/SIG/ Self Improvement General
"I dont have the proper op post"-edition, /r/ing it
How have you improved in your life besides gym, diets and lifting?
>>30906596
bamp
How have you improved yourself this week/month/year? Lifting isn't life, a well-balanced human being is productive and charismatic, has hobbies, pushes him/herself to succeed, and strives to live the best life they can. Share your successes, failures, methods, and everything in between.
Videos:
http://youtu.be/b-a1jXgAsQI
http://youtu.be/3Ao7rZ8-HWo
Reading material:
> http://pastebin.com/x7BbYimv
More reading material needs to be added
> arcitea.com/
The Way of The Seal
The Code of the Warrior - Rick Fields
The Story of Civilization - Will Durant
The Story of Philosophy - WIll Durant
Starship Troopers - Robert Heinlein 1959 (actually has a lot of really powerful character building stuff in there)
Bravo Two Zero - Andy McNab
Immediate Action - ^
Seven Troop - ^
>Mentally Tough - James E. Loehr & Peter J. McLaughlin
>Antifragile - Nassim Taleb
>The Brain That Changes Itself - Norman Doidge
>The Power of Now - Eckhart Tolle
That Art of Manliness blog was originally included in this OP, but the only people that read it are neckbeards that fetishize things that happened 100 years ago so I took it out. The pastebin for this post is http://pastebin.com/3n1RuYBL
>>30906794
Thanks pal
Been using a note app (Google Keep) to keep better track of bills, deadlines, etc. Seems to be helping. Fixing my sleep schedule is next in line, I'm really overdue for getting that in order.
We really shouldn't put a copypasta into the OP if we're not going to put any effort into it. I'm not saying that the resources that are in it bad, but if something is going into the OP of every thread it needs to be the best free resource for its topic or damn near close. At the very least a prohibition on ">muh major" shitposting needs to be added right away; that shit belongs on /biz/.
>>30906596
Why can't I keep to my good habits in the evenings?
I fixed my morning schedule and start the day feeling great, but when I get home I fall into bad habits, fapping, eating junk, etc.
Any advice or tips to stay motivated at the end of the day?
>>30907066
Get more rest at night, or wake up later so you're not tired until later in the evening.
>>30906794
reading fiction and old philosophy for self-improvement is stupid
>>30906596
How do i get white teeth? srs question
Is teeth-whitening the only way to go?
>>30908559
bought whitening shit off ebay, working for me
>>30908568
What kind? I have no clue about this shit.
Do you like apply it to your teeth? Or is it light?
>>30906794
>http://youtu.be/b-a1jXgAsQI
This one is actually pretty fucking good.
>>30906596
>>30909092
Aye, really good. Not sure if it's specific to men though. I think it's how every winning person should talk to people. Always put the other person on the spotlight and they'll love you and not know why. They'll keep coming back for more and not realize they know nothing about you until asked by someone else. Also a bunch of other neat shit you can do like using the same idioms as they do and longer eye contact.
There's also the trick dogs do with us. They act a little overly pleased when they see us, even if we haven't been gone long, because it makes people come back for more. It's amazing how many friends you can make when you turn your body posture toward them and smile brightly as you great them. Conversation is really a dance when you observe it closer, and anyone can take the lead.
>want to dress nice
>try visiting /fa/
>faggots wearing skintight bullshit clothes
where to learn how to dress good?
>>30906596
note the /fit/ goat isnt actually lifting the weights
>>30909540
/fa/ for artisinal fashion, /r/mfa/ for societally respected fashion
>>30909540
Subscribe to a ton of fashion tumblr blogs. Take the inspiration you want from them. I visit /fa/ occasionally and browse the WAYWT for inspo. Just like /fit/, don't take them too seriously or you'll be falling for the Rick Owens/roid troll.
>>30906596
Went on a acid, DMT, Keta and nitrous bender with friends. Got some life insight and had a fun weekend. Finished the book I was reading.
>>30906596
bammmmmppppp
>>30909540
>>30909540
>want to dress nice
>try visiting /fa/
lol nope
>>30906596
I've started keeping a diary.
In this diary I track my lifting progress, life progress, and all my music.
It's been really helpful, I do one entry in the morning and one in the evening.
I'm also 6 days a non-smoker now, I'm really proud of myself and I'm gonna keep going like this.
I've also been trying to avoid pornography to try increase my libido a bit. I've been a bit worried recently. So far, so good.
Any other journalfags here?
>>30906794
>Starship Troopers - Robert Heinlein
Why not just cut the sci-fi bullshit and just read Mein Kampf?
> made a lot of improvement over the year
> yet at the end of the day the people closest to me tell me I need to learn how to love myself
I'm lost here I feel like making progress is a means to love myself but I'm not sure anymore.
>>30909540
Read up on finding the right fit for you. Secondly read up on color matching (not just for the clothes; how the clothes match your skin/hair/eye color). And thirdly understand how you combine different textures. You can follow any style or fashion trend you like if you understand this shit and still look fairly good.
To find your style and general inspiration look in different fashion blogs and websites. For formal or classy wear I recommend RealMenRealStyle (yt+web) for beginners.
Yesterday I posted some stuff about me being forever alone with no friends and I got some book recommendation from an anon.
Today I talked to two classmates i've never talked to about random movies.
i'm now trying to be more social and i'm glad today it worked but how do you get some real friends because at the end of the class i still was walking alone with nobody talking to me.
Also is it weird to just start conversations with random people?, i'm trying to be more social and getting more friends but I want to know if it isn't odd to do.
sounds really autistic I know
>>30911161
Or just read Might is Right
>>30911161
Because fedora tippers tend to be nerds.
>>30911643
>Secondly read up on color matching (not just for the clothes; how the clothes match your skin/hair/eye color)
yup I always bought bright clothes for myself but later realised I look way better in darker ones, not goth wise but more dark colours like maroon and shit. Also reds a good colour for me dunno why it just is
Is anyone learning programming?
Also sleep meds, yes or no? I want 8-10 a day, but I always manage to not be tired through poor decision making. I feel that if I take a pill that i won't have the choice and I'll be forced to sleep.
>>30906596
Hot date tomorrow, next week facing 5x5 with 2plaet bench, need to train hookgrip for dl. DIs gon b gud
>>30911772
learn to be in peace with yourself and others will find peace with you, fix your inner issues, people will notice and approach OR let you approach, stop acting like the world doesn't understand you, even if its true, grow some bawls, be yourself, not the idea you have of yourself
How to become Übermensch.
>>30908534
It might not be the most effective but it's not stupid
>Might(!)
>>30909540
In most everyday situations it doesnt take more than well fitting jeans, some nice sneakers (i dont mean nike skateboard kid sneakers, anything by Lacoste, Fred Perry, Gant etc will do) and a simple t-shirt/shirt (not graphical, either plain or striped). Color matching isnt your concern in almost any regular occasion as long as you dont look like an icecream cup.
Art of Manliness is cool, brah. Honor and those things~~
>>30914359
>point on religion
>>if not religious AT LEAST understand your moral code
stopped right there
>>30911772
>(...)how do you get some real friends(...)
Friendship is made by repeated positive experience. That should give you a hint on what to do.
>Also is it weird to just start conversations with random people
Who cares? Or more specific: why should you care. To be even more specific: Yes it's weird if you are autistic and can't do it in a non-autistic way. Now go figure how to do it like a normie
>>30914575
Why?You don't have moral code?
>>30913559
5-htp. Good tier sleep aid
>>30908589
Its carbamole peroxide in gel form, light doesnt do shit.
I find the strips to be better because you can tuck them into the teeth better.
didn't I bump this?
>>30914359
I agree with you m'gentlesir! Finally a real man around these parts... 'tis a rare thing to see!
>>30911772
If you are in college ask people their majors and talk about that. Usually you can find interests easily like that too, like maybe they are in coding/gaming or some shit.
>>30911772
I think I may have been the person who told you to talk to randoms.
It is a little weird, but it is something you have to do. Once you get used to talking to strangers you will be much better at talking to people who you have some relation to. Also those strangers may be surprised or something when you start talking to them, but if someone doesn't look like they are preoccupied or something chances are they are open for a casual conversation.
fitter happier more productive
I've been a dishwasher at my place of work for four years. I absolutely love this place. It has great benefits, I'm surrounded by supportive and friendly people and my crush comes around once a month to help out my boss(who is absolutely the best boss I have ever had).
I don't want to be a lifelong dishwasher though, so I'm trying to gather up the guts to go to the head Chef and asked to be trained as a cook. I'm a bit nervous because I'm afraid he'll say no.
But I know that the benefits I will gain if he were to say yes.
I think with self-improvement, sometimes you might have to just simply take a risk in an attempt to be something better and see if it pays off.
>>30917462
I used to be a line cook and can tell you that we love when dishwashers or anyone who is familiar with BOH operation wants to learn new skills. It means that in crunch times we have an extra hand. If you've been around for that long and the lead has seen that you're not a fuckup like so many in the food industry then you're basically guaranteed a yes.
>>30917585
Thanks for comment. I really appreciate it, I think it's the extra push I need to just man up and ask him.
Also, you mentioned that you used to be a line cook. Are you not anymore and what are you doing now? If you don't mind me asking.
>>30906936
>sleep schedule
If you own an Android and have 20$ to spare, get a Mi Band. Wakes you up lightly and tracks your sleep.
>>30914359
>dont be a degenerate, homo, have fetishes
>but read philosophy by homo authors
>don't use drugs they bad
>modern music is pop trash u not allowed to enjoy it
>less meat
>be uberhc straight edge philosophy fag
>muh fedora
wow, this has been written by a raging faggot, even bigger than OP.
>>30913559
Always learning.
I'm a full-time dev in one of the world's best digital agency, so I guess this is an AMA chance for you. Shoot the questions man.
Essential reading list for alpha bros:
The Bible
The Iliad of Homer
Naive Set Theory by Halmos
Real and Complex Analysis by Walter Rudin
Complete Chaos and Pain blog archives by Jamie Lewis
History of the Peloponnesian War by Thucydides
Anabasis by Xenophon
Anabasis Alexandri by Arrian
Lives by Plutarch
Probability and Random Processes by Grimmett & Stirzaker
>>30914359
Go away Pol
>enough with this old timey male bullshit on this board
>>30919033
The Bible is fucking boring though
>>30919033
>Real and Complex Analysis by Walter Rudin
Rudin's complex fucking analysis
The /sci/ is strong with this one.
I realized that since I've I finished highschool I've become progressively less and less social and I believe my skills have suffered because of this.
Anyone have any tips on re-honing these skills?
Alright brahs...todays the day I stop being a pussy and finally talk to girls at a party.
All my life I have been the autisto faggot with lots of male friends but no female friends. That stops today.
I don't give a fuck if I embarrass myself at the party, I'm just gonna fucking do it.
Wish me luck bros.
also accepting tips
>>30918051
how long does it take to start from being tech savy to entry level dev ?
>>30919714
This. I have no friends but I want to change it. Any tips for becoming better at socialising, like strategies and shit aside from just talking with people?
>>30920095
just go out bro, have fun and acquire experience
what if you screw up? what the grills gonna do? beat you up? lmao just go and have fun
I'm trying to go out more to bars and clubs and shit to try and get laid. I live in western PA, don't really know where to go. Lots of working class bars around here but not many fun or hip places.
>>30920322
>western PA
I'm sorry
SoMD here, equally miserable
>>30920322
Checkd
>Been feeling depressed and like shit recently.
>Took an inventory of my mind, identified my fears and life problems
>Decided to:
>Delete all video games from my computer
>Sign up for Krav Maga and yoga to supplement my lifting
>Get in touch today with a local Buddhist/meditation/spiritual group
>Going to meet up with them next week
>Began meditation today
>No results yet. I'll keep working
>>30920897
>began meditation today
>no results yet
Obviously you don't get it lol
>>30921015
I was told that meditation is like exercise.
You don't see results after your very first day in the gym
>How have you improved in your life besides gym, diets and lifting?
>too stressed to do anything but work and study
>co-worker turns up sick
>looks like shit
>people tell her to go home because she looks like shit
>"no lol no excuses"
>doesn't realise no one gives a fuck about her and it's all because they don't want to get sick
>wake up today
>sick
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>>30914554
It stopped being about manliness long ago and turned into superficial esotericism and "Use X product because that's what grandad did so it'll make you more manly"
>>30920187
>>30919714
Read books on conversational skills and/or small talk.
It's far more efficient than going out and practicing.
>>30914575
Not even religious but this is just plain ignorant behavior. Don't discredit all of the points made in the post by stressing just one that you disagree with.
>>30911138
You know what man, I'll become one. Just for you. Sounds like a good idea
>>30906596
I'm trying to get better at writing music. I often play my own solos over backing tracks but composing an original piece of music is fucking hard
>>30922876
Lolwat not sure how that ended up inverted
>>30922891
Stop posting from Australia.
I want to start self-improvement, but there are so many problems i cant fix.
When i got older and went into a new environment, i went from dux of the school to below average student and remained at that rate till i graduated highschool, going to a sub-par uni now.
Whats the point if i'll always be ugly
>>30920095
Hope you make it bro, rooting for you
>>30922897
kek
>>30906596
Bump. I finally got my PC up and running. Imma start so I can help contributing and doing new threads.
>>30920173
Depends on your talent and how much you work/understand, but from 0 to getting a job, I'd say 6 months to a year.
>>30922901
you cannot control being ugly, but you can control your personality and control being well-dressed n groomed
>>30919033
I guarantee you haven't read the entire of the Bible
>>30920897
fucking based m8
i have taken similar steps.
blocked online chess and reddit and other similar sites i used to just waste time on, an endless void of mild-satisfaction. im supposed to be off 4chan too but clearly that's not quite gone to plan.
i got a yoga mat too and looked up some buddhist/meditation classes but ive not been able to go yet. my tiny bedsit room is also too small to do yoga :/
slowly gunna make it though. not eating any more ready meals or dairy and washing my face more and acne is on the way out.
got asked out by a total milf the other day, which felt great.
Brehs, I have since grade 10 been steadily declining in my acads and I've become a below average student now. I have to write my GMAT exam otherwise I run the risk of not getting accepted in a subpar-good university. I graduated in june last year and I've been neet since then. This GMAT exam is very crucial for my future but I AM NOT ABLE TO STUDY. I know some of you have turned your grades around please share tips.
I've come a long way in the past year, with a few steps back.
>Quit using alcohol and drugs
>moved out of parents' house
>got a good paying job that I hated
>ended up quitting and getting shitty job
>moved back in with the 'rents
>got rid of all video games
>started reading more and dicking around on the internet less
>practicing yoga, meditation, Thelemic ritual
>going to bed and waking up early
>starting back to school in the summer
feels ok
