Sexual health
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How about a sexual health thread?
Do you guys have any tips/excercises for staying hard longer?
I'm only able to stay fully erect for like 10 minutes max, I barely even cum from sex anymore.
Also doggystyle is the only position my dick feels good in
Am I just fucked up permanently from my porn-addicted youth?
Stop masturbating for 2-3 months and stop watching porn. There I solved all your problems.
>That tfw when virgin
Try not fapping/having sex or any type of stimulation for a month(no porn is implied in this) Worked for me, my penis was pretty desensitized.
Good luck man!
P.S. try doing kegels, cardio, and fixing your diet for your erection problem
>>35468702
Don't fucking pretend a sexual health thread belongs in /fit/ - fitness.
Your answer is kegals, now fuck off.
>>35468795
It used to be health and fitness for a reason you nigger
Never fucking reply to my thread again unless you have something to contribute.
how weird is it amongst normal people to be a 21yo kissless virgin?
ive been lifting for 3 years so I'm not a neckbeard
>>35468702
i have a different problem
my dick stays hard for hours but i cant cum cause nothing excites me that much anymore
probably cause of porn and multiple hour long fap sessions where i purposely edged etc
i guess i fail to cum because i exhaust myself too much
>tfw i fell for the no cardio meme
>>35468806
When you're 20+ t's really time to get a prostitute
You'll get over it, she might even teach you some tricks and you don't have to carry the virgin burden
Sorry for giving it to you this straight, but I spoke to my girl about it once and she said she thought guys being 20+ and virgins was REALLY fucked up
So just get a hooker imo
>tfw my dick is too highly angled to do doggy style
ripperino
>>35468806
kissless not so much, but I know of a few virgins among my acqu.. friends. 19.5 y/o here. Both girls and boys. I can even think of a girl that is probably 20 and quite likely to be kiss less. I also used to be friends with a girl that lost hers at nearly 25
>>35468702
>>35468807
Try anal sex
>>35468806
kissless is bad but virgin, not so bad.
Think about this, then. Virginity for men is just a social construct, unlike for women.
Fucking is totally natural. You'll do good when you find the one woman you want to put your dick into.
>>35468852
>girl loses virginity at 12 to some drug dealer that she thinks is cool
>"omg being a virgin at 20 is sooo creepy"
>>35468806
it's a little weird bruh.
don't sweat it there are people older than you who have never.
i lost mine at 18 purely by chance, I was a huge fat fuck with aspergers.
I've had sex 3 times since then.
I'm 24 now.
my tactic was just sperging out with girls on fb until they either delete/blocked or they wanted to hangout.
my advice is just try to get a gf, one night stands are shit and if the girl actually likes you then she will teach you how to fuck... she might even enjoy teaching you, who knows.
>go to pub with mates
>try to talk with grills
>have awful go of it
>feel terribly awkward and empty inside
>can't wait to leave
>once we leave I feel disappointed and disheartened
What to do to improve my circumstance fit.m? Socializing has become terribly difficult for me
>>35468940
That's the world, bruh
Sorry
Daily reminder that if you want great sex, go for the slightly insecure 7/10 girls, not the 10/10 ones
Dating this girl now who's just insane in bed, deepthroats and does everything I command her, just because she thinks I'm "more attractive than her"
Cardio really helps me turn things up a notch. The days after doing HIIT, I last longer, go harder and stay harder.
For anyone who has trouble staying hard, I would recommend at least a week of not ejaculating. Combined with the test boost from lifting, you'll be hard as diamonds when the time comes. Couple that with some HIIT the day before and wreck that pussy proper.
>>35468702
>Do you guys have any tips
Chop the tip of of your foreskin off. I hear that reduces sensitivity.
>>35468801
>>35468795
holy fuckIN REKT
>tfw you're taking a girl hard from behind and start to get into that great rhythm
This is what I lift for
Best feeling in the world desu
>>35468950
try have fun with it.I'm awkward as well but it helps to not force things.Just have a good time with the lads.
>>35468994
The never post again thing is a forced meme you dumb fuck.
>>35468801
It was also changed to fitness for a reason, you limp dicked faggot
>>35469011
>It was also changed to fitness for a reason
Because moot is a fucking faggot that's why
>>35469037
>it's actually because I asked him to in a "I'm moot, ask me anything" thread.
/fit/ was plagued with feels threads, mental health threads and all sorts of dumb fuck /adv/ threads. Keep your shit out of /fit/.
>>35469049
That may be true, but please explain how sexual health is not related to fitness
Sex is even the reason 80% of people go to the gym
>>35468919
i'd fuck you in the butt trappy ^_~
>>35469049
>/fit/ was plagued with feels threads, mental health threads and all sorts of dumb fuck /adv/ threads.
You are aware this thread and threads like this one will continue despite your crusading? They're on-topic and will remain so.
>>35468919
can i try it with you?
>>35468801
Anon, I...
>>35468950
tinder lol
>>35469059
Because apart from cardiovascular health needed for a good shag, a circlejerk about virgins and closet homos who lose their erections mid-bone is NOT fitness related.
>>35469064
>On-topic and will remain so
No they aren't, don't pretend you guys are justified in making these little gay threads.
By all means, keep making them and complaining about your small dicks. It's just annoying the way you guys try rationalise them being relevant. You even try disguise the thread by saying it's 'sexual health' to try and stop it being pruned by a janitor. You can't deny that.
>>35468870
tfwwww
>>35468702
I fucked a girl who was like the right hand side recently. It was like she didn't actually want to get fucked or something. In the end I just flipped her over. Trying to explain to her what the fuck she was doing wrong was ridiculous.
>>35469000
>Trips of truth
Also when cumming in doggy, oh sweet baby jesus thats good
Too bad I'm an ugly bald faggot who cant get laid anymore though...
Just slap your dick on your surroundings. It gets bigger after awhile
>>35469000
>>35469322
anyone else get nauseous when doing doggy? not even fat either, 186cm 83 kg visible abs and I don't have any problems with running etc
>>35468927
Wrong.
Virginity is a social construct for everyone.
It's a myth that the 'hymen' is broken when a woman is first penetrated vaginally (also known as 'popping the cherry' because of the blood). It's often broken because it's fragile, and is dependent on the force of the man in penetrating the woman (e.g. if it's his first time, and doesn't really know what to do, then he might end up breaking it).
If you're gentle, and continue to be gentle, then it'll not break and eventually you can go at her with more force after she'll loosened up a bit.
>>35468965
But is that a healthy relationship?
>>35469322
Time to become a bottom.
Lel.
Cum way too early, what do? Lost virginity in March, been having sex regularly since with gf, but I always cum very quickly after putting it in. Tried extra lubed condoms but with those I'm not sensitive enough and go limp pretty quickly. I just want to please the gf but damn I rarely make her orgasm from penetration.
Tried jerking it more to desensitize, but that makes it more difficult for me to get in the mood.
>>35469475
Meditation and breathing excercises
>>35469497
Sting pls go.
>>35468747
This causes erectile dysfunction
>>35469475
it could be that you're anxious about the thing
I could last for ~45 minutes with my now ex gf, then something slipped mentally and I came after a minute or two. Turns out I was nervous about it, what fixed it for me was repeating "I feel safe, I am doing this because I want to, I feel safe with this person, it's just gf" over and over in my head while we were getting at it.
Good luck dude, you guys'll make it work. It's just sex, it's for fun. Make it fun
tfw you're sulking because 27 year old kissless virgin
tfw you come to /fit/ to cheer you up
tfw
>>35469564
Hooker time
>>35469562
Yeah, I do get very anxious. Gf has been sexually active longer and has obviously had other partners. Thanks for the advice, I'll try that
>Read this thread
>Agreed to stop fapping
>Fapped 15 minutes later
Goddamnit.
>>35469564
Literally this:
>>35469569
Get your hooker on.
>>35468702
Eat pumpkin seeds and zinc. That helped me alot!
>>35469569
at this point I'm just waiting until I'm 30 years old and then it's hooker time for the rest of my life
>>35468919
I'd fuck your boipussy trappy :3
Any advice for how to not put pussy on the pedestal?
>>35469564
32 year old virgin checkin in
feels bad man, think about it all day
>>35469628
Objectify women
>>35469553
Dude, what.
>>35469628
realize that there a tons of pussy.even tons of hot pussy. no need to put any of them on the pedestal.
forget that disney shit of that one special girl. there are some that are better than the rest but in the end they are only women.
>>35469628
Realize how every girl you'll ever be with already had 50 cocks inside.
>>35469632
hoooooooooooooooooooker
>>35468702
i cant get over my performance anxiety with my new girlfriend. my ED was initially present because of porn and masturbation but after multiple (like, 5) failed attempts in bed to get up its developed into performance anxiety and its crippling.
i need NEED to get over this. its severely depressing.
>>35469657
Honestly I want the validation of being attractive to women rather than paying for sex.
I understand that's not healthy but I can't stop desiring it. Also I'm obviously not attractive to women so I feel like shit all the time.
>>35469562
Dating someone with DE. What the fuck do I do to make him feel safe? I have tried everything but nothing seems to cut it, and I don't want to make him my fucktoy.
>Tfw i dont even really like fuckin
>>35469680
lmao id like to think youre my girlfriend posting right now because we're going through the same thing.
id wish shed just get super eager and slutty but she just lays there and lazily blows me or jerks me off and it just doesnt get me hard.
>>35469628
By realizing they're no different than you with the same fears, insecurities, dreams, and shit like that. They're people like you and me.
Got a hooker when I was 30: that really helped me. Just do it, it will help you immensely. It's not that bad.
>>35468702
My ex was the second one of that picture. It's one of the few things I don't miss about her.
>>35469694
I meant delayed ejaculation, not erectyle disfunction. He can get nice and hard and I could do him for hours, but since he can't cum he gets bored after a while. I really want to make him feel good pls /fit/
>>35469699
But these people probably aren't virgins and don't get the knot in their stomachs like I do
>>35469680
>>35469694
I don't think super eager will make him feel safe
I'd rather go about it being really warm and getting at the closeness you guys have. Realizing that my gf loved me no matter what and that we did it for fun made it work for me
Perhaps you should have a night where you only kiss? Like plan to make out one evening and you can make it however sexual you want, but you can't touch each other etc. Never tried it myself but if I wanted to get closer to someone I was interested in I'd try it
>>35469475
enjoy it.
i can understand people whining about can't cumming from sex. /fit/ are packed full with these people
but you? baka senpai
srsly tho,
If it's a pretty long term relationship just talk to your gf. I'm sure you can still satisfy her orally or with your finger.
If necessary, toys just make sex more fun for both party.
>>35469716
they do.
srsly
>>35469726
its not that im not horny or dont feel loved and safe with my girlfriend. its that im too nervous i wont get up when we go to have sex that I, surprise, dont get up. i cant shake the thought either. even if its not on the forefront of what im thinking, im still subconciously trippin over it. its crippling truly. im thinking about getting some yohimbe
>>35469733
fuck me this is the first time i realize the autocorrect. Just like fag to candyass in few years ago
so s-m-h turn into baka,
f-a-m to senpai
what else are the keywords?
>>35469745
if you feel nervous I'd say that you don't feel entirely safe with your girlfriend, perhaps you're nervous that she won't like you if you don't perform well enough? And I don't mean that as a forefront thought as you put it, I mean that it's something that is lingering in the back of your head. I'm always against getting medication to fix something that in theory could be fixed without it, but that's just me.
Have you tried meditating? Sounds like new age crap but in reality it's just a really good way to get some time to breathe, drop some anxiety and get some room to be able to think.
Headspace is a free app with 10 min sessions, I can vouch for it if you want to try it out
>>35469827
i thought about it. i almost started, but i had the same stigma you just said about it. its entirely because im afraid i wont perform and that ill finish quick. im entirely aware of why im not getting up, i just dont know how to fix it. how does one just not be anxious.
>>35468919
Sauce
>>35469749
t-b-h = desu
c-u-c-k used to filter to kek, but I don't know if it still is
>>35469749
Fym = fucked your mom
>>35468702
I'd say it's not too late to try out no fap 2016 thats what I'm doing op.
>>35468702
baka
senpai
desu
cuck
cuckold
>>35469944
holy shit it's true
>>35469900
>>35469946
There, solved your issue
Anyone else here who were just disgusted when they saw a real naked woman?
The girl I was with was skinny and petite, but I was still noticing some minor fat displacements, bad skin, etc and it completely killed my lust
Porn has fucked my head, I think
>>35470031
You need a big cup of grow up
>>35470031
It helped me a lot. Nowadays I treat beautiful women like their average friends. I'm getting older and it is easier to get laid and the more I get laid the more I treat women like what they are, nothing special. A 9/10 in a club is a 6/10 in the morning. Without her make up, her bad skin, pimples, no push up bra, no high heels, no shapewear bullshit, no fake eyelashes and so on you'll see an average girl as insecure as a chubby girl in her adolescence.
>>35468747
Stopping masturbating is useless if not harmful.
Stop watching porn is an obligation, will make you frigid, depressive and with low test. Depending on the damage of your sexual life, you will need yo go away of everything that is sexually stimulating that is not you or a girl.
If you really like porn, watch it just once or twice a week.
>>35468702
I hate OP's bait pic more than the 'BTFO' meme abused by Aussies and CanadaCucks
>>35469427
No, never happened to me. You get like dizzy and shit?
>>35470399
yeah sort of, you have an idea about it?
>>35468870
This explains so much why it fucking kills me with my current 5'2 gf but 5'5 and 5'7 gfs it was golden. I never thought of this
>>35469562
>what fixed it for me was repeating "I feel safe, I am doing this because I want to, I feel safe with this person, it's just gf"
I was really hoping you said this aloud.
Okay, might aswell ask here:
How does sex work?
Im not trolling. I grew up with only a mother, a sister and my aunt. I was the shy beta kid. After realising its either depression + suicide or change, I did an amazing transformation in the last 1,5 years of school.
Now that I changed cities and met new people women are all over me. I don't now how but I managed not to end up socially autistic and I am pretty handsome. I got to know a nice girl an shes coming over tomorrow, and I'm 100% sure it will end with sex.
The problem is I am 23 and a virgin. She doesnt know and she's assuming I'm an experienced alpha guy. Admitting it is out of the question.
But all I know about sex is from porn.
Help me out, please. Tell me some general shit about sex. I know I won't make her scream the first time , all I want to make a decent performance.
So, tomorrow will be the typical "netflix&chill" date. What do? Do I eat her out the first time? is it expected that I make her cum? What if I don't? Do you guys talk during sex? what do you say ? Where do you finish, just inside the condom?
>>35468807
Stop death gripping and actually look at the girl when you're fucking her. You forget how hot it is to watch them enjoy it
>>35470698
As a guy in literally the same situation, except 27 yo, I will wait for every reply to this.
And good luck to you man. Sincerely.
>>35469857
meditating is cool as shit in all honesty, I feel alot better about my life and myself when I do it everyday. You're having sex because you want to, right? It's not because you have to prove something to yourself or her, it's because you want to have sex with her. Your gf, who you feel safe with.
If sex feels awkward and weird because you feel that you won't perform well enough, just hang out and do sexual stuff. Lie on your bed and talk and touch her while she's touching you, dedicate an evening to just hanging out and having a good time.
What's up right now is that you feel that sex is such a big deal, and it's really not. It's just for fun, you feel me?
>>35468942
Kekked hard about the repeat trolling until getting laid. I see all sorts of gains in your near future
>>35470752
Thanks anon, good luck to you too.
>>35470752
>>35470698
do you mean sex per se? because as soon as shes naked, nature will kick in and you will know where to put your dick, especially if youve seen porn
if its a question, about how to get from chilling on your couch to "shes naked in your bed", i could give some tips on that, i think
Been spanking it to traps and shit too much recently, can't even get hard by women online anymore. What do I do lads?
>>35470698
If you start kissing her, do you feel like you should go down on her? Then do it. Do you feel like you should just rub her through her panties? Do it. Foreplay and sex is like dancing or having an entertaining conversation with someone, you do it because it's fun and it makes you feel good - while you both read the other's expression to see if he/she is enjoying the dance/conversation/sex the way you want her/him to.
If it turns you on trying to get her to cum, ask her halfway through what makes her cum. It's about a connection between the two of you more than it is about physical sensations and certain ways of moving.
Communicate the way you want to communicate when you're turned on. If you don't feel like talking, don't talk. You can ask her if she likes it if you want to. Finish inside the condom, or if you want you can ask if she wants to take you on her tits or in her mouth, if she's keen on it then go ahead.
You'll do great dude, it's all about enjoying yourself and sharing the pleasure with someone else. You have nothing to prove to anyone, you're doing it because you want to, right? It'll be fun, enjoy breh
>>35470698
this
how do I even know if a women cums? Do they tell you? Why are they able to continue fucking?
Where do I cum?
>>35470698
You've gotta' come clean about it. She'll be able to tell, even if she doesn't say anything. Most girls I've asked would be glad to be a guy's first. The problem comes from when they're expecting a hard fucking, and you have no idea what they're doing and you let them down. If they know, they're going to make sure that you have a good time.
It doesn't have to be weird, just say, "I've actually never done this before" when things start to get heated, and she'll take it from there.
>>35469676
You better work on them face gains
Wdf, I'm buttshit ugly and I still can pull off ugly girls after fit. Try not to think you can do better until you put your penis in it
>>35470812
Both.
I'm just wondering how "real sex" works in comparison to porn. In my head, everything seems weird that is probably very normal in reality. Like, stopping mid-foreplay to get up and say "uh let me grab a condom" is probably the usual way - how else would you do it - but in my mind it sounds weird as fuck.
Also the other questions: If I don't make her cum, will she think I'm bad at sex or is that a pretty normal thing. I know sex is about enjoying myself, but I also want her to enjoy herself and my company, you know what I mean?
>if its a question, about how to get from chilling on your couch to "shes naked in your bed", i could give some tips on that, i think
Share them, please.
>>35470885
>If I don't make her cum, will she think I'm bad at sex or is that a pretty normal thing
Even someone as insecure as me (27 yo kissless virgin btw) can tell you that no woman comes 100% of the time
>>35468702
How do i not cum after 1 minute
>>35469475
Don't flex your glutes. Breathe and focus on your breathing, not your dick. Try her on top more so you can practice that better. Get in a rhythm, don't just pound away.
Work on longer fap sessions
>>35470872
It's not that I care so much whether she knows, It's about my own confidence. I like it better this way (meaning that she thinks I'm not a virgin loser).
I'll just tell her it's been a long time. And I doubt shes expecting a hard fucking and the sex of her life, so thats okay.
>>35470841
>ask her if she likes it if you want to
>ask her halfway through what makes her cum
>you can ask if she wants to take you on her tits or in her mouth
I know this is just me having no clue, but this feels so odd in my head. "d-do you like what I'm doing? No? Okay, I'll do something else then. Better now? Yes. Ok great thanks"
I know It's not gonna be like that but this is what comes to my mind when I read your questions. Just feels weird for me. How would you ask her if she wants it on her tits?
>>35470885
> Like, stopping mid-foreplay to get up and say "uh let me grab a condom" is probably the usual way - how else would you do it - but in my mind it sounds weird as fuck.
This is exactly how it goes. Alternatively, you have the condom on the nightstand, and you grab it once you're ready to go.
> If I don't make her cum, will she think I'm bad at sex or is that a pretty normal thing.
Completely normal. Hell, the vast majority of women don't cum from regular sex anyway. Going down on her usually works, though.
>Do you guys have any tips/excercises for staying hard longer?
KEGELS
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L
S
Learn to do them right, 1 set of 10 repetitions, 3 times a day. Hold 10 second at peak contraction, relax 10 seconds (reverse Kegels), this cycle ten times. You have to stick to it, I saw results after 2 months of doing it on a daily basis. Totally worth it, morning wood almost daily, hard rock erections when masturbating or with my girlfriend. I was going to talk to my doctor about ED, now I'm cured.
>>35470698
>>35470812
sorry, did not read the whole question apparently, i'm quite exhausted and therefore retarded today...
>Do I eat her out the first time?
well, depends, do you think its hot? if so, go for it, if she does not like it, she will tell you, had 2 chicks who didnt like it at all and there was nothing awkward about it
>is it expected that I make her cum?
i would say no, as everyone likes different things, its always kinda awkward the first time you sleep with each other, not a big deal, and, keep in mind that there are women, who cum quite easily, whereas there are others, where its almost impossible to make em cum, my first gf was like that, never was a problem, girls do also enjoy the intercourse per se more than men, at least according to my sources, so orgasm the first time is not required
>Do you guys talk during sex?
well, desu senpai, i am quite aggressive during sex, so i tell her what to do, sometimes i tell her how hot she is, but never as much as in porn and really only, when im feelin it
>Where do you finish, just inside the condom?
i did not even cum the first time i had sex, just told her i am exhausted as fuck and if we want to continue tomorrow, with a smile and a giggle of course, play it cool... but to come back to your question: condom is fine, pulling out and cumming on her ass(after doggy)/on her tits/in her mouth requires some timing and would be considered too kinky for your first time together... i'm currently in 2 fwb relationships and only one lets me cum in her mouth, so do not force her to, she will tell you, what she likes
also, what this anon >>35470841
says
>>35470885
"Real sex" is weird, funny, and great. You just have to roll with it and not take it too seriously.
I think sweaty, mid-coital bodily contact causing both of your bodies to make farting noises off of one another is a lot more jarring and weird.
But transition to get the condom, don't just stop cold.
>>35470954
>>35470977
>>35470997
Thank you guys, this was helpful.
It'll probably go all nice and well, I tend to overthink things and be overly scared, and later it turns out I did great. Annoying habit, I know.
Any tips for
>about how to get from chilling on your couch to "shes naked in your bed", i could give some tips on that, i think
?
>>35470426
>>35470399
>>35469427
another guy. it can come from kneeling, because of the nerveous knots there.
a hundred years ago it was a legit punishment for schoolkids to be forced to kneel in a box of cherry stones.
dont know if thats your problem, but could be. do you also get dizzy and nauseous when you do standing doggy?
hell it might even be because of butt slamming into your stomach, who knows?
analyze it!
>>35470885
>>35470940
You could have a condom in your wallet or something. Last time I had sex with someone with a condom, I asked her to play with herself while I watched and then I put on the condom meanwhile. Was pretty hot actually.
To answer your other question, this girl in particular had a hard time cumming with others so she never did, even though I know from experience that I'm pretty damn good at going down on girls as well as pretty decent at the fucking too. Another girl that I was with earlier couldn't cum the first time she was with someone because she was anxious, but managed to do so with some communication and a position of her choosing the second time. A girl that I'd say is a friend with benefits can cum a lot, but it differs from person to person and most of all - how they manage to cum/prefers to get there is really different from person to person so the best way is to just ask her. Asking her signals that you care, it tells her that you want to get to know her better sexually (which is hot) and in my opinion, making a girl cum is the hottest thing ever so it lies in my interest to be able to know how to do so.
>"d-do you like what I'm doing?..."
you can phrase it a lot differently, like "do you like it" while you're going at it with force from behind could be fun since she'll probably have a hard time answering. Just being confident in what you are doing and reading her signals will take you a long way, but going the extra mile and asking her what she likes (for example "do you have a favourite position?") can take your session from being alright to being really great, for both of you.
>How would you ask her
Last time I was with my fwb we were going at it pretty good and when we both were exhausted we just sat and laughed for a minute (I hadn't been able to cum yet, she did), after joking for a minute or two she started blowing me. So I just asked her if she wanted to take me in the mouth, she said yes, I stood up and jerked till I did
>>35470885
i'm
>>35470812
>>35470977
>stopping mid-foreplay to get up and say "uh let me grab a condom"
thats exactly, how it goes brah, dont overanalyse, play it cool and with a smile and these answers:
>>35470906
>>35470954
>>35470997
>I'll just tell her it's been a long time
that could work, but i think honesty is always better, also takes some pressure off you, yknow?
>"d-do you like what I'm doing? No? Okay, I'll do something else then. Better now? Yes. Ok great thanks"
well, you should not phrase it like that, just listen to her breathing, that will tell you, what she likes, if she's completely silent, you should try something else after like 1 min. (my opinion desu)... what i like to do on first fucks is to grab her hands while laying next to each other and let her pleasure herself, while i cover her hand, like that i learn, where, how and how fast she wants to be touched
> How would you ask her if she wants it on her tits?
well, i have never asked a girl this, the first times i always finish inside the condom. ask her after a few times, if she did not give you any hints till then, maybe, if youre lucky, she even ends it with a bj
sry for my english btw, ive been awake for far too long
>>35471104
>>35471122
This was helpful too, thanks guys.
Anothe question: let's say I go down on her and she's not cumming after several minutes, how would you go from there? Ask her whats wrong or just proceed with something else?
>>35469699
>Women
>People like you and me
No sir, they are the devil in disguise.
>>35471158
it's up to you really, if you feel like you have such a good connection that asking "can I do something differently?" won't mess upp the mood then go ahead, but if you feel like you would disrupt something by asking then just move on by kissing her up her stomach, her tits, her neck etc. By keeping kissing her neck she can decide if she wants to get to business or if she wants to blow you, also some are grossed out by their own pussies (for some reason, I don't get how you can allow someone else down there if you aren't comfortable with it yourself) so they don't want to get straight back to making out if you've gone down on them
How Do I make a move, guys?
>meet girl, start to like her
>we date
>first date in pub, went really well
>walk to her car
>now is the time to kiss her
>"hehe yeah was a great evening, anon, byee"
>wtf
>second date, go to club
>dance and have fun
>find secluded area, sit on couch
>now I'll kiss her
>no eye contact, closed body language, just sits there
>too afraid to lean in because of this
>she keeps texting me, we have another date
>have a great time, now time to say goodbye
>"I'll kiss her, now, i swear"
>she leans in for hug
>nah bitch not this time
>cancel mission in the last second and hug her
>fuck
She's coming over today and we are watching a movie. I can already feel being sucked into the friendzone for being such a pussy and because we've spent so much time already without anything closely related to making out happening.
How the fuck do I do it now brehs. Please help. I want to make a move tonight but I'm too much of a pussy. My mind keeps telling me she just wants to be friends / she doesnt like me / etc whatever.
We'll be sitting on my couch and probaly will have a few beers. How do I make a move from there? I'm already starting to overanalyze things:
Do I lit candles? Could be either
>oh nice and comfy anon
or
>uh anon do you think this is a date or something?
>>35471158
bring more than one condom, you might fuck one up, or want to go for second round..
also, I've read throu the thread and I woundn't recommend on asking a girl to come on her tits/mouth the very fist time you are together... you don't know her enough, it's diferent when you are on a relationship...
and, don't worry so much about making her cum, as others anons have said, a lot of girls have a hard time coming and it's especially hard to cum with a new partner. The important thing is to act like you care about her pleasure, don't let her feeling like she was used for your benefit, because that sucks
>>35471255
Have you actually called it a date, did you do anything that would make her notice that it's for a relationship instead of just friendship.
Does cardio really helps with sex? I can't really last that much and my stamina sucks.
>>35471272
yeah I was the anon suggesting to ask to cum on tits but you have a point, it's a bit forward for the first time
>>35471158
>Ask her whats wrong or just proceed with something else?
honestly, it depends, if she is not enjoying herself, it might be wise to ask her, if she breathes heavily and you think she really likes it, keep on going, till your tongue is exhausted, i'm currently banging a polish chick, who need 10 mins of licking, fingering and g-point stimulation to cum, shes loud as fuck the whole time tho...
now to the:
>about how to get from chilling on your couch to "shes naked in your bed"
it's not rocket science desu, don't expect too much from me now brah, cook her something nice, chicks love if you can make a fancy dinner (if you can't, its not a requirement of course, but i would advise you to learn it, not just for the banging chicks aspect, but in general), sit on the couch, watch a movie and relax, maybe some wine, you know, the classics
lay your arm around her, i go straight for the hip/muffin top/lower back, if its appropiate of course, and start to stroke her very softly, not even looking at her or something, just that she thinks, that i do it naturally... then after some time, if you think she's comfortable, just softly take her face into one hand and start kissing her, keep one hand on her body all the time and after some minutes of making out, increase in intensity of touching her body, on her clothes at first, if she likes it and increases her breathing speed, go under her clothes, but keep aways from breasts or between her legs, only the "outer" parts of her body at first... and then, go with the flow desu, ask her, if you want to go somewhere "more comfortable" with a smile and keep on touching her, and slowly taking off her clothes... btw i do have my pc in my bedroom and i do have a"banging"-playlist, as music is always good, take that into consideration (stay away from slayer or anything not sexy btw)
>inb4 blogposting
>no ban plz ;_;
>>35468702
sounds like you need gay sex
>>35468806
its just sex man. being kissless is weird since most tweens/teens experiment with that stuff.
>>35471255
Do it however cozy you'd have done it for yourself, that way it can't get very weird no matter what you do because you're just being yourself. Also if you feel like you want something to happen then make it happen.
Sit really close to her while watching the movie, place your finger on her chin guiding her face so that it is pointing towards you and then kiss her.
If she doesn't like it the worst that can happen is that she aborts it, but then you tried. If you guys keep hanging out and she comes to your place to watch a movie I'd take it as a sign that she's interested. Just go for it man, you'll do great
>>35469632
Yeah, but you at least have your wizard powers to comfort you, right?
>>35471104
>condom in your wallet
Goodbye gains.
>>35471341
this joke has literally never been funny (not that guy but another old virgin)
>>35471319
you forget where we are
TFW you smashed for the first time tonight and she complimented on everything besides how you kiss. Pic Related
>>35468702
>tfw showed a girl all my sexual techniques
>tfw she's trying that out with her ex now
never show your power level guys
>>35471374
she looks fat bro
>>35471255
well, pro:
you had dates with only the two of you
she agreed to come to your apartment and does not think youll rape her
Cons:
you pussied out
she went for a hug
imo: look at how much time she spent on makeup/how her clothes look, if shes trying to impress you it's date, if not youre fucked
>Do I lit candles?
do whats comfy for you, does it look natural in your apartment or try-hard? i never have candles lit anywhere, but some nice, not so bright, lamps, almost the same effect and never looks forced
also, this: >>35471339
good luck brah, were all gonna make it
>>35471386
She really isn't senpai. Skinny Mac Demarco ass desu
>>35471255
The friend zone is a myth. It's an excuse to not make a move with a girl that you know well. When a girl says "but we're friends" what she actually means is "I'm not attracted to you." If she wants to fuck, she'll fuck, regardless of how long you've been friends. I've fucked plenty of friends.
>>35468852
Yeaaa i got bad news. Your girlfriend is probably a raging slut
>>35468950
Practice on tinder. Trying different things with different things everytime. Im usually super bold with childs with kids because i like the practice and theres no way im dating some whore with kids
>cant meet girls cause everyone is dating or married
just fuck my social life up f a m
shit sucks. on the bright side, im in the best shape of my life cause I dont have much else to do but hit the gym.
>>35471527
>Tinder
In my country 80% of Tinder girls are turks or wannabe turks, the rest are gross fucked up girls with huge daddy issues
>>35469553
watching porn causes ed
Are g-spot orgasms a thing, fit? A friend of mine from college is pretty much a hooker, sleeps around for cash/weed/favors and she says she's never come from anything other than rubbing her clit. We tried feeling around in her vagina for a while and nothing I did made her feel like she would come from it.
>>35471665
In my experience most girls get off from a combination of clit-rubbing and fingering
>>35469011
little early in the day to be this fanny damaged, is it not?
>>35471665
they are, i slept with a woman, who could only get off from g-spot stimulation and one only from clit-rubbing, as always, depends on the girl
>>35471665
my ex was a g spot only girl, her clit wasn't sensitive at all, but the "come here" motion worked for her, so yeah.
plus i think she could squirt, not much but enough to notice.
Im a 25 yr old hugless kissless virgin and I booked a hooker for today.
Should I tell her im a virgin?
No kissing right?
Im nervous as fuck.
Help /fit/
>>35471789
Yes. Tell her you're a virgin. She's literally a professional and you won't be the first virgin that's crossed her path. It'll help her know how to handle you.
>>35471789
Of course you tell her
You're 100% guaranteed not the first virgin she's been with, she might even teach you some tricks
>>35471805
>>35471815
Alright ill tell her
Hopefully she doesn't laugh at my skinny legs.
>>35471311
what music do you prefer to bang to? Barry White?
>>35471374
moar pics of her. its a rarity seeing an indian grill on tindah
I'm going to the movies with a girl later.
We've met a few times before, but I never made a move. I don't know whether she saw it as dates or just friends hanging out.
I want to make a move today. Making out during the movie wont be possible cause its a very small cinema that is more like a living room you share with strangers, so I wanna kiss her when we part ways.
Any tips? We've only hugged the last times, I don't want to make it awkward.
>>35471374
>>35471374
>she initiates and asks you to meet her
>looks cute
w-why can't this happen to me?
>tfw kissless virgin
>>35471868
Only /fit/ laughs at your skinny legs.
For a week or so pus has been coming out of my penis and peeing became more painful every day. The last 2 days it wasn't as bad as before and earlier after masturbating, I pulled like a hair or something out of my urethra with clumps of semen in it. Hoping that was the cause of the infection ;_;
>>35471555
turks? where are you from?
i have a feeling you might be a compatriot
any of you guys use onaholes? they help cure deathgrip
>>35471527
>childs with kids
slow down lad
>>35471920
Germany m8, you?
>>35471895
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gMn6z0yEdNM
and this is only half sarcastic, as i listen to a lot of punk/psychobilly and this song is part of my bang-playlist for metal/goth-chicks...
for normal ones, i'd recommend accoustic/less weird songs tho, maybe
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xPU8OAjjS4k
>>35471789
>25 yr old hugless kissless virgin
>Im nervous as fuck
Call it off right now.
Do you really want our first time to be with a girl thats taken thousands of dicks?
Have some self respect man.
>>35471374
>jus b urself
show me your tinder pic.
>>35469749
senpai baka desu
>>35472049
senpai family
desu to be honest
baka somehow
>>35468950
who is she???
>>35468702
Okay, boys, this feels tangentially related enough for me. I'm working on parlaying a breakup into a FWB situation with the ex. She cheated on me, and I cut that shit with a passion, but she seems willing to talk, and I feel I could set up a reduced-feels physical relationship. Just based off that, how does it sound? Ludicrous? Doable? Thanks, bros.
>>35472119
why would you want to fuck someone that cheated on you?
have some respect for yourself
>>35472119
you won't anon, women tend to fall in love 90% of the time they have sex
>>35468919
anal sucks with condom, and it's just gross and dry without, would do vaginal over anal any day of the week
>>35472190
>tfw had the chance to do anal with a girl who loved anal and whos banghole was clean
>tfw didn't
still regret it
>>35472119
There is no possible outcome that will be good for you if you go that way.
She's worthless. Drop her off.
>>35472119
did it with my first gf (i broke up) and turning it into a fwb did not close the door enough, ergo i broke her heart (only realised it a few years later and could still punch me in the face for it, as she was a really sweet girl), anyhow, holy shit, you're a faggot anon, have some self-respect, she cheated on you, cut her out of your life, you will find better chicks
>>35471970
How the fuck is he supposed to find a girl that hasn't taken thousand of dicks?
Get over your prudity
>>35471954
grecobulgarian
so doube ethnicity,we have lots of turks,(gypsies really in the case of greece ) here
germany was my other guess
>>35472073
baka,s-m-h isnt somehow,is it?
>>35472332
confirmed,it's shake my head,not somehow
>>35472316
Yeah pretty rough here, the decent girls are either already taken or in hiding.
>>35472346
i baka baka senpai
>>35468702
Eat an avocado before sex. It'll change your life.
>>35472389
don't do this you'll die, mustard gas n shit
>>35472410
confirmed 10/10 top legit
>>35472295
>ow the fuck is he supposed to find a girl that hasn't taken thousand of dicks?
most girls in their teens/early twenties havent taken that many dicks
it honestly shocked me when i found out too
Uncut nigga here. I had phimosis since I can remember and with my cleverness, I healed it naturally w/out surgery (if you wanna know how to cure yours, just ask. I'll lay it out for you). But here's the tricky part. Ever since I fixed my phimosis, my dick has gotten bigger. It wasn't a sudden increase but over some months, I realized the length increase. Prolly over half an inch (doesn't sound like much but trust, you'll see the difference). I didn't notice until I measured up and saw it got bigger but at the same time, it was when I seriously started to work out.
So does working out make your dick bigger or was it that phimosis was holding back my true size?
>>35472474
you naive fool
>>35472146
>>35472166
>>35472247
>>35472291
Ah, fuck. That's pretty convincing. But the ass is fat, and going back on the prowl is a pain in the ass. Thanks, guys, appreciate the perspectives.
>>35468702
>Non \fit\ reIated garbage about desperation
Back to \b\ with you.
>>35469553
if the dysfunction is a stiff wind giving you a boner from neptune, then yes
>>35472190
>it's just gross and dry without
>what is saliva
>what is lube
>>35472119
don't do it, gettin over someone sucks enough as it is without still sleeping with them
>>35472546
read in the middle of the thread, great advice, great thread really
>>35472119
Same situation here, should i get back together with her? Thing is i cheated somehow on her after we broke up.
>>35472190
What about week ends?
>>35468702
my gf is the posture on the right.
I told her to strecht out but she could not do it
>>35473374
Just make her lie down completely
>>35473404
i know that trick.
but penis is to short to reach around completly
>>35473425
penis too short
or ass too phat?
>>35473425
are you bigger than 6.5? No homo.
>>35473374
If she has tight hamstrings, have her raise her feet to take the tension off. Rest them on a pillow or something.
>>35473493
Both
>>35473494
1.77m
>>35473512
thx, will try
>>35473694
>1.77m
>>35473750
5' 8" for the US
>>35468801
>used to be
You're a special kind of retarded aren't ya?
>>35473776
1.77 is 5"10 LOL
>>35468852
>Girls think being a virgin past 20 is creepy guys! My gf said so!
>>35469475
Anon, the best orgasms i've had are from oral and fingering. When sex lasts too long it usually just ends up hurting. Most of a girl's arousal/pleasure comes from foreplay. Do you know if your girl is able to orgasm from penetration ? 20% of women cant. Focus on blowing her mind with your hands and mouth, make her orgasm multiple times, she won't care if you can make her cum with your dick or not.
>>35471353
Wait, so you're not a wizard?
>>35470845
Tell her it turns you on when they scream they're cumming/about to cum. They can continue but i've met a girl Who went fucking dry after cumming once. I fixed it by just.. Not pulling it out, more kissing and some saliva. You cum un her stomach, back, ass, legs, feet, tits, and if she's up to it, face or mouth
>>35468801
I love memes but my goodness has this one overstayed it's welcome?
>>35468994
>>35468801
samefag
>>35469000
>tfw my gf sometimes accidentally lets out a fart when I'm fucking her doggy
wat do lads
Guys, I'm super super insecure about my girth. I really try not to be, I try to get past it. I do for a while, but the fear always comes back every once in a while. Ironically I even have a long term, 4 yr, GF that loves me and wants to marry me. We were both virgins so there's no pressure of living up to any expectations.
But I've been around the internet too much. I've known to many RL size queens that get drunk and talk dick size at parties. I've heard every story about how important girth is, how even small increases in it make a big deal, give that "full" feeling, make sex that much better. That skinny dicks are just meh.
I hear all this and think about how I've never made my GF cum from penetration. I think about how there are people out there who could fuck her better than me, just simply because they were born lucky. That if I wasn't her first she'd find me so inadequate. Hell I have friends that I know have huge dicks since the aforementioned size queens dated them and bragged. It makes me feel like I have no value at all as a man.
It really makes me depressed. Is it really THAT big of a deal? I don't know what to listen to any more.
>>35474231
a dick is a dick
>>35474233
Then why is there nothing but talk about size everywhere all the time. Like kinda get what you mean but I don't feel like i can ever trust that. Why do people always talk up girth then? Hell just last month my friend's new GF/fuckbuddy, whatever came to a party and started talking about sex. I tried to ignore her but she started saying she felt bad, but you can really tell the difference if a guy has a skinny dick, and that she didn't consider herself a size queen but she did have a cut off where she'd stop talking to a guy if it was a certain size. I just died inside and wanted to leave.
To clarify I'm 4.5" girth at the thickest point. 6.5" long but hell, all that ends up doing is occasionally stabbing my GF's cervix and making for a bad time.
>>35468702
Thats the same girl lol
>>35474158
New gf or cheat on her with a girl that knows to not fart during sex
>>35474231
>>35474324
You're really deep into it aren't ya m8
There's more to a relationship than how fat your dick is man, it's been proven again and again that dudes worry waaay more about their dick size than chicks do.
Anyway, if you're really this bothered by your dick size, go check out thundersplace or pegym or something.
>>35474324
Bruh I hae a 4.5 needle dick as well and I've made my gf cum multiple times.
Sure having a thick dick is a big advantage, because yes, size fucking matters. But knowing how to fuck your girl, knowing her sweet spots, is much more important
>>35474352
This right here.
Several one night stands have told me that I'm not the biggest they've had, but that the biggest they had didn't make them cum like I did.
>>35472119
>>35472119
>>35472119
She cheated on you
WTF is wrong with you where is your self respect anon?
Dump her
She's a cunt no offence brah
>>35474344
Thank you captain obvious, where did you get your wonderful observation skills?
>>35474352
I just don't know how to get over this
>"Sure having a thick dick is a big advantage, because yes, size fucking matters."
because it feels like I'm an inferior fucking person. That if she ever traded me for ANYONE else it would be a step up.
>>35474346
I'm comfortable that in terms of overall relationship I'm amazing, but its the idea that sexually I'm a lesser specimen.
I don't know. I want to listen to what you are saying. I want to believe it all and be able to happily move on from these thoughts. But every few months they come back and just make me depressed and miserable for a while. It's like this fear I can never actually prove to myself. This little "what if" at the back of my head. Or voice saying "what if you just aren't good enough, nothing you can do will change it, you were just born shit. And the person you care most about only loves you because she hasn't had better."
no advice for people with delayed ejaculation brehs? ;-;
>>35474470
stop jerking off
only have sex
>sometimes can't stay hard
>sometimes cum too fast
>sometime both
The can't stay hard part is better now tough, so please just help me with PE
Soooooo, if you have a simple fuckbuddy(no fwb) and she have other guys on the side while you are away for a longer time, would you still have sex from time to time with her or drop her completely?
>tfw only source of easy sex without wasting a shit ton of time and money
>>35474470
It's all in your heead faggot
>>35474501
what if you dont pull the chickens neck already
>>35474511
enjoy your STDs
>>35474430
A step up in what you insecure shit? Is your dick size fundamentally part of your relationship? Is your gf a cock-crazy maneater? No, she was fucking virgin.
If you let your penis girth define you as a person you've got some big issues bro. Your girl hasn't cheated on you, hasn't complained... yet you will scare her away if you don't outgrow your teenager tier insecurities
Man up you goddamn pussy
>>35474545
How? I don't get how to do that? I can't just turn it off. I try. I really really do try. I've gotten better, I usually only think about it every 3 or 4 months now. But I can't just make it stop. Unless I had valid reason to stop thinking about it. But I keep seeing things in my life that re-enforce my fears.
If you have good advice for getting over it though I'll gladly take it and try it with my all. I fucking hate feeling like this.
>>35474422
I know, man. I dumped her instantly after she told me. Told her to leave and have someone else take her home. But I also want easy sex. It's likely she still has feelings for me, and in that case I'd just drop everything. But if that can be put aside...I just don't want any mutual benefits to go to waste, you know?
jesus just shut your brain off man, dick is dick, doesn't matter, be more secure about your dick man
>>35468702
>sexual health
do not under any circumstance get back with an ex, ever. be it because of sex or something else.
there you go.
>>35470698
For my credentials, I'm 31 years old and have slept with 29 women.
>What do?
>Do I eat her out the first time?
No
>is it expected that I make her cum?
No, but you're expected to at least try.
>What if I don't?
Try harder next time. Do not apologize.
>Do you guys talk during sex?
Yes
>what do you say ?
"How does that feel?" "What do you want?"
>Where do you finish, just inside the condom?
Yeah, that's fine. Or you can pull it off and cum on her stomach or something.
>>35474586
Looks like you're in too deep already man. If you can't ban it from your life you have to tackle it at its root.
Buy a bathmate and follow a pe routine.
Srs that shit works. Don't expect gains overnight and a 5 inch increase in size. But you should be able to put on around 0.8-1 inch of girth if you are dedicated
>>35470914
Just wear a condom
>>35474659
do women get easier above 30, anon?
do they stop with all the childish acts?
>>35474511
if you don't want a relationship, don't expect her to be exclusive. If you're confomrtable keeping it purely physical then you're fine. If you have genuine feelings either tell her flat out or leave. Stringing along will drive you up the wall.
>>35474667
I can't. As fucked up as this shit has me I once took propecia for hairloss and it fucked me up and gave me ED for like 3 months. I got better, but trust me, when your dick is broken for 3 months you realize its better to have any dick and be able to jack it to porn than it is to have no dick. Even the possibility of PE related injuries is enough to make me stay away from that shit.
But you seriously think I'm a lost cause? I want to think one day I can look back at this as a dark period, that maybe if I get engaged to my GF in another year or two(we are 25) that I might finally stop fretting. But I've never been someone to be able to drop things easily. I've always been a pretty obsessive person.
>>35471255
Bruh just get some strong and nice wine, tipsy girls find everything funny, and if you're funny she will be more likely to sleep with you
>>35468806
Its all about circumstances desu. i lost mine 19 days after i turned 17, but i easily could have gone 2-3+ more years w/o losing it if the circumstances had been different. just about girls you meet and when.
>>35474158
its probs a vagina fart desu- my gf does the same
>>35471374
>Hey it's me your cousin. Wanna go bowling?
>Solid
>>35472190
You just haven't had a nice tight butt yet <3
And you can use saliva or cum as lube if the condom doesn't have it for some reason.
>>35469070
Only if we can cuddle later too~
>>35474740
Fin blocks DHT and can kill your libido
PE exercises won't kill your dick. Trust me. Just warm up. It's just fearmongering
>>35474808
trappy you ever try the bbc?
>>35470698
It's important to just do what you feel like with confidence. want to switch to doggy? pull out and tell her to turn over, lift her ass, get on her knees etc.
I don't mean order her around like a robot - but she also wants you to enjoy yourself - so there's nothing wrong with saying things like 'hey, turn over' or 'arch your back a little more' etc etc
If you feel like going down on her, do it, she'll let you know if she's not into something you're doing.
Making a woman cum by oral isn't rocket science, just pay attention to what she's enjoying, and if you find a rhythm she likes DON'T FUCKING CHANGE WHAT YOU'RE DOING - you can SLOWLY up the intensity (more pressure, sucking harder on clit etc) - just don't change the speed and rhythm if she's making the right noises. if your tongue cramps, tough shit, don't stop.
Just don't dive in for full on clit flicking action from the start,
Basically, have fun, and do what you're both enjoying, and have (or fake) a little confidence - nothing worse than asking her 20 questions ' would you like to do doggy now - would you like to suck my cock please - shall I go down on you - can i smack your ass please' etc.
>>35474866
> can i smack your ass please
made me laugh anon thanks, first time i had a good laugh after 2 weeks man thanks
>>35474158
Lend her your squat plug.
>>35474838
Not really, had very very little sex in my life so far :(
>>35468702
My dicks 9.3 inches, but for the past few years it only gets to about 8.5 unless im really horney.
>blessed with a big dick
>have slight erectile disfuntion
>fellsbadman.jpg
