Sex anxiety
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Do any of you /fit/izens get very anxious right before sex, this has become a real problem for me which im kind of associating with low test, last week i met a girl who i more or less fell in love with within a week she really likes me and i really like her I had a blast with her, constant laughter. and no spaghetti drops throughout the week. well apart from one, well two, on the second date she asks to come to mine and i was all over it, she said i'll come over but no sex tonight and i was like yeah whatever idgaf, turns out this was a trick and she actually wanted me to have sex with her, so im kissing and cuddling with her and she grabs my dick which is semi at this point but that is about as good as it gets i couldnt get hard for shit. which makes her feel ugly apparently even tho she is 7/10 and my skin lights on fire when i see her, but i couldnt get my dick hard for shit. the next night shits the same she wants to come over but she now doubts my sexuality and thinks im gay, so i take her upstairs to bed this time i put the work in and i massage that clit like there is no tomorrow i almost make her cum from it so far shit is cash, she then says stick it in so i go to grab my dick and its soft as a wet noodle, i try to sort it out to no avail, she feels really offended and leaves really early in the morning and i feel like like the biggest faggot the world has produced. she now wont reply to my texts and it feels like i have fucked one one chance of finding true love due to my fucking cunt of a brain ;_; hold me fit.
Am I the only one?
is
>low test
/fit/'s equivalent of "unbalanced humours"
my god it seems there isn't a behavioural issue in the world that can't be cured with TRT
>>37964396
I dont know what it is i just want to get it sorted i feel like this girl could have fathered my children if everything went to plan
A mature human being would recomend therapy for your ED but I say: fuck it, do NoFap and lift some heavy ass weights and get fucking jacked brah
>>37964424
im 24, i dont fap like crazy no fap is fake as fuck
>>37964450
I'm waiting for the guy that did it for three months and tells me that
btw I'm failing again and again for years so I can't tell if it really works
>studies show it doen't increase test
testosterone is not everything
and like I said, therapy would be the most mature solution
>>37964411
Do you jerk off to porn a lot? I was in the same boat man, still haven't really got passed it, mine was slightly different since I had to recover from phimosis first but that's what made my porn addiction at the time
>>37964522
>>37964522
yeah but its not over the top, my bonor isnt even right when i watch porn atm its nothing like it was before, i also thought that porn might have ruined me because i jacked off to some weird shit sometimes traps ect
>>37964522
How did you recover from phimosis? With that hormone unguent?
>>37964553
This is practically me man, start fantasizing about her and the way she smells and the way she looks and the way she tastes. I jerk off only in the shower now so I can't watch porn. For the most part I reckon I've improved over what I was, haven't tested it irl yet tho
>tfw no gf
>>37964570
genius! I have to try that
>>37964562
Depends on your severity, when I was getting a bj it slipped below the head for the first time and was painful af and my head swelled to about 1.5 times the size but I was soft. Had to squeeze the blood back through, which wasn't hard since my head was so sensitive, in the bad way that is. After that I just used head and shoulders conditioner, didn't burn for me at all btw, and stretched while flaccid
It's anxiety as you already said yourself. I always had it when I had sex with a new girl for the first time. Just set yourself free from the thought of having to prove something to the girl and your dick will work again. I know it's hard to overcome those thoughts, maybe try some viagra next time? As soon as you have had great sex with a girl, the following times with her will be no problem at all. Also note, that you might not want to have sex with a girl which is that insecure anyways, I always found them quite annoying.
>>37964589
There's a bunch of ways online that tell you how to stretch, I was at the stage where I could fit my smallest finger tip just in. So I just pulled away from my dick for a couple of stretching sessions, slowly and not far so that there was no pain but you could feel it stretching, and once I could get a proper hook finger in I slowly dilated it over time until I could fit larger fingers in then two at a time then 3 then finally both my index fingers and both my middle fingers with relative comfort
>>37964562
>>37964589
>>37964615
Same dude btw, once you get passed all that and you can pull it back use the shower head to desensitise you a little starting with low pressure and just work around the head. Otherwise touching the head will practically insta kill your boner.
The stretching process took me about 2 months max I reckon, too bad the chick I wanted to fuck bailed after 2 weeks :/. Desensitising the head to the point of pleasure probably took about 2 weeks max, from then on I just jerked off with foreskin peeled back, my frenelum is probably slightly too tight still but I don't really mind since it still feels good.
That's pretty much all there is too it
>>37964589
>>37964615
fuck. tfw I could have fixed it without getting cut
>>37964673
Rip dude, I fucking love my F spot, wish I could get my dick sucked sooner but I'm too autismo
>>37964583
Almost forgot, but its probably too late, when you fantasize in the shower and shit, don't just start tugging on your dick. Fantasize about her over a couple days whenever you feel like it but don't jerk off until you are rocking at least a semi chub at the thought of fucking her / getting your dick sucked.
Otherwise you probably won't properly re organize your head and just end up thinking about your kinks or whatever.
Also all this shit is anecdotal for me so props to you if it works for you, I haven't been able to test it yet but fuck I wanna get laid so badly that I'm practically fantasizing about chicks I see on the street..
>>37964782
Im OP and im gonna try this although i think ive probably fucked this one up, because even when i do get a bonor its through touching and jerking off
>>37964828
man i had this same issue, im a virgin, and i hooked up with this whale, went to her place.
Now i dont know the exact reasons why i couldnt get hard, but its either cause i fapped 5-6 hours before after /b/ told me to so i dont cum quick when fucking (shouldnt have been an issue)
or because she was a whale and i just couldnt do it
but i was licking her out, lick lick suck suck, time to stick it in......not hard!
ask her to suck it, she starts, gets semi-hard, okay lay down, get in position......soft again.
man so pissed, she even said to me 'maybe you're not attracted to me'
feelsbadman.jpg
I wasnt attracted to her but i wanted to fuck a pussy and lose my virginity.
Maybe it was because she was a landwhale.
>>37964828
Give it time man, I was the same as well, unfortunately this step takes the longest by far, I was fucked in the head about September - November last year, trying to suck my own dick and watching all kinds of weird shit. When I came on my own face I had an epiphany where I was like this is the gayest shit I have ever done. What the fuck is wrong with me.
Probably by about late April early June I was thinking about fucking chicks from Uni in earnest, I wasn't 100% disciplined either and lapsed twice. You'll find its mostly psychological I reckon.
Good luck man
>>37965109
i remember getting bonors from just listening to katie perry songs
>>37965109
i have done the same shit mate and had the same epithiny are you me? anyway im over her now the fucking bitch
I had trouble getting hard the first time I had sex, so i just did more foreplay, fingered her to orgasm and by that time i was more focused on her and was able to get an erection.
You don't always have to p in v, for a good time. Just have fun and be yourself.>>37964391
OP I had the exact same thing as you
What I did was pop a viagra. Willl give you a rock hard bone that will be very hard to lose.
Do this 2 or 3 times the first times you have sex. You will no longer need it after this
I always get anxious when it comes to birds, meant one in work on Thursday that I can literally fuck whenever and I have yet to do cuz I think she'll judge me and shit
>>37965292
Do you work in an aviary?
fyi there are 2 types of phimosis
>primary
everybody is born with their foreskin stuck to the glans. This is supposed to go away with age and if it doesn't you can stretch and force it unstuck with relative ease.
>secondary/acquired
usually as a result of infection/injury, a ring of thickened skins develops on an previously healthy foreskin. You absolutely cannot fix it with stretching alone because it just scars and thickens more. This is when you need to persuade a GP to prescribe you a steroid ointment.
don't get cut unless you try other options first
