Stop watching porn

>>35075709
You might not be nervous, but you could be having performance anxiety. Like you're not completely in the moment, you're more like "I really wanna please this girl" and it fucks you up senpai.


Had the same thing happen this friday with a girl I've been seeing - first time we had sex. I constantly lost my erection, condom kept falling off, shit was bad. We stopped and I didn't even make her get off. I feel ya bro.

>>35075733
I've stopped as of a few months ago. I think the trigger of porn + dick in hand = a certain image for what causes an erection. If you lose that trigger and find yourself in another scenario then it fucks you up.

>>35075744
Good point, I'm very unselfish and did want to please her, ironically. So same thing. Next morning she wanted sex again and I still couldn't get it up. Fucking awful isn't it man

Understand that jacking off is basically dress rehearsal for sex. If you just passively jack off while watching people fuck that is all you will be good for. If you make it a point to simulate fucking you will be much better prepared for that. Props can be useful for this but not really necessary. Getting used to ĥumping a loose fist makes even a 'used' coochie feel pretty nice by comparison. Also there is probably some nervousness involved so getting relaxed (a beer or two) and just enjoying the foreplay aspects until your dick is ready should help too.

>>35075788
Thanks man

Man I know your pain, always been confident with girls and had plenty fall for me but confidence got knocked one time when I was with a girl in bed took 30minites or so playing with her getting her moaning and as soon as I put a condom on I flopped was so embaressing its near killed me, still said it was the most fun she's had with someone even without sex

>>35075709
I would have assumed that it is ED caused by either nervousness, issues related to pornography and masturbation or at worst case scenario a health condition that prevents you from maintaining erections (although you said 'pre-sex' is fine so probably not that).

However you did bring up homosexuality 3 times in those first few lines, so are you sure you are not in denial?

I appreciate that you may have wanted to prevent the predictable responses of you being gay but a simple
>inb4 gay
would have sufficed.

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>>35075709
IVE BEEN THERE, AND IVE FIXED IT

The trick is in the girl. If you go down on a girl and lick her for like 20 mins there is no way to maintain a hard on for so long.

Simply when you want to fuck, make her suck your dick, or give you a handjob, DONT BE SHY.. make that bitch work
If she lays there like a plank of wood its not your fault.

Believe me when you find a right perverted girl, being hard too often will become your problem

any more tips? >>35076405 was helpful, but I'm curious to hear more

>>35076376
>don't mention inb4 gay
>get called gay

>mention it too many times
>get called gay

>>35075709
1. Go to doctor
2. Get viagra
3. Get erection
4. If you still have problems, you'll have an insanely long stamina until you finally cum

>>35077840
I want a prevention not fix

bump
same problem, tried like 5 times already with my gf, but at latest when I have the condom on and she tries inserting my dick I get too soft to go through with it.
feelsbad man

Maybe it's lack of anticipation.
Think about her sometimes when you're going about your business, talk dirty to her.

If it's not that, it may be perfromance anxiety.
I had this problem too. What helps is to bond with the girl, get to know her. Once you feel more comfortable with her, your dick will too.

What it can also be is (no joke) literally cold feet.
I noticed that whenever my feet are cold as fuck, i can't seem to get very aroused.

>>35075709
Do you do drugs, smoke (cigs and/or weed), drink, or skip cardio?
Could be a test problem, talk to your doctor is probably best advice. Erection control exercises can help if you can get it hard but not maintain. You could also be the kind of person who can't get it up for a hook up. It happens. I doubt you're asexual, or at least that it's affecting your ability to get hard. I'm asexual and I can still get it up when I have sex (feels good to bust a nut man).

>>35080193
what kind of erection control exercises?

also, how exactly are you asexual while still enjoying sex? don't know much about the topic

thanks in advance friend

It's the girls. When you find the right one you'll know it.

Meaningless sex is not psychologically normal and your inability to engage in such activity is a positive indication that you're mentally healthy. Hold on to that and you'll have a real chance at a healthy relationship down the road.

And never trust women. They're all fucked in the head.

>>35080486

>Meaningless sex is not psychologically normal


what the fuck

>>35075709

I am always like that the first time I have sex with a new girl, but after having sex with the same girl like twice or so it stays hard.

I think it got something to do with performance anxiety (?) or whatever it's called in english..

>>35080362
Things like edging, or fapping and then trying to hold the erection with no stimulation like porn through thought and perineum contractions.

And I'm not sexually attracted to people. I don't see a good looking person and think anything beyond that they're aesthetically pleasing, it's kind of hard to explain. Though at the same time sticking your dick in stuff feels good, and sex is fun. In the Ace community I'm considered a grey ace by everyone but the people who say "If you masturbate you're not asexual enuff". I still prefer sex with attractive people because it's easier to fuck someone if you're not thinking about how gross they look.

>>35075709
engage in longer fore play. use toys to spice things up.

>>35080505
He's right, committed monogamous relationships are normal human behavior and the sexual revolution was entirely based on jewish lies.

>>35080193
does cardio really help with the quality of your erection?

>>35080556
>>35080505

What the fuck are you even talking about?


If you call it an "indicative of good mental health" do you want to tell us that 90% of men who actually manage the incredbile task of having sex outside monogamous relationship are mentally unhealthy?

Give me a break, I am a hardcore premature ejaculator myself but I don't try to excuse it with some bullshit.

>>35080540
you literally need to leave.

no one uses toys on a fucking hook up

if you do foreplay longer for guys, it can cause ED to get worse, not better.


fuck off you DYEL chink bitch you probably read that from the Cosmopolitan

>>35075709
I kind of have that problem, I can get hard but sometimes i get nervous that i wont be able to cum and shell think theres something wrong with me.

this only happens when i hook up with some girl i dont know, if im in love the sex is way better and i dont get nervous about anything, to bad i got cheated on and havnt had a gf in over two years. someday ill get back on my feet tho

does anyone else get nervous about cumming when having sex with a new girl for the first time?

>>35080626
Maybe it's because you never used toys on hook ups. family

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OP here, thanks for all the replies. I just imagined no one else had this problem as men are all horny fuckers, but seems quite a few do.

Best of luck lads, you deserve it.

We'll all make it.

>>35080618

Intense reaction there dude. I think thou doth protest a bit much.

Inability to have random sex with strangers is totally consistent with what's known about human behavior. Not just primate pair-bonding, but the bio-chemical processes involved in love.

If you don't believe in love, then I won't be able to convince you it's real and quite attainable.

Also, very much agree with the guy who said you should tell the girl to suck it. Sex is a mutual act and just as you should be interested in the other persons' needs and enjoyment, so should your partner. Refer to my first point if that seems outlandish.

>>35080685
This is me too senpai, pretty much word for word. Have missed like 6 opportunities since, haven't taken any cuz nervous af.

>>35075709
>presex
Do you mean foreplay?

>>35076405
Normally fit is full of retards giving retarded advice.

This however is absolutely spot on!!

I get hard instantly, like the second my gf touches me and that is when the clock starts. If we have sex straight away i fuck for 30 minutes easy with position changes

If i go down on her and lots of foreplay by the time i get her off i struggle to get hard again.

I have really sensitive nipples, I played with them to get off all the time. I am programmed that way so during sex I need a girl to stimulate them for me to get off. Is there some technique you used frequently to get off? Perhaps you have programmed yourself to get off a specific way?

>>35075733
This!! Your reptile brain does not see the difference between porn and the real thing so after watching superhot girls everyday on the internet, the real thing isn't that exiting anymore. Us men are visual creatures.