I think I completely ruined my dick with 10+ years of masturbation. Now that I got a gf, I can't stay hard with her most times and even when I do, I can't cum. It's like no matter what she does, it just feels strange because I'm used to the way I've been doing it for so long. It also feels weird to relinquish control of my dick to someone else, if that makes any sense. Also, the two times I tried sticking it in her, I lost my boner before I could figure out the angle. I've gone off porn for a few weeks but it hasn't helped much. Zinc also seems to be a meme.
How do I stop being so nervous? I got a doc to prescribe me Viagra but I'm hesitant to take it. Seems like a crutch for a young, healthy guy like me. Also, I know you're gonna say it, so no, I'm not gay.
>>37619763
Do you use a condom?
Are you cut?
I dont know how men can not be hard in the presense of a sexually willing hottie but as far as nervousness goes thats a psychological issue which could be helped thorugh talk therapy
Eat a lot more fat.
Get more sleep.
Stop watching porn.
Tribulus.
>>37619783
We do it raw. I'm not cut per say but I have an ok body, abs n shit (been lifting for about 9 months). I always get hard but then I end up losing it out of nervousness.
>>37619815
Im talking about your dick... did your parents fall for the penile Jew??
As far as nervousness you need to see a therapist and work on that because if its big enough to stop you from basic functions like maintaining an erections it probably comes from a very deep place
>>37619829
kek, I'm a fucking idiot. I'm uncut.
>>37619839
Ok so the problem is 100% psychological, dont bother taking any fucking pills
You NEED to see a therapist and you should buy "The psychology of self esteem" right now.
Do you have general anxiety, social anxiety? Or is it only anxiety around sex?
>>37619854
I'm not a particularly anxious guy. I am definitely shy with people though, uncomfortable even. You really think this book will help me? I'm somewhat dubious, but I'll look into it.
>>37619980
Its probably the only thing that will help
Try to think about why you feel such nervousness about sex, the real reasons not the superficial reasons. Its probably about something deep from your childhood
Tips:
Thoughts precede all but the deepest emotions, get the thoughts and deal with the thoughts
If its a very deep emotion straight from your lizard brain then the situation you are in when you try to have sex is very similar to one where you had good reason to be nervous/scared/whatever and you need to deal with that
>>37619763
>people think nofap is a meme still
Great news: what you're talking about is completely psychological. It can be completely fixed.
> It also feels weird to relinquish control of my dick to someone else
You're onto something here. I don't know how to help you, just wanted you to know that helps is out there somewhere. You don't need Viagra, that fixes physical problems.
If you get morning wood, you're fine and healthy, you just have to learn to be intimate with a woman. Try not to go straight to penetration, if you just mess around a lot you may eventually lose your nervousness if you aren't worried about whether or not it's up.
>>37619763
Anon, I used to have this issue and a combination of a glass of alcohol and trying viagra once or twice helped me kick the mental aspect to the curb. Once you are relaxed and not nervous it's easy.
>>37620107
This.
Avoid alcohol and smoke a joint.
>>37619763
>Also, I know you're gonna say it, so no, I'm not gay.
There's nothing else to add.
You're gay.
Too bad you're going to ruin your life for some more years. But hey, you probably still need to have that experience.
If you weren't gay you'd be able to fuck your gf. A 20-something man doesn't need viagra. If you are not morbidly obese and/or you don't have some pathology affecting your circulatory system, you're gay.
I'm 100% confident that you'd have a rock-solid boner with a man.
>>37619854
>buy a book
nigger please.
buy a fleshlight and start masturbating only by fucking it. It imitates the real life conditions (something wet not dry like your hand, and you aren't touching it) and you'll get used to that shit
you're right now used to extremely specific pressure by your hand and a certain position (probably sitting down), might even have some muscles unconsciously flexed while doing it etc, and having sex plain feels weird and not 'right'
basically you need to rewire your brain and make your dick used to being used differently. Stop porn, stop masturbating using your hand, start masturbating in various different positions by fucking a fleshlight
it's not just psychological like many here think; it has a lot to do with your nervous system and what you have taught it
>>37619763
Do you ever feel horny op? If so, it is a small issue compared to me, i dont really feel arousement or anything
>>37620150
This dude is onto something. I used to be able to only cum with my legs completely straight and flexed. Been training to cum without doing it and it's...coming along.
Saw some good advice that helped me on a similar thread a while back, basically it was to literally think of your girlfriend as a fleshlight, use her vagoo to "masturbate", that might help with the control thing.
>>37620263
Dont do this
Is she wet/are you using lube? That shit will feel better than your hand if she'd fucking moist so if it doesn't feel good something's wrong
>>37619763
>healthy guy
lol keep telling yourself that limpdick
>>37619763
This only happens to me when I'm trying to fuck a fat girl. Are you trying to fuck a fat girl?
>>37620401
Nah, she's not fat. She's pretty qt actually.
