Life is meaningless unless your good looking
Life is a struggle unless your rich
Life is inherently meaningless. You exist to pass on your genes and keep living. Choose your own path or let other mold you
happiness = health +abundance of resources + love
if it's impossible for you to get all 3 of those you might as well kill yourself now to avoid unhappiness
trust me I frequent a guatemalan banana farming internet board
>>34907353
>life is inherently meaningless
>you exist to pass on your genes ie you exist for a reason implying there is meaning
>>34907323
Life is using the resouces to were given (Looks, Intelligence, Resiliance, Environment) to achieve your personal definition of purpose and happiness. For most people there won't be free beer. Most people struggle. Most people could be happy. Most aren't.
>>34907359
hm that really does sum it up
I always thought of it as achieving different values in life.
Health
Wealth
Scociel Status/ Influence
Relationships
Wisdom
All boils down to those 3 things, I've definatly been over complicating things
All your friends really believe they are better than you in some way
But they walk around thinking that its a given.
Don't believe me? Start to take notice, test it for yourself
Happiness is self defined.
You wouldn't be happy if you had all the money in the world and some sort of malignant tumor, or lost both of your legs.
Some fuckers feel happy just knowing they are healthy and fit, not suffering from some bullshit disease or ailment like some other unlucky sob.
If you think happiness means having money, you will be sad until you are swimming in it, if you think happiness is having some clingy bitch to be all lovey dovey with you will be sad forever.
Just be happy for what's going on for you, try to improve it so you can become happier, and don't base your happiness on someone, people will disappoint you.
>>34907399
34y oldfag here. These three things aren't binary. I'm well off, but I'm not millionaire. I was happy when I was at university with really little money and no love, but lots of sports and a few good friends. I'm happy now because of good money, lots of traveling and pussy (PUA helped). Being in love is awesome for a while and one needs nothing else, but it wears off and hurts like hell when it ends. Health is degrading over the years and it's ok.
I learned a few things over the years:
- Fight for your luck because no one else will. Get education and a career going, get better with people, do what's necessary to get these three things up with reasonable effort
- One area can compensate for the others for a while, but not forever. Be flexible what you draw your purpose and happiness from.
- Stay cool and be happy with what you got and achieved. It doesn't matter much for you personally what the others have and how they got it. Happiness is mainly intrinsic. Within certain bounadries of course.
>>34907323
im good looking but I have no friends so that meens i rarely get laid and dont really have a good life. how do i make friends? its hard when youre a good looking guy because other guys hate you out of jealousy
>>34907437
> its hard when youre a good looking guy because other guys hate you out of jealousy
No it is not. That is an excuse by subconscience you so that you don't have to face the real challange.
Get better with people. You have it the easy mode. Learn to be a good conversationalist and to be fun to be around. It's not that hard. The web has info.
>>34907422
Also life is indeed meaningless, it's all in your fucking head and depends on how you see the world around you and your place in it.
Some won't rest until they've left their mark on the world, some are looking to be as happy as they can be, some are looking to slay as much pussy as possible, some wanna breed so much they leave behind no less than a football team's worth of humans behind.
>>34907323
i guess
but i feel like, being ugly is hard mode. and if an ugly faggot is actually able to achieve his goals despite being on hard mode, the reward is going to be a lot sweeter.
Plus, every attractive guy somewhere down the road gets a kid. which is pretty much game over. or at least for the following 18 years.
>>34907450
but specifically where and how do i meet friends?
>>34907467
I have a good understanding of style in other people. I've helped many people getting their looks up and 90% of the people who are considered ugly by others or themselves aren't even close to their potential.
>>34907476
>their potential
no, if your facial features don't have symmetry or proper bone structure, youre ugly. no if ands or buts about it. thanks for trying to make some of us feel better though.
>>34907472
Program for you:
* Read on the web how to be a decent conversationalist. Google helps.
* Train every day with people you have no relation to. Give yourself tasks. You sound like a harder case so you should start pretty basic. Like saying hi to the cashier. Next time wish a nice day and smile. Smile a lot in general. That shit is easy to make an automatic habit. At some point give yourself the task to make three people smile every day. Learn to play with your body language.
* Now you're ready for real game. Join clubs and classes. Language, sports, whatever. Do that shit now here. Say hi and go from there. Make witty comments that spark a conversation. Build up the relationship over time. It's easy because you see the same people often. If a place is dead leave it and find another. But don't leave too quickly.
* Hit on chicks. PUA has good info, but is overloaded with crap.
In one year you will be much better.
>>34907515
That shit is exactly what I mean. Everybody has a uneven bone structure, asymmetric eyes etc.
A haircut can even out the ratio, a beard can even out asymmetries and get a good jawline. Clothes can distract and have an immense impact on the overall appearance. You're finding excuses to not work on yourself. That's cool. But then stop whining.
>>34907392
What do you mean with resiliance exactly ?
>>34907528
im not whining, i just dont like being fed bullshit.
but you seem like you know what you talking about so what do you suggest for people with a horse face?
>>34907548
Not him but i think he means how much shit you can endure before blowing your wig
>>34907549
I don't feed bullshit. I'm pragmatic and deal with results. I didn't take any money for it ever. I'm not an expert, but good enough to make a profound impact on many people. It's just annoying to see them copy me all the time. Doesn't work. Have to tweak for each individually.
As for you, it is not only about your face, but your overall appearance. I'd need a full body picture, but let's go with what we have. How tall are you and what do you mean by horse face? Is it a long face that gets narrow towards the chin? What's your ethnicity? What's your haircut?
>>34907548
Resiliance describes your ability to bounce back from bad things in your life. It seems to be genetic, but can be trained well.
>>34907557
Suspected as much. Just think it is closely related to the environment one is born in.
>>34907608
It has a genetic component, but the environment during the childhood is the most reliable predictor.
>>34907518
Thanks this is pretty good.
I think the reason I'm like this is ive been conditioned to think that as a man its disgusting for me to approach strangers in public.
>>34907581
this is my mug
5' 7"
do u see the horseness now?
dont really care if anyone recognizes me at this point. if you were to talk to me irl, youd know that in my eyes all you would see is uncertainty and insecurity.
>>34907323
/r9k/ pls go
>>34907659
I don't know where you are. Approaching strangers is normally a bit creepy. Takes some practice to do it well. That's why you go to clubs where this is accepted. But a lot of the training is to do it smooth and not creepy.
I'm at a stage where I can hit on practially any girl I see in the streets and the worst thing that happens is that she walks off after two minutes with a big smile. Best case is we end up having a coffee or a conversation on the street and she gives me her number afterwards.
Your goal should be to make everyone who you talk to happy or at least feel good. Next goal is to find people to make happy.
>>34907686
I'd really need to have a training session with you. You need to learn body language and attitude. I'd love to have your forearms. Your face is good. Should try a well trimmed (!) full beard. It would make you look more confident and manly.
And that blue shirt. Man, ditch that shirt, really. You go with well fitting clothes. Not too casual. Project status. Keep your head up. Besides a little lack of height (Heavy shoes, gain two inches there) your problem is not your looks genetics. You're a 7 already.
>>34907715
thanks mate but im having a really hard time believing you.
thanks for trying though.
>I'd really need to have a training session with you
are you some sort of beauty adviser or something?
>>34907741
> are you some sort of beauty adviser or something?
No, not beauty adviser. I'm 34, I come from being an unfucked nerd who smelled badly, looked like shit, couldn't talk to people and was depressed.
I got myself out of this shit. It took me years, but it worked. I wanted to do everything I could before I put that bullet in my brain. My problem was basically girls and man, I was so far off. However, most things can be trained and changed. This is my specialty. I know everything one needs to know in order to get into the head of people. From style and looks to mimic and body language, tone of voice, articulation, conversation, getting into the mind of people and stay there. It is possible and not hard. It's a long way though. Takes a few years, but beginner gains are immense.
>>34907691
that's impressive. how long did it take you to get to that point? also how many new women do you sleep with per month?
>>34907769
oh. ok. well what was your first course of action to become that person? are there any books that i should read?
>>34907741
>>34907769
Also, you can believe me. I care for results, not sugar coated talk that doesn't change anything.
I'm just being pragmatic and evaluate your situation. You look good. Period. Your problems are somewhere else. Your behavior, style, ego, whatever, don't know yet. I don't know if being black is a problem because I'm white. I'm two inches taller than you, not sure if that changes a lot. Despite the height discussions on here I score like hell. My theory is that if you got nothing else to offer, height matters. In my case it's irrelevant.
>>34907775
>>34907796
The journey never ends and there are many different construction sites. The basic concept is to be a decent person that has goals and measures to achieve them, picks his goals wisely and pursues healthy, stable relationships with people. Most things fall under these rules.
I don't sleep with many women. I have a few fuck buddies and affaires, but I like to maintain and grow them. At this moment it's three girls. I hit on other chicks regularly wherever I am. New girls enter my cirlcle, others leave because they found a boyfriend or I am not interested anymore. Happyness is not about the sheer number of girls. I cannot have every girl I want. But all the girls I'm with I want.
The PUA scene has something to offer, but is mainly bullshit. I'd start with three things:
* Learn and understand objectively(!) how other people perceive you and how you can influence that perception. That is mainly style, fashion, body language (big deal!), language (speak like a person of status. Voice, tone, words.)
* Understand people. Learn conversation and how to make people happy. Learn how to influence people's emotions.
* Get a good lifestyle going. Have a career. Be a successful person. Have your own definition of success, but realize that not everyone shares it. Have hobbies, have things that you are passionate about. Doesn't matter what it is.
PUA read (among the other more basic topic): Book of Pook, girlschase.com , Typer Durden on Youtube is good too. Learn to separate solid info from bullshit.
>>34907872
this post is solid brehs, srs
>>34907872
how old are you?
>>34907892
I'm 34. Seen a lot and what I did worked out. I was also able to make it work for other people.
>>34907896
awesome stuff thanks for posting
>>34907872
>* Learn and understand objectively(!) how other people perceive you and how you can influence that perception. That is mainly style, fashion, body language (big deal!), language (speak like a person of status. Voice, tone, words.)
I think this is the biggest one I have to work on. Unfortunately I am an unsuperficial person so I always assumed appearance doesn't matter too much but have slowly been realizing that my shabby appearance has been holding me back
>>34907925
Then your mistake is what I mean with 'objectively'. We tend to assume that other people perceive people the same way we do. Shabby appearance is a bad thing in most settings (not in all though, think music festivals).
You made a big step. You are no longer unconsciously uninformed ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Four_stages_of_competence ).
>>34907917
I like to do it. I was very, very close to killing myself. I always think that I might save someones life with writing up stuff like this.
At the minimum I am very sure to improve the lives of a few people. Too bad I can't monitor your progress. Most people need mentoring, a push in the right direction from time to time.
>>34907966
why not make a trip?
or... you wouldnt happen to be Finanacebrah, would you? He used to post SIG threads on fit before the mods kicked him out
>>34907686
Top tier body, good jawline and cheekbones. Get a better haircut. Maybe a beard if you can. Dress better. Believe me you can look really good.
I've seen ugly ass nignogs fuck hot women, you're not one of them. It's not your face holding you back.
The Anon who you were talking to has some good advice, follow it.
>>34907686
I would fuck you.
Thread should not die.
>>34907353
>You exist to pass on your genes
cute
you think because human beings have a baser instinct to reproduce due to the reward system of neurotransmitters (i.e dopamine, serotonin) being released into the brain that it somehow becomes some kind of supreme life objective of humans in general
you know what else releases neurotransmitters?
food, exercise, music, taking risks, humor, discovery, winning a prize, familiar faces, attractive faces, smiling faces, and love just to name a few
Jesus you guys are a bunch of downers.
Im a chronically ill 6/10 5'11 king of manlets with a retail job and i love life. Live in a socialistic country so have free school/healthcare etc.
After taxes i make roughly 3k a month. 1,5k of those are expenses. Live with a nice GF. We save around 2,5k a month, we go on monthly holidays, i have weekends off and i don't have to take any work home with me. I have a bachelors in technical engineering but it was boring as shit, so i went back and got a fulltime at my old job. When i decided to say fuck it to everyone expectations of me my life became so much better, who cares if im a retail manager, in a decade i'll probably own my own store anyway and make bank.
>>34907402
who was it that said that the only thing that makes life bearable is knowing you are better than your friends or common men or something
>>34908542
No you pretentious idiot. I think that because that is our only purpose if you can call it that. You only described things that make us feel good.
Somewhere out there a long time ago cell formed spontaneously. Some time later by coincidence some bacteria was engulfed by an archaea but not digested. Their mutualistic relationship proved to be extremely beneficial and now we have the complex life forms we do today.
The human species evolved out of these life forms. We are not special. There is no higher reason that things happened the way they did. We're just here. The only reason we want to live is because those who could see things for what they were probably killed themselves and were removed from the gene pool.
There is really no purpose to life. We can do things that make us feel good, sure. But the closest thing to a purpose in life is to survive and reproduce; we've evolved to do just that. We're kinda just here because of some coincidences and special conditions.
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