>be closeted bisexual
>fall in love with guy
>realize it is time to make my orientation public
>it's hurting me inside to keep this a secret
>finally build up courage to tell parents
>"Mom. Dad. I'm bisexual and I think I love another guy."
>silence for a few seconds
>parents burst out laughing
>"Oh Anon, you are one of the most eccentric people on this planet. You have a LOT of free time on your hands, and boredom can lead someone to convince themselves of a whole lot of things."
>"No. Seriously. I am bisexual. I have felt this way since I was 5. Yes, I repressed it for a long time, but this is not a phase."
>parents start laughing again
>"Oh Anon! Remember that time you were convinced that..."
Holy shit guys. I really put myself in a vulnurable position, and my parents - who are pretty liberal - flat out laughed me away. What in the actual fuck.
Has anyone else had a similar experience? Do you think this could be a form of denial on their part?
I had an almost identical experience when I came out as trans.
For months afterwards my parents were still in denial, confusion and disbelief. They tried to tell me that I was confused or in a phase, that it was the fault of the media spreading positive things about being trans.
They ignored any changes as I started looking and acting feminine more openly, and they started telling me to watch the football, cut my hair and just man up and get over it.
>>5227544
my mom laughed at me and then refused to discuss it when I told her about how displeased I was with the fact that they mutilated me as a baby against my will.
I definitely think it's a denial thing.
>>5227573
What do you mean mutilated?
>>5227572
circumcision anon.
I know that feel of stupid parents
>feeling suicidal depressed as kid
>"mom im feeling stressed i think i need a therapist or something"
>"pfftt youre stressed try paying bills, ahhahahhaha"
>fast forward to now
>am a loser neet who hasnt gone outside in years
>>5227604
Better than having a sharpei penis
>>5227616
I got the opposite issue. With overbearing parents that are way too interested in my stuff. I'm sure their intentions are good but I want as little attention drawn to my issues by third parties as possible. I dread the day I have to say something to them and then have to deal with the barrage of comments from every single relative and their friends.
So yeah, neet that hasnt gone out in years here as well.
>>5227544
Are you by chance a loner?
have sex with your bf really loudly in their house? that'll show them?
>Be 13
>Go into living room
>"Mom, Dad, I'm gay."
>"Hmmm, you're sure?"
>"Yes, I'm sure."
>"Okay."
Literally the easiest coming out in history.
>>5227872
>be 15
>came out to my closest friends
>dad is pretty right-wing, makes fun of gays all the time
>stepmom is hispanic, and super catholic
>scared as fuck to tell my parents, but I gotta do it
>wake up really early on a Saturday
>bake a cake, cover it in frosting and rainbow sprinkles, and write "I'm gay" on it
>bring it out to them when they're awake and watching TV
>they look at it
>oh fuck
>"Okay"
>eat the cake together
I'm still happy for how smoothly that all went.
>>5227544
If you want my advice, just carry on. Especially if they won't kick you out over it.
I came out to my mom like four times. Each time it was...
>you're too young to know that (I was twelve)
>you only want to be a lesbian because boys bully you (girls bullied me more than boys)
>it's because you hang out with gay people
>ok, whatever, just don't tell your father until you get bored of it
It sucks. Try not to take it personally.
>>5227544
I haven't had a girl over in years so I think my parents already just assume that I'm gay or bi or something.
>>5227784
>are uou a loner?
No. I have a lot of friends, and a girlfriend at the time... who is very supportive of this and even wants to try a MMF threesome. The idea of me doing gay stuff in her prescence while she facilitates makes her super horny.
Anyway, I'm breaking up with her next week for unrelated reasons.
>>5228350
Now that you mention it, here are a few more gems from that conversation (keep in mind my parents are liberal):
"Anon, you're very smart and when you get thinking about things... maybe you thought about things TOO hard here?"
"No, Mom, a part of me is actually, truly gay... and I have repressed/hidden this since I was 7 (or so). I just want to be free to see/date people of botb sexes without it being a big deal. It shouldn't be ANY deal at all." (one side of the family is very religious).
"Oh honey, we still love you all the same! We would just be worried about the risks behind living that sort of 'alternative' lifestyle."
"That's the first thing that comes to mind? STDs? Really?" (I start laughing)
"Son, it's just... we know there can be a lot of challenges involved with living an alternative lifestyle."
"That's the point. I don't want to think of one side of me as 'normal' and 'correct,' whereas the other is 'alternative' and 'incorrect' by implication. That sort of thinking has really messed me up in the past. I mean... I don't want our religious family to know yet. Not ready for that battle."
"Oh sweety, there doesn't have to be any battle. You said yourself that you still have a preference for women (Kinsey 2). This will only be an issue if you choose to lead an alternative lifestyle."
"Yes, son. Please be safe. Don't be in a rush to try too many things."
I mean wtf. What I hear when they say this (reading between the lines) is:
"You're not bi. Are you sure you're bi?"
"Ok well, that's fine if you are bi but actually it isn't all that fine because have you heard of AIDS?"
"Are you sure you want to be bisexual? It can be tough dealing with discrimination." (Thanks for reminding me).
"Maybe you should just repress it and keep it a secret. It would make everyone's life easier."
"Yeah... and in fact, you should hold off on the gay stuff for as long as possible."
JUST.
>be 13
>come out to parents and sister as gay
>mom always made a lot of noise about being accepting of the gheys so expect her to be chill
>dad always was weird about it so expect him to freak out
>sit em down
>"mom, dad, sister, I'm gay"
>dad looks like he's been run over by a truck, but sits silently
>mom starts arguing that I'm not gay
>convo ends, go about business
>next day dad comes to me with gay resources and talks about if I need any support or anything
>he's not good with expressing himself but he's trying as hard as possible to show support
>thank him, go about life
>mom keeps making passive-aggressive comments about it but doesn't bring it up outright
>a month later
>in car with mom being driven somewhere
>"have you ever had sex with a woman, anon?"
>"what the fuck mom I'm 13"
>"you can't know you're gay until you have sex with a woman"
>"would you say I couldn't be straight because I hadn't had sex with a man?"
>no answer
>"I went to a seminar and this is what they told me to say 'it's ok to be gay but you don't have to decide that now'"
>"it's not a choice, mom"
>argument continues until car ride over
>never talk to mom about it again aside from continuing passive-aggressive comments from her
>now 26
>no contact with family for years for unrelated reasons
>had a handful of gfs (am femanon) in high school that she knew about
>there's every chance she still thinks I'm not gay
>>5227544
Suck your dad's dick while rubbing your mom's pussy, that should prove it to them
>>5228944
That WOULD technically be a bisexual act. Good idea.
>>5227544
my mom didn't laugh at me cuz i never told her im trans
one day she just found my moans in the cupboard with other medicine ;w;
also, we often discuss things together-like talking about boys and girls and stuff-and she's pretty chill with all that
tl;dr-rather then telling them you are bi, SHOW them that you are bi or let them find out on their own
>>5227616
>believing therapy helps people
pfffft what a joker
>>5228906
>"I went to a seminar and this is what they told me to say 'it's ok to be gay but you don't have to decide that now'"
She tried, anon, she really did
What's the harm in giving them a phone call tonight?
>>5228301
>>>bake a cake, cover it in frosting and rainbow sprinkles, and write "I'm gay" on it
Kek. That's pretty up there amongst the gayest things I've ever read. I'm guessing they didn't have to ask if you were sure?
My mother apparently thinks I am just an opportunistic gay. as in she thinks the only reason I say I am gay is because i can't find a woman. How do you explain to dear old mom that things were fantastic when I fucked a guy, but remember that time I got married? and then divorced shortly after? well that's because I was so disinterested I couldn't keep it up.
>>5227688
I know that. My parents are way too concerned about my private life and keep violating it to the point I suspect my mother to look up in the trashbin for written evidences. They ask me how I feel and what I'm planning to do, or want to meet my friends.
>>5228701
>"Anon, you're very smart and when you get thinking about things... maybe you thought about things TOO hard here?"
lol my mom basically said the same thing when I came out as trans.
>>5231215
To be fair that's an accurate assessment of most of the people who post here
>>5227544
>since I was 5
Hysterical as fuck
>>5227544
>My mom found out i was gay
>freak out, yes
>no your not, you just dont want the girls to bug you from you studies
>what.jpeg
>brother becomes a hardcore atheist after moving out
>i mention how funny it is about a month after we found out
>no he isnt he just wants attention
some people cant accept things
>>5227573
Yeah that's the sort of thing that's usually left unsaid in a household, especially one with boomer parents, because they don't even see anything wrong with it. They treat it like a birth condition, like you were born with a club foot or a harelip, instead of something they consciously and deliberately chose to do after you were born. I brought it up to my mom and she just hand-waved it and laughed at me like nothing was wrong with chopping off the most sensitive part of my body as an infant to fit in with a religion she barely believes in. My dad's not even circumcised himself and he chose to do it to me because fuck it, why not? Amirite?
I'm not even angry about it anymore, I just want my parents to take responsibility and realize the extent of what they did to my body.
Then again, most people don't dissent about male infant genital mutilation as seriously as female infant genital mutilation since it's a cultural norm in America. Only female circumcision is seen as an atrocity worthy of outrage. The only time I see any male circumcision awareness is at LGBT pride parades. And even then, most of the onlookers are like "HAHA HOW ODD IS THAT? WHO CARES?"
I'm sorry, anon. It's a shame how no one seems ready to even acknowledge how horrible it is, let alone do anything about it. The best thing you can do right now is learn to love your body as it is.
>>5227616
>blaming your parents
You've made your own failures, it's time to own up to your own choices, anon.
>it's because my parents didn't let me eat enough psychoactive medication as a kid!
>>5231252
No one chooses their parents, and no child has the agency to seek mental healthcare without their parent's consent. The long-term consequences of this can be crippling for an adult with chronic mental illness as it takes that much more therapy work to overcome it. Serious therapy isn't passive, it takes a huge and sustained effort to push past such deep-seated issues, along with a good environment and emotional support from friends and family.
Of course if you have Scientology-tier opinion about psychology and therapy, I'm sure you can rattle off some bootstraps story about how he just needs to buck up and stop being mentally ill.
>>5227573
So did mine, and I've resented her for it ever since. The best thing to do is just start restoring and break the cycle by not mutilating your own children (if you ever have any, that is)
ITT: autists seeking reassurance from sympathetic strangers on the internet that their parents are, in fact, fools.
>>5231582
We never made any pretense that this thread was about anything else
>>5230156
lmao she did not try.
>what's the harm
the domestic violence underground railroad went to a lot of trouble to get me out and safe, anon, and that all goes to shit if those psychos are able to find me again
lmao "what's the harm" people talking about shit they don't know shit about
>>5231190
Basically. I like being blunt about things when it comes to my gayness, because I just figure there's nothing special about it ...though I learned that my dad had long been monitoring my Internet history, so probably saw the plethora of gay porn I watched beforehand.
I initially felt pressure from friends to start "acting" gay, but I decided me liking dicks doesn't translate to being a fairy about it.
>>5231282
>Of course if you have Scientology-tier opinion about psychology and therapy, I'm sure you can rattle off some bootstraps story about how he just needs to buck up and stop being mentally ill.
If they actually ARE mentally ill, and not just blaming their parents for their inability to leave home as an adult.
>>5233721
You're pretty much mentally-ill by default if you're a NEET who doesn't leave the house. What sort of mentally stable person does that?
My parents had a whole cryfest about me being trans and them accepting me, then the next day they kept misgendering me, now 1 year later I'm still just hiding my gender from le world. That's as close of a story that I have.
You're not alone. Of course, we're a bisexual species- all mammals seem to be! - and so were only culturally heterosexual in the same way that we're only culturally, say, vegetarian.
So I say bring home some boys and shut them the fuck up. Put meat back on the menu.
>>5228701
"maybe you thought about things TOO hard here?"
My dads said something along those same lines to me before. Sorry to use a /mu/ meme, but...
What did he mean by this?
>>5227544
you deserve whatever you got, biscum
