People who gets laid alot does it makes you more happy? Should it really be a goal?
I'm not a virgin and have had sex maybe over 100 times with my ex. Will getting laid make me happy?
Aks the gays. They actually have trouble finding non-slut partners.
>>34851394
Not really, it gets stale after a while
I'm definitely more relaxed and happy now that I have sex on a regular basis, but I also started having sex on a more regular basis because I got a gf and eventually married her, so that's kind of a big confound.
Chasing sex is great and multiplies the enjoyment once you finally get it, because every girl is a fresh experience sexually at first. Then you realize its the same shit, and the amount of money and energy spent is just stupid. Honestly its not a big deal, but you need to have it once in a while for health reasons.
>>34851404
are you implying straight guys don't? because as far as my eyes can see, hoes over hoes.
>will it make me happy
Potentially, it depends how you view it.
Your happiness is tied to your opinion of your worth; if you think smashing sluts is a worthwhile endeavour, it will. Perhaps its the constant connection and validation from multiple people that you want?
But, further than that, it's always worthwhile to ask yourself this:
What would this do for me?
>>34851437
But the gays actually have lot's of sex. ;_;
>>34851438
fuck you hit a spot
damn Sigmund
>having to get laid to become happy
>making it
Happiness comes from within, it's 100% a psychological process. Convince yourself to be happy - meditation is key.
How the fuck does any of you think you'll make it if you only get one of the three main goals in life?
Spiritual, physical and mental gains
>>34851422
this desu
>>34851551
My body is a little too weak for the world, my mind is calling it quits...
But something propels me forward, to try and to desire either way... Is that spirit?
How do I maximise spirit gains?
>>34851551
>meditation is key
When will this meme die?
>>34851596
spoken like someone who has never tried meditation. i guarantee if you meditate or do yoga early in the morning every day you're life will completely change and you'll start focusing on what's important. i know what i'm saying seems like bs to you but you'll only know if you try it. those hindus and buddhists know whats up man
>>34851619
>tfw you realise 95% of your thoughts in a day lack any sort of intention or purpose
Meditation is the ultimate exercise in disciplining the mind.
>>34851394
Mirin that hamstring flexibility
>>34851551
social gains are a part of mental gains though. especially if you haven't attained any sort of proficiency in getting laid yet that is a big chunk of the developed male psyche you're still missing. i thing mastery over the vag is an admirable skill of sorts.
fully agreeing on the meditation part though. it has given me a healthy level of detachment from success and failure.
>>34851632
>tfw i want to give up this society and live with monks in nepal, thailand, or india for a while
know any good places senpai?
>>34851394
>Will getting laid make me happy?
Nope, at least not for more than a couple of minutes.
We all yearn for love and acceptance and sex will never actually give that to you.
>>34851650
Why do you want to give up this society? If you give this up, what do you think you'll gain?
>>34851596
maybe the meme part will die when people start taking it seriously
>>34851394
Yes. Sometimes if I don't get laid for a while I get.... Weird
>>34851592
Meditate! Start today. 20 minutes and spirit gains will go through the roof - it's really not bullshit. Also The Art of Happiness with Dalai Lama is worth a read, really. It's pretty straight-on
>>34851675
>sit down for 20 minutes
>all i can think about is the shit i really ought to be doing instead of sitting around thinking about the shit i really ought to do
I don't see how this might possibly work
>>34851662
don't really want to gain anything, that's kind of the opposite of what i'm going for. life's going good right now but i feel like to really gain happiness or 'nirvana' or whatever i need a lot more detachment from the day to day world. I think 3-4 months living in solitude in a monk will be an amazing experience desu
>>34851696
that's exactly how it is at first man! but after doing it for 1-2 weeks you'll start focusing only on the current moment, your breath, and the experience of living. sounds cheesy but you should definitely try it. Look at one of the old books by Indian/Nepalese gurus if you're really inerested
>>34851699
>i feel like to really gain happiness or 'nirvana' or whatever i need a lot more detachment from the day to day world
Why do you think this?
>>34851696
It takes practice just like anything. Start with small time increments and actively focus on clearing your mind, then increase time as you get better at it.
>>34851699
you don't even need to go to asia, there are places every corner, they do vipassana meditation or how it is called. Basically you pay for being with other losers and nobody is allowed to speak. The longer you can stay e.g. weeks/months, the higher your fedora score become
>>34851696
because meditation is the same as any practice shillers try to scam you in. Have you ever worked in an Agile team? Followed lean practices? It only pays for the guy who is a certified consultant. Worse, if you think it is bullshit, you are the one doing it wrong!
>>34851711
If i want to experience what you just described I simply go for a run..
>>34851769
meditation is decentralized though. you don't need any qualifications to meditate.
group meditations are more for people who don't like being alone.
>>34851792
pls, do you have a yt channel I can listen to? Should I subscribe and click your ads? Do you sell apparel?
The fact that it is sold with yoga aimed at females does not make it less of a snake oil, thank you.
>>34851841
Do you think yoga and meditation are modern western practices?
Do you think independent learning without an instructor is the best way to learn something?
Are you just a cunt who should shut the fuck up?
>>34851841
that's like saying you need to watch scott herman fitness and hire him as a personal trainer in order to perform a squatting movement because it wouldn't be possible otherwise.
meditation is simply the act of not feeding into your chattering mind and raising your conscious awareness. all techniques are just differend options to enable you to do so. you can meditate without any technique just fine too.
>>34851866
not at all, I'm saying there are incentives at play, and your well being is the last of them. Like when paying for a course on self improvement or listening to a TED(x) speech. It is not about you, but the guys bank account and/or e-cred being upped. Just don't be that gullible please.
I understand when someone trying to shill meditation it is because of his/her selfish motivations and monetizing on it some way is one of them.
>>34851852
>this mad because someone pointing out bs
please cite your sources that meditation is more effective than placebo, thanks
>>34851422
>has to spend money to get sex
what a nerd
No. The crushing depression isn't something you'll resolve with getting your dick wet.
With that said, it's a hell of a good distraction for a couple of hours
>>34851394
I always feel great after busting a nut especially if i got to bust inside her
>>34852011
I never made that claim so no citations will be offered. You're welcome.
You though, cite sources that someones wellbeing is the last incentive at play when meditation is suggested online. You've made a lot of positive statements, time to back those up.
You sound like a undergrad who thinks he's too smart for the world, while your programming blinds you and makes you even more stupid.
You're not that smart.
I only want to fuck a really hot girl cause that is confirmation that i've made it, physically.
girls are shallow, and if I can impress a really hot girl that means im very fit (im not rich either). obviously it feels good but still.
>>34851551
>Happiness comes from within, it's 100% a psychological process
This nigga gets it.
>>34851551
True. Seek cognitive consonance.
>>34852140
>You sound like a undergrad who thinks he's too smart for the world, while your programming blinds you and makes you even more stupid.
someone is projecting hard
>>34852149
>almost 2k16
>still thinking girls get wet because of muscles and not height/facial features
>>34852223
>not thinking your facial aesthetics can improve due to losing bodyfat
you arent wrong but getting fit does play a part, it isnt just muscles
>>34851551
This.
Please talk to my girl bout that.
>>34852223
>>34852228
you guys are fucking retarded. It's your attitude that gets girls wet. Face/height/muscles just makes it easier to warm her up
>>34852228
of course, you can improve on average like what .5? 1? You will not seduce a girl with a faceless selfie or a dickpic. No one does.
>>34852223
You sound like you avoided the point entirely. Post your citations for the claims you stated as fact.
Or do you concede they were merely opinions from an ill-informed mind?
Not even projecting, you're just obvious.
>>34852247
>says the guy who starts comments with fucking retarded
wow, you are very credible, could you teach your smooth ways pls?
>i dont fucking know what i want in life anymore
ˢᵐʰ ᵗᵇʰ ᶠᵃᵐ
>>34852310
What did you use to want
What do you think you want now
How do you feel about your current situation?(not knowing what to want in life)
there is more to life than girls
but getting validated from a hot girl is what is important, not actually fucking her. impressing her means that you have value or status, in society. it isnt just about getting your dick wet.
>>34851696
Then for 99% of your day that isn't meditation get that shit done.
Dirty Reddit plug, but theXeffect is quite helpful for that. It lets you set a long term goal for yourself and motivate yourself towards accomplishing it.
>>34852283
You're some anonymous stranger on the entire spewing garbage about something with which you have limited experience. I'm giving you a little bit of tough love here, I don't care if you listen or not. Calling you retarded doesn't mean I'm wrong. Do you seriously think I call people retarded in real life?
>>34852434
you are making some assumptions there bruv.
Of course you not, you only let go yourself when you are anonymous online. The real manifestation of your inner workings if you like. A true gentleman you are.
>>34852472
If you can't handle the banter, then just leave. No need to get so butthurt about it
>>34851551
>>34852156
>>34852232
>>34852193
>Convince yourself to be happy
Is the
>Health at every size
Of the mind
The person who looks at station in life and says "I am happy with this, happiness comes from within" is no different from the person who says "I am happy with my heart problems, back pressure sores and necrotic ass, health and beauty come from within"
>>34851394
Sex is good. Feels fuckin great. Great confidence booster.
I swear there's an aura about me when I get laid. Women are just way more receptive.
>>34852581
>The person who looks at station in life and says "I am happy with this, happiness comes from within" is no different from the person who says "I am happy with my heart problems, back pressure sores and necrotic ass, health and beauty come from within"
Convincing yourself to be happy is a misnomer of what inner happiness truly is. Inner peace doesn't come from being completely content with your current situation no matter what it is. It comes from understanding that your present situation isn't always immediately changeable. Sometimes you have to grind through the bad times, and that's ok, because you understand that your present situation doesn't define you or your life. If you are constantly working toward progressing and are genuinely putting in 100% effort, then there is no reason to be defeated by your situation.
Inner happiness is knowing that life is constant learning and progression and has nothing to do with being content with stagnation.
I'm a recovering sex addict.
I've been in therapy for sexual abuse (and all the assoicated fuck ups) for 30 months. I've been out of a toxic co dependent relationship for almost a year. I've fucked so many women that I don't know how many, can't remember loads of them, etc. I still always string along a few girls at a time. It's miserable. When I first broke up with my ex I began my attempt at being celibate for a while. I fucked someone 6 days later. Then I lasted 2 weeks. Then a month. The longest I've done was 6 weeks which I've done a few times now.
Happiness can only come from within. Sure there are some catalysts, etc., but ultimately you shouldn't worry about fucking people for happiness. I love fucking. I love meeting new women, I love hot bitches bodies, I love making them cum, I enjoy breaking their fucking hearts.
But I'm really trying to get back to reality. Because that life isn't a reality and it's unhealthy and it's my life on a trajectory that is not my own (which is the story of my life after abuse).
So, getting laid is fun and awesome when it comes from the right place within you, the right reasons, etc.
But don't loose yourself in the ocean of pussy that is out there. It's surprisingly easy to drown and really hard to get back to dry land.
>>34851394
>makes you more happy?
a fleshlight that requires $ to use? muhahaha
>>34852633
>I swear there's an aura about me when I get laid. Women are just way more receptive.
I don't personally know you, so this won't necessarily be accurate.
When you get laid, you have tangible proof that women (even if it's only one) desire you. It basically means that the result of your interactions with other women holds no bearing, because in the back of your mind you know that you have at least 1 woman that craves your dick completely of her own volition.
You become completely separated from the outcome of your interactions with other women. This is the basis of the "confidence" that women always say they're attracted to. "Being confident" comes from the ability to be in this state of mind at all times, because after all, why do you care if the woman you're flirting with wants to fuck or not? You can always just go fuck the one that already wants your cock
55 total partners here. Nah, doesn't make you happy.
78.66.178.168
>>34852707
I-I'm a recovering sex addict too
23 years sex free, g-get on my level
>>34852707
There's no such thing as a sex addict you fucking retard special snowflake rofl.
>>34852757
I want to beleive!
Banging sloots does get old.
Initially guys tend to focus on quantity. Once you're over that, you start to focus more on quality. What qualifies as a woman of high quality depends on the guy, of course.
>>34852757
>>34852707
>sex addition
who cares
>>34852770
Sure thing buddy. In an another life I may have been addicted to alcohol or heroin, sex, and women, are my addiciton. Sorry if that's difficult for you to understand. Maybe take a social science when you go to college, son.
>>34852795
Alcohol and heroin create physical dependencies that lead to chemical imbalances that create psychological dependencies.
Sex does not, moron.
>>34852788
haha.
No, you want, or need to have sex, to the point that it damages your life.
>Given that “gambling disorder” was reclassified from a disorder of impulse control to a behavioral addiction in the DSM-5, there is now no theoretical reason why other behavioral addictions can’t be added in the years to come.
http://www.addiction.com/expert-blogs/sex-addiction-dsm-5-2/
>>34852804
Thanks virign!
See
>>34852821
>>34852779
>>34852788
>23 years sex free
I'm a virgin you idiots
>>34852837
Rofl. Tabloid articles and ad hominem retorts. You sure showed me, dude. But sure, I bet you managed to get addicted to something that billions of people do every day and trillions of humans have done for thousands of years without issue. You either have the weakest, most addiction-prone brain in the world or you're just a tumblrcore special snowflake desperate for something to set them apart.
>>34852804
>that lead to chemical imbalances that create psychological dependencies.
You honestly believe that sex doesn't do this? What about porn, gambling, food addiction, people addicted to weed, addiction to video games?
Or do you think the people that suffer from this shit are just weak-willed? Literally anything that induces a reward reaction can, when unchecked, spiral out of control into an actual reconstruction of parts of the brain
>>34852904
Calling any of those things "addictions" is as insulting to actual addicts as tumblerinas claiming to have PTSD over being called fat is to soldiers and other actual victims of PTSD.
>>34852878
>You either have the weakest, most addiction-prone brain in the world
nearly right. If you had the kind of sex I have you'd be addicted to. haha. It's okay, this is a world you can't ever understand. I don't live in a basement and fap to video games, so I'll never understand yours. Sex, for me (and lots of other post abused) is filled with many other emotions, energies, and psycholoigcal implications. That 'gratification' is entirely different to what most people feel. On the other hand, I can actually get laid whenever I want, so access is a component too. Again, something you'll never understand. You also arent' a Post Doc working in addiction, psychology, psychotherapy, psychiatry, etc., so you have expertise from neither side of this topic. You're just an opinionated dicklet.
>>34852870
I know, that's why I said I wanted to beleive. I wanted to beleive you were a 40something year old who had beaten addiciton (although, I don't think abstenance is 'beating' it.. I'd be more on Billy Idol's kinda vibe).
I was a virgin until I was 21 though. So who knows, maybe youll be cursed and fuck 100 women in the next few years.
>>34851394
law of diminishing returns comes into play
>>34852929
That's not even true, though. Millions of people are addicted to nicotine, hell some people smoke 2 packs a day of that shit. Caffeine is the same shit as well.
Nicotine and caffeine don't even provide that much of a high, just slight buzzes until you eventually need either one just to feel normal. You think because cigarettes and coffee can't ruin your life that it's any less valid to call them addictions?
>>34852707
Teach me how you pulled so many girls. I will use the knowledge responsibly.
>>34852997
>>34852941
>I was a virgin until I was 21 though. So who knows, maybe youll be cursed and fuck 100 women in the next few years.
I sure hope so
I'm with this guy by the way. Inb4 >it'd be irresponsible of me to tell you how to be that much of a stud and you might get addicted too ;^)
We are hard-wired to do it. It is literally the reason we exist.
>>34851394
Didn't read any of the replies in this thread.. but here's my view.
It doesn't make me very happy. Getting laid used to make me happy. I used to feel like I achieved something. Like I conquered something.
I got a massive ego boost from knowing that some hot chick slept with me instead of any of the other guys she could've chose.
But the more you get laid, the more you realize you're not special. You get no ego boost. You didn't really conquer anything. All you did is slay a sloot. Or did the sloot slay you?
I have sex for the physical pleasure of doing it. I get none of the feel good emotions before or after anymore.
They all do the same things. Say the same things. Have the same moves. Like the same things done to them... It's like eating a mcdonalds. For the 200th time.
Maybe mcdonalds tasted great as a kid. When it was a new thing to you you would get excited to eat mcdonalds. But eventually it just becomes another kind of food.
Sometimes it's better just to fap instead of getting laid. Srs
>>34851448
also a lot's of aids
>>34853112
This was my experience as well when I was single and trying to get laid. Ultimately it made me feel even more lonely - the juxtaposition of sharing one the most intensely personal experiences you can have with another person that you don't know on any "real" level to be really saddening.
After a year I just stopped trying. I honestly preferred to just go home by myself and rub one out than try to fill the void with meaningless casual sex. Coincidentally, it wasn't long after I stopped trying that I found a girl I wanted to pursue a relationship with.
tl;dr casual sex doesn't make you happy just because you got laid
meaningful relationships do
>Higher levels of testosterone were associated with periods of sexual activity within subjects, but between subjects testosterone levels were higher for less sexually active individuals. [1]
[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Testosterone#Adult
Food for thought.
