/SIG/ Self Improvement General.
NEW STICKY http://4chanfit.wikia.com/wiki//sig/_sticky
How have you improved yourself this week/month/year? Lifting isn't life, a well-balanced human being is productive, has hobbies, pushes him/herself to succeed, is charismatic, and strives to live the best life they can. Share your successes, failures, methods, and everything in between.
The sticky is divided like so:
>Recommended Readings.
>Some tips to get your life back on track.
>Study and Career.
>To-do list habit.rpg (If you’re lost. Start here)
>Focus and meditation
>Finance
Basic Recommendations:
>Have a productivity Framework that is flexible. A mindset that gets you going.
>Use a calendar, like google calendar. Hours and shit for things YOU WILL DO.
>Learn to focus.
>Meditate.
>Do routines for things you should do periodically/daily, this should cover daily things or weekly chores such as laundry, cleaning, shopping.
>Identify and Eliminate conflicts within yourself.
>Focus on identifying the time wasters in your life and eliminate them.
>Focus on the essentials. If you try to do everything at once you’ll burnout. Little by little.
Resources:
arcitea.com/
>This is a good ‘sticky’ for self-development
http://www.bakadesuyo.com/blog/
>Framework
http://youtu.be/b-a1jXgAsQI [Embed] [Embed]
http://youtu.be/3Ao7rZ8-HWo [Embed] [Embed]
http://youtu.be/iG9CE55wbtY [Embed] [Embed]
>Motivation
http://youtu.be/ZtMm0swu5i8 [Embed] [Embed]
http://youtu.be/WxOFvpplvAM [Embed] [Embed]
http://youtu.be/ix4xSzkqwhk [Embed] [Embed]
>If you think there is material that should be added (Or taken off). Please say so.
>There is no central authority for the /SIG/, everyone could copy, modify and upload the info here in a latter post.
>To future curators of the /SIG/. Stray away from PUA, and avoid Fedora stuff please.
>If you try monetizing with this, I’ll cut you.
>I’m looking to expand the ‘how to focus’ Area. If you believe you can help out/have tips, Share!
Material reading can be tricky. There will be trash here and there as we're not /lit/.
But we have to trust others.
Image related has a detailed list that an Annon provided on a thread a while back. If you got time to kill, click on the image, and read the descriptions
As time goes, the /SIG/ has had a couple of books recommended. I’ve done my best to try to get talks of the authors of such books so you can get a ‘piece’ before you commit.
Google a bit about the book, if you think you can get something out of it, watch the talk.
In my opinion, try getting the books “for free”.
If you read it and get something out of it, consider paying for the book.
>Michael Mauboussin, "The Success Equation”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1JLfqBsX5Lc [Embed] [Embed]
>Susan Cain, Quiet: The power of Introverts
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c0KYU2j0TM4 [Embed] [Embed]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85s9wJlzkrk [Embed] [Embed]
>The Brain That Changes Itself, Norman Doidge
https://vimeo.com/14551296
>Antifragile, Nassim Taleb
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k4MhC5tcEv0 [Embed] [Embed]
>One Small Step Can Change Your Life: The Kaizen Way, Robert Maurer
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wWUDV6xJRPc [Embed] [Embed]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CMQb5FJrop8 [Embed] [Embed]
>Mentally Tough, James E. Loehr & Peter J. McLaughlin
>Practicing the Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle
> http://pastebin.com/x7BbYimv
Reading material needs to be added/edited
>http://4motivi.com/books/
Some free books for you to grab
The Way of The Seal
The Code of the Warrior - Rick Fields
The Story of Civilization - Will Durant
The Story of Philosophy - WIll Durant
Starship Troopers - Robert Heinlein 1959 (actually has a lot of really powerful character building stuff in there)
Bravo Two Zero - Andy McNab
Immediate Action - ^
Seven Troop - ^
Also, Project Gutenberg has Thousands of free books.
You could do lot worse than browsing their top 100
http://www.gutenberg.org/browse/scores/top
>Freedom is having control of your life
You should at least have 3 hobbies/activities.
-One that will pay the bills, gets food on your table
-One that will keep you in shape. (lower you faggot)
-One that you're passionate about and might be able to develop into a career.
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If you're into lifting, taking the tips to better yourself should be simple; as you already have built some self-discipline.
Make peace with yourself and the way things are right now.
Stop thinking the world owes you, how destiny ‘fucked you over’, how those guys have it easier.
Accept things as they are, realize that life is cruel and your circumstances are the ones you were given. You can’t do shit about the starting point, but you can move forward.
Don’t focus in what was given to you, focus in what you’ll achieve.
Eliminate the things you dislike about yourself, about your life. Is as simple as, do you enjoy your job? No? Take steps to change the feeling.
How are you gonna make that? You either make your job more enjoyable, or you change jobs. Simple.
You want a girl? how do you plan to achieve that? Are you too socially inept? Work on that.
Are you piss poor and can’t afford a decent living? Work on that too.
No matter who you are, where you are in your life, or how fucked up you think you are.
You can improve your life. Take control. Move forward.
Dreams keeps us alive, fighting for them makes us feel alive.
About 5-7 years ago, I was a fucking train-wreck.
Right now, I'm doing fairly well.
Get some discipline, set some goals and a way to achieve them.
Cultivate yourself, learn stuff, get your shit together.
And realize, understand. None is coming to save you.
You got to make your way through.
You NEED to take CONTROL.
If you're still in School. For fuck sake pay attention.
MORE than half of actually doing good in school is attending, the other half is paying attention in class. So then do it.
Or stop it altogether.
If you’re in college and you’re not feeling it, take a semester to think things through.
If you’re in high school, don’t think YOU NEED to enter college to be successful. There are other ways…
Google just started hiring people who never went to college.
WATCH this talk:
http://youtu.be/iG9CE55wbtY [Embed] [Embed]
Some learning resources, focusing in code since I’m an ‘IT’ guy:
>duolingo.com
First and foremost. Free language learning tool with a really robust app. THIS IS A MUST. Learning a new language will help you out no matter who you are.
>codeacademy.com
Teaches you the basics, from the ground up.
>codeschool.com/
Similar to codeacademy.
>youtube.com/user/thenewboston
Personal favorite. This guy step by step, learns a shit-ton of programing languages. Give this a check and start watching something you’re interested in.
>codeeval.com
This one I really like, once you get your shit going, it puts you ‘objectives’ to solve through code, last batch are really complex.
>coursera.org
It’s a really nice online-course platform. There are really good things here as well.
>openprocessing.org / processing.org / codepen.io
These sites display some really cool stuff, where you can also check the source code and modify it to see what happens.
As for career options.
Choose anything you want, If you want to go into Philosophy or Social studies, That's fucking great. As long as you’re passionate about it, you’ll find a way.
You can always become a teacher or a writer.
BUT BE FUCKING AWARE THAT YOU WILL HAVE A HARD TIME MAKING MONEY. Don't get a loan to study shit that will be expensive to repay.
Other than that, don't enter into something soulless just because 'I'll get money'.
You only got one life, don’t waste it doing something you hate.
You must have a to-do list, it's pretty essential.
As for which, there are several options
Google Keep, Evernote or whatever suits you.
But currently I suggest you use:
https://habitrpg.com/
There’s even a /fit/ guild created to keep us in check.
https://habitrpg.com/#/options/groups/guilds/eeb30614-2936-4f1c-9713-117248d10149
It’s certainly geeky as fuck. But Gamification has been proven to work when applied to certain aspects of human psyche. Helps you stay in check and keeping your eyes on the trophy.
Stupid trivial things I used to do, I stopped once I placed them as ‘Bad habits’.
It also has a mobile app, while it’s a bit limited and on construction, it is free.
There are three main categories.
>Habits. These are things you do by impulse, not under a schedule. Can be good or bad.
+Go for a jog
+Sleep early/on time Sun-Thu
+Walk the dog
+Go for a ride
+Cook something new
+Go out and socialize
+Spend time at the shelter
-Smoke
-Drink soda
-Drink beers
-Eat Junk/Dirty bulk
-Stay up late Sun-Thu
-Fap [?]
-Play 1.5+ Hours vidya a day
-Shitpost
>Dailies are things you ALWAYS do. Every day or certain days of the week. Planned, they are only good.
+Lift (m - w - f)
+Eat your macros(daily)
+Buy Groceries (Sa)
+Read 30 min (daily)
+Practice the Guitar 30 Min(daily)
+Study Video Editing 40 Min (daily)
+Cook (We, Sa)
+Do your daily points in duolingo
>To-Do are, well, things you must do. You can have a checklist within one To-Do.
()Fix the shelf
()Go to the post office and send the package
()Buy the ticket to the concert
()Pay the landlord
()Organize my trip to the moon
—()Get the rocket tickets
—()Get the reservation for the moon Hostel
—()Buy some moonars to have some local money
—()Buy a map of moon city
Seeing the numbers go up (or health go down) is a weird sort of motivation. I can vouch for it. Give it a try, if you have no idea where to start, This is a good one.
Fill your bad habits, put the to-do’s and take it from there.
Meditation and focus is still under construction.
So is Finance for that matter.
But, For finance, there are some tips and tricks from FinanceBrah:
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To get started, you obviously need to get an income sorted, now, there are 2 main ways to make money, work for somebody else, or earn money yourself.
Working for somebody else is self explanatory, you go out and get a job, busting your balls, normally for peanuts if you don't have a great career, and doing that day after day, year after year. Is this always a bad thing? No, most people start here in fact, it tends to be a good, at least consistent way to make money. People do it there whole lives, and that's up to them.
BUT SHIT FINANCEBRAH, I DON'T WANT TO BE BUSTING MY BALLS TO MAKE SOMEONE ELSE A LOAD OF MONEY, I hear you say.
Earning money for yourself.
Again, there are two ways to do this. Firstly, is ACTIVELY earning it, creating a business, that you work at and it provides you with profit, and PASSIVELY earning it, meaning you put money you already have to work.
I can't possible cover off every single way to actively make money in 1 post, but if it interests you, look into it. You can start an online business while you already have a job, if you still want the security. You can start a side gig on the weekends, you can import and sell at markets or online.You can jack it all in, and start a physical business (please don't do that without serious thought) Actively earning money is one of the most rewarding things you can do, IMHO
>Earning online
http://www.lifehack.org/articles/money/24-easy-ways-make-money-the-internet.html
>Low start up cost businesses/part time
http://www.entrepreneur.com/article/201588
http://www.thesimpledollar.com/50-side-businesses-you-can-start-on-your-own/
There are hundreds of articles out there, have a look, see what you think, and do your research.
BUT SHIT FINANCEBRAH, NOW I'M EARNING ALL THIS MONEY, WHAT DO I DO WITH IT, SHOULD I BUY A FERRARI?
You save it, live within your means, don't go into high interest debt, keep your expenses as low as possible, the more you save, the more you can put to work, and the more you can earn without lifting a finger.
Passively earning money.
I like to call this putting your money to work for you, money you saved, investing it, and getting a return on it.
I CAN MAKE MONEY WITHOUT WORKING FINANCEBRAH? ARE YOU FOR REAL.
Yes. This is how most people become wealthy, saving money, and getting a big return on it. But how do you do that? Again, there are hundreds of ways. As a general rule, the higher the risk, the higher the reward. What you invest in depends on your investment strategy, including what return you want, and what risk you're willing to take.
http://www.wikihow.com/Create-an-Investment-Plan
Read it and create one, it should tie in to your long term goals.
Again, too many different kind of investments to cover in one post, here is a good overview of them.
http://www.investopedia.com/university/20_investments/
This is the risk order:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Risk%E2%80%93return_spectrum
I personally prefer Real estate, forex trading, and stocks. There is so much information out there, I can just encourage you to read and learn as much as possible. See what suits your life and where you live.
FINANCEBRAHS RULES ON HOW TO BE FINANCIALLY SMART
>PAYING OFF HIGH INTEREST DEBT IS THE BEST FORM OF SAVING THERE IS, payday loans first,credit cards, ect.
>NEVER GO INTO DEBT TO BUY THINGS THAT DEPRECIATE, IF YOU CAN MANAGE IT
>LIVE WITHIN YOUR MEANS. THE BRAND NAME BAKED BEANS COME AFTER ALL THE HARD WORK
>AVOID ALL LATE PENALITIES ON DEBT
>BUDGET WISELY
and the most important one.
TRY AND SAVE SOMETHING EVERY PAY PERIOD. IT DOESN'T MATTER IF ITS $1, SET A GOAL OF HOW MUCH YOU WANT TO SAVE AND FUCKING HIT IT, PUT IT INTO AN ACCOUNT TO BE USED ONLY FOR INVESTING.
Bump
>>31293301
>>31293672
I motivate myself to go simply because I want to look good, and I entered myself into a triathlon and don't want to drown haha
>>31293672
I used to force myself to go because I paid $25 for the month and $80 for whey. Now I just go out of habit.
>>31293693
>$80 for the whey
please tell me you didn't seriously do this. That's jsut a marketing trick bro, just get the cheapest whey you can it's all created by the same process. Only difference is taste usually.
>>31293672
going shopping. Trying new cloths and seeing in the mirror how shitty they look on me.
>>31293692
So financebrah as I was saying in previous thread about freemasonry, what would we doing most specifically?
Is it just a bunch of men hanging out together? What is the common thing that draws everyone together?
It seems interesting but I'm just a little confused by the vagueness. I'm not sure if I have the right idea in my head or if it's something a bit different.
>>31293738
I did get it. It felt more like if I didn't put the money, I wouldn't force myself enough to go to the gym. If I spent $10 on the gym and $30 on whey, I'd be like, "eh, I don't lose that much if I don't go/use it". But if I spend $100+ I'm going to force myself to do it, even if I hate it.
Interesting stuff thanks
>>31293778
well i guess if you have to force yourself like that... It's just painful to see someone wasting money like that though
>>31293777
You normally go to lodge night once a month, initiate new candidiates, have presentations from older members or vistors. Your lodge might visit others lodges. You always have a huge meal together afterwards. It's great for networking and i love the teachings. Get in contact with your local lodge and talk to some members about it.
>>31293796
It was 5lb whey isolate, if it helps you feel better.
>>31293777
http://www.ugle.org.uk/what-is-freemasonry
>>31293823
Ok thanks I'll try to find more info from my local lodge. I'd love to cool stuff and meet new people.
>>31293844
I buy the same amount of whey for half the price and according to le reddit testing it's among the highest tested actual protein versus advertised(higher than ON whey even).
Anyways, I'm going to bed because it's 4:15. If y'all have any questions, tag this post and ask, ill check it again when I wake up in the morning.
Goodnight anons, we're all gonna make it brahs.
>>31293823
http://www.grandlodge-nc.org/freemasonry-revealed
>The New Member
>Another great benefit of Masonic membership is Masonry’s universality. No matter where a Mason goes in the United States, or in most other countries, he is never far from a Masonic lodge. The lodge is a home away from home for countless Masons who would otherwise on many occasions be extremely lonely. An American member can feel at home, for example, in a French or a German lodge, although he may not understand a word that is spoken. The ritual will differ in some respects from nation to nation, even from state to state, but the teachings and the basics will be the same. And the all-important fellowship is ever present. Lodges go to great lengths in making welcome a visitor from far away.
>Few things can be more valuable to a Mason than the friendships he establishes in Freemasonry. It is said of the fraternity that it “conciliates true friendship among those who otherwise might have remained at a perpetual distance,” and few truer statements were ever made. Extremely shy individuals, men that previously found it difficult to mix with others, have been known to establish friendships by the score upon becoming Masons. Time after time, Freemasonry has demonstrated its ability to bring together and unite men who would have otherwise been forever separated. The unique bonds of the fraternity are invaluable to its members.
Is this really true? Do other masons feel like brothers?
>>31293952
Yes, we call each other brethren. Or Worshipful Brother anon, or brother anon.
It's great, I'm friends with people from all walks of life because of it.
Off to bed now, keep the thread going!
>>31293997
For when you get back but what is the general political view of your mason lodge?
I know it says they don't really discuss politics but surely there must be some general vibe, you know what I mean? Like are they all liberals with face piercings and dyed hair or maybe respectable Nat-socs?
>>31293873
> 2015 anno domini
> taking advice from a degenerate faglord that goes to bed at 4 a.m
Practice what u preach u hypocritical ass.
>>31293577
>If you’re in college and you’re not feeling it, take a semester to think things through.
i did this and then returned and i'm still not feeling it
>>31294054
Oh snap.
Mason chat.
I'm not in this thread normally. But I'm a PM of a very old lodge. Masons welcome all as brothers. It's that simple.
>>31293748
Damn, I was hoping there was a better answer than "I don't like how I look," because I don't like how I look, but that's obviously not enough to move my fat ass.
tldr: the thread
Fuck off tripcunt
>>31294103
Oh nice, I'm reading the website of my local lodge right now and it's just so vague... Could you please explain what I would be doing if i were to join? Or is it just not anything specific and kind of hanging out and talking to eachother?
I just don't want to show up and started discussing national socialist ideas or make a jew joke and they look at me funny.
>>31293577
>duolingo.com
It's good for practice, but not for learning
>codeacademy.com
>codeschool.com/
>youtube.com/user/thenewboston
why post multiple links fro the same thing? plus I don't think learning a new programming language is going to be life changing for most people around, in fact it might be worse. Most people around spend a lot of time sitting around in their computers, they should try to focus their attentions in learning things that dont involve staring at a screen.
>>31293613
Are there any recommended books i can read up on meditation or how the mind reacts to meditation?
how do I work up the courage to blaze my own path?
I aspire to be something, to make something of myself and not fall into anyones plan for me.
the issue is living this
after uni i could easily take a job and fund my passions as hobbies on the side but that's just an ends to a means- who knows if I'll even enjoy or be interested in the job
the only other way is investing in myself to be the best I can be and a lot of luck.
What do I do, more over
How do I do this?
(time for bed class in the morning, please chime in with your advice anons, it'd be really appreciated, financebrah included >>31293873)
>>31292819
>>Send them subtly little hints of what you're going to do to them that night
hmmmmm
this is good
how do you do this?
i've been seeing a girl and we haven't gotten intimate yet
i like to tease her a lot though
if she needs help with an electronic i really like to get up behind her and press my hips against hers and get my face close to her and focus on what i'm doing and pretend i'm not thinking about her
>>>>31294334
Its called foreplay
>>31294348
nah i don't mean foreplay
i mean well in advance before you get into the bedroom
i want her to think about it all day and really want it
>>31293599
You have my respect good sir. This post will be a life changer for me.
is there a vidya game to help learn languages, cuz that would be noice
Just bee yourself
>>31295967
why not just pee urself
whats that picture with 4 categories its like your dream body, your dream style, dream hair, and dream partner? anyone got the template for it? i wanna make one and a thread for it. sorry if this is the wrong thread i cant find one and dont remember the name of it to google it
>>31296004
those threads are dumb and you should feel dumb
>>31296026
name of the thread?
thx in advance friend
>>31296031
idk ccheck the catalogue
>>31296056
i did and cant find the type of thread anywhere, just wanna be able to make a personal one
>>31296062
just wait a few hours until someone else does
or just make your own thread and bump it a few times
check the archive?
>>31296077
someone just kinda started one thankfully
didnt think of the archive
thx
Great thread OP.Very helpful but its so easy to read you and think shit he is rught but so hard to do something about it
>>31295400
>install game in foreign language
recommend me an audio book that'll have a lot of seeders
>tfw not good at closing
Masonic diet
>>31296424
>low fat milk
Not gonna make it.
>>31296424
who the fuck spams this shit
reported for trolling
>>31296424
>coconut oil is okay
>NO SEED OIL
>>31296424
>low fat milk
fag
Everybody should read Arnolds' Autobiography
He's the hardest working person who's ever existed
>>31296500
>Arnolds' Autobiography
where can i find the torrent? all i'm finding is the biography.
>>31296383
The power of self discipline by Brain Tracy
Good morning /sig/. How is everyone making self improvement gains today?
>>31297200
i didn't sleep last night
i've got my day planned today
gonna hopefully go grocery shopping today so i can stop getting carryout and eating like shit
gonna try to start cardio this week
turn down for finals next week
You better make one of those hobbies social.
Your life will be much easier if you let other people into your life.
>>31297226
Nice anon, looks like you've got you day sorted . Good luck with your finals.
>>31297226
Gj man, I just started training for a triathalon, really enjoying it so far.
>>31294327
bump de bump
>>31294327
>>31298026
Well anon, what kind of career would you like to blaze your own path in?
I have a lot of trouble sleeping. My mind basically goes nuts and starts to review my day and bring back shitty memories.
I tried meditation and relaxation techniques but I always end up wandering with my mind.
The only way I can sleep is when I'm so tired that I can't even formulate thoughts in my mind. This usually happens 2 or 3 hours before I need to get up and go to class and as a consequence of this, I've skipped a lot of classes because I'm terrible at waking up if I've had a shitty sleep.
It's really ruining my life, any advice you guys can give me?
>>31298076
writing
I'm working on a story now and trying to decide if I want to turn it into a screenplay or a book.
I also plan on building my portfolio by writing articles for some small media sites if I can on the side
>>31298133
There you go, you've answered your own question anon! I'm not familiar with the steps to become a writer, but just set that as your long term goal, set smaller goals to get you there, and youll be there in no time.
How did you guys decide what you wanted to do as a career?
I've never really had any interests other than vidya and im getting bored of that now, left school at 16 with only GCSE's (high school diploma for ameritards).
It's been five years and i still dont know what to do.
>>31298078
I find that I sleep a lot better after having a productive day. Obviously exercising helps you feel fatigued, but I find when I set my head on my pillow and I have had a day that I have put to good use, my mind is more at rest and I can drift away easily.
I also feel rested the next day when this is the case, even if don't get a full 8 hours.
>>31298489
I tried a shit ton of different things, read about lots of things, and finally decided on a few things i want to do with life.
>>31298489
I just wrote a program to decide what career I should take. Currently finishing my degree in electrical engineering.
>>31298582
can you write me one
>>31298582
>>31299274
Me too man, that sounds useful as fuck.
>>31293544
is that goat a super saiyan
Getting up one more time bros
>>31299364
well kek'd
>>31294322
Mindfulness in plain English.
>>31299364
This cracks me up so much.
>>31299274
Do you trust me giving you a .exe file to run? Besides, it's not some personality trait psych 101 thing. It just spits out a random career, and heavily oriented in engineering.
>>31299314
Why would you, of all anons, need it? Don't you already have a full time job? What about the autoshop you were planning to buy?
>>31300313
First of all, holy shit your fucking post number is a palindrome, and a dope one at that.
Secondly, not at the minute, im waiting to finalize the purchase now, i just thought it would be interesting.
What career did it give you?
>>31300387
Electrical engineering. I didn't know what to pick, so I just let rngesus decide for me.
>>31293613
Can't I just meditate with closed eyes? What is the difference?
I get extremely distracted when staring at the same spot for some time, the image burns into my eyes (we all know this) and the tiniest movement distracts me.
>>31300522
That's decent, you'll be making some sweet bank with that too.
>>31300644
I meditate with closed eyes and most of the people I know do it that way as well. I've tried opening my eyes in longer meditation sessions and it is an interesting experience so whatever floats your boat.
I recommend you this guided meditation by Sam Harris:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OboD7JrT0NE
You start with your eyes closed but at some moment in the meditation he tells you to open your eyes. It is a pretty cool meditation, check it out.
>tfw had very nice bike ride from and to work
>tfw had a nice workout
>tfw saw shitload of chicks ( god bless working at the hospital )
>tfw msged another 3 chicks on the dating site
>tfw spring is in the air
>tfw today was a very good day and another step on the road to becoming a guy i want to be
If only i didn't had such a problem maintaining eye contact with chicks .... ;___;
>>31301008
Gj anon, just practice keeping it with random people when you talk to them, it quickly becomes a habit and you'll look alpha as fuck.
>tfw I'm flying my girlfriend to the UK this week for her spring break so i can have that view for real.
>>31300313
>Do you trust me giving you a .exe file to run?
why wouldn't i trust an anonymous user on an online acadian dessert cookbook?
> It just spits out a random career, and heavily oriented in engineering.
how random is it?
i'm studying comp eng anyway
>tfw have terrible sleep lately with fucked up dreams of banging qts or doing cool shit but wake up with a headache and unrested, usually sleeping for ~12 hours
what do? I le had a dream I was getting intimate with this one cutie in public on the grass leaving bite marks on her ass and just banging dat shit then I wake up unrested as fuck, sleep for 3 more hours, read the news in bed, fap and wake up to go brush teeth and put chicken strips to cook
what could be the reason for this?
>>31298582
>>31299274
>>31301086
Why not just give him the code for it and let him compile it himself?
>>31301073
>just practice keeping it with random people when you talk to them, it quickly becomes a habit
But how ??
Im literally shitting my pants when i have to look into someones eyes even tho im 6'4" 260 lbs ( all fat so no big guy comments plz ) guy ...
Its like a fucking auto-response of my head and eyes to look everywhere but not at that with who am i speaking ..
>tfw I'm flying my girlfriend to the UK this week for her spring break so i can have that view for real.
Mirrin and full jelly because obviously im tfw no gf, even obese nerds flake me .. ;_________;
>>31301101
i know this feel
unrelated, but i had a girl over the other day and we passed out in my bed and spooned and shit and throughout the night while i was less than half conscious for some reason i had the desire to keep moving one of my hands away from her stomach/breasts and over her throat like idk it was turning me on in a subconscious sort of way and i thought about it several times through the night
and then i woke up and took her home and remembered it and felt disgusted and i still feel fuckin creeped out by myself
>>31301161
step one
stop downloading pictures of weird ass butchered plastic whores
>>31301161
Progressive exposure my friend. At first it will feel unnatural and you won't want to do it again (looking people in the eyes I mean) but if you keep doing it consistently, then you will adapt and you will loose that bad reflex.
Also, that pic you posted is gross. I seriously hope you're not turned on by that.
>>31301171
cant say I share that feel but damn bro my sleep is hella fucked up.
I'm sleeping like 10-12 hours a day and it's unquality sleep too... I'm angry as fuck at everyone too can't wait to move out and live in the mountain where i belong
>>31301161
Start putting yourself in awkward situations.
I would just say whatever i wanted whenever i wanted and not care about anything.
Bitches say some passive aggressive shit to me to le ruse me? I just say whatever i think of without stuttering or second guessing myself
You get hella test boost i think too from just doing whatever you want
/SIG/ THREAD THEME OF THE DAY
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LYD-uOCBAvQ
WE'LL RIDE THE BULLET TRAIN TO VEGAS
>>31301218
>Progressive exposure my friend. At first it will feel unnatural and you won't want to do it again (looking people in the eyes I mean) but if you keep doing it consistently, then you will adapt and you will loose that bad reflex.
God i hope so.
Its so fucking hard my stomach turns upside down at the mere thought of this.
>Also, that pic you posted is gross. I seriously hope you're not turned on by that.
Well its little extreme but i am fan of big tits, blondes and flat stomachs.
>>31301426
Gotta try that one.
>>31301383
try to get less sleep
i generally feel better the less i sleep
my problem is making alarms work
i'll get up and walk across the room and turn off three alarms and then go back to bed
>>31301535
>that arm vascularity on a female
come on bro
>>31301553
whenever i wake up at like 8-9 hours of sleep i feel so tired and cant even open my eyes and just incredible headache... so i always have to go back for like 3-4 ohurs more
i think im gonna pick up an amphetamine habit or something to help this
>>31300948
Just went through this. Was intense. Thanks
>>31301535
Try looking at it as a workout and leave your ego at the door when you're trying to improve, especially social skills. Not trying to sugar coat it, you're going to feel pretty terrible the first days or even months and in order to improve socially you'll have to drag yourself from the comfort zone.
That doesn't mean you need to do retarded stuff but you'll definitely need to do things you normally don't do and do them regularly because falling off the wagon is pretty easy and you don't want to start over and over again.
Good luck anon
I Couldn't finish my workout, Hold me /SIG/ I'm going to cry ;__;
>>31301553
so should I just force myself to wake up at like 6:30 every morning for example? Regardless of how much I slept or how refreshed I feel?
Theoretically after a while that should give me a routine and get used to waking up at that time, right?
>>31301656
But you did something right ?
Thats good but next time you will do better.
>>31301597
Yeah man, in times like this i fucking hate my former self who wasted entire youth on being fat, playing vidya and fapping to porn ...
>>31301695
>Yeah man, in times like this i fucking hate my former self who wasted entire youth on being fat, playing vidya and fapping to porn ...
not that anon but same story brah
>tfw I missed out on countless opportunities to get pussy as a teenager
oh well brah cant tread on the past just gotta keep moving keep evolving ya feel me
>>31301695
Don't look at it as wasted youth. I tend to think that everything happens for a reason, either for you to learn a lesson or to test you life values.
Everything that has happened in your life leads to this very moment, you wouldn't have this drive to change if you hadn't experience all those moments in the past. If you actually want your past to mean something, start working in the present you have.
Read Eckart Tolle's books, they're a bit new age but their deeper meaning might get you.
Are you a member of any other secret societies?
>>31301656
What happened bro?
>>31301785
Yes, we are a part of Natty Knights.
ITT overlogical fags guide to life
learn to live life spontaneously, find your passion and follow it. process your fears and anxieties so that they dont hinder you. For gods sake dont turn your life into a list of schedules and calculations. life is for living
>>31301785
yeah the illuminazis we kill black people with electricity
>>31301819
>DUDE LIFE IS FOR LIVING LMAO #yolo
>>31301785
Yeah man, im the founder and only member of the elite communist terrorist cell "People's Power".
>>31301723
>>31301777
I know i shouldn't look at my wasted youth and shit ... it just hurts as fuck and gets me pissed of to know that i have no hot stories of first sex, first loves and shit...
Ech, nevermind :/
Good thing im not THAT old so i will still slay some teenage pussy when i get fit as i like.
>>31301161
Haha dw, I'm fat too, neglected my eating while i was making bank, working it off now though, I'm 6'9, you've just gotta look alpha as fuck and people will think its true because of your height.
>>31301785
Yepp, all of them.
But nope, not unless you count the ones associated with freemasonry like knights templar.
>>31301656
Make up for it tomorrow brah!
>>31301553
>>31301563
>>31301383
http://polyphasicsociety.com/
Try polyphasic sleep patterns. Obviously, don't start with Uberman or Dymaxion, ye morons.
>>31301008
Just look them in the left eye, right for u. Will solve your problem in 1 sec. Sick life hack.
>>31301819
Funny that because living my life the way I want to takes money, and to get money means being organised. See how the that works?
>>31301905
Acceptance is key, my friend.
Also, don't delude yourself anon. Work on your social skills from day 1 or you'll regret it in the future when you're /fit/, nothing looks more ridiculous than a physically appealing guy with assburgers.
>>31301819
>overlogical
I really don't think that it's a thing.
Anyway, most people here are trying to stabilize their lives and better themselves, it's just as valid of a goal as having fun. The reason why your advice doesn't help too much is because it's basically "don't be afraid, learn X, do X", without any advice on how to. If you didn't know how to do it yourself, you would not be able to "just do it", don't you think?
Also, this "overlogical" process helps people ground them in reality, so they could maybe one day just leave the world behind and live in woods. Because if you still have your shitty job that you don't care about, all those minor spontaneous things don't help, and I wouldn't really call it much of a freedom.
>>31301905
Shit son that image. Girls in stockings give me a raging hardon.
>>31301964
I know that working on my mind is as important as my body man.
Chill im not a typical /fit autist.
>>31301984
Same here bro, here have another one.
>>31301961
Lol, is it legit or am i getting trolled now ?
>>31301935
>6'9
NOW I want some advice from you. Pretty young person here, but 6'7 anyway, and I have a bunch of problems with my shoulders. I do not lift, I am somewhat close to skelly mode. At the moment, I am not really allowed to do much of anything that's not cardio. Really, even push-ups can be dangerous for my shoulders. Did you encounter anything like that in your life, and how fit are you now? If you are relatively fit/not clumzy as heck, it'd be very nice to hear.
>>31302049
>Lol, is it legit or am i getting trolled now ?
I can confirm that it can be helpful. That way, you are not actually making eye contact, it's like you are looking at a thing that is separate from the body. It is something that is suggested to some actually autistic people.
>>31301935
>member of all of them
even Cicada 3301?
>>31301785
>>31302088
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Combat_18
>>31302075
I've had tight shoulders, but I got a program from a friend, and it sorted itself out. Google lee Boyce shoulder mobility, he knows his stuff.
How fit am I now? Not as fit as I have been, used to be a 3 sport athlete and have a 34 inch vert. Now after my over bulk I'm more strong than fit, working on my cutting and cardio though to get back there.
>>31302075
>I can confirm that it can be helpful. That way, you are not actually making eye contact, it's like you are looking at a thing that is separate from the body. It is something that is suggested to some actually autistic people.>>
Cool, i will try that tomorow at work.
>>31302075
Thats not the way I would describe it, but whatever. It helps.
>>31302188
financebrah, is there a way to dispute a will?
Let's say you didn't get put in your parents will and your sibling got all their stuff instead, is there some way to dispute it and get your rightfully deserved stuff?
>>31295400
Try plaing LOL in LAN instead of NA. You'll get better pings if you're from the East Coast, and you'll HAVE TO learn some basic Spanish to understand the menus and the players.
>>31302505
I think you're entitled to a certain amout of your parents legacy, at least that's the way it is in Germany.
To all the people playing HabitRPG
I'm gonna be on vacation for a week soon, and I don't want to die in the meantime, since I wont be able to log in. Is there a way to adjust the settings or sth. in order to 'freeze' the game for a week?
>>31302555
Rest in the Inn ?
>>31302555
Social -> Tavern -> Rest in the Inn. It freezes it for however long you want to.
>>31302568
>>31302583
ah thanks guys, didn't know such a thing existed, I only used the checklists so far.
>>31302505
Yeah, you'd need to contact an attorney and file for a freeze of the estate in court.
>>31302533
>>31302642
Ok just checked, yeah I'd have to "challenge" the will and it says it's a lengthy and expensive process. Oh well if you wanna get guap you gotta hard as my nigga Jamal always said.
I hope these fuckers leave the house for me tho, I'll never have to work again lel
>>31293544
freemason.
>all faiths accepted, you can take oaths on any of the religious texts
"I am the LORD your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of slavery. 3"You shall have no other gods before Me. 4"
>you have to take oaths
"All you need to say is simply 'Yes' or 'No'; anything beyond this comes from the evil one."
>you do secret rituals
"Do not participate in the unfruitful deeds of darkness, but instead even expose them; 12for it is disgraceful even to speak of the things which are done by them in secret."
Sorry bro, i dont know what you were told, but God isn't pleased with you. Probably.
some more reasons;
John 14:11, 13 tells Christians to call upon God the Father in the name of Jesus Christ. Yet in Masonic lodges prayers are always directed to the generic 'Great Architect of the Universe'. Masons deliberately omit the holy name of Jesus Christ from their prayers.
Upon reaching a certain rank, people are called "worshipful masters", christians are supposed to reserve worship for the lord through jesus.
>>31302683
good because jesus is a faggot
paganism for life none of that pussy ass turn the other cheek pussy nigga shit
>>31302555
> HabitRPG
What in the fuck is this?
>>31302769
see:
>>31293599
Neat little website that helps you stick to your habits and daily chors.
>>31302729
>paganism
>summoning up spirits
>giving permissions for entities on the other side to communicate with you and affect your life
>you dont REALLY know who you're talking to
>you dont know whether they are there to help you or take advantage of you
>not seeing all the celebs who get possessed by isis or whoever and go mental
>walking away from easily attainable paradise in heaven
not realising your the one getting fuckpuppeted
An online friend of mine told me I have sex appeal, that he told some girl about me and she was a bit in love with me.
I was shocked at that, because I have absolutely zero idea of how to have sex appeal and even less about how to display it. The one single thing I feel confident about is my Linux skills, my strength and a little bit my LOL skills (and I still suck because I'm at MMR 650 with like 65 wins and 90 defeats), and everything else I feel like I suck at it. I don't feel good about my body, social skills, dancing skills, nothing.
I also have a lingering feeling that I am childish and immature. I didn't mature while in college, all I gained was academic knowledge, because there was no time to grow up in computer science when I had to turn in a slew of assignments after assignments that only stopped the day I graduated.
So now I'm basically doing everything I didn't do in college, and this is a problem, because it means I am now getting in trouble at an age where I now have something to lose. I smoke weed and get mad shitfaced every other week, I hang out with borderline outlaws just to feel hardcore, and I recently totaled my car while on a drinking bender (I wasn't driving so no DUI, but I was the car's owner and had the obligation to not expose my car to danger and not go out).
Right now, dire financial straits are coming. I'm going to have to fork like 60% of my income towards buying a replacement car to prevent Shylock Goldberg from taking half my car's worth on credit interest, which means giving up all the luxuries I was used to. I feel like my life is going to absolutely fucking suck for the next year and I am not sure if I'm going to be able to weather that storm.
>>31302850
>worshipping a kike who died on a stick who was gay as can be
>worshipping a kike who died on a stick with backstabber friends
>believing your local pastor who touches children's privates
>giving money to a building of worship created by the guy who created the earth supposedly
fuck off christcuck
>>31293544
>http://4chanfit.wikia.com/wiki//sig/_sticky
Thank you based financebrah!
>>31301695
>>31301792
>>31301935
Thanks ;_; I was doing squats when remember they were going to restyle the gym and I can't finish the workout don't know if put it like done in habitrpg but any way tomorrow will be an epic workout I know, thanks again brehs
>>31302683
You're trying to tell me about masonic teachings, when clearly you have no idea about them.
>>31303765
I would rebut all of your points, but its good for the world uneducated people like you exist.
>>31302863
Keep fighting anon, you can weather any storm put in front of you.
>>31303807
financebrah I read some reddit AMA's about freemasons last night. Seems bretty cool, my local lodge's website seems good as well.
Would you say the people there are more rightwing than leftwing?(I know it says everywhere that they don't discuss politics or religion during meetings)
>>31303934
Yes very much so. They are mostly very conservative.
>>31303934
Just because we don't just talk about it in the lodge, doesn't mean we don't when we get together for drinks and stuff. I know most of the guys volunteer for political causes.
>>31303850
I'll try to think about how I'm going to get rid of so much people who just want me for my money.
Well, actually, come to think about it it's just one single person, but here's the thing: this dude is one of my closest friends from high school. We met when we were young and money was completely irrelevant. Then I went to STEM and he went to design, STEM careers are few people and high demand whereas every year thousands of designers graduate but few people actually need them, and as a result I make like 3 times as much as he does. He let money get to his head and probably started feeling envious at me. Now he thinks he's entitled to have full access to my money and every time I tell him that I have no money or I tell him to pay his own shit (which is true because I'm a gigantic spendthrift) he loudly says YOU MAKE MORE THAN $50,000 A YEAR, WHERE IS ALL YOUR MONEY AND WHY DON'T YOU SHARE EVEN A LITTLE.
Yesterday we hung out, and I announced them that dire financial straits were incoming and I wouldn't be able to pay any more of his shit. His thought was "SO IF YOU SUFFER I WILL SUFFER TOO?". Bitch, you never pay for your own shit, of fucking course you're going to suffer if I suffer, and the only one who is hurting you is yourself because you always rely on others and never on yourself.
So now that I won't have any money, this guy is probably not going to want to hang out with me anymore. Serves me right, since he's been slowly showing signs of slipping sanity and his attitude has been worsening since we left college.
>>31303993
>>31304326
Kewl. So if I were to say some national socialist ideas and make a couple jew jokes I wouldn't get looked at funny?
If so I'll probably check out my local lodge when I move soon.
>>31304576
Anyone would look at you funny. That's not normal to do around people you first meet. The fact I have to explain this is sad.
>>31304642
;-; I've done that for almost every friend I've made(not that many truth be told). They usually respond to it in a encouraging manner.
Maybe it's just because I see if they would agree or be opposed to it before I approach them. But so far 100% success rate.
>>31304576
I'd refrain from the Jew jokes, but I make socialism jokes all the time, can't stand socialists.
>>31304500
Haha, yeah I'm too nice with my money so i dont know that feel, but real friends aren't friends with you for money reasons, obviously.
>>31304670
Worst thing is I don't even ask for much in that regard. I'm actually OK with that other friend who is always polite when asking for me to pay his stuff, always says in advance he has no money and never orders too much. That other dude literally orders like he had the money to pay for it and then expects me to foot the bill. This will come to a stop though, and he will have no choice but to pay himself or hit the road, and I think he will choose hitting the road.
>>31304670
Sweet. Some of the people in the reddit amas said that masons tend to hook their brother masons up with jobs. Is this true that you've heard or seen?
Also I've heard that in some lodges almost all members are 60+ for example and so the younger guys stop attending because no one to relate to.
>>31304781
Just ditch him and tell him you're sick of him leaching off you
>>31304794
First point, yes, it's a very good network to be a part of in that regard.
Second point, yes, they really need younger members, I'm 23, the next youngest person in my lodge who regularly attends is 50ish. Personally I think its great, one of my good friends at the lodge just turned 90, I've learnt a lot from him, and everyone in general, its like having 20 grandfathers would be one way to look at it.
Holy shit you people are losers.
*tips fedora*
>>31304916
Fuck off with your fedora shit, I'm sure there is a thread specifically for you to shitpost in.
>>31304912
Hmmm that sounds both good in some regards but also not so good...
I guess I'll still check it out though and if anything might just only visit a few meetings once in a while if there isn't very many people 20-40. I just feel like I'd stick out like a sore thumb and it would be really awkward...
>>31304832
It's not that easy to ditch a lifelong friend, but rest assured it will happen. I don't even need to do it, my finances will take care of it.
>>31304669
Feel them out first. Or go dressed up as hitler. Your choice.
>>31305215
I would never disrespect the Fuhrer in such a manner.
>>31305046
The reason they don't have any young people is because there are no young people, so it ends up in a big cycle. The people you meet there will be friends for life though
>>31305250
Didn't you have to be son or grand son of a member to join?
>>31304912
I'm poor as fuck and looking to meet people in a new city, plus I really need a job. If being a freemason could help me find one I'm down. How does one become a mason? What are the requirements? How much does it cost? Sorry if these questions have been answered already, I'm rushing around to finish my dailies today before I have to go to bed.
Am I member of a specific lodge or just a mason in general? The lodge here is shit according to my professor.
>how to make money
>join a cult/elite club
>????
>$$$$ profit
FinanceBrah Tell us how is a normal day in your life, what important desisions you have to take every day plx
>>31305284
My Dad is a mason, but no, that isn't a requirement.
>>31305289
It might cost $200 a year for your dues, but don't become a freemason just to find a job. Google your local lodge and talk to your secretary.
>>31305339
Both, you're a mason with a home lodge, when you go to that lodge you can vote in lodge matters, when you go to other lodges, you will be received as a visitor representing your lodge.
>>31305408
Not really it at all.
>>31305417
My life is boring at the minute, I'm in the process of buying a business, so i just keep track of all the markets, read the news and then learn from articles or books or whatever.
>>31305507
Any specific financial advice for a high school student?
>>31305603
Just learn as much as you can, and save as much as you can while you don't have to worry about living expenses. Knowing how to manage your finances when you leave home will put yo ahead of 90% of your peers
>>31305507
>tfw your parents don't know shit regarding finances or even life in general except for some things
Should I bother teaching them, financebrah?
I've gotten in several arguments with them about how investing is a good idea and they just shut me down and say the typical excuses as well stuff like "well we're older than you so we have more life experience and we know things aren't always they seem" or just shit like that.
I've tried to educate them on common nutrition myths and about investing and stuff but it's just doing more harm than good I feel.
>>31305701
not that anon btw. just guy asking you 100's of questions over last few days lol. Mostly about masonry
>>31305701
It's okay, eh you can only teach people who want to be helped from my experience. Try to get them to read Rich Dad Poor Dad, that explains the benefits of investing wisely and why investing is better than working, but if they resist, there isn't much you can do anon!
>>31305835
Yeah I guess I should just apologize to them and try to not bring up subjects they could disagree about. Better to be on good terms with them than to be right I suppose.
It just really bugs me some of the stuff they say, a lot of it anyone who knows anything regarding the subject would just laugh in their face and spit on them.
I think one time they were telling me that index funds are a stupid idea lol
>>31305932
Eh, honestly each to their own, maybe you can't teach old dogs new tricks haha.
My dad is a qualified accountant, and I still give him investment advice. But like you say, better to have a good relationship with them.
>tfw forgot about my after the first few days HabitRPG and probably dead now
>tfw doing a lot of MDMA recently
>tfw discovering that people don't secretly hate me at all, that I'm a fucked up paranoid idiot that needs to get out of his own head and start being normal
Hence why I'm here to not be a mental fuck up. Hopefully this leads to losing my virginity as well.
Feeling down. I've improved myself a ton, but not as much as I should.
I've lost about 60lbs, gained a decent amount of muscle. Look better than I ever have in my life. Dress better, talk more confidently. I got into a relationship for the first time with an absolutley amazing girl who I've now been with for 2 years and she is way out of my league. I dropped out of my shitty program and am upgrading my credits to go back to uni for a real major.
But its all taken me so long I feel like I wasted so much time. I've technically been lifting for 3 years now, a year and a half with a real program. But my squat is only 300lbs 3x5, I have to upgrade highschool crap at 24 because I was a retard when I was 17.
And now I've inspired all my friends to start lifting and I'm afraid what with my 15 months to get a 300 squat that they will quickly become stronger than me and I will end up being the underwhelming and below average guy of the group that I always was in my teenage years.
I wish I could be happy that I have improved, but I just feel like I failed in reaching the potential I could have reached.
>>31306346
probably not.
>>31306459
Start doing a strength program if you want to go up, would be my first bit of advise.
And only time will change that mentality anon, just keep making those small steps every day, and realize the past is the past and you can't change it, you can only learn from it and keep moving forward.
who iron pill here???
>>31300522
I'm in my last year of EE, i'm excited to be making above-average starting salary for new graduate engineers but at the same time the past four years have felt like a jail, that's how busy I am. It requires a ton of discipline, and really sacrifices. People like to make jokes about picking two of either sleep, social life, or good grades but I find its exactly that.
The math is very serious. Whether it's extra-low voltage stuff, high-voltage stuff like power systems, you will see a ton of math.
>>31306574
I've been doing SS for 14 months now. Which is what I mean by I'm progressing too slowly. I spent a good 6 months on a cut however and had sciatica and was unable to squat or deadlift for 2 months which took a serious toll on my strength. But even so there are too many times where I either couldn't go up in my lifts, or I was too tired or where I missed a day due to getting called into work or something. I'm beating myself up because I know where I should be at if I followed the program better and I know how my friends will probably follow it better than I and end up outclassing me in strength where I failed. This is why I can't be happy with the progress I made, I know I should have done better and I know my friends will do better and the only reason that is is because I'm not good enough.
>>31306544
You were right, close though.
>>31306788
13 months is an awful long time on SS, as soon as you stop that linear progression and deload a couple of times you should move onto madcow or 5/3/1. Keep going though anon, lots of small gains add up to big ones in the long run.
>>31306636
>Low Fat Milk
YHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAYHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAYHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAYHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAYHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAYHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHA
>>31306636
>no chicken
>cola
>>31306874
Yes, I'm aware its a very long time, which is why I see myself as a failure. I would load up 5 or lbs more onto the bar and just fail so my progress went slow. I didn't switch off of it because my results weren't goon enough to do so. Everything I had read and everyone who had given me advice said I should continue on it until at least a 300lb squat, Which I am at now, so im about ready to move on, but my OHP and Bench are still terrible and should progress from linear progression.
>>31306874
financebrah, my best buddy what do you suggest I do for programming $ gains?
Should I learn some shitty android development(that i've been dreading for ages btw) to make an app for dosheroo?
hello guys.
first of all, /SIG/ is awesome. /SIG/ is all i've been looking these months.
Noticed /SIG/ three days ago, I've been visiting /fit/ since february couldn't post any reply because i didn't have my laptop and my phone is shit. I don't know how I missed this threads.
I'm about to ask a question, but i don't know if the thread is going to be kill soon.
Usually gets the limit of replies right?
>>31307077
do it anyway
How do I get a girlfriend as a neet?
It seems that to get girlfriend you need to have some sort of communication with the outside world and mutual friends, something like a job or going to school... How does one do this? After being neet for so long and being lonely I've just recently realized that I could in fact get a girlfriend instead of waiting around for something, I just don't know how.
>>31307168
If you want to get a girlfiriend, quit being a fucking neet.
>>31307283
working on it m8 it's not as easy of a task as just crushing my ballsack with my fingers and turning into a productive member of society
reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeereeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
>>31307069
Probably the easiest way, or start freelancing on one of the many sites out there
>>31307069
Still 100 replies away
>>31307168
Don't go out looking for a girlfriend, just go out and try meeting people and you'll stumble across one
Goodnight /sig/kunts, keep them brain gains coming.
>>31307129
>>31307129
ok, and i'll again again in the next thread, just to be sure.
LONG ASS TEXT INCOMING.
I'm a 18y-o dude from South America who finished high school last year.
Now i'm starting the Uni (started like a month), i picked English translator, because I know some english thanks to internet and I also wanted to learn a bit more so I can shitpost better and maybe travel to USA.
Here's the deal: I hate it.
At uni I'm in the stage of "small classes for the admission test"
I hate almost every class.
Verbs, analyzing sentences, stupid rules... what the fuck. AND all of these shits also for my own language.
I hated language in high school and i still hate it.
Is not that hard for me, but I REALLY don't like it.
I think I can make it, I think can study any career and finish it, but that doesn't mean I enjoy it.
Every class I feel sad as fuck, my mind goes "what the fuck am I doing here?"
I don't know if I should leave the uni.
I don't know what will my mother think, she really wants me to study something. She also paid for some "preparation classes" like 2 months ago.
We also had trouble because I didn't know what to study for a long time.
I'm living with my brother in another city, because the uni is there. I had to become more indepedent. We cook almost 50/50, and I love cooking, damn you can see the results of the effort of cooking after a few minutes!
I was thinking, if I leave the uni, I can study for chef. I don't know if i'll have the same trouble (hating everything about the learning process), but I don't think so.
Also, i don't know if a chef is well paid.
cont...
>>31307647
What should I do?
I'll visit my mom this weekend, and the addmision test takes place this 17 (I can take another, but harder, in april)
Should I tell her before the exam? Should I even take the exam?
My life is getting better. I started the gym last month, I'm eating healthy, I'm taking cold showers, I bought a bonsai 2 days ago. And now I'm considering meditation. Also, I'm thinking about buying a keyboard piano in a few months.
I wanted to kill myself, but those improvements made me change my mind.
The only bad thing In my life (besides all my beta past) is what I'm studying in the Uni.
Thanks for reading, I'm gonna repost this on /adv/ tomorrow.
Seriously, thanks for reading.
Just curious but what are all you guys lifting these days? Stat wise? Seems like everyone here for the most part are fat or out of shape. I mean makes sense as its the self improvement thread. But I'm wondering if anyone here has improved and is still around to give advice or get advice on other parts of their life.
>>31307666
I'm in great shape, but not strong by any means.
I box, so I only take the time to lift twice a week, and do conditioning on other days.
>>31293544
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nq6PpqChnY8
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qkTBMZNqf34
I wrote this song for you, /sig/ bros.
>>31307663
>>31307647
Litterarum radices amaras, fructus dulces.
>>31307663
Figure out if it's the coursework making you miserable or if you're miserable and that's what makes the coursework suck. English is convoluted as fuck, so it will only get more grindy and technical as you go on. If that's what's making you miserable then explore other options. On the plus side if your English proficient you could study abroad in America.
>>31307666
Law school is literally killing me. I'm finally getting my diet back in order, but I haven't been consistently lifting for about a year and a half. DDR is my main form of exercise.
>>31307168
As a neet you pretty much won't. Put that project on the back burner until you've emerged from your shell and doing at least decent in other areas.
>>31309818
Surely it must not be so hard? What really separates me from other people except for not having work/college?
>>31309937
Being the kind of person who has their shit together enough to actually improve their station in life?
If you're lonely and have nothing else to offer besides your loneliness, what girl would want to date you? What do you bring to the table?
>>31310268
tru ;-;
Idk anymore man i just want to get away from my toxic family but i have no cheddar to do so...
I'm sure if i could move out I would rapidly improve myself and actually become a respectable man
>>31302923
>>worshipping a kike who died on a stick who was gay as can be
>>worshipping a kike who died on a stick with backstabber friends
he stand on His beliefs atleast
>>31302923
>>believing your local pastor who touches children's privates
>>giving money to a building of worship created by the guy who created the earth supposedly
This is literally only in murica
>>31310431
I know our(white people's) history is strongly based around Christianity but I'm not so sure I can practice and put my faith into such a shite religion that doesn't hold the same values as me.
Paganism is better in every respect than Christanity, you don't even have to believe in it literally, just as a great mythology filled with important lessons.
Maybe it's a stupid thought, but I guess all I want in life is to become somebody people genuinely enjoy being around. My new trigger I'm trying to internalize for when I catch myself fucking up on my goals is to think of landscapes, so many experiences and possibilities I'm closing myself off to by still falling into the patterns of the person I was.
>>31310308
Fuck it, put in your FAFSA, brush up on your scholarship letter writing and bite the bullet on loans for the rest. If you're of the age range for college, not doing so despite no other direction and weren't born into wealth, I just don't know what the fuck you're doing.
I know this may sound a little odd but can anyone provide some advice on how to get stressed or mad? For four years in college (which ended a year ago) I used to run and exercise every morning and evening with my rotc unit. During my early years when I lost a lot of weight and cut down on my run time, most of my thoughts were how much how I hated being there and how I was gonna manage my time/mandatory workouts/sleep/school aka stress. During the first year I had a sophomore that made my life pretty shitty everyday and almost all workouts.
Well needless to say for the past year after graduating nothing seems to bother me anymore. No situation provides stress anymore and when I workout there isn't any fire to keep me going. I know I shouldn't really be asking mental health type stuff here but I don't really feel anything anymore. Have I become dependent upon a drill sergeant type person and how do I go about fixing this?
I spend one minute a day entering data into an excel sheet; and I have done this for 137 days. It's basically a <4 sentence journal entry every day that I can control+f a persons name, location etc and I can see how i've interacted with that in my life.
February has been my happiest month this year.
>>31306423
I want to try MDMA and shrooms. They seem to provide a life changing experience.
Serious question here. How come the mods haven't deleted this thread? I think it's a great thread and I'm learning a lot of stuff but since it isn't strictly fitness related, I was wondering.
>trying to better myself in every way possible
>cant think of any other ways
Taking MOOCs, reading at least an hour a day, school and learning two languages, what else can I do
>>31310883
/fit/ is health and fitness, this is mental health
>>31311095
It hasn't been health and fitness for years. It's just fitness now.
>>31311095
How are you on the social end?
>>31311624
I am socially inept, its definitely my biggest issue, and its harder than just reading and learning, no idea where to start
>>31311635
Yeah, that's a tough one, it seems like I sort of lucked into what social experience I've had. If I really get down to it though, it boiled down to putting myself out there in a way that back then was very unusual and uncomfortable for me to do. You're most likely going to have to take some sort of action, in any case, or be mired in your current social patterns.
>>31311678
bumpo
>>31312872
didn't mean to quote >>31311678
>>31313229
You had me worried for a second there.
Meeting new people after college is fucking difficult without a job. I googled my local Freemason lodge and their flyer says they're all about self-development, family and community. Maybe I'll look into joining.
>25
>own place with girlfriend
>full time marketing job on £18k a year
i want to retrain to make more money, would it be dumb to go back to uni?
>>31313684
Nah but make sure you can afford to if you do. 18k a year is shit man.
>>31313694
yeah well it would be a student loan i guess, just don't want to go back and get a shit degree.
>>31311095
Maybe the mods see that this is a thread that has civil conversations and ignores the trolls.
It's a streach, yes, but the basics of this thread fall perfectly with a person who lifts.
You wanna be better.
At the end of the day, it's a good thread.
I've was a /fit/ user for years before I decided to work on the /SIG/.
I've been a bit busy lately, but thankfully Financebrah has taken then torch.
>>31313735
I'm glad you kept forcing it, it's probably the best thread on fit at the moment
>>31313735
Lmao no. /fit/ is unmoderated.
"Self improvement general"
Ways I've Improved:
>Lifted
>Ate to my macros
>Studied all my subjects
Currently trying to build up the time each session. I'm sort of building up my endurance I guess. I've never studied in my life so it's a new experience and I find it takes a lot of discipline. Building up to 45 minute sessions with 15 minute rests in between is the end goal.
>Meditated
>Got up early
>Read part of my book
Ways I want to improve:
>Start making mediation a regular thing and build up the duration of each session.
>I want to start talking to more people, I'm not some socially awkward cunt but I just get a bit nervous sometimes.
>I want to start getting some plates in my new setting. This pretty much goes with the previous point, I know I can do it but it's just nerve racking.
That's it for now, start slow and build up.
Thanks bros.
I love self-improving except for school. I still can't motivate myself to pull my school life together. Which is weird, because the rest of my life is going to based off of what I do in class the next couple of years much more than how much I lifted, what I ate, or what hobbies I had.
How do you guys find the motivation to study and do work? If I wanted to get homework done as much as I want to lift I would have straight A's.
>>31314741
I didn't, thats why I left.
Sup /sig/kunts!
>>31314877
How do you find financial stability then?
>>31315168
I told my story in another thread, here it is.
And I don't really, I could fuck up and lose it all, but to me thats the fun of it
>>31315203
Holy shit. Nice.
>>31315203
how much is a freemason linked with christ? The things i read about them seems promising and i found a loge near me. But the christ stuff worrys me a bit
>>31315203
financebrah what's up with jehovah's witnesses in your opinion? Are they bro-tier or not
>>31316148
no, they are pretty strict. I know a girl who killed herself because her family ignored her after she left the Witnesses.
>>31316198
o... They look so nice from the outside though. Always wearing those suits and talking in a calm and friendly manner
>>31316238
I always found them pretty annoying tbh.
Everyone who's gonna force their beliefs on you is not worth your time.
>>31315758
They just have to profess a belief in a supreme being, some are christian, some have less conventional beliefs. In all lodges, you have a volume of the sacred law, which in most christian nations is a bible.
>>31316148
I know a couple and they are good guys, personally not a fan of them as a whole though, I know people that have killed them self because they never fit in, with the not being allowed to celebrate birthdays and such. Also, I've known of people dying because the religion forbids blood transfusions.
They came to my house once when I was like 13 and home with just my brother, and i asked them to leave and they didn't. They came back for a follow up a couple of weeks later, my Dad answered the door and told them in not so many words they weren't welcome, with a large knife in his hand haha.
>>31316404
Oh haha, yeah I hear they're far more annoying in other places and lecture you but here they just give you a small brochure and wish you a good day, never saying more than that.
Used to have some good friends who were Jehovah's witnesses but we slowly drifted apart...
>>31307647
>>31307663
halp!
How do you guys live with the monotony of life?
>>31316914
Combat it.
Do something NEW everyday, new excersise, take new route from work, take steps to finish all those things lagging behind that you always wanted to do ( fixing your teeths, jelqing, dance lessons whatever ).
If you play vidya, start FINISHING games instead of playing another rounds/matches/races on the same map with the same people, against easy AI whatever.
Pick up new books, watch NEW movies instead of watching the same one for the xth time.
Do something crazy like parkour, picking up girls in crowded places etc.
Works for me.
I think that all the SIG sticky (first posts) should go into fit general sticky.
