This is fairly specific question that I've never seen answered so I guess I'll finally make a topic.
I'm a normal 22 year old guy that wants to experiment with someone around the same age and experience level as me. Did I miss the boat on this one? It seems like everyone did this as a teenager and now they're establish straight/gay/bi and with tons of experience. I had a fairly sheltered suburban upbringing and focused on school/sports and never got to do anything besides the cliche on and off dating with a girl a few blocks away.
The standard advice for this usually goes something like "have a few drinks with a buddy and turn some porn on, see what happens" I've done this, and in short nobody's interested, plus it was a bit weird trying to set them up like that.
The thing about just going online is I'm not into all of the extremes most gay guys enjoy (extremes for me anyway) especially the crowd that hangs out on sites/apps. It's funny you would think there are curious guys left and right who just want to jerk it or something and go from there but I seem to be odd man out. Drugs and anything anal are definitely not for me and I've read the statistics on STD's through Grindr which is really scary. Plus I have a thin build and it seems to attract very rude guys that are twice my age/weight and get mad when I politely decline. All of you on the /lgbt/ board talk like saints in comparison!
Any ideas on what to do from here? I might just write this off as a curiosity that will never be sated. There's no online community for guys like me especially since I live in a medium sized city instead of a metro area. I have more thoughts on this but didn't want to turn the first post into a novel.
yes and no. you're still young, but its going to more and more difficult to find someone with the same level of experience, but not impossible.
just hang in there, learn to be more assertive with what you're looking for. don't say anything, say exactly what you're looking for.
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>have a few drinks with a buddy and turn some porn on, see what happens"
I've never known anyone that has done this
>>i might just write this off as a curiosity that will never be sated
Would be a shame, anon. What's so special about finding a guy who is as inexperienced as you? You're narrowing down your bracket quite significantly that way.
What is the actual thing you are curious about? You need to picture what would satisfy you.
Just jerking off with another dude? What about jerking each other off?
Plenty of guys who are bi curious start in their early twenties, often once they've settled into college and see the opportunity.
The thing is, bi-curious looking for bi-curious is a rare combo, it's like some kind of straight4straight logic fuck.
Why don't you just let a gay guy suck your d?
>>5421049
Oh I'm not determined to find someone who has never tried anything with a guy like me, I know it's increasingly rare, but a buddy that has no hangups about messing around like this would be great. I'd probably be down for anything that isn't anal-related since that just isn't for me.
I'm sure I could find some gay guy online more than willing but like I said the MASSIVE difference in experience they tend to have (just being realistic about average promiscuity) and the STD rates in that group freak me out.
The term "straight4straight logic fuck" is hilarious, I think that describes straight curious guys perfectly. I know there are more guys like me out there but we're so few and far between. Gays who feel foreveralone because they can't find a partner who won't cheat on them are kind of in the same boat, they're going against the norms within the culture.
>>5421235
I think you're a little too paranoid about gay guys, and you're overestimating how debauched they are. There are plenty of normal ones who aren't riddled with stds and suck ten cocks a day.
Some of them don't even accept their sexuality until their your age. 20+ Yo gay virgins, even attractive ones, are fairly common until they have their breakthrough.
It's almost like you're turned on by the "innocence" of having a straight4straight homoerotic experience, as if and your bro will secretly learn something about each other and that will be it. It turns you on about that sense of mutual discovery and the thrill of doing something unusual for both of you.
Needless to say, what your looking for is out there, there just aren't many pathways or means to seek it out efficiently.
If you stopped having this naive hetero understanding of gay men, you could find one who is just as normal as you are, but is bro about jerking off.
You can choose between your str8 fantasy with low chances of success, or find a gay guy who will let you rub your dick all over him with a high chance of success.
What your choosing is between having a hard time finding a chance to have a gay experiment, towards almost certainly having one and finding out if you like fooling around with dudes.
