Hey /adv/
As a 21 year old Virgin, I thought to myself, even if I get in a relationship, or find a potential gf, how will I get over the fact I haven't had experiences yet?
I mean should I just be open about it, that's it's all new to me, and reveal my loserself, if I havend had it going for me this long, why would it now the girl would think. Or should I pretend knowing the relationship will be doomed just for experience's sake?
Questions about past relationships are like the first things that get asked on a date. And even getting her to meet my parents, they never seen me with a girl, it will just be so unnatural and awkward. How will I ever a functioning relationship, or how can I proceed to thinking about kids and family having this gap of virginity for God knows how long..
>>17016602
Play it by ear, it isnt as intimidating as you think, in a few months ask her if theres anything you could do to improve
Same shit here, but I'm 18. Could've had a girl like three times but there always goes something wrong in my emotionally fucked up brain that I might be gay or an autist. Valium numbs the pain well. Cigarettes take care of the excessive passion and coffee makes me run. From what?
What the fuck. Just tell the girl how you feel, what you felt and what worries you. If she can't accept this mental shit we have to struggle with, send the bitch to hell. Or put on Defenestration song by Have A Nice Life and kill the bitch, push her out of the window, whatever.
Fucking hell, I am pissed of as hell. Breaking shit. Sorry man for stealing your thread.
Calm down. Tbh, I think if a girl knows you're a virgin they're going to think its cute (I mean, if youre decent looking I guess). Girls love being the guys first something. The fact that you don't have experience means nothing but please don't take tips from porn, it's never like that irl. You decide if you want to be open about this. I think the girl would appreciate it. If she's not a bitch she'll be real nice about it and make sure you're comfortable. Don't think about kids and a family yet. First you need a girl, then everything will come pretty naturally. Take it step by step.
I dated a 21 yo virgin for 2 years, not sure how far into the relationship I knew (or if I knew before we started dating?), but it didn't matter in the long run. First few times having sex was awkward but after we practiced a bit he ended up being amazing (tip: make sure she cums a few times before sex - but don't tire her out - and during sex before you cum). As for all the other stuff, really what the first anon said, just play it by ear. If you fuck up, there's always a million other girls you can form a relationship with.
Virgin until 25 here. When it finally happened it just came naturally. Didn't even mention anything about being a virgin or inexperienced in any way. Condoms can be tricky though
