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Ive been with my girlfriend for nearly 5 years. We're 22 and have been together since high school. We've shared a lot of first experiences with each other. Have heard multiple times that should not be so committed at such a young age.
Anyone here with first love stories that can give me input on whether or not they regret staying committed so long?
>>17088598
I've got a good friend who's been with his gf since high school. Been about 12 years for them. Easily the most committed, healthy relationship I've ever seen.
If it's working for the two of you, then you should stick with it.
>>17088598
Same sitch, just one year older.
23/6 years.
it's fine. i don't know. if you're happy, it doesn't matter much.
>>17088598
Don't fall for the hookup culture meme OP. You have something rare and special.
>Have heard multiple times that should not be so committed at such a young age.
Says who? Not the statistics. Highschool sweethearts with few to no other partners between them is a recipie for the highest success rate in marriage.
Once again: do NOT fall for the hookup culture meme. Take it from someone who gave up what you had to sleep around. Its a sad, shallow life compared to the closeness and intimacy you can build with one person over time and starting young.
>>17088598
My grandma got married when she was 16. Still married 40 years.
26y, 6 years together here.
Sometimes I just wanna quit and fuck bitches, but other times its just so nice and convenient. I dunno man, I think all of us have these doubts. But whenever you hear someone who jumped ship and slept around, they always say they regret giving up what they had.
So if you get urges just far to some good porn or camgirl.
I've been with my husband since I was 17, and we are 33 now. We got married at 19 and everyone told us not to, literally everyone, except for his mother, who got married at like 15, so go figure. We had no doubts, and today we have come so far, made such a great life for ourselves, and I am grateful every single day that I didn't listen to the adults in my life at that time.
I am not saying that I would recommend a young marriage for everyone, but if you're mature enthusiasm to have discussed long term plans and goals, if you know you've found the person you want to wake up next to until you die, if you find each other's imperfections completely manageable, then I think you have a better chance than people with baggage getting married at 30.
We never cheated on each other, and I have never once in all these years regretted marrying him.
But we did wait a LONG time to have kids. Glad we did that.
But we still fuck regularly. We still turn each other on. We still make out in the kitchen. We still make each other laugh and smile every day. My friends who married at 22, 25, ,28, didn't have any better luck than we did so far. Then again, I saw a lot of young marriages crash and burn too, the difference was they got married due to pregnancy, military enlistment, or sheer will to escape their families.
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>>17088642
>So if you get urges just far to some good porn or camgirl.
that or, tell her you're getting bored sexually and would like to mix things up, possibly have someone join in, or just get more kinky or something.
>>17088598
If other people's opinions are the main/only thing causing you doubt, then absolutely put that doubt out of your mind because you definitely have something very rare/special/etc. Mildly jelly.
Hard to say.
People typically change a lot from 20-30.
Though the hookup culuture is not as glamourus as it seems either.
>25 y/o
>Just passed 8th anniversary
>We regularly discuss the possibility of having children
OP, please for the love of god don't fix it if it isn't broken.
There are times that I regretted staying committed but after the 50th squabble I realized that we are actually really good for each other and that any doubts that I have are temporary. If they aren't, we talk about our feelings like rational people.
This year I'll be 25 and we'll have been together for 9 years. Married for 2. We have a four year old. Things got rough for us ironically around year 7. We broke up for a while and then realized no one else would ever measure up. I'm not saying its perfect, because it never is. But if its working for you stick with it. We may occasionally want to kill eachother but at the end of the day he's my best friend and I couldn't imagine not being with him.
>>17088598
Been there, done that. Still together 20 years later.
People generally say this for one of two reasons. The wiser ones are worried that to be so committed at this age over-romanticizing the relationship, and that this is going to hurt you very badly. And these folks have a point; that's exactly what normally happens. But I will be blunt: if you can make it through college together, then you have beaten the odds, and you are very, very close to that goal. Go for the good ending, with the blessing of a random stranger on an anonymous Internet message board.
The others have this idea that sowing one's oats/hoeing it up is somehow an important part of one's psychosocial development, and that you are somehow stunting yourselves or worse, "missing out", by not buying in. This bullshit is responsible for many bitter /r9k/ virgins and Tumblrinas alike, and should be dismissed out of hand. You have missed nothing worth mourning. Frankly, most of the people who say this are jealous: even if things don't wind up working out now, you've still had something most of them want desperately and will never have.
Not much to say about my story. 16/15 when we got together in high school, survived college (and, in her case, grad school) long-distance, and married at 24/23. This has not been a storybook romance, but we love each other now more than ever before, and it's been an incredible source of strength for both of us. Good luck to you.
>>17088598
>Have heard multiple times that should not be so committed at such a young age.
You've met multiple jelly people
For me it's been a hurricane for a relationship.
>met in HS, both 17
>spent time overseas
>relationship went to hell
What followed was 8 almost 9 years of an on off relationship. We were friends with benefits for a bit. Young and stupid.
My time overseas changed me, came back and shit happened. Still we remained around for each other. After so much shit between we got together again over a year ago. It's been a fucking challenge. People change in their twenties. It takes so much communication and effort to keep the ship afloat.
But if you see something in your partner there's a reason to fight and deal with what may come. I have never felt as connected with my gf as in recent times, as we have slowly been growing up together. Hopefully the storm is over and we can continue to sail forward. Some rough seas may come but there's always hope to see the sun. And I wouldn't want to watch it rise than with her.
As for our commitment, we had our chances to go with other people and such, but we still remained loyal to each other. I used to feel guilty when a girl would try to hint at a date. I was still just working to fix things.
Best I can say is communication is one of the most important parts of a relationship. You get complacent as you get comfortable with your partner. Always talk, and never feel like you will weigh them down. Help each other.
Well that was my shit.
Best of OP. I honestly feel it's a slight form of jealousy. That they see it as unnatural for people to want each other and be happy with each other.
Don't listen, be happy you have something special.
>>17088995
>been together for 9 years
>married for 2
>we have a four year old
>things got rough around year 7
>no one else would measure up
well that's a hearty laugh. what you MEANT to say was that things were going great for the first 5 years, then we had a child out of wedlock and decided to stick together for the baby. After 2 years with the baby we both started to miss our care free youth and decided to split up, but quickly realized no one in their early to mid 20's wants to date a single parent, so we reluctantly got back together. we may occasionally want to kill each other but at the end of the day it's better than being alone
>>17088598
>Met chick when I was 18
>She was still in high school
>Started dating
>Dated through college
>Married at 21
>Now 25
>Relationship is deeper and more loving than ever before
>Within the last year we both discovered with have a Daddy/Little dynamic fetish
>Still get hard any time I touch her
>Get hard every time she calls me Daddy
I love this woman. I fucking love her to death.
>>17089030
pedo
>>17089030
>be with gf for around 10 years
>mfw I get a boner just from smelling her or just from snuggling
It's a nice feel. Except when I actually just want to take it easy and spend time with her, aside from sex, which is great and all.
Hearing people say "don't be committed at such a young age" is so fucking... vile. I mean, statistically yeah it might not last (but then against most relationships won't) but that phrase suggests that even if you really like someone and are fond of their company, you should just screw it all up to get a "taste" of the other "food out there".... putrid, vile hogs this society is filled with.
>>17089042
>>17089030
reading these is making me happy... er, sort of.
my s/o and i have been together since our last year of hs (best friends for years before that), this halloween will be our 12th anniversary (around the same time we'll have lived together for 11 years)
in all honesty our relationship, is one of the most important things in my life... the years it's held up and all the shit we've gone through together + the fact that we're still attracted to each other, still having sex (and it's only gotten better, since we've had years of learning what we like and years of being comfortable enough with each other and trusting/close enough to experiment a lot... and that's actually one thing i've noticed about people who have sex with a lot of people or don't have long lasting relationships, a lot of them rarely experiment and even the ones who are really open and all that haven't had as much experience with the actual act just more people... like a friend of ours was going on about some sex book and how much was in it that was so different than anything they ever did with anyone, we both looked at it assuming that since they slept with way more people than either of us there'd be something worth trying... but nope, no new positions, no new ideas, we had already done everything in the book + more... and even more at this point), still able to talk and just do shit like be perfectly happy just being near sach other... i don't regret it cuz there's nothing to regret, and i'd never trade it for anything else
what you have is a good thing, and i get the doubts and i get curiousity (my s/o and i are somewhat open since we were each other's firsts, and give each other case by case basis freedom to be with someone else based on discussion or where our relationship is at that point... it's a rare thing that either of us even brings it up, but we did date a girl together that lasted a year... and honestly the difference between my relationship with her and my relationship with my s/o was that with her
>>17089070
+ we both got to experience the sort of relationship dynamic everyone we knew always talked about relationships being... 'til then neither of us knew how to relate to people at all with their views and ideas of what a relationship was or what most people's relationships sounded like... and seriously? it's not an even ok substitute for what my s/o and i have), but unless you're incompatible in some way just be happy that you got lucky
+ each other*
btw... i have an uncle and aunt who have been together since they were 13, they're in their 60's now, and they're still clearly in love with each other, and that's been the same my entire life...
don't let people who are likely less happy/fortunate than you when it comes to relationships make you feel like your relationship isn't worthwhile enough or you're missing out... my s/o and i have been through that, we hear it sometimes still, but especially in early 20's... and those people are just fucking wrong...
>>17089028
Pretty close. Except the part where we've been best friends since freshman year. And the part where we were going to stay together whether we kept the baby or not. Personally I like to think that we just went through a shithead immature stage. I mean we were fresh into our 20's. But whatever. What do I know. Maybe he just doesn't want to be alone.
8 years together, met online while we were in high school, moved in together 5 years ago.
He is the best thing in my life.
This morning we spent one hour in bed cuddling, fucking and laughing.
I can't ask for a better man.
>>17089040
I'm into MILFs and thickness. I'm far from a pedo. We just like the caring submissive style dynamic which is exemplified by daddy/little. We don't do ageplay, diaper shit.
She enjoys doing quite a bit of kid-like stuff, coloring and watching Disney movies and shit, and being taken care of, loved, and guided by a protective male. It works extremely well for us.
Married when I was 19, wife was 18. Been married 43 years.
I'd be lying if I didn't say that sometimes I wonder what I missed by committing to one woman so early in life. She wasn't my first love (and I wasn't hers) but things have worked out.
Would I recommend it to everyone? No. Take your time and make sure this is the person you want to spend your entire life with.
Dating in highschool and being in a committed adult relationship is very different. But it doesn't really matter. Don't worry about what other people say you should or shouldn't do.
Are you happy? Do you feel unsatisfied? Do you see any issues looming around the corner? I'd avoid making any unnecessary commitments until you are a bit older (having children that is). But otherwise just keep having fun and doing what you are doing.
>>17088598
Got together with 18/21.
Married with 20/23.
Still married, happy and three kids with 30/33 today.
>>17089044
Actually the statistics are probably in your favor if you are still with a childhood sweetheart because are often likely to have similar backgrounds, levels of education, interests, and goals.
A relationship working is a good sign that it will, uh, keep working. Provided you are a good match you have better than a 50% chance of staying with that person until you die as long as you don't cheat or become violent. Considerably better than 50% actually.
That doesn't sound like much but imagine if there was a 50% the shoes you are wearing will the only shoes you'll wear for the rest of your life.
>>17088658
>have someone join in
Congratulations for ruining your relationship/marriage
>>17089213
>3 kids
That's not happiness, anon. That's severe mental trauma and a coping mechanism.
>>17088882
>People typically change a lot from 20-30.
That's true, so you have to change together as you mature. Nothing can beat going to the same direction with each other as life passes by.
>>17089229
not them, but you're completely wrong... my s/o and i had a gf for a year, we're open otherwise (case by case basis dependent on where things are at with us, and we both respect each other's feelings) but we actually dated her... that was 3 years ago, we're headed on 12 years and have been together since hs...
it didn't at all fuck up our relationship, it actually made it better and brought us closer
you're making assumptions based on something you don't know anything about... sure some relationships can't hold up with that addition, but they can... mine is still going
>>17089231
If you knew how much happiness they provide into an otherwise very boring life. We've achieved all our goals pretty early. Nice home, both nice paying and stable jobs, big vacation to Japan. Only vidya/internet and nightlife with friends didn't do it for us. There is a deeper meaning to life than that. And our first sweetheart showed us what it was.
>>17089239
Nigger please. Be honest with yourself and quit lying....
>>17089271
i'm sorry you think you understand my relationship better than i do, i guess you've also known my s/o since we were all 12 right?
Nice to see all the High School Sweethearts ITT doing so well! I posted earlier, but both my brother and sister are still with their first loves years later. I think it is possible to find a great match for yourself early on, the trick is keeping it together and being mature enough to work in yourself and know when to put someone else first.
>>17088598
Been together for 8 years, first serious relationship. (Had a 1yr relationship at 14 and a 6mo relationship at 15-16 but it never felt serious)
24 now and engaged, honestly I couldn't think of anyone more perfect for me.
We met at a rave two hours away from home and found out we had gone to the same elementary, junior high and highschool together but never met. He grew up less than a mile away from me my whole life, even picked up weed at his house twice hahaha. Had a bunch of shared friends as well.
It was tough, but we've made it so long it truly amazes me sometimes. It isn't always perfect, but as long as we communicate we can talk through any problem and get along famously. Got engaged a year ago and plan on being married next year.
Sometimes all you need is the sentiment of a commitment, just because you get engaged doesn't mean you have to married right then. It'll be our nine year anniversary on our wedding day and over two years of engagement.
>>17089030
>>17089042
Eh, it's pretty hard to imagine people who greentext memery on 4chan are actually that happy with relationship and job. But then again I've seen 50 yo dude posting in /fit/ CBT using terms like DYEL, tfw and arguing about lifting for pussies...
I'm 18 and I could never imagine myself browsing 4chan once I enter college this fall.
>>17089314
Nigger please! That explains the whole shit. Your relationship is just still there because it's convenient. It's shit and neither of you are fully satisfied and truly happy with each other. You only settle for each other because you are afraid of loneliness. And you think you can't do better than your current partner.
You will remember my words.
Be it in a few months, or in a lot years from now. But you will remember.
>>17089464
i probably won't remember your words... they're irrelevant... and i've heard plenty of ignorant shit come out of people's mouths ... you don't know my relationship, the kinda person i am, or how i feel about my s/o, you also don't know my s/o... and if you really think it's been convenient for either of us that we've been together you're wrong about that too... we've been with each other through a lot of shit where breaking up would've been the easier route, but we chose our relationship, and it's a priority to both of us to maintain it cuz we love each other...
we might have an unconventional relationship, but our relationship works for us, and that's all that matters... not other people's opinions (of which we heard plenty, we couldn't even legally get married for years after we got together so yeah... i've heard a lot of stupid, wrong, opinions), but the life we have together
>>17089464
Woah! Get a load of this butthurt hater! That's an absolutely stunning amount of mean spirited conjecture just for the sake of assholery.
Take a look at your life, dude.
>>17089187
Damn I'm jealous. My ex used to reprimand me for my child-like antics. I sleep with a stuffed animal and I used to ask him to tuck me into bed before leaving but he acted like there was something wrong with me.
Stayed with my 1st gf from age 14-24. High school, undergraduate, grad school, all of it, together. We grew apart, but she was also my best friend, and always made the best of it. When it ended, I was crushed, devastated, and missed the opportunity for some great times with good women over the next few years because I was pining away.
Well, that was dumb. First relationships are often doomed because they're also practice, where you fuck up and learn many positive and negative things, and also it comes at a time when we're growing into an adult, when we start becoming the person we're going to be for most of our natural lifespan.
I missed my chances at some good relationships, but eventually met some decent women here and there, had 2 relationships that lasted longer than 2 months. When I got comfortable with the idea that i might not end up married or in long-term relationships, I focused on my career and my family and friends, and became a better person for it. Couple years pass. Then at a wedding, I caught the garter, and this hot Brazilian chick who didn't speak a word of English caught the bouquet.
We've got 2 kids, she's still beautiful, though a MILF now, and my youngest is the same age I was when I met my first gf.
OP, regrets are for hindsight- if you let a doomed relationship die a natural death, it's usually an easier process, but can be a waste of time, too. You're still in practice mode.
I regret little beyond moping around when things were over. My ex helped me discover the man I didn't want to be, and that's very valuable stuff.
>>17089578
my s/o likes being tucked in and read to... but follows it up by saying shit like "go get daddy a beer" so it's not quite the same, but i think a lot of people retain some level of childhood qualities or comforts... you're better off without your ex though, anyone who has an issue with harmless things someone else enjoys or finds comforting enough to reprimand them or tell them they need to behave differently isn't worthwhile...
our (my s/o's and i) ex slept with a stuffed animal btw, i just thought it was cute that she did it... and i'm not at all the "daddy" type or even close to it...
i'm sure you'll find someone who isn't gonna give a shit, better that you do, accepting the person you're with for who they are is the most important thing in a relationship
God help all of you high school sweethearts if you end up splitting up down the road.
You fuckers are going to be devastated.
>>17089534
>i probably won't remember your words...
Because you're dumb.
>>17089534
Well if your relationship is that important to you, please explain to me how fulfilling your sexual fantasies could be more important to you than the feelings of your partners?
If your relationship is that awesome, explain to me, how sex itself could be THAT important to you? Aren't there anything else in your lives worth enjoying? And how come sexual satisfaction could not be achieved only with your partners? You get where I'm coming from now I hope.... This is an advice board after all.
>>17089542
Shut up little shit. Grow up then talk to me again.
>>17089672
oh i understand where you've been going with it, but i see a lot of "this wouldn't be ok with me so it can't be ok for someone else" and that's just not how shit works... people are different, and every relationship isn't the same... making assumptions about my s/o and i and what's between us based on your opinions and projections doesn't work
my partner is fine with it, it's not me putting my sex drive over anyone's feelings... we do this thing called talking openly and honestly about everything, that included... not to mention we don't hide our relationship from potential partners, we're open from the beginning, and if at any point one of us is uncomfortable then our relationship comes first and things are over with the other person (and anyone who is even a consideration knows that as well), in addition to things like everyone meeting and spending time together to see the dynamic... i fully believe in people knowing exactly what they're getting into and if their feelings are an issue they can go elsewhere cuz clearly i'm not for them...
i personally don't see sex as the defining part of a relationship, and there are a lot of ways to have sex that all have varying degrees of intimacy... for me personally bdsm is more intimate than just sex, and that's my thing that's only reserved for my s/o and i, but to just fuck? that's not intimate, you don't need a relationship for that... it isn't special in any way unless you make it special... the value of sex and its place in a relationship is subjective to the individuals involved... and neither my s/o or i see it as something that gives our relationship the value it has... i'm sorry you think relationships are based entirely on sex, that's sad... but neither of us believes that a relationship makes you dead from the waist down to anyone other than the person you're with, and we're bi + we can't exactly create a kid and really enjoyed the threeway relationship dynamic etc etc etc
>>17089672
>>17089761
so for us the value, the shit that makes it important, is the day to day shit...
what defines my relationship to me, the shit that matters is what i feel when we're just laying together or hugging, it's the companionship and the things we do together... it's that he's an irreplaceable part of my life and we're extremely close, it's that we love each other more than we did when we first got together, our relationship grew, we've been through a lot together my life is with him and vice versa... there's plenty in our relationship that's important that we have together, but who we choose to have sex with is our business, not yours
it reflects more on you that you feel the need to talk shit about a relationship you have no involvement in and don't know about based on your ideas of what is/isn't important and what does/doesn't define a relationship than it does on my s/o and i...
you don't have to understand or approve, but don't tell me what my s/o and i feel, and what's between us...
btw you can think i'm an idiot all you like, you're the one projecting your feelings on my relationship... and yeah this is an advice board, but i never asked for advice or your input on my relationship...
like i said i'm sorry you think that a relationship is just who sticks what where to you and you can't fathom the shit that makes it actually important
>>17089594
That's kind of the deal with any good LTR.
>>17088635
This. I'm a femanon and fell for the hookup meme for a period of time. It was pointless and the sex wasn't even good.
>>17088646
Why is a 33 year old woman on 4chan, are you a true oldfag or got here by accident?
>>17089761
>>17089777
>but to just fuck? that's not intimate
Weeeeeeeell. Now I get you. You've explained pretty clear and I have to tell you've just earned my respect sir.
Nonetheless I now can see how it works for you. Your reception of what sex actually is, is definitely warped, as you DO have weird fetishes because you DO clearly have issues/ are not normal. Pretty cool though you found someone who fits you.
BUT anon, the least people are like you are. Unable to have kids and thinking/feeling that sex is something unintimate.
For most people, especially those without hardcore fetishes sex is the most intimate thing on earth, so yeah, you probably shouldn't give advice which is perfectly good for you but VERY BAD advice for the people you gave them.
I hope I could explain myself to you a bit too.
ITT: humblebrag thread
>>17088598
looking back, every woman that i have been committed to has been a mistake. especially when i was around your age- i could have been swimming in pussy but for whatever reason i thought i was doing right by having a woman and remaining faithful to her, even though we were not a good match and she treated me not quite so well. if your relationship is good, then youre fine. dont forget to see the forest for the trees though. if shit gets fucked up, gtfo of there because it probably wont change.
Everyone I've ever loved has left/abandoned me, so... yeah. Fuck off OP.
>>17089864
i wasn't giving them advice, what i said was introducing someone else or exploring with someone else is something that can work... cuz it can, depending on the individuals... making a blanket statement that it's going to doom a relationship in every case is just wrong, it does destroy some relationships (i acknowledged that btw), but it doesn't always and doesn't have to... that's why communication is key
let me clarify though, i think sex can be intimate (yes for me it's when fetishes are involved), but i don't think it necessarily is... it's just as subjective and varied as anything else, and i make no assumptions on how those people feel (which is why i said it can work out fine)
honestly if my s/o is the only person i ever have sex with again from today on, i'm ok with that, i could live with it but i don't have to so you know... no reason to look at my life like it has to be that... though that probably won't be the case, he really wants kids one day and that means finding someone whether it's just an arrangement or a relationship... but that's whatever
all i said was it can work and it depends, which is true
Id everything seems too good to be true, just remember that your girl probably got plowed a fuck ton in college.
>>17089919
You're right and I understand that now. Thanks anon for the nice debate / challenge :)
Whatever your life brings you in the future, I hope you'll be happy.
>>17089828
Not really man. Not if it's your first and only LTR you've ever had. And it dragged out into your 20's, 30's, with marriage, kids, all of it.
>>17089919
btw i haven't slept with a lot of people, and my s/o was my first everything and vice versa... when we first started dating we agreed that cuz of that we would always be open with each other if either of us wanted to experiment with someone else... didn't at all for the first 8 years, and it's not something either of us even mentions often, but we don't own each other we just have made a decision to go through life together and that's what we're doing
>>17089943
no problem, likewise
>>17089886
>>17088598
I was with my GF for 8 years before we got married, which was 22 years ago.
I was her first, whereas I'd been hooking up with others prior to meeting her. I honestly wish I had saved myself for her.
>>17089977
I wouldn't expect a faggot like you to understand my pain, anyways.
>>17088598
Well I agree that young people should get into seriously comitted relationships, but I always assumed that to mean stuff like legally binding contracts (marriage, mortgage) or having kids together, since it's better to wait until 26+ to see what kind of an adult you grew up to be and see if you're still compatible before making arrangements that would be costly and difficult to break up.
However, I don't see why someone should break up just for the sake of breaking up. If you feel happy, why not. Just remember that if you start feeling unhappy in the relationship (seriously unhappy, not just slightly meh sometimes) there's also no point in staying in an unhealthy relationship just because "we've been together this long, I can't throw it all away". I say this only because I've seen a lot of couples who seem to be frustrated or annoyed by each other, or even full-on actively dislike each other, but stay together because they've been together since age 16 or whatever and "they can't throw all those years away". That's insanity.
But like I said, as long as it goes well for you and you feel happy together, it makes little sense to break up a good relationship just for the sake of "experience". Finding a truly good partner isn't all that easy.
>>17089858
I've been around since at least 2007
>>17089983
>>17088598
Today is my 8th anniversary with my high school gf. Started dating freshman year. We were together for a year before she moved across the country, we stayed together for the rest of high school long distance before she came back here for college. We're moving into a new place in a few weeks, probably gonna get married soon after. If you have a healthy relationship with good communication, and you think you can keep it up, go for it. Don't throw away something perfectly good on the off chance you might find something "better". The bond you have is something that is incredibly difficult to find from this point on, and physical experiences with other people are cheap and hollow.
>>17090011
i'm gonna have to second the part about never staying just cuz you've been together for years... it's a horrible reason to stay with someone, and it really just does nothing good (especially if kids are involved, that "stay together for the kids" idea is really detrimental to everyone involved)
my parents have been married for longer than i've been alive and together for longer than that my mom was like 20 or 21 my dad was 20 or 19... and i can't remember any point where their relationship was ok or healthy (no actual hugging, no kissing, no cuddling) ... but they had kids so they felt like they had to stay together and now they're just used to it...
if you love each other and are happy together and want a life together then that's one thing, but don't cling to the past like it's the reason to stay together in the future
>>17088598
I got out of a great relationship & regret it. Having sex with random people isnt as great as doing it with someone who loves you.
>>17088635
>Highschool sweethearts with few to no other partners between them is a recipie for the highest success rate in marriage.
You must've pulled that out of your ass, as high school sweethearts have an extremely high divorce rate. Thus is probably because no one knows what they want in a partner or out I'd their life yet.
My great-grandparents met in high school, and stayed together for 70-something years, and the only times i ever saw them get mad at each other was when they couldn't hear each other and got frustrated. I think it's safe to say you should stick together, OP
>>17090045
Fellow 2007 anon, mein neger!
>one more year and you will have been going to 4chan for a decade
Wew.
>>17088598
Married old cunt and fag for 16 years here after dating and living together for 3 years. People told us the same thing, but it just seemed strange to us- why do something when neither of us had a desire to see others?
it's like when people told us to drink and that we'd like it. Nah, no thanks.
If you're happy, no need to change anything. We don't regret it at all. Quite the opposite.
And yes, we still make each other laugh, are proud of each other's accomplishments, and the sex is still hot. You are fortunate, OP!
G'night.
>>17091707
Not that anon but I'm going to say you must have also pulled that out of your ass
Wow you lucky fucking bastard. Living my dream. You have something amazing. Why the fuck would you question it without feeling anything is wrong? Just because you anticipate something will be wrong because people say so? What would you do then? Suddenly end it? Stsrt thinking about it? You're ASKING for an excuse to fabricate relationship problems. Fuck off and enjoy what you were blessed with, you filthy fucking lucky dog.
And by the way, my old highschool bio teacher who was like 57 at the time is still with her husband and they're highschool sweethearts. She still smiles when she mentions him
>>17089447
You are young, you will learn...
>>17092504
Precisely, If I fail to learn I guess we will see me posting here next year.
>>17088598
I think you are fine OP. That's how my parents started out and they have been married for 26 years now.
>>17088598
The reason people fuck up relationships at such young ages is probably because the relationships are about nothing but sex. Yeah the sex is important but so many young men and women do what their genitals tell them to do. Guys chase the hottest girls around even if they have nothing in common. Gals get abused by shitty men because they haven't grown out of bad boy cravings.
Again, I'm not demonizing sexual attraction, but it seems to me that making it the only important relationship metric is what kills people. It's almost amusing to see men and women get bent out of shape over that new hottie that breathed in their direction.
It took me forever to realize that the woman I feel the strongest for, has touched me in ways all those other "hot" girls couldn't. This isn't even to say I could never love a beautiful woman, I just am not the type to love a woman for her physical appearance alone.
>>17089447
>Eh, it's pretty hard to imagine people who greentext memery on 4chan are actually that happy with relationship and job.
You're clearly new here and don't understand this website. Open your mind a bit and throw away what others have told you about this place. Enjoy it for your own reasons or leave.
Fuck what other people tell you to do.
Find what works for you and do it. The standards and experiences of others are just that, theirs, they don't apply to you.
Sounds like you have a good thing going. If you're happy don't fuck it up.
>>17089030
That's so odd! I'm at the 7 year point (not married through) and we just discovered the Daddy/Little dynamic fetish as well!
To be fair we kind of fell into it over the years through dirty talk. Now she like to dress up in sexy schoolgirl uniforms and likes to suck and fuck daddies cock
>>17089040
Same, the size difference is quite big, she's 5ft and just under 6ft and a big guy, so i'm a bit of a sugar daddy. But she loves being loved, and guided by a protective male. And this translate into the bedroom as Daddy/Little girl roleplay. This has been going on for a couple of months now and just last weekend she left for work and called me daddy as she left, so i think she's going to start calling me that outside of the bedroom now!
I just wanted to say thank you to the people who have posted in this thread.
The replies I've read here are a very welcome change from the usual "lmao dump her senpai" replies which I keep seeing a lot.
