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Dopamine is the main motivator of the brain. What would the effects be of cutting porn/fapping/vidya and TV (general dopamine spikes)? Would you get more motivated and less socially insecure?
Bumpan
if you change masturbation for sex you will feel the same. And sometimes you will still want to masturbate
If you just stop masturbating, depending on your level of adiction you will feel frustration. You will feel something like a need to chop a tree with an axe or something. You might become good at sports or something... distrations
About social security. No it doesnt have anything to do with it. Just try to improve your conversation skills everyday
>>17124662
people unfortunately are not robots, and doing one thing does not equal another. you can raise twins in the exact same household and they can come out vastly different.
what i mean to say is you might become more motivated. or, like a lot of people on this site complain about, you might just end up sitting around feeling bored with nothing to do.
if oyu want to get the most out of this you have to
>think about what you REALLY want
>write it in a list
>then actually schedule time to make that list a reality.
not masturbating wont magically make you show up at a random bar and talk to a girl. you have to plan a night, write it down, hold yourself to it, know what bar you are going to, and go.
im the most motivated person i know, but when i dont make a list i have no idea what to do.
as for 'socially insecure' stopping your video games wont have anything to do with that. not masturbating may give oyu some testosterone / horny man boost that makes you more motivated to talk to women, but it doesnt magically cure the social aspect. thats learned.
that being said, go learn it. there is no magic button or trick that will make you suddenly 'good' at being social. i think your issue is likely thinking too much about being social. you've already labeled yourself as some lonely awkward 'introvert' (guess what, you're not an introvert) and even when you think you're going out to make a positive step, you do so thinking 'GOD IM BAD AT THIS' instead of just 'I WANT TO DO THIS'.
and that is why you fail.
>>17124729
I like this reasoning, it is great. What I was trying to get at originally, was whether or not your motivation levels to do all the things you listed would improve naturally as you strangle your brains dopamine supply. The distractions I listed are all free, unlimited sources of dopamine.
But yes, I feel making a list physically will help me achieve my goals with better results. Organization seems to be a central unifying commonality in all successful people. I don't see many self made people playing it by ear.
>>17124700
>just try to improve your conversation skills everyday
How does one improve these skills? I'm not a max level social autist, I'd say I'm max level average. Can hold a conversation without any awkwardness, but with abysmal charisma.
>>17124755
organization in scheduling yes, but outside of that you can wing it quite a bit. just make sure your list isnt vague like 'go to the bar' with no day or time.
know your game plan and do it.
>>17124778
mostly by talking to people each and every day, putting yourself in new situations. theres lots of 'bombing' in these situations but thats kind of the point.
charisma can sometimes be learned but honestly it comes natural most of the time. not everyone really NEEDS charisma though. if you can hold a conversation than i wouldnt worry.
good luck regardless.
>>17124808
I've had fat pathetic family members transform into huge womanizing man whores. I don't think he was "natural", I think he wanted pussy bad enough, so he went and sweated his ass off to learn how. Charisma absolutely can be learnt
>>17124815
>charisma absolutely can be learnt
which doesn't contradict what i said at all which is
>charisma can sometimes be learned
maybe reading comprehension can too.
still, have you considered taht your family member always had the charisma, but his fatness and what comes wiht that was what was holding him back? also 'charisma' being a vague concept, maybe we have different ideas of what charisma is, but there are plenty of people who can be man whores without it. in fact, i think you might look back and find yourself complaining about total assholes (which inherently would lack charisma) being the only ones girls go for.
theres a lot that goes into making a man whore. regardless, if you focus on improving your more tangible aspects of life as opposed to 'charisma' you wont really need it.
>>17124829
>Maybe reading comprehension can too
For your sake I hope this is true, as I was reaffirming your statement very clearly, not even hinting at denying it.
>Charisma being a vague concept
There is not much shaky ground on this matter. All humans share the same survival mechanisms. As for its importance, it essentially supplements your ability to get promotions and get hired in addition to skill/background as backed by studies. For getting pussy, being an "asshole" doesn't negate charisma. You can be a douche, while being brave, funny, and witty.
He was also not "held back by his fatness", he was legitimately a sperglord, and transformed into another being.
>>17124868
>i was reaffirming your statement very clearly not even hinting at denying it
>i just felt the need to restate only a specific conditional part of it, almost as if i hadnt read that part at all and was making a point against you.
sure.
>>17124890
>Charisma can sometimes be learned but honestly it comes natural most of the time
>I post a supporting example for your claim
>wow dude learn to fucking read you pleb lmao xD
Wew lad
Also,
> I can telepathically read agenda
>>17124890
bro ur legit autistic
>>17124925
I get a huge pic related vibe from him
>>17124890
