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I think my boyfriend is secretly gay, help?
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I found a folder of gay hentai on my boyfriend's computer in a file named "Po" (I'm guessing it's /lgbt/ slang).

Now, I'm not sex negative. I expect my boyfriends, or any men for that matter, look at porn. Issue is his total denial he has/does, and the fact that the only porn I've ever found was gay hentai.

Should I be worried or concerned? How do I approach him about this? Thanks.

Pic Related, cropped from what I found.
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maybe he's just curious

wear a strap on and offer to fuck him in the ass
offer to be his man sometimes

you might like it if you are sadistic at all or whatever and he might like to try it
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That's poju, pretty much gay porn for straight guys.
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>>5379145

> Gay Porn.
> For Straight Dudes.

lol anon please.
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>>5379152

It has the same elements that makes straight porn arousing, dicks and feminine bits, I'd be more concerned if it were bara or badly drawn romance yaoi, but a lot of guys into fem gay stuff like poju aren't even into dudes outside of porn.
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>>5379168

> Men, beating off to dicks and ass fucking.
> No tits or vag anywhere.
> None.
> All dicks and ass.
> Not gay.
> N-n-no H-homo anon I swear!
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>>5379139
I would talk to him about it. There could be so, so many reasons he was looking at gay porn.

Yaoi is usually geared towards females and gay men, but this a bit of misnomer because Poju, or Po, the artists here, makes very feminem art. The guys your guy is looking kind of look like girls.

You need to talk to him about it. Who knows, it could improve your sex life.
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>>5379168
There is no such thing as 'gay hentai'. All gay hentai is yaoi, bara, etc. It's geared towards many people, literally none of is geared to straight men.

Obviously sexuality is a sliding scale but you can't be straight and then also be sexually attracted to men. That's a paradox.
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>>5379198

Right. I just don't know how to bring it up to him and corner him hard enough he has to be honest, without also putting myself in a very tricky situation.

You know how guys can be about accusations of homosexuality. I mean, I don't think he'd hit me or anything. However I don't know how he will react. He might just adamantly deny it, and if I admit I was snooping about on his computer, (it was for a good cause I swear. ) he might do something rash. (break up with me, or some other crazy shit, idk. I once saw a dude get accused of being gay, and so he beat up another guy who wasn't even the one that accused him. Men are fucking crazy when their sexuality is questioned. )

How do I get him to talk about it with me calmly? Putting him in a situation where he has to talk about it, but doesn't wigg out, is seeming to be impossible.
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>>5379188

You would have a point if guys actually looked the way that kind of porn presented them to be, trap porn is a very unrealistic representation of homosexual activity, which is why so many guys who have never so much as crushed on another man get into it. Using your logic, fapping to hardblush equals actually wanting to fuck animals.
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>>5379168
This guys right actually. For me, it was, I started off jerking it to real women, then to hentai, then to video game hentai (R34) then to furry hentai, then to gay furry hentai, then to yaoi, then to shota, and now I'm at bara. Can't wait to see where I end up next. But I realized I was gay a little after yaoi. Before that it all seemed pretty straight to me, even the yaoi, since I looked at cute guys, that had nice asses. Didnt care about the dick.
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You should watch normal straight porn sometimes. There's lot of focus on the dick, rarely any on the pussy. It's just that focus on dick stimulates men more. I wouldn't be worried about porn where the boys are basically girls with dicks.
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>>5379212
He'll wig out without a doubt, then hopefully calm down and discuss it with you.

Avoid words like 'gay', 'homosexual'. Just tell him you found some pictures of guys on his computer, and wanted to know more about it. Don't make it feel like a confrontation, make it feel like a natural discussion.
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>born in time for terrabtes of dank porn
>not allowed to look at shit tons of it without trouble or consequences as a man

2016-1 guys
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>>5379273

It's his fault though, never leave your porn stash unguarded.
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>>5379280
Why should my taste in art even matter

>2016
>not having someone you go out with eat you whole looking at dank degenerate hentai

Stay pleb
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>>5379296

That would be awesome, I can't imagine too many girls being thrilled about their bf fapping to little gay cartoon boys though.
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>>5379300
>2016
>not fapping to dick girls

You disappoint me son
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>>5379306

I don't think I'll ever be able to please you, dad.
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>>5379139
It depends on what he finds stimulating about it. There's a difference between homosexual acts and homosexuality. Either way you should confront him to understand what it is he's attracted to and whether or not you fulfill that quality. You wouldn't want to continue a sexual relationship with him if he is in denial and not attracted to you. That would be disastrous for both of you.

Ask him about the poju images. Question him about what he finds attractive about it. Does he empathize with the feminine individual within it? Does he fantasize about performing acts on the feminine individual?

If the answer isn't clear and it will never be certain since you can't directly observe what's going on in his mind, ask yourself this: Do you feel that he normal and predictable sexual response cycle?

When deprived of sex, for example, does he easily get aroused when you try and stimulate him?
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im pretty sure poju is mostly shota

i would be more afraid hes into little kids
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>>5379339
>If the answer isn't clear and it will never be certain since you can't directly observe what's going on in his mind, ask yourself this: Do you feel that he normal and predictable sexual response cycle?
>When deprived of sex, for example, does he easily get aroused when you try and stimulate him?

We don't have sex. We've been dating for a year so far, but no sex. I've tried, asked, and wanted to, but he keeps saying he isn't ready, wants to do things right, that I don't need to rush myself, ect ect. Most we've done is cuddling and kissing, and not even making out, like normal no tongue kisses.
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>>5379139
Cut your hair real shorts, bind up your chest, and strap on a small dildo. He'll stop fapping to porn and start pounding your girlboy pussy
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>>5379392
If you're not both 14, and he's not a hyper-Christian, this is more unusual than his interest in boys that look like girls.
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>>5379405

I'm 20, he's 25.
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>>5379406
red flag, run fast
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>>5379408
By now I just figured he was a virgin and too afraid. I figured he needed time to come around.
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>>5379406
Do YOU want to have more sexual intimacy?
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>>5379413
Yes. It's why I've been the one trying to make it happen.
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>>5379406

he gay
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>>5379406
Now, you could either run or help him.
Just start with the general lack of sex drive.
Remember keep it simple and go slow
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>>5379415
Have a mature discussion about what you need from the relationship. You may have to be a bit vulgar if your (optimistic) guess was correct. No blame, no accusations, just expressing what your after, and that it matters to you enough that without it, the relationship is dysfunctional. Whether or not he likes looking at cartoon boys, the problem is that you'd really like some sex, and he seemingly wouldn't. Even if he were to be straight, having a partner with dramatically different sexual appetite is going to put strain on a relationship.
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>>5379392
>>5379406
That's a gay
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>>5379451
Just to add, he may have his own needs that you may or may not be able to meet. It's been a year, though. It's well past time you both knew what the other wants and needs.
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>>5379392
>>5379392
Does he normally or did he normally get an erection from this intimacy? If its been a year and all he desires is cuddling and kissing and does not seek sexual gratification from the relationship, then I would suspect he is in denial about his sexuality whatever the nature of his sexuality may be. Regardless, it can't be healthy for you to not be getting any sexual gratification out of the relationship.

I would be careful confronting him about his sexuality if you choose to, but he does need to face the facts and come to terms about his sexuality one way or another, and who better to do it than someone with an emotional connection with him. If he likes to engage in kissing and cuddling with you, then it can be said that he desires your affection or feels gratified giving you affection(while it may not be sexual), and as such you surely have some influence over his feelings.

That isn't to say that you should endanger yourself. If he's coo coo for cocapuffs and liable to go apeshit, upon any suggestion that he might be gay, then for your sake, you should not provoke him, but only you, his friends, or his family can know from the history of his behavior if he's liable to have a violent reaction.

As far as how you should approach it, unless he's an Aspie, then he's likely going to know what your getting at if you start asking about what he finds attractive in a woman. I would try and make him feel secure in admitting to you the nature of his sexuality and what he finds attractive, without the fear of you telling anyone. Make him feel like you'll keep his secret and continue to love him if he just admits the truth. Again, there's surely something about the porn you found that he's attracted to and if he out right denies anything, then bring up the porn.
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Nigga that's po-ju and it's not gay they ain't even real nigga
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>>5379168
Well, looks like I found a new fetish.
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>>5379406

He is gay as a fucking three dollar bill and using you as a beard because he's so far in the closet it'd take a team of fifty miners a decade to excavate him.
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>>5379212
The man is not gay. In poju the men are as feminin as can be and portrayed in manners arousing for straight men. Its a fetish; confronting him will achieve little but confirm this. Personally enjoy traps and futa but have never viewed any real man as attractive.
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>>5379594
>>5379946
Wait sorry take it back. Probs gay or unsure if he is. Perhaps embarrased by his fetish and worried that he wont achieve an erection ( which very well may happen due to the resulting stress)
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>>5379139
Its fine, po-ju art just fucks with your dick.
Does it really matter what kind of porn he looks at anyways?
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>>5379914
And im diamond
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>>5379212
Tell him you fapped to porn on his comp. Hell be less likely to freak out if he thinks you're into it. That may open the flood doors to other stuff he's got tucked away.
Beware though, he will likely get upset you were looking through his comp. Whether or not you found porn is irrelevant.
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>>5379406
Nigga he gay.
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>>5379168
>I'd be more concerned if it were bara or badly drawn romance yaoi
>badly drawn romance yaoi
That'd imply the boyfriend in question is secretly a woman.
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>>5379139
First of all, are you male or female?

It doesn't seem healthy that he would deny that he likes porn, and I would definitely be concerned about that. But it is embarrassing to talk about your porn to a partner. For it being only gay hentai, that would seem reflective of his sexual tastes.
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>>5379501
Very good advice (despite being feminist scum.)

I would also ask why all these women "stumble" upon gay porn folders. How could closeted guys not use passwords and discrete accounts. If you're going to be secret gay, be Batman secret gay.
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"Po" is an abbreviation of the artist's name, it isn't slang.
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>>5380652
Some people are a combination of too lazy and too trusting that precludes a bat cave. As for why this keeps happening? Frustrated partners are more likely to engineer accidental breaches of privacy.

Also, I resemble that remark.
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>>5379139
Tricky situation. Tell us why you looked through his stuff and what you had hoped to find.
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>>5380251
>First of all, are you male or female?
you can't be serious...
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>>5380713
>Frustrated partners are more likely to engineer accidental breaches of privacy.
I read that as...
>women are untrustworthy and incapable of selfless love
So we should have a fun time. You and I. Good stuff. Hope you're having a nice day.
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OP here, sorry, irl got in my way for a bit. Time to answer some questions:

Those wondering why I went looking through his computer, I did it because I wanted to save our relationship.

An entire year of dating with no sex. We've been living together for months now. As I said I figured he was a virgin and didn't know how to come out about it or was too ashamed of displeasing me in bed. I dropped hints and such to let him know I understood and was ok with it, but he didn't seem to catch on.

So I went to look for his porn, because I wanted to know what gets him off. I wanted to know what drives him crazy, so I could emulate it and fix this without having to call him out. If I just got him interested enough he made the first move on his own then I could avoid an uncomfortable conversation he clearly doesn't want to have.

By the way, his computer is password protected and he always shuts it down before leaving it. I figured out the password because it's the same as the password to our netflix account, which he wrote down for me.

I did find more today as well. I don't know what any of it is though, because it is in a locked folder and the general password doesn't work on it. The Po folder is gone too. I guess it was just there because he had recently downloaded it and hadn't taken the time to put it away properly.

Folder directory was funny though:

> Media
> Pics
> Entertainment
> Advanced
> You've gone too far
> No seriously stop
> You sure about this
> Why do you do this to yourself
> You'll only hate yourself after.
> Just make it quick. (This is the locked folder.)

Can't get into it, but it's almost 20gigs.
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>>5380933
Maybe he's bisexual
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>>5380933
Ha, those are some funny folder names :-D
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>>5380817
yes because gay men are complete selfless angels who don't pozz each other, cheat like crazy, and pretend that they're still a nice guy
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>>5380933
dude, quit wasting your time on him and dump him for a real man. Who's straight.
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>>5380960
>>5380933
don't listen, to this punk
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>>5380933
I already told you what you need to do, here. Woman up and tell your boyfriend that his dick in you is a necessity of a functional relationship.

Also, quit invading his privacy, moron.
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>>5380933
What's in the non-locked folders?
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>>5380999
i'm gonna take a wild guess:

Kiddie porn. CP. Mostly little boys.
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>>5381001
That sounds like it belongs in the locked folder. Also, there are probably levels to it as the folder structure suggests. This riddle tickles me just the right way, I want to know what are each folder's special criteria and how the categories he has made up for himself in turn influence his choice of porn.
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>>5380999

Non locked folders were just random pics of random things up until "advanced"
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>>5381001
I doubt it, my porn's locked, and there's no kiddie porn in there. Although I am bisexual and no one knows.
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>>5381033
and after that? what were the criteria?
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>>5380933
>a locked folder
What does this actually mean? I didn't know Windows had any locking mechanism for folders. Here I am using Truecrypt like a chump.

>>5381001
Meh - I encrypt mine, and all it is is a bunch of furry porn.
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>>5380989
I was about tho say the same thing.

Maybe off hand mention twinks, yaoi, traps, cross-dressers and gauge his reactions?

Or you know you could mention nothing and miss out on sex for another year.
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>>5380933

Oh man, he's in it deep. You should probably be glad that last folder was locked, what lies within may completely obliterate your conception of what constitutes sexual content.
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>>5381209
It was just gay porn and we all know it.
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>>5381228
Now i'm curious to what is in the secret box.
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>>5381228

What if it's gay porn with animals?
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>>5381251
Unforgivable means different things to different people - hard to say.

Hell, I have a co-worker in his thirties who didn't even know what BDSM was until last week. Something tells me his threshold for "unforgivable" is a long ways from what we see on /b/.
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>>5381259
comparing a majority of things to /b/ is like comparing a tasty,fresh, muffin to a musty,rotting sock used as a fleshlight with googly eyes on it.
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Got it open! wtf the password was my name and the last four of his social.

Let's find out what's inside.
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>>5380933
Plot twist: the locked folder is actually hidden cams of you showering that he's feels too guilty to mention and thinks is a relationship deal breaker.
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>>5381350

Your bf wouldn't have to hide gay shota porn if you shaved your hair short and tugged his benis more.
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>>5381350
oh god oh god oh god
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>>5381350
OP? you okay?
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>>5381489

Yeah I'm fine, just trying to take it all in. There's so much. Instead of clarifying his tastes it just made them murkier.
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>>5381503
>pictures of piles of cold cuts in lingerie
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>>5381503
What is in the folder!
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>>5381523

Everything. Practically Everything.

Like, it seriously runs the gambit. I don't even know where to start.
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>>5381542
Screen shots? You can blurr out the important information [goddamn blueboards]
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>>5381542
Does it have live action videos?
Photos of real people?
Furry drawings?
Animated pornography?
Gay porn?
Straight pornography?
MMF?
Solo women?
Solo men?
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>>5381567
I can't believe you people are all ignoring the erotic cold cuts option.
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>kiddie porn
Don't worry op, he's just bisexual.
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>>5381559

I'd have to blur too much.

But to give an idea of things I've seen:

> Women, men, traps, light furry
> Bondage, hetero, yuri, yaoi.
> Lots of women with face gags ( the kind that hold you mouth open.)
> Lots of women in stockades/gloryhole type things.
> Insane amount of moeporn. Essentially cute girls doing cute things erotica.
> Traps pretending to be cute girls doing cute things.
> Huge amounts of creampie material.
> He really, really like blond girls with bob cuts.
> Seriously more mouth gags.
> Has a thing for flat chests.
> Has a folder called "please smile".
> It has two subfolders.
> 4 gigabyte folder called "cuddle porn"
> It's just pictures, real and animated, of people cuddling.
> Another folder called "safe space" .
> Entire folder that is nothing but a moeblob of cute girls in benign situations.
> Pic related.
> Another folder called " psychedelic experiences."
> Bunch of text files chronicling his usage of psychedelic drugs.
> mfw I have no face.
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>>5381634
>yuri, yaoi
I'm not convinced OP would have known what these were.
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>>5381647

It's the literal name of the folders.
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>>5381634
yea, i don't really know what to say besides bleaching your hair and praying you can pull off a bob.
>>5381647
She learned the hard way
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>>5381634
this sounds comfy
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I have a feeling
That OP is trying a new
My bf might be gay thread


Or maybe OP got a /r9k/ bf
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>>5381659
>I'm a natural blond, and I've had my hair in a bob since I was 11. I'm starting to think it's one of his favorite features now, despite the fact he's never commented on it.
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>>5381634
Your boyfriend is an average straight dude

relax bro
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>>5381684
opps, ok next is buying a mouth-thing
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>>5380933
>I did it because I wanted to save our relationship.
Holy fuck women are always so predictable.
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>>5381634

>No floor tiles.

What is all this vanilla bullshit?
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>>5381699

Is this really what average straight dudes are into?
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>>5381967
Yea, legitimately curious.
Like the other stuff what ever but the moe?
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>>5381634
Well that's not that bad, he could have been into guro, kiddie, or scat. I think you made out pretty well.
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>>5381967
He's bi.
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>>5381634
>> Has a folder called "please smile".
>> 4 gigabyte folder called "cuddle porn"
>> Another folder called "safe space"

The feels.
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OP here, gonna have to leave for a little bit since he's getting back from work soon. I'll make a point to talk to him about all this.

A couple people had mentioned his religion and I never really answered. He's devout catholic. Not that it makes any difference.

Have a feeling tonight is gonna be weird.
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>>5381634
Holy shit never tell him you found this, because now you have the greatest tool ever. You can cater to his every fetish if you want to.
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>>5382018
You shouldn't tell him you found it.
He might break up w/you cause men take invasion of privacy very seriously.
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>>5382018
never tell him senpai
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>>5379392
Oh boy that is fag in denial shit right there.

He's dating you so people don't find out he's gay or so he can convince himself he's straight.

Straight up thats exactly what I did with my girlfriends. Didn't want sex or really anything at all. Just wanted the world to think I was straight.

I started fapping to trap porn too, that progressed to legit gay porn and now I don't even find traps hot, just guys in general.

break it off op
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>>5381634
That's a shitload of shit, but nothing bad actually, i was waiting for some guro or some fucked up shit like zoophilia or what not.
He must like tomboys tho.
Op just talk about it like you wanna understand him.
He seems to be into cuddle, why not just have cuddle sex?
iunno.
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>>5381967
Jesus christ and straights call us the degenerates.
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>>5379392
He's gay, give me his number sweetheart.
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>>5382018
gebus cristo never tell him you idiot.
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he's bi
you're fine
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>>5379139
>Po-Ju art

Be honest OP, you jerked off to it too after you found it.
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>>5379139
Considering po-ju almost exclusively does femboy stuff, you probably have nothing to worry about.

You shouldn't be snooping around on your SO's computer anyway.
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>>5382018
Don't tell him you found it
You really shouldn't have been looking through his porn anyway
Either use it as a tool to cater to his fetishes or leave it be.
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>>5379139
Most people that read poju are straight
>buh it's gay baww
Most of the people that fap to trap porn are straight or bi, it's just how it statistically, factually is. same with futa and shemale crap.
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>>5381634
Stripping out all the harmless fetish shit (which you shouldn't worry about), that leaves you with the following relevant stuff:

> Women, men, traps
> hetero, yuri, yaoi
> women with flat chests

I'm a bisexual male and that resembles my own porn folder, but a bit more skewed towards the feminine. He's probably just some degree of bi and feels guilty about it because he's a Catholic. His religion might also possibly be why he's withholding sex, although you'd know better than I.

Don't tell him you broke into his porn folder, and don't read too much into it - a lot of that stuff he might have just downloaded during a single period of excitement, the volume doesn't necessarily reflect his tastes.

Instead, sit down and have a frank discussion with him. Start from the basis that your sexual needs aren't being met, NOT that you're suspicious of his sexuality. Maybe try to let him hint that you're okay with it if he's a little queer, but for god's sake be subtle - like you say, men get crazy when their sexuality is questioned, Catholics doubly so.
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>>5381634
Holy shit this can't be real
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>>5379139
>Po
Po-Ju?
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>>5382909
>You shouldn't be snooping around on your SO's computer anyway.
>You shouldn't be snooping around on your SO's computer anyway.
>You shouldn't be snooping around on your SO's computer anyway.
this desu
does nobody here give a shit about the privacy of other people?
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>>5382018
So, OP, how did it go?
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>>5379139

There will be plenty of people telling you that just because he looks at gay porn doesn't mean he's gay, but these people are lying.

He's either bisexual or a closet homosexual. Straight people don't go around jerking off to gay hentai. They find it revolting. If we're going to redefine "straight" so that it encompasses people with homosexual fantasies and attractions just to spare homophobic closet homosexual's feelings, then the word no longer has any meaning as it doesn't effectively group anything properly.

Sexuality is about what you desire, not just who you actively date. Your boyfriend sexually desires men. He is either bisexual or homosexual. It's really that simple. Any other bullshit arguments and mental gymnastics is just him(or others) trying to desperately keep their straight card.
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>>5386525
>They find it revolting.
No they don't, they find it unstimulating. Only people with psychological hang-ups find it revolting, which is maybe most people but by no means everyone. And this is hardly the place where anyone is trying to keep their "straight card".
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Late reply, but when I saw
>corner him hard enough he has to be honest
I couldn't hold from saying...

Even if he does enjoy this kind of hentai, it might not mean he's gay in his head.
I had been looking at shota for a long time and didn't think I was gay.
I wasn't attracted to boys at all outside of porn.
It was just a fetish.
I do consider myself pansexual as of now, but it took me time to realize it.

So I would not, under any circumstances, "corner him" about it. Talk about the fact that you want sex and that you're wondering if there's any reason why he doesn't feel ready he's not telling you. But never imply homosexuality.

If he was gay/bi and comfortable about it, he would have told you by now. So don't confront him about it. It might, like I said, "just be a fetish". It's not because tentacle hentai exists that people who watch it want to fuck octopuses.
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>>5382018
His shitty religion sounds like a bigger problem than his top tier porn tastes.

How do you feel about his tastes OP? If you're willing to go to these lengths to save your relationship why not use your unsavory cyber spy skills for good and try and appease all of these fetishes one by one?

Why not look at similar porn yourself and accidentally let it slip? He's probably hugely ashamed of his own tastes (source: I was born catholic), if he knew you weren't disgusted by them he would probably be a lot more open about his sexuality to you.

Otherwise pass him off to me. He sounds rad.
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I've gone from looking at trap hentai to watching videos of kyler moss videos.... Am I still straight?
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>>5388858
No.
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>>5388920
Ots weird, I went from watching A LOT of milf videos, then suddenly traps and femboys.
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Hey guys, OP.

So, we ended up having that talk, and it was kinda weird but also relieving to do. Short summary.

> He gets home, tell him we need to talk.
> He showers; we eat; we move to the livingroom and he asks what we need to talk about.
> " We haven't had sex. "
> " I've been patient, but my needs aren't being met. "
> " What's the matter? Aren't I pretty enough for you? "
> " Did I do something? "
> He freezes for a minute. Clearly doing everything to keep his spaghetti in his pockets.
> Fumbles about it in his mind for a few more seconds.
> " It's not you. "
> " I just don't want to do it. "
> " I can't bring myself to. "
> Ask him what the hell.
> Ask him what could possibly be the problem.
> Doesn't he want me?
> Keep interrogating him like this for a bit. He's being avoidant but dammit I want an answer.
> He snaps. Like, he just got this empty look in his eyes, and it was like the world was silent.
> He's crying.
> Grabs me, pins me against the couch.
> I'm fucking terrified.
> " Do you have any idea how much I love you? Do you have any idea the thoughts I have about you? I'm a fucking monster. I can't do things like that to you. It takes everything I have to not grab you every time I'm near you. I hate myself. I'm a perverted freak. I don't deserve you. I can't ruin something as perfect as you. "
> He calms down.
> He's still crying.
> " I just can't. I can't degrade you like that. "
> Tell him it isn't degrading if I want it.
> Tell him he can't possibly want to do anything so bad. If he were that sort of person I wouldn't love him in the first place.
> Tell him we can wait a little bit longer, but we're gonna be talking about it now, and it needs to happen soon.
> He says I'll end up hating him.
> Tell him we'll cross that bridge when we come to it.

And that's where we are.
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>>5389205
he's definitely going to murder you
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>>5389205
The catholic guilt is strong here. You need to let him know he's not a perverted freak somehow.
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>>5389205
This shit is good, even if it's fake, it's good.
Op keep us updated, this shit is nice to read.
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>>5379139
I'm not going to bother and read everyone else, but I'll throw my two cents in.

First off, porn does not dictate sexuality, and if the type of homoerotic hentai he looks at is generally reflected by the sample you have provided then it is likely he is a mostly heterosexual who is dabbling with bicuriousity or has a femboy kink.

This does not mean you are his beard or that he is gay, but that he has some interests in things that are not strictly heterosexual. I would recommend you simply tell him you found it, tell him that you aren't disgusted or angry with him, and ask him if he would share with you why he likes it.

I am someone who was frankly exclusively into heterosexual pornography until I bumped into PoJu (the artist of the sample you provided). The artistic style is one of overwhelmingly feminine traits with the sole exclusion of the penis. Even now I consider myself heterosexual in my general orientation and real-life attractions, but will admit that this type of material is erotic and stimulating nonetheless.

The reason he is hiding it is because he is ashamed and likely thinks that anyone that saw it would think he is either gay, a pedophile, or both. Please be compassionate in discussing it with him.
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>>5381634
Sounds like he is straight but has a fetish for homosexuality. I am very similar to that. I watch gay porn, have had sex with men but I don't see myself as gay or bisexual, it's just a fetish.
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>>5389205
Yeah I'd abort desu.

>>5388858
iktf. You're a fag son.
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>>5386071
>Don't tell him you broke into his porn folder, and don't read too much into it - a lot of that stuff he might have just downloaded during a single period of excitement, the volume doesn't necessarily reflect his tastes.

Nigga who the fuck downloads multiple gigabytes worth of material in one fap session and then takes the time to organize that shit later?
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>>5389444
Fuck. Trips of semi truth. Think im Bi
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>>5389205
Sounds hot, you should start out with vanilla shit first - and then work your way into the fetish stuff.

I wouldn't be too worried if I were you.

Though if I were him, I could imagine I'd be anxious as hell over this. Porn really does desensitize you, so it might not physically be possible for him to achieve an erection without such intense visual stimuli.

Get him to go /nofap/ and /noporn/ for at least 14 days before you finally do have sex so things go more naturally
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>>5389205
Holy shit please close the catholic church desu
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>>5389546
>EVERYONE MUST CONFORM TO MY LABELS

I'm straight. I have a fetish for guys. I'm not gay or bisexual.

Deal with it.
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>>5381209
>That image
>Look through my father's computer after he died
>He photophopped himself and women he knew into tons of porn and I mean TONS of porn
>Homemade videos of women using the restroom
>Cheese pizza
>My face when
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>>5389820
That's aweful. It would be hard to resist snooping through if I was in the same position but you pgobLy should have just microwaved the hard drive.
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>>5389205
he's trans
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>>5379139
look at all the pictures he's fapping to, OP. Do they look really masculine? No, Poju is not about that.
He is getting turned on by their femininity combined with the novelty that they have a dick. It's no big deal.
Now stop snooping on his computer if you value your relationship.
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>OP's BF browses 4chan and has 4chan taste

why is this even a thread?
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>>5391298
That isn't necessarily 4chan taste. There are a lot more places to get weird porn on the internet now, unlike the old days.
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>>5379914
Second. That shit is like trap hentai!
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>>5389695
Many of you laugh at this jokester, as I did at first. But then I thought, "Wait, maybe he's serious", and I laughed even harder.
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>>5379139
"Po" is an enemy from Zelda

He may enjoy that enemy

Pos are 100℅ heterosexual
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