>get cleaned up
>wear clean clothes
>drive to store
>park
>hesitate
>turn car back on
>get Taco Bell
Please help me
i can't into grocery store. its awful/
inb4 some rude shitpost about people that get anxiety in public places
I get so scared I start to get tunnel vision like everything is going dark and I might pass out. Especially if I'm shopping in my home town, I'm worried somebody will recognize me.
I don't get much done.
>>7160746
>go into supermarket
>start planning out meals
>realize that it's 10:00 at night and that I won't want to cook my meals for the week at midnight
>start getting anxious
>start getting nauseous
>end up getting fast food and going to bed too late
>>7160761
I get this, but only if I go into a store that feels fancier than the clothes I have on, especially if it's in a part of town where rich people I know might see me
Get a job in a place that has lots of people. Unless you're one of those autismbux guys.
take a list, wear dark glasses, put music in
ta-da, you're in your own personal bubble
>>7160772
>scared of spiders?
>put your head in a box of spiders!
>>7160746
why not just put your ear pods in, or put on shades if you don't want people staring at you?
Seek professional help. Seriously. If your anxiety is so high that it's majorly affecting your life and is preventing you from doing the things you WANT to do, then it's clearly very unhealthy. Think about all the other events you psyche yourself out of and realize that it doesn't have to be that way, senpai.
>>7160850
not OP here, but i am someone who has avoided public places for years, after a lifetime of trying to be normal. At this point I would rather have a higher quality of life by reducing my stress/panic levels than constantly putting myself in physically uncomfortable situations. Not everyone has access to professional help. I even have panic attacks if I'm trying to see a movie at the movie theater and no-one is paying attention to me.
>>7160746
>using self-checkout
>loud beep
>"please wait for assistance"
>>7160778
I have shame. I can't just *do* something like that in public are you mad? INSIDE? Like a fucking drunk or drug addict? what will everyone think? or worse.. WHAT WOULD I THINK?
>>7160850
I'm waiting for my therapist to call me back for my next appointment. She's really good and she's booked often. I am not doing nothing about my situation desu.
>>7160871
The first thing I ever do is unleash my macro like it's an RTS and enable the mute sounds option while simultaneously punching in my phone number like it's jutsu to turn on my membership bonus.
>>7160746
OP, maybe you need to go to the store at a specific time to reduce/minimize whatever you feel is going on.
You can shop at opening at my local Publix. Four old retired dudes sit outside drinking coffee before it opens, shooting the breeze, chatting politics or something, and then there's like 1-2 people tops inside. One register open, express lane, nothing much. Get in there with your list, buy a couple things, repeat. repeat.
Like a good million things can be had via Amazon now, like your laundry detergent, toilet paper, whatever looks embarassing to you.
Want to be admired? Buy expensive steaks, wine, bag of salad, great bread, great cheese. And, look the life of the party!
Wanna feel average joe, shop at wal-mart, where the people around you are so blue collar and unkempt, you will look miles different from anyone there (or working there). Don't linger. Hit the list, maybe get suckered into some specials on the end caps, but don't take hours to make decisions.
>>7160769
>>end up getting fast food and going to bed too late
You are shopping 1) too tired and 2) too hungry. Go early on Sat or Sun morning, make a roast for sunday dinner, use leftover to have sandwiches for the work week lunches. Go back on Tuesday or Wednesday for another protein to add to your nightly menus, maybe a fresh veggie or bread. Stock up on some afternoon snacks that see you over from noon to 5PM, maybe a crate of clementines, some delicious kashi bars, thermos of iced coffee and a couple chocolates. Don't be pass out low sugar hungry by the time you're past traffic and ready to eat dinner.
>>7160786
>What is exposure therapy?
>>7160850
Does it really help? What will they even do, give me drugs? I heard benzos aren't even good in the long run. I mean, I can't even go buy food without freaking out, so something is wrong.
>>7160761
You have anxiety. Congratulations.
Next stop, GO TO A FUCKING DOCTOR. You don't have to live like this.
Try to get drunk and go to the store in the meantime, something has to relieve you of your anxiety until you learn how to cope.
>>7160898
>drugs
Probably an SSRI, they take a while to work but they can and do. Benzos for situational anxiety, don't go overboard with them.
In any case, who gives a fuck? Just TRY them, you're already fucked up, you can't fuck up more.
>>7160898
>Does it really help?
Mostly helps women.
>>7160941
>GO TO A FUCKING DOCTOR.
I have. I was on 4 different different medications over the course of 2 years and none of them did anything but make it very hard to cum. They won't give me benzos because I'm an alcoholic and pretty much guaranteed to get addicted to them.
When I described my anxiety one of the first stories my psychiatrist told me is of this woman that would get super nervous before a tennis match and how with medication she got over it. I don't think he fully understands how much it can destroy a life tbqh
>You don't have to live like this.
I actually think I do.
>>7160871
As someone who used to work self-checkout kiosks there's only ever five reasons why the beeps would happen:
You've scanned something, forgot to place it on the scale where the bagging area is, and are desperately trying to scan another item ninja quick like a dumbass. The machine doesn't know what to do for the unaccounted item so it calls for help.
You've scanned an item with an unreadable bar code. If you're triggered, just pitch it and scan something else. Kindly leave the item in a visible place so the attendant can retrieve it later.
You're trying to be a thief and have input a cheap PLU for an otherwise expensive bulk item, the machine notices that it is an unusual weight for the price, and alerts the attendant.
You need to show ID for any alcohol or flammable related products.
Your coupons are expired and/or mismatched.
Don't do that shit and you will be fine.
>>7160961
Tried Paroxetine/Paxil yet?
Worked for me.
>>7160746
Try going to a grocery store far from your place.
I usually have my headphones in with chill music on. It keeps any possible human interaction to a minimum.
>>7160976
No, but I've been on other ssri meds. Luvox, celexa, zoloft and one other that I think started with a C.
They pretty much wont give me anything but ssris and what they prescribe is also limited because I have a quite unhealthy liver.
>>7160746
>Supermarket anxiety
Sounds more like avoident disorder
Anxiety bro here. Enter through the the liquor store or side door to avoid traffic and greeters. Do a couple test runs through the sanitation/dog food isles to get comfortable, they're usually empty. Realize that everyone is there for the same reason you are. Try for the express lane. Everyone including the cashier will be trying to rush and avoid conversation. Done.
>>7161000
Also, try beta blockers.
Have terrible anxiety. Find it in yourself to nut up to get things done, all that takes is will power. If you have a shred of self-worth, you can do this. Do it for yourself.
I can get things done, but forming bonds with anyone is now my chasm.
>>7160966
Or, you're just shopping at Kroger.
Do the cashiers make fun of me after I leave with nothing but frozen dinners and chips?
>>7161311
I worked in a few stores
All we're really thinking about is getting off work because our feet hurt, or the last milf that came through.
I would probably be envious of your microwave food because I'm on a strict Beetis control diet
>>7161311
As somebody that worked one horrible year in a grocery store, we pretty much forget you as soon as you leave. We have thoughts and feelings of our own and don't really care about you, even if you are weird.
The exception being if you are extremely hot, then we might talk about you.
>>7161342
That's a relief.
>>7161343
True dat. I worked at National Hills Publix and all I paid attention to were titties
>>7161311
I've never worked at a grocery store, but I can say this much about life in general: people do not give a flying fuck about you, me, the anon posting after me, the one who posted before me, etc.
I don't mean that in an edgy way at all. I mean it as in what you may think is a big deal isn't really. Got a bit of mustard on your white shirt and feel embarrassed? Unless you're just about to walk into a job interview, don't really sweat it. People might notice and think "lol, this pleb", but then about a minute later they'll have almost certainly forgot since who the fuck really keeps something like that close to their heart?
If you go to the same store regularly and get that, maybe some cashier or employee may remember you, but they probably don't think much more than "there lazy anon again with his Lays and Hungry Man dinners". Even considering that, I'd assume that there is a decent amount of turnover with those jobs (lots of high school/college students) so it's doubtful that you're going to have some sort of weird decade long dance with them.
>>7161346
The hookers they brought in for Masters week would clean us out of lube, rubbers and douches
This is hilarious. I am definitely making it a point to stare at everyone in an uncomfortable manner in case it's one of you mental defects.
>>7161361
Must be great to be so bored you need to torment strangers for your own amusement.
>>7161361
We wouldn't notice because we don't make eye contact. If you want to torture somebody with anxiety try having a conversation with them. I also feel slightly raped when I have to shake somebodies hand or hug them.
But you should know you are potentially causing genuine gun to your head level terror.
>>7160786
Actually that sounds fun
>>7160857
There are hypnotherapy sessions available online nowadays. I think someone with anxiety issues could benefit from that kind if a treatment. Of course it costs money, but if it significantly increases your quality of life, I'd say it's well worth it.
>>7160746
I live in Chicago, my problem is more trying to shop when people don't have their shithead kids running buckwild, its usually the pussy fathers from West Ridge
>>7161361
please don't do this
>>7161361
have fun. you're going to look like a retard
> no work monday and tuesday
> cant leave the house because I dont want to be around humans
> wednesday morning wake up at 6/10 anxiety because I have work in 2-3hrs
> cant calm down even with relaxing/music and and am jumpy/irritated at work and cant focus
> thursday still a bit jumpy but more focused
> friday and sat is truck and stocking, zone out while working and feel nothing, life is good, work is no problemx anxiety is non exsitent
> sunday, getting tired of being around people and looking forward to end shift, anxiety/irritation builds
> hate humanity mon-tues, rinse and repeat
You'd think this cyclic bullshit would stop but it doesnt no matter how hard or what I try. I can start with pills again but they leave me unable to feel anger. Anyways once an overeager self checkout attendant hovered over my shoulder like I didnt know what I was doing and I wanted to punch her middle aged face.
>>7160948
>can't fuck up more
There are countless stories of fucked up young men who get on SSRI's and either kill themselves or kill others. Lanza, Cho, the Columbine guys, the movie theatre shooter, all on SSRI's.
sux2bu op grocery runs are my jam
People I remember as a cashier in a bad way
> the lady with the beehive hair who is annoyingly particular about how everything is bagged and whose husband seems like hes not allowed to talk
> that one guy whose face I cant remember but his breath smells like awful metalic green beans and death and makes me gag
> old lady with the fucking clown makeup and drawn on eyebrows
> jittery mentally disabled guy who always steals beef jerky sticks and wears boxers outside in the summer
> psychotic old german woman
> that tall loud fat asshole with unfunny jokes
> the tall neckfat asshole who probably beats his kids and has a face I want to stomp on
> bitch who seems mad I have to ask if she found everything and is pissy every fucking time and says it ahead of me asking like I should remember her (which I wouldnt if she wasnt such a bitch)
Anyone else I remember is in a good way, everyone else I forget about. I only remember regulars, discounting psycho german bitch who I only met once.
>>7161531
>> jittery mentally disabled guy who always steals beef jerky sticks and wears boxers outside in the summer
>>7161537
Skinny 50 year old chicken leg man ass eggs cloth firmly squelched inbetween the cheeks presented in clean but visibly worn blue striped boxer briefs with potential stains. Rides a bike and the boxers barely cover as he mounts it.
>>7161022
Beta blockers were great, short term, for my long term/life long anxiety. I'd take beta blockers, learn not to care if I dropped my spagetti, learnt that it was ok to stuff up and that I was capable of being an adult in life and have proceeded to learn to kick arse slowly but surely since. I've still got anxiety, but know that most people don't give a shit, some people are arseholes but they don't matter.
I lost it at the self check out the other day when I went to my non regular supermarket bought olives, then decided to move them to another plastic bag, then the machine beeped and I had to call an assistant over, dropped my spagetti "iscannedtheseolivesthenputtheminanotherbagthenitwouldntletmescanthenitookthemoutofthebaganditworkedforacoupleofitemsnowitwontletmedoanything" this lady was nice, and laughed and apologised for the self check out system and I laughed and she fixed it and I went on my way, scanning everything then thanked her profusely on my way out.
In other news, at my regular supermarket this is an awesome lady who used to be my favourite server who now works the new self checkouts and always comes over for a chat. We both always wear a certain colour and have nicknames for each other and have a droll/smartarsed but essentially kind chat while I scan my groceries. If I feel like shit I'll either not talk to her or ask if she's not busy will she stand with me. It's a bit retard, but essentially, it's her job and I've come a long way to be able to establish rapport with supermarket lady.
>>7161512
Are you lady? Because hormones give me this shit. Otherwise is it possible to trouble shoot and work out what it might be using: sleep, diet, exercise, socialisation etc? I'm sorry you're having cyclical bullshit.
I don't understand supermarket anxiety.
As a socially stunted NEET, the supermarket is one of the comfiest places in public. Especially at night.
And if there are self checkout machines and you aren't buying alcohol, you don't have to deal with anyone.
Though really getting food from people doesn't bother me.....except subway. Too stressful
>>7160746
>be not a fag
>able to function normally
op ur fucked
>>7160746
I'm an NEET and I don't get this hesitance towards shopping in grocery stores. I get more anxiety when getting fast food than with choosing what I want for the next few days while actually being out of the house for 30 minutes to an hour.
I can't imagine having anxiety and I don't even understand it.
What about certain things sets you people off? How, as best you can put in words, is it brought about for you? You don't need to describe the effects but rather what brings them on and why?
>>7161609
it's like the feeling of when you're in danger, people are normally at 0% but my baseline is 50%. if a shopping aisle starts getting crowded i feel like i'm at risk and adrenaline starts pumping.
I love grocery shopping.
>dress up all nice and clean
>feeling like hot shit
>buying quality items like nobody's business
>look around for qts shopping
>>7161571
Yes I am female. I can only just be normal and act like I dont want to live alone in a house by myself in the woods for a few hours a day before I start to become mad.
I went to college and really tried changing and being a person who could do things and I was really good at pretending, we even went and visited several graphic design firms in Minneapolis and I had no problem asking questions, keeping discussion going, being smooth afk (we were a small group of four, and the only guy was also able to be talkative but I couldnt get the other two girls to really participate for anything due to shyness)
But this doing stuff and being functional life was eating away at me and now I work retail and avoid people and have massive college debt I have no money to pay off.
>>7161635
Sounds like stress to me. Maybe it's because you feel trapped in debt.
>>7161609
> wake up at any other moment than naturally (aka by alarm)
> alarm causes an uncomfortable thingling of alarm in my head
> oh yes work
> start immediately thinking about the faces of people, how they dress, how they stand in the middle of stuff, slowly push xarts around, wear stupid shirts, dress like hobos, have screaming children, look like their IQ is below 100 , etc
> think about how odd and gross and annoying the human race is.> dont want to be around them
> feel angry at them because if they werent so stupid I could just be left alone to live minimally
> think about how it wasnt my fault rhat I was born
> in real time merely a minute or rwo has gone by
> suddenly I'm tingly with itchy crawling skin all oved my body, sweaty around my neck, justwant to scratch myself to get all the negative head feelings/dread/imagined situations out of my head
> feel on edge all day until worn out
4 of seven mornings go like this. People do have very low IQs and stupid faces to match though. Just imagining their dull cow eyes and pale mcdonalds affected faces makes me sudder.
>>7161343
I get hit on a lot by cute college girls at the check out line. Waitresses seem to like me, too. I just act normal, say please and thank you, and smile. This makes me think the overwhelming majority of shoppers and diners in the world are huge assholes when being civil makes you stand out.
>>7161642
you're probably not very smart if you're obsessively concerned with the IQ of other people
I just had a thought. Would any of you guys with social anxiety pay someone like $15 or $20 to go to the grocery store with you as a shopping buddy once a week? Would that kind of thing be helpful, or does it not make a difference?
>>7161646
People look dumb, this is a fact. Go on hnltv nancy grace section and take a look at the faces of all the criminals... these people look on the spot like they have problems or a below average intelligence. I see similar people every day.
To be fair I think lots of people have stupid looking faces just in general, but dumb people have especially dumb looking faces.
Looking at people in general disturbs me. People are oddly shaped inelegant creatures. Like, who the fuck cares if your kleenex box is christmas themed just because it is december? Or your pens? Yet these people cant live without this shit.
>>7161663
i said
>you're probably not very smart if you're obsessively concerned with the IQ of other people
i didn't say
>people don't look dumb
but yeah, people can look odd.
>>7161642
Boo fucking hoo. You can be an intelligent, social person without being a miserable, self-loathing and demeaning person, you know? But that would require that you fucking turn your life around ;-)))
Just a reminder to eat a filling meal and have a refreshing glass of Pepsi™, Americas favorite soft drink beverage, before you go grocery shopping. This will help you to not make impulse purchases out of hunger.
SSRI's, statistically speaking, don't work in the majority of cases.
People try to throw pills at their problems instead of learning how to deal with life, and it doesn't help. OP, maybe try CBT or a similar behavioral therapy to help you learn to deal with these situations. It sucks a lot and you will fail many times, but you either learn to deal/become full hikkikomori/kill yourself.
There's no quick fix. I'm still dragging myself out of the scared-of-everything hole after years of being a shut-in. I started in therapy and now I just drink a lot, which is a new problem but leaves me more socially functional. I'll deal with that someday too, I guess.
>>7161674
Ah, I forgot to mention that I gave up on therapy/meds after 12 years in that game. I tried a lot of pills and a lot of different forms of therapy during that time with little improvement.
>>7160961
>I'm an alcoholic too
you're just a professional victim
please just kill yourself
>>7160746
This is a cooking board, not a hospital...
Sorry to hear your situation, OP. I also have anxiety disorder, but what kind of help do you think you will get here?
>>7161643
it's probably because you live in an area full of shitty people
>>7161681
having anxiety disorders is being a "professional victim" now? Good lord i think we've gone a little too far into this "anti-sjw" BS
>>7161642
Are you a girl?
>>7161663
>Like, who the fuck cares if your kleenex box is christmas themed just because it is december? Or your pens? Yet these people cant live without this shit.
you sound like a complete lunatic
>>7161609
Did you ever get into like, a single fight or something at school.
>some kid tells you that he's going to beat you up after school
>it sounds like he actually meant it
>the entire day of nervous uneasy dread
That's basically anxiety, usually less severe, but then again half the people here are full blown autists.
>used to getting beat by parents as child
>get really bad anxiety
>constantly think I'm actually going to get attacked by people
>attempt to not be autist outcast, actually works, but still react any time anything within my peripheral vision moves
>whenever somebody jokingly hits me, as kids seem to do a ton in places where they're not afraid of school shootings, I would instantly notice the hand movement, throw my arm out and deflect the punch
I actually got really god at that too, I've accidentally grounded people a few times doing that.
>literally becomes a meme among my social circle
>become even more paranoid about being attacked at all times
tfw the biggest thing holding me back is me.
>>7160746
Do Yankee Doodle supermarkets not offer home delivery?
>>7161694
>tfw the biggest thing holding me back is me.
don't feel too bad, you probably wouldn't have achieved much even without anxiety
as a cashier at a grocery store, what could I do to make people with supermarket anxiety more comfortable? What stresses people out about cashiers?
>>7161642
>alarm
Don't get me started on alarms
>set alarm
>wake up 1-2 hours before it goes off
>at this stage, I've had maybe 4-5 hours of sleep
>stare at it, pretend to sleep, etc until a minute or two before it goes off
>literally pounce out of bed as it does, pushing aside my chair and other clutter, mash the alarm button
>I'm still tired, so I set the alarm for one hour later
>still can't sleep, wait for it again
>repeat once or twice more
>I now have no time to eat breakfast or do anything, just grab keys and leave for work
Truly living the dream.
>>7161702
I find small talk comforting, but not about anything I'm buying.
Just talk about yourself and your day. Having to awkwardly stand there in silence is the worst. I can feel myself start sweating profusely.
>>7161702
wear a rubber obama mask so i don't feel like i'm talking to another human being
>>7161706
I'm a cashier myself and I don't like making small talk with customers unless they initiate it. In fact we got a customer complaint a few days ago because this one overly talkative cashier kept asking why the person was buying each item they had gotten. I have yet to get a complaint for being too quiet.
>>7161711
That's why I said don't talk about what the person is buying.
I'm always most comfortable when someone else is doing all the talking and not asking questions about myself or my "plans for the weekend"(because I never have any).
Literally just talk about yourself the whole time, it takes all the attention away from me and how I'm feeling.
>>7161683
quit violating his safe space shitlord
>>7161697
I'm doing dank research for good money, so I wouldn't say I fucked up too bad. I mostly got over it when I tried mescaline, partially because it made everything seem absurd in comparison, and partialy because the bad trip it turned into near the end was basically ultra effecient exposure therapy.
>yfw was so autistic that when trip starts going bad, I didn't even panic. I just sat there and let it pass by for a few hours while waiting for the cia and interpol to burst into my room and arrest me to death.
I mean, I don't really recommend drugs that much, but if you're extremely autistic as fuck anyway, and ssri's don't seem to help you, then you might as well try lsd or mescaline at least once (preferably mescal, since you can just buy a cactus on ebay or something). It's not like you're going to get too much worse, and as long as you're not one of those people who goes into hysterics when things go wrong, you're probably going to be safe.
>>7160871
>that slow realization when you're scanning your stuff and realize that you have way too many items for self checkout
>>7161702
Don't talk to me except when absolutely necessary. When people try and have friendly small talk and I can't relate to anything it makes me panic. All of the ways I naturally want to answer questions are socially inappropriate, so I pretend to be normal and it's uncomfortable. I completely suppress my personality when I'm around people I don't know. If I didn't I would be a massive asshole. I've wanted to tell everyone that has ever shook my hand that I dislike touching people, but I can't because I'm worried they will be offended.
It's like the exact opposite of friendly customer service, so make sure the person is actually anxious.
>>7161706
Its kind of hard to talk about ourselves. Most customers only ask about your day as a pleasantry and will ignore you if you give them a proper answer. It doesn't feel great to be rejected like that so that's why most cahiers just say "good thanks".
>>7161727
>It doesn't feel great to be rejected like that so that's why most cahiers just say "good thanks".
That's what social anxiety is like, but the fear of rejection is so strong that most can never even bring themselves to actually speak about what they're thinking about saying.
>go in the liquor store to get some beer and an ok bottle of scotch
>who's the scotch for?
>me
>what do you do for a living?
>nothing
>conversation ends
I've literally never been back to that store and drive 15 minutes out of my way to the Indian run liquor store because they don't talk to me there.
>>7161725
Yeah, that's what I do when people seem a little nervous. I genuinley smile and greet them and then quietly and quickly bag their shit. Would you prefer if we did or didnt ask for a rewards card? Because if you do it gives you an opening to give it to us but if we don't it's less interaction. I know personally that when im a customer, handing cards and money over stresses me out and so does having to say I dont have one.
>>7161724
>not just stacking the items like a tetris game
or you pay for one lot, bag it, then do the next
>>7161737
I don't mind business related questions like that because I have an easy answer for them. For me personally it's just the small talk stuff that is hard. Super friendly/talkative people are very difficult. I spill my spaghetti trying to reciprocate just so I don't seem like I'm being a jerk.
>>7161733
>had really bad anxiety before working at this store
>first shift
>everyones really casual, they all know eachother
>was immediatly serving customers without knowing what im doing
>"youll learn better this way"
>ripped receipts in half, handed back wrong change
>served customers silently
>coworkers talking about me
>cried in the locker bay during my break
After about a month I was able to calm down a bit. I realized that you have "power" over the customers, theyre coming to you for help - it felt like an "inadequacy" on their part that elevated me to their level, opposed to being below everyone, how I usually think about myself in social situations
>I like small talk
>I don't like small talk
>I hate when people ask me about what I do
>I like when people ask me what I do
Well, good luck, cashiers. Hope you learned something today.
>>7160746
Am I on /r9k/?
>>7161760
My favorite threads on both /ck/ and /tv/ get called /r9k/ threads. But I've never even browsed /r9k/
>>7161762
>My favorite threads are off-topic threads
>>7160759
Go really early in the morning. When it'll just be you and a few old ladies. Or really late and it'll just be you and some retail workers getting food after work.
>have IBD
>afraid I'll have to shit while in the grocery store
>no public restroom
>do I ask employee to be escorted or abandon cart and run somewhere else?
>>7160746
> girlfriend is taking her sweet time picking out what she wants
> do a running start with the shopping cart and coast up and down the aisle
> girlfriend just shakes her head
> fellow shoppers just gawk
> see woman filling up her shopping cart with chocolate
> literally just grabbing boxes of chocolate bars
> lean close to her while walking past
> "You are going to get fat!"
> gives me a death stare
> girlfriend can't keep up with my turbo supermarket speed dash
> I want to finish up quickly
> I've got the cart (can't trust women with it)
> she lags behind
> start powerwalking throwing my hips like a fashion model and swishing my head from side to side
> fellow shoppers are scared and confused
> girlfriend tries to catch up to stifle my antics
> personal health aisle
> condoms everywhere
> grab a dozen
> while shopping sneak them into other shoppers carts
> girlfriend sent me solo to purchase groceries
> throw away the shopping list
> grab bananas, rye bread, honey and Himalayan salt
> girlfriend freaks out when I get home and inform her that we are living off battle rations
> at the checkout
> carefully plan out what goes in which bag
> organise them so the check-out lady doesn't mess things up
> check-out lady starts messing up
> "Excuse me, please place that in this bag"
> can't trust the lady anymore
> keep directing her until everything is packed just right
> complete self-checkout
> walk out of store
> alarm goes off
> supermarket employee starts approaching
> start acting nervous and wild-eyed
> launch cart forward in a dash
> employee starts shouting
> security starts running
> mad dash for the car
> never make it
If you don't make it fun you can't enjoy shopping.
>>7161793
I wish this was true.
>>7161777
I have never been in a grocery store without a public restroom, and in fact every one I've been in was pretty clean. Are you sure you just don't sucks at finding the shitters?
>>7161694
>I would instantly notice the hand movement, throw my arm out and deflect the punch
good, your parents trained you well
>>7161721
>you might as well try lsd or mescaline at least once
>as long as you're not one of those people who goes into hysterics when things go wrong, you're probably going to be safe
>>7161735
great kek!
Jesus, I don't even know where to begin.
Sucks to be you though.
>>7161841
Not that guy, but I've begun the adventure.
Wish me luck.
>>7160746
I go into supermarkets wearing my fucking pajamas.
Maybe a part of the problem is all the preparation you put into running a simple errand? I used to be addicted to drugs, and my therapy was self-awareness meditation. The more self-aware I was, the more aware I was of processes that reinforced my addiction. For example: When I woke up I had detoxed for a few hours, so my cravings weren't as bad as they were when I had just run out of chemicals to abuse the night before. However, every step I took to procure drugs the more I wanted it. Eventually I figured it was sort of like a 'no turning back now' sort of thing. The more effort I put into achieving something, the more desire I had to achieve it.
Perhaps for you it's the mirror of that: The more you act as if going to the supermarket is a big deal, the more likely you are to freak out when you get there. Just don't think about it, hell, making this post was probably a bad idea except to get advice.
Rumination is just generally bad, unless you're in a shit situation and you can ruminate on positive thoughts. Then again, sometimes it helps my anxieties to consider the worst possible outcome and realise it's not that bad.
Ultimately what really helped me is having a junkie put a gun to my chest. That's an idea, have a near death experience and realise how much of a fucking pussy you are over literally nothing.
>>7161692
I dont even celebrate holidays myself, I dont understand the point. So, maybe.
>>7161548
>Skinny 50 year old chicken leg man ass eggs cloth firmly squelched inbetween the cheeks presented in clean but visibly worn blue striped boxer briefs with potential stains
holy shit ive never laughed so hard at something on /ck/
>>7161893
>I dont understand the point
a) edgy or b) autism
>>7161994
Or I just get together with my small family for food andnchat whenever we can because we're too poor to buy presents andntrees and shit and all sort of apathetic about it anyways.
So all poor, plus probably we all contain some autism. My grandma and uncle have lived together for like 30 years out of convenience and he's never going to marry I bet.
Anyone else find that certain aisles bring a greater deal of social anxiety? If I were to rank the aisles by the amount of anxiety provided it would look like this
1. Fruit and Vegetables
>Makes me nervous because everyone looks healthy and in shape, and probably has many friends and a good life.
2. Bakery
>Have to talk to the baker sometimes. Also, the smell of fresh bread is very welcoming which means I want to spend longer in the aisle. This means more people walk past me and look at me. Also attracts a great variety of normies due to breads versatility
3. Videogames and movies
>Vidya isn't that normie but the movies and CD's are right next to them and I can't browse PC or DS games without standing right next to some stacey checking out her chart CD's. It makes me uncomfortable
4. Sweets and Chocolate
>Lots of families buying food for their kids. Only saving grace is that some of the kids are future freaks as well and I sometimes mumble stuff like 'Oh James loves Snickers' to seem like I am a father
5. Baking Ingredients and dried fruit
>Only normies buy baking ingredients I find. I find SOME ease in the fact that we share a common hobby otherwise it would rank higher
6. Milk and Dairy
>Lots of /fitizens/ buying Milk and Greek Yoghurt. Luckily this section is quite large so I can stand by the kids sugary yoghurt if I see one of them
7. Christmas Special Aisle
>Happy families
8. Deli Counter
>Too much conversation with the assistant. Luckily many of the people here don't speak English and are buying foreign meats
9. International Food (American section)
>University students buying Pop Tarts, Nerds, etc. Always judge me when they see me, even heard a couple say 'I didn't realise the american section meant the american section of society shopped here' while making a fat belly gesture
10. Alcohol
>Self explains but lots of weirdos too
90001. Frozen food
>Other guys buying meals for one, no judgement
9000002. International Food (Non American)
>Nobody speaks English
>>7160746
thanks for the rare kot
Just go to a grocery store out of town, problem solved.
>>7160746
just go right when it opens on a day you're off
I knock out Sam's and Rouses grocery shopping before 8:30am every other Saturday
>>7162292
/fit/izen here
What's preventing you guys from chatting up the qt's? They won't hurt you.
>>7161311
I work at a hotel. A flamboyantly gay man with his boyfriend might gaudily walk into the hotel singin queen loudly, and I'll literally stop caring the second he has left my sight because I just want to go home and play video games.
>>7160746
find a 247 one and go at 3am. supermarkets are hell when they are busy.
I go to the supermarket at night just before they shut, they have self service machines so I keep my eyes on the ground and can get through it pretty smoothly.
Also mist of them do delivery here in the UK.
>In store shopping for my next delicious meal
>Move over to the cheese section by the front door
>See this nervous, half dressed guy walk in
>Sickly pale looking, looks like he might puke
>See him 720 right out of the store
>Wonder what that was about
>Continue shopping
>>7161724
> instead go to the big one at the end
>halfway through scanning
>realise it's a checkout for the disabled
>finish asap then feign limp out the store
Kill me
>>7160871
>please wait for assistance comes up
>the attendant is busy doing pricematching for some seacow
Rude as fuck desu, go to regular lanes for that shit
How much human interaction are you really getting at the grocery store?
OP, you just need a shopping buddy. Find someone to go with you, heck where do you live? I'll run the aisles with you.
>>7161361
lol you're going to scare like 1 out of 10 peope and the remaining 9 will just think that you're a retard
>order grocery's online
>grocerys come
I love grocery stores
There are so many aisles and displays, even at the most crowded time you can find a secluded place to pick your nose or fix a wedgie.
It's so colorful! It's meant to be a delight to the eye and is-- advertisement at its finest.
There are always people there who are more out of place than you. Whether it be the old man who keeps whistling a women, to the hobo looking mafk walking around with two things in his grubby hands.
The people working there are on drugs or are willfully creating an ignorance of their surroundings.
Any anxiety you have is based on a fear of other people observing and judging. You need to realize both will happen and it will be so stupefying mild and unmemorable that they will forget you by the time they get to the next aisle.
Get over it, faggot.
>>7162501
I stopped caring about maintaining friends.
I'm alone now. I talk to my family who lives the next three cities over and with people on the internet.
Used to date and have a large circle of friends but I became disgusted by them and left them.
>>7161707
lol
Not anxious but i hate going out because people dont have manners or know how to shop or drive. I try to go late or early.
>>7160966
Or I put the item on the bagging scale and it reckons that the weight isn't quite right for no particular reason
>>7161311
Frozen dinners and chips are super easy to scan and bag anon, you won't be remembered and even if you are it won't be for a bad reason
now the lady with dozens of differently shaped items and 8 different vegetables who handed me £80 of her £120 bill as individual pound coins in a big envelope, she's the one I remember
Everyone seems to hate self checkouts but they are a godsend for me. No need to talk to anyone.
I've only had the "unexpected item" bullshit once
>>7164299
They really are great. If I get an error I just keep my headphones in and the employee doesn't even have to look at me while scanning their card.
>>7161643
Do you live in New England? I moved here from mid-atlantic and holy fucking shit everyone is grumpy ALL THE TIME. When someone is nice and makes small talk it literally makes my fucking day because it feels like I'm back in a normal environment.
>>7161703
Here's what I've found that works for me (because I hate feeling rushed and like to take it easy in the morning before work)
>set alarm on cell phone
>set volume to max
>change ringtone every few weeks
>snooze: 3 minutes, 10 times
>ring+vibrate
>have drip coffee pot with time
>set up coffee pot the night before, set to brew 5 min before alarm
>stirred from my slumber by GURGLE GURGLE then the smell of coffee
>Alarm of Maximum Annoyance finishes the job
Occasionally I will need to set an alarm on the weekend and I'll forget to use all of the above settings and I sleep past it by 2 hours every. fucking. time.
>>7164708
just like Old England then?
>>7162349
whats preventing you from not being a manlet?
>>7161706
>small talk
fukin disgusting
t. finn
>aisle stalking single mums
>>7161311
worked in one for years. nobody even thinks about what you buy. as long and you do not smell awful from far away or comlain loudly and rudely you will be completly foregotten the second you walk away.
>>7160746
Are you fat?
I had the same sorts of fear when I was fat. I lost the weight and now I don't.
>>7161642
You sound like a sociopath, honestly. But yeah you can tell how smart someone is most of the time just by looking at them.
>>7161807
I remember this being true when I was little, but now all supermarkets have nice restrooms. In fact, my local Big Y has always been super clean except for one time I remember it not being up to my personal cleanliness standards for a public restroom (which are very high).
Publix restrooms are now impressively nice.
>>7161847
>I go into supermarkets wearing my fucking pajamas.
I fucking hate people like you. Unless you are currently attending college and are between the age of 18 and 22, this is absolutely unacceptable for a grown man. Just as disgusting as people who walk around the office or a store with earbuds in. You know people used to take their hats off when speaking to a woman or when walking into a store or home? I could never imagine such a minor courtesy from a millennial.
>>7160759
find a 24 hour and go in the middle of the night. use self check outs, wear headphones.
OP don't take drugs
just do all your shopping with a mask on
that way if you do sperg out and take a massive dump on the floor before leaving people won't know be able to identify you.
>>7167960
If you wear a mask in America and it's not Halloween you will probably be shot as you walk into the store.
>>7167975
I'm a private citizen. I'd shoot you for wearing a hoodie. If you had a mask on, I'd behead you like ISIS.
>go somewhere often enough that you have a "regular"
I don't want to be known as the guy who always gets a medium cappuccino!
>>7160961
Valdoxan worked well for me
>>7166431
>You know people used to take their hats off when speaking to a woman
yea and we used to hit them too, what are you saying, anon?
>>7161288
well meme friend
>>7168531
The same types of people who used to hit women are still hitting them today. That hasn't changed at all.
>>7161643
I think good manners are hugely underrated.
>>7161793
This is what you anxiety-ridden posters should aspire to be.
>>7161847
>I go into supermarkets wearing my fucking pajamas.
Me and my flatmate used to wear pyjamas to the off licence ('liquor store') on a regular basis at university.
Generally we'd try and hide them under winter coats. And sometimes we were just naked underneath.
Ahh, nostalgia.
>>7162292
>I sometimes mumble stuff like 'Oh James loves Snickers' to seem like I am a father
Fer srs?
>>7165761
GENETICS
>>7162376
Junkie. Probably looking for a five finger discount.
>>7160746
>>7160759
>>7160761
>Tfw while it seems the vast majority of 4chan has crippling social anxiety, I'm completely normal in that regard, and actually enjoy meeting and talking to new people
When people talk of not being able to function in a public place, I can never sympathize. You could be in and out of the store within minutes if you u know where everything is. Just go quick nigga stop worrying.
God knows I have my own personal set of problems but I'm so thankful that this isn't one of them.
>>7162349
Think back to junior high, your first crush that you awkwardly announced your love for in front of all your friends only to be rejected and laughed away by everyone.
Remember that feeling? Because I do. And I'm sure you do as well. I guess the difference is that I got over it within a few hours and immediately proceeded to not give a fuck. Because I realized that day that I tried my best, which sometimes is all you can do.
I have never been afraid of rejection since that day. I still get rejected at bars and parties and shit, but the candor you keep after it keeps you in the game.
I'm a firm believer that in this world with all these people, there is someone who is perfect for someone else in every way. Their demeanor, their personality, their looks.
But you'll never find them unless you try. And you'll never try unless you get rejected, and try again. This is all of life, not just talking to qts.
>>7166376
My problems are the opposite of being fat and ugly.
>>7169212
>think back to junior high
WHY
Hey Op. I'm coming to this thread late. But I had to comment. I get overwhelmed at grocery stores too. I had other problems with anxiety and concentration in public places. I talked to my doctor about it and after a few consultations I was diagnosed with SID (sensory integration disorder). Basically your brain gets overwhelmed by external stimulus and can't cope. That leads to anxiety. This disorder effects everyone differently. For me, I am set off by bright lights, movement and ctowded spaces. SID is not often diagnosed here in the US, but it is more recognized in Europe. Daniel Radcliffe has SID, you can google an interview where he discussed it.
SID often occurs in those who also have learning disabilities of those on the autidim spectrum.
>>7169469
>Daniel Radcliffe has SID
If only he'd had SIDS instead.
>>7161523
Pro tip: it wasn't the SSRIs.
Those kids were all fucked to begin with. The correlation really just means their parents knew something was up and got their kids to a doc.
SSRIs don't turn you psycho. They're supposed to even things out and ease anxiety/help you keep focused. Worst case scenario they do nothing for you.
>I'm not the only one
>>7161635
R u a qt version of me?
>huge introvert
>still kindof like people/company tho
>get stressed and shut down too easily
>need alone time
>feel like I mostly squander it 'decompressing' between parts of the week I need 2 be social
>loner in hs, budded in college
>debt
>work retail. Why?
>life is coping
Sometimes I think I got too good at faking it. At least I am a tall/athletic person with a stern looking demeanor so if I don't engage people just let me be because I suspect I'm sort of intimidating looking. At least that's what I like to think. They prolly just think I'm weird still.
>>7162885
you sound like an asshole.
>>7164708
people from the south/west/midwest act friendly to cover the fact that they are super shitty people. it's like a competition to be as nice as possible, so when they go on a rant about how the blacks/jews/gays/moslems/yanks/whatever are ruining this country you don't say anything because this 'kind' person just brought you a delicious casserole or invited you over for three course meal, or drove you and your wife to the hospital when she was giving birth or whatever. if you act nice enough, it is literally a shield from criticism of yourself.
New Englanders don't bother with that nonsense. Sure, some of us are assholes, but mostly we don't try to pretend that a warm smile and warmer slice of pie miraculously prevents us from being bigots.
>>7160769
m8, have a go to list of super quick and painless meals. you can do sausage and pepper subs in like 20 minutes, 4 ingredients + 2 nights dinner for around 8 bucks.
>chop the onion and bell pep (u can do this in like 90 seconds)
>sautee them with spices and meanwhile slice sausage (5 min)
>add sausage and cook (5 min)
>reduce a tablespoon of vinegar in that shit for 30 seconds, slap on a roll and walla
Add a can of diced tomatoes for a wetter variation
>>7169212
dang i wish i had as much swag as that kid when i was his age
>>7169200
that's okay. its not like people who have social phobias or phobias about being in public want your sympathy. it really has nothing to do with other people (for me) as odd as that sounds.
i pretty much do walk into a store and walk out as fast as possible but the physical sensations during the trip are so intense. can't breathe without hyperventilation, extreme muscle stiffness, dysphoria.
>>7160895
>what will everyone think? or worse.. WHAT WOULD I THINK?
but senpai it is okay to be a drunk or a drug addict or to think things about people or to have people think things about you. all of these things are not just 100% okay but joyous details of the wondrous fabric of the universe.
in fact you are misled by an illusion of separation between you and these feared Others, when in fact you are simply all of the greater reality at the locus of your respective existences. you are something the whole universe is doing in the place you call here and now, in the same way that a wave is something the whole ocean is doing.
remember that we are all a part of the same great vibration and let the fuck go my brother
>>7161011
>Do a couple test runs through the sanitation/dog food isles to get comfortable
Idk why I laughed so hard at that but I did. Probably because I could see myself doing the same ridiculous shit.
I can't imagine how you'd be comfortable going to Taco Bell but not to the supermarket
>>7160746
And I thought I was bad. Get some xanax or something dude.
>>7161793
literally a manchild
I have a friend that acts like this and I'm deeply ashamed when I take him anywhere.
>>7161793
> girlfriend freaks out when I get home and inform her that we are living off battle rations
> lean close to her while walking past
> "You are going to get fat!"
> girlfriend can't keep up with my turbo supermarket speed dash
Sweet mother of keks, I'm saving this post
>>7161635
I am literally this, socially *seemingly* very capable but it's all a façade. After three decades of shit life, turned out it's most likely autism hindering me.
>>7161656
Good question! I'd like to see this answered.
>>7161674
Are you me.
Though I am still taking SSRIs. The alcohol became such a problem though, that I eventually became a full fledged alcoholic, depressed, shut in when I am not drinking. It's not the way, and besides I would always get so fucking drunk I'd lose half of my shit, wallets and all, and the next day my basic cognitive functions would fail me.
Try to stop, really.
>>7170812
>No fun allowed
There's nothing wrong with manchild behavior if it's not bothering other people
At one point stress and just general bad times lead to me having a break down during my lunch break. I pulled into my parking space, looked at the building, decided I just couldn't take the shitty people I worked with on top of all thr shitty people I encounter everywhere else anymore, and then just left. On the way out of the parking lot I realised I was fucked. I had been unemployed for 3 months, got a pretty good job, got fired over bullshit because it was a temp to hire contract through a temp angency and it turned out that they did that constantly to save a few bucks, was unemployed another 2 months, wracked up the credit card debt trying to live while being denied unemployment again, and then just quit a job after 3 weeks because I just couldn't stand people anymore. I had my first kid on the way in literally weeks at that point, and I could have just turned around and clocked back in late and continued to suffer for the better, and even though I was cognizant of this as I was driving away, I couldn't get myself to turn around and go back in. I freaked more and more as I drove and decided to just go to the ER for any kind of help. Sat in that hospital parking lot for 2 hours and couldn't go in. Spent the rest of the night until the time I would have been going home driving around playing ingress. Get home and tell my wife what I just did and that at this point my mind is basically just broken and that I need her to help me get help because I couldn't get myself to do it.
>>7171223
Basically the next three weeks I'm stuck at home and can't get myself out for help or jobs even though I have interviews scheduled, and the wife wouldn't help me because, as she plainly told me one day after causing another episode of anxiety, she didn't believe me and that whatever I told her she just assumed it was an excuse because I wanted to be lazy and didn't care about our kid. Had to get my sister to eventually go with me to and from therapy appointments to make sure I would do it, and the wife never caught on to what was actually going on with me until she finally asked me about a therapy session and I told her all about how I would tell the therapist that I would tell my wife exactly what help I needed, and then would call her from the Wal-Mart or target parking lot in another breakdown because the thought of having to walk in was overwhelming and that all my wife would do was get pissed and make my situation worse. I had to tell her about all the mad shit I would talk on her at therapy, and get into an hours long argument over it, before I could get her to finally listen to me and get on board with helping me so I could quit ruining our lives. It took a few months before I could walk into a store by myself, and now I work management and effortlessly interact with people all day while I work on a degree.
But yeah, grocery shopping is shit. People push their carts as horribly as they drive their cars.
Imagine living in Europe. All my local supermarkets are in a 10 minute walking distance. So either I go there and ve greeted by half of my neighbourhood when inside or I walk to a distant store and wave to meet and greet all these people on the street.
Also, these supermarkets are tiny as fuck, so nowhere to hide and shit selection.
I usually buy the same shit always and gtfo as asap.
>>7169200
Are you me? I have no trouble whatsoever doing this kind of shit
>>7160871
You mean this
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>>7160896
>make a roast for sunday and use for sandwiches rest of the week
Excellent advice, i do this all the time
This is why I shop at 4am. Walmart or HEB for the bulk of what I need, and then I'll go to a Central Market or wherever else for my more niche stuff as soon as they open. Weekdays are the best for this, everyone goes shopping weekend afternoons and at the beginning of the month. Mondays/Tuesdays are sometimes bad depending where you are too.
It's called agoraphobia and happens to me because of how little I leave my house with the exception of classes. Being a fulltime student and working from home also impede my anxiety in that way.
>>7171330
>shopping at 4am
Wtf.
>>7171515
it's like you didn't even read the thread
>>7171515
He doesn't have a job. Or a life.
>>7171525
...or he has supermarket anxiety and can't go to the store during prime hours. do you guys even know what this thread is about?
>>7161656
That would TOTALLY fucking work for me. I have panic disorder, and going places alone freaks me the fuck out because I'm always worried I'm going to have a panic attack in some place and no one will be there to help me, because they're all strangers who don't give a fuck. If I had a shopping/errand buddy, I'd get so much more done. I wish I could just do it alone, like a normal person, though.
>>7171523
You guys don't even get it. I read the entire thread and suffer from similar anxiety.
It's just that I happen to live in one of the 99.9% of the countries in the world that, strangely, does not offer the option of 4am grocery shopping.
>>7171534
>have a job
>can afford to go to the grocery store at 4am
pick one, unless you working 18 hours a week helping out the old lady up the street is employment
>>7160746
I recognize that kitty cat :)
>>7160896
>Live by the ghetto
>have been asked by homeless people on walmart to buy them food and a tent/sleeping bag for the night
>try to come up with excuses but they don't get the message
>outright refuse
Fuck.
I'd be glad to help you guys with some kind of service like, I do the groceries for you and put the bags in front of your door, no need to talk and you pay me the groceries plus the service, let's say $10, via paypal or so.
It's debatable because it could bury you in your flat even more but if you suffer that much that could be worth.
>>7169617
>>7171553
I still don't even know what you're trying to say. Do you think stores charge more money for items at 4AM or something?
>>7160746
I love posts like this. Occasionally I convince myself that I suffer from anxiety and should seek out medication and therapy. Then I come across things like this and realize I'm completely normal and fine.
I mean come on nigga. It's a grocery store. What's the worst that could happen?
>>7160897
bullshit is what it is
>>7161793
You sound like quite the rascal.
>>7160897
This shit does not work.
You people are pathetic, and the ones who are pretending to be this pathetic are even worse.
> go to grocery
> every other person is there with their gf
Get out of the fucking way what is this date night fuck
>Social anxiety so bad I can't keep a job
>Too scared to even ask for help
>Literally starving as I type this because I won't get food stamps
My life is hell
>>7170714
Thanks bro
I would be a shopping buddy for a double gulp and maybe a sandwich.
>>7172873
>has access to computer
>has access to Internet
>has time to play on $Chan
please....
>>7172925
I'm at the library
>be me
>need new glasses really badly
>optical store I have been going to since i was a teenager now has a thing where you have to look at yourself on a computer monitor or something to see what you will look like with new frames
>start looking for new place to get glasses
>>7160857
>panic attacks when no one is paying attention to me
Are you a grill by any chance?
Who /tooanxioustoeat/ here? I literally haven't eaten more than like one tiny meal in the past few days. There's this girl I've been seeing for a few weeks. She's gone away for the week and I can't even eat anything just thinking about her.
Fuck I need some xanax or something.
I have anxiety about grocery shopping because in my teens I was a degenerate and would steal. Everytime I walk into a store now I get insane panic.
>>7173025
That's when I drink lots of juices and eat fruits.
It's keeps me alive until I can move to more hearty meals.
there is no point to this post so don't read it
>walk into grocery store blasting cute vocaloid music on speaker on my phone
>walking around cluelessly like an animal nearing extinction looking for the things i want because you can never find anything in a grocery store without doing this
>find everything without asking for help because i'm a full grown man and have a terrific beard
>get in line and throw all my shit on the floor
>guy accidentally kicks my stuff while leaving the line and apologizes
>say it's cool man, kind of feel like a dick because he could have tripped
>play phone games while waiting
>kick shit forward when the line moves
>cashier doesn't say shit but hello because they're bored of interacting with strangers
>pay and leave
was an uneventful and painless experience. just stop giving a fuck.
it's not supermarket anxiety. It sounds like social anxiety or generalized anxiety
>>7160746
Ordering food at a resturaunt is 100 times worse than buying some food and self checking at a grocery store
>>7161635
I've been living alone like this for three years, I hope you make it out of this rut because it's a vicious cycle which only gets worse with time
>>7173025
>Fuck I need some xanax or something.
can't eat food but can eat pharmaceuticals
>>7160746
See a therapist we can't help you
>>7175699
Disregard this guy, therapists can help, see a psychiatrist.
The medicine of therapy is talk.
The medicine of psychiatrists is medicine.
>>7160857
Lol
>>7175711
the medicine they shove down your throat doesnt suddenly make things better.
They take a while for it to change the way your brain works, so its months of it kinda working kinda not working. Then when you get a therapeutic level you have days that are good, and days that are worse than before you were on medication.
And the underlying problem, you and the way you think, are still fucked. Working out your issues and learning coping mechanisms are so much more important than artificially changing serotonin levels.
>>7170656
Boston is probably on par with the worst of the South when it comes to racism/sexism/bigotry.
The South is shit, but if we go by your word, at least the outright dipshittery is minimal. In NE they will openly act like cunts and try to play it off by saying "ayy weah New Yohkas!"
>>7160961
Then try therapy????
For many talking these things out with a pro is a great help. If your insurance covers all the meds I bet theyd cover a few months of therapy.
>>7161311
No retail worker cares about what you buy unless you buy something crazy like a 24 pack of condoms and knives or something.
Not even the female cashiers give a shit seriously (I know that is something that matters extra to some) we barely even remember your face 2 minutes later.
Unless you are rude to someone they totally forget you exist 10 minutes after you leave the store. just be polite and nobody will care.
>>7161361
>feels the need to torment people with anxiety to prove he's edgy and superior
yeah man you're really showing those mental defects whos the boss
If it's any help cashiers really do not remember you unless you are super rude, super nice or are really bizarre, which is a REALLY high bar in a grocery store. Nobody is going to remember/care if you are nervous and awkward or even if you don't talk or make eye contact.
The only people I remember from my days as a cashier was a father and daughter who would always make up little songs about the fruit they bought and this one guy that came in on 4/20 and bought 60 bags of cheetos and an avocado.
>>7177595
What about people who are obviously drunk and smell really bad? Just asking for a friend.
>>7160746
>there are people that actually get nervous going to the fucking supermarket
goddamn
I think I got scared once when I was 4-5 and got separated from my mom
Fucking hell, just drink more than think about all the meals you'll get given to you in hospital when you get cirrhosis of the liver.
The only shopping you'll need to then is for a new liver lol
>>7161311
I worked at a Kmart for close to 3 years.
I was cashier for a decent amount of time.
I literally only remember say 15-20 customers that were acting like absolute children in that time. Everything else I remember was just fucking around with coworkers.
>one old man who would come into the store and buy a 6 pack of milwaukees best almost every single day
>one homeless guy that would come in and pretend to look at the magazines to loiter a lot
>2 really fat and mean women who had to drive around rascal carts, and would buy droves of junkfood and treat every worker like shit
>old lady with an adult man with down syndrome who would just walk the store.
Was on a bus route, so got a lot of lower class who would routinely come in.
The only time I remember checking someone out that was out of the ordinary, a guy and his girlfriend buying sexy panties, condoms, and a reeses peanut butter cup.
Thought it was funny, because being a cashier is boring as fuck
>>7177655
This
>Most people won't recognize me
>Those who do will just think "Oh, it's that guy that made me ring up his 12 2l bottles of soda to prevent "infetterence" which I still don't think is a word"
>>7178085
What a few people ITT need to realize is, how little it actually matters.
When you work in a store or at a restaurant (unluckily ive done both), you dont give a flying fuck about some random person coming through.
I have had awful anxiety (and in some respects still do) but going to restaurants and grocery stores is nothing to me now after working in the fields.
Everybody eats, you dont realize the sheer traffic a grocery store has every single day.
Think about it this way, if a cashier DOES think you are a faggot for what you bought or how you acted, how does that in any way effect you?
You dont know this person, you wont ever know this person. Being a random anecdote that this person will forget, or maybe tell someone else you will never meet (and they will forget) literally doesnt effect you in any way.
My anxiety stems from junior high and high school, where I would do and say things that dig yourself deeper and deeper and you get a reputation from your peers. It directly effects you every single day. Its reasonable, and most everyone has that.
Its the irrational stuff that you need to get over, the retard making minimum wage taking your pizza order on the phone isnt going to effect your life one bit, no need to get worked up and stumble over your order. Hes just a regular dude like you
>tfw introverted pleb with anxiety that somehow became a manager of a grocery store.
I personally hate grocery shopping. Especially where i live. Trying to push your shopping cart is like driving a car, there are shit drivers/shoppers.
Its best to go shopping as soon as they open, less crowded. Or late at night if you cant.
Maybe try a small local market instead. I have one where its run by the owner and not alot of people go there.
What if it's something like a Walmart where there's also a variety of produces and stuff?
>>7178104
What's with all the anxiety threads on page 0 today?
Anyway my 2 cents on this. I don't have anxiety issues so maybe I should just STFU, but: I go to the same grocery store several times a week, and the same liquor store several times a week. They know me at both places.
The grocery store I wouldn't really care about even if they thought I was a huge fag (in the figurative sense, I live in a progressive area). The liquor store though, I'd be a little annoyed, because sometimes I get really awesome recommendations especially when the owner is working the floor. Also I enjoy flirting with the hispanic cashier girls who think I don't understand them talking about me. It's part of my routine and in a small way I'd hate to lose that.
>>7161609
I don't have the actual disorder, but I've had a panic attack a couple of times and it's basically you being 100% convinced something absolutely terrible is going to happen/you're just going straight up die and the more you think about it the worse it gets.
It's always really absurd when you think back to it but at that moment you're sure it's going to happen.
>>7165938
>my nigga
>>7160772
>autismbux
>be legit autistic
>only recently find out the autismbux thing is real
>i don't qualify because I'm too high-functioning on the scale, but I'm not high-functioning enough to get a job that pays well enough for me to survive without help from others
Life is pain.
>>7161368
>I also feel slightly raped when I have to shake somebodies hand or hug them.
You..."feel slightly raped"?
>>7171330
>Day before Thanksgiving
>Do this so I don't have to freak out
>Someone fucking drives up to me as I'm loading shit into my car
>Tries to make small talk with me
>Face twisted in fear, trying to laugh it off
>He can definitely tell I'm uncomfortable but keeps trying to chat me up
Do people do shit like that for fun? Do they enjoy other people's suffering?
