[part 2] up until recently, she had instagated sex all the time, because I didn't want her thinking I'm only interested in her for that, so I thought she might have just been upset that I didn't try to Instigate it. So after a week of not doing it, I tried making a subtle move, nothing. few days later, made more of an attempt, still nothing. today I spent 14 hours with her hiking, horseback riding, laser tag, bought her lunch and made her dinner, and the whole day I was just being a little frisky and playful, then after dinner I really tried making a move and she said "you're really hyper tonight aren't you?" I said ya, which was followed by the "I'm tired" line, and we "didn't have enough time" line cause she had to be up at 8am and it was getting late (keep in mind we had over an hour when she first came over)

when I was driving her home, she asked me if it bothered me if we don't have sex and I said it did, which was followed by a load of excuses like "oh I don't like doing it after work cause I'm tired" and "I don't like to after exercise cause I'm sweaty" and "we need like an hour" which is bullshit for two reasons, 1 being I don't always last that long and I even told her I only did that for her, and if it's too much I can cut back.
and 2, I made a move on her when we had the whole house to ourselves for 3 hours and she still said no.

now she's going to go on her period very soon, then I will be in Cuba for a week ( last time we did actually have sex she said we should use the entire box before I go, more dangling the sex carrot in front of me) so now we will have gone well over a month without sex 5 months into our relationship, so who the fuck knows what it's gonna be like 5 years from now.

I'm just really pissed off now because I feel like she lied to me with the whole innocent Christian girl bullshit, I feel like she either lied to me about liking sex, or I'm just not doing anything for her in bed, which I find hard to believe because nearly everything I've read women like about sex I have. 6.1" long, Girth is well above average, and it has a slight upwards curve and I can last a really long time when I want to. I've also done my research on what girls like and I've literally tried almost everything I can with her from positions to the whole phycology of it all. I've done hours and hours of research, I am very athletic and i have really good stamina, so that's not even an issue for me. I have blond hair, blue eyed and I get compliments on my looks often, so I can't imagine that's the issue especially because her exes all looked like ass.
so now I'm thinking it's either because she's somehow broken and doesn't enjoy sex at all, because her ex's did things with her that I cant, maybe I'm hurting her.
the only reason I can think of that would be reasonable is because she put on a little weight lately. not that much, and she isn't showing much of an effort to slow down eating or anything.

now I talked with a friend, browsed a bunch of forums and everyone/everywhere says if it's not working sexually just end it now because it only goes downhill.
I really don't want to because I know I will never find another girl as amazing as her, and it's so shitty that I feel like this because it's such a stupid thing to end a relationship over especially if everything else works so well between us.

so are things really just going to go downhill here or is there any chance at all that we can somehow still manage to make things work?

TLDR:
>date girl, think I'm dating an innocent girl
>turns out she's a turboslut
>is now somehow not interested in sex despite months of effort and her history.

should I break up or at least try to make things work?

>>17117616
Confront her about the problem, if she resists and makes excuses, dump her.

It doesn't really sound like you guys have an emotional bond.

If her family is super religious she probably has some hangups about sex. Ask her to think about what she wants out of the sexual part of your relationship.

Sounds like you're used to getting things "your way", so now that it's out of your control you're insecure.

Just go jerk off you blue eyed faggot

>>17117616

Sleeping with 3 guys doesn't make her a turboslut, spergo

>>17117763
Yeah, this dude is super insecure and probably doesn't know how to please her like her ex did and now he cries over it. What a failure.

>>17117599
>"because of sex" when she's dangling the sex carrot in front of my face and constantly blue balling the shit out of me on a weekly basis, when all I do is try to be an amazing boyfriend to her.
Learn this Right Fucking Now: The more commitment you freely give a woman, the less reward she is going to give you. You "being a good boyfriend" means nothing if she doesn't appreciate it or work for it. My girlfriend does the same shit where I bring her weed and order us delivery and then she starts bitching if I don't want to take her finished dinner plate out. She started bitching. I set her bitch ass straight.

Today I got a full length apology about how she's "sorry for being a bitch" and "appreciates that I don't take it from her." Then I fucked her out twice and she bought me Chipotle. She drove and bumped my favorite tunes in the car.

Women do not respond well to men giving them commitment because then they don't have to work. Make her work for it or kick her ass out and find a girl who will.
>especially because her exes all looked like ass
>she isn't showing much of an effort to slow down eating or anything
You need to man the fuck up. Your dick size is fine, and the rest of you probably is too, but the secret to getting women wet for you is how you act.

Men have to walk a fine line between too aggressive and too gentle. You need more aggression.

>>17117813
>Today I got a full length apology about how she's "sorry for being a bitch" and "appreciates that I don't take it from her." Then I fucked her out twice and she bought me Chipotle. She drove and bumped my favorite tunes in the car.

Definition of a happy relationship there. Teach us your ways Anon.

>>17117750
we do have an emotional bond, and a really strong one at that, which is why I want to at least try to make things work because I could honestly see myself spending the rest of my life with her if things actually worked out sexually.

>>17117752
I was never in control, which is what I thought she had an issue with and maybe she thought I needed to grow a pair and instigate it more. turns out that wasn't it either.

why is it so wrong to expect my gf to actually want to have sex with me in a 5 month relationship when we're both 21? all of my friends have sex like twice a week at my age with their gfs who they've been dating for more than a year, and It's literally proven that once a week is what makes the happiest couples. if she's gonna throw that away and not even try because "she's tired" then why don't I have a right to be pissed off? I'm trying everything I can to make it work, and she just does whatever she feels like, and we're 5 months into our relationship, let alone 5 years, so who knows what a clusterfuck that's gonna be down the road.
I'm not some beta that's gonna sit here and take this shit for the rest of my life because I have needs and I understand why I have these needs, and I put in effort to try and make her happy, and all I get in return is this "I deserve it" attitude. instead of a "thank you" attitude.

>>17118158
If she has gained weight as you say, it could just be depression.
It definitely affects your libido.
Birthcontrol also fucks with you a lot.

Or she isn't as into you as you think.
You could be the most attractive person in the world but everyone has different things they're attracted to.
Some people need to feel emotion for their partner to really make it good sex, not just sex.

When I was dating my ex, everyone would tell me how attractive he was, but it wasn't that big of a deal to me.
At the beginning of our relationship, before I found out how shitty of person he was, I was really into him and would initiate sex a lot.
As our relationship went on, I think at about the year mark, I started to not care about having sex with him.
It could have been the health problems I was having at the time, or the fact I knew I didn't love him. I'll never really know.

But you need to realize, you doing nice things for a girl doesn't mean she owes you sex. She doesn't owe you anything.
If you want to treat sex as currency you should just go pay for an escort.
Do nice things because you want to.

You may not be doing anything for her in bed, bigger really isn't always better, and you shouldn't try to do positions porn stars like, TALK TO HER about what she may like in bed.
I also don't like sex that lasts too long, it starts to get uncomfortable, personally.
Everyone is different.

Oral is your best friend.
Maybe initiating something that's just for her will spice things up.

Sometimes sex really isn't that important to people.
So if you find it's just that important to you where you feel "pissed off" about some sex carrot, then it isn't going to work and you're better off letting her go.

And you deserve to be with someone who shares the same feelings about sex.
Someone who mutually enjoys and initiates and appreciates it.

Talk about it.
Tell her it won't hurt your feelings so be honest.

>>17118263
I defiantly don't expect sex as a reward for doing nice things, I love her and would do anything for her if it made her happy. I just don't feel like she would do the same, not even just in sex, but in general. it just seems like she's settling into that marriage life 5 months into our relationship, so what's actual marriage going to be like? sex once a year? she needs to understand that I have needs, and i would honestly have sex every day if I could, while she just wants to once a month? to me that just seems like too much of a sexual incompatibility issue, and i feel a little lied to because when we first started dating she said she's good to go on an hourly basis, and she said two weeks ago we should finish the box of condoms before I go to Cuba. all bullshit.

and I don't think it's an issue of looks either, she's said many times that I'm exactly her type, so I don't see how that's my issue.

and like I said before, we have an amazing emotional attachment, so it's not that.

the only things I can point it to is her lack of confidence from gaining weight, which I don't see how that's the issue either because she's always had more confidence than what is good for her, or that she has a very low libido, in which case she lied to me about such an important thing so early on in our relationship.

>>17117813
Hey OP this Anonmight not give the best explenation but Anons totaly right.
I tried wording ir better but the info is already here.

GJ /adv/ing Anon
You'll b fine OP

OP for me thats a deal breaker

She keeps toying with you and that's not good

After 5 months the sex dies off? What's going to happen in a year?

worst case scenario
you are her beard
happened to a friend of mine, sex dried off after they got married but she admits she didn't have much of a drive either so she was like whatever, then several years into the marriage he comes out of the closet.

>>17118485
this could actually be a possibility, she's said before that she'd probably turn out to be gay way before I ever did.

You think a 3sum would test this?

>>17117599
No problem is worth 4 long posts.