Didn't see a feels thread, I'll start it off
>start talking to qt3.14
>get number, snapchat etc.
>snap/text a bunch smiley faces and shit
>set up a something next week
>see her story today
>her with some guy in her bed saying something about pizza and wine
>rip
I mean I tried to get out this time so it's an improvement, still feel pretty bad though. How about you guys>
>>36813525
why would it be bad, now you go onto the next one. good practice
>>36813537
Yeah working on it, just shitty cause I had my hopes up since we made plans, but that's the better way of thinking
>qt that I fell for and pretty much moved country for suddenly stopped talking 3 months ago
>no friends, no job in the city and struggling to keep my chin up
>things finally starting to look up
>qt texts me saying that she stopped texting because I didn't show enough affection and because she felt she loved me more than I loved her
>also says she's got a new bf so shouldn't try talking to her
Idk how to feel
>>36813542
you gotta adapt to western society, nowadays sex seems like holding hands. it doesnt mean you dont have a chance with that girl, just dont get your hopes up and use her for practice without letting yourself get friendzoned. the most important part is working on yourself and by approaching girls you got it partially already covered. you will make it
>>36813576
Yeah she was sooo hurt by you that she found a new dick the next day that she then shoves in your face.
dont believe everything people tell you and work on yourself
>made redundant
>move back home with parents
>months of looking for work
>get an interview
>have borderline panic attack
I'm so nervous I can hardly sleep. I'm doing all my research and preparing some answers to the usual questions, but it doesn't feel like any things working and it all is so shit and sounds horrible.
>>36813620
I may sound like a pharma jew but try phenibut or something alike, just dont get hooked. It did not help me with anxiety but Ive read about a ton of experiences where it did.
I believe in you
>>36813525
>Know this girl,qt and funny but kinda dumb
>Be somewhat attracted to her
>Find her at a party yesterday
>Thinking about trying to get closer to her and asking her number,after talking a bit
>Find her later making out with an ugly,fat bearded guy
Nevermind.....
The thing that makes me sad is that every girl I like has a fucking boyfriend or similar shit, and almost always they're aesthetically like that guy while I'm kinda cute and fit(nothing exceptionally of course)
>Tfw I'm never going to make it
>>36813658
tell me honestly, do you live a fulfilled life?
>>36813619
>>36813576
This senpai, a hard realisation to make, I know, but she is just another garden variety slut.
>>36813678
My life would feel much more complete if I had a gf
>>36813697
>>36813678
Watch out anon he goan try to get you to join one a them cults
>>36813525
You didn't see one because there isn't supposed to be one, faggot.
>>36813599
I need some advice.
How do I approach girls during the day? My friends don't like going to night clubs that often so I think I need to do something else.
>>36813525
>>>/r9k/
>>36813697
>My life would feel much more complete if I had a gf
Nigga do you know that cheesy saying Live Laugh Love? See the order?
First you LIVE aka have a life you like, you trying your best to be the best you can be.
LAUGH have fun with your life, have friends and do things you enjoy.
Only then can you LOVE, meaning finding a qt that also loves you.
>>36813732
I forgot to add that most people (including you) get the order backwards for some retarded reason. Having love won't make you laugh and live..
>>36813525
Stop being a sad cunt, be a sick cunt.
Either don't get hung up, and drop her
Or steal her.
>>36813599
I agree
OP you did gud and will git guder
>>36813542
This won't be the last time anon. Keep pushing until you've come past that feeling.
>>36813732
>>36813746
Thank you,I'll try
Two years ago i got fed up with college, I wasn't motivated anymore so I figured I ''might as well make some money". The past two years i've been working different jobs, all paying decent but nothing special. Lately I've been really interested in finishing college and getting my degree. My motivation has changed because now, getting my degree is what I want, and not something that was expected from me. During these last two years I took lifting seriously and now i'm in the best shape i've ever been. But I still feel like a faillure without my bachelor's degree. The only problem is, I'll be 24 next year and I feel like i'm too old to go back to college compared to the others that'll be there. Is it too late /fit/? Or should i say ''fuck it'' and get my degree?
>>36813712
I know it may sound cheesy but try one of those pickup channels on youtube.
The thing is, canned openers can help you when you are a total beginner but over time you will naturally learn how to approach women based on the responses and trial and error.
>>36813525
>go to bed
>dream about my ex gf
>laughing, cuddling and kissing
>wake up realizing it was a dream and feeling like shit
its been four years..
>>36813974
it is never to late, you will even be at an advantage because of life experience.
24 is nothing in my opinion
>>36813525
>meet qt
>bit nerdy but really cute
>be drunk so confidence through roof
>hit on her drunk friend instead
>meet other grill for a couple of occasions the next few weeks
>dates are absolute shit she's a fucking bore
>remember qt from earlier
>meet her at block party again
>she's eager to chat with me over stupid bs
>I suck at small talk so just nod it off
>I let her go with her friends because I am not in the mood for girly shit
>ffw weeks
>she has a manlet bf that is dense af
>I chat with qt outside of a club he tries to inject his shit
>qt and I are just wtf'ing at him
>qt wants to talk a little bit more I go home instead
>ffw one week
>meet qt at bar again
>first thing she tells me that manlet bf and her broke up
>told her that I knew he was a retard but chose not to say anything
>her sister drags her out they go home
>she tells me we should meet soon
>never got her number
that was months ago and it's weird
didn't have much interest in her and I still don't, I can't just stop thinking of her m80s
haven't seen her for a while but that might also be because I am at home most of the weekends
>go on a Saturday for the first time since ages
>dl and squat
>suddenly 5 or 6 qts appear and start doing squats and deadlifts
>literally all 8-9s with high-test asses and wearing tight as fuck cotton
>the hottest shit I have ever witnessed
>too exhausted from lifting to stay and peek (and anabolic window closing down on me ;^)
Hold me brehs
>4 am
>depression setting in
>miss ex, miss friends i used to have, miss parents that kicked me out
>not in mood for jerking off
>mind too scattered to read a book
>listening to burial's mellow tunes https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0mkLNYaCJns&index=9&list=PL333NRV9w0mVfikZ_nooWzjYVZXA0cTG8
and tomorrow's rest day. no way to escape this hell through lifting either
>>36814074
Feeling for you anon
>>36813974
>Going to college at 24
>Got money from working
>Got experience from last time
>More mature than most guys there
>Probably more swole than most of them due to extra years of getting /fit/
Protip:
If you treat it like a big shameful thing and sperg out and let it separate you from the other people there they'll think you're some weird old guy and if you take it in your stride and actually be sociable and cool
girls will like it and guys won't care
Be smart, don't be a retard, and it should work
>>36814128
I definitely feel more confident and confident with my body now. I've never had any problems with being social or with making friends (especially not since getting fit these last 2-3 years). Thanks guys, your opinion really helps!
>>36813974
You do understand that it's not uncommon for even people in their 40's to go back to college to pursue degrees correct?
On another note. How the fuck is 24 considered old?
>>36814162
I don't know man, it's just that all the people my age seem like they've gotten their live al planned out already. It just makes me feel like i'm limping behind.
>meet qt
>everything going great
>life gets fucked up
>chances shot before anything happens between us
>too late to get qt back
WHY can't I ever move on, /fit/? Why can't I see another person and fall for them instead of constantly thinking about that one person I messed up with? What the hell is the evolutionary advantage of pining for someone and putting them on a pedestal so bad, ignoring other chances?
>>36814185
No one has their life planned out even by the time their 30, 40, 50, etc etc. Things change, people change, just having a solid foundation to start from is all you should be working on.
>>36813576
>going out of your way for a girl.
Never do this, They won't appreciate it and it will fuck you up.
>>36814185
This
>Turning 29 this year
>Worked in retail since I was 15, worked up the ladder into a cushy corporate role
>Is literally soul crushing and can't see myself doing it for the rest of my life, despite the awesome money
>Want to go back to school but think it's too late, not to mention no matter what I study, I'm going to rack up ~50 - 60k in debt and afterwards have a job that pays significantly less than what I make now
What do.
>>36814303
do what you want
money isnt worth doing something you hate. even if you make less doing something you like it's worth it.
>>36814303
What do you want to go to college for? Maybe you can teach yourself. There's so much shit on the internet you can use.
I'm going to college for comp sci but I'm well aware I can teach myself using only the internet. I'm only going for the experience + sheet of paper that will make jobs easier.
Maybe pick a career path that gives you employment based on provable skill, not a degree. Like programming or something, then you won't need college.
>stunning grills dancing next to me and my bros in club
>they're looking over, they start moving towards us
>one of the sloots starts bumping into me 'dancing'
>move away
>she slowly gravitates towards me
>start pretending im gay with my friend by taking him by the hips and dancing
>they leave looking disappointed
WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH ME WHY CAN'T I DO ANYTHING
>>36814325
girls just want attention
it's the same reason they make out with other girls despite not being lesbians
it's all for attention, nothing more. they dont even care about you, they just want validation.
>>36813525
/fit/ story time
>always knew this grill was into me even if I was superfat
>loose a lot of weight and she gains a lot
>in the club today,she is clearly drunk and she sees me
>"oh hey anon,you are a reeeeall nice guy"
>"yeah,huh y-you too"
>"why didnt you want to date me when I was younger?"
I was an insescure fat fuck
>"oh you never asked...ha-ha"
>"oh ok"
>uh oh spaghettio o's
I didnt ask for a number or anything,I would smash but im still insecure af
>fell for the co-worker
>she has a bf
>she's not even good looking
yet all i can think about is her
>>36814331
I guess that makes me feel slightly better
deep down I'm just scared of getting rejected
>>36814350
Why's that anon? What's the worst that getting rejected could do to you?
>>36814303
I guess i have it easier because in my country, going to college is cheap (belgium). I know i'm the one who asked the initial question, but i say go for it. I know how you feel when you say you hate your job, it's just not worth it in the end. Even if you make plenty of money, we should both go for something we like. Life's gonna suck for us both if we keep working a job we hate
>>36814361
yes I know, I asked myself this exact question
but it didn't change anything
I honestly tried to force myself to take her by the hips and start dancing but my heart just started racing when I even thought about it. I literally could not do it
>>36813525
>Ending university in the coming months
>Neuroscience review paper due in 4 days
>My lab research project write-up due in 11
>I haven't started either of them
>I physically can't and I don't know why
>They'll probably be shit at this point anyway
>I'm going to get shitty grades and blow the whole thing
>I'll end up with a pointless degree or not one at all
>>36814190
>What the hell is the evolutionary advantage of pining for someone and putting them on a pedestal
I have been thinking of this one. Why do we get such bad oneitis?
>>36814422
Iktf
>very important exam coming up
>it's freaking me the fuck out because I can't fail
>but no matter how many hours and how hard I study, nothing sticks
>I'm making no progress on a subject I hate
>no reward for my hard work makes me extremely unmotivated
What the fuck do I do? How could I study something for so long and not make ANY progress? Still be so shit? I'm going to fuck my life up if i don't get an A on this.
>>36814325
Holy shit you are stupid lol
>>36814490
I dunno lad, what's the subject?
My problem is motivation, I think I'm having some kind of breakdown because I just can't start writing
>>36814484
Perhaps because in evolution it's either:
>have sex with a lot of people to make a lot of babies
>mate with one good person and raise a strong family together
Either way will get your genes passed on. If you have a lot of babies one of them is bound to be strong enough to survive, and if you have one baby with one women, you'll raise it well so it survives and starts its own succesful family.
>>36814506
Spanish
It's not what I'm going to study for the rest of my life, but it's a part of the grades I need to progress, and it's mind-numbingly boring and difficult. I sit and write notes and try speaking and...nothing works. I lose my shit in the speaking exams, I can't remember anything, and nothing helps.
>>36814509
I can understand that AFTER the girl is pregnant/given birth but before that it makes no sense and is actually counterproductive.
>>36814490
talk to other people about it. if you can eyplain the outline of the subject to 2-3 people, than you have understood the frame and filling it with detailed information won't be a problem anymore. what's it about anyways?
>>36814520
Yeah, but say you meet the perfect woman (near-perfect) who has a good future, looks great, takes care of herself, is a good partner, cook, etc. She'd raise successful, attractive kids with good morals. You'd be better off having kids with her than some random slut, so it's beneficial for you to stick around and get oneitis.
>>36814563
But onitis fucks up your chances of getting her. You get obsessive and desperate which will make her run away.
>tfw no gf
>tfw when I can't seem to get my weight up
>tfw I've been getting constant shoulder and knee pains and don't have the money to get them checked
>tfw tinnitus that won't ever go away
Idk guys, I think things are looking up for me.
>>36814519
How are you studying, just reading?
This sounds gay and probably won't work but honestly if I were you and nothing else was working I'd go on /int/ and try to find some spaniards to have conversation with every now and again, immersion-style stuff can be really good for languages.
>>36814303
>Awesome money
>Rack up debt
Something doesnt check out here
>>36814014
Identical m80. I have feels for you
>went to a hooker yesterday
>tells me she's new to this (only been hookering for a few days)
>she's awkward as fuck which makes me awkward
>pound her hard but couldn't cum
>mired me while I was putting on my clothes
Still feel empty brehs
Too bad I'm only ever going to get laid by paying for it
>>36814519
Spaniard here, need any help famalam?
>>36815168
>>36815168
I don't think you can help, Spanbro. The exam is on topics like poverty, technology, immigration, saving energy, all that shit you don't just pick up through immersion and chatting with buddies online.
I can find the information I need online, but it's the memorizing + actually being able to think on the spot and bring up the phrases that pains me.
oh and fuck your subjunctive m8
>>36815270
Lo conseguirás, todos vamos a conseguirlo tÃo.
>>36815075
You sound like she could post on /fit/
>>Eww not anon he'so ugly
>> I'm ashamed to call you family
>>Started lifting
>>Everyone treats me better
Why is everyone so shallow ..
>>36815294
Eso espero
:(
>>36813525
>Haven't showered in 12 weeks bc depression
>Go running every day
>Body gets sweaty, dries down and turns salty af
>Hair locks into threads
>Uncombable
>Get lice and fleas
>some weird brown shit growing on feet
>Neighbors come up to me when running
>"Hey anon, is there a dead rat stuck in your wall? I keep smelling this bad scent coming from your side"
>"Nah, thats just me. I smell like a dead rat"
>"Oook then"
>Keep running
I want to shower but deep down I want to see how long I can go. Wtf is wrong with me?
>>36814422
take adderall and do at least some of it breh
>>36815638
get therapy or at least go to your gp
>>36815780
What is gp?
>>36813525
>>snap/text a bunch smiley faces and shit
This is where you fucked up. Most of /fit/ has fucking awful texting skills. Save the silly faces for real life
>>36815638
Wtf nigger
>>36815839
General practicioner. Aka a regular doctor that you see.
>>36813599
>>36813956
Wow that actually made me feel way better thanks. Yeah I might to still to hit it, but it's not worth pursuing seriously
>>36813750
Thanks man, I like the steal her perspective of being a sick cunt.
>>36814029
May as well try if you see her again
>go clubbing for the first time in 2 years
>talking with my friend about how modern psychology is pure bullshit
>qt joins in on the conversation randomly
>she studies psychology and agrees w me
>get her number
>start hanging out with her
>she's great
>after a month of going out with her I confess
>"you finally said it anon. I'm glad you told me, and I really like you, but only as a good friend"
>tell her that we should stop talking because I don't want to be around someone who doesn't love me back
3 weeks later and I'm still hoping like a retard that she'll call me to ask me out like she used to. Life is pain.
>>36815861
She did senpai, not me
>>36815780
Not that guy but wet to my gp and i was just put on a waiting list, been a year since then and nothings happend. Haven't heard anything from them.
>Went into cocoon mode two years ago
>All of my friends are gone
>Every time I feel like going out and meeting new people I say "I'd make a better impression if I was just a LITTLE bit more fit..."
>>36814325
>pretending
Sure bro, just accept that you're a closet faggot, it's okay to not like girls
>>36813525
Women can sense when you are a beta.
>>36818342
>tell psych student psychology is bs
>she fucks your shit up
classic
you need to work on putting your mind off her though
>>36814074
Go for a run, anon.
>>36818342
>modern psychology is bullshit
More like tradicional psychology is bullshit, i mean, take a look at some modern authors like Steven Pinker, who view psychology from an evolutionary and scientific viewpoint, use real tests for his conclusions and bases himself on neurologic concepts.
Now look at traditional psychology, take a look at Freud, and tell me modern psychology is the problem.
>>36818342
>>talking with my friend about how modern psychology is pure bullshit
how?
I'm about to delve into that subject
>>36818342
>modern psychology is bullshit
you seem like an ignorant person who's came to that conclusion because you can't extend your thinking to shit beyond yourself or something senpai
>>36814422
i wrote my dissertation in like 5 days and got an awesome grade don't worry about the time restraints, just try to sit down and not stop writing it until you've at least got a shitty draft to work with
>meet qt at gym
>very innocent, motivated, feminine
>actually like her so try to take it slow
>kiss her on 3rd date
>4th date movie night my house
>gettin hot n heavy
>inbetween make out sets
>tell her I like her alot
>"oh yeah?"
>mfw
>ended up being on her rag (confirmed felt pad)
>was super nervous about sucking my D >pretty sure she is a virgin
fuck lads I think I'm just a fling for her, what do I do? just stop talking to her? why do I catch feelings
>>36818801
>kiss her on 3rd date
how old are you two?
>>36818668
psych degree barista pls go
>>36818832
I am 24
I also have /fit/ tier autism, but decent looks so I have done the whole one night stand thing before.
>>36818630
I didn't tell her m8. I was talking to my friend, she was walking behind us and joined in on the conversation. I didn't know she existed beforehand. She brought everything upon herself.
>>36814379
Welcome to the Western world goy, you almost got fined for 40 sexual harassment charges
>>36819107
getting a bachelors in psychology (and subsequently not getting a job) isn't a thing where i live
i'll get paid well for doing a worthwhile and interesting job on a fair job market where i'll have plenty of options
can't meme me on that my man
Hooked up with this girl a couple of time, i tought i fell in love with her, and i knew she liked me.
Somehow we both managed to fuck up and it never led to anything. Actually started giving no fucks about it lately and moved on not even thinking about her. and yesterday
>see pic of her with bf in Paris
>If I made her pay for every night she stayed in my head i would have enough money to take her to Paris
>And now she is in Paris with a guy who doesn't even have a hotel in his head
>>36819119
You don't get it man, do you?
She fucked you up. She toyed with you. She played you. She manipulated you.
She made you her bitch.
Simple as that so stop wagging your tail and work on your mindset.
>hooked up with qt at a party on the dancefloor
>left her there, went outside with mate
>come back, see her qt friend and make out with her
>leave her qt friend go get some drinks
>come back and make out with qt
>dance with qt and her friend and grab both of their asses
>qt friend takes my hand and moves it on her lower back
>threesomeainthappening.png
>the night is ending
>tell qt i'll hit her up
>2 weeks from then still didn't hit her up
>mfw
>we go to the same college, same classes
>they're best friends
>fullautismo when i see them
>i start talking to my friends like i don't notice them when i see them 2 walking
>wat to do
>i want to make one or both of them fuckbuddies
