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Who did did you start lusting after first -- people of your sex or opposite sex?
Also, when did you first get a hard on for someone? And when were the first signs you were bi?
female here
first crush on a guy was in middle school who asked me out the year before. i freaked out and told him that i wasnt ready, which was true but also i just wasnt into him that way. next summer he had a girl friend and i got really mad for no good reason and when i got home all i wanted to do was stuff his face into my crotch. the thought was so invasive and sudden i literally surprised myself. couldnt stop thinking the lewds about him after that.
i dont know exactly when i really for sure wanted to bang a girl. i remember thinking that gay love between girls was really cute and thinking "man wouldnt be cool if i met an attractive girl and we dated, thatd be neato" around middle school. then in highschool and early college i hung around 4chan and myspace a lot and started downloading pictures of girls cause i mean who wouldnt download pics of cute girls amirite?? and then in college lady gaga became a thing and i was surrounded by fags so i figured it out
Guy here.
I've always found girls pretty and I imagine myself being in a relationship with one. But guys began attracting me when I was around 14, I think. Not really romantically though, it's more of a sexual attraction.
I've never gotten a hard on from a girl, either, I've always gotten them from guys.
It's confusing me quite a bit.
>>5621519
have you had a relationship with a girl before?
>>5621435
I guess mine's a bit complicated. I'm a dude and I got a crush on a girl once because I thought she was pretty and that was the first time that happened and after that I wasn't really interested in women. and though I find them attractive I've never imagined or desired myself actually having sex or being with a women in any physical capacity.
While I didn't have crushes on guys but I would constantly be trying to kiss, jerk off, and have sex since elementary school. I even did cam shit for older guys. (I didn't realize that I might be gay till I was 18 and I denied it even then).
>>5621435
FtM
Had a crush on a boy in kindergarden, nothing serious
My first super intense crush I can remember was after coming to terms with my bisexuality when I realized guys and chicks were hot was on my best friend at the sime and she was straight as fuck
>tfw now that I came out as FtM she wants to know when I get a functioning dick because she wants to hop on it
The only relationship I've been in that I can genuinely say I was in love was in my denial-mode freshman year. I dated a straight guy, 4 years older than me, his sister fucking hated me for dating him, my relationship with most of my friends went to shit because his sister turned them against the relationship, none of it really mattered because I had him
After he broke up with me I felt like my world fucking ended.
Had a few relationships after with guys and girls, none too satisfying and I only did it really to fill a void in my life where I thought relationships should be.
I haven't had one in about 2 years though, but I'm persuing a guy right now
>>5621435
My own gender. Then it swing swayed back and forth until I stuck with women. It mainly swung because, even if I don't like the guy, we were both single and bored and I would've dated them even though I always said no to every male advance so maybe subconsciously I wouldn't. I don't know. Some guys just have more of a personality than girls which I like but most men in my opinion are complete mimbos
>>5621435
cis male
I was always really curious about sex and nudity as a kid but I only ever wanted to kiss other boys and such.
It's pretty much the same now, I spent a long time trying to convince myself I'm into women, trying to condition myself through porn but the only female I've wanted to sleep with ended up being a ftm (sorry if the wording was offensive to any ftm bros.)
So I don't know what the hell I am really, biscum that leans to the extreme side of gay? Gay guy with a fetish for women? I don't know, but I identify as gay now and I feel happier for it.
>>5621435
I've been getting erections and masturbating since well before puberty. Opposite sex attraction was always there, and I would sometimes masturbate to cartoons. Around puberty though, the same-sex appreciation also started horning in.
Off-topic, I just wanted to tell LGBT I wandered into an SJW sex shop today. out of curiosity, I thumbed through a book about bisexuals, and read the following:
"anecdote: "I am a lesbian-identified bisexual......." X, Samarkand province, Uttar Nonsense"
Then a helpful chart: "It's bisexual, NOT: bi-sexual, BiSexual, etc. Complete with a right/wrong table so you're all up on your PC for this year, kek.
I am reminded of a book that I once read for a college history class, written by a lesbian during the 80s. In the book, she as much as styles homosexuality in general as a choice. The point being that no one knows what they're talking about, and no one has authority, contrary to the PC doctrine of today.
>>5621672
When you talk about wanting to sleep with FtM do you mean like, pre-transitioned FtM's or like FtM's taking testosterone because those FtM's look pretty dude-like
If solely the on-t ftms I'd consider you gay but not opposed to cuntboys
>>5621680
i feel really bad for lesbian activists these days
>>5621699
>ended up being a ftm
i think it was before anon
>>5621680
>The point being that no one knows what they're talking about, and no one has authority,
That seems about right
>>5621699
Well he was no Buck Angel for sure. pre-t but super androgynous, he could have transitioned really easily but he was fucked in the head and had to turn everything into a thing to feed his victim/matryr complex
aaaaaaaanyway. I was talking to him online before we met in person, he said he was a guy, we IM'd a bit, he was a very convincing "reverse trap" when wearing the right clothes.
We dated for a while, had sex regularly, my first only experience being intimate with a vagina (it was fine.)
I'm not really sure what to take away from the experience other than I've never been comfortable with the idea of being in a relationship with a woman and that's the closest I've gotten. I can't imagine I would have met in person if he was just a cis female who happened to dress androgynous
>>5621731
thats all there really is to it, dont have to make it any more complicated than this. you know what you like
>>5621772
Yeah I guess I just have a complex about labels, I need to remind myself to knock that shit off because all it does is get in the way of being happy and growing as a person.
>>5621672
Pretty much feel like this myself. Bi, but very much more into men than women. All throughout middle school I had a crush on this one girl that always went without reciprocation. Sophomore year of high school I started dating this girl (who I kind of stole from a friend, like an asshole), but then ended up falling for my best friend at the time. Broke up with my gf, then my best friend went away and I ended up kind of ruined for girls since I always end up comparing them all to my former gf, and becoming incredibly aroused by masculine men.
4-5 bi male here
I noticed girls first exclusively, it wasn't until I was 14 or so that I noticed guys, but when I did, it hit me way stronger than with girls.
I think I felt almost obliged to like girls, and didn't really get "into it" until I figured out I was mostly gay.
Bi guy.
I wasn't ever interested in guys or girls until I was about 14 or 15. Then I started crushing on guys and was convinced I was gay. A couple of years after that it clicked that girls are pretty fucking hot too. Since then I've sort of been flip flopping between thinking I'm gay, bi, and straight.
>>5621585
Nope. Why?
20 y/o Male
I was straight up to around 18, the thought of sleeping with another guy never even crossed my mind.
I've always been a bit femenine and girls would call me cute rather than handsome which kinda pissed me off, I understand now though that I always appeared small because my two best friends were both huge and around 2m/6'6ft, I always tried to tackle them and beat them up and shit to prove that I was not made of sugar but I always got my ass kicked.
A lot of girls showed interest in me but I was too shy and dumb to flirt back. I learned recently on a night out that a girl I liked had written me love letters and stuff but scraped them because she thought I was gay.
Oh well, fast forward, I graduated and started seeing my friends less, picked up anime but had no idea how it worked or what to watch so got straight into some fujoshit stuff and ended up liking it a bit too much. I don't know if that is what flipped the switch for me but it certainly helped.
Now guys attract me in a romantic way and girls more of just sexually with a few exceptions for both genders.
Bi dude...
I was sex crazed hetero from the very beginning...trying to look up my kindergarten teachers skirt...playing Dr with girls etc...was very into women's panties and lingerie...digging in friends mom's and sisters drawers (pun intended:)
started wearing some sometimes and couldnt believe how erotic and naughty they made me feel...but still no thought of cock yet.
fast forward- summer of 14yrs...hanging with neighborhood buddy- naked, jacking to penthouse pics...just matter-of-factly decided to start sucking his cock...it was a big beautiful cock and I was amazed at how hot and fun it was...ended up being his little cocksucker for the next few weeks until I moved away...
didnt touch another cock until grad school...but slowly merged by panty fetish with my cocksucking fetish to become the sexy little panty slut that I am today...
but still obsessed with women- emotionally, sexually etc...
Bi female here
My attraction for males has been there. Always had crushes on dudes in kindergarten,always wanted a male attention. Not sure when I started liking girls tbqh. Maybe middle school? I mean people around me back then, literally told me they thought I liked girls and I was like 'Lol wut'. It isn't until not I realize I did some awfully gay shit back then.
When I reached high school, all I day dreamed about was getting the vagina, but my attraction to males is still very strongly there.
As a side note, has anyone read that bs about sjws getting upset that bisexual people exist? They don't like the fact that people like two genders, and therefore we somehow ignore the existence of all the non-binary genders. lolololoolololol
>>5625258
Yeah it's pretty bullshit.
Bi is the way to go, why would being able to enjoy the best of both worlds a bad thing?
>>5622991
it might be that you cant become sexually attracted to a girl until youve gotten close to her or really gotten to know her. like for me, i know men's bodies has some influence in attraction but i cant just like, look at a pic of a guy and know if im attracted. i have to see him move and talk, i have to know stuff about him.
>>5625258
thats why bullshit like "pansexual" exists cause they just dont fucking understand what SEXuality is and what bisexual actually means. it wouldnt bother me if it werent for that shit showing up almost everywhere now...
