Apologies if this is a bit of a jumbled mess.
First of all I identify as a genderfluid demisexual, biologically male. I've also got really bad anxiety and suffer panic attacks, as well as recently being diagnosed with adhd (which like I hear causes people a lot of trouble with friendships and relationships but i don't want to assume that's why I do necessarily)
Recently like 4 months back I had a really bad falling out with a female friend, i was having a lot of really severe anxiety due to my financial situation and constant medical garbage going on. Before...
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I heard from a friend she still wants to be friends but any efforts at communication tend to fallapart immediately. Also it seems some of her anxiety comes from her not wanting a relationship and me having crushed on her off and on, which is shitty since honestly if I could I would just never ave romantic feelings for anyone. Relationships seem like a lot of work, sex disgusts me. I wanna be independent andjust have friends like me around. Also on my side there's the whole I feel more like a girl than a guy and want to hang out with friends that reflect who i want to be and I've just always been more comfortable around girls than guys. Guys frankly piss me off more often than not.
This isn't even the first time I've hd shit like this. I had a friend when I first moved to the city that something similar happened with. I don't even know what it is I'm asking I just need to vent it out. I think i'm done trying becuase even if it's true she wants to be friends still, trying to save that friendship has made me feel like a shitty human being and made the anxiety worse.
Your special snowflake bullshit literally has nothing to do with your problem unless it coincides with that you're lonely and trying to make up an identify to compensate for your supposed lack of one.
Anyway, go get on anxiety meds. Your anxiety is the problem. It's off putting, exhausting and stressful to the people around you, especially if they have anxiety or mental problems themselves. People can only give so much of a shit about you and juggling your life and theirs is a relationship doomed to fail. People will tire when they finally figure out they can't...
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>>5970797
I more or less have been. My panic attacks have gotten less frequent when i just distance myself from people and I'm being medicated for both the anxiety and the adhd rather effectively now. More than anything I'd like to be able to repair damages and see if anyone else out there has their own advice, but thanks for the parts of your response that were not just mean spirited jabs.
I've been wanting to become more flamboyant and expressive gay guy but I'm too shy. What would you recommend I do?
Note: this was not meant to be offensive to anyone in any shape or form.
>>5970430
Why would you want to become what is essentially a stereotype made up by straight people that harms lgbt? Self hatred perhaps? See a counselor.
>>5970481
This to be honest here. Flamboyant gays are what the media project. Usually people who go to pride parades.
>>5970481
For attention and validation obviously.
Are asexuals welcomed here?
>>5970292
More than biscum
>>5970304
Why? With bis you can get laid whatever you are, with asexuals you can't get laid whatever you are.
>>5970292
Yeah, asexuals even have their own general. >>5945184
Asexuals are treated with as much hostility as any other group on this board (except maybe bisexuals, because reasons I've yet to figure out).
Will trying makeup turn me into a tranny?
>>5969672
If you're asking this and you're that concerned about it, I don't know senpai, you might already be one.
I tried make up, it was a bit of a wank
like I put it on and was just like meh, now what, and just wiped it off.
Same with first time I bought a dress, put it on and was just like well this is boring, it's just a piece of clothing, didn't feel wrong or right just felt like a dress.
>>5970969
or the time you got fucked by a guy
or the time you sucked a dick
or the time you started hrt
or the time you got srs
all underwhelming
How do you tell a lesbian that likes you that you're MtF without getting stabbed?
>>5969662
Just tell her, if she gets mad, that's her problem. Fuck that bitch, she's just a lesbian.
Just tell her.
She doesn't have to be into trans people, but if she's a cunt about it, that's her problem.
Also, jealous of you, OP.
>tfw no lesbian who likes you
LGBT is a hate group, they internalize the very power stuctures used against them by the cis straight world to bully other queer people.
people LGBT hates:
anyone genderqueer
trans lesbians
any non passing trans person
people who transision after age 20
anyone without a vanilla sexuallity
asexual people
bisexual people
People LGBT likes:
passing straight trans people
gold star lesbians and gay men
>triggered
>>5969409
>anyone genderqueer
I don't care about these identities if they're ideologically based, and I tend to ignore a genderqueer person if they lack dysphoria. If you count that as hatred, then I envy your sheltered life.
>trans lesbians
There's nothing wrong with transgendered lesbians.
>any non passing trans person
There's nothing wrong with non passing trans people.
>people...
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There are certainly a lot of loud people with those attitudes, but it's not the entire board. I find it kind of exasperating when people bring up respectability at every opportunity - it's myopic with regard to history. But what can you do. These posters are either bad faith or they are too immature to discuss like adults.
Calling /lgbt/ a hate group is just inflammatory though. There's a lot of internalization and self-loathing involved.
So I am selling these for kids to show support for equality - whether it be gender, class, status, or orientation - it says "I am cool with whatever you are" - a cool hip way to show equality - 2 guys on the left, guy and girl in the middle, and 2 girls on the right - all dancing away - click the site and choose tshirts - or whatever else you wanna click :) for kids, teens, or parents to buy their kids - wanna make it go viral - hip and accepting :) I now have specific versions for gay, straight (gay supporters), and lesbian :) basically I find being accepted is difficult...
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>>5969362
cool
thanks! My partner told me I should sell these - I drew them over 15 years ago - and I felt I could send a message as well - something cool but inclusive that said "I don't judge" - I made versions for straight gay and lesbian kids as well, subtle yet out there.
i'm sorry but the art could use some work. check your anatomy (use references, flip the image etc) and maybe try to get your own style; as it is the style seems a little 'generic deviantart animu'
So i found a passable qt tgirl that actually is an exclusive top. We click emotionally, sexually, we have the same interests. We've been hooking up for the past 6 months.
She says she wants to go monogamous ( I have no problem with monogamy) but she absolutely HATES being on bottom. She will not do it. Ever.
The only reason I've been reluctant is that while I enjoy being on bottom, I do like topping as well. its 50-50 in terms of what I like
The number of passable tgirl tops are like .0000000000000001% , let alone someone I actually have an emotional...
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learn the art of power bottoming and be happy forever.
>>5969340
I've never really understood what power bottoming meant
Is it just telling the person that tops you what you want? I've never really seen that as being dominant
All I've ever wanted was a girl that was so horny that she fucked ME when she was horny instead of me fucking her.
You're living the dream OP
I still don't get it. I can wear the manliest coat possible and not get sir'd during the time after a laser hair removal session but as soon as there is some residue hair on my upper lip I'll get sir'd all day long.
Like what the fuck? Men who are clean shaven still look like men so why am I not misgendered then too? Maybe I am just delusional.
I am just terrified to go out in girl clothes because I am certain I would get sir'd, and only come off as a manly transvestite I basically am.
This was a mistake. I'll never pass and I am 11...
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>>5969302
good goy hehehehehe.
>>5969302
I'm guessing you get gendered female in a bulky jacket and not in regular clothes is because women and men are shapeless in bulky jackets, while in regular clothes, everyone can see your wider-than-your-hips shoulders. In the jacket, they default to what your face looks like.
>>5969302
Post pics fagget
How do you tell a girl who is obviously hopelessly in love with you that you aren't interested in her or girls at all without breaking her heart?
You don't. You break her heart like an adult because that's what happens. Just don't be unpleasant about telling her and you're not responsible for the reaction you get.
Elaborate
How do you know her and how does she know you?
Are you seeing someone?
Could always just cop out and tell everyone you know you're not a lesbian till she hears it and gets sad.
just tell her anon. being gay is a much less hurtful explanation than being straight and not being into her for some other reason.
L's and G's of /lgbt/ why aren't you getting married yet? It is coming up on a year since Obergefell was decided why haven't you hitched up yet?
T's you shouldn't get married until you take care of your mental problems. B's you just shouldn't get married because you are probably scummy, deceitful, selfish people anyway and those people don't make good spouses.
So what's the deal L's and G's why no marriage?
why should i
50% of all marriages ends in divorce. Marriage is a sham. Gay marriage is as useful as a gay tampon.
>>5968321
My guy of 5 years and I are getting married in July. I'm looking forward to it but god damn I'm nervous.
Hi /adv/, are there any bottoms who could give advice for the first time bottoming? I don't know what I ought to do to prepare. I'm hairy so I know I gotta shave but I'm not sure where.
>when to use poppers?
>how to prepare for the sex?
>general advice or experiences?
Thanks in advance and any other contributions to make this a good thready would be great!
No dude. Don't take it in the ass man. What are you thinking? Let me give you some straightvice: never ever go full fag. You're a man, don't let anyone fuck you. Why you even want that shit? You fag or something?
>>5967658
Hold it there, first things first.
OP, do you even know if you're an uke? You can't just go around bottoming if you're all manly and shit.
Please don't shave, hairy bottoms are the best.
I'm in a pretty anti-homo area, and I'm about to be looking for a job.
What are some faggot friendly jobs? Not just in regards to coworkers, but also customers. Bonus points for jobs more likely to want to hire fags.
For reference, I'm a pretty girly femboy, but feel free to list good jobs for other sorts of legbutts.
>>5967169
clothes stores
>>5967171
I've worked at one before and I hated it, but thanks for the suggestion. I could return to the same company easily since I left on good terms.
why does your job have to be centered around you being a fag ?
people can't look at you and see whether you're gay or not
no one is going to try to fire you for being gay unless you're obnoxious about it
I would pay to see them sniff each other's butts
>>5967000
would pay to see the black one taking a shit
>>5967000
I would pay to see the one on the right get fat
I want to smother my face in the right one's crotch.
Is gender reassignment surgery life-threatening? Is it dangerous? What is the success rate? Does it work for the majority of people that get it?
>>5966996
For a major surgery, its rather tame. Its really only the results that vary
>>5967105
What do you mean by the results varying?
>>5967113
have you seen an axe wound?