Old one reached its bump limit
>>8940073
Let there be feels
>>8942434
>Mom finds drawer full of skirts and socks I have stashed away for crossplay
>knows I have a gf so knows I'm not gay
>probably thinks we're into sissy shit or something
>>8948752
No actually the last one got baleted thanks to massive shitposting. Keep the feels reals gulls.
>petite with a stupidly large chest, 42-25-36
>got into lolita fashion when I had a smaller chest
>still wear it regardless
>got a dress in the mail for the third time where the lolibrary measurements were inaccurate
>it won't fit past the tatas
>fuck this shit just cut them off of me
>>8948798
Claim that they belong to your gf?
>>8948873
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>Hobby is repainting action figures to make them more accurate
>Hide it from agressively normalfag family
>Get some Star Wars ones from the store to celebrate the movie coming out
>Dad walks in while I have two laying out to dry
>"Are you autistic or whatever it is retarded? What is this shit?"
>Rips on me for the rest of the day and tells entire family he thinks I have autism because of action figures.
>be me, actually feeling motivated for once to work on a costume I'm making
>try to find fabric shears, remember I let mom borrow them a few weeks back
>oh well, go to try to find them
>find them covered in what I assume to be Elmer's school glue, paper bits, and what looks like peanut butter (????)
Remind me to never let my Mom borrow anything, gulls. My siblings always get things before I even see them again.
>>8949056
Anon, that's actually pretty cool. Don't let your family convince you you're wasting your time, stuff like that takes real painting skill.
>>8949056
Your dad is an ass.
>>8949057
Yeah. Never loan out anything you aren't willing to risk losing or getting damaged.unless you have some kind of contract.
I have a pair of dressmaking sheers that nobody gets to use. I have like, 15 pairs of different scissors, anybody can use them but the dressmaking sheers are off limits.
>>8949056
That sounds like a rad hobby. Your dad is terrible.
>>8949056
Pics?
>>8948897
It's long distance and we meet rarely, I doubt she'd fall for that.
>>8949130
say you got a few things from her to remember her by or something, I used to have shirts from my exes around
then hide shit better next time
>tfw a photoset of your cosplay gets 100 notes on tumblr in less than 24 hours
>>8949056
I used to never have figures and shit because of stuff like this.
Well, i had a few at one point, but my mum always put them away and said they were "annoying to dust" and that girls would probably find them weird. Except the girls i dated were pretty weird and knew what the figures were anyway. Though to be honest i'm too much of a cheapskate to buy any figures these days.
I think she still wants me to find a "nice normal girl"
>made two pouches for upcoming cosplay a while ago
>they turned out fine but as time went by I started liking them less and less
>i can do better, I'm gonna remake them
>I ruined the first remake pair but the second one is coming along perfectly
>just have a few things to do but scared shitless that I'm gonna ruin them when I am so close to getting them done
>this is the type of bs fear that keeps me from moving forward with my projects almost every single time
>>8949489
>but my mum always put them away
What kind of parents do you have? My mom didn't touch my stuff past the age of 13, unless occasionally picking up dirty laundry off the floor at best (even that she didn't do very often, I had to clean after myself mostly). That's just disrespectful to your privacy.
>>8949056
Don't let yourself be bothered by asshole relatives, you have a cool hobby. I'd love to have a friend into figurines, but tfw only normie friends.
Just submitted an application for Joann Fabrics. See you weebs on the other side of retail hell. Also any current/former employees have any tips on how to survive?
>>8949500
Think of it this way: the more you procrastinate, the less time you'll have to fix it if you do mess it up. And if you get it right then you've got time to spare!
>cosplay motivation gone
>chronically ill
>think my boyfriend will dump me soon
>seems like a good time to jump off a cliff and die
>>8949511
Different anon, but my mom would constantly knock my gunpla off of my dresser while dusting because she didn't give a shit. It was one of those $80 ones that was pretty big, and she damaged it to the point where it could never stand and the leg constaly fell off. Then her and my brother would let my 4 year old nephew play with it because "It's just shitty transformers"
I never really bought animu merch because of that mentality.
How do you gulls deal with salt? There's times where dumb posts are kind of funny, but sometimes they just straight up make me mad.
I know it doesn't really matter, but being angry still makes the day a little more sour. I'll waste so much time just being upset about nothing. Sometimes I stay up late at night tossing and turning or pacing my room and thinking angrily. I want to let it go, but it'll bother me all day and into the night. I also get pretty bad road rage. I don't know what to do, I know it's stupid. I can control how I act pretty well, but secretly stewing in my own rage all day is tiring.
Both /cgl/ related occurrences and not, obviously.
>>8949840
That's when it's time to just take a break. Usually I'll stop lurking around salty sites (like here) or purposefully searching for salt. At the end of the day, you're the one putting yourself in the situation and you're the only one who can remove yourself from it.
Find another interest to get involved with. Do something productive and relaxing.
>>8949840
by putting my big girl panties on and dealing with it
I suggest you do the same
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who play the violin, viola, cello, flute, clarinet, bassoon, concert whistle, uilleann pipes, oboe, piano, keyboard, harp, sax, trumpet, trombone, banjo, kazoo, ukulele, drums, djembe, guitar, erhu, accordion, concertina, xylophone, euphonium, glass harp, french horn, ocarina, hammered dulcimer, or jew's harp
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who can fulfil the role of an orchestral concert percussionist by playing instruments like the triangle, chimes, and cymbals
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who sing in falsetto, vibrato, or tremolo
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who can read musical notation or can conduct an orchestra
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who can sing in constructed languages like Hymmnos
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who can DJ or use sound synthesis programs
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who can write the scripts or songs for musical theatre or may be participants themselves in it's showing
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who may not be able to play music for any variety of reasons but I'm sure have good music taste anyway
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who can dance
>mfw woodsmen who play the concertina
I know I've said this a lot and have probably worn it to death but I really do mean it when I say you're the best!
>Decide to make a tumblr and post pictures of my coord and cosplay
>Excited to get my first few notes
>They're all porn blogs and some do captions
>Don't want to star in some shitty fap bait or draw the wrong kind of attention to the fashion
>Delete tumblr
>>8949511
If they live at home and mama still has to dust their stuff for them then yes, she has a say. Keep them clean or put them away.
>>8949885
I can do several of these, they are just other hobbies and it just takes practice and maybe lessons with some. This is a weird post.
I'm working on a cosplay from a 90s anime series because I finally feel like my skill level is good enough to make all this armor. I'm so anxious already imagining Big Tuff Fans trying to quiz me on "their" series. Would I put all these hours of work into something I wasn't ALSO a huge fan of???? I'm working myself in a knot about it.
Telling CGL helps.
Thank you, feels thread.
>major change at home for the next month
>causes me major anxiety
>major as in I can hardly keep food down
>friend is pissed at me for being so nervous aince April first
>I probably deserve it
I don't even have a picture for this feel
>>8949784
I thought this said "knock my grandpa off my dresser"
>>8949885
I know people give you shit for this but I love this post every time. Keeping doing you.
>comm meet scheduled for friday
>been looking forward to it all month
>rain forecasted for Friday
>comm meet is going to end up being called off
>tfw it will be at least another two weeks for another meet to be scheduled
Fug
>wear a petticoat to work for the first time
>get tons of compliments
>feel kawaii
>my casual game is so strong
I started wearing lolita every day and it made my life better
>>8949577
Chronic illness is the worst. I hope you can find something that makes you happy, though. Look into some new hobbies if cosplay isn't doing it for you anymore?
>tfw 25
>tfw all my weeb friends are younger, and poorer
>tfw no friends my age to weeb out at cons
I'm not the only one am I?
Kinda sucks that I can't do anything with any of my weeb friends because they never have any money because they're all either unemployed or broke
>>8949985
Knew that feel until a couple weeks ago. Normie Co-worker/friend is secretly a casual weeb, got him to come with me to a local con. But for several years all my weeb friends were poor, and I wasn't, I just didn't have a car.
>Two of my college roommates and I are looking for an apartment starting Sept 1
>One of them is notoriously bad at making decisions
>I find a place, it fits public-transportation and budget requirements, we check it out
>I thought we decided to go for it so I set up a meeting with the realtor to do paperwork/pay
>Only to find out my friend still isn't sure she wants it
>Meeting is tomorrow 6pm and she still hasn't decided
I keep hearing that we have to act now because Sept. 1 apartments will all be gone by summer (college city), and while I understand this is a big decision, I don't like pushing it until literally the last few hours. Honestly I'm only with them because I liked living with them in college for the most part; this place is actually more complicated to get to work from than my house is right now. I feel bad because one of them is currently renting and her lease is up in August so she has to find a place, but I have a 10-minute drive to work right now that will be very difficult to top. Plus living at home is free. Speaking of which:
>Week-long road trip this weekend with friends
>Decided to go to Katsucon next winter
>Have to save money for hotel
>Haven't bought materials for next cosplay yet
>Already definitely going to 2 other cons for sure
>Also have student loans
>Rent on top of all that would make things more difficult
Time to tighten my belt and save as much as possible.
>>8949885
You're the sweetest, anon.
>>8949908
*Maybe* lessons with some? There's a difference between being able to blast out some notes on different instruments and dedicating yourself to playing well on any one of them. Anon is probably appreciating people who play instruments seriously + and a hobby, I'm sure. It's not that weird to think musicians who work hard are awesome.
On topic
>in current comm, I'm established enough that I'm invited to casual hangouts + chilling at people's houses (which I prefer to big comm meetups where we mostly make smalltalk with newcomers)
>comm is also awesome and occasionally has things like brunches/dinners, craft days, etc. at houses and those tend to be more intimate and fun
>but
>moving to a different state soon
>don't look forward to paying to regularly go to meetups in restaurants so that people don't forget my face
>afaik no meets are at people's houses
>sucks
>more bonding happens when you can do shit like craft together, watch movies, lounge around in frills, shoot the shit
>and a break from newbies since not as many are willing to go to stranger's houses
>why isn't this more common
Do other comms have meetups in people's houses? As in not just a few friends coming over.
>my cosfam used to be tight like a shota
>four years have passed since we all left college
>now I'm lucky if I can get two of them to go to a con with me
In particular, my little sister, who used to be my inseparable best friend, is a stranger to me now. She has a new life. They all have new lives, except for me. I'm stuck.
>At ALA , me and my sis are in the restroom to touch up
>while my sis is busy fixing her costume, I notice in the mirror, a girl who looks like shes silently crying
>I'm the only one who seems to notice
>freak out internally/ I'm too nervous to say something, she grabs some paper towels and leaves
Nothing crazy, but I still feel bad for not saying anything.
>>8950062
I always wonder if I should talk to them and see what's wrong or if I should leave them alone and give them some privacy when I see stuff like that. If I was in the situation I'd prefer the latter, but not everyone is me.
>not con crunch time, but getting close
>doing cosplay group
>all I have left to do is my shoes
>no one else in group has even started on their cosplays
No one's going to go through with it and I'm going to look like a loser without the context of a group, aren't I?
>Convention isn't for another 7 weeks.
>Currently working on a costume bit by bit each night.
>Refuse to put myself into staying up all night, the night before the con to finish my costume.
>Taking my time so I don't fuck something up and my stuff can be constructed nice and cleanly instead of rushing stuff and it being sloppy looking on the inside.
>Family doesn't understand why I'm working on something every single night.
I'm getting to old and been in this hobby to long to be doing all nighters for cons anymore.
>make friends with a girl in my comm
>she's a super sweet, generous, and kind girl
>recently she's sold or given away most of her wardrobe
>says she's outgrown everything
>she's a little chubby but girls 3x her size fit brand, most of her stuff is smaller aatp pieces but still
>really really want to surprise her with a dress so she can wear lolita again
>but scared I'll pick something she doesn't like or doesn't fit
>I just want to be like 1/4th of as nice of a friend as she is
>>8948798
But aren't you?
>tfw no Jfash friends
>meet new girl at job
>seems to be hiding a bit of a powerlevel, wears what looks like himekaji from time to time
>being the new kid she's obviously super nervous and quiet so I kind of take her under my wing to be kind, but also secretly hoping we could be Jfash friends
>as she becomes more comfortable with us she also becomes more and more annoying
>random squealing, obnoxious 'cutesy' behavior, ignoring all the other women but flirting awkwardly with all the guys even though they're clearly not interested, beating already unfunny jokes to death, etc.
>coworkers start making fun of her behind her back
>feel bad and like I ought to defend her, but secretly I also kind of agree with them
>tfw still no Jfash friends
>>8949885
Kill yourself
>used to have a ride-or-die cosplay group
>we stuck through everything together
>everyone fucked off and got married
>one's having a baby
>I live in the same complex as another and I see her once every two months
>We all did con prep together for a convention a few weeks ago
>Con rolls around and I don't see any of them, even though they're posting instagram pictures of how much fun they're having
>The only reason I'm not completely alone is because I know just enough people that I run into a familiar face every now and then
>They're all running around as a besties squad and it's like they've completely forgotten that I exist beyond occasionally commissioning props and accessories from me
At this point I honestly wouldn't be surprised if the only reason why my dead body is found if I dropped dead right now would be because I didn't pay my rent.
>just started sewing my own costumes less than a year ago
>fucking suck at everything except for pattern making and adding small details like beads and gems
>all of my friends are advanced seamstresses who are have made tons of really advanced historical costumes and Sakizou cosplays after sewing for only a couple of years
>too afraid to ask them for help because afraid of judgement (long story) and also because I'm a slow as fuck learner
>tfw will suck forever
>have a lot of motivation to work on cosplay stuff
>want to work on cute couple cosplay with my partner
>they're in japan for the next week with family
>do art, cosplay, wear lolita
> have a friend of a friend who has similar hobbies but is a few years older
>better at said hobbies then acquaintance
>constantly frustrated at how much attention both public and in friend circles that acquaintance gets for mediocre work and annoying sense of humor.
> happy to see acquaintance upset because it fills a small part of me with satisfaction knowing she could possibly be as unhappy as I am
Its not like I tell anyone about these feeling but gulls how do I get this salt out of my ass and be happy for my friends? I hate being so unhappy with myself all the time but its so frustrating getting ignored for my accomplishments and I've really been letting it control me.
I'm getting sick of everyone claiming how they have social anxiety and are depressed so that means they don't have to attempt to put effort info friendships.
I'm not saying they don't have either or one of those things but goddammit I'm sick of always having to be the one to start conversations while they'll make sad remarks on how they can't do it because they're too shy etc.
The thing is, I'm autistic as fuck and spend all my life growing up trying to get better at socializing, even before I knew what I had and yes it sucks dick it really does but I'm sick of always having to be the one that puts in all the effort.
>>8950650
how is this related to cgl?
>>8950114
NO
>>8949985
I've got friends like this, though, they cover up their poorfaggotry with smug superiority.
"Ew, i don't want to go to cons, they are full of people with low power levels and plebs, it'd make me feel FILTHY" basically /a/ kind of bullshit.
When all i want to do is hang out, talk bullshit about other cosplayers and do fun stuff together. It really irks me. DESU half the reason i like /cgl/ is because it's a refreshing break from the other boards hikki4lyfe bullshit.
>>8949885
Thank you for this, Anon, it makes me smile every time I see it
>went and saw Rodgers and Hammerstein's Cinderella in super toned down frills and my mom's gorgeous butterfly necklace
>waiting for my sister in the bathroom when a wild lady appears
>"Just wanted to say that your necklace is beautiful!"
>be polite, say thanks
>"Is that a butterfly?"
>why yes it is
>"Oh, I love butterflies!"
>that's neat, they're very pretty
>"They remind me of my daughter who passed away."
>Aww, WAIT WHAT
Why would you tell that to a person you don't even know?
>>8949985
I'm 27 and my pathological complex about denying what I am (a nerd) left me never having gone to a con or trying D&D until literally just now (and only made the character, haven't played it yet). For any youngers here I'd really echo the buck up and go and fucking do that weeb/nerdy shit. Rather be some dumbass looking weeb being made fun of on the internet who had fun than constantly afraid of indulging in it. Better late than never though, so at least I've realized and am trying to overcome that hangup.
I was thinking of trying to cosplay an advent stun lancer (all the others look too generic sci-fi-y) and maybe go to Katsucon. Could have tried for Otacon but money I'd put to that I will spend on the maryland renn faire instead.
>>8950660
Because interaction at every Lolita or cosplay club or anime group ever, duh.
>>8949056
"No, dad, ARtistic, not AUtistic"
hobbies don't need a reason, keep painting, anon.
>cute coord idea with an OTTish dress
>no reason to go out this weekend
>comm never has meets
>friends are busy/lazy/not really close enough to randomly hang out with
>basically no friends
Honestly not even that lonely, I just want want to have fun with someone who looks as silly and OTT as me.
>>8949840
Anon I'm responding specifically to you as someone else who gets angered easily. You deserve to hear this: You are not stupid for having that reaction. It's perfectly normal to get irritated by the actions of repetitive, constant shitbirds.
You're probably thinking about it a lot maybe, in part, because you think you're the only one thinking about it. Don't feel solitary. If there's needless salt and shitposting, I'm thinking about it too and getting fed up with it. I may not waste my time needlessly replying and stirring up shit river. However I'm secretly thinking of five different ways I could torture that shitbird slowly and gag them with a ball of their own roasts that they call vagoos.
As another anon said, in times when it's bad you should avoid browsing here. I personally like to distract myself with window shopping or playing games, or getting my bf to go do stuff with me. It just reminds me that the world is bigger than shitposters.
>>8949840
maybe you should get anger management help
>>8949056
>Hide it from agressively normalfag family
How do people like that function? Like I know some dank ass normies who are genuinely lovely people but I also know a whole lot of idiots whose only hobby is watching GoT, clubbing and looking down on anything that's 'out of the norm'. How aren't they bored?
>tfw see a girl dressed in what seems to be j-fash at my college
>fairy kei/pop kei look(?)
>would like to talk to her but hesitant
It's strange to see her stand out like that, but I'm interested in what style she is going for. Some of her outfits can be cute but other ones are really questionable. Like one outfit in particular with her wearing a skirt on top of sweatpants. It just didn't look right at all. Regardless, it's neat to see someone dress differently around here.
>had an interview yesterday for job
>so Anon you've got your master's in "so and so"
>tell us about yourself
>explain my studies and experiences to connect to the job I'm applying for
>employer asks, "Have you thought about getting your PhD?"
>I tell employer, "No"
>you ought to consider it Anon
>receive an email this morning saying they're looking for more qualified candidates
>email was signed by the intern working there
I can't take this anymore. I want to spend my money on lolita and try to be e-famous rather than to spend money on a PhD.
>>8951279
should have lied, anon. sorry to hear all that.
>boyfriend owes me 1.75 months worth of rent and 4+ months worth of utilities
>he doesn't have a serious job and his mom is slowly stopping giving him money
>he has an online job but afaik he hasnt logged any hours in weeks
>last time he gave me rent he was over $200 short and didn't even say "I'll pay you back next time"
>I can luckily afford to pay all of this myself but thinking of all the money i should have but will likely never get really pisses me off
>need to talk to him about it but don't see how it's going to get solved because he won't get a real job and his mom seems to have dumped him onto me
>our relationship is great besidss this but this is getting to be a really big issue
>when is the last time he took me out to dinner and made me feel like the princess that I am???? Can't remember.
>>8951467
To add on....afraid that if I bring it up he'll use my jfashion shopping as a counter point, like "well you can still afford to buy lolita so I don't see what the problem is".
>>8951279
What kind of job was it???? From what i understand a PhD is only really worth it if you want to get involved in scholarship..... PhDs don't make you more qualified, job experience makes you more qualified
>>8951279
Always say you're aiming higher than you really are. It makes it look like you have initiative and are willing to go the extra mile. You don't have to give a shit or follow through though.
>>8950113
There may be a reason she gave away and sold a lot of her wardrobe besides size. Maybe not, but if so a dress as a gift might fall flat unless you know it's on her wishlist. Get her something more modest or ask about other things she likes.
>>8951468
If he seriously tries to use that argument, anon, say this exactly:
>The problem is that you're an adult man and I am not your new mother. I'm not going to be in a relationship with a child and I will not look after you.
I don't know why /cgl/ thinks that something like that is so harsh. It's the truth, and politer than waiting until you really resent him and actually fighting over it. Fix it before it gets worse.
It sounds like he's been coddled by his mother his entire life - she was giving him money and essentially paying his part of the rent after he moved in with his partner?
He needs someone to put their foot down and let him know how the real world works before he gets hurt. It can only benefit you both.
>>8951092
Thank you anon. I really appreciate it. Sometimes I just get so angry that people don't see the things right in front of their face, but I guess you just have to live with it.
>>8951467
You should probably talk to him and maybe even his mom about it. He could be the sweetest person in the world, but if he's that irresponsible, it's going to be a huge issue in your relationship. Been there, left that, bought brand, and enjoyed freedom instead.
>>8951476
I've tried that before, while he was still paying me rent and I was just upset over the fact that he hasnt had a real job in years. He does not want a job at all and he tried to guilt me by saying I don't love him if I make him get a job to stay with me. Idk. It was going okay because he got his online job after that talk so I thought maybe something sank in, but i guess not...
If we got married and I had a full-time job with a salary and had paid off most of my loans then i wouldn't mind being the main breadwinner but I still want him to contribute a little bit. He said that he would but if his behavior now is any predictor it looks like that not even a little bit is not going to happen...
>>8951497
You know him better than we do, but here is the thought process I would follow.
Does he, as a person, want to avoid working at all, or has he just not found a job he can put up with?
If it's the former, than you may want to cut losses, if not, maybe help him look? It couldn't hurt...
>>8951492
I've thought about talking to his mom but desu I'm pissed at her too. She has to know that by suddenly cutting him off she's screwing me over too. Plus before the two of us moved in together a few years ago my parents called her and made her promise she would make sure he had his share of the rent paid. (Overprotective parents). That also means if I talk to my parents about this they will go crazy and call her right away which I'd like to avoid but idk might be the easiest way.
>>8951502
I don't know. He used to at least talk about jobs he would theoretically like to have but now if the topic even comes up hr usually defaults to "I'd rather just stay home". He is very good at house work to be fair, so that's a plus. But it's a lot of pressure on me to support us both.
>>8951497
Does he do the laundry, the dishes, cook dinner, and do other homemaker stuff, at least?
>used to be slightly underweight
>period was light but not unhealthy
>recently gain back a bit of weight, not much but enough to get back in the healthy range
>period is fucking nuts, had to stay home from class
>have a meet tomorrow with the comm
>wanted to wear a light blue dress
Whyy
>>8951509
Yeah, he is the main one who cleans the house but he also loves to guilt me for not doing as much housework as him which drives me crazy. But he does do it at least.
I've been so upset at life in general that I haven't gone to any Lolita meets since the first one in January. All of my cons have been really dull lately, and the most fun I've had lately has been just watching TV with my friend online. I'm in a terrible slump and I tried reaching out and half of them hang out without me or make up excuses to ignore my offers. Sometimes I just want to die but I don't want to go through that either.
It's lame.
>>8951548
find new friend group?
>>8951515
Anon if it doesn't fuck with your system I'd look into getting on birth control ASAP if you're not already. Depending on what you take it can do wonders for terrible periods.
>>8951497
Anything bad or doubtful will just get worse, not better after marriage. I'd take a good long unbiased look and be honest with yourself about what you do and don't want in a partner and what you are willing to tolerate of this without getting and staying unhappy about it. If he is reluctant and guilts you now, that will only intensify.
I'd put it in terms of 'once we have achieved (requirements) balance and maintained it steadily for minimum 6 months (a year is better), then we can re-consider marriage.'
>>8951610
Thanks for the hug. I might just do that.
Question: if socially awkward person knows and admits they are socially awkward, saying so often in fact; then how come they don't know enough to know they need to learn to DO SOMETHING about it to fix it, make it better, improve it?
Do they think they get a pass to just stay like that and the rest of us will tolerate it in meets and get-Togethers? I'm not sitting by the social potatoes anymore, I'm there to enjoy the meet not help tumblerina-chan limp through an awkward conversation when she can't manage to string a sentence together that is not incredibly awkward, tmi, mumbling or just some blurted-out off-topic thing.
Also if you act like this, stop crying that no one wants to hang with you. Lern2social.
>>8950650
Now imagine if you were a man and that was not only an actual problem, but you were ALWAYS expected to do it.
>>8951687
What has that got to do with anything?
Fuck off with your whiny man baby bullshit
>>8951689
>boohoohoo! my life is ONLY 99.9% free effortless ride! I can't believe I'm sometimes expected to do anything, damn the patriarchy!
>boyfriend breaks up with me over Skype messages
>cry into Rilakkuma plush
>realise he bought me that plush
>cry some more
>no motivation to draw or work on cosplay
I feel like a whiny 14 year old when typing this, but it helps just putting it out there, I guess
>>8951699
Thanks anon. He was really apologetic, and he did say that he "just wanted me to stay his best friend", so I guess there's that. It's not like it was a complete surprise, either, as he'd been making jokes about it for weeks, and ignoring most of my messages.
>>8951699
Sorry it's just insane how hypocritical women are sometimes.
>>8950018
I have a related feel.
>live with boyfriend and his roommate
>lease is up end of April
>his roommate hasn't had a job in 3 months.
>hasn't paid any rent, bills, or for any of his own food.
>won't even clean up after himself
>baby please can we move out without him
>he's muh best friend I can't yo
>roommate decided just a few days before april first that he was going to move back home with his parents and go back to school
>rush to find an apartment before april 1st so we don't have to pay month to month
>I got what I wanted :')
>meet biggest crush at con for the first time two weeks ago
>had suave lines to say to crush
>eneds up being really shy and fuck up
>just tells her shes really tall
>internalscreaming.jpg
>why was that the only thing to come out of my mouth
>>8951755
Guess you could say that flirting with her was... a tall order.
>>8951772
For goodness sakes, Carlos Ramon.
>going to con TODAY
>have been working all week and barely had time to fix costume
>working on pants today, just fitting them properly
>fucking needle breaks in the machine
>mild panic attack as i need to leave in an hour and my sewing machine was recently purchased
>didn't think i had extra needles
>but luckily
>i had extra needles
>finish the fit
>just waiting to be picked up now
THANK FUCKING GOD, I was hyperstressed for a second there.
>>8951787
Congrats anon. Hope you enjoy the con
>>8950238
I can't help you anon but I have the same problem. I'm into several creative hobbies and grew up believing that humility is a good thing and not to show my creations to anyone I'm not super close to if I'm not 100% confident that it's actually good.
At first when I met a few people into similar hobbies I was happy, because I thought it meant that I could make friends and talk about our interests together. But it quickly turned out that not only are these people significantly below my skill level (I know this sounds arrogant but it's objectively true), they have no interest in improving or hearing anything but compliments. It makes me so salty when people are falling all over themselves to compliment a girl who traces from those How To Draw Manga Books but ignore my drawings, or when this woman is declared "best seamstress we know" despite not even being able to alter a pattern or do something as simple as press her seams. Maybe this is just my autism taking but it really gets my panties in a knot when people get idolized despite being honestly quite bad at what they do.
I think the best way for me (us?) to feel better/less salty is to keep on improving our own work, develop more confidence and learn how to put ourselves out there more. With the easy accessibility of the internet and social media, people no longer seek out things to like. They just scroll through their dashboard, and the more someone posts about themselves the more visible they are and the more people who don't know any better admire them.
>>8951669
Admitting it doesn't make it suddenly easier. People can be well aware they need help but then they're too anxious to do anything about it and would rather stay the way they are than cause more discomfort. Going to meets and trying to talk to people like you may be a way of them trying to get out of the cycle.
>join local fairy kei facebook group
>nothing special, but stay anyway
>coord posts are all crappy and involve 0 effort
>all other posts are of non fairykeiable t-shirts from primark that say 'I AM A UNICORN!1!!1' on them
>most members are either fat, old or ugly
Fucking hell.
>>8951669
She is doing something about it. You can't expect someone to go from socially awkward to friendly and well-adapted in a matter of minutes. It's people like you who make it harder for them to adapt instead of just ignoring it unless it's something balls to the wall weird like shoving her imaginary gender down your throat and talking about her 10 self-diagnosed mental illnesses or other SJW shit.
One of my best friends used to be socially awkward because a stupid rumour in primary school left her completely without friends and now she has lots. There are still people who dislike her because she's too much this or not enough that but fuck them, their problem. If she hadn't met a supportive group of people to help her out she'd have become an awkward tumblrina too.
>get into a fight with a friend because I'm super anxious about something and can't chill
>offer to stop talking for a month so she doesn't have to deal with my anxiety
>say in May I will be back to chill because the reason for my anxiety will be over
>friend says lol no let's keep talking
>still anxious as fuck and on edge
>get into another fight over it
>friend imples she's going to stop talking to me forever
>stops messaging me
>no one to talk about lolita with except for a boy who knows jack shit about it and listens because he has to
>still can't chill
>sad I lost a friend because of my extreme anxiety
>probably deserve it
lone Lolita yet again
>>8951824
> Maybe this is just my autism taking but it really gets my panties in a knot when people get idolized despite being honestly quite bad at what they do.
Nah, that's a neurotypical thing too.
>>8951467
Sounds like a big fucking red flag. How can he take care of you when he can't take care of himself?
>find holy lantern JSK up for auction
>it's even in a color I want
>put down a bid
>someone snipes that shit
I have a very specific set of skills. I will find you.
>>8952235
what color are you looking for anon?
>start wearing lolita as an every day thing
>feeling more confident
>learned that most people just ignore you anyway
>strangers have treated me the same as always (like in random group projects)
>tfw a nice old lady compliments you on how cute you are
and I commit so many sins when I wear lolita daily, sometimes I dont even wear the petticoat because it gets in the way
>>8952257
I was bidding on lavender, but I'm also looking for white and red, the zipper JSK version
>>8949914
I know what you mean. For the first time I'm making a cosplay of a character from game I haven't played and I'm nervous about getting shit for it. I'm not going to buy a PS4/PS Vita to play one game because I like the design of a character.
>had no idea makeup contouring double chins was a thing
Omg yes, so tired of looking like a bloated piece of shit.
>>8950064
I found that just asking "do you need a hug?" is enough. You aren't prying but you are offering support. There were times in college I just wish someone could see how miserable I was and just offer to be a shoulder to cry on.
>>8952269
D-do you have a link to that?
I
>never had a cosfriend
>previous friends who cosplay have their own groups
>finally think I found a group of cosfriends
>they cosplay with each other
>photoshoots together
>Forgotton again
>time to sew alone again
>>8951669
being social is like exercising a muscle
if you cant exercise the muscle, you'll be forever shit, you can still know you're shit too.
>>8952269
...you realize the major reason why those two photos look so different is because she's angling her head differently, right? The contouring helped sure, but she's exaggerating her head angle in both shots.
>>8951669
Behavior caused by anxiety disorders isn't rational. The person usually knows their behavior is irrational but can't break out of it because they have a disorder.
>>8952346
You gotta admit though, the dark shadow is definitely a better idea over leaving it nude. It's basically the same principle with jawline contouring.
>>8952351
In those photos yes, I'd be really interested to see how it looks from all angles though.
A girl I used to work with always tried contouring like this and it always looked so bad except in her IG selfies.
>>8952361
You do that, anon. It really does look nice in photos, just know your angles. Good luck!
>>8951709
Why are you even here?
>>8951709
Are you the same guy whining in the 'woman have it easy' thread on the farm
>>8952349
If they are aware enough to know they have the unacceptable behavior, then they are aware enough to know they need to fix it. Therapy, counseling, behavior modification. There are options other than just staying that way and expecting people to tolerate it, it is a fixable situation that can be improved, not something they 'just can't help' so yeah. I'm tired of people just letting their socially unacceptable behavior run all over a group unchecked.
>>8949840
If you don't want salt, stay out of the salt mines. It's not like that kind of post just sneaks up from nowhere in a normal comm group, right? If it does, then report to your comm mod. But don't come on salty sites/groups then cry cause it gets your booty bothered.
Is there any good way to tell your psychologist that you want to get on antidepressants? The problem is that I've never been officially diagnosed (though looking back, out of anxiety I would pretend it wasn't so bad back when they looked for it) but I'm just sick of every little thing making me cry. I still don't know if I have depression or not since I go from highs to lows really quick but I do know that I don't do the things I love anymore, or with great struggles.
I just want to look at a con and feel like I should go there, instead of sitting in my room, crying and wishing I would have gone. The last time I went to one has been years and I really miss it, but whenever a new ones comes around I feel like I"m not good enough, too ugly, too sad, and that I should just stay home.
I feel like my life has been on hold for years and even if medication won't fix it, at least I tried.
>>8952421
antidepressants will just numb you
>>8952421
Go to the doctor and tell them this, what you just posted. Get tested and find out what is wrong. Medication + therapy is usual solution, not just 'take a magic meds and probs vanish.'
>>8952425
Different anon here, I second this. Antidepressants just took away my feelings and made me gain 30lbs. I would only really recommend them if your depression is incredibly severe.
>>8952425
>>8952430
But then what? It feels like nobody takes my problems seriously because I also have Aspergers. I can't go on like this, and I've also heard stories where antidepressants did help.
>>8952429
Thanks anon, I think I'll try, I'll just have to put my foot down if they try to tell me it's just stress or something.
>>8952421
Are you eating right, sleeping decently, exercising, getting out of the house much etc? If not, any of those can make you feel like this. Like other anon so said, meds are pretty serious business and have some shit side effects. Try therapy and lifestyle changes first.
>>8952442
>because I also have aspergers
advertising It like that is why they don't take you seriously
I know it's tough, but antidepressants unless you are severely depressed(I'm talking not showering for months depressed) will fuck you up and you should try something else
>trying to sell skirt for months
>finally get a bid
>one positive feedback
>"April 8th 2016: Buyer did not go through with sale but is extremely friendly and fast at communication. :) "
>>8952451
A good doc won't prescribe for you with those habits, I can tell you that right now. Think about some lifestyle changes and get some therapy. Be realistic and just know that there isn't any magic bullet to make the symptoms go away without significant work on your part. Even if you ARE medicated. Especially if you have diagnosed Aspergers. It is hard enough to prescribe for someone not on the spectrum and doubly so for someone who is because of the different reactions to medication.
>>8952451
anti depressants are super inappropriate for the symptoms you've been having
people aren't dismissing you, they're dismissing your idea of needing antidepressants which are completely unnecessary in this situation
I feel like I just have no friends anymore aside from my sister and my boyfriend. I graduated high school last year and all my friends moved or got too busy to hang out. This semester I decided to change schools and move and now I'm in the same city as my sister and boyfriend which is great but I still don't have any other friends. I thought maybe I would be able to make friends here but I haven't really made any yet. I mean yea there are my boyfriend's friends who we hang out with but I know none of them would want to hang out with me if I didn't have my boyfriend. I miss having weeb friends to hang out with outside of class and club meetings who I could have sleepovers with and watch anime together and stuff. I really would like a lolita friend to go and do cute lolita type activities with as well. Why is it so much harder to make new friends when you get older?
>be looking for a job for months
>no luck so that depressed me a bit
>didn't feel like working on cosplay despite all the free time I had
>recently found a job and now I'm too busy working to work on cosplay
>event is coming up in two months
>I brought this upon myself
>I am my own monster
I mean, I'll probably be fine and all but still. Amusing in an annoying way.
>>8952477
you acted like everyone was dismissing your request for it. it sounds like you need a dose of reality over anything else
>>8952489
My apologies, I didn't mean it that way. Looking back at my replies I can see why you saw it that way.
>>8952486
I know how you feel. Working full-time is killer (especially because my job is so boring). The money is good, but I honestly think I would be happier working part-time or something.
>>8952481
Same here, although I'm a bit older. I never thought I would be one of those girls whose only friends are their boyfriend and their relatives but here I am. Even the friends I managed to hold on to after high school have vanished from my life, and it's been so hard to connect with new peope. I worry I will never have that BFF type relationship again.
>>8952531
>>8952481
I don't know anon, try putting yourself a little more out there so more people can notice you.
Also, try the /cgl/ friend thread, just beware of certain 'socially awkward' tightasses who always give one word replies and don't reciprocate and then go back and whine about being lonely.
I used to be in your situation but I tried being more outgoing and it's worked well enough. Don't count on your high school BFFs, especially if you move away. I used to have a friend I was super close with but then she started avoiding me and giving random excuses as to why she can't bother to message me every once in a while. I told her to send me a message when she's free (because she would always suggest that I was interrupting her *super busy* day, even though I messaged her once in a blue moon and always on weekends when she was online) and of course she hasn't. It's been months, dropped that shit like a hot potato.
It's tempting to get discouraged and think that you're the problem but most of the time it's just people's own social hangups bothering them.
>>8952481
In a similar situation. Been coming to CGL even though I'm not a fan of the place just because I've been feeling a bit lonely. My only friend has seem to have lost more and more interest in actually having a "real" (I don't know how to explain this) friendship with me over the last year or so. We're still friends but we never talk anymore because they don't want to, and we have nothing in common so it's like having a casual work/school friend and feels like not having any friends at all. I have a brother and we're into a lot of the same nerdy stuff but he made some online friends a couple years back and something about them influenced him to have a big personality change, and now he's kind of a shut-in asshole and doesn't really do anything with me anymore.
I don't have a lot of hope for making new friends because of course I'm at that age where the people my age are starting to make families and don't have time or interest in making friends. I live in a small town where everyone is a bit hick on top of it, so people around here don't have much in common with me.
>>8952481
Me too. I realized that I really enjoy having being people and being a hostess, but the problem is I don't have friends. I lost all but two of them in college due to a fight with someone and my two best friends from high school are too fa away. I live in an area where there are trump signs in stores and there are stickers "families" on the backs of cars are made up of different guns. I noticed a coworker of mine liked some anime things but her facebook is mostly sharing gifs and talking about how great undertale is.
>>8952451
If you are sitting at home binge eating/starving, it's no wonder you feel like crap. Get some good food, eat it in correct proportions and start going for a walk every day and set a regular wake/sleep time. I can almost guarantee you will feel a positive change in a week. I challenge you to do this. What have you got to lose?
I've always wanted a lolita bestie. A super close one where we have similar tastes in wardrobes, can dress each other, be kawaii together, twin.
I finally found a girl in my comm who has similar taste in dresses, our closets are almost exactly the same! Just different colorways for some pieces. We're about the same size, close in age, and we're both seasoned lolitas. Unfortunately she is incredibly snobby. Every time I try to be cordial with her, she gives me short answers or ignores me. She also tends to gice me dirty looks when I arrive. I'm not a bad dresser, and I'm not a drama mongering psychopath bent on efame and Himezawa ichiban idol status. I just want to be friends, and have the chance for us to get to know each other. But I know I can't force a friendship.
Maybe I'll have better luck with my next comm..
>>8952601
She might think you're trying to copy her or something. Who knows. She's probably gearing up to kill her double as we speak.
>>8952601
I recently tried to make a new friend and I had a similar experience. Everything was swimming and we had a ton in common, but as soon as she found out I am interested in something that she isn't she dropped me like a hot potato. I was trying to give them the benefit of the doubt, and thought maybe I did something wrong, but the person referred to themselves as a snob afterward and they seem to be self aware so yeah. I wanted to be friends so badly that if she suddenly changed her mind I'd gladly jump in where we left off. But, yeah you can't force friendship, no matter how badly you wish you could be friends.
>>8952603
One of my other comm friends told me that too. I know lolitas can be a bit caddy when it comes to their wardrobes, and wanting to feel special because of it. But come on now, if we both own "rare" prints, why can't we enjoy them together?!
>>8952562
I'll take the challenge and report back next week
>>8952625
Good for you, I'll be back to hear your reply! I wish you the best and I'm sorry you feel like crap but it can get better.
I've recently got a friend into Lolita and she's smaller, prettier and looks better than me in every way.
I'm a fatty that's shifted almost 40 pounds and I'm trying really fucking hard with the gym and running and eating carefully while she just eats all the shit she wants and still looks incredible.
I should be super happy I have a friend whose into the same shit as me but I can't help but be the jealous fatty-chan who will forever live in replicas and bodyline.
>>8952668
lose the weight you fat fuck. it isn't hard
>>8950238
fuck i have the exact same problem, it sucks ass and i feel with you
>>8952679
but it isn't hard to lose weight. just eat less calories than you spend
fatties whine how hard it is and are jealous of thin girls when they got themselves into this situation by being lazy/gluttonous
>>8952668
If you've lost 40 good for you and just keep going. Nothing stopping you from dropping more and getting into at least some of that burando. Some people can eat as they like and never exercise. Some can half-ass it and get by. The rest of us have to work hard for it sometimes. Compete with yourself and the mirror, not her. Work your accessories, hair/wigs and makeup game extra hard. Get custom and ditch the replicas.
>>8952681
It is hard if you don't know how. Portion size is deceiving if you are used to eating whatever and don't use a scale and be accurate, metabolism is more sluggish with every extra pound, it's harder to haul your fat ass around to exercise and you get fucking tired just doing daily stuff when you are carrying extra weight plus it's hard on your organs too.
No, of course it is not impossible but it's no walk in the park either. As long as someone is trying and making actual progress, just don't be a dick, maybe?
>>8949784
Maybe if you dusted your own stuff that would not have happened?
>>8952681
Back again housewifechan? Eat shit already.
>>8952681
Fatty-chan here. I tried to eat a lot less calories than I was meant to and kept gaining weight. It was only when I started learning about carbs, fibre and all that that I started to see the weight come off. That and running.
>>8952686
Thank you! Im gonna keep working hard, unfortunately I will never be tiny as I have broad shoulders and "child birthing hips" as they call them, but it'd be nice to at least fit into something that isn't bodyline or replica!
>>8952719
Your ignorance is almost endearing.
>>8952681
It's hard if your public school education system doesn't teach you jack shit about nutrition, calorie count, and how to work out properly. You're exceptionally salty, I think you should go outside and play
>>8952722
how is it ignorant? calories in less than calories out and you lose weight unless you have a legit disease which is rare
try harder, miss boombalati
>>8952724
but the internet exists. maybe that was an excuse years ago
it isn't now. there is literally no reason for fatties to exist outside of their own weakness
>>8952719
Chill out. It sounds like they're trying. You can't lose all the weight in one day after all.
>>8952695
I'm a fatty who's lost 20 lbs this year (CICO and jogging) so far and it's unreal how many other fatties give me unsolicited shitty diet advice. I honestly can't tell whether they believe what they're saying sometimes or if they're just trying to tell me I'm doing it wrong because they want to make me feel bad. I don't talk about my diet to my fat friends anymore because they get defensive and weird even when I'm just talking about buying a dress or a cool recipe I found ("I would never fit into that" or like "I'd cook that too but I don't have time, my job is busy! It's too hard to take my own lunch to work anyway. Wendy's isn't that bad.")
It's especially weird when it comes to cosplaying because fellow fatties are so self depreciating and unsupportive about your work and goals, it holds you back. Fat friends are like a hugbox until you decide to make a change. I find my support elsewhere, like in my fitbit friends or on r/loseit. It really helps to have people with the same goals!
>>8952726
You're ignorant because you think it's all about calories and nothing else. You don't take any other nutritional information into account and you so ignorantly think that if you eat less calories than you need you'll magically loose weight.
I don't know what planet you're on, but I wish it was that simple.
>>8952736
Fatty-chan here! Yes, and I'll keep trying! I started in September and I hope to loose a lot more by the end of the year. Just gotta keep working hard.
>>8952719
And I don't lack the self control now, but unfortunately the past two years have been very difficult for me as my father passed. I turned to food and binge ate, rapidly piling on the weight, it got to a point where I was suicidal and didn't give a fuck about the amount I ate because I told myself I was gonna be dead by the end of the week.
I'm in a much much better place now though! And honestly, nothing can break me. In fact, your cruel words only fuel me to work harder. So thank you!
>>8952719
It is their fault, most don't even deny it. But if you don't know portion size and eat say 'a bowl of ice cream' how do you know it's 4 servings instead of one until you learn that 1/2c of ice cream =1 serving and it's 3x smaller than what you are used to and your stomach is literally stretched often 2-4x it's normal size? That's not even going into emotional eating and counting carbs, macros, etc. Which most motivated people will do if taught, told and encouraged, not jeered at and put down.
I've been very skinny, properly lean and pretty fat too so experience talking here.
I know it's scary for a fat person to walk into a gym or be seen jogging, bouncing along getting catcalls from cars. It sucks but I will never put down someone who is trying and I just baka and be quiet if the ones who are staying fat aren't trying. Cause I'm not a dick.
>>8952746
Oh no! Admitting they're jealous! How gross! How awful! It's almost as if they're. ..a human being.
And nice try, but I don't live in the US either.
>>8952758
if you don't live in the US why are you defending fatties so much?
>>8952759
Oink oink! Thank you for the encouragement sweetie!
>>8952737
I agree fat friends can get weird when you start losing and succeeding at it but 'shitty diet advice' can be either ignorance, repeating hearsay or just a difference in the way people lose. Some can do well just calories in calories out and moderate exercise, others need low carb and lifting etc etc. but real friends and people who aren't dicks cheer you on, not put you down, maybe after a little jealous grumbling, if a friend comes around it's ok but be prepared to lose most of your fat friends if you get lean. It's a shame but it's a thing.
>>8952762
I'm not defending them. I just think you're an ignorant cunt who doesn't know what they're talking about.
>>8952766
stick your finger down your throat if you slip up and eat a cupcake you gross shit
>>8952772
That's not good for my esophagus, so no thanks! I've never met somebody so sad and bitter before! Maybe you should pull the stick out your ass and use it to scrape the sand out of your vagina?
>>8952739
It literally is calories in < calories out. That is literally how you lose weight, and it is impossible to not lost weight if you do that.
I don't mean "lolol of course it works ur dumb".
If you eat less calories than you need for maintenance, and you aren't adding weight like via water before you weigh yourself, it is literally in violation of the laws of thermodynamics for you to not lose weight.
Before we call the Nobel prize committee, you should docks check that your are actually using an accurate caloric need amount, and that your address accurately counting your calories, because if you honestly don't think calorie counting works, the odds are good you're just not very good at it. It's easy to make mistakes with it.
>>8952810
Most people do make a lot of mistakes at first even though it sounds simple and in theory is both simple and sound.
Mis-weigh food, think extra gram or 2 here or there won't matter, over-estimate time, intensity or calorie burn from exercise because to a new exerciser, 'moderate' is 'oh god I'm dying' hard.
Miscalculate anything from weight, basic metabolic calories needed etc.
inaccurate food or body weighing scale
That's not even counting any cheating or 'not careful' or 'oops, forgot to count snack', 'ate extra bites while cooking' etc. mistakes.
That's why I say if you are trying and losing and serious about it, I give you props, but it's easy to see how so many get tripped up too, at least at first.
I don't have patience for the ones who aren't truly trying but you can usually tell and I just leave them be. Staying fat is punishment enough.
this thread has turned into a mess
>>8952737
Crab bucket anon. Crab bucket.
>>8952737
There's bad diet advice /everywhere/, you've gotta filter it out, which can be hard with how much bullshit is out there.
>>8949985
Find weeb friends at the con. Never fails me.
>>8952841
Cause feels about weight loss ARE a mess and /fit/ isn't much help when we talk there but we can't talk too much about it here except in feels thread. It sucks, mang.
>>8952848
Please elaborate.
>>8949985
Go to better cons with an older age base. Check the con forums, Dragoncon, AKon etc. are good to start. Some cons have a very young attendee base, some are older, some are a good mix, and it's pretty easy to figure out from the past schedules, forums, pix, social media etc.. You'll probably have to travel some but it's worth it to make the connections and save up and take time off to do a couple of really fun cons per year and keep in touch with new older friends via Internet in between than to be in your current situation.
>>8952878
crab bucket is what it is: crabs in a bucket. However, what happens in the bucket full of crabs is what makes it a famous saying.
When a single crab is put into a lidless bucket, they surely can and will escape. However, when more than one share a bucket, none can get out. If one crab elevates themself above all, the others will grab this crab and drag'em back down to share the mutual fate of the rest of the group.
Crab bucket syndrome is often used to describe social situations where one person is trying to better themself and others in the community attempt to pull them back down.
I'm salty as fuck right now because I tried making friends with a fellow Lolita and she suddenly stopped talking to me with no warning and I have no idea what I did wrong. I asked her if everything was okay and she blocked me from messaging them. That's not even what I'm mad about though. You can't be friends with everyone, no hard feelings even if it was rude. I'm bitter because I still follow her (I followed her before the friend thing and really enjoyed her posts) and she asked her followers a question and she's purposely ignoring my response. I know that's incredibly stupid to be upset about and I shouldn't be surprised but I just don't understand why she refuses to be cordial with me. She sometimes talks with a bitchy, snobby attitude and I'm starting to think it's because she is one.
>>8952887
Not AYRT but I've never heard that saying before, interesting!
>>8952668
Good luck and don't give up, keep trying! Regardless of what anyone says, loosing weight IS hard for most people, especially for women since their bodies are designed to hold more than men. I come from a family of people with weight issues and somehow I am the skinny black sheep, but I know how hard weight issues can be since I'm surrounded by it. Strive to be the healthiest you that you can be.
As for jealousy, of course that's a normal human emotion (and I don't think it is always an evil thing, but that is not a Lolita related subject), but I also suggest you try thinking more positively about it because negative thoughts like that are not good. It's human and natural to feel them but it's not good to hold onto the feelings or let them change your behavior or attitude instead of letting them go. Like another said, don't compare yourself to her, you are completely different people and it wouldn't make sense to.
>>8952902
If she blocked you, she probably can't see your responses, posts or messages at all.
>>8952737
>I'm a fatty who's lost 20 lbs this year (CICO and jogging) so far and it's unreal how many other fatties give me unsolicited shitty diet advice.
I've actually experienced more jealousy and thinly veiled attempts to knock my progress from my thinner friends who are used to me being that "fat friend." They'll straight-up dump food on my plate or get me to "try" out their food when we go out. They embarrass and patronize me when we go shopping in normal clothes stores if I don't like anything saying "OH DONT WORRY BBY WE'LL FIND SOMETHING THAT FITS U ;'("
I have to endure them being zealously into themselves in the dressing room, and when I show confidence in something that I think looks good they all act like I'm being delusional and arrogant even if I was nice to them.
But oh boy, I love how if they tables were turned and I pulled that shit on them I would just be the "fat bully" who totes is super jell of their bodies. Shitty people are just shit. Period.
>>8950039
I'm really glad my comm does not do home meets, we actually go on outings. I think that is the norm for comm meets. A few people have gotten together for pajama parties and game nights but attendance is always low and repeats are seldom. Why would I dress up in my best frills just to go hang at someone's house unless they were having a tea or nice lunch or something?
>>8952916
Were they like this before you were losing or did they change? That sounds so hateful, jeez.
>>8952916
I feel you anon. I was talking to my naturally thin friend about my body goals and she responded "I can't imagine you smaller, I don't think you'll look nice skinny"
What
The
Fuck
Mate
?????
>>8952921
It started when I began losing a noticeable amount of weight. I should refer to "friends" in the past tense because these were my high school "friends" that I keep at a safe distance on fb only these days.
Looking back they took advantage of my kindness and patience, but it seems like when I was fatter and my self-esteem was worse I was less of a "threat" if that makes sense. I felt like I couldn't stick up for myself without looking bad one way or another. I never thought I could win.
The absolute worst narcissist of them all was this girl J. My parents hated her from the beginning and told me she was jealous, but I didn't want to believe that because I was non-judgmental at the time.
Anyway, she basically used me for rides and to hunt for boys because I did things like go to college and the city. It was painful taking her out because she'd constantly neg me, but think everyone was soooo into her.
We went to a club once for Halloween and a relatively attractive guy came over and seemed to want to dance with me. I started but J butted in and started grinding on his junk, which of course he entertained for a bit but then got put off and went away. The entire night I had to listen to J's ramblings about how masked-bro was sooo into her, even though he didn't touch her, give her his #, or anything to validate how much she was blowing up her version the non-event.
Then when I took her to an anime convention a few months later (we did a Vocaloid cosplay) she got pissy when people asked me for photos. The reason why they were avoiding her is because she had an agitated look on her face because she couldn't believe ANYBODY would want to socialize with me or want my picture. Because being nice and approachable are terrible qualities for fatties? Idk. She's a bitch and I'm glad she's a miserable mom now.
>>8952923
If you are cute, plump and wear super-young style ultra sweet, I can picture thinking that. I know one girl like this who is losing weight and she actually does look less 'cute and sweet' to me in her Lolita style since her facial bone structure is coming out more and she looks older and much more mature where she used to look younger than her age. But I'd never say it out loud to her and besides, she needs the weight loss for health reasons and still likes her style just the way it is so I support her 100%
>>8952923
I'd rather hear that people think I look nice now as opposed to the old
>"UGH IF ONLY YOU WERE SKINNY I'D TOTALLY BANG YOU"
line from 4/10 guys who think girls are just lining up to mash pussy on their overinflated egos.
>>8952930
I hope you are quit of them now because you sound like you've got it going on good now and need positive people who know how to be a friend back. What a bunch of losers.
>>8952936
How do you not just laugh in their face if they really say that out loud? I don't think I could stop myself.
>>8950064
I always ask in case it's some kind of trouble like 'needing to be reported to con staff' type trouble. Once I determine its not that, comfort a bit if I can then leave alone. I just hate the idea of someone maybe really being in a bad way and all alone and scared to ask for help.
I have a "friend" who thinks she's soooo skinny and hot. She tries to subtly put me down by commenting that her boobs are bigger than mine, constantly brags about how people check her out all the time, and makes nasty jokes about my weight.
In reality, her boobs are only "bigger" because she wears bras too small so it looks like they're constantly popping out which means bigger right? People are probably "checking her out" because she looks like an idiot wearing clothes in a medium when she should be wearing an XL or 1X.
Jokes on her because I've lost 15 pounds and she's gained 20. All she does is eat junk, drink soda, and sit on her ass playing video games complaining that she can't workout because of medical reasons when her doctor has told her she can do whatever as long as she doesn't overdo it. Which means she's never allowed to workout ever for the rest of her life obviously.
Can't wait to reach my goal by the end of the year just to see the look on her face. She's good motivation to lose as much as possible desu
>Hate my job, It's at a coffee cafe chain place that's one of the busiest in the area
>It takes over an hour to get to by transit
>Boss is incredibly incompetent
>My coworkers talk about me behind my back and are sometimes even rude to me directly
>Can't quit because I need the money
>Crying almost everyday
I've started just laying in bed playing on my phone on days I have off barely doing anything, let alone working on any cosplay stuff.
>>8952971
aww man I hope it gets better for you, anon
>>8952425
Agree to disagree, it took me a couple of tries to find the right medication but antidepressants have helped significantly with my anxiety/depression.
It depends on the source of the issue and sadly we don't know as much as we'd like about the brain.
>>8952971
God Anon, I feel deep for you
>Work at starbux
>Worked there for 5 years, pretty damn good employee honestly (minus the fact that I'm kind of burnt out and a bit lazy)
>Move to WA, start working at the worst store I've ever worked at
>Boss gives me shitty hours, having to borrow shifts every week to barely make 30/hrs a wk
>Boss is passive aggressive, never there cunt, coworker complained about having stuff taken and boss literal response was "don't bring your stuff in."
>Customers suck, drive thru only
>Get off work, go home and go to bed for 6 hours everyday
>The only good thing about it is my coworkers, and they are the main reason I haven't just quit since it's my social life too, afraid of losing the small life I have built for myself
Fucking coffee culture man. It's such a shit show, honest to God. I wish you luck, dear anon.
>just want a tiny qt3.14 cosplay gf
>the only dudes into me are weird dudes that have a height difference kink and/or are weird stalkers
>the only girls into me are my height and/or super nuts but at least they're all hot
I'm gonna resort to summoning demons before too long
I have no idea what my problem is, gulls.
Recently I landed the best job of my life. Finally I'll be able to maybe get started in the kawaii life but it's like I have no idea what to do with myself.
There's this constant feeling, like, this is just a dream and I'll wake up any minute now. All the jobs I've ever had were crappy 9-hour temp jobs and so for this to be happening right now it's just... Overwhelming. I'm so scared to mess it up since most of the time when something nice happens I self-sabotage without realizing it. Self-fulfilled failure prophecies and damn. Just got my first paycheck today and it's like 350 bucks for ten hours that I worked plus miles traveled.
I don't want to lose this but there's this neverending feeling of impending doom that has always been there, just chilling. Sometimes I'll be driving to an appointment and my brain will be like "Wouldn't it be terrible if you got hit by a semi right now? Crushed in the metal and likely die or never be able to walk again? You'd be stagnant and pile on weight like crazy! Silly, right?". I'm just sick of feeling like nothing good will ever last.
It sucks getting those thoughts when really all I want is to be happy and look cute in jfash while doing what I love.
>>8952971
Do you have any friends outside of work to talk to? Looking for a new job? Sorry to hear about your shit situation.
>>8952400
There are lots of people who will say women have easy lives.
That's just kinda what happens when somethings true. People say it. Like how lots of people say the sky is blue, or the earth is round.
>>8952858
I think people would be less willing to believe bullshit if they weren't looking to soothe their egos rather than make a change. I get told to drink lemon water and eat dark chocolate. WTF is that supposed to do? And whenever I brought up my BMR and TDEE I got lectured about "starvation mode". It wouldn't be so annoying if they weren't talking to me like they were trying to educate me because CLEARLY I'm the one who believes in diet hocus pocus.
>>8952887
Oh damn that really fits.
Been thinking a lot about my dead cosplay friend lately. I never even knew her. We met exactly once, at AWA. But I'm still thinking about her sometimes, half a year later.
I want her back.
A cosplay friend of mine has really been giving me a lot of attitude lately. I made a small suggestion on her cosplay when we were working together on our outfits [from different animes] and from then on she started throwing the scissors around or just huffing about. Even at conventions she's had this attitude. I don't know what to do about it. I feel like I might as well just keep to myself from now on and just start ignoring her because the way she acts is getting out of hand. Then she turns around and does this whole sob story about how I made her feel bad and how I yelled at her about how this shouldn't be like this when all I did was suggest a lighter blue from the one she bought and brought over to sew. Its like... Its not a big deal, but apparently it is.
>>8953192
Not really helpful advice to give her after she has already bought the fabric, right? She may be exaggerating but you weren't very helpful to make that kind of a suggestion that late either. Sounds like this is not quite the full story.
>>8950650
Half my comm. except they can manage to whine about it and all manner of other things online but then just go into awkward potato mode in person, in public, at meets. Yay, so fun!
>>8950066
I actually stopped cosplaying for a while because of this, it was so frustrating. The drama queens I hung out with in college could never just admit they were too lazy it was always
>I'm poorer than you
>I'm fatter than you
>muh anxiety is clearly worse than yours
I offered to be the least likeable character in a group a few times too, to cut down on drama in hopes that someone would finally get their shit together. No fuckin dice. Now I just make whatever I want and if people want to match, they can do it or not do it. Also I got better friends, which helps.
>>8953057
Are you medicated?
>>8953195
People in my comm keep pushing that yaya han fabric on me. I'd rather sew my pussy-lips together than work with that tacky shit.
>>8953195
I wasn't there to purchase it with her. She was complaining about the type of fabric, so I told her that it wouldn't be too much of a waste if she went back and got a better cotton blend and got one in a shade darker to really match the reference images she had.
>>8953212
Its not the Yaya fabric, anon and calm down. It is actually good quality fabric.
Would any of you 'fatty chans' be interested in a reformed fatty making a how-to diet chart type deal?
>president of club and non-officer used university grant funds to put up their (very shrill, very tumblr) friends in a hotel room next to the club's for free during a trip
>everyone's aware of it and that it's against university policy
>elections today, she has competition
>reelected unanimously
ok
>be me moving to uni going to have a blast
>there are fast food places surrounding the campus
>begin eating shit
>no idea of self restraint
>grades fall as I go from skinny little bone boy to skinny chub
>end up dropping out of school
>loose all motivation to work on anything
>everything I want to cosplay involves me getting into better shape
How the fuck do I stay motivated CGL. I just sit there getting worse day by day.
>>8952916
Why are you friends with those cunts, anon?
>>8953238
this may be really difficult... but self control.
>>8953238
You need to make a plan to get you from point A, where you are now to point B, in shape to cosplay.
But you'd be better off going quickly back to school, the longer you wait to do THAT, the harder it will be. Plus free gym at uni to get in shape.
>>8953233
Sure, let's see it! Thanks.
>>8953274
hopefully not too hard on the eyes, I've never made one of these before.
>>8952923
Some people really are like that
One of my classmates is chubby and small and looks like an adorable fairy godmother, she'd just look weird skinny
>>8948752
>meet lolita soul mate.
>really good friends right off the bat
>find out we actually live really near each other
MFW
>she is between jobs and really poor.
>Just want to hang and go to cafes and stuff.
>wish she could attend more meets.
Can't wait for her to get a new job though! Gonna twin like crazy.
>>8949130
What's there to fall for? You have some clothes for her to dress up for sexy time role-playing when she does come round?
>>8952913
For some reason this didn't occur to me lmao I'm such a dumb shit.
I think I'm over it now though, just initially upset. Bummer it seems like it never works out when I try making new friends. Makes me feel like something's wrong with me.
>>8953443
Making friends is hard, just keep trying anon
>>8951036
Some folks just don't have a line to draw when it comes to oversharing, damn. Sometimes it's funny but stuff like that is just awkward.
>Instructor at Michaels, teach several classes to a lady
>She tells me her whole life story, including how she lost two babies prematurely
>Tells me she has a home business making "alternatives to baby coffins," gives me a business card
>She brings in examples to next class, complete with "sleeping" baby doll to demonstrate
>Work in vape shop
>Big burly biker dude comes in, while I'm helping him he asks about my scissors necklace
>Tell him I sew
>He lights up, whips out his phone, starts telling me about his daughter who makes fursuits and shows me and other employee pictures and talks about cons she goes to
>"Her spirit animal's a wolf!...I think she got that from her mother...(notices other employee's WTF face and chills out)
My /cgl/ feel-
>Acquaintances help me get a job working with them, it's awesome
>One of them mentions she's glad they have an extra staff member now so she can have weekends off for cons
>Two more girls chime in about how excited they are for Megacon
>Welp, there goes any hope for me going this year...
I probably wasn't going anyway thanks to the price hike, but I've gone every year for ages and was still considering it, especially since I'll have money again. Me and bf can't go to Holiday Matsuri anymore since he works at USPS now, so now I'm just hoping we can make it to AFO so we get at least ONE con a year... Lame.
>>8953165
God, the starvation mode shit pisses me off to no end.
>make an add on Craigslist to find friends into weeb shit, because I want friends to geek out with
>check my email this morning
>Oh yay, a reply!
>"I'm not into that Japanese pop culture thing but I'm laid back"
>sigh and delete
Why even respond to me. There are so many normal people to respond to.
>>8953464
>Be cashiering at store. Employees have to ask for the customer's phone number to look up rewards card.
>Ask guy for his phone number
>"Do you regularly ask strange men for their phone numbers?"
>Tell him it's to look up if he has a rewards card
>"No, I know, but just out of curiosity, do you regularly go up to strangers and ask for their phone number? Like, say some random man complimented your shoes in the parking lot, would you ask for his phone number?"
>....no?
>"Exactly! Well that happened to my bitch of a wife, and this guy began chatting her up after complimenting her shoes and she gave him her phone number after 20 minutes. While I was right there!"
>Tell him I'm sorry, that doesn't sound very normal.
>"I know! And that's why we seperated!"
>Proceeds to tell me about how his wife was a cheating bitch, the sex was terrible, entire story of how the seperated.
>Guy finally leaves, never bothered with getting his rewards card #.
>Later that day
>Ask customer for his phone number
>Gives it to me, only one listing so I click it and ask him to verify if that's correct on the sign pad
>Guy loses his shit
>"That's not me! What is this! I lived at my house for 60 years and I gave you my phone number and this person is trying to steal my identity!!"
>Try to explain how things can get muddled if you give a cell phone number.
>"No! I just had to change all of my credit information because six months ago someone stole my identity and blahblah!"
>Tells me entire story about how someone stole his and his daughter's identity. Someone bought a house under her name and using her account.
>"No one is safe in this cyber age!" Starts ranting about conspiracy bs and drags the guy in line behind him into the conversation.
>Guy says "yeah, it's pretty scary how easy it is to steal your information"
>Dude keeps ranting all the way out his door.
>Next guy in line says "God, what a fucking psycho. Do you deal with people like this all day?"
>mfw
>>8953204
Not at all, I have no insurance so even though the need to perhaps give therapy a try is there I can't do it. Just started this job, need to first use the money to pay off a few overdue things and then I can worry about the looming impending doom.
>>8953464
the biker story is actually kind of sweet, nice to know that even if you're a complete weirdo your parents will still be proud of you and brag about you to randos.
That first story though. WTF.
>Be productive and do this almost skintight cosplay in christmas holiday
>Fell sick
>Lose appetite
>Lose weight
>Finally feel better
>The said costume looks little baggy
>The con I'm supposed to wear it is in few weeks away
I either sew it little smaller or don't wear it and wait till I gain some weight back.
>>8953654
Well, you can always try to gain a little muscle mass in those few weeks before the con to see it fits well enough for the event.
>>8953370
It's okay, but it's not very strong of a diet. It's good in that it shows the core concepts of what works in a diet, but you suggest fast food, which while technically possible, is really bad for people who are having trouble counting their portions. I'd emphasize that - 500 calories is a good goal for slow weight loss, and put in that 3,500 calories = 1 pound of fat.
Your diet suggestions are around 200-300 calorie deficit, which only burns a pound every 12-18 days, which is going to be so slow people are going to think your advice is shit.
>>8953272
This. If you have nothing to do or no goals you will sit around all day and do nothing. You won't have "all the time in the world" because you will just waste all that time without motivation. Go back to school and have self control. No one can help you if you don't want to help yourself. Sometimes the only person to blame is you.
Plus, like this anon said. Free gym at uni, and just eating healthy helps you lose weight and feel better. Take a semester off, figure out what you want from life, and go back to school. If what you want to cosplay involves getting in shape, then start working out. That alone will make you feel better.
>>8952930
Honestly, it sounds like they were your friend because then you'd be the DUFF of their friend group. To elevate themselves essentially.That's such petty HS bullshit, I hope you have new,and better friends now.
>>8953165
Adding lemon to water is like this extra boost of vitamins. It helps balance your pH levels (for skin health), boost your immune system, and helps with digestive stuff. It's really similar to adding unfilterd ACV to your water. I drink ACV every day to help with my stomach since I have some digestion problems, and it helps with my skin which is a plus.
Dark chocolate is supposed to be full of antioxidants and stuff, but honestly, if I'm going to eat chocolate, which isn't frequent, I'd prefer milk chocolate? Let me spoil myself once in a while, it's not like it's going to destroy me to have one yummy snack when I'm eating healthy otherwise. Diet advice is so weird, I feel like half of the time people are talking out of their ass.
>>8953370
>One cheddar cheese cube is 70 calories
And I eat dozens of those at the con suite and at room parties over a convention weekend.
No wonder I don't lose weight over the weekend despite walking for miles every day of con.
>>8953782
i love the concept of a con party so milquetoast they serve cheddar cheese cubes
where in the world is this
>Two young teens come into store I work at
>Look exceptionally nerdy and are giggling over whatever.
>Ask them if they need help
>They want to know if we sell window tint
>Show them where it is and give basic spiel about window tint regulation, please be aware that anything over this percent is not street legal blahblah.
>"Oh we're not old enought to drive. We just want to tint some helmets."
>Sounds cool, ask them what for
>Explain to me they're making Daft Punk costumes for a local convention. Obviously their first con and they're super psyched for it
>Give them a walk through on how to properly apply the tint.
>They ask about bondo and fillers, they're young and still learning about building props
>Give them some basic advice on on bondo and painting, leave them with a few links to some helpful tutorials online
I love it when people are excited about a project they're working on. I hope they have a good time and they're costumes turn out ok.
>>8952916
"friends"
