Do you think it's unethical to visit an escort providing she is:
1. From your country (i.e. not a victim of sex trafficking or coercion)
2. Does not appear to be doing it involuntarily or due to financial destitution
I'm reading some profiles of girls who are in their early twenties and who claim to enjoy sex and their job.
Is it wrong to lose my v-card with one of these girls?
Also what's the best way to avoid being infected with an STD?
I don't think it's unethical but I think if losing your virginity is that important you can do it for free at a bar.
no lol
no but its the easy way
condom
>>17143131
>V card
Don't go out like that. My friend did that. It's so unsatisfying. He couldnt even nut. Find someone to love OP. Find someone to actually enjoy your first time with. If all Youre looking for from sex is the physical pleasure, then I can tell you an escort will not give you that. You'll be too nervous, anxious and feel out of place to be able to enjoy it. Again, my friend couldn't even climax. He is a confident person too, his escort was hot and they did it for a long time. The first time isn't something you should do like that. I promise if you fucked someone you had feelings for first, even if it was once, then fucked an escort, it would be enjoyable.
>>17143141
I have no friends to go to a bar with. I am not a Patrick Bateman figure money-wise but I have enough to have sex with a girl for an hour. I just feel like I need to get it over with. I also read that JFK, Groucho Marx and a bunch of other people lost their virginity to a prostitute. In Vienna in the 1920s 75% of male doctors lost their virginity to a prostitute.
>>17143141
This answer is such a repeated meme and it makes me sick because I remember being 17 and a huge beta and considering doing this and people kept saying shit like "just get a girl to do it for free, it's not that hard." It's near impossible when you have some sort of social anxiety or crippling low self steem, and if you want a moderately attractive girl and you are no sexy beast yourself, this becomes near impossible. A scort can be gentle, patient and professional (yeah, that IS something you might want when losing your virginity). And there is no pressure or fear of failing, there is no fear that she'll tell all her friend about your small dick or premature ejaculation. She sees thousands of cocks and she is unlikely to keep a report of all of them, and even if she does, she is unlikely to be part of your social cycle.
I think losing your virginity to a girl you are in love with or at least has strong feelings for her and her for you is the best thing you can have. But lacking that, doing it with a scort is perfectly fine, It wont make anyone a lesser being and might help you get over some of the psycological problems. Hell, fuck scorts until you are so confident in your dick you walk about like an alpha, if you wanna do that.
People can be paid to listen to your problems, like therapists, to touch you, like massagists, to put fingers inside your body for health reasons. it's absurd to think paying someone for sexual release and intimacy is somehow different then the thousand other things we already pay people to do.
Its bad to be a sex-slave and exploited by sex traffic. But that only happen because prostitution is persecuted and therefore pushed to the shadows, not because it 'exists'. Where it's legal and regulamented, there is far far far less sex-traffic and sex-related crimes, like the netherlands. Just google it yourself.
>>17143131
No, it isn't unethical.
>Is it wrong to lose my v-card with one of these girls?
Up to you to decide. I did it and enjoyed it a lot.
>Also what's the best way to avoid being infected with an STD?
Use condom, don't tongue kiss her, don't perform oral on her, don't have have any open cuts on your skin, don't shave right before visiting her, don't get a trashy crackwhore.
Letting her perform oral on you without condom is OK-ish. At worse, you get a easily treatable disease.
>>17143131
I'm considering losing my virginity with an escort/prostitute.
>STD
They're probably cleaner than than non working girls. I say this because of "reputation". Who wants to visit a hooker once someone tells everyone they got the herpes from her? They have a bigger incentive to stay clean/get checked on the regular because of it
>>17143151
OP here. I am quite an attractive guy (not bragging, just stating a fact) and in the past several attractive girls have shown interest in me, but I think I was either too autistic / apathetic to do anything with them or perhaps too fearful or something. I tried losing it with a girl I briefly dated two years ago but I lost my erection after going to the bathroom to put the condom on, and after that we didn't see each other again.
But right now I have no friends and no means of meeting a girl who could love me or any of that kind of stuff. It's really just me at this point. This seems like the only way to lose it, as I don't want to go another year feeling like a freak for being this way. Sex doesn't really mean that much to me relatively speaking I don't think (I don't really feel sexually attracted to many girls in public or anything like that) and I really would rather a loving relationship with a cute girl, but again I'm in no position to achieve that in anywhere like the near future.
>>17143156
>. I also read that JFK, Groucho Marx and a bunch of other people lost their virginity to a prostitute
worked for Bryan Cranston. He went to Amsterdam
>>17143131
Hey.
No, it's not unethical.
It may not be ideal but ideal sometimes doesn't happen.
It is a good idea to get the whole V-card myth done with, it will allow your mind to evolve and progress unto more productive things.
I lost my virginity on a cold rainy night to a huge titted blonde who was pragmatic and professional about the whole thing (not ideal, but yes real). This has not hampered my ability and potential to develop committed and satisfying relationships.
That happened when I was 16 and the first three times were with her. I then started going out with a very hot 14 year-old and was her first. We dated for a year and sex was incredible. No, i did not tell her my first time was with an escort.
Also: don't be cheap and don't haggle.
STDs: Wear a condom. She will not fuck/suck you if you're not wearing one.
And.... it's true, escorts are usually much more careful about avoiding STDs than your average bar slut.
https://www.quora.com/What-is-life-like-being-a-high-priced-escort
>>17143131
I don't think it's unethical at all--while I don't personally like paid sex, I believe that the majority of the women who sell it do so voluntarily and the choice, and the job, should be respected.
Best way to avoid STIs is to avoid sex with escorts. Second best way is to use condoms, although these don't protect against everything (herpes, for example. But most people with herpes are only contagious when having an active flareup. If she's got cold sores or vaginal lesions, maybe thank her for her time and don't go through with it).
Don't let paid sex delude you about your prowess--with a normal girl you will be expected to provide a lot of foreplay if she is going to enjoy herself; personal pleasure is not really the objective for professional service providers. She's not getting off, although she may be a good actress. And you're not a good lay (don't take it personally--no virgin is worth a damn at sex. Takes practice). But you will have stuck it in someone.
>>17143279
That's a nice read. I wish society would stop thinking so bad about prostitutes. Some of them are really nice people (just like in other areas of society).
>>17143167
Well now I just think youd have to be an idiot to lose it to am escort...dude wait it the fuck out holy christ why the rush? There is NOTHING wrong with being a virgin at all. At this point, you're literally tossing something potentially great away for something you don't even care about. Don't feel bad about being a virgin. The fact that You're attractive and a virgin makes you more valuable. I was the same way. When I told girls I was a virgin I used to get golden reactions every time, girls either not believing me or being really surprised. It felt good.
Just calm down. There's no rush. It'll be more worth it to wait until you find someone and do it, i promise. Even if you don't care about sex, it'll be better than to lose it to a girlfriend.
Also, why the fuck would you go to the washroom to put a condom on? Just do it in front of the girl.
