Back when i first knew lolita, there was a "lifestyle" aspect to the fashion that isnt as present now but i really enjoyed it. On a forum i frequented we used to have a thread about our "lolita moments of the day". It could be anything making us feel cute,princessy,like a true lady,... And i thought it would be a cute idea to make a thread about it.
Contributing
>studying well from the beginning of the session
Idk why but i feel like a studious (is that even a word? I am french so..) victorian maiden
>treating myself to a pastry and a lovely hot cocoa at a ancient styled bakery
I just love pastries and stuff. It makes me feel like i'm spoiling myself like a princess (But still. I must be careful for my weight)
>Reading fantasy novels while listening to pretty MMORPG OSTs
>Writing a letter for a sad friend with my best handwriting and include a handmade little charm
>Learning slowly to play a new song on the piano
>feeling the wind blow on my hair and skirt as i'm coming back home
>girlfriend saying i look like a victorian doll in my new old school dress
this idea is lovely! i often get these little moments myself and i feel so silly and frivolous, but lolita is for me a form of escapism. nothing wrong ith making your day a bit brighter by looking down and see my favorite print on my dress or intricate lace on my sleeves.
for me lolita moments of the day are the ones that are personal, only little moments i notice, like
>waking up from the sunshine instead of my alarm clock ( i feel like a disney princess, lol)
>putting my hair up in a scarf, putting on a nice apron and cleaning my home
>arranging my dresses, accessories and other lolita things from my wardrobe
>painting my nails slowly and carefully in my favorite colour
>treating myself to a new cute make up product and using it for the first time
This is such a cute idea! OK, here are a few of my recent moments.
>getting new pieces and being to see all the details for the first time
>arranging my porcelain and Ever After High dolls in cute poses
>reorganizing my shelves of cute stuff
>putting on a pearl necklace and feeling more ladylike
>baking cookies, no matter how gross they turn out to be (because I was an idiot and used rolled oats instead of instant ones)
>dressing up and getting told stories by old ladies about how they used to dress like me
>Watching The Great War and making it to the halfway point
>Reading Hornblower, marveling at attention to detail and correctness and adorable manly friendships
>Picking up the Master and Commander film and find it just as amazing as Hornblower
Hallo I ama millitary lolita and I like history
>Ex-poorfag. Aristocats one of two Disney films available to me throughout early childhood.
>On vacation with family.
>HOLY CUPCAKES THERE IS A DISNEY STORE
>THESE EXIST OUTSIDE OF THE US
>Dad doesn't like disney though, so..
>MFW he just walks to the side, and then tells me to pick what I want
>Looks around, finds a lot of stuff I want but nothing I really need. All the Mulan stuff have her in princess stuff.. And their dolls are notoriously low quality.
>Wait
>WAIT
>THAR SHE BLOWS
>Huge little Marie plushie
>Flashback of being 4 and wanting to be Marie
>EXCITED BREATHING
>Grab some more sutff BUT MARIE
>Dad smiles and pays
>Clerk offers a gift bag.
>Am excited and chooses frozen one.
>Clerk remarks jokingly that he's never seen someone so excited for a bag before.
>Walk away with Marie and a big grin
>Dad turns around and goes 'I'm guessing I bought that plushie for a very small child, huh..'
>Near tears now
>Just graduated from uni
>It took nearly twenty years but Dad finally got me the only Disney toy that ever really mattered.
>Marie is now fav lolita acessory, even if she is stuck in my room.
>>8922410
So did you get the dress?
>the smell of pressed roses
>holding a tea party with the bjds
>listening to classical music backwards
>trying to find out the new phone number of my bf
>using the meat tenderiser
>collecting enough blood and tears to write a letter
>finding dead animals to put on my head
>accidentally spitting whine on my dresses
Guro Lolita btw
>>8922692
>spitting whine
Okay, if you say so.
>>8922351
OP You're from the Mtl comm, right?
>Waking up to the sound of the doorbell
>It's the post-lady
>Recieved my Honey Cake jsk
>I love waking up to the sound of burando
>getting to wear a crown
>taking a course on Rococo art history and getting to look at all the pretty ladies in big poofy dresses
>doing a minuette and several mixer dances at a Victorian-style ball, complete with gorgeous purple satin dress and hoopskirt
>reading old fairytale books full of gorgeous illustrations
>reading old Violet LeBeaux posts for nostalgia
>looking at the Victorian doll my mom inherited from my grandma and knowing that I'll get her one day
I like Hime, if you can't tell ;)
>>8922447
One day, anon. ONE DAY.
>sitting down, taking my time to brush my hair
>going to a tea house or artisan coffee shop
>lacing up my lolita boots
>reading a book in the garden
>taking afternoon teas (US-based, so it's uncommon here)
>demure smile if someone compliments me instead of getting excited (I am awful at this)
>picking herbs from my garden for cooking
>learning to cross stitch
>slowly applying all the various stages of skin care regiment at night
>getting into freshly washed super soft sheets on my four poster bed
These are pretty much the only ladylike or elegant things I do, but I wish there were more.
> using BTSSB tote bag as a shopping bag for grocery
> drinking tea properly
> reading about Versailles or Alice In Wonderland
> planning fancy tea parties for ruffle friends
>going a whole bath without farting and breaking the atmosphere
truly, nothing could make me feel like more of a princess
>Reading kamikaze girls
>Reading old Mihara Mitsukazu mangas
>Flipping through the old English GLB and outdated blogs
>Watching Kamikaze girls...without subs
>sewing lace on my heart
Old school lolita btw
>>8922774
>leaving the bus stop booth to fart so the elderly couple doesn't have to smell it
>>8922806
>excusing yourself from the tea party to scratch your ass in the bathroom
>>8922796
>calling it kamikaze girls
Uncultured swine.
>>8922821
When I first tried to find a torrent for it back in the day, I only googled 'Kamikaze Girls' and all that came up was porn.
I'm afraid to go full lolita
>tfw I'll never be a delicate flower
>>8922351
C'est vrai. Studious is a word, but you would write it as
>I feel studious
I ran some errands today, but stopped to do a few things
>turned in library books and borrowed Sense & Sensibility and My Fair Lady (I've only seen bits of it)
>had time to visit a local antique shop and took a handkerchief and tea cup home
>stopped at a local local coffee shop for a tall glass of iced miel
I usually get tea or strong black coffee, but it was unseasonably warm out and I consider it a treat. I'm also a filthy weeb and went to the local Asian market for some matcha tea, miso paste, and green tea mochi cakes.
>mfw captcha wants me to choose images of tea
>>8922829
That's hilarious
>Flip through old books and magazines, laugh at bitchy gossip from the 1910s
>Make food using old recipes, embroider and sew stuff using patterns from aforementioned books and magazines
>Make jewellery
>Eat off antique plates with antique/vintage cutlery
>Look through antiques, draw them and restore what needs restoring
>Eat Japanese sweets whenever I wear AP
>Flip through manga and pretend it's some Shakespeare level shit, especially when wearing lolita
>Paint my nails and pretend they look decent
>Taking a long bath and using a nice face mask
My house is basically a museum at this point and I love it. Also, Victorian recipes are surprisingly good.
>>8923099
Ease your way into it. I have all the elegance and grace of a stampeding mammoth and I don't let that stop me from wearing lolita.
And you really don't have to be delicate or anything. The only time you have to be careful is if you're wearing brand and eating pasta or walking through a cluttered shop with two pettis or something like that.
There's always a special joy in hanging up lolita clothes, in my opinion.
> except when you find wrinkles on your damn blouse
This thread is sooo cute.
>Eating a lovely chocolatey breakfast while its raining out
>Smile at my reflection in the mirrot because i find myself so pretty in my new dress
>Browsing shopping style saying "i want this and this and that" with a glass of almond milk and little almond biscuits
>>8924133
*mirror
*shopping site
>>8922712
Oh my situation is similar
>see package on stairs
>that sweet feeling of knowing that new Lolita items are in there
> that sweet feeling of knowing I escaped customs once more
I love to rush upstairs and open the package asap, looking at all the details I didn't even know of.
>having 25 tabs open full of Y!J, Closet Child and Wunderwelt because cheap brand
>Opening my closet and trying to figure out if it's thematically color relevant and second guessing my decisions
>Cleaning my house in cute, dainty aprons
> Signing when my blacks don't match
> Watching Murdoch Mysteries in style
>getting an old school item in the mail, like a headdress from 2007 and feeling that lolita nostalgia, and excitement from a long desired item.
>Getting a dress you have wanted for years
>carrying my grandma's embroidered handkerchiefs, and getting excited inside when I get to use them.
>Seeing the lace on the hem of a dress swing back and forth as lolitas are walking.
>>8926402
This is so adorable everyone please keep posting
>buy a dreamdress my 14years old self had
>listening to kamikaze girls OSTs while walking outside
>Treating myself to a pastry and hot cocoa
I'm fulfilling my weeb nooblita self dreams. It's like this part of me is forever there screaming "Never stop dreaming!!"
> putting on (lolita) accessories because you feel lolita even when you can't wear it
> buying the expensive tea, cookies and chocolate and enjoy every second of it
> see a flower and stand still to admire it
> being consciously nice to strangers
> watch a movie or read a book with a poetic feel
> listening to cute or nice classical music
> hugging with my plushies (for sweet lolita's who like plushies) or giving extra attention to the pretty and cute stuff you have
> style your hair into something special just because it looks pretty
> not spending money on stuff you don't need so you can save up for dreamdress
>reading How to Be Victorian and the joy of learning such fascinating information
>watching bbc's Edwardian Farm, Victorian Farm, etc.
>packing away my velvet pieces on the equinox for the spring/summer
>receiving old school in the mail and inhaling it deeply, wondering who this person was that wore it.
>that sweet feeling when something you ordered looks and fits just right, or causes you to see yourself in a different light
>listening to vivaldi, gives me the baroque british feels
>the moment taken to look at yourself in the mirror before heading to your comm meet
>>8924020
Which magazines would you recommend?
>>8928552
Different anon, but Tea Time Magazine is wonderful. If you can afford the GLBs, get them.
If you go to magazine dot com, you can do a filter search on special interests like antiquing, dolls, arts, travel, history, and lifestyle, and crafting.
>painting two girls in lolita on a big canvas
>listening to music w lolita vibes
>my room is decorated with vintage, antique and just pretty things in general
>very happy but just one thing missing
>can't wear my brand while painting
I just want to fill the empty space and wear my frills! A painters themed coordinate would be so cute, but too risky.
>>8931903
Maybe get an apron and wear short sleeves? I'm not sure how many hazards you can avoid, especially with wearing a petticoat and working with staining materials like charcoal and oil paints.
It would be super cute to have a lolita version of a painter's smock though (and complete it with a beret!).
I hope your dreams come true someday.
>>8922351
>reading old lolita blogs and Livejournals
>browsing old egl entries and valentines
I miss egl and when lolita valentines were REALLY active.
>>8931903
Get one of these transparent apron things that cover your full body?
>>8932990
Smock?
>shoplifting high end wallets and selling them cheap to buy brand
>>8932998
Probably bait but
>shoplifting
Not very kawaii anon. Especially when you get caught
When I get a new dress and steam it for the first time, I carefully examine all the little details of the dress, it's like a bonding experience
>>8933484
Oh man I would love a steamer, that's dedication
I really love lurking /cgl/, LM, cc, WW, or CoF between sets at the gym. I love taking care of my body so it will look it's best in my burando.
Sitting on the couch curled up with a cup of tea and my cat, reading for class.
Going to craft stores and getting inspired for accessories I want to make, or for projects to make my room cuter.
I spent all day sleeping on the couch and eating crackers today so it's nice to remind myself of things I love to do.
>>8923561
The sentence carried on after the brackets, the way they used studious was fine
OT, but does anyone else want to have a lolita event which is less about buying stuff, and more about immersing yourself in the lifestyle for a weekend?
>>8934225
Yesss. I wish lolita was less materialistic and about popularity...Let's just wear frilly shit and wear it well.
> Wearing in lolita in public by myself for fun, running errends and having children asking me/their parents if im a princess.
> Using my two faced chocolate bon bons eyeshadow pallet. (Even on work days, makes me feel like a secret princess/princess in disguise!)
> Hot tea, bubble bath while I do my skin care regime before bed.
> Art gallery meets with lolita friends.
>>8934225
Does anyone remember when the Chicago comm went to the countryside for the weekend? They stayed at a Bnb and went to antique shops and what not. it must have been in 2006-7ish.
>going out with a few lolita friends for the day
>chose a big ass purse for the coord
>going out to a teahouse for high tea
>stopping at the shopping mall
>browse through cosmetics at the high end store
>patronize Kate Spade
>look around Victoria's Secret or Agent Provocateur for lingerie
>go to a wine bar
>>8933629
Get one anon, it's so worth it. If you own anything with chiffon or ruffles it makes life 100x easier.
>>8933185
Where i live it's easy enough to get away with, you'd be suprised what advantages being a pretty girl under 25 can hold anon.
Just maintain your looks and punishments are rare and if given are given lightly and upon a silver platter
this is a bit abstract but i've been dealing with wedding planning and have been continually assaulted with the emotional outbursts of one particular family member. yesterday was the worst so far.
throughout this, i have stayed very calm, kept my tone of voice civil and steady, never resorted to personal jabs, and consistently responded to insults with humor. no cursing either!
i feel like a right proper lady
>>8933185
>>8932998
agreed, not very kawaii at all!
>>8934772
They did that a couple times. I remember the photo of one member (Alice maybe?) buried in clothes on a bed especially.
Reading this book. I love it so much it makes me dream a little.
Just read it in lolita on my bed i feel like i am 15 again
>>8938333
God, I love François Amoretti's art so much, I'd learn French just to be able to read these books. Do you know if they're available anywhere, or are they out of print?
>>8938357
My mother language is french i could translate it but some french expressions and the way some phrases are written are so special that it would maybe lose its charm.
I think you can order it on amazon??
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I hope this is an appropriate topic for here.
I Love Lolita with all my heart, but I'm starting to think I don't like wearing it anymore. It really scares me. Lolita is such a huge part of who I am, and it means so much to me that I could never give it up, but wearing the clothes don't seem to make me happy anymore. I haven't even gotten dressed in ages and I finally decided to today. I'm wearing a JSK with a cutsew, bloomers, cute socks, and no petticoat right now to keep it daily casual and comfortable, and even that feels like too much and I'm sitting here wishing I would have just worn pants today instead because Lolita just feels so confining and tiring anymore. I tried doing things to make me feel "more Lolita" and looking at nostalgic stuff to try finding inspo, and it did inspire my heart, but it didn't help me love wearing the clothes. I put them on and they just make me feel tired.
I've always been into the "lifestyle" thing. I loved a lot of Lolita lifestyle related things since I was a kid, so it was natural for me to simply expand on those interests when I got into the fashion. But I'm starting to feel less like a Lolita, who finds beauty in the little things and makes the world a more magical place, and more like a hopeless romantic who sits and daydreams about it instead of actually doing anything.
I just want to look like a storybook or Victorian maiden and live my life beautifully, and I don't want to loose Lolita, but I'm so afraid that I'm going to. As casual as I am dressed now and it's still too much for me. I feel so disconnected because I'm having to face the fact Lolita might not be for me even though I love it.
>>8922351
>feeling the wind blow on my hair and skirt as i'm coming back home
The wind blowing gentle and making the hem of my skirt flow is one of my favorite feelings ever. I don't know why, but it just makes things seem a little magical.
Whenever I look at some old abandoned website like Princess Portal or the old LHC or visit an old place I used to frequent with my lolita friends I get this really strange feeling of nostalgia and loneliness. Like everyone else has moved on but me and I'm stuck reminiscing the good old days.
Does anyone else get this?
>>8938742
I'm actually the person who made this post >>8938736 and YES I feel exactly like that too! It's such an awful feeling, and loneliness is a good way of describing it. Sometimes when I start feeling that way, I end up having to take a break from the fashion because I end up getting sad. I feel like I'm stuck in 2008 sometimes. I miss those days. I wasn't able to wear the fashion yet at that time, but things were just so different back then.
>>8938760
Not this anon but fuck. Same. Except i feel stuck in 2009-2011 when sweet lolita went somewhat popular in France
I was about 15 and had no money except for some bodyline. Even then everything seemed so exciting to me. There were girls who inspired me,so many things i wanted to buy,i would watch "Shit Lolita Says 2" after dancing on TsukemaTsukeru by Kyary when coming home from a trip to Claire's for kawaii accessories. And now that i am 20 and have a bit more money to buy even brand sometimes, i just feel empty/bored? I feel like lolita has died down and it makes me feel sad. I feel lonely. Especially when reading old blogs.
The "new lolita" (after 2011-2012) really doesnt appeal to me. I don't have any lolita friends and the comm sucks and is half dead.
I feel so sad. I dont wanna stop. But i feel so lonely.
>>8938760
Things were a lot simpler back then... Less responsibilities, more daydreaming, more friends. The older I get the more friends I seem to lose. I'm a 23 year old student and I basically have to pick between 'alternative' edgelords (actually really nice people but with some seriously bad habits and they love hanging out in shady places and talking about the macabre and mental illnesses and other heavy shit which just depresses me), vapid teenage party girls or young adults with stable relationships and babies on the way. I don't feel like I fit into any of those categories, when I was younger there were still some young innocent girls I used to hang out with and do nice stuff like exchange books, talk about food, cook together, eat at cute cafes etc. Everyone I know now is too 'adult', even the kids.
>>8938804
iktf anon
>hey guys let's go out for coffee/brunch/tea sometime
>oh I don't know anon I have work then
>no sorry I'm going to a shisha bar with other friends
>I'm busy
>I have yoga, I know we haven't seen each other in 3 years but my yoga class is too important to miss
>sorry, I was gonna come but there's no point since nobody else is going
>>8938736
I've been finding myself like that more and more lately. I'm old enough to finally afford lolita pieces and it takes up half my wardrobe, but I can't bring myself to wear it except for meets. I thought I'd wear something casually dressy to go out and run errands in, but I ended up wearing pants and a tee shirt. Maybe I'll try again tonight and for around the house.
Unfortunately, I'm a comm rep/founder, and I'd hate to give up on lolita after all of these years and finally seeing new comers in need of guidance. Maybe I just have to get used to wearing it more often?
>>8938804
>>8938821
saaaaaame. gdi. I even miss just going to a kid neighbor on weekends to go out and play. I wish making friends past 21 was easy again. It feels weird moving back to my hometown because people here are either too young or too old to comfortably hang out with, or as >>8938804
pointed out, anyone close to my age are married and/or having kids. It kind of makes me miss being in a college town, but it's not going to help at all (my friend and I met up for an alum game and realized how we've transcended that stage). Maybe I just need to move to a bigger city.
I wish folks like us to could teleport for meets.
>>8938791
>>8938804
>>8938821
>>8938874
It's a bit relieving to know I'm not alone in my situation, but I wish I could hug you all because I don't want other people to feel sad or lonely!
Making friends as an adult is so hard. I'm really introverted so I don't want a ton of friends and would prefer just one or two close ones that have a lot of similar interests. To be honest I don't have a single IRL friend right now because the only one I had recently moved away. Admittedly, we never even had that much in common in the first place. I wish I could find a kindred spirit some day. And it's hard enough to make friend as an adult, but throw in the fact I'm the shy, kinda bookish, "weird" type on top of it.
Lately I've been starting to feel like I don't actually even have the energy for friends. Like, life is hard enough on its own without throwing friendships into the mix, and I'm just too tired. My last attempt at making a new friend was such a disaster that I don't know if I'll attempt to put myself out there again.
Sorry for whining. But on the topic of actual Lolita clothes
>Maybe I just have to get used to wearing it more often?
That's what I thought too, and so I tried wearing it more often and made my outfits more and more casual. Last year my new year's resolution was to "get used to wearing Lolita so I can wear it and live my maiden dreams" and I never did "get used to it." It just exhausted me. I'm really perplexed about what to do, because I can't make my outfits any more casual without them not being Lolita anymore.
>>8940616
>Making friends as an adult is so hard. I'm really introverted so I don't want a ton of friends and would prefer just one or two close ones that have a lot of similar interests. To be honest I don't have a single IRL friend right no
Oh gosh anon are you me?
I just understand you so much...
Also if you guys are scared of stopping it means you still love lolita. Just take a little break it will come normally ok? Don't force yourself
Anyway.
Today after walking my dog through a pretty floral neighborhood i went home and wore a simple white and pink outfit,made my hair into some cute (kinda messy) bun and a butterfly lace pins on it with my new lolita socks i received this morning and it felt so good. I read the GothicLolita Princesses d'Aujourd'hui book on my bed and listened to some Kanon Wakeshima while ordering two or three small "kawaii" accessories i found for super cheap. Also went through my old mangas (Ranma,LoveHina,Honey And Clover,..)
It reminded me of the good old days.
>>8938791
you're not alone anon, I'm also french and I feel the same except that I love old school lolita but I also like the modern part of the style. What I don't like is seeing the lifestyle slowly dying. To me it was an important part of lolita fashion but I can't deny that there's a little to no blogs with a lifestyle part nowadays (or at least I don't know them). I don't even have a lolita friend, I used to have some friends that were interested by lolita fashion in 2010/2011/2012 but neither me or them had the money or expensive frilly dresses at this time. Now I can buy brand so I don't really care about being alone.
>>8940893
Where in France do you live, Anon? I'm going to stay in Rennes for a year next year and I could really use a friend like you. I'm absolutely in love with the lifestyle aspect of the fashion but there's nobody to share it with. Ive all but given up on jfash in general because of this.
>>8938742
I feel like new Lolitas are missing out on so much now that Lolita culture is so different from what it used to be. There might be more content out there overall now, but the for me quality > quantity. It's sad to think about so much information and inspiration lost to time.
I can hear the sound of a thousand autogynephiles furiously fapping to this thread.
Heard about Maladaptive Daydreaming from a fellow gull recently. I'd never heard of it before but I looked into it because it was a sudden wake-up for me that I have a daydreaming problem. According to everything I've read, I don't have maladaptive daydreaming because I don't fit the major symptoms. So I'm not sure what exactly my problem is but I've been struggling with trying to live my life instead of just living in my thoughts for a long time now.
I'm starting to think that maybe Lolita is a bit of an idealized daydream for me. The lifestyle aspect of it captivated me far more than the clothes, and I spend more time fantasizing about Lolita than I do actually wearing it.
>>8924133
>>8926402
>>8928304
>>8933484
These are so sweet!
>>8926410
>I'm fulfilling my weeb nooblita self dreams
Same here, anon. My weeb nooblita self would never have dreamed she'd one day be able to open her bedroom door and be greeted by brand- or even fit into brand- or be able to own both gothic and sweet. Looking at my old diaries really gives me hope, I've come so far.
>visiting my friend's grave in the rain
>welcoming people to my workplace
Getting a new stuffed animal in the mail.
>>8948152
>visiting my friend's grave in the rain
Ooh. You ok?
>waking up at 5am, ten hours before work, to drink a hot chocolate in the rain
>>8948163
Yeah, thanks. My first con without her is in two months, so she's been on my mind lately.
>Reading about poisonous flowers and hanakotoba after reading Dokuhime
>Singing and listening to gregorian chants
>Sitting around in my room, surrounded by lace and vintage silk scarves
>Talking to my flowers and my dolls
>Hugging usakumya at night
>Looking at myself in the mirrour
>Hand-washing my clothes (I feel like a dutiful maiden)
>Seeing my skirt bob up and down as I walk
I'm an old-school lolita, if my moments weren't clue enough (lol)
Referring to passing gas as "dropping a rose"
>trying on pretty dresses at Goodwill
>playing with the children at Goodwill
>adopting new stuffed animals at Goodwill
>>8953147
you can play with children at the store? is this actually a thing?
>>8953152
If there are children somewhere, you can play with them.
Especially at Goodwill, which people treat like a damn daycare. Abandoning their kids while they go to the spaghetti place across the street.
These stories are precious and I want to hug you all.
>>8948173
This sounds like heaven.
I am so happy spring is back. Today it's warm and sunny and i saw the first flower blooming fully in my garden. I am so happy to be back into lolita it's so beautiful and magical and it makes me appreciate beauty in little things even more. I have so many ideas for coords and even though i have little to no money for now that's fine. I even enjoy just looking at it.
>>8953374
I'm doing it right now.
>>8955980
Not a huge fan of spring myself but you made me smile. Happy spring, anon!
My roommates are gone, so I can twirl around and pretend to be a Disney princess without bothering anyone. I'm pretty happy with that!
>>8945725
Anon, I'm someone with maladaptive daydreaming and what you said - "trying to live my life instead of just living in my thoughts" - is something I struggle with every day. I haven't found a lot to help, but one major thing that's helped me is telling my loved ones about my problem so they can actively get me to 'snap out of it' whenever they see it happening.
It's probably also what brought me to this thread... mfw.
>Its nicely cool and rainy outside after a few days of heat and dust
>Opened the window a bit so I can hear the birdies and get a fresh breeze
>Snuggle in bed with my fluffy blanket and lacy pillows
>Studying for my test on ancient China
>Have some good 80% chocolate as motivation
>Feeling like a sophisticated lady of leasure
>taking a bubble bath instead of just washing my ass in the sink.
I meant to post about a week ago.
>going through RC's thread about timelines
>found myself digging up old photos and seeing my own progress
>mom & I start looking at lolita pictures together (mostly other people's progresses)
We don't normally get along and she doesn't necessarily agree with my love for the fashion, mostly because of the cost, but have come around it a few years ago. Now that I'm back home, she doesn't see much harm in it and sometimes likes a few pieces that she prefers me to sew than buy (even though I'm a shitty seamstress); whenever I go out in lolita, she's always trying to take a photo of my outfit (it's nice and I should do it often, but I'm usually in a rush and I'm not photogenic so I hate being in photos).
I guess her rationale is that it's better for me to occasionally throw my money on dresses instead of a baby (on top of my loans).
>>8948163
>Getting a new stuffed animal in the mail.
Me too! I'm finally getting a Milk-Chan pochette. I remember the first time I saw on irl was from the first local lolita I hung out with 8 years ago.
>>8963058
Thanks for bumping. :( I have nothing to contribute right now but I'd hate to see this thread die.
>show up to weekend work meeting in lolita
>many coworkers actually know what it is
>they offer me one of the few chairs because "we know how nice/expensive that skirt must be"
>>8963277
haha, that's so cute.
>>8963298
Yeah, even though it wasn't that great of an outfit they made me feel like a princess.
A lot of my hobbies/interests overlap with lolita so I could share regularly unless that would annoy people.
>>8958095
Sometimes it's the simple things that do it.
>add 20 minutes to my walk home so I can go by the houses with nice gardens
I'm 25,
I feel like a flower blooming
I get to look like one too
Lolita has motivated me to make a beautiful life for myself, one bit at a time
>Working on book of shadows
>When closet light is out, reaching into the darkness but knowing which black piece is which based on fabric
>Falling asleep as the birds start chirping at sunrise
>Vermouth with an old friend
Gothic Things
>>8922692
10/10
Hugging my friend's boyfriend. With her permission of course.
>>8945725
I used to do this a LOT when I was in my mid-late teens. It wasn't quite MD but I used to imagine myself finally going to meetups, having lots of beautiful clothes, and as a result I did very little constructive during that time and spent so much of my time in that frame of mind.
At least there's a happy ending. I've now been to countless meetups and my wardrobe is coming along really nicely. I've managed to get a few gorgeous oldschool pieces and my dream dress.
Back on the topic of the thread,
>feeling bad today
>going to buy pastries
>going to plant flowers
>going to plan next sewing project
>gonna be better
>>8934234
I wish more meetups and events were like this! I miss the fun.
I haven't had a "Lolita moment" in quite a long time now, but last year I decided to go out for a walk on a day I was dressed up. The weather was perfect, not too cold or too hot, and nobody else was outside. It was just turning into autumn, so there were lots of flowers in bloom and pretty leaves just starting to color and fall, I walked around my neighborhood feeling like the protagonist of some story book.
>>8972937
AYRT
Yes, that's how I think it is for me! Not MD, but enough that it's hindering me from being constructive. I have always been imaginative and stuff, but it wasn't until my mid teens that it started taking away from how constructive I am. High school was a horrible experience for me, and it was also when I discovered Lolita, so maybe it's sort of a coping mechanism that now I can't seem to shake. I find if I force myself to shut off the imaginative part of my brain and give up on my romantic notions it helps a little, but then I loose the inspiration for my hobbies and feel bored and hopeless because my romantic and creative side is a big part of who I am, so it's not much better.
Dressing up and go for a walk in the spring sun, then stop for tea and cake, and read a good book. More relaxing than anything else.
>having bf cum into a tea cup and drinking it.
Rescuing this adorable thread full of precious people.
I wore lolita today and i cried a little bit because i felt so pretty and antique doll-like. When i was a teenager i had very low self esteem and was bullied about my looks and never found myself pretty. But since a year i am accepting myself more and more and i find myself pretty at times.
It's ok if some people don't find me pretty, i like myself this way. I live for me and me alone.
>>8934772
I was just looking into that. As far as I can find, there were two BnB meets reported on egl way out in Galena. 2006-2008 is about right though.
That was back when miyu_sakura used to live in IL. I wonder if she still wears lolita.
>>8938326
I remember that. The pic with Alice getting buried in brand is missing/broken on the lj post.
Man, I wish there were more B&B meets or that I was old enough and had enough money to do that sort of thing at the time.
Today I left Taco Bell with three beefy crunch burritos, but I gave one to a homeless man. He bowed to me and I actually did a curtsy.
>>8982451
I'm sure you were v pretty. I want to hug everyone in this thread.
>>8969071
Ayyyy fellow witch Lolita!
> be classic/gothic lolita
> met an old friend who got me into lolita
> hang around in beautiful old-ass churches remeniscing
> sit in the park people watching and eating chocolate
We were just wearing casual normie stuff. I kinda wish we could have dressed up like old times but still an amazing day
>>8969094
....
Weird.
>>8948401
underrated
Starting a fire in the fireplace and then clapping for it as it burns.
It's a gruelling work day. But every time I walk into an empty room or corridor, I twirl around once in my elegant work-appropriate IW or VM skirt. I feel like Fanny Rosie and my heart lifts.
>>8922351
>went to botanical garden with bf
>watched a free ballet performance while there
>lots of little kids calling me Alice
It felt pretty good. Although I did get one of those, "HUEHUE DID YOU LOSE YOUR SHEEP" jokes thrown at me too :/
>>8996147
Oh wow, that's elegant.
I never wear lolita outside of meetups because I'm afraid I'll spill something on it, or someone's kid will poop on it or something.
> went to a park with a book to study surrounded by lush green trees, dressed in my favorite old school baby op
>helped my old neighbor carrying her groceries, i think being sweet and nice to others is a virtue and a princessy thing to do
>found a book at the library about bumblebees which i have loved since i was a child, brought back cute memories and now i want to do a bumble bee inspired coord. i love the misconception that they are too fat to fly but do it anyway because im a fattychan and can relate.
Contributing because this thread is so cute...
at first
>fighting with my fucking rosebushes
>aphids. aphids everywhere
>crouched over, back hurts
>my insecticide only catapults fistfulls of product onto my babies (and my face) instead of misting the actual bugs
>so I have to murder manually
>angrily fussing about this to my tiny dog, who contributes nothing
>DIDIJUSTGETTHORNED? FIGHTMEROSEBUSH!
>neighbors must really think I'm strange now
but then
>dog sees neighbor who likes my outfits, does a little dance, so she comes over to chat
>she offers a handmade apron and cute pink mister they were going to donate
>bf got me beautiful elbow length, mint green leather garden gloves and a garden kit that doubles as a stool
>get back to work, sitting in the sunshine
>dog helping now (fetched banana to eat and peel for compost)
>pour some insecticide into cute mister and serenely distribute murder evenly with furry companion by my side
>guy on bike rolls by "your garden is really pretty!"
yes. yes it is. thank you guy.
>>9000278
Man, this is cute.
>tfw no dog to garden with
>>8999785
Legit concern if you work with kids. But if you're doing office work in a city and your workplace has a casual dress code, you can get away with crisp coords.
>>8928552
>receiving old school in the mail and inhaling it deeply, wondering who this person was that wore it.
Well that's not creepy...
>>8999785
The meetups I've been to always include food, so there's as much of a chance of spilling something as at work. Also, my work is inside while meetups are frequently outside, so there's actually more danger of children or dogs ruining it.
Helping a friend get an outfit ready for her first proper meet with the comm. Can't wait to see her dressed up!
>listening to the rain while I'm in bed at night
>suddenly hear gunshots
>ohshit
Hugging my dresses while cleaning my closet and realize how lucky i am to have all of this
>>9010621
Texan, can relate.
>>8922351
why does the pic look like taemin lol
>>9012481
Haha, same. I'm glad I'm not the only one who hugs their dresses.
It's a nice and funny feel to be reminded of how far I've come in my lolita journey. I know there's a lot of ups and downs, especially once you get communities involved, but it's a neat feeling to be a part of some kind of sub-culture and to think of myself in the possible future, looking back at fond memories of making friends with similar weird interests.
Enjoying a quiet Sunday evening testing out a new mud mask, watching the Smithsonian's mini documentaries on royalty (currently one about American women who married into British nobility), and of course, having tea in a proper cup and saucer instead of a tea mug.
How's everyone else's night going?
>>8977514
jesus christ
