444253
That's probably because of the fact my grandmother is extremely homophobic and my parents have said a few slurs every now and then. I was shit faced typing that so I apparently left out some key details.
>>5446434
I didn't. since we were kids I got along with her very well, even better than with my own sis and she is one of my fav people in the world, i love her but since that day I hate her a little too
such a stupid cunt. like, keep it to yourself.
>>5386475
This is at least 75% of why I don't want to. I'm young, my tastes change very often. I know sexual orientation isn't a choice and doesn't just change, but with how quickly I started to realize I liked guys what if I could quickly realize I don't? Same with being trans, I really really want to transition but how do I know if this is what I want with my life? The clock is ticking with this one especially. I can stay closeted (as far as sexuality goes) for as long as I want, but I'm slowly becoming a man and that frightens me because of how hard it will be to transition.
Sorry for the wall of text, sometimes I just need to dump my feelings somewhere.
>>5448110
I feel you. a few years ago I was sure I was gay, now I think I'm bi. shit's fucked up
>>5445693
I remember this from some other coming out thread, well how many times passed from this episode? did you ever mention it to anyone?
