My girlfriend asked me what I think about when I jerk off. I told her it's different every time: her, celebrities, past experiences, imaginary people that don't exist. . . . She seemed hurt as she told me that she only thinks of us having sex.
Should I have lied?
Why is honesty seemingly so frowned upon in western culture?
Well, i would only ask my bf that question if i'' down with hearing about how he beats his meat to shemales and furry porn. But i have to admit that i somehow understand your gf. The first time a bf/gf asks you this question you usually stay on the safe side to test the water and see how sensitive they are about that topic. You can go "full honest", later on, when you have progressed to watching porn together or whatever. Weirdly enough, i'm observing that i'm more drawn to porn that has some elemnt in it that reminds me of my bf or our sex. You could watch out for the same and then tell her that. Maybe that vid is especially neat cause the girl has similar boobs as your gf. Or the way she moans reminds you of her. Or they do that position you two love. Things like that
>>16999841
>past experiences
That probably hurt her the most. Don't ever tell a girl you're fantasizing about an ex.
It'd be worse if you lied.
>>16999921
How would she even know? It's his thoughts.
You should have lied about the past experiences part. How would you like to find out she's thinking of her ex's sexually? How turned off would you be.
>>16999890
>beats his meat to shemales and furry porn
THIS
>>16999841
She's lying. Typical woman trying to fuck with your head. That is such a loaded question. You did/said the right thing, but I agree about leaving out the past experiences part.
>>16999890
I don't like watching porn, so my thoughts are all I have if not the actual flesh.
I felt we were progressed enough to be fully honest in that area. Perhaps not? She seems more sensitive than I anticipated.
>>16999914
Yeah, even though it's true I kinda regreted that comment right after I said it. But my thinking about it doesn't mean I want to be with those girls. I guess she might not see it that way.
I told her it wouldn't bother me who she fantasises about because those are her personal thoughts and I trust her not to stray unless she wanted to open a dialogue about a potential open relationship.
She seems to view sex as a far more emotional and intimate act than I do.
>>16999841
>Should I have lied?
Yep.
>>16999926
It honeslty wouldn't bother me.
>>17000000
get AND good advice, well done.
OP, your girl definitely lied to you, and you should have done the same. This is "white lie" territory.
>>16999929
Not my thing, but all the power to the load blowing potential that others see in it.
>>16999941
Maybe you're right, but she seemed really sincere. I believed her.
>>16999996
Uuuuh... Dude. You can't tell her that you fap to your exes. That is a HUGE mistake. Ya blew it. Really badly
>>17000006
She didn't necessarily lie to him. I only watch porn very rarely. When i use my imagination to cum i fantasize about my
Bf, our sex or more a specific situation, that always involves random people i do not know. I never masturbated over people i know irl besides my bf. Masturbating over your exes is next level horrible...
>>17000000
I've had so many relationships that were based on lies. I thought it was just being polite, but it ended up being a headache. I want to try a completely honest relationship to she what happens.
>>17000006
A lie is a lie.
>>17000025
I never said exes, but, yes, it was implied. I said that very briefly. I more emphasised celebrities and made up people. Am I really the only one who looks back on those experiences when trying to get off while in a relationship? It's just fantasy. I don't want to actually associate with those girls anymore.
>>17000040
Horrible to do, or horrible to admit?
>>17000097
You see, honesty doesn't mean you have to tell your boss about the intact corn cernels in your poop this morning. You need to really get your priorities straight. If something isn't relevant and might even potentially hurt peopel, it isn't dishonest to keep it private. For example: if my bf would be dumb enough to ask me about my exes dick sizes i would realize that there's no good outcome to this covcersation. Nobody would gain from it and it might potentially hurt somebody so i would tell him that i don't think we should have this conversation because of the reasons stated. That's not a lie or being dishonest. It's a reality check on cost vs. profit.
And yes, it is a horrible thing to do. I don't know if it's a common thing for guys but i would NEVER even think abiut masturbatig to an ex. That's sick
>>16999841
I remember when my girlfriend asked me the same question. I said her imagination couldn't even begin to fathom the depravity of my fantasies and she would be scarred forever if she took only a glance at them.
She laughed thinking I was joking and dropped the subject.
But if you can't avoid answering telling the truth is the right thing to do, you don't want to create a false image of yourself in her head.
>>16999841
Literally tell her "I think of you babyyyy".
I told my GF when she asked that question "I don't really think of anyone in particular, just the act of sex or sexual things usually. Same for sex dreams." and even that was enough to piss her off.
Lie through your fucking teeth. She WILL NOT BELIEVE YOU AT FUCKING ALL but it's better than telling her the truth.
>>17000119
Yer done bud, of course she thinks sex is more intimate with you.
That's what most women think, how is this not your first rodeo and your still fucking up. I tell my gf I only think of her and use pictures of her, which is true for the most part, but sometimes I use other girls. You never tell them you jerk off to porn or your exes. They take that shit deep, even if they don't admit it.
>>17000125
Both, probably.
>>17000314
Porn is one thing, that's what it's there for. But when you tell a girl you jerk it to thoughts of your ex, they think you want to fuck your ex again if given the chance.
>>16999841
of course you should have lied.
she "seemed hurt" no she WAS hurt.
dont blame western culture for this dingus this was all you. you had a blond moment and your GF is pissed at you. your own fault.
>>17000360
Yeah, that's true. My girl just doesn't like the porn concept. I respect her wishes 95% of the time.
>>17000000
check em.
>>16999841
imagine your girlfriend fantasizing about everything you said, even -ex's-
if you don't care you don't love her, and you should break up w her cause you're a shit head.
