At what age did you realize that you are gay?
Were you an adult or younger?
People think that I'm gay, and truth be told I probably do look/act in a way that gives off gay vibes. I'm beginning to wonder if I am a repressed homosexual.
Around 11 I realized I was different.
I was 12 when I realized I was gay.
I was 19 when I told the first people.
That did shock someone.
i first realized i was gay when i was 10 or 11. i started having these dreams about other boys.
and the boys were naked!!!
>>5211113
Probably around the 5th grade. So... around 12.
It's not this sudden realization. Like you just wake up knowing you're gay or that you finally realize it one day. At least for me it wasn't.
It's a gradual shift, one that's so slow that by the end of it, you just are. Yeah, that's a pretty good description for me. I mean, it's more confusing than that but it wasn't some huge upheaval to my life.
But I think it started when I began to think about the other guys in my class. Not sexual. But in a "something is kind of strange here" type of way. It's an odd feeling when you begin to become attracted to other guys. Their mannerisms and what not.
I feel like I'm a bit unusual in that I was definitely attracted to girls when I was like 12-13, but I remember in my first year of highschool there was this one guy who I thought was really cool and I wanted to be friends with him and I saw him wearing a band t-shirt so I listened to all the stuff from that band, but I didn't realise I had a crush on him, and I didn't really realise what was going until 13/14 I think... And my attraction to girls kind of just disappeared once I realised
>>5211113
I think I was 11 or 12. Used to fool around with my best friend. He put a stop to it after about a year cuz he 'wasn't a faggot'. First time a straight boy broke my heart desu
Late 18s when i started to notice, kr when i turned a fag.
I have accepted that I'm at least bisexual when I was 16 or so, and completely came to terms with the fact that I'm totally 100% gay at about 18.
Before that I refused to accept that I'm a faggot (yeah, despite having no attraction to women whatsoever), but I knew that there was something wrong with me because I liked men since I had actually started having sexual thoughts (though back then I believed it'll pass or it doesn't matter and I'm still normal or something like that).
If you "look or act gay", you've just spend too much time with emos, goths or some other weird subculture. In fact, most homosexuals aren't a walking stereotype.
>>5211335
I know these feels.
Don't think I've ever been straight, as long as I've been masturbating I thought about both guys and girls.
By age 16 I wasn't thinking about women at all and at 18 I came out to my friends.
>>5211113
Realised i started liking boys and male bodies in general since i was 8.
I didn't know it was not the norm or that it was something different until i was 10.
Came to accept i'm different from the majority at about 13-14.
Came out at 18.
Sorta liked guys since 7th or 8th grade, never really saw anything wrong with gay people, I just didn't want to be one.
Years of confudion followed until 10th grade when I asked my 15 year-old self if I'd rather spend my life with a guy or a girl. I came out to my friends the next day, noticed how relieving it felt, told my family the day after. They were fine with it, thankfully.
Anyone who isn't out yet should just do it, it feels really good to just casually tell someone you're gay.
>>5211113
Realized I was bisexual at 13ish. At 14 told one of the school bullies "if anything I like both." when he was trying to taunt me by calling me gay. He was a bit confused over that.
I knew I was transsexual at 8, and that I must transition by the time I was 10. After that I flipped back and forth between trying to repress it and embracing it.
>>5211113
I know I remember suspecting I was gay from as early as 12 or 13 but I didn't fully realize it till 21.
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I first started realizing it when I was 10 or so, but I was in denial about it until I was 17.
I first thought I might be gay around 11-12. I just pushed it down and the thoughts came back every few years. Finally accepted it when I was 18.
i fell in love with another boy at summer camp when i was 10 or so, didn't know what the feeling was or that it had anything to do with sexuality. never saw him again afterwards :(
when i was, there was an article about gay online dating in some liberal magazine my parents read, and it had some pretty erotic photo's in it
i secretly took the mag up to my room and had my first orgasm
i think i'm kinsey 5 or something
>>5212738
second line should be
>when i was 13*
>>5211612
>If you "look or act gay", you've just spend too much time with emos, goths or some other weird subculture. In fact, most homosexuals aren't a walking stereotype.
I feel like I physically look like a homosexual. I resemble Jon Cryer a bit from "Two and a Half Men".
It's not like I talk with a lisp and use wrist motions. Just the way I am sets off people's gaydar.
>>5211113
When I was 12. That was around the time my hormones got to work and I started developing attraction towards other people, which were exclusively girls.
15-16
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The only sexuality that literally exists is hetereosexual. Everything else is merely a perversion of hetereosexuality.
Simply put, sexuality is fluid for humans, meaning we can direct our sexual impulses virtually anywhere that facilitates it. This is why more homosexuality is documented in areas that support it. It is an Evolutionary Fact that anything not hetereosexual, penis to vagina, will die off, hence their lack of evolutionary fitness. This is why homosexuality is not "built" into us, but rather learned unconsciously through environmental pressures.
Think about it, if homosexuality was a genetic predisposition, then naturally it would "die off" due to a lack of evolutionary fitness, ie, carrying on their genes through procreation (straight sex).
>>5216702
Hello, ambassador from Politically Incorrect.
Also thinking that there are no genetic traits which decrease evolutionary fitness shows that you don't know the first thing about biology, just Google "genetic disease". Even genetic traits that cause early death and give a 0% chance of reproduction will continue to appear in the population via mutations.
I was kind of in denial for a while, I guess. The whole thing was fairly underwhelming, no suicidal thoughts, homophobic outbursts or real guilt on my part.
I understood that I wasn't like other boys very early on, because I didn't share most of the male interests. I was 6. Had my first crush at that age too, though I didn't understand it as such at the time.
I was jerking off to men since I was 11 or so, but it was always straight porn, so I kind of fooled myself into thinking that I'm normal.
At 14, I started jerking off to full on gay stuff, but I was still telling myself that I like girls too.
At 17 I accepted that recognizing some girls are pretty or liking their personality =/= being sexually attracted to them.
At 19 I started to think of myself as "gay", having somehow avoided using that label in my mind for a while. And at that point I decided that my sexuality is going to play a part in my life. Before, I resigned myself to a life of celibacy, but that was more due to my general social anxiety, and not my sexual orientation. At 20 I got laid for the first time, and at 21 I came out to a friend.
11-13 is when I realized
4th grade is when I realized naked girls weren't doing anything for me but men were still repulsive
>>5216791
These are what are called genetic mutations. Most genetic mutations are harmful, some neutral, and very very few beneficial.
There have literally been found no genetic mutations common among homosexuals, so that theory is unfounded.
More importantly, the number of homosexual relationships and sex acts performed in prisons actually prove that homosexuality can be impressioned during a person's lifetime, providing further evidence that homosexuality is a product of environmental factors.
Genetic traits correlative with homosexuals would show only that society and cultures perceive superficial traits as sexual in nature, much like how gender is not sex.
A man viewed as effeminate within a culture may more likely take on feminine traits and sexual perspectives due to the oppressive influence, as just one example.
I was in 5th grade 10 I think.
>reading goosebumps and crushing on every female character
>clearing my bus seat off and scooting all the way against the window in hopes that a pretty high school girl would set with me
>trying to find books about lesbians in the library but not knowing what to look up in the card catalog
>>5216846
There have been no single mutations identified as causing autism or determining how intelligent someone is either, but we know both of those have a significant genetic component. Complex traits are caused by complex genetic configurations.
That being said. I do acknowledge a significant role for social factors in orientation formation as well. One of the best examples is the ancient Greeks, where homosexuality was both significantly more accepted and significantly more common than, say, contemporary America. My intuition is that individuals have a certain inborn range of sexual orientations, and cultural pressures can push them towards one end of their personal spectrum or the other.
>>5216877
Goosebumps didn't introduce me to my sexual orientation (str8), but damn if it didn't introduce me to some great fetishes. All the animal transformation stories? Holy shit. It's a part of why I love TF porn today.
always son, always. Fag4Life
>>5216880
You are very close. However, it is not the sexuality that resides in the genes, but rather superficial, physical traits and variances of personality traits; a genotype manifesting as a phenotype.
These traits are then interpreted by ones environement, the society or culture, one is born into. When our neutral traits encounter oppressive social constructs, our sexuality only then truly begins to take shape.
Again, biologically only hetereosexuality literally exists. But through human societal structures we can expand beyond natural boundaries to anywhere our sexual release may be accomplished.
>>5216919
I can't really figure out what you're trying to say here.
>biologically only heterosexuality literally exists
I think that's very unlikely.
>>5211113
I knew I liked older guys (20-30 year olds) around 6 but didn't know what it was called until I was 13
>>5211113
Around 7-8 years old. Grew up with an abusive family, met a guy 1 year older than me while riding my bicycle around the block and he was actually nice to me, no one had been nice to me before then, instantly fell in love with him, crushed on him growing up and we did end up dating, we've been together for almost 5 years now.
>>5216948
How is it unlikely that a sexuality would be defined by sex? Human beings are only capable of having sex (reproducing) hetereosexualy, hence the existence of the male and female sex. Both sexes are required for the human species to procreate. Very simple actually.
If two men, or two women, were able to produce an offspring then homosexuality would exist literally in nature through a biological capacity.
>>5216999
I think there is a strong biological inclination to heterosexuality. But clearly, that inclination isn't present in all people because there are, you know, gay people.
Why are there gays who cannot bring themselves to feel any arousal from the opposite sex at all, despite strong social pressure?
Then again... think about political beliefs. Sometimes they're so strong, people would rather die than give them up. But are political beliefs biologically inborn?
>>5217005
The hetereosexual inclination you mention is present in all human beings, but due to environmental influences it can be repressed or oppressed to the point that one may mistakenly believe it never existed.
Social pressure does not only exist from the status quo or majority. We are even most influenced by direct, impressionable experiences during early developmental stages of our life. These may be from family members, peer pressure or influence, specific traumatic experiences, etc. We are bombarded by many pressures during the course of our life, but not all take seed. This is why some may be more susceptible to homosexual or deviant sexual desires than others.
As to your point of political beliefs, they are purely manifested from social pressures, from the family, to community, to peer, to cultural; all these pressure vary greatly in both their breadth and their effectiveness.
>>5217053
>The hetereosexual inclination you mention is present in all human beings, but due to environmental influences it can be repressed or oppressed.
You don't know that. You're just assuming things.
>>5217061
We know the biological components of heterosexual inclination exists because biochemical and hormonal changes during pubescent and adult life exist in both hetereosexual and homosexual individuals.
In other words, homosexuals are physically healthy and biologically supported to procreate. Our ability to overcome biological urges is not new, and behavioral studies support this assertion. Environmental influences have been proven to play a part in our cognitive and behavioral psychology.
>/pol/ tries to convince people with logical fallacies and non evidence of how right they are. Just like always
Status quo is god, it seems.
>>5217206
>logical fallacies
Thank you for the laugh.
Also, your lack of intelligent rebuttal is flattering, I appreciate the compliment.
in 2003, just before winter break in 6th grade as a early Christmas gift my parents bought me a handy-down computer and broadband internet. Back then I was always fascinated with really muscular guys since I was little. Started off with just DBZ, then those old Bow-flex commercials and stuff. But I was kinda chubby so i felt that I needed some inspiration for me to work out. So i googled for like 'muscular guys' and i kept on going through the images and after awhile the images became more sexual. I remember the thrill of it all, my heart started beating and finally i realized my erection through my shorts. I shut down my computer and I thought to myself about the idea of me being attracted to guys for a few hours then I turned on my computer and searched for gay tests to see if I was or not. Turned out I was kinda gay.
School the next day was kinda weird, I couldn't help but notice guys more - i kept it discrete as I could. In middle school there was one REALLY flamboyant gay kid we all knew from day one named Angel - and he was a real cunt. So in gym class I decided I needed to take a piss; so I went inside to the boys locker room to use the restroom. As I was walking out - this guy Angel grabbed me from behind and even licked my ear. I don't know how but in that moment I remembered a scene from License to Kill where based Timothy Dalton's Bond does this move where he elbows a guy in the stomach and punches the guy in the face and so I did that. Once he let go of me I ran out as fast outside to find a coach or anybody really. But as I was running outside there was a guy in front of the door and I tripped on his leg and fell forward onto the concrete below and scraped the shit out of my arms and legs. The coaches saw and rushed to my aid and told them what happened.
Cops come and the principle told me he's had a history of trying to molest other boys. It's been less then 24 hours since I realized I was gay and I was already a victim of attempted sexual assault.
Did some typical gay stuff as a kid like was really into spice girls and played polly pocket with a friends younger sister while my brother played hockey with the older brother but that stuff went away once I got older and I became more hetero acting.
But grade 10ish I noticed I'd be watching the guy more than the girls in porn usually and eventually went to gay porn because 2 guys are better than 1. Thought I was still straight for awhile but LOL NOPE. Tried fucking a few chicks and after failing to perform twice with one girl I decided I'd rather just be with dudes anyways. The few people I've told have been really caught off guard though which is pretty funny.
>>5211443
>straight
More like bislut coward that will visit bathhouses behind his wife back once he hits the mid life crisis.
I did when I was around 11 yo. Come out when I was 16. I knew for sure I was, but it's not like this for everyone.
I've know quite a few bisexuals who repressed this side of them without even knowing it. The last guy I dated realized he was bi when he was 21 and didn't come out until 22.
>Tfw 23 and still don't know
It could honestly go anyway this point, thanks bipolar
>>5211113
Last January, 20 at the time.
It was a "deep down I know but will never admit it to myself" situation my entire life. I didn't find girls attractive but I still felt like I wanted to bang them if only for the pressure of not being a virgin; I spent my entire adolescence without watching porn of any kind; and the thought of my gym and history teachers banging random women would get me off (I rationalized it as "you're fantasizing about BEING them"), so the signs were there but I kept ignoring them through mental gymnastics.
Talked to my dad about my suspicions (only told him the not being attracted to women thing). He told me that if I didn't have feelings, romantic or sexual, about other men, then I really wasn't gay, so that kept the delusion going a little more.
Then I moved on to similar fantasies involving other men I thought were hot, then bara furshit, and eventually found that one fucking visual novel last january. Realizing that I could develop feelings for another man (a fictional anthropomorphic bear but the point stands) was my breaking point, I'm terribly self-conscious about having to sink that low to figure it out.
Came out to my friends recently, planning to move on to my parents if things start getting serious with my fuckbuddy.
When I first began to develop those kinds of feelings at about 13, I liked both boys and girls.I never really went through a phase where I only liked girls. (I'm male, for reference)
As I aged, though, I began to lose interest in women after I got to about 18. That happened not long after I broke up with my ex-girlfriend, so I think my experience with her showed me that I didn't like girls sexually as much as I thought I did. I can still like them romantically, of course, but not sexually.
realized i was gay at 13, didn't accept it until 15 when i came out.
>>5211443
MOAR
>>5211335
>5th grade
>12
wat... I was in 7th grade when I was12
I've always acknowledged my sexual attraction to women by acting on it since I was 12. I REALIZED just last years that I'm pan sexual last year. I'm 29
Oops... stoned lurking haha I'm female btw
>>5211113
i started having weird feelings around 15
knew i was at 16
Definitely knew I was gay when I was 5 or 6 noticing that other guys were cute and girls were just meh
I realized it when I was 10 or 11 and came out as homosexual when I was 16. It looks like it didn't bother that much people despite being brought in a Catholic family and sent to a Catholic private school. My parents—especially my father—and my teachers were both fine with yet I had a bit of trouble with my friends the first years but they quickly understood I wouldn't rape them when sleeping together. As >>5211612 said, if you “look gay” or “act gay”, you're doing it wrong and should behave like a normal—aren't we “normal”?—person. I never associated with a “LGBT” group because I find it weird to purposely frequent people with the “same”—what's the point of merging “LGB” with “T”?—sexual orientation. I'd rather meet someone who shares my hobbies, my musical/literary tastes or my political views.
>>5211113
i had fantasies about being fucked by men since i was 13 but refused to admit i was gay until a few years ago.
I was molested at 11 yrs old he was a couple yrs older, I say molested because I was given no choice there was pain, humiliation, and force used. I did although realized were I did not like the guy or the aspects involved I liked the sex. Freshman year of high school talked to my best friend, he was cool but someone else overheard and life became hell so withdrew from most social activity for a long time. Raised catholic, tried to be the good straight boy, that didn't work tried bisexuality was only happy with guys. Married realized yup definatly gay.Have had no contact with any other gay people, severely socially awkward unattractive, been alone for 20 yrs ( yes I am old) finally managed to reconcile being raised catholic and being gay, just came out a month ago at age 50. I know everyone here is a lot younger and I honestly don't go for younger guys, but first attempts at dealing with gay men went very badly just on a social level, so have been her for a bit talking learning how to get along with other gay people.And, to be totally honest if you guys think it is to creepy, someone my age being here, I will gladly leave.
>>5217782
>It's been less then 24 hours since I realized I was gay and I was already a victim of attempted sexual assault.
I guess you were like a blimp in his gaydar
>>5224796
That sounds terrible, buddy. Least we can do is let you stay.
>>5225741
Thanks, I appreciate it, just wanted to be honest even though this is an anonymous board.
>>5211113
I was always curious about penises. I wanted to see guys naked since forever, but I didn't have the same curiosity for girls. There's a lot of confusion because society is constantly telling you to like girls, so I pretended to like girls to other people. But I always knew I wanted a guy more than anything. I realized I was gay in middle school, but I sort of didn't accept it and ignored it until high school.
first was attracted to a girl at around 11, didn't think much of it. then i thought i was bi from 12-13, after that i just lost interest in guys. now here we are.
15
had been fapping exclusively to gay porn for two years though
>>5216846
>Implying that gays have never had straight sex
