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FAQ:
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><Random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something that cannot be explained. You either have learned to intuit this or you have not. If you have not, the only way to learn is experience--there are no shortcuts. So it comes back to: Just ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships.
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking.
>Brandon
Fuck off
Ahh man. You beat me to it. i was going to update the FAQ too :/.
Welp, for posterities sake I'll just post it so i doesn't have to be retyped up next time
Start your question with Guys: Girls: or Both: to make it easier.
Avoid asking questions in the FAQ.
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><Random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something that cannot be explained. You either have learned to intuit this or you have not. If you have not, the only way to learn is experience--there are no shortcuts. So it comes back to: Just ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>Would it be weird to use Facebook to (re)connect with this person?
That's its EXACT intended purpose.
>>17031752
>>17034203
I am sorry anon!
Post the updated FAQs so next one who makes the threads uses them?
>>17034213
Yup. Yup. I don't think the Brandon and cuddle stuff has to be in there anymore. That was from like 3+ months ago.
So my now ex had left a guy she was with for me. I knew it was a bad idea to be with someone like that but I said fuck it and went with it, in the end she ended up leaving me too. What a surprise amirite? She texted me all this stuff about maybe regretting her decision and told me she loved and missed me n all. About a week later I see she's already with another dude having no problem showcasing him of on social media.
What is it about you girls(idk any guys that do this) that have no problem moving from guy to guy? Is it immaturity? Or loneliness?
>>17034221
Anon, one girl ≠ all girls.
You met an insecure girl who is afraid of being alone and fills her life with useless relationships. Boo-ooh.
Next time date someone you know well and you trust.
>>17034221
There is actually is a reason why sometimes women will move on faster than guys, and it has to do with the way emotions are processed, but that's not what you're asking really.
>(idk any guys that do this)
I definitely do. This isn't at all necessarily a gendered thing.
Aaaand... really, you already KNEW she was rebounding. I'm not sure why you're trying to apply this particular case to women as a whole when you walked in to it with both eyes wide open knowing exactly what as going on :/.
>>17034232
Idk I just had hope of being different, even though I knew it would probably happen to me I was just really surprised at how fast she had moved on especially after almost two years you know? Idk how people like this think, or the differences in how emotions are processed
Is it weird texting and having an open, mature discussion about sex with girl friend if we haven't done anything that sexual yet? We've been together 3-4 months and I'm pretty sure we're both Virgins.
I don't know who to direct this inquiry at.
How do some of y'all deal with heavy experiences? My sister recently reawakened a memory in me that I didn't even know I repressed and now it's hard to do anything without going back to this thought. Am I making something big out of nothing?
Long story short, me mum and sis "raped" me, or better yet sexually assaulted, whatever, as a toddler. It was one of their ideas to sit me down and have me watch porn with my pants down, while my dad was out at work.
I must've been 3 or 4, because this was before I was even in school. I remember them touching me, rolling the head of my penis around with their fingers, swinging it back and forth. My sister asking, "why does it grow, mommy?"
Fuck, its such a nasty thought. To think my own immediate family would do such a thing, and that I'd have to repress it for 20 years so I could function.
Not very fun to read, but what can I do about this? No one in my family knows, and I don't think getting a shrink and saying it to someone who gets paid to care will help.
>>17034293
No?
That's why it's open and mature. Nothing wrong with that.
For both
How do i distinguish between friendly banter with a girl and flirting? The shit i say normally gets confused with flirt
Girls and guys
I just got this haircut 5minutes ago. I'm sitting in my car nervous. I've never styled my hair before. I've always had very simple short haircuts. But today I made a change. And I don't know if I made a bad choice or not. I have shit self-esteem. And I'm worried I fucked up and don't want to go anywhere other than home..
..how is it?
>>17034352
What's the age group you're talking to?
Sometimes its just real life trolling and that's them telling you they want you to flirt with them, indirectly.
>>17034352
Actions.
Basically everything else that goes around that interaction.
>>17034359
You look cute!
I don't really like the gel (in general) but the cut looks really well on you, as far as I can see.
>>17034359
It's fine? It's hard to fuck up with short hair dude. At any given point you can just put shit it in and make it any other generic short hair style.
Girls
I was supposed to meet up with a friend I have a huge crush on. We met up and because of lack of reception at where we met, she thought I bailed and I thought she bailed. We talking about it and how it was a huge misunderstanding on both of our parts but she seemed really distant and I think she is still upset. Should I contact her about it or give her a few days to "get over it" and then text her? I'm also upset about it but I don't want her to feel guilty.
>>17034359
Looks fine Anon
>>17034369
Not grill
You could contact her the next day saying you want to make it up to her
>>17034364
>>17034367
>>17034376
Thank you.
I'm very harsh on myself. I've been in a low the past few years. And just decided to change everything. It took me weeks just to get the courage to do that little bit with my hair..
>>17034383
Thanks that is good advice. Today is the next day. The only thing that bothers me is I'm not sure if she is sad. I don't want to make her think she did something wrong.
>>17034360
I'm 20 I just move to new city no friends so I am talking to lots of girls.
I don't understand ? I just want friend
>>17034361
talk not sexual, but very teasing and I can not tell between sexual flirt tension and banter
HElP
>>17034385
A small start is better then nothing, also good for you Anon for wanting to change for the better.
This gif. gets me every time
>>17034385
As long as it makes you happy, it's all good dude.
Having been where you are, believe it or not, when it comes to confidence, it's the little small things that add up and matter. When you like the way you look, it's one of the first steps towards feeling good and confident about who you are.
>>17034387
Then what are you waiting for? Also make it clear that you should have made it more clear where to meet and that it was your bad
>>17034415
Okay. I'll message her in a bit. Thanks man
>>17034425
No problem Anon, good luck
>>17034312
I think this is more appropriate for thread of its own.
Do you have friends who you can confide in?
This girl I'm going on a holiday with (+ her friends) was bringing the bants and bragging to said friends that she's forcefully dragging me along as her personal luggage carrier all trip. In response I kept hugging her in sarcastic gratitude, announcing proudly how she's going to refund my travel expenses fourfold in return.
Does this sound like flirting to you people? Or just friendly banter?
>>17034452
It's hard to tell, do you have more examples of this type of behavior?
How do I make female characters? I know, just make a guy character and slap on a pair of tits, but I want to make a convincing female
Aren't women more verbose than men?
>>17034528
Make like in drawing? Or what?
>>17034530
In writing
>>17034548
Sorry can't help you there, writing isn't my strong suit
>>17034451
Every time I've tried, it just falls off the board with no responses.
No one really seems to know how to handle something like this and no. I recently moved back in with my dad and have no friends in the area I live now.
All attempts to make friends or connections have been ignored, and I can only discuss so much with my father because he's one to think "some secrets are better off never mentioned".
My friend recently passed away from stomach cancer and for the week or so after my girlfriend was extremely supportive and sweet but now she's randomly gone completely cold on me and I'm confused. Nothing's changed otherwise. Did I lose too many man points for crying when my friend died?
>>17034559
stressing her out
She's losing interest in you, take a break?
>>17034452
Sounds more like future cuckery lol.
>>17034561
Well I've not seen her for the past week and I've only messaged her a few times about seeing her on Saturday. It just caught me off guard because she'd been acting so loving and nice and I'm still pretty down so can't be bothered with her stressing me out by suddenly going cold. How long a break would you recommend?
>>17034548
Prioritize feelings in decision making.
>>17034565
A week would have been good enough if it's stress
Just message her and tell her directly that she's been acting strange lately and demand to know what's wrong, tell her 'if we don't communicate it won't get better'
Maybe it will be fine on saturday
I had to cancel my first date this Saturday due to Influenza, is a long phone call session with my date a good replacement?
I fucking hate having the flu right now.
>>17034608
I'll just leave her be and see how she is in person on Saturday and if she's still acting weird I'll ask her face to face if not I'll let it slide for now. Thank you for the advice!
Do you feel lighter?
Anyone
Is S flirting?
I've just moved to a new city and I'm more interested in just making friends at the moment.
Thanks
>>17034562
/pol/ pls go and stay go
Is it reasonable to look for someone who is not into partying in the weekends?
>>17034312
Can't really do much about what happened. Just gotta try to work through it consciously now, with the coping skills you've developed as a functional adult.
>>17034359
Man you seriously need to relax. And yeah, the hair's fine, it's literally "generic short hair", it can't be bad unless you manage to fuck it up in a special and unexpected way.
(side note, your face is so fucking familiar i thought i knew you first time you posted, and you keep posting pics so i keep getting these deja-vu feelings)
>>17034677
Nope
You're both incredibly lame btw
Hi /adv/,
for my question my background is important: I am a almost 24 years old kissless, dateless virgin with no friends and never have been in a club or bar so far...basically beta max.
Recently I have been invited to join a group (mostly women) clubing but I have no idea what you do there or what dinks I would like since I have no experience.
>My questions towards boys and girls:
>Which advice can you give me on not embarrassing myself?
>What should I avoid what should I deffinetly do?
>Should I dress myself specially or how should I dress?
My goal is just not to seem strange or awkward so I can see the people without embarresment on a daily basis (work).
(anyone) Girl here, not experienced with looking for a date/friends since all of it came either from social circles or schools - should I go to a pub alone or is that like slapping a "I'm a slut, pls fuck me" sign on my arse? I'm new in the town and I wanna make friends.
When does size matter?
>>17034905
if size fits, it'll sit
>>17034893
I wouldn't think you're a whore if you were dressed nice. I don't think anybody would. Some people might see you like a lion sees a lone gazelle though lol
>>17034883
Bring something with you to do (like a gameboy sp). If you are a beta, u mifht get both overwhelmed and bored @ the same time.
>>17034883
speaking from experience...
most people in clubs are socially adept. if you can't hold a conversation or are significantly inept, it'll be kinda weird.
if you really want to go, get drunk when you get there bro. it makes interaction 20x + 1 easier. If you can, take some xanax beforehand, or pre-game if drugs (lol because alcohols not a drug) aren't your thing
gl
>>17034883
Drink, dance, and look up the club's dress code. All one of the girls about your outfit a few days beforehand if you're in serious doubt.
>>17034893
You're not a slut until someone's dick is in your mouth, but most of the people that will approach you are trying to put their dick in your mouth.
Where do you live?
I feel soulless/depressed/unmotivated to change
am i destined to spend my life alone, or are these traits someone can look past?
>>17034528
Strong female characters don't necessarily have male traits. They're nurturing and empathetic and stick up for what they believe in. But that also could describe a male character so it's really black and white
>>17034905
when it's so big or so small that it's not pleasurable. different women prefer different kinds of dicks
>>17034936
Do you have a penis?
>>17034943
yes
>>17034528
I wouldn't differentiate much. Make her too emotional and you end up with a clichéd Barbie. If you have no problem writing men well, you shouldn't have a problem with women either.
>>17034925
>Where do you live?
UK
>>17034945
Unless you're a twink you're fucked.
>>17034959
No idea what bar culture is like there. Sorry, m8. Go to a pub and talk to some old dudes about your problems, I guess.
Question for the guys -
So I'm the type of person who goes mental when it comes to birthdays and Christmas. I love both and have no self control when it comes to buying gifts for others. I spend the entire year listening out for what people want, then BOOM, on their birthday there it is all wrapped up lovely. It's the one thing I'm good at in life.
Super important birthday of a super important person is coming up and I'd like to get them something really special.
Should I ask them specifically what they would like, or just go balls deep with a surprise of something I think they'll like?
>>17034975
Whatever makes you happy.
>>17034936
Other soulless/depressed
>>17034975
I'd personally like nothing so I could reciprocate in kind.
>>17034959
>UK
Don't defend yourself.
>>17034975
Personally I would much rather prefer being surprised, but of course if you ask them you'll have a better chance of getting them something they would like.
>>17034989
I don't do it so I can get anything in return and actively put people off buying anything for me (I'd rather just them take me for lunch or something so we can both enjoy the experience), but I appreciate the point you're making.
>>17034995
It's worse than rape in the UK right now.
How much do women care for potential?
I've had some setbacks in my life and am now growing strong again.
Currently I have a few close friends, am getting an education, and going to begin working out soon.
I had to do a lot of therapy to get here, but it was all situational, and now that I'm out of the situation im getting better.
So is it attractive or not to meet a guy who doesn't have much, but is consistently improving himself?
>>17035003
>actively put people off buying anything for me
Jeez you really are self-absorbed aren't you? You maniacally turn other people's birthdays into a personal fetish and then dissuade other people from acknowledging your own so that you're the "bestest most thoughtfulest friend ever better than all the rest omg."
>>17035010
Flip the situation and ask yourself if you fund a girl like that attractive
We had sex again :)
>>17034918
sadly I do not have a gameboy...
also this sounds creepy
>>17035011
Wow, I can smell the bitterness from here. Chill out a bit.
I just don't feel comfortable receiving gifts from people, never have done. I'm always incredibly grateful, I'd just rather save people the money.
>>17034923
I can usually hold up conversations
I do will not take any drugs
I have difficulties on getting drunk (slavic liver)...never even got wasted even though I tried but I do not look forward to it
>>17035014
I probably wouldn't care.
My only negative thought would be that as soon as she's back in shape she'd go find someone new and "better," that I'd just be a placeholder.
That's actually basically what I'm doing/plan to do with the girls in my life now.
It's understandable.
>>17034925
>Drink, dance, and look up the club's dress code.
what should I drink?
I do not know how to dance
We do not know which club...maybe several?
>All one of the girls about your outfit a few days beforehand if you're in serious doubt.
the group is pretty small (less than 7 people), would feel awkward to ask such a thing
>>17035032
>I'd just rather save people the money.
Who made their money any of your business? Do they get a say in how much time and money you spend in this self-confessed zeal of yours?
>>17034975
I'm a guy
I personally do not like birthday, christmas, etc and do not celebrate my birthday.
I also do not like surprises so I would like to be asked what I would want to get...
(even though my answer would be honestly "nothing")
Guy here. How long/chances would you give a guy if he suffered from anxiety and could not get an erection, but still makes you cum 2-3 times a night with oral?
Guys and also girls: do you find a guy, who always opposes peer pressure and is stubborn about his opinions a dick?
And when a girl does that?
>>17034217
>mfw as soon as they are removed, they come back
Do you girls like guy asses?How do you like em?
>>17034293
This is how it SHOULD be. People who just jump right into it with little to no prior communication are the weird ones honestly.
>>17035079
I'm a guy
I do not like these people regardless of gender
>>17035093
Can I know the reason you do?
>>17035098
I do not like people to tell me what to do even though I clearly have reasons I do not like it
>>17034312
Well, you should probably report it to the police seeing as other children could be in danger while your mom (I'm going to assume your sister was also a child so not at fault through your use of the word "mommy") is out and about. Think about what she could do if you/your siblings left their kids with her.
>>17034616
Eh it depends how well you know them, if it's not well a phone call could just be weird. Maybe just reschedule the date.
>>17034883
I would say don't go overboard with the alcohol, if you don't normally drink you could get totally wasted and embarrass yourself. But a few drinks are good to ease nerves. If you don't know what to drink, I'd say go with vodka mixed with whatever soda you like. It'll taste weird, but you have more chance of liking/tolerating that than any other random drink.
Also, another good piece of advice is just copy whatever people around you are doing. That's the best way to seem like you belong.
>>17035089
I like a nice perky ass I can dig my nails into.
>>17035136
that seems to be ver y good advice
ty anon
what should I talk about...the only things I know are my studies...
besides that /b/ which I should denny obviously
How do you talk to girls at a party without immediately being the most boring motherfucker in the room?
>>17035148
A sense of humor plus having interesting things to say about yourself.
>>17035165
Guess I'm screwed then.
>>17034312
Therapy.
>>17035014
I do.
@all
Do you find talking with people on dating sites easier or harder than doing it IRL? State your gender.
>>17035305
I'm a guy and it's the same for me either way, both in terms of what I say and how willing I am to break the ice.
>>17035148
Don't be boring
>>17035089
I like male butts, sure. If I like the guy, I generally like them
>>17035079
>do you find a guy, who always opposes peer pressure and is stubborn about his opinions a dick?
>And when a girl does that?
I don't think they're a dick, but depending on what it is, I might think they were 3edgy5me or trying too hard to be different. You know, like those tumblr "other girls vs me" pictures
>>17035077
Couldn't get an erection at all? Maybe a few times
>>17035010
This is a lot like the virginity question: it'd depend on why he was a 'late bloomer'. If you're one for the wrong reasons, then it's not good. If you have legitimate reasons, then it's fine
>>17035305
Female. I've never used a dating site, and I've never had trouble talking to people irl anyway.
Is it just me or is the dating advice in this thread crap?
>>17032495
>>17035329
I can't be bothered to sort out what the advice actually is.
My advice is just to ignore complications and act on personal interest. Decide ahead of time how an interested girl would act. Then ask her out. If she falls short of that standard of interest, move on. Otherwise enjoy date.
>>17035329
I don't know, I can't be bothered reading it
>>17035336
>>17035342
Basically, they were suggesting that OP makes the girl jealous by telling her that OP has somebody else and then reacting based on her reaction.
>>17035079
I don't mind people having their own opinions but if they're always going off about them unsolicited and don't respect the opinions of others and can't agree to disagree, then I lose respect and disregard them. Not necessarily a dick but obnoxious and annoying. I don't fuck with people like that, my bubble is chill.
>>17035358
What's the purpose of that?
>>17035358
Oh that sounds retarded.
>>17035362
To ask her out.
>>17035366
Then I think it's retarded. How would telling a girl you're already taken or interested in someone else help you ask someone out? Some people here need to be shot.
>>17035372
I guess it's 4chan autism or just being cunts.
>>17035374
As long as the OP knows how to distinguish good advice from bad. Not that I really care, I've learnt to hide 'how do I ask a girl out?' threads
>>17035381
>are you sure that's tactful?
I think OP did. Still, calling out bad advice will make this place better.
>>17034359
I'd be more worried about your asymmetric eyes bruh
>>17035358
That's high school shit. If you play games you wind up with a girl that also plays games.
Would a girl understand that I want to keep my shirt on during sex?
>>17035387
Calling out bad advice just has people attacking you. Maybe I put too much faith in the OPs here, but it really isn't my problem if they're retarded enough to listen to bad advice over good. I used to offer advice from a female perspective and while this place has become better at ignoring 'hurr durr, women don't know what they want', there's still the idea that a female perspective in these things is worthless.
>>17035372
I guess it's to see if she reacts. Because if you read it, the guy suggested he should apologize and ask her out if she reacts badly.
Because OP hasn't asked her out yet so obviously he's a giant pussy.
>>17035400
Are you sure? Are you sure that the OPs are sometimes just retarded?
>>17034883
Biggest protip: look at what over people are doing. Do that.
>>17035388
He can't do anything about that though, unless somebody invents a way to re-invigorate weakened facial motor nerves
>>17035415
>motor nerves
just do changing the oil
>>17035399
Yes, it's not a big deal.
But if you do that due to some sort of insecurity, I'd try to help you get over it.
is it true that women think they are the only thing in the universe/solipsists?
>>17035410
Maybe OP is used to being wrong and wants to check to see what others think.
>>17035410
It doesn't matter how she reacts. If he's told her he's dating someone else, then why would she want him? Either he's taken and not available, or if he started dating her, she'd be dating a guy who'd dump his girlfriend for another girl. Neither is desirable
>>17035414
No, sometimes OPs are retarded too. It's both.
>>17035424
Yeah, I said that the OPs are retarded...
>>17035424
Read it ffs
It's to gauge HER REACTION not to deceive her so obviously he'd tell her that the person he wants to date is actually her
He already got himself in the corner because she thinks he doesn't want a gf
>>17035432
I have read it, you retard. What's he supposed to do with her reaction? She'd think he's got a girlfriend so he'd be off the market and therefore unavailable to her even if she was interested. Are you one of the people in that thread that thought it was a good idea or something?
>>17035437
Well what you suggest he do If you are so clever?
>>17035437
The purpose of it is to get her pissed
I know a guy who does that to every girl hes flirting with and admittedly he's a retard, but it does give him some kind of sense of whatever the chick is into him
Because if she throws shitstorm over it that pretty good indication don't you think?
Then again not everyone could pull it off and have the girl still want to date him.
See folks this is why one does not call out bad advice.
>>17035448
>I'm afraid of confrontation
>>17035445
Ask her out? You know, what normal people would do, instead of playing games like a 15 year old. No wonder so many guys here are single.
>>17035447
If that was supposed to convince me it's not a stupid idea, it didn't work
>>17035451
To be fair its a bit of a shitstorm. Not that guy though
Love triangles. Or Guy 1, likes girl but, girl likes Guy 2..
Despite Guy 1 showing actual interest and making effort to get close with her Guy 2 suddenly gets interested and asks her out and she says yes.
Is their some kind of reasoning behind this?
More then once I've been guy number 1.
And yes, I realize I should stop being in these situations. I hate myself for even trying.
Is there a way to ever win in this type of situation?
>>17035455
I resent that insinuation. I'm single for far more pathetic reasons!
>>17035447
>hey lets piss off whoever likes us, I am sure that'll get us a date.
>>17035455
Whatever nignog
>>17035455
But she thinks he doesn't want a gf. How does he deal with that? He won't hear the end of "Muhh I thought you didnt want a gf"
>>17035477
Guys who piss girls off get a lot of dates
Where do you think the "why do girls date arseholes" meme come from? Because arseholes get girls
>>17035035
It just doesn't sound like the right place for you. Still, find out for sure, go and have a few drinks and talk to some peeps, see where the night takes you.
>>17035489
But, do they develop into meaningful relationships. I think not, unless the girl hates herself.
>>17035491
well, I think this is no place for me either but I do not want to stay alone my entire life...
I worked so hard to become "likable" so I will not waste this chance
Guys. How tall were you when you graduated high school? How tall/old are you now?
>>17035466
That's not a love triangle. She'd have to be showing interest in you too.
But if I were to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume she WAS interested in you, you didn't pull the trigger fast enough.
She can't be expected put her life on pause, just because you may might, possibly be interested in her (but not enough to ask her out).
Staring at her for an extra long 5 seconds whenever your eyes meet is not anywhere near as obvious as, "Hey, want to go on a date". She's not a mind reader.
>>17035501
1,88 m and 1,88 m
Can I get a gf if I have basically no friends?
I don't really care about having friends, but I can't stop thinking about getting a gf. Are friends just a pre-requisite?
Guys
My bf's penis gets dry a lot, and I think that makes it painfully sensitive during sex. Do you have any recommendations for moisturisers or lotions or something? I think it might have something to do with his type 1 diabetes. I've tried to convince him to go to the doctor to figure out what's wrong but he never goes.
I've heard coconut oil can work?
>>17035501
i am grill, but I stayed the same height from 12-18, then when I was 19 or 20, I grew another inch and a half.
My dad had similar. He was puny, tiny, frail through his entire adolesence, and shot up to 6'2 in his early 20s. He said family members always had late effects of puberty.
If you're expecting to grow more, look at family history.
>>17035513
Try sucking him off a lot first maybe? Just throwing it ou there
>>17035511
Your chances of getting a gf will increase tenfold, if you have some friends.
Every gf i had so far was introduced to me by some friend of mine.
>>17035501
6'0" when I graduated. 6'1.5" now in mid 20s
it is possible to keep growing bro
>>17035498
I don't blame you, I think it's admirable that you've taken steps and have made a change, and wish to further improve. Says a lot about you. gl
>>17035519
ty
I hope I will not screw this up...
only chance since 3,5 years...
>>17035501
5'7". 5'7". 27
>>17035305
>Do you find talking with people on dating sites easier or harder than doing it IRL? State your gender.
Male. You're doing it wrong.
You don't use dating sites to get to know people. You use dating sites to secure an in real life conversation where you get to know them.
>>17035079
>Guys and also girls: do you find a guy, who always opposes peer pressure and is stubborn about his opinions a dick?
Depends on how they go about it.
I fall in to this category, but I'm not obstinate fo for the same of obstinacy (I don't oppose peer pressure for the sake of it). I keep an open mind and am willing to experiment, but I have a powerful sense of self principles and I rarely change them unless sufficiently compelling reasons are found. I doubt lord anything over anyone and I respect everyone has their opinions, but I simply am how I am and I don't compromise who I am.
But f you're someone who refuses to acknowledge that anyone else can be right, constantly tries to prove everyone else wrong, and can never admit they are at fault, you're a dick (and probably a hipster douche)--regardless of gender.
>>17035516
Saliva isn't known for its moisturising powers. It's known for the opposite I think? I do suck him off a lot first (<3 giving bjs), but if he has dry skin before I even start, it's going to get sensitive/painful quickly.
There's only so much using more lube, etc. can do if the skin is dry/irritated.
>>17035505
Well,
Okay maybe it was more of a stupid situation I let myself into. As in I'm interested in a girl she's not interested in me. I work to get close to her she goes along with it. Then the guy gets interest in her and throws me away.
Then I get shiter shattered over it.
Fuck I hate myself.
Making my interest known isn't so hard to do but, it fucking figures.
>>17035532
Maybe dip it in a glass of water?
>>17035532
Use some products on it that are for dry skin, yeah coconut or macadame extract is good. And i mean not when having sex, but multiple times a day, so it can heal back to normal
>>17035513
It's called Lube.
Do you guys use condoms?
If you do, only use water based lubrications because oil based ones will eat away at the structural integrity of the condom and cause them to rip.
K-Y is a pretty popular brand of water based (though I'm not really a fan of water based in general, it dries weird--and often)
And Gun Oil is by far and away my girlfriends favorite brand of oil based.
P.S. 30 seconds of googling says:
1.) Coconut oil will rip through a lot of condoms
2.) Coconut oil stains
3.) Sometimes mold grows in coconut oil (so do you really want to expose your vagina to that?)
>>17035475
>I resent that insinuation. I'm single for far more pathetic reasons!
Seconding that.
>>17035501
5'7" (170cm). Stayed that way.
>>17035501
6 foot 0, now 6 foot 0, although I graduated last year.
Tests
>>17035553
I'm not asking about lube during sex. I'm asking about what he can use to moisturise the dry areas on his penis. You don't use K-Y or Gun Oil to moisturise your elbows, do you? It's dry whether we have sex or not, and no matter what kind of lube we use the dryness will still cause a problem.
I'm concerned about the dryness because it interferes with our sex life, but it also interferes with him jerking off and is just generally uncomfortable for him.
>>17034460
Not really, to be honest. Usually it's the other way around. Most of the time she's an endless waterfall of chatter towards me and I'm the one teasing her about the things she tells me. She'd get all mock-defensive, hit me for it, or cheerfully tell me more despite or perhaps because of the teasing. Usually a combination of all those. The majority of our time together is like that: her endless chatter, my endless witty responses.
Though to be fair, for a long time she was very eager to have me come along, very passionate about the destination as she tried to convince me, and very considerate with the doubts I had before I signed on. I'm also the only guy coming along, so just making sure she doesn't expect me to bring my rainbow thong to the beach.
I like our time together and she keeps asking to see me (nothing serious, just if I'm around to be with her) so she probably enjoys it too. But more than that? No idea. It's probably just Something Insignificant in this case.
Also pic related if you replace 'bed' with 'room'
Okay, grill here. How much of a pain in the ass is it when a girl acts.. tsundere I guess? I'm not much of a weeb or anything, but I can't really find a better term atm, sorry it's kind of late.
I'm seeing a guy, it's nothing official yet, but we hang out at his place, play games together and/or talk pretty much daily. I like him, he likes me, no problem there.
The thing is, I have some anxiety issues, nothing too major and I've somewhat learnt how to cope with them. I have huge problems verbalizing that I like someone/something (I was bullied/socially outcast growing up, and since kids are dicks literally anything I did differently or at all would end haunting me for weeks/months, shutting up about things came pretty naturally), and in this relationship that has kind of manifested itself in me somewhat berating him, all jokingly of course. I don't act like this is the case at all, cuddling, kisses, sex, no problem. It's just that I can't seem to tell him anything without veiling it in sarcasm or some other roundabout way.
I know how I work, and in my previous relationship I could eventually muster up some compliments, "I love you"s and such, but yeah, anxiety is doing is thing and I'm really worried about him getting tired of my antics and losing interest. The dynamic with my ex was different, and I guess that adds a lot to me feeling nervous about this whole situation.
Fellow guys
What would you do if your girlfriend wanted to get a tattoo sleeve? I think that is very unattractive on women, and she's so gorgeous I don't want to see her do that to herself. Yet she really wants one. I feel very indifferent about this.. Obviously, it's her body and I can't force her to do anything. But I just feel very conflicted because I like her a lot, and I feel like this will hurt my attraction toward her. I mean I really care about her, and she's beautiful. But I really really dislike tattoos..
>>17035637
Depends on the guy.
Personally, I wouldn't put up with it, but that's because I've always, ALWAYS liked more straight forward people (opposites attract and all that. While I'm always positively intentioned, I'm the kind of guy that's opaque as fuck and is insanely mischievous with that).
My best friend is actually pretty "tsundere" if I think about it. She's pretty cold and harsh, but deep down she's pretty fragile and loves the people she loves. When she's drunk she's all fucking "tsun" though, and it annoys the ever living shit out of me to the point where I've seriously considered completely dropping her as a friend. If i'm honest, our relationship has never been as close as it once was since that day. I love her, but I don't think I could last a week being in a relationship with her (there was a while when were FWB's that I think she was hinting she wanted to--but I think even she pretty quickly realized it would never work)
In the end, it all comes down to the guy and the personalities involved. Some guys will have higher tolerances, some guys might even specifically enjoy it. Everyone is different.
>>17035670
Not much you can do, voice your opinion but be careful you don't blatant say she'll look unattractive
>>17035306
>>17035530
But don't you find people online much more "exigent"? Like, IRL if you say a joke that ends up going wrong, you can easily save the conversation and obviously you get a clear feedback (her reaction).
If this happens online, the girl may become cold, stop replying or some other bullshit and you're unlikely to save the conversation.
>>17035637
It's fine until I'm not in the mood for it, or until the situation makes it inappropriate to do so. Both of those are pretty rare but it's only a matter of time. You'd do well to get over it before that moment arrives.
>>17035637
Relax, it doesn't sound like it's a problem between you two.
>>17035771
>Like, IRL if you say a joke that ends up going wrong, you can easily save the conversation
I think you're overestimating our social skills here, anon
>>17035670
I'd offer her my negative feedback if she asked for it, and then leave if she got it.
>>17035771
Even if that is the case, it doesn't enter into my comfort. If I put her off then I put her off. Whatever. I'm doing the best I can.
Everytime i am traveling to my work with the train i sometimes see cute girls sitting what would a girl do if they saw someone they actually liked
>>17035771
Think of initiating contact online like one giant prolonged ice breaker.
There is every equal chance in real life that if you open with a flirting/raunchy remark a girl will just give you a cold look, tell you to fuck off, and walk away.
Online is NOT the dating part, it is NOT the getting to know you part, it is merely the, "Hey, i'm grabbing your attention, are you interested in getting to know each other?" ice breaker.
The EXACT same thing happens in real life, except the ice breaker just lasts longer since the quality of information you have to work off of is significantly worse, and you therefore sometimes require more of it to make that decision.
Honestly, all of my most successful online dates were the ones where there was little to no lead in time (like I once messaged a girl at 9 am, chatted with her 'til 10 am. Told her I was going to be at X location at lunch and said if she was interested she was welcome to join me. We spent the next 8 hours hanging out. And my girlfriend--we just had our 1 year last month--we traded exactly 4 messages before deciding to meet).
Things not to do when being intimate with the other gender
>>17035828
Stick your finger up their asshole without asking
>>17035828
Stick their finger up your asshole without asking
>>17035828
Fart
>>17035828
Chewing, biting is fine but don't chew anything
>>17035869
Haha, I sometimes pretend to chew my girlfriends hair for shits and giggles. It's long enough that it's pretty much always in both of our mouths anyway xD.
>>17035828
>Things not to do when being intimate with the other gender
Talk about/bring up/compare to past lovers.
Make stupid jokes that they'd take as offensive
Pick up your phone to answer a text.
is it weird to offer a ride to someone that didn't ask for one?
i talk to this girl frequently. she was telling me about a party that she was going to on saturday. we got to the same uni and she doesn't have a car so i said
>if you need a ride just let me know, please don't ride with drunk people
and she hasn't replied for 3 hours, we were going back and forth messaging with 1-5 minute intervals before i sent that
>>17035889
>Pick up your phone to answer a text.
depends the situation. when me and my gf have sex we generally go for several hours of pretty casual sex and i'll often be checking reddit/changing songs/etc while she's riding me. being casual about things makes it feel less serious and more fun
So I'm sure this has been asked tons of times, but I didn't see it in this thread, so I figured I'd ask anyway. Feel free to just link me somewhere else.
How do I do online dating right? How do I balance being straightforward and not betraying my power level (even if it's just the run of the mill play too much vidya)? What should I do for pictures? I'm a guy, and as I understand it, a guy can easily kill his chances of getting any non-bot replies by setting up his profile poorly.
Maybe more to the point, what are some sample red flags? For instance, I play league of legends, and I'd say that the amount I currently play isn't really a problem, but I suspect that mentioning league at all is probably an immediate red flag for the vast majority of girls. What else?
Pretty much all I've got in mind so far is to mention that I am a musician (primarily violin, but should I mention variety? seems like it could come off as bragging if done poorly), and get a variety of pictures. I enjoy animated movies in general, so is it worth mentioning that somehow? Not like "I like anime" necessarily, but maybe suggesting that I'd be down to watch Disney or DreamWorks or some shit? Or is that too juvenile?
Or am I just way overthinking it? I'm prone to that.
>>17035906
>>if you need a ride just let me know, please don't ride with drunk people
That last half was fucking weird.
If you just left it at the first half, then that would have been you being nice. But the second half sounds judgmental as fuck, and potentially possessive.
Before you say it, I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and instead of implying a judgmental, "people who drink are trash--you are trash", what you actually meant was, "Please be careful. Don't risk getting in a car with a drunk driver". Even then though, you're not her mom (and you worded it terribly).
What do you do from here? Nothing. She'll either get back to you or she won't. You can try clarify the misunderstanding but that's a hit or miss, you're better served just changing the subject and then if it the situation comes up later, clarifying what you meant at that moment.
>>17035919
well firstly it sounds like you're thinking about it all wrong.
online dating isnt a game that you play to try to trick people into liking you by hiding things or acting different than you would in real life. if you like video games, anime, whatever the fuck, don't hide that. video games will turn away a lot of girls, but then why would you want those girls if they don't like similar hobbies to you? your goal should be finding someone that fits you, not trying to conform yourself to fit someone elses shit.
saying "musician" is a bad thing IMHO. you can mention that you play instruments as a hobby, but in my opinion your profile should be pretty simple
>current job/goal job
>education/future plans for school
>things that you did in highschool/college (fraternities, sports teams, band, etc)
>possibly a reason why you're on the dating website, this helps you seem more relatable rather than the cliche depressing "my life sucks i can't find a girl" shit
>favorite music, youtube links to songs possibly
>anything else you can think of
when i was doing online dating, some people actually had links to youtube videos of them talking through their profile. and that was really cool to see.
>>17035672
Yeah, I agree with you. Somehow this behaviour only affects me specifically with him and I think it's probably due to the somewhat iffy place the relationship's at. We weren't friends or anything before this, but we get along great together and imo it feels like we known eachother for longer than we actually have (That felt really cheesy to write but whatever). I think I might've mentally categorized him as a person who can take the bantz, something that's usually reserved for my closest firends, and I'm probably taking it a bit overboard at the moment. It also has the benefit of me being able to avoid the afromentioned issues so yay.. I guess.
>>17035802
Lmao, that pic. I'm not exactly like that though luckily. It usually ends up with him insisting that I must hate him, me reassuring him that "No, I would not ride someone's dick for 45mins if I hated him", only to follow up that up with an underwhelming insult (He's defenitively more bara than yaoi if you catch my drift, pretty bearish, mostly muscle etc, so calling him a jiggly fatass is always a good one). Tsundere isn't really the correct terminology but I couldn't really think of anything better when I posted, sorry.
When going down on a woman as foreplay, if I notice she's horny enough to com from it alone, should I keep at it until she cums and then fuck her or should I get close to it and then fuck her?
>>17035946
well fuck, i totally meant it the second way, didn't even think about someone interpreting it the first way
she got on me before for texting her while at a stoplight, so i was just returning the favor trying to show i cared. guess that backfired ha.
>>17035981
This^
>>17035914
What the fuck is your sex life that you're fucking browsing Reddit while she rides you? Sounds fucking boring dude.
>>17035981
Unless you know you can get her there from fucking her, I think it's more considerate to finish the job when you know you've started.
Even if the girl's faking it, if she convinces me in the moment that I got her there, I get turned on knowing that I was at least partially responsible for getting her there. My last girlfriend admitted to faking it sometimes after the fact, but she also verified (even after we broke up) that I DID get her there a few times. It used to bother me, but then I realized that being "good at sex" isn't something that is super important to me, beyond making sure my partner is enjoying it as much as I am. And if faking it for my enjoyment brings them enjoyment too, I figure it's all for the best anyway.
Perfume as a present? How do I know she will like the smell?
>>17035919
As a dude who I guess successfully did online dating (i'm this dude >>17035823), you're way over thinking it.
Most people don't really read the profiles they just skim.
I wrote a fucking novella length profile for mine; mostly because I was writing it as self-reflective--it read almost like a journal entry and was kind of a glimpse in to the way my mind works and how I see myself.
My girlfriend is a fucking library sciences major. She works in a bookstore. She's literally read hundreds of books a year.
Even she admits she just skimmed my profile.
>>17035972
Eh, different strokes for different folkes. As long as you let him know you're just teasing, that you truly care about it, and he's comfortable with that dynamic, it's all good.
A cautionary tale though, my other best friend (the one I've known since we were middle schoolers, so almost two decades long) he's pretty bad at expressing himself, and it's tanked every single relationship he's ever been in because eventually his inability to express appreciation, gratitude, or to give a compliment ends up making his girlfriends feel insecure as fuck. I've never seen him leave a relationship where both of them aren't miserable.
Banter is fine, but make sure you mix in some genuine positivity.
>>17035991
that's just how were are lol. we have sex a lot and it's generally a 4-6 hour long affair full of breaks and lots of positions
we browse /gif/ a lot too during sex, just watching porn videos and seeing if there are any interesting positions to try.
>>17035950
Well, I actually do make some money as a violinist, though it's mostly wedding gigs as a supplementary income, but I think I understand what you're saying - okay to say that I'm in a wedding quartet, but less okay to just say "I play instruments" outside of a hobby section?
Overall I guess I get the "just be honest" vibe, though. I guess I'll try to focus on that then.
>>17036006
I wouldn't have thought of that. Better to overdo or underdo?
Does she actually like me touching her boob's or is she just putting it on? Are they even erogenous?
>>17036007
>>17035972
That sounds like how I masturbate. It's great to hear there are people out there like me... I can ride my dildo for hours while doing other things. I wish my bf was like that too.
>>17036026
I like my boobs being touched but it has to be done in the exact right way... otherwise tbqh it doesn't really feel like much. If she hasn't shown you how to make them feel good chances are you're doing it wrong... most guys need to be taught in my experience.
>>17036030
Best way to touch boob's?
>>17036026
nipples can make girls go wild, i don't know about the rest of the boobs though.
warning: my girl used to go crazy whenever i pinched her nipples but then she got them pierced and now she doesn't even react when i touch them. kind of strange
>>17035670
I don't like any body mods, so I'd express my concern. The only acceptable tattoo for me is one who can easily be hidden by clothes, isn't a name or poem, not too small. A nice big flower or other cute thing tattoo is OK for me.
>>17035817
They would do nothing. At most, they'd give small signals.
>>17035823
Thanks. I found the last part of your post specially helpful. I will keep that in mind.
>>17035828
Don't kill them, don't run them over, don't slaughter them, don't make soup of them.
>>17035906
If you aren't also going to the party, you're a fucking cuck for taking her there.
>>17035914
>i'll often be checking reddit while she's riding me
thanks for the laugh, been reading too many depressing threads
>>17035919
>but I suspect that mentioning league at all is probably an immediate red flag for the vast majority of girls.
So you play a lot of League, and you want to date girls that think "ew, he plays VIDEO GAMES, must be some kind of basement-dwelling neckbeard"?
>>17035999
How would it ever not bother you if your partner was faking orgasms?
It's one of those things where i wish i was still a naive kid and could pretend """normal""" people at least drop the hiding/lying/manipulation shit during 1on1 sex.
>>17035991
I'm not that in anon (in fact i'm the anon who brought up texting being a no go), but actually... my girlfriend is incredibly fond of trying to "distract" me while I'm reading/browsing the web. She likes watching me try not to squirm or moan, while she has me in her mouth. She once took it to mounting me while I was answering a work call <.<
>>17036007
>we have sex a lot and it's generally a 4-6 hour long affair full of breaks and lots of positions
And we're like that too, but still... I'd be pretty "wtf?" she decided to start browsing instagram or buzzfeed while we were ACTUALLY having sex.
>>17036021
>I wouldn't have thought of that. Better to overdo or underdo?
The best is always to be succinct. Short and sweet, but meaningful. That's crazy fucking hard to do though.
Like I said, I was just honest in mine and it worked out for me.
>>17036038
I think it varies girl to girl? And some girls are more sensitive than others.
Sensitivity builds up for me as they're played with. It usually feels a lot nicer if a guy starts out sort of lightly brushing against my nipples almost like he's trying to tickle them. After a little bit of that he can be rougher with my nipples and it feels amazing. My boobs usually get sensitive in general as the nipples are played with.
A lot of guys just go straight to the pinching which doesn't feel great until there's been some, like... boob-foreplay.
>>17036049
If they're faking it cause they feel sorry for me, it would be one thing. But in the case given, she made it clear it had more to do with wanting me to feel good about myself. She also didn't stop communicating how I could do better in the future, so it's not like she just gave up on improving things for her. It's context, honestly, just like most relationship questions on this board tend to be.
>>17036049
Depends on whether a game or two every few days counts as a lot. But I get your point - hiding it won't do me any favors, ultimately.
>>17036050
Thanks anon. I'll keep that in mind when I'm putting my profile together.
>>17036045
>If you aren't also going to the party, you're a fucking cuck for taking her there.
i live on campus and i'm actually busy doing shit that weekend anyway, but i can spare 15 minutes to drive someone to an off campus apartment
>>17036042
>ruining a perfect pair of nipples
I'll never understand why people do this.
>>17036075
Being too nice is being dumb.
Femanons what do you honestly think about /r9k/ guys?
Socially awkward/depressed 20 year olds who never had a gf, close friends and are not close at getting a rich career either and have mostly spent their youth in front of their computer.
How to make bf cum more times during sex?
@all
What do you think is an acceptable distance for a potential partner?
Whenever I look for girls online, they always end up being on the other side of the city. The distance is about 33 km (20 miles). If there's heavy traffic (which is most of the time), it takes about 1 hour and 30 minutes to get there. If there's no traffic, 45 minutes or a little less.
Public transport is even slower.
>>17036242
Isn't once per sex session enough?
>>17036245
Was hoping for 2-3 times, so it is extends time having sex without stopping
How to make bf laugh at jokes?
>>17036255
If you want to extend sex time without stopping, you should look for how to make him last longer. Guys who can cum multiple times are VERY rare and coming makes a guy very tired, so I doubt you'd get it often.
>>17036255
You pretty much don't want anything touching your dick after you cum. Dick gets soft and you feel totally asexual.
Just wait 5 min, tell him to eat you out meanwhile and then go for it again.
So ladies:
You're single, and you're good friends with a guy you work with. You see him every day at work, you text/snap each other casually, you go to lunch every so often. We've gone out to bars and stuff together, but only in groups (work stuff, holidays, etc). Never hooked up. We flirt casually, but again, nothing serious.
Would it be weird if it was your birthday and he bought you a bunch of stuff? Nothing over the top. I was thinking like a birthday card, a gift card, a bottle of wine, and a t-shirt I know has sentimental value to her.
I just need to know if a co-worker you've known as just a friend for the past 7-8 months suddenly starts doing romantic things, does that come off as romantic or creepy? Would it help if I wrote a letter telling her how I feel and put that in her card?
>>17036266
Make funny jokes. Nice dubs btw
>>17034199
How can you tell if a girl is single or not
M 18
6/10 on a good day
I'm one of the nicest guys you'll ever meet but doing that doesn't get me anywhere.I'm pretty athletic. I run cross country and track. I was the lead in a musical, good voice. No major problems but I do have glasses and a tendency to talk to much. What can I do to improve?
Girls: Assuming he was single, would you fuck Weird Al?
Ok so
>catched this girl looking a lot at me on a class
>she was kind of qt so i just talked to her and her friend
>Im the " funny" guy in most of my social circles so i tried to make her laugh a lot and it kind of worked
>when we are alone things go pretty smooth until i realise we are alone and i cant be funny anymore
>i decided to be a macho and ask her out for an ice-cream
>mfw she said yes
The thing is... I dont know what to do from here, how the fuck do i behave on a date? i had only dated one girl and i fucked it up hard, so i need help.
Boys and girls, how does desire really works? like, does people always go with the ones they look like the most?
I usually go around a lot to rock bars/rockabilly bars, and I usually feel most attracted to girls from those scenes than from other places. But I don't look like them at all
Although I grabitate more towards a very 70s casual look nowadays (because the warm weather is coming around) i definetely have a more Italian style. Think Gianni Agnelli or Lino Ieluzzi or even Marcello Mastroianni, those are my style referents. I wear sharp black shoes, clean and well fitted shirts, and a black-as-night well-combed hair.
People with more references do see that italian vibe, but people with less culture think i'm just a goddamm yuppie
So with my style (and no tattoos on my body at all) i often wonder if the kind of girl I like will like me, because of how different we might look on the surface. And these differences, of course, often push me back. Instead of trying, i just can't avoid to think "i'm not his type..."
What do you think? you think i'm sadly right, or that I should try anyway?
>>17036339
Focus on having fun. She said yes which means you obviously passed the first test. Don't try to impress her, just be yourself. If she likes that, good, if she doesn't, then she wasn't worth your time in the first place.
Just make sure to keep talking (or better yet, keep HER talking). Dead air will kill a date. have a couple topics in your back pocket ready to go when the conversation slows down. Ask questions and let her steer the conversation.
Other than that, yeah, just chill and have fun. You got the date, clearly what you've been doing so far has worked and she obviously has some interest in you. Don't worry about trying to be cool or putting up this false front. Walk in knowing you're the man and not giving any fucks, chicks will pick up on that confidence.
>>17036241
Dude here, but I often wish there was a congruent female demographic. I love awkward nerds and girls like that are so rare (at least outside of a CS dept maybe: i went with med).
If i was a straight chick i'd probably have a ridiculous v-card collection, would feel strange being a "slut" but i doubt i could resist.
That probably isn't very reassuring to hear from a guy, but i'm sure there's actual femanons who are into exactly your 'type'.
Though this definitely makes me wonder what kind of sex lives nerdy fags enjoy.
>>17036242
>>17036255
>extends time having sex without stopping
Being able to go continuously is extremely rare, guys have a "refractory period" in which their bits prepare the next load. The average for adult men is ~30min. Mine's very low, ~5 minutes, but that's still a major break, can't just keep pumping.
Bumping my question: >>17036245
>>17036285
Bumping my question
>>17036285
The bottle of wine is the only sort of creepy gift. I wouldn't write a long gushing letter. Maybe just ask her on a date, using that word instead of "lunch".
>>17036387
Just try no matter what the distance. Each person has different feelings about how far is too far, and they may be willing to travel further than they usually would depending how much potential they see in a relationship. Some people are fine with LDR even if it's not ideal. Personally an hour is getting toward my upper limit, but if you meet in between that's only half an hour.
>>17036443
Thank you. We work together at a liquor store and I was going to get her a bottle of her favorite.
>>17036443
>The bottle of wine is the only sort of creepy gift.
Out of curiosity? How old are you and where are you from? Because as a guy in his late 20's (different anon) that's pretty much the default go to gift--a nice wine that I think might suit their pallete. There's like zero romance behind it. In fact I think the most intimate non-jewlery/activity gift I've given was basically a toy (that had a very specific, sentimental, and symbolic value to them).
Girls or guys, why do I feel worthless after confiding in a guy? We seemed to be good friends. We told each other things we wouldn't share with just anybody. He acted very caring until I had to turn him down for a relationship. Of course no one is happy to hear that, but he wasn't sad, he was MAD.
I still cared about him despite not being able to give him romance, so this really hurt, because it feels like he only cared about me under one condition. Was it all faked to get in my pants? Why is it such a hit to my self esteem?
>>17036463
Ok nevermind. If you work at a liquor store, it's fine.
>>17036463
I'm near 30. The only times I've been given wine as a single woman have been when the person was trying to bed me. It'd be a bit sudden to get from a friend who hasn't indicated romantic interest before. It's a more normal gift if you're giving it to a couple at their dinner party.
>>17036474
Penises are just like that, girl. I know because I'm one.
>>17036483
Would being turned down make you feel revolted towards someone who used to be your friend? Would you wish them ill-will? And why?
The times I was rejected, I felt sad, but it didn't change my opinion of the guys.
>>17036505
Only if I felt like the girl has led me on.
>>17036474
>He acted very caring until I had to turn him down for a relationship. Of course no one is happy to hear that, but he wasn't sad, he was MAD.
If you turned him down very rudely, it might be that. Or if he thinks you turned him down for some bullshit reason or a lie, for example. Also, he might have thought you were giving "signs"/"signals" of interest: some guys wrongly believe they can interpret that shit properly, and feel tricked if they think you're inviting them with whatever subconscious hints.
>Was it all faked to get in my pants?
Who knows
>Why is it such a hit to my self esteem?
Because you want to believe you're valuable to dudes for more than sex, and events like this say otherwise
Don't worry, you probably are (most girls here aren't brainless bimbos), you probably already have real male friends to confirm this
>>17036505
>Would being turned down make you feel revolted towards someone who used to be your friend? Would you wish them ill-will?
Nope. Never.
>And why?
Probably because i'm not very imipulsive/hotheaded, and i appreciate the value of friendships (spent years without any).
Ok girls
How do I REALLY know if you're being polite or actually interested in me or just being a good friend?
One of my friends for 2 years now and I pulled an all nighter and texted back and fourth. There was a point that I realized I wasn't getting shit done, so i said, "Aaight I'll stop bothering you so we can get shit done" and she replied with "It's fine! And you're not a bother, I actually like talking to you!" something along those lines.
I'm probably overthinking it as usual.
>>17036481
lol. I wonder how many women have interpreted it that way then because that's literally what I give anyone as birthday/housewarming/congratulatory/whatever gift when I don't know them well enough to get them something more personal (guys I tend to give hard liquors if I know them well enough to now what they drink).
Whatever though I guess, people do tell me that I'm actually way flintier than I think I am.
>>17036505
Not that anon, but nope. Your liking me back has no bearing on the reasons why I liked you in the first place.
It actually took me a while to learn the inverse is true as well lol (you liking me, doesn't mean I have to like you--that sounds obvious as fuck, but there's something intoxicating/blinding about knowing someone is really in to you some times, and I was late to the dating scene so it took me a while to figure out that's what was going on).
>>17036560
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
>>17034199
>Ask them out. This is something that cannot be explained. You either have learned to intuit this or you have not. If you have not, the only way to learn is experience--there are no shortcuts. So it comes back to: Just ask them out.
>>17036573
>there's something intoxicating/blinding about knowing someone is really in to you some times
Yeah this is big for me
On one hand it makes it very hard to say no to people who are obviously very into me.
On the other hand, i don't tend to get into that "unrequited love" shit: if she's not interested, i just move on.
Overall, i think it's a good trait, helps a lot with sex drive differences too: partner being into it turns me on, partner being bored/not enjoying it turns me off.
>>17036573
Maybe I've just had abnormal experiences with wine gifts, then. It's probably no big deal if you do that for everyone. People will see that it's not special for them only. And it doesn't sound like you give additional gifts with it like other anon was planning. I don't have a better neutral gift idea to suggest. I usually bring food or potted plants to that kind of stuff, but maybe those are no good.
Was Helen of Troy a hoe or no?
>>17036524
>>17036554
>>17036573
Thanks for your answers
>I love you too
>Nerd <3
What did she mean by this?
>>17036474
If a guy wants to be more than friends with you there is no point only having him as a friend. He will just feel frustrated and jealous when you meet someone that are allowed to fuck you and he is not.
Do him a favor and make him forget you if you don't want to become anything more than friends, it's how the males are in every animal and species. Look out in nature and you will see the same.
Men are natural competitors when it comes to attracting women for getting fuck buddies or potential partners. When someone is allowed to fuck you and he is not that means you lost and that is unacceptable for a man.
>>17036474
Well if he wanted a relationship, It doesn't sound like it was just to get into your pants. He probably got mad because he was hurt, not just pouting because he didn't get what he wanted
>>17036624
She likes the big bang theory and think you are "funny" like the BAZPONGA guys in that show. You will never become a potential sex partner, these girls only want chads.
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