For those in relationships, what words, phrases, or tones trigger instant fights with your loved one?
For me when I was in a relationship, I noticed "Are you fucking kidding me" will trigger something fierce with the person I was with.
One word syllable responses.
"Okay."
"Whatever"
will throw me into instant fight mode. All within context of course.
>>16437393
>triggers
>instant fights
Neither of those are healthy or indicative of a good relationship. I've never fought with my partner.
I've noticed my partner has some triggers that get them really angry but I'm pretty sure that stuff would piss them off coming from anyone and not just me, only with me we're open enough that we can communicate about it and they don't have to hide that it's pissing them off so much. And the same goes for me, pretty much, though I don't like to think about mine. But we never use these things even when we disagree about something and are arguing because we don't like hurting eachother's feelings and pushing buttons like that is a low blow. Also it's not any way to win a serious argument. If these things ever come up it's almost always by accident and then we have to apologize shortly after.
My partner doesn't like being called "idiot" and generally being treated as incompetent.
being cavalier or flippant about safety usually trips her, but aside from that, we were best friends for four years prior to our relationship so we typically have a hard time truly upsetting one another
One simple thing:
>why do you expect _________
...as a response to me protecting myself.
If keeping her shitspray off of my face is an infringement on her rights, then I'm not spending another minute with her. If she plays the victim, then I'm quietly walking out the door. Note to young gents: you must be capable of retaining a lawyer before you employ this strategy, or else you might be subject to a false police report.
>>16437438
I'm not sure I understand.
"You need to douche."
Your sister looks really hot tonight.
>>16437463
Long story short: feminist shaming tactics, google it.
Long story long: someone takes a giant flaming shit on you. You tell them to stop doing that; they scream in pain and play the victim. They keep shitting on you, but suddenly the whole world casts you as the evil one. This is a feat of innate talent and those who don't have it will always resent those who do.
>>16437438
>If keeping her shitspray off of my face is an infringement on her rights, then I'm not spending another minute with her. If she plays the victim, then I'm quietly walking out the door. Note to young gents: you must be capable of retaining a lawyer before you employ this strategy, or else you might be subject to a false police report.
If we need any more gibberish we'll be sure to get back to you.
>>16437476
You know you're anonymous, it's okay to use specific examples and say exactly what it was she said. You've got me a little curious now.
Unless you are talking about literal scat, then my apologies for misunderstanding.
Never noticed this with my partner. They are usually calm. Only time I've seen them legit freaking out and just full venomous was when I questioned some gay porn I found of theirs.
For me a lot of stuff will do it. Anything around sex pisses me off though, I like to feel I'm good at it as I try my damn best.
Anything condescending.
"It's ok, just say thank you."
"Whatever."
And any time I or her would passive aggressively imitate the other in subtle ways. Like when I say "there's nothing wrong" but I look upset, so she purposely looks really upset and says "there's nothing wrong" to show me what I'm doing.
