Where can I meet new people arround the age of 18
I'm mostly looking for girls, on an only engineering college so there are not many women. I don't have any friends from high school or anything.
I take request and advice on how to approach certain people!
>>17152647
advice
>dont just hit on a woman
its no secret that women are the ones who are approached, and they make decisions on which men to keep in their lives. that being said, desperately drooling over each and every girl as if they are a potential love interest is silly.
give yourself more value by not letting a woman sway you on first impressions alone. before you ever begin to say anything remotely flirtatious, talk to the girl. see what she actually acts like when you interact with her. have a normal conversation. if there isnt anything special there beyond her looks, friendzone her. or simply stop talking to her. you do not need to hit on each and every girl that looks good enough to be your partner.
doing this gives you more value, and the psychological effects are great. in addition, women will take you more seriously. instead of being 1 of 500 men in new york who went straight for the kill, you took the time to get to know them. whether it goes anywhere or not, this approach also just gives you practice talking to girls in a casual context. its less pressure than trying to impress them.
>>17152665
>only ever use dating apps as a supplement to your real life dating.
dating apps are toxic. consider the following
>people use dating apps because they arent having much luck in real life
>they go to a dating app where they are introduced to an entire smorgasbord of men who want nothing more than to bang and/or date them
>after just one day they will have seen everyone in their area
>within one week they would have talked to everyone they are interested in
so anyone who has been using the app for more than a few weeks clearly has some sort of issue. likely, they are the female equivelent of what i discussed in my first post.
they want a 'bf' but because they have a very specific idea of what a bf is, they arent finding it anywhere. instead of seeing if they have real chemistry, they are simply walking down the aisle, trying to figure out what is the ONE thing at the groccery store they can buy, based solely on pictures and labels.
if a woman is on tinder for too long, they are losing their ability to feel chemistry.
you as a man can fall into a very similar pattern here, but with the added harshness of constant rejection.
it is an app made for people who want to date, yet no one seems to have success there for very long. that should tell you something.
to put this into context, i tend to turn on dating apps once every 3 months, and only have them for one or two weeks. then i say 'hey im deleting htis app, but id seriously like to meet, could you text me?' then i give them my cell, and leave the ball in their court.
>>17152666
>but anon, how do i use it as a supplement to an existing dating life if i dont have a dating life.
effort. lots and lots of effort. and also, doing what you like. going out is in no way restricted to bars and clubs, though if that is what you enjoy, by all means, go to bars and clubs.
the truest way to find chemistry is to experience your life in the most enjoyable way, and see how you match with the people who come into it. interacting with someone in a casual way shows you how you ACTUALLY get along, not how you hope to get along cuz you really want this to work cuz you need a gf.
so write down a list of all your hobbies, and find a way to externalize them. most people live at least near a city these days.
go to any and all hobby shops and ask about local events. gun shops might have hunting trips. or you can just go to a shooting range. comic book stores have game nights. or live commentary movie nights. if these shops do not host events, offer to host one through them, after all it will only lead to more money through them.
you can even go to a more casual store, lets say, a book store, and stand in your favorite aisle (lets say, horror). talk to everyone who comes by looking for a book. ask what book they are looking for. tell them what book you are looking at. try to spark a conversation abotu your favorite author. maybe take some suggestions. if you really hit it off, try to trade numbers.
its okay if it doesnt pan out. this isnt a scoring system. there is no man in a cloack in space making down on a cosmic chalkboard how many failed conversations you had. 99% of interaction is dumb. you are waiting for the 1% and enjoying talking about your favorite things with strangers until then.
>>17152665
>give yourself more value by not letting a woman sway you on first impressions alone
Wish I would have known this growing up, instead of bouncing from extremes of nice guy and douchebag never knowing those were just personas instead of what girls were really after.
>>17152667
>but anon, going outside somewhere to find out if maybe they have an event doesnt suit my lazy lifestyle!!1!
and for those who simply cannot bring themselves to get up out of the house without a guarantee go to meetup.com and look for something of your interest. no matter what your interest it is on there in a group you can meet with. and if not, you can start your own meet up.
Now, some of you may argue that these sorts of tailored events are attended mostly by men. yes. mostly. but some women too. whats important here is you will be doing something you love, with people who love what you love, and when the right ladies come along you'll know they love it too. you will have that common ground.
>>17152673
yep. its a bit of a shock to learn that women are just like men. they just want someone they like, and they want that person to like them.
its a bit harder for men cuz we do the pursuing, so there is that standard shift. but ultimately, yeah, they arent as easily played as russian ski lift instruction pictograph forums have lead us to believe.
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>>17152682
Dang it man I didn't expect this much advice.
I really have no words for this, thanks alot!
>>17152689
good luck. im going back to my bates motel marathon but id like to leave you with the following
>dont focus on 'fails'
this isnt about succeeding or failing. people dont have chemistry. people do have chemistry. it can take time to find someone with your cheimstry. thats okay. at the very least you can enjoy temporary conversations as they happen, and of course experience. dont stop putting yourself out there just becuase you tried it a few times and nothing stuck. keep putting yourself out there. even if oyu got to make your own meetup (which is what i recently did, and it went GREAT).
>>17152666
I wonder if it's the same guy who posts this every single time.
Checked btw
>>17152952
as far as i know, yeah. ive never seen anyone else post it.
>>17153039
Maybe the guy was mad he couldn't get a date on any technological interface so he made a rant in spite.
>>17153143
the guy was me, but no. ive tried online dating. and i had some good stuff with it, but the notes baout it being toxic (to both genders) was what i learned from it. my recent girlfriend i met from tinder. one of my two week adventures into it. before that i had started meeting more girls irl
