Bf is hooked on porn. He's been hooked for 8 years, we've been together for 2. Sex is pretty shitty and great other times. We don't have enough sex because he faps and is not in the mood when I come home.
Anyway, I am doing shitty things now. I met someone online and we have cyber sex, he makes me feel good and tells me how great my body is etc, things my boyfriend doesn't do. Is this cheating? Should I tell my boyfriend?
Also, my bf and I have talked about this issue for better half of the time we have been together and it's just not changing. I am pretty kinky and willing to try it all, he is not, he is pretty vanilla and just wants his cam whores and hand.
Idk what to do. I love him but yeah.... I have been kind of cheating and wondering if I should tell him.
>>16998789
Well to be honest even if you tell him I doubt he would care since it sounds like he clearly wants other unattainable girls more than you.
Just dont worry too much about it
>>16998789
>Is this cheating? Should I tell my boyfriend?
Yes and yes. If you have to hide something like that from your boyfriend, then you know it's wrong.
>Also, my bf and I have talked about this issue for better half of the time we have been together and it's just not changing.
And it's not going to in the future, so I don't know why the hell you think sticking around is a good idea. Relationships can't run on love alone. Find someone that's compatible with you. Move on.
>>16998794
Okay so I shouldn't be honest about this thing with him?
>it sounds like he clearly wants other unattainable girls more than you.
Exactly... Which is why I don't really feel bad... It's a weird feeling not to feel guilty about it. I only feel guilty for hiding it because I feel like I am lying to him.
>>16998797
You should feel bad because what you did is wrong.
Two wrongs don't make a right. Break up and then act freely, there's never an excuse to cheat.
Is my bf your bf?
I am sick of my boyfriend's mushy cock. Seriously.
>>16998804
>>16998789
ladies it's your fault that your bf couldnt get hard
>>16998800
Yeah I should do that but we have a great relationship other than the shitty sex!
>>16998816
Look, maybe it is but I know with him that he does get hard, he just doesn't get horny with me. Mostly because his sex is wasted on porn/fap.
I am ok with breaking up and being just friends, he is not. I know I won't have issues finding someone who thinks I'm sexy.
I'd say that's enough grounds for a break up. My boyfriend wants it everyday and so do I, we've been together for 6 years and we can't get enough.
>>16998789
Have you tried actually talking to him about this?
And damn, I remember when I used to be a fap slave like him. Know what stopped me? I literally broke my dick and had to go to a doctor. I'm feeling a lot better now, though. Nothing but sexual urges that are getting ready to force me out of the house and find a mate.
What you need to understand is that males bodies are effectively evolved to be like this, we are made to be addicted, to spread our seed and have ourselves a good time. This is just nature playing god again. His brain is probably just confused and thinks the visual stimulation is real, hence addiction to what he's doing to encourage the habit. He is going to need a lot of your help to get over this shit, trust me.
Try telling him every time he feels the urge overcoming him, he should come to you instead. I think if you keep saying things like that, and mabye grab his dick and be flirty with him, he might come around eventually. Beat porn at its own game and try to learn around what time he gets horny basically to rewire his brain.
>>16999010
>we have a great relationship other than the shitty sex!
Trust me, 10 years into a relationship with shitty sex you will want to blow your brains out.
Sex is important. End it now before you get stuck in a torturous situation.
>>16999010
>I am ok with breaking up and being just friends
aww see, if this is true then clearly your relationship isn't as strong as you think, even without his fapping issue.
If you think about being with him life-long... then yeah. Talk to him about it.
Stop doing what you consider it "cheating".
Who knows. Maybe he is cool with an open relationship??? Stranger things have happened.
But if not, then you know, you can still love him and he you, but realize that it just isn't right at this time in your lives.
Breaking up doesn't mean something bad all of the time. Some times it is about growth.
That's a hard one. I wish you happiness
>>16998794
Source?
Technically, it's cheating. I feel that if you're that unhappy with your sex life and your boyfriend, you should break up with him. Your boyfriend hasn't respected you enough to change thus far for you, why would any of this make a difference? Get out and move on. I know it might seem hard, but you shouldn't settle for something you know you're unhappy with.
Pretty sure we have same boyfriend! I am fucking pissed at the situation. I know other guys would fuck me in a heartbeat and he chooses open or real girls that he actually in a relationship with to jerk off to.
>>16999213
Porn, not open
>>16999063
Seconded. OP, try this, but if it fails. break it off.
>>16999063
THIS.
OP, talk as well what kind of things he does like in the porn, and incorporate them into your sex life.
>>16999073
It seems she's already in a torturous situation unfortunately.
>>16999063
>Have you tried actually talking to him about this?
Of course. Many times.
>>16999063
>Try telling him every time he feels the urge overcoming him, he should come to you instead
I have many times.
>>16999063
>mabye grab his dick and be flirty with him, he might come around eventually
I tried but if I come on too strong, he feels weird. Apparently he needs to feel connected to me to fuck me..
>>16999454
>Apparently he needs to feel connected to me to fuck me..
Doesn't this clue you into what's wrong with your relationship that he chooses porn over you?
>>16999454
Lol, are you sure you're dating a man? You read all the time how men are just ready to fuck instantly and for women its all psychological and takes time to get aroused, to feel "connected." Shit, if my gf randomly grabbed my dick I wouldn't feel awkward at all. I wished all women did this.
Tbh my gut says he isn't attracted to you that much. Doesn't give you compliments, would rather look at porn than bang... all the evidence is right there.
Sucks not being sexually compatible but having an otherwise fine relationship doesn't it? My situation is a little different in that gf has vaginismus but we're slowly working on it :\
>>16999460
Evidently it's him being an addict for 8 years. Read the thread.
>>16999465
that doesn't foreclose the possibility that he doesn't feel emotionally connected to her, even if the damage comes from prior to the relationship.
>>16998794
Sfw board retard
>>16998789
Just break up with him and leave it at that. Why hurt his fragile male ego?
Honestly I wouldn't put up with a porn addiction, I don't know why you do.
If he loves porn so much let him have it and leave. Neither of you seem like you have much to lose by separating anyway.
Hmm, i don't know. I think i probably average about 30 minutes a day checking out porn but i still screw the hell out of my gf whenever i see her.
Maybe the difference is that you live together - any semblance of mystery or excitement is gone. It happens to married couples all the time - sex just becomes less important over time. It doesn't have to happen, but it definitely takes work: you guys need to work out and keep fit together, dress nice and/or sexy for each other, go to new places and try new things etc. Even then i think 4-10 times a month would be pretty good.
>>16998789
>is this cheating, should i tell
Yes, up to you but I'd say yes
>what should i do
Tell him his inattention has driven you to cyber sex, and then rape him.
>>16998797
The difference is that THOSE girls aren't interacting with him. They're just objects to him, and (for a sum of money are willing to be those objects).
What you're doing is interacting sexually with someone other than your BF, and that's plain cheating.
You should just break up.
He's pathetically addicted to porn, to the point of neglecting his GF... and you're a lying, degenerate cheater fishing for justification/validation on 4chan, lol
