Hey bi people who are sexually attracted to both sexes but "romantically attracted" only to the opposite sex:
Do you really believe sexual and romantic attraction are separate (per tumblr) or do you just want a socially acceptable life?
>>5337675
I'm arguably bi but I've only ever been able to maintain romantic feelings for same gender relationships. So a bit of an inverse of your question target but yeah I think their separate. The things I'll pop a boner over are hilariously varied but my emotional attachments just aren't there, once the initial lust fades a bit the lack of romantic feelings invariably makes the previous object of attraction becomes a bit gross.
To put it another more crude way, once my boner stops overriding my logic I lose all interest. Being aware of that though ended with me being monogamous. Almost 11 years now actually.
>>5337675
Depends on the person.
I could see a bitchy twink that embodies all the negative gay stereotypes of being a club ho and "Spheakhs like lykea fag yaknowhatImean?" and only want to fuck him/xim/xir. I could also see a weak femboi who is the perfect antidote to all the bitchy vaginal jew bitchery and marry him to avoid being screwed in the divorce.
But it may vary for others.
>>5337742
>a bit the lack of romantic feelings invariably makes the previous object of attraction becomes a bit gross
Da fuq did I just read?
Pretty seperate yeah but then again I'm not even sure if I'm bi or not. Romantically definately 100% female only for me, sexually almost the same, i'm not really into guys apart from liking dicks as much as I like vag
For me I'd say I'm 99% sexually attracted to same sex and 99% romantically attracted to opposite sex. Actually wish it was more 50/50.
>>5338398
How is that even possible? If you are only "1%" sexually attracted to the opposite sex how is having a relationship with them any different from mere friendship?
>>5337675
I'm a trans girl, so anything I like is social unacceptable. If I like guys I'm a repressed fag, if I like girls I'm some pervert. So that certainly doesn't factor in.
Guys are sexually super attractive, but lack the safeness and emotional comfort of girls. It's not a hard phenomenon to explain.
>>5337745
I'm very close to understanding and agreeing with what you're saying. No snark.
>>5337675
Sex and love can be held apart, but not neatly delineated. Feels are inseparable from the human experience. A lot of it is denial for some.
I would have said most people who are attractive to me are feminine women before I accepted my faggotry, but now romantic and sexual desires are aligned toward males. There was a reflexive repulsion of taboo that cleaved sex and romance apart.
I still find prettiness aesthetically pleasing, but I feel no desire to get pretty women pregnant. Just men.
>>5337675
I'm both sexually and romantically attracted to bpth sexes. But I'm more romantically attracted to men and sexually to women. It's not giant but its noticeable.
>>5338448
>Guys are sexually super attractive, but lack the safeness and emotional comfort of girls.
How about a CIS straight guy with slightly bi tendancies (I like cock as much as pussy), who while being somewhat highly sexed, acts sexualy and romanticaly in a more feminine fashion?
I don't know, really. I've had feelings for men before,but I've only been in relationships with women. It's confusing as fuck, because I know a really conservative non-tumblr bi guy who is romantically attracted to women but not men. I think it must differ
I dunno I just want someone to watch Seinfeld with
>>5337675
I hate this feel.
>Sexually attracted to men, that life is good, online hookups are easy
>Romantically attracted to women, that life is not good, women are so fucking aloof
Im in a similar camp, I am only sexually attracted to males, but I can be romantically attracted towards females. With No sexual attraction though, any relationship with a female doesn't last, even if I feel I want to continue to date them.
I'm not really romantically attracted to either sex, and sexually attracted to both.
I wasn't really throwing this idea away before but I kinda realized it's all about two things (at least for me).
Guys give less fucks about clothing and just looking good in general. Women do.
But: Guys are 'closer to home' when it comes to personality (easier to talk to etc). Thinking back, it's nothing more really.
>>5337675
Im a romantic person most of the time it doesn't depend on the gender of the other person desu. There are bitches that don't have any feeling and there are guys that are great partners, and viceversa.
>>5337675
I'm bi and I've only have had romatic relationships with women. However after quite a few of those I'm starting to seriously consider that men are better in everything than women. You might want to say I'm a sexist and that would be probably right, but that's what my experience has taught me.
To answer your question OP, no I don't think thwy are separated, just that having a heterosexual relationship just seems easier, until you actually have one. Romantic bullshit is not that important, fellowsip and loyalty are important and I think men are (for other men) better than women on those aspects.
>>5337675
hmmm I know exactly what you mean. I myself am a bisexual. I've had a strong sexual urge for women but was always found guys to be more romantic. This may sound like a load of bollocks but for me there was a third option, after sex and romance, the individual who makes you happy and content and you can talk to about any issie you're having. Yeah I know, it sounds like all that Arie-fairy repost shit you find facebook keks sharing on their profiles. But yh, try adding in the third option to your equation. It helped me a lot.
>>5344799
*issue
>>5338439
Is sex really the only difference between your friends and your partner to you? This is such a fucking meme.
I hope you get married and then your genitals get irreparably damaged in a fire and your spouse tells you that you're nothing more than a friend to her now.
im physically attracted to a lot of girls
im romantically interested in only one guy, one of my best friends, who im like ~50% sure is either gay or bi. need to figure out how to get something accomplished here blegh.
we also live really far from each other which makes things difficult
>>5337675
Why do people even try to answer these loaded questions?
>>5342194
Preach, brother.
>>5344835
I'm in the exact same situation.
>>5337675
No, it's the other way around and I think it's environmental for me. See my first boyfriend was purely romantic. That probably got me going on avoiding the opposite sex other than casually.
>>5337675
I want a boyfriend so bad
>>5347102
aye
>tfw spend all day dreaming about meeting a nice boy
>tfw spend all night alone
>>5347157
Didn't sleep last night so had the thought going over all night
>>5347191
One day you'll be able to dream together
>>5347255
Fat chance with my track record
>>5347275
Why, what's wrong anon?
>>5347292
Every guy I've worked up the courage to ask out has out right rejected me, so I've just given up as this point.
>>5342194
I know dating women is a hassle and you have to sink in a lot more time and money and they're jealous and demanding, etc, but at least they're easy to date. In general dudes just want a quick lay. some would say you have it easy.
>>5337675
I am bisexual/pansexual whatever. In general, I find women to be much better long-term partners, but I find men more sexually attractive.
But like anything, there are exceptions. I find masculine women fairly attractive, and there are men who are 6+/10 and great with kids and I find that pretty hard to beat.
I almost feel bad saying it, but trans men seem to pull the best of what I find attractive from both worlds. Masculine and what I am looking for in a romantic partner.
>>5345657
we'll make it brother ;_; we'll make it ;____;
The picture tho
>>5352821
Don't try to be the spokesperson for anyone but yourself.
I'm biSEXual but aromantic, I get no romantic feelings towards anyone.
>>5352845
probably older than you.
>>5352835
Ugh, typical insecure/ confused straight or gay people.
>>5352871
I'm neither insecure nor confused, I've known all my life I've been interested in both guys and women, but I have, after three decades never developed any romantic feelings towards either. Romance is, the way I see it, social conditioning, it's a narrative we build, not something that is actually there.
>>5352883
Okay, pseudo-scientific behaviourist moron, tell yourself that.
>>5352909
Ok I will, then you can tell the chemicals and the narrative you build that you are in love.
>>5352813
I don't know what I am.
But I just know that I really love him.
>>5352916
Oh the embarassment of this comment.
>>5352932
do tell.
>>5352925
It's normal for males to feel romantic attraction towards other men at instances in their lives. It does not mean that you are homosexual - and should absolutely not be the assumption.
The best test to see if you're homosexual is to watch gay porn, gay porn with very masculine men in it. The rest would be redundant for me to spell out.
>>5352941
Won't bother. Make of it what you will, gotta be productive.
>>5352948
glad to know you are just an ass then. enjoy your productivity.
>>5352945
I've tried that and very little of it did anything for me.
But I have very strong sexual fantasies about him. Gets me harder than any girl.
>>5338439
I'm sexually attracted to the one opposite sex person I love. Otherwise my sexual attraction is towards same-sex people.
>>5352845
>I get no romantic feelings towards anyone
Or old and worn out, this how people get when life has been fucking them up the ass for ages, life experience is like an old hooker. It will make you soulless.
Maybe I should kill myself...
>>5353269
No, I was like that even in my teen years. I've never said I love you to anyone without it being a lie, because I never have loved anyone, I've only wanted them for sex or amusement.
>>5337675
>How to trigger a homosexual man, the post
>>5337675
I've never been in a romantic relationship with anyone but I'm sexually attracted to both men and women. Time will tell if I'm able to be romantically attracted to men the same way I'm attracted to women. I think so, though. There have been moments where I've really just wanted to hold and cuddle and talk to about stuff and not really cared if it was a woman or man.
Bi cis male here.
>>5352916
Jeez Rick, you're so jaded. It's not like every aspect of your life isn't exactly the same (chemicals reacting, you forming a narrative). If you're happy not forming romantic relationships that's cool, but don't act like this set of chemical reactions is different to any other kind that you enjoy.
>>5337675
All i care about is finding someone that will really be there for me.
>>5337742
yeah they are different
its like how asexuals still love people
they just dont pop boners/get wet at people they like
>>5355423
Do you form relationships with the food you eat, or get attached to your shit as you flush it as well?
Love, or what we call love, is one part chemicals and one part psychology. I don't deny the chemical part, put I realize it and knows whats going on and I never build the psychology around it. Why is this making you so upset tho?
>>5359266
I'm just curious as to what you're attached to, something that you would have trouble letting go of and how you justify not letting go. I'm on board with love being a chemical reaction, shit is obvious, I just don't see why it matters if it makes other people happy.
So I'm in an experimental-ish open relationship with my gf of 7 years... Working out ok so far. I am kinda interested in some men sometimes. Not sure if they fall into a particular category (like twink for example)... sooo i kinda wanna try it out.
Dafuq do i do...? I haven't been dating for 7 years - ever since i was a teenager. I don't even know how to approach people like that anymore. Approaching people on the street is not an option.
Do i just go to like a gay bar, spot a guy I like and be like: Hey, you free? Wanna make out or something?
Fuck, what a mess...
>>5362924
>Do i just go to like a gay bar, spot a guy I like and be like: Hey, you free? Wanna make out or something?
Maybe have a conversation first, but yeah, pretty much. If you want NSA sex then just use grindr.
>>5362924
>gf of 7 years
Brate moj, ne znam sta da ti kazem. Koliko ti imas godina? Ja sam inace onaj lik sto bih jebao twinka iz drugog treda. Jedini qt twinkovi ovde imaju 15 godina, a to su za tebe off limits ako imas vise od 20 moras da trazis neke tvojih godina.
>>5369479
yeah... gg
fml
>>5362475
Now, now. Retrace the conversation, I said that I had no romantic attraction to anyone, only sexual and you or someone else claimed that, that was wrong. I only defended myself here, I never said that anyone else should also be like me.
>not believing your dick and your mind are two separate organs
>>5340963
Sounds lame.
>>5338448
>but lack the safeness and emotional comfort of girls.
That's straight men you idiot.
I find the very opposite to be true when it comes to gay men.
>>5371636
>implying you're the person who was asked the question
If there were a guy that made me feel the same way most girls do, I'd be with them and wouldn't give a fuck. I'm pretty out with my sexuality. But that just doesn't happen- I'm attracted to a very small minority of men, but a much greater percentage of women, and I'm currently in a committed relationship, so regardless of if there was some guy I ran into that I liked, I'm already taken.
>>5337675
Riddle me this.
>MtF
>More attracted to women
>Could never use my dick
>Reluctant to be in a relationship with a woman because dysphoria
>Like men too, but not as often, they put in less effort to their appearance than an average woman
>Would rather date a guy because of the relationship dynamic
>Would actually be able to do sexual stuff, like blowjobs, potentially anal
>Very wary around guys, because chasers, and "ur a tranny" chimp out types, but also because bullied exclusively by males for years at school
What do you call that?
>>5375532
I usually hate tumblr stupidity, but this actually makes sense to me. I'm attracted to a lot of people I have no interest in romantically. I see no reason that can't apply to an entire gender. Honestly, I think most "straight" guys would Fuck a dude, if given the chance without Faber if social repercussions.
>>5375532
Maybe part of the problem is that you assume every guy that's into you is a chaser.
Hell, I'm straight but I actually like trans girls because they tend to have a lot of the awesome things about guys and the awesome things about girls in the same package. Generally though, I avoid anything involving relationships with trans girls like the plague because they'd assume I'm a chaser and ain't nobody got time for that.
Basically it's this awful cycle of "I don't want to bother with guys because chasers" so trans girls act all fucking weird around guys, and any guy that actually likes them for who they are is like "fuck that crazy shit, I don't want to deal with their fucking baggage."
>>5375532
>>Like men too, but not as often, they put in less effort to their appearance than an average woman
>>5338003
He's saying that once bout of lust over women is over, he realizes how little attraction he really has for women.
I feel the same way, I'll have periods where I'll be crazy about women, I have a bf and at times I'll jerk it to porn of females, but after that's all done my attraction to them ceases.
I'm probably like a 5.5 on the Kinsey scale, even though I have occasional hetero tendencies, they're never permanent. I feel like if I actually had a gf my attractions, both physically and emotionally, would not be static and the relationship wouldn't be a healthy one.
>>5375781
>part of the problem is that you assume every guy that's into you is a chaser.
I didnt say that. Most guys that are interested in me dont know I'm trans beforehand. The only 2 that have, one was also trans, and the other had a trans best friend who essentially told him. I've had a legitimate chaser, who'd fucked a Thai ladyboy and everything, didnt know I was trans until someone slipped up and said "he"
Sounds like youre projecting your issues with trans girls assuming youre a chaser onto every trans girl
>>5375796
Do you have an actual point?
I genuinely dont even know what youre trying to say. Do you think the average woman doesnt put more effort into appearance than the average guy? Because they do. It's pretty uncommon for a woman to not wear makeup, or to not wear makeup to a bar or club. And they tend to wear tighter, more revealing clothes.
A lot of guys I've seen just wear whatever they wore earlier in the day. Even when they try they get it wrong, just last night I saw a guy wearng a suit jacket and jeans. Awful look. And obviously they dont enhance their features with makeup or show off their bodies
I'm about evenly bisexual but nearly aromantic. Would rather a relationship with another guy.
I'm physically attracted to a lot of females but the only ones that seem like they would make viable LTR material these days are the religious types who would insist on marriage, lots of children, and probably be grossed out and dump you immediately for being the slightest bit queer at all anyway.
>>5337675
Socially acceptable life. Same-sex relationships are simply not worth it in terms of cost-benefit.
This is the case for all bisexual males. Nobody gives a shit about bisexual females, and 99% of them are just using the label for attention anyway.
