>dad: "When are you getting a girlfriend? I can't wait to have grandchildren" (laughs)
>me: "I-I'm just very .. busy"
Who still /in the closet/ here?
> I can't wait to have grandchildren
Gets me every fucking time. I'm not obliged to produce them for you, you entitled shit.
>>5310586
it's not like you cant have children. gays aren't infertile by definition lmao.
the girlfriend part might be a little troublesome though...
My mom keeps reminding me of this every week when she calls me.
"Where's the girlfriend, when are you gonna get married, we wanna have grandchildren, etc."
I just keep silent now, I've got tired of inventing excuses.
I don't fucking owe you anything. If you want the money you spent on raising me back, I'll repay you, but that's it.
>>5310586
>"I cant help but blame myself for you not wanting to marry, anon. Your mother and I gave you the wrong idea of marriage. You can meet the right girl and be happy "
I love you dad. If only you knew.
>>5310727
That's their fault for only having one kid then. If they cared about their legacy so much they should have had a bunch.
>Grandma
>107 btw
>says she refuses to die before being able to see my children
Poor woman.
>>5310740
Also I'm the only male in my family left so I'm the only one capable of passing my last name
>>5310733
>it's our fault that you turned out gay. i'm so sorry son. we failed you.
it will never get better. so just do it.
>>5310748
Me too.
Growing up it was always super important that I breed and have male sons to continue the line.
1yr Spiro now. The line dies.
>>5310760
same. :(
>>5310760
that panda has no idea what's going on.
>>5310735
Three of us. Two boys and one girl.
Both of us boys are gay.
Well, looks like you got this sis. But it looks like our name's going to die with us.
>>5310760
I sorta just want to go have a secret bastard son in Thailand or something...
Just to not be a dick
>>5310783
Fuck, I used to think that as well. Or donate to a sperm bank or something.
>>5310788
Pic related
>possessive grandparents
>grandfather has special expectations of me and my cousin because we are their only male grandchildren and he counts on us to "carry the family name" or some shit
>at least my cousin is a normie
>>5310769
I still want kids though. Not because my parents want grandchildren but because I think I'd be a good father.
I want to be in a relationship with an amazing person. I want to be engaged. I want to marry them and I want to have two older boys, one younger girl and a big dog.
Being gay doesn't really hinder any of that except for the perceptions of people outside of that sphere.
>>5310798
>at least my cousin is a normie
You know that faggot is secretly some sort of Gender fluid foxkin owlbear pan flute demi queer
>>5310764
I really, really like this picture
>>5310820
W-well he told me he once kissed a guy and once genuinely asked himself whether he wasn't straight, so there's that
But at least he got a gf instead of wanting to be a gf
I'm out to my Mom, but not my Dad(typical fag shitty relationship with father LMAO). My Mom also knows that I've been a vocal critic of marriage since I was old enough to understand I t. My own parents split up before I could speak. Nearly all my friends parents growing up were too. Half of marriages end in divorce, I harbor no delusions.
She still wants to know when I'm going to have kids through some scifi surrogate situation or adopt. I thought being gay would at least spare me the grandchildren card. I have brothers, it's not like I'm her only hope. I can't imagine a version of myself and fragmented id that would be capable of raising a child. I feel like an abject failure.
I still talk to my Dad, but exceedingly rarely since I was a teenager. EVERY single time I see him the first question he's asked since I was 12 or 13 years old is "So, you got a girlfriend yet?".literally every single time, mostly because he's trying to find common ground and make small talk, but he has no idea who I am. If he only knew the self loathing and shame he helped foster in my teenage self.
Why would I want to be like him? My father can't stand to be alone and had a revolving door of girlfriends while I was growing up since I was in the single digits age wise. He even remarried and had more kids. I'll give you one guess how that turned out.
Now he's just an aging man with two failed marriages, estranged children and nothing to show for it. It's pathetic really. And yet I crave his approval, still. Even through all the pain and anger. It's astonishing.
I saw him a few months back for the first time in a couple years. The conversation went about:
>dad: "When are you getting a girlfriend? I can't wait to have grandchildren" (laughs)
>me: "I-I'm just very .. busy"
I know that feel, Anon.
DADDY ISSUES LMAO
>>5310586
Lesbo here and on same boat. I always brush it off with "I'm not that interested in dating yet, am more interested in hobbies/school, haven't found the kind of guy I like yet", etc.. Which aren't exactly lies and since I don't look mature for my age (19 yo with the appearance of a 15 yo) people generally aren't that pushy about it.
I think one of my cousins suspects it, as well as two of my close friends and I'm sure my sister knows by now, which doesn't really bother me, honestly.
>>5310727
I'm not obligated to do anything for them if I don't want to. I'm not their property, they don't own me. And besides, the way things are today, having kids isn't really worth much, with how much overpopulation there is in this world. Unless I'm confident that I have enough money to put a kid through college, there's literally no point in reproducing.
Having children is inherently a risk that they won't turn out like you want. Getting upset at your kids for not wanting to reproduce is like suing a casino because you didn't win at the slot machines. You knew the risks you were taking, you can't turn around and say you felt cheated or anything.
Came out to mom only, she's supportive and amazing. Never coming out anyone else unless I want to start a family with another woman (which would be illegal im my country). Grandma is homophobic to the max, and I have to live with her right now - would have to move to the dorm if she kicks my bisexual ass out (trust me, she might do it). Dad might take it fine, he knows I support LGBT, I almost came out to him once but chickened out at the last moment. I'm not that close with my aunt and uncle, so there is no reason for me to suddenly share my personal life with them. My cousin would probably be chill about it (he's a calm and collected dude overall), but once again, we are not that close. My half-brother is 11 and I don't want to make him some sort of secret keeper for me. If he turns out to be gay or bi, then I'll tell him so he won't feel alone.
>>5310586
>> I can't wait to have grandchildren
>Making only one kid instead of 5
>kek
>>5311016
>Bi
BOO FUCKING HOO
I'm not a bi hater like many, but at least you could choose to settle with the opposite sex happily.
>>5310586
>aunt: why don't you ever have a boyfriend you're so pretty
>other aunt bringing up boys she thinks I'd be great with
>talking about what a lovely wife I'd make since I cook and clean
>mom cuts them off
>mom: Leave her alone she's focusing on her career! She's a good girl unlike all your daughters!
>t-thank mom
before I was focusing on school. Idk how long I can keep this up. It's just she's so proud of me for doing so well and not turning out pregnant or a slut but it feels like all that will mean less if it's just cause I'm a total dyke.
Dads side it doesn't happen as much because no one will talk shit about me dating a guy given how strict dad is about that shit (the irony).
>>5311165
DEVILISH
>>5311201
In this context:
>BOO FUCKING HOO
>at least you could choose to settle with the opposite sex happily.
In any other context:
>BOO FUCKING HOO
>you just want to fuck guys and settle with a girl at the end anyways
Make up your minds, dammit
>>5310586
Ive came in girls over 3000 times and nobody ever got pregnant so I'm obviously infertile. My parents are going to blame being transgender though.
>anon do you want to hold the baby?
Oh noooo way id be way too scared I'd drop it heh heh
>secretly need to hold baby but afraid I will start crying in front of 12 women
>sneak of into my room and cry
>never going to ever have my own child
>>5310586
Me.
>Dad wants to finish the attic soon
>Talking with brother about how we will be splitting the attic into our separate rooms
>Mention I want dad to put sound proofing materials in the walls and floor of mine
>He says, "Hehe, are you going to bring bitches over?"
>Resist the urge to say, "Actually, I'm the bitch."
>"Hahaha, no."
>>5310740
Why do you feel bad? You've given your grandmother the ticket to immortality.
>>5310740
>Implying she doesn't know
>Implying she doesn't know she's stumbled upon the key to immortality
>>5312028
lol
Unless you are afraid of being kicked out or disowned, why bother hiding your real self from your loved ones?
>>5310586
>dad: when are you getting a girlfriend
>me: fuck off
life is just so much better when you don't depend on other people
>>5310586
My mother says the same, except she means adopted.
I don't really feel closeted, I'm just curious atm and there's no way to express that to anyone without it seeming like a big deal.
Coming out of the closet won't stop anything, though. My parents found out I had bf long time ago.
Just last week, father says: "You better start saving up so you can buy a big house for all your children!" On the other hand, mother is a bitch, says crap like: "*sigh*, you'll never understand what we went through as parents, since you'll never have kids of your own..."
The ride never ends.
>>5311272
>but it feels like all that will mean less if it's just cause I'm a total dyke
That's a good point. It's pretty much cheating to compare a woman with no interest in men to heterosexual women. Though even on that easy mode, some lesbians still end up pregnant.
>>5311006
That's just instincts, straights can't help it.
>>5312081
I wouldn't want to live over a century for sure.
My grandparents are 75, and they have tons of health problems.
>>5312111
I'd have to rent, if not for my parents, and it would be like half my salary, so I wouldn't be able to save up any money. And I was always pretty close to my family, would be terrible to simply sever all ties with them.
>>5310740
>EternalLife.jpg
I remember something like this
>one day you will have your's children and they will be even worse than you ever was
Kek
>>5310727
Actually it is their parents fault lol. Where the fuck do you thing the genetic material came from.
Try harder faggot.
i'm still in the closet.
and i'm in my late 40's.
>>5311473
Nice way to diverge from what he said, faggot.
>>5310727
>tfw this is true
>tfw straight brother is far more important than me
>>5312089
Sometimes the hate is not instant. Their are slow, boiling resentments and bias that take time to surface once the truth is out.
>>5313815
Mostly the reprisal IS instant, because people will react irrationally when they are in the moment. Besides that, why worry if you aren't going to experience anything off the bat? The world is a big place.
My dad literally bluntly asked me if I was gay, said he would be alright with it if I was, and then told me to tell him the truth when I denied it.
I then started pretending that I was getting really offended at him implying I was a faggot.
I don't even understand my own emotions. My homosexuality triggers this innate, almost violent defensive mode. I am a rabid homophobe now, despite having taken it up the ass and sucked dick myself.
>>5310748
Same, my dad was also the only male in his family (had fucking 8 sisters though).
It's like destiny. I was destined to fuck up this lineage.
>>5310586
>Who still /in the closet/ here?
Me, kind of.
I've come out to my brother in law and his super nice teacher/actor/hippie parents. While my gossipy sister, and distant (emotionally/geographically) mildly religious majorly social conservative parents are still in the dark. This situation doesn't bother me as much as it probably should for someone that cares about their parents' feelings.
>"When are you getting a girlfriend? I can't wait to have grandchildren" (laughs)
That doesn't necessarily end once you come out of the closet. It often becomes:
>"When are you getting a boyfriend? I can't wait for you to adopt so I can have grandchildren" (laughs)
From what I understand it's worse for lesbians too, since they have sperm donors as an additional grandchildren breeding option.
Thankfully I don't get the "breed me grandchildren nows!" as often as I used to, because my gossipy sister created a whelp for my family to fawn over. That, and I gave up counting my first cousins when they got past two dozen in number.
>>5310924
I just want to hug you. you seem like a sweet guy who's been through a lot.
would you ever get married? would you ever have children?
it's kind of sad how the state of marriage is today but i guess that just comes from me being overly idealistic.
maybe it's because marriage has been such an unobtainable goal for us for so long that i've garnered more respect for it.
i've always dreamed about it. not because of the ceremony or anything like that but because, well... because of finding someone who makes me the best me is such a nice thought.
>>5313835
You know when people start asking if you are gay that it's time to come out.
>>5310586
It's bad enough that they're both over the hill, they've started having age related health problems, and they both know I don't believe in their god.
Aside from questions about girlfriends and grandchildren all I hear from them are constant half mumbled versions of, "I'm going to die, soon" with thousand mile stares deep into the reality of their mortality. A reality they have a harder time ignoring around a son that doesn't agree with their tenuous beliefs in an afterlife.
I guess I fear pushing them deeper into macabre mindsets because they found out their godless son is also gay.
>>5313835
Don't stress too much. That's fairly normal.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pAwad6dSjn0
People come out of the closet only when they're ready to come out of the closet, And if your father was chill enough to give you that ill thought out acceptance ultimatum, then in all likelihood he will understand.
Come out whenever you're ready, and if you're feeling anxious familiarize yourself with literature from orgs like openclosets about the process.
>>5310586
I recently found out I was bi. I'm not sure if coming out is even worth the hassle. I'm fine right now.
>>5310586
I came out but now they keep asking when I'm getting a boyfriend
The ride never ends guys.
>Dad died before I came out as trans to everyone
I could only imagine his disappointment and shame for me.
>>5310586
>Be 21
>Youngest male in my family
>Older cousins start popping babies like they're golden eggs or something
>Aunt and Uncle won't shut up about their grandchildren
>Mom and dad jelly af
>At_least_my_brother_is_straight.png
>Brother's wife turns out to be infertile or something
>"Well, at least we still have Anon to give us grandchildren one day!"
My cousin's wife is pregnant again. I swear they people need to get another hobby or at lest Netflix.
>grandfather is diagnosed with lung cancer
>visit him and he's in horrible shape, really quite sad
>decide to not come out to family until he passes
my only other male cousin with the family name is even less likely to father children
funny world we live in
>>5314660
Not if they are homophobic
>>5310586
>>5315214
TFW they will blame you for not giving them a grandchild but not your brother/sister in law
>>5310586
i just laugh everytime my parents bring up girls
it confuses them, especially after i got a girlfriend just to make sure
>>5315610
Yeah. And when you fuck your girlfriend in the missionary position and produce a unit that sure will confuse them epic style, especially when you christen it in a church and pray to Jesus, amirite? lololol
>Growing up I constantly got asked questions about girls
>Always just said shit like "too busy with school"
>I know I never convinced them
>They knew
>anon when are you getting a girlfriend
>anon I can't wait 'til you give me grandkids
>anon how come you never talk about girls
>anon, tell me, are you gay?
>"actually mom I'm trans"
>mom's face when
>am bi
>mfw I don't have to ever come out of the closet
>mfw I'll eventually settle down with a pretty woman and have kids
>>5315726
bisluts get out
reeeeeeeeeeeeeee
>>5315606
I swear I don't even want to go visit my parents anymore. Grandchildren is the only thing they talk about
>Aunt: "Enjoy uni Anon, but remember to avoid the 3 Ds - Drink, drugs, and the dole"
>"Haha, I'll try"
>"Oh and don't be tempted to get any ear piercings either, people will think you're a poof"
Oh Aunty, you don't know how badly I failed you.
>>5313835
>My homosexuality triggers this innate, almost violent defensive mode. I am a rabid homophobe now
your literally the worst kind of gay
seek therapy and better yourself so you can be happy and stop shitting up other peoples lives
>>5315762
haha what a faggot you are. end it now, your entire family hates you.
>>5310727
Im gay and I tried being straight and got with a lady, we have two children, and I am a gay man. Married to a women and I have two kids with her.
>tfw I will never be out of the closet
>>5310735
Part of me wants to have a kid, just so the family name doesn't continue through my shithead brother. If that's what my family will become, I'm half tempted to find a slut and try for a kid.
Though, some parents have bad luck. I know this flaming guy with a lisp who has a gay brother AND a gay sister too.
>>5315986
well if it makes you feel better you're kinda my fetish :3
>tfw homewrecker
>>5316030
>I know this flaming guy with a lisp who has a gay brother AND a gay sister too.
Yeah. I know a guy who's possibly the most homophobic person I've ever met.
He has two children. A gay son and a lesbian daughter.
>>5315830
I am happy though. It doesn't make a big impact on my life, I just lack a real sex life except sporadic hookups with a gay guy I'm friends with.
