What the title says. I'm tired of being teased by my friends and other people. It looks like people don't respect me. In my group of friends they always make fun of me, they call me names and that kind of shit. I'm the only one that suffers this, and it's been like this since I have memory. I have to look very carefully about what I say because it might make my friends mock me.
One day I was at the casino with my friends, and I was standing behind the one playing, and he lost. Then he started to say I gave him bad luck and now everyone believes I give bad luck. Also other time I was talking about how ugly some dude, and then one of my friends says I'm ugly and stupid so I shouldn't make fun of anyone else(the guy who said this himself is a fat ugly piece of shit, and also a virgin). There was a time my friends called me gay because I said some of my other male friends were attractive.
Obviously, it's always friendly teasing. But I still get pissed from time to time. It looks as if they think they can say whatever they want to me and get away with it. I guess it's got something to do with myself though. Maybe it's because I'm a small guy. They say it's because the way I act and because I treat others the same way. But I don't recall myself being rude against others(or not so much at least). I guess they just can't subconsciously tolerate myself(a very small, childish looking guy) acting so confident. I'm not cocky, yet I come as cocky and arrogant. But I'd rather not fight against my friends, I'm too old for that now. I sometimes think my friends are just not mature enough, but they have been my friends since forever and I can't leave them.
It looks like people really judge you by your looks, no matter what you do. They'll always try to fuck with the smallest, physically weakest person, even subconsciously. It makes me mad, I wish I was bigger, had a deeper and louder voice, so they would respect me. Fuck this life.
Stop being a bitch an stand up for yourself it's not hard or find new friends
>>17166531
I'm not a bitch. When someone fucks with me I defend myself. I can fight against my friends, but it usually won't change how they treat me, or only for a while.
Also I don't know how to find new friends. And I'd rather not.
>>17166529
>all this nonsense
can you post a picture of yourself?
>its always friendly teasing
doesn't sound like it. sounds like you are the groups punching bag. but its not because of the way you look, as indicated by the fat virgin. sounds like you may have a personality defect. why else would your whole group dislike you?
stop blaming hte way you look, as you already know the fat virgin doesnt get this shit.
all this being said, id still leave them. at the very least, you drop the mean people. and at best, you can try and refine yourself and re introduce yourself to society as a not so bad guy.
>>17166529
>>17166533
>i dont know how to find new friends and id rather not
>also they wont change
so what are you asking? those are the only two options and you are insisting on neither. if you arent willing to make new friends, stop whining.
Kind of why a lot of Meathead's come on here, thinking "work out" is the only logical piece of advice.
Honestly, maybe you should use whatever outlet you've been using to make friends to make buddies with people who aren't assholes.
These types of guys aren't the types to help or support, and would give you the shit like, "do you even lift bro".
For the most part, that's just guys. They only person they don't disrespect is the one who would fucking wreck them if they did. We live in a society where people think they're publicly safe to be cunts like this now because no one is choking them like they used to.
>>17166529
>Obviously, it's always friendly teasing.
You just answered your own question. The examples you give don't show any real malice, just what they consider friendly banter. If you can't handle it, find different friends.
That said, it IS possible for friendly banter to go too far, and it is legitimate for you to be bothered when it does. What you do then is take the guy aside and quietly say "I know you were joking, and I know I give as good as I get. But that comment on my height touched a sore spot with me, and I'd appreciate your not joking on that particular topic for a while."
Sociopath and malignant narcissist types can only rule for so long because people hear shit and you give off a creepy vibe boo hoo
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>>17166534
It's friendly teasing. The ones that tease me are my closest friends. I also tease them, maybe that's because they tease me. But since they have more names to call me(I mean, I'm short, a bit ugly, look like a kid, have a funny voice, while most of my friends are attractive so there really isn't anything to make fun of them)
Maybe my confidence is not so high after all, so that's why it affects me so much
They are my friends and obviously like me. They always invite me everywhere. I don't drive so they will always come by my home and drive me anywhere we are going. There is one guy they dislike and they try not to invite them, but they don't make fun of him, only when he's not around.
That's my picture by the way.
>>17166529
>>17166533
Yeah they definitely aren't your friends.
>>17166595
How old are you?
>>17166595
50 bucks says you're 16.
I'm betting with 3 of my buddies. One of them said you're 18, the other said you're early-mid 20s. I'm staying with 16.
>>17166697
Yeah 16 or 17. This is an age where you're somewhat self conscious and insecure.
Dont worry op you'll grow up and gain some confidence. Go to the gym or something
>>17166533
They aren't your friends. Friends are people you connect with. You telling me you connect with these disrespectful fuckwits? Next time they say some shit, tell them to fuck off, and walk away. Don't return. Don't say anything to them ever again.
Stop relying on scummy 'friends' to make you feel better. You'll be lonely for a bit. Go to social events, sport events, even just say hi to the neighbours. Talk to everyone you can.
You can easily find new friends, you are just being too pussy to do it.
>>17166595
Just based on that pic I can see that you have a cunt personality. Pls don't exist.
I used to have friends like yours, OP
>team of 5 (sometimes just 3)
>I was always pinned as the third wheel
>didn't have cash or a job to go out
>they always drove me with them to events
>one day, junior year, im getting out of the car
>"Do me a favor, and don't call me again" in a sincere, non-hostile voice
>spend senior year in high school not in my usual spots
>actually get in touch with people you know from other classes
Worked out okay. Prom came up and the old friends tried to get me for one last time, I refused. 20 years later, they show up on Facebook once in a while, asking to go out for beers
Still refused.
Dude, stop being sensitive and laugh with it. Self-deprecating humor and banter is fun between friends. Laugh, smile and do anything to make yourself look amused. This is what we friends do.
I know that feel OP, i'm not always the victim but sometimes i just think that my friends can be real cunts and other times i'm just grateful for having these friends.
I'miving the same, but i ignored then for a month and they treated me better
>>17167022
Nice man, you made the right choice
>>17166529
tltr pls
I had a similar situation OP. The only thing to do is to change your friends because they will treat you like this forever. It's useless to make a point now because you let them do this kind of jokes too long. It's mostly their fault, don't think it's on you. If it will happen with next friends you will have just tell them immediatly that you feel discomfort with that.
>>17166533
If that's the case I would just get new friends.
>>17166529
Hi OP, I have had similar situations as you did, but they were back in the first three years of high school.
I've been in multiple social groups that have given me shit, one worse than the other. I've been the punching bag before. But the thing is, I left those groups. I wanted to find other people who really respected me and to flourish as a better person, and that I did.
I have a lot more friends now, and a friend circle that respects me, but I also know the difference between friendly banter, and going too far. Bottom line, I can laugh off teasing my friends will give me, by just embracing insults and not taking them seriously, while also leveling the playing field and throwing a few at them.
I know it sounds weird but it doesn't sound like those guys are really your friends. It sounds like they are insecure, and they need you (more than you need them) to feel better about themselves. In my honest opinion, you should leave, learn to respect who you are, and just be yourself. Associate yourself with another friend group that actually likes you. It took me a while to accept this and leave the group I did, but once I actually went through with it, it really made me a better person than who I was prior.
Good luck.
>>17167022
>>17167028
Did you read OP's post? It's obvious that these "friends" are just using him for their own insecurities. What OP described is not banter, and not even funny, it's over the line for friends to say to one another.
>>17166533
Maybe it's a perception issue, anon? Maybe they continue to make fun of you because they know you'll react drastically to every little thing?
I had the same problem until a friend of mine mentioned it. If your friends really are friends, ask one of them to level with you and see why they make fun of you.
>>17166533
>get shit on
>don't wanna find new friends/don't know how
>pussy out of the idea of being independent
>continue to get shit on
Your move OP.
>>17166697
>>17166692
I'm 20, almost 21 now
>>17166529
>I was talking about how ugly some dude, and then one of my friends says I'm ugly and stupid so I shouldn't make fun of anyone else(the guy who said this himself is a fat ugly piece of shit, and also a virgin).
Honestly dude, based off of this alone, I think you're probably a dick and just don't realise it. Idk enough about the other situations to discuss those, but here, from the way you phrased it, you were talking about how ugly some guy is for no reason spurred by the other guy. Ignoring this, even though you shouldn't, you're insulted when a "friend" turns the table towards to you, and you default to using an ad hominem attack instead. Maybe you're not at fault for the rest of the incidents, but you need to change two things. The first is your attitude towards things, your attitude won't get you far in life. The second is the people you hang out with. These people clearly don't like you much, and probably don't want the awkward task of telling you to get lost. Change the group of people you hang with, otherwise you won't get past your current ill reputation.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1b3TDCPZFKg
watch it faggot
>>17166595
you're 10
mods
>>17166529
I know the feeling op, I had the same exact situation with my old group of friends. They would steal from me and openly shittalk me in front of other friends and their gf's. I realised the only way to end it was to completely cut contact with them. During my senior year, I slowly started to ignore them and never hang with them Anymore. The day after we graduated highschool, I cut all contact from the 3 of them. I deleted them off my friend lists and blocked their number.
What ended up happening was for the next 9 months, they would try to contact and find me In every single way. They would sometimes send me long as fuck messages on Xbox live at the time or keep trying to add me. I would play the poor memory card and forget who they were if an old classmate ever asked about them which worked since everyone knee I had terrible memory. They would even wait outside my house and knock to see if I was there alongside calling my parents. After the 9 months, it all stopped, they called my mom on the middle of the day to shittalk me and never tried anything again
4 years later and it still has been the greatest thing I ever done in my life, and I never regretted it. You will be lonely In the beginning, but you will eventually find someone.
>>17166595
You look fine but obviously you're insecure about how old you look, somewhat rightfully so. I bet it contributes to the teasing as well. Can you grow a beard?
>>17166529
You either beat the shit out of your friends or find new ones. Gotta stand up for yourself or else noone will ever take you seriously.
Your friends are either childeren, or you're taking what they say too seriously.
You have one of two options.
A strong show of force, be it a simple punch, sprinkle some laxatives or a boner pill in their shit, or something similar.
Your second option is to find new friends and stop associating with kids who have respect issues.
