Self improvement general
What have you done to improve yourself?
What do you plan on doing?
What are you struggling with?
Post your successes, struggles and stories about how you've become a better person and how you are always becoming better.
>>34846575
Ive improved my study habit (keeping up on homework and reading, making deans list)
Training harder at the gym
Started intermittent fasting
Reading daily
What I want to improve is how do I kill bad habits (specifically excessive masturbation), and how to I kill cravings for junk food
>INB4 just dont eat them faggot
I've been lifting
>>34846634
Humans are practically junkies whose life revolves around satisfying desires so just quit your unhealthy habits (jacking off) cold turkey and replace them with new ones
I started keeping a journal today to help me remember things because I have terrible memory. Keeping it will help me with self improvement cause each morning I'm going to write down what I need and want to do.
I have ADHD as well so I think this'll help with figuring that out....
>>34847065
The problem I have with fapping is that it occasionally is good for you, so I don't want to drop it completely. I have a hard time keeeping it at a healthy balance ( jack off 2-3 times a day some days, rarely go a da without at least once. I want to cut down to 1-3 times a week)
Quit smoking
Really cut back on alcohol
Lost 30kg
Gone from fapping every day to fapping once a week
Whitened teeth and started styling my hair
Something I just started trying to do was learn a language.
>>34846575
sold a bunch of wii games I had and opened a bank account with that, also going back to the gym tomorrow from a two month break! feels good man
for no reason, here's a picture of me wearing my school's mascot head.
I'm trying to feel less lonely. Lost my grandma in April, mom is gonna be in a wheelchair the rest of her life if she makes it out of the hospital, dad will probably leave her after she gets out of the hospital. Broke up with gf of 3 years cause I wasn't happy with her. Been on tinder alot, hooked up with some solid 8-9's but I really just want to find someone at this point.
Otherwise I've gone back to the gym in spite of this chronic cough I have from smoking weed. I've decided to stop for a whole week at least to see if it subsides at all. Went from 185+ to a solid 172-175. BF % is still gonna be shit for a while though.
Nothing felt better than going back to the gym, though. Somehow didn't manage to lose on any lifts since a month ago. Pretty scared of not graduating college though and I'm in my last year.
>>34847144
work hard for college dude, you can do it.
>>34847144
Keep your chin up man, dont go looking for someone or youll more than likely settle, wait till you connect with someone and let it happen naturally. Im sorry to hear aout you parents. Whats your study? What year are you in? Just grind it out man, youve mad it this far, finish your degree, get a career started and move forward with life
We will all make in Anon
>>34847089
Bad excuse, quit.
how do i improve my self-esteem?
>nothing to feel good about
>29 year old kissless virgin
>no friends
>average paying job that i dislike most of the time
>shy as fuck
>no hobbies or anything that makes me special (in other words, i'm "basic")
>>34847244
>get something to feel good about
>kiss a girl
>make friends
>eh
>be more outgoing
>get a hobby and stop being basic
now that wasn't so hard
Pretty much just started tracking everything I do to stay on point.
Started bullet journal, workout journal, started running C25K, use myfitnesspal to track all my meals.
Makes things easier to control and provides more motivation when you have to write shit down.
>>34847315
I've also started selling all my videogames after imagining myself sitting in front of the tv playing for years, into my 30s and 40s and 50s, and immediately noped.
>>34847270
all of those things are incredibly difficult
except for the hobby thing, but even then, it will take time to learn a hobby
>>34847089
I try to masturbate only on Mondays and I don't use porn, just use my memories and desires to fuel the fap. Mark Manson recommends this strategy in his book Models, I stole it from him.
It's tough to do. Sometimes I don't make it all the way through the week and on Mondays I jerk it like 4 times.
If you're having trouble staying motivated, try keeping a journal. Every time you break from the routine, write an entry about how disappointed you are with yourself. Shame yourself into doing well.
Not fapping for a week is completely worth it. The health effects are all probably bullshit, but talking to girls at a bar/party/on the street with a nutsack full of cum is goddamn exhilarating. It really helps motivate you to getting hookups.
>>34847483
Check out r/seduction
>>34847682
Ill give that a shot, thanks. Also, do you recommend that book? Im starting to read Philosophy for Life by Jules Evans and wanting a book for after that
>What have you done to improve yourself?
Learning to code more and more, working out when I can, keeping up with dieting, phasing out foul frog meme status, generally small overall improvements to my life. Focused more on coding than all others though, gotta get that career first.
>What do you plan on doing?
Well, was just going with general improvements until:
>brother's birthday party
>hot goth whore friend attends
>gritty voice: thisismyfetish.jpg
>approach her with no nonsense bullshit attitude
>"I hope to get fit enough so I can find a girl like you to cum hard and deep inside"
>pushed her buttons perfectly
>"I fucking hope you do" she says seductively
Basically said nothing more but we were checking each other out often. She later asked my brother for my number. So job or no job I got a fucking year to get fit as well.
>What are you struggling with?
Dieting. It's such a bitch when people dump candy and junk food on me when they don't want it. Even now I'm surrounded by soda cans. My parents are fucking toxic in both mind and body. They neither learn nor improve, and argue about my diet. Fuck them. Can't wait to move far away from any relative (except my brother, he's da best).
>>34846575
What on earth does fo'c'sle mean.
Stopped consuming alcohol on a weekly basis.
Reading books for pleasure, fiction and non fiction.
Realizing who my real friends are and for what reasons.
You gotta enjoy the little things. Every morning I drink a cup of coffee outside on my appartment balcony and just admire the sun and the trees and focus on my breathing. Even when it's getting cold as fuck in the morning I'm still enjoying the sensation of being cold, and it makes me appreciate having a hot drink and somewhere warm to go back to. I feel a lot less stressed lately and a lot more competent even if I'm still ad imperfect as ever.
>>34847244
Can I ask if you had friends in high school or anything?
>>34847782
Not that guy but it's interesting.
Try to be in an open mindset when reading any type of philosophy, but don't just take everything they say for fact.
Some of it will resonate with you and some won't, that's how it should be.
Personally I don't think masturbation is bad unless it gets in the way of other things, like sleep or work.
What works for me is to only ever masturbate when I feel like I NEED to, not because of boredom or just pleasure.
>>34847244
dude just one more year and youre gonna be able to cast fireballs cmon
>>34846575
picked the guitar up after about a year, tuned it, and played every song I know surprisingly.
Today I learned This https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jykgHQZpYiw
Quite a simple tune, but it sounds good.
I also "learned" glycerine by bush but that song is so easy it does not really count
Tomorrow, I plan on learning https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AbQLQi7aC2I
And in the next month learning
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-6FXeupOp04
and
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2cW82NEivjo
It will be quite difficult, especially since i suck at finger style, but im willing to give it a shot
I hit 225 for 10 3's yesterday on bench, had 8 beers afterwards and another 4 today, but its the weekend so I guess thats ok.
Clinging on to school by a thread, but i will be ok.
>>34846634
Eat a filling low calorie food when you are craving junk food. I recommend potatoes. Good luck with masturbation, its nearly impossible to curb, you should be able to knock out porn and keep it to the weekends though
>>34847040
yee
>>34847083
During a very hard time in my life, I found it useful to schedule days ahead of me, even If i had to schedule something like watching a TV show or playing a video game, because it was preferable to just browsing image boards all day and feeling depressed
>>34847107
what was the break for? good luck!
>>34847144
I am very sorry for your loss. Weed is not a very good thing to be using up time with, but I suppose with my drinking habits I cannot talk. Good luck on finding love
>>34847244
You dont really need to. If you just pick a few things and continue to get better at them, you will feed on low self esteem. soon, you will become so great others will take notice and you will gain self esteem
>>34847315
congratulations, good luck
>>34848184
Very macho, good luck with your diet.
One step at a time friends, very few of us will make it, but we all must try.
>>34848202
The very front deck on a ship like that scene from the movie Titanic where they spread their arms.
Source: my autism and not google.
Goals
>learn piano (I have one I just haven't learned it)
>gains
>get job
>cut back on 4chan and vidya
Done
>some gains
>vag on tap
>school going ok
Anyone tried cold showers. Been doing it for a little over a week and im not sure what I expected. Water doesn't really feel cold anymore which is neat but the anticipation before turnign the water on is the worst.
Also, how do I into meditation?
>>34848261
Jesus, this is beautiful. I admire you.
>>34848301
Ill check i out for sure then. Thanks for the info
>>34848349
>Also, how do I into meditation?
just do it
google "mindfulness in plain english pdf"
Done:
>repaired...somewhat...my relationship with my brother and father
>sent out feelers to my estranged family
>got over my ex girlfriend of two years and also one of my ex best friends of 12 years
>specialized in a particular job at work = more money
>lifted for two months and put on 7 lbs
>did some financial wizardy which boosted my gross monthly income by about $250
Not done:
>get a job actually related to my degree
>new girlfriend, or at least FWB
>get motorcycle
>more friends
>>34846575
>What have you done to improve yourself?
Managed to find a routine that allows me to get all of my studies done regularly. Been reading a book on Stoicism called "A Guide To The Good Life" by William B. Irvine. It's pretty good, explains some of the history and ideas behind, but also goes into practical application of Stoicism in modern life.
Got into the habit of keeping a journal. Namely just to remind myself of things I should be grateful for (I tend to be a negative thinker), and what I'm happy about. Don't know if it works for everyone, but it's really helped me learn about myself and what I really want out of life. Turns out there was a lot that I didn't really want, and was kinda surprised at what I do enjoy and find important.
>What do you plan on doing?
Honestly, I feel like I'm starting to stall. I've picked up some good habits, reduced my bad ones, and overall have grown much stronger. But I don't really know where to go from here. I have a lot of this book knowledge, but now I feel like I need to actually get out and around the world, or something.
In other words, really, I think what I'm trying to say is that I need to get some experience under my belt. Travel to different cultures, get out of my comfort zone, and see different things.
>What are you struggling with?
Loneliness is a big one. Women have never been too difficult, but I'm learning that it's not necessarily being alone that's the problem. I want intimacy and companionship. It was something I had hoped to find in a previous relationship, but that didn't work out. Upon reflection of it, I realized that despite how open I thought I was in that relationship, there was a lot that I still kept closed off.
So while the loneliness sucks, it doesn't matter at the same time. What I've learned about myself is that I've never really let my guard down with someone, and that's the root of the problem.
The next one will be actually finding a decent woman to have a serious relationship.
>>34848349
Get the app "calm" and do the body scans twice per day.
Easiest way to into meditation
>>34846575
I weighed in today at 160.6. In .6 pounds, I'll be at the 50 pound milestone. Fucking unbelievable. I never thought I'd be able to lose this weight even a year ago. While it's a good "struggle" to have, I can only fit into my old clothes at this point - my fat wardrobe is too big now.
>>34848473
Congrats Anon, proud of you, keep on with your journey.
>>34848317
no money hahaha I started a t-shirt business and it kinda broke me, but tomorrow we're back on track mah nuuga!
>>34846575
In the last two months i've read
>Richest man in babylon
>The Power of Habit
> How to win friends and influence people
4 Times a week i go out for bodyweight routines, studied lots of nutrition to get a basis for vitamins, macronutrients and nootropics relating to cognition. I wish to further my ability to retain & remember. I have some days where i feel ontop of the world and others where i have difficulty remembering what i ate for breakfast.
I'm struggling to start guitar. I'm starting to question if this will really make me a more self disciplined individual. Anyone here doing guitar can you tell me how it's improved your life? If its taught or ingrained any valuable skills in yourself.
I plan on finishing my current book about mindfulness and further my fitness. Also looking to locate a job
>>34846575
I'm literally clawing my way out of the worst depression I could have ever experienced. I was plagued by compulsive thoughts and could feel zero emotions. It peaked in September and I suddenly grabbed my balls and said, "fuck that." I was waiting for that moment. Naturally, it hasn't been as easy as just saying "fuck that," but I've been looking all around me and trying to understand life a bit better. I've noticed that I've become shy in situations that I would have been boisterous before, and I know it's because I was in two shitty back-to-back year-long relationships with women I stopped being attracted to.
Less confusing to explain, here's some other things I've accomplished along the way:
-even when I was depressed I still studied, since I shut out all my friends. I was and still am getting straight As in my courses, and people are looking up to me in class now that I'm not the silent handsum guy
-I got my swagger back, I swear the past 6 months I had been walking with small steps and my head down. Now I just glide everywhere forcefully and I go for walks all the time
-During my depression, I figured patching up my past would help, so I literally made peace with everyone I could, including my oldest brother and uncle who I'd condemned forever. Even better than that, I found out that my brother is fucking awesome and we both love cars, so we've done tons of bonding over that... it really doesn't sound like a big deal but I think it's pretty amazing
-Speaking of cars, the only thing that kept me alive was my Jaguar. I lived out of it, I washed it when my mind was a hurricane of negative thoughts and emotions just to get my mind off of life, and I drove. Boy, did I fucking drive. I got it when my depression had started to kick in, and I've kept fixing it and trying to make it perfect.
>>34847244
Make a list of things you don't like about yourself, make a sublist of ways to fix those things, do them.
As you make progress and realize that your actions do have effects and that you can, indeed, do it, you'll start feeling better about yourself.
Does anyone have the pasta about some guy talking about Control?
>>34848676
Holy shit it just occurred to me that I haven't been able to enjoy life for the past ENTIRE YEAR, and it felt like it was only a few months. I can't believe I'm getting out of it, /fit/. I have so many journal entries discussing my intense self-hatred, how I think I'm somehow inhumanly disgusting, and plans to kill myself. I remember how strong the urge was to do that. I remember leaving my girlfriend and kicking her out of our suite, not caring that she was probably going to off herself, just because I couldn't deal with my lack of feelings--the lack of feelings that dissolved into a need for immediate death. If my dad wasn't there in June to get my shit out of the suite, I probably would have laid there covered in Oatmeal Squares until I died. I was so close, guys, and for once it wasn't bittersweet angst making me say those things. It was pure despair that things wouldn't get any better, and I don't think I could ever explain that sort of terror to anyone who doesn't know what I'm talking about. It isn't sadness, it's literally as though someone removes the part of your brain that lets you enjoy anything.
I overate, I underate, and I smoked a pack a day, damn near. I binged on a MapleStory private server, where I literally spent 48 hours straight grinding regularly. I'm not shitting anyone, that's how I dealt with the stupidity of depression.
Somehow I managed to find a path, even though it seems pathetically small of a path. I started going to the gym again, and I'm eating properly. My motivation fluctuates but the fact that I'm building my character doesn't. I'm a very broken person and for the first time, I'm just starting to feel like I'm fixing myself.
My goal was just to be able to feel things again, and I think I'm on the way. I can't say "hold me /fit/" or be enveloped in emotion yet, but maybe down the line, I'll be able to feel that strongly again, and on that day I will cry tears of joy.
>>34848751
I know no one cares, but I had to get this stupid shit out there. I still struggle to find motivation or anything that touches me, but that's not gonna stop this fucker from looking forward. I could have written a novel on this shit, and come to think of it, I might actually do a bunch of writing on this.
>>34848751
Have you lurked feels threads on /b/ by any chance? Only reason to go there anymore except for porn webms
>>34848765
I care anon, you're making it.
I'm always surprised hearing about all these depressed people and drug addicts and such that have girlfriends and everything.
But depression and social anxiety are completely different monsters I guess.
>Reduced meat consumption to once a week
>Reduced alcohol consumption to once a week
>Quit masturbating
>Lifting every other day
>Doing cardio on most off days
>Graduating this December
pic related
>>34848765
Do it, collect your journal writings and post a PDF here or something
>What have you done to improve yourself
Actually started lifting (got off a god awful brosplit) and somewhat measuring calories. Gained 10 kg's in about 6 months, progress is slow but constant.
tfw 6'1 was 60 kilos ultra auschwitz, now up to 72 dyel mode.
>what do you plan on doing?
I need a fucking job, and I need to study/work out what I'm doing with my life.
>Struggles
Fucking studying man, I've developed such a negative connotation with even checking up on school work that I absolutely hate doing it. Think I'm going to fail an accounting unit this semester, work until august next year and try it again.
>>34848827
This, Id read them
>>34848778
I've been going on this damn website since I was 11. I've seen everything and I'm desensitized to what I want to be. However, I'm still working on being able to get feelz, and those threads literally don't do a thing for me.
I listened to my friend's story about addiction, and one part of his story hit me in the feels. Completely surprised me and made me happy that I could feel again. This was just a few days ago when he was celebrating his 1 year sobriety. It's few and far between for me, but I was really glad for that. Hope I can become more susceptible to humility again.
>>34848793
I could write an essay addressing your last sentence, and a book about your whole post. It's really fucked, and for maybe half a year in my last relationship, I thought I found happiness--but that happiness turned into the worst ups and downs I could have hoped for, which left me thinking of myself and herself as cheap husks of people. Listen to "Paradise" by Eyedea & Abilities... I used to lowkey play that song in the car when I started to despise the last girl, and she always asked if that's how I felt about her. Well, Dorna, it kind of was.
Listen to the lyrics, or just read them.
Depression is no joke, and I think the fact that I had just gotten over my social anxiety when I became depressed was awful. I was dying for human communication, and I ended up exhausting several relationships and drugs, only to end up worse off and unable to look anyone in the eyes. What a rollercoaster. I can tell you that I wasn't able to appreciate my girlfriends; they were never "unattainable" to me, and both came on to me. If you improve yourself physically, mentally and socially, and pursue a girl YOU think is fine as fuck, I can promise you that you'll feel more fulfilled than ever. It sounds like that's what you're yearning for, and I seriously wish you godspeed, anon.
>>34848827
I will definitely be doing that, so keep an eye out. I'll start it later this week because of exams.
>>34848892
Thanks m8.
After reading some of your earlier posts I'll think I'll start doing a journal so my ideas about myself aren't always scrambled.
I was about to write down I don't pursue women because of fear of failure, but I've always attempted difficult things with a high chance of failure, so it shouldn't be that.
I was going to say rejection, but I've been rejected by friends and family so I really don't think it's that.
Guess I'll just write this stuff down and stop shitposting.
Good luck bruh, hope you make it.
>>34848875
>>34848827
I ran out of characters in the last post
You guys keep your heads up if you're interested. I'll be writing about everything from the machinations of a deteriorating infatuation (and its interesting effects on my/your perspective of people and--get this--goals), to the importance of being able to "feel" that breath of air you take when you become self aware when you're walking outside. It's something that you definitely take for granted. I remember hyperventilating several times just to get that animalistic feeling back, and it never worked. It's like being disconnected from the planet, but still walking around. God, I wouldn't wish what I went through on fucking anyone. I don't mean to play this up or anything, I really don't. I spent years literally being envious of people with abusive parents or no family at all; people with horrible disfigurations or diseases; people who are 100% shut-ins... just because I felt like they had a central purpose to fight, or at least something so awful towering over them that they had no time to be robbed of emotions.
I feel myself drifting off again, seriously, I need to write about this or I'll never get the message out. There's no way to understand how shitty things can really get inside your head. It's like being disarmed and tied down, deserted, as opposed to being stabbed.
>>34848932
Let me tell you that it's both of those things. Deep inside, you didn't care enough about friends and family, or at least not as much as women. I know your pain, too, anon. You might have busted a risky solo in front of hundreds of people, or done some real risky shit, but the fact remains that your fear of failure runs a lot deeper with girls. It can stem from so much. Early childhood jealousy (fucking Valentines day, anyone?) to missed opportunities and experiences, to having asocial interests at a time when everyone else was just fucking around at parties (and now they're the asocial ones, likely). Those are some pretty realistic and simple reasons that can make attaining a woman literally more important than money or success or healthy relationships in general.
You aren't shitposting. Keep talking to me if you can, and I'd be happy to keep a back-and-forth going with you via email if you're down. I haven't really scratched the surface.
Started working out again 6 months ago after not doing it for 4 or 5 years
Mostly quit drinking after doing very little else for 4-5 years
Recently started doing stronglifts 5x5 and I'm really diggin it
>>34848982
>might have busted a risky solo in front of hundreds of people
Actually have done several solo musical works (piano, vocal) and each time have completely messed up and walked off stage, just terrible.
I'm in uni right now and am just 20 so I'm feeling like asshole kind of right now.
I know for a fact I'm more scared of someone saying yes than no.
I once had a girl grind on me on her bed and I acted like I didn't know she wanted to have sex for reasons I'm not sure about.
Not just women either, I'm a talkative person but I haven't made friends since being a little kid.
People act all friendly and smile but I sometimes think they are lying because if they seem to like me wouldn't I have something to show for it.
End blog. I hate feeling this way because I'm not even depressed, I've been that way before and I was unable to cry or even masturbate at the time, everything was bland and I couldn't enjoy anything.
I'm not anywhere like that now, I just don't get people.
>>34847335
There's nothing wrong with vidya.
I see my fellow students sitting next to me talking about about soccer and basketball the whole time, constantly, watching videos about them, reading up news about it. The girl in the front row does the same thing with tennis, but alone. She watches tennis streams 24/7. That's nothing I'd want to become. Fuck normies and normie hobbies. I rather have a nice vidya game.
>What have you done to improve yourself?
Visit /fit/, learned more about fit, dress well, yoga, give more complements, social skills
>What do you plan on doing?
Improving in the answers to the first question, start reading more, get ready for finals
>What are you struggling with?
not being the best version of myself
Also what are some good albums to listen to for self improvement /fit/?
>>34849047
It's a form of depression. Those voices telling you that you wouldn't know what to do, or that everyone who's nice to you is lying; those are classic symptoms of depression, my friend. While you might have found a way to deal with the lack of feelings aspect, the fact remains that you're being strongly affected by these thoughts.
I know how you felt in bed. You were frigid and probably shrugged your hands a few times, and had a mental block. You weren't rationalizing your backing out or anything at the time, your body was just playing dumb and you went along with it.
I can't spew that cliche that "you're just afraid of success" because I don't believe in that shit. Something-or things-happened to you that makes you feel not worth it, and that has to change. I'm gonna tell you that it's hard to pinpoint what caused your way of thinking, but it's reversible. 100% fixable. Sometimes you just need an ego stroke, and sometimes it's deeper than that. I don't know what you need, exactly, but try practicing being more deliberate in everything you do. That's sure to uncover something in the least, and in a best case scenario, you'll find that you jump over that hurdle of avoiding experiences.
I don't understand why people like me, either, but I think that's a normal feeling, and that uncovering those things about yourself while relating to the people who like those things about you is key to making it.
"wouldn't I have something to show for it" I know this feeling too well. What helped me get over it was thinking "wouldn't a normie feel that way?" Maybe you just need to find a way to make that voice shut up. For me, that meant realizing that even though my life is fucked up, at least it's not bland. Yours can't be bland either, seeing as how you have done several recitals and had the balls to walk off instead of listening to your music teacher who probably told you that a good musician keeps playing.
>>34849133
Ran out of room
Maybe you're a bit of a perfectionist and that's why you walked off. Maybe that contributed to keeping you from touching that girl. It wasn't enough for her to be head over heels giddy, and maybe she treated it slightly more casually. Who knows? There's so many reasons and I don't know you well enough to tell you, but hopefully this shines a bit of light on how many different things can actually affect one seemingly one-sided occurence.
>>34849133
>>34849156
You should be a motivational speaker anon.
You're much more helpful to trappy's "go to therapist and be happy!" attitude, no offense to trappy.
And spot on about the numbness and shit.
Honestly I was just kind of disgusted she would like me and rationalized to myself that she really wouldn't want anything to do with me even though she says she does.
Seriously hope you get that "feeling" back anon.
It took a death of a best friend to get mine back, which is kind of ironic because that's the exact thing that started it.
>>34846575
>Self improvement general
>What have you done to improve yourself?
Recently? Started cooking for myself. Making it a point to make time to do things I enjoy.
>What do you plan on doing?
Going to the gym tomorrow morning and starting the week fresh. I need to do it.
>What are you struggling with?
I associate my weight with happiness. Going from dieting and dieting only for eighty kids to wanting to lift while losing weight plays hell with my body. After a week of living, the scale says I gained a pound. Everyone tells me this is normal and to keep going but I lose motivation. Stop going. Then I try to go back to dieting only, but wasn't to lift again. Repeat. I've lost 165 pounds already. I have 40 to go. The number on the scale is stopping me from going out and enjoying life because I feel everyone is judging me and calling me a failure in their minds regardless if my good job, nice demeanor. I'm 23, 6'4" and 280 lb. I'm feel like I'm wastingmy youth correcting the mistakes if my past. Every time I envision being happy, all I get is a blur.
>Post your successes, struggles and stories about how you've become a better person and how you are always becoming better.
Actively dieting. Soon to start working out again. Saving for a house so I can pay off my mortgage by the time I 45 and won't spend my late life struggling to make ends meat.
> just got all achievements in dark souls 2.
>>34849234
Please excuse spelling mistakes. Swiping in a rush.
>>34849190
I don't think I'm so great at being motivational, but I'm a bit introspective at the very least. I still am left feeling like I can't communicate my points effectively, and I reread what I write a lot because of that fact. I think I come off generic and "finger-waving" a lot and I want that to change. Thank you for the compliment though and I really hope you resonate with what I say, since it might help a bit.
Anyway
I was really bad with those thoughts, and they're -starting- to dissipate. I literally thought everyone who liked me or complimented me was an idiot, just because it was me. How fucked is that? As slippery of a slope that depression is, the slide of confidence is even steeper. Once you find confidence in bed, it doesn't go away, and it definitely helps in all other aspects. It's a steep walk up to that slide, though, but it feels really, really good. You won't doubt it again if you do it right once!
A passing of my friend jolted me into place too, but sadly, shit got the best of me. While he was never forgotten, the motivation was sapped out of me, and I stopped thinking of him when I should have been.
I'm sorry to hear about your friends, anon. You're on your own quest and you're the most important person in your own world so bring them in memory with you for the ride.
>>34846575
>What have you done to improve yourself?
get /fit/
Study online
Saving
Goal setting
Audiobooks/ reading
Good healthy food
>What do you plan on doing?
More of above, consistently and at a higher intensity
>What are you struggling with?
Keeping hormones/emotions in check (great days are manic through the roof, off days are depressive)
My success is that once I succeed I continue and try to succeed more or in a different field, my perseverance is my greatest strength
I'll be honest. I used to be the guy picked last in sports and in pretty much all areas of life, I was always so hungry to do more but even when I did well i felt my success went unrecognized, and I gotta say, thank fuck for this, its made me driven to succeed in all areas and I no longer seek praise or approval and It also means I don't lie to myself about my achievements or what needs work
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>What have you done to improve yourself?
Began going to the gym 2 months ago and have no intention of stopping. Starting to see plenty of changes, feel great, look great, and have the energy to do things I want to.
>What do you plan on doing?
Get a job after finishing this semester of university. After squirreling away a strong pile of funds take myself on an adventure wherever I desire. Also plan to get myself abs for fun.
>What are you struggling with?
Eye contact. How do I fix this anons? I'm afraid of looking into people's eyes, even those I am very close with. Perfectly aware it's an insecurity thing. It's not that I dislike them.
My skin continues to break out which is frustrating as well.
>>34849286
Thanks mang, I really think the biggest problem is not self loathing because once you get wrapped up into that you start disliking people who act like they care about you.
>>34849300
>Eye contact. How do I fix this anons?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J9i-9_QuetA
you need to learn about faces and reading expression, you might also learn why you are looking away (shyness, anxiety, guilt etc) and fix it
It takes practice anon but it can be fixed, things like Video related should help
>>34849312
No worries anon. At least you're not at the point where you hate everyone who loves you but you don't care. That's about where I was at my lowest, among many other things.
I have to study for my exam tomorrow morning. I'm gonna ace that shit, you guys. It's part of my hustle. Stay based, /fit/, I'll post whatever I write here.
I have been working on introducing meditation and steady exercise into my life as a replacement for currently heavy amounts of caffeine and adderall.
They kill my gains, but it feels like I'm living in slow motion without em. And it makes school now feel like I'm fucking stupid and socially/mentally clumsy. :(
I wanna make it /b/ros..
>>34849325
Most likely an anxiety thing. I'm already good at reading expressions and such, just maintaining eye contact is hell.
Going to watch that video right now, very much appreciated.
>>34849377
After seeing some other very genuine responses, I felt like I owed it to myself and the board in a way to make a more complete and honest response:
>what have you done?
In many ways have cut out a lot of bad habits involving hedonism and depressive/manic tendencies, including a brief and very reckless stint with hard drugs. I feel much more stable now at least, and I've been working really hard to stay on top of my schoolwork as well this semester taking a shitload of credits, which was hard for me to prioritize before.. Also was sick for a week but til then and restarting tmrw gonna be back into routine after being out of it and/or inconsistent with it for almost a year.
>plans?
Gonna transfer after getting my A.A to uni in a pretty promising field (CompE) this spring. Proly gonna live on campus apartments so I'll be in control fully of eating habits and so gonna try to begin with fresh start. Also been working on a journal as well and keeping my music alive for some kind of artistic output..
>struggles?
Hedonism is really a bitch. As I mentioned before, caffeine and adderall still hold so much weight to me, but they really kill my gains and leave me feeling very used up by the end of the day. Makes me feel like I'm not doing as well as I'd like to think in defeating my old demons.. Without em tho, the days feel like they scream past and I fall behind in everything, inadequacy in every front. I think a better diet is the most important change I need, but I'm still reliant on parents for food for now.
In addition to that, struggling keeping new good habits/good decisionmaking. Self-discipline.. This helps with that though, putting this into words
Finally, the loneliness.. Was with exgf ~4yrs til she moved away and getting back in the game has been tough.. Maybe uni will help with that, until I can get internship and have an apartment.. A friend's roommate seems like qt and interested, so I'm hoping that'll pan out.
I hope we all make it senpai. I truly do.
