This might be a rant. I still don't feel the same ever since my ex best friend fucked the girl I wanted. This wouldn't have been so bad if I had not invested so much time, she led me on for awhile and then hearing them banging next door to me(college dorm) while my other friends were around has pretty much broken me. I don't know what's wrong with me. I'm no longer ambitious socially and don't talk to anyone except my roommate and the crazy part is that it has been 2 years since this incident and I'd thought I had gotten over it. Ok well I have gotten over it but more like I feel I lost a part of me since that situation happened. Like all of my smiles and optimism has been gone and I'm more pessimistic and apathetic about shit. Even my friends noticed. I've kept a facade up but maybe they still do and just don't tell me. I just want to feel like myself again or maybe I don't know who I really am and just want to find myself. I don't know I really don't want to bother my friends about this so I'm here any help is appreciated.
>>16997681
hes a shitty friend if he knew you were after her.
>2 years ago
dude get over it
>i have gotten over it i just feel like ive lost apart of myself
no you havent it. at all. if two years ago you rant about it. and thats okay i guess, but seriously get over it because
>all of my smiles and optimism are gone
you are ruining two years of your life over a girl you never actually dated?
>ive kept a facade up
what a martyr.
Dude just find another girl
Get some therapy and you should be able to move on. Maybe even try group therapy where you can maybe meet someone.
I know of at least three guys suit like this happened to when they were young. Now they are 50s and 60s, never got over, single their whole life.
Don't be one of those guys.
>>16997689
>>16997702
>>16997718
It's not about the girl. It's the fact that I was so easily betrayed opening up to people. I've been struggling with opening up to people I don't already know now because of it. I just feel like if I get too close they'll end up using me or deceiving me.
You don't have to open up to people the minute you meet someone. Just go with the flow and when you feel like you can trust someone, then give it another go.
You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
>>16997769
thats life. put yourself in a positon that isnt too vulnerable and you'll be fine.
>>16997780
Easier said than done
>>16997840
That's true, maybe I am doing the right thing I just don't see it
2 options
Come up to him and tell him
Or ...
Go with the flow
