No OP don't go down that downward spiral of "I'm a hopeless virgin". I went through that phase at 19 and withdrew from all girls despite having plenty of chances, like a fucking autist.

Don't take getting laid so seriously. Who fucking cares? We'll all be dead one day and nobody is going to go up to your gravestone and say " OP was a virgin still when he was 19 fuck that guy". IT'S NOT THAT BIG OF A DEAL. You're told it is by your friends because they're thinking with their dick still.

If you truly want to get laid, actually want it. Don't want it because you're told to. Find a girl and bang her when you're ready. Good luck

same boat OP.

I lost my virginity at 19.5 (I'm female), and I have to say it's brought out to be a bigger deal than it is...I'm 22 now and I laugh at how I thought about it back then.

>>16979960

You're life won't be drastically different if you have sex. If you're worried about appearance, dress well, eat healthier, and groom yourself. If it's personality, try to take it easy.
The less you give a shit about getting laid, the easier it is to talk to girls.

>>16980008
This. I was 20 when I lost mine, what a ridiculous waste of time and energy worrying about.

Male, though.

>>16979960
Don't worry about it, you've got time. A lot of time. If you're still a virgin at 40 then it's time to worry.

Also guy in the pic isn't bad looking desu

Pussy is overrated. Enjoy your hobbies and friends whether they are female or male.

Buy a prostitute for gods sake if you want to fuck a warm hole.

I promise you that eventually you will find some chick who you'll be in a relationship with eventually and in the end you'll probably realize you really aren't missing out on much or you'll just be bitter, or you may still have that retarded thought of the "one".

Be very wary my young friend you have no idea how badly a woman can ruin your life, and even the life of your family and those close to you. Emotionally, legally, and financially.

I doubt you'll listen to me but fuck dude go for it and figure it out your self.

Is this fuss really worth swapping germs with another human?

Best of luck to you either way.

>>16980035

Here here, women will ruin you. But you just gotta use the knowledge from one relationship to the next. Dated a clingey, emotionally abusive girl, dated someone was an alcoholic.

New gf is a little bit high maintenance, but she's chill.

This might be a hard pill to swallow, but just wait, dude. If you haven't gotten laid yet, it's probably because you haven't met the right girl.

You can meet lots of girls at conventions. Attend a local animu, fantasy, comic, gaming, whatever hobby con. If nothing else, you'll have fun. Single girls at cons are notoriously easy. Bring some condoms, just in case, and get a room in the hotel with your friends (and some assurance of occasional privacy).

Your situation isn't your fault, OP. Don't blame yourself, 'cuz it's all got to do with the ladies around you not having good taste. Sweat it as little as possible. Being sadly single (and lonely) sucks, but try not to let it make you too bitter.

Join a local whatever community (see the con suggestion above), and distract yourself with interesting things 'till then. This way, you'll meet people outside of your normal social circle, too.

Good luck, OP, and keep your chin up. Don't develop too much of a complex about this, and just move past it.

Stop masturbating or you will go bald. Your very insecure, so you must work on yourself. Do not ever worry about girls. Get YOUR life straight. Girls are a burden. advice from alpha 20/m

It's not so much I care about losing my virginity, but it's the ideas attached to it. My friends are leaving me, one by one. Looking more after their sexual partners than me, it was hard for me as t was to make friends, and then this happens. Now, here I am lonely bitter and it is just not the thought itself of me sing a virgin but why I am this way that makes me depressed. Why am I not desirable? Why am I so shit at making friends? Why is no one interested in talking to me. I did an experiment where I did not login into Facebook for an entire month. Not a single message for me.
So, it's all those things adding up and expressing themselves out in this form, because I feel if I had a sexual partner. I would feel desirable, wanted, not lonely and well social to extent. I cried about this. Over soemthing so stupid.

>>16979960
OP, you don't want a relationship.... They will destroy you, hollow you out, and literally make you wish you were dead just so you wouldn't feel so hurt anymore...

>>16980640
When those relationships end what'll you think your friends will have? Natta man.

Seriously though you sound like you may have codependency issues. Look it up and try and look for ways to get over it. That shit is painful.

>>16979960
>I feel my age is getting to me, and everyone I know is fukcing and here I am writing this.
You're fucking 19 mate calm down

>>16979960

I remember those feels man,
Lost mine at just after I turned 22.
Not such a big deal now but fuck me it felt huge at the time like I wanted to scream.

Eventually though I met a girl and rather than get all worried I manned the fuck up and started talking with her.
2 years later and we're still going out.
Took a bit of failure beforehand but I made it.

My advice
>Learn to dress properly
>Get a good haircut
>Be funny. No funny stories? Start doing something that will get you funny stories.

And if you're anything like that guy in that picture

>Drink about 2 - 4 litres of water a day, clears up your skin and you'll lose some weight
>lose weight - learn to cut back
>Start lifting - cliche but the confidence boost is second to none.

Talk to girls like you genuinly have something to contribute to the conversation. Like if they stuck around you they'd have something to show for it.
Increase your market values and watch the bidders line up.

God speed OP.

>>16980640
So it's the lonelyness/yearn for validity from others that's your biggest concern?

>>16980640
Let me tell you...your SO can't give all the confidence, you'll be just as depressed as now.

23 yo virgin here, no ragrets.

None of the girls in high school were my type anyway and I never gave up in to peer pressure.

>>16979960
ryan?

>>16980946
Basically, as it turns out I am a whore for social validation, and acceptance. >>16980971
No Ryan no here
>>16980830
Well yeah, everyone practically lost it at 16 and here I am missed out on 4 years of sex, because I am turning 20 soon. Practically adulthood

>>16980967
Same here give no shits i have biggers things to worry about then to stick my dick in a bleeding hole.

>>16980707
That's a thing? Thanks for informing me. I might actually have that.

>>16981024
>>16980967

>Sour grapes

>>16981041
you must be op

>>16979960
Just so all if you know there is more than 1. 19 year old virgin on /adv/ the 6'4 guy you see making threads is not op

>>16979960
Also bumping out of extreme sympathy I know this feel all too well I live it all day everyday.>>16981019
Also. >missing out on 4 years of sex while everyone else gets to fuck. I know that feel so fucking much god damnit I know that feel. All the people I know are constantly bragging about sex and I'm left in the dust. People were bragging about it back in freshmen year of high school. Fuck my life

>>16980035
Oh hurdur just get a hooker lol. No because you have to use condoms and they ruin sex. Inb4 how do you know. Because everyone says so including /adv/ when I made a thread asking about it

>>16980031
Anon, you never can comprehend how fast time can pass you by. That was the underlying point of the 40 Year Old Virgin.

>>16979960
Op I wish I was still a virgin I lost it when I was 14 or 15 lol but to my defense I still with the same guy im 21 now (no I didn't have any kids) anyways just because your still a virgin doesn't mean shit if you want to lose your virginity it's like this. If you want to lose it to anyone just go to a party at a friends flirt with the girls you liked that look kinda loose or you've heard tone loose. If you want to lose it to a serious partner. Just find a girl you like flirt with her, get to know her, ask her out and then you're on your way to losing your virginity at your pace.

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>>16980035
My brother is a 28 year old virgin who works at a super market. He's short, chubby, and bald. There is no hope for him.

There isn't someone for everyone pal.

The moment you stop giving a shit is the moment you will start being attractive to girls. Think of/treat them like people instead of talking fleshlights and you're nerves will go away, their increased responsiveness will improve your confidence, and some girl will let you blow a gooball in her asshole.

You have to be OK with not getting any first...that's the key.

>>16981444
Sadly, trips speaks the truth.
But, you don't look like one of those people.

>>16981452
I grew up in a culture that was extremely pressurising towards gender segregation. And I was already an anxiety ridden fuck, and coupled with that, conditioning from my childhood my parents teaching me not to interact with girls. Now I am an absolute anxiety ridden fuck who is shit at talking to people, and even when I wasn't sexually active. I am worse with women holy fuck. How did it get like this

>>16981425
Do you know what the worst part is? My own friend belittle me. Don't seem to think I have it in me. To lose it.

What exactly am I supposed to have?

I don't know how to act sexual, I don't know how to approach someone how to act. How to be I know absolutely nothing.
>>16981452

>>16981408
So what exactly was the point of that shitty movie?

>>16981408
Because to me it was all about "lol XD he's such a loser virgin" combined with "don't put pussy on a pedastol" which contradicts the first bit, and then when he finally gets bareback pussy he cums in less than a minute which shows how godly it is

>>16981503
A close up in Steve's chest hair really

>>16981498
So that's not a friend, dumbass.

>>16981523
Oh no have a listen
Buddy, you just don't have it in you. I love you buddy, but na
If you end up some other way. More power to you, but I just don't see it that way for you.
Not like you are sexy, or anything. Not like you hit on women.

>>16981521
Sure it feels great, no doubt. The more important factor in the 360quickcum though is the mental factor. "She's so hot, this is unreal, holy shit, I'm actually fucking her pussy, she seems like she likes it, OHSHITFUCK."

The dick plays tricks on us. I've been married for 5 years but still want to bang lots of other women. It's a fleeting thing and I've realized how fickle that feeling is compared to the other LASTING stuff going on (mental connection with wife, etc.)

Unfortunately, when we're young our dicks hijack our brains and make it so much more important than anything else to cum. It's like holding up a magnifying glass to a postage stamp in front of your face walking around in a city with skyscrapers. The stamp (pussy/sensation/idea of cumming/sex) is made to look so much bigger than it actually is by your dick and hormones (magnifying glass) that all the other truly huge and important shit in your life (skyscrapers) look small in comparison. It's only when you run into a few trashcans and shit and take a step back that you realize how distorted your world view has been and you get the bigger picture.

The fuck was I talking about again?

>>16979960
I would suggest getting your look in order. I would start with a haircut (short on sides, fade into long on top) and getting glasses with a different shape. Try some that are more rectangular and aren't as wide, they make your face look too small.

>>16981644
That is not me.
I'm not even white. Just someone else I sympathise with

>>16981636
You were talking about how sex is god tier but sone how not really in your mind. "Loser virgin hahaha" "doesn't matter man don't put it on a pedastol" as soon as they find out he's a virgin "ZOMG WE GOTTA GET YOU LAID" and then when he finally gets laid its apparantly god tier. I just don't undersrand. Either sex is the be all end all of life or it's not. And if its not then it makes no sense how much it's talked about and if it is then it makes perfect sense. And I definitely think it is the alpha and omega. Nothing else matters compared to it.

>>16981455
Who would you be referring to? Me or the OP?

>>16979960
if you are worried about losing your virginity, go to a "working girl" and lose it and then get over yourself. losing your virginity isnt a big deal. stop making something from nothing.
all that will happen is you will finally understand all the sex jokes on tv. yes thats it.
im a lot older than you so i know stuff your picture also looks like you need a shave if you make yourself more presentable maybe you might get some more replies...
i dont care if you want to look like a neckbeard but most girls dont.

>>16981535
>Not like you hit on women.
That's the only point he actually had, but yeah he sounds like a cunt. Though in my group of friends everyone is a cunt to eachother and that's how we like it so maybe that's the case for you too.

Im 29 and i've had ED for atleast 10 years.
I tried to lost it at 24, but failed and then tried again a few months ago and actually came from a blowjob for the first time, but still, didn't have any enjoyable vaginal intercourse.

Now i just think it's a hassle.

Every time i've had a relationship it's been drama drama and more drama.

The only good thing is that i don't feel so bad about "being a virgin" now as i used to do before i had any sexual experience at all.

>>16981444
Solemnly checked.

Sex is overrated. When you lose virginity it's not like you experience rebirth,become another person and people start to respect you. Just do the things you like to do and don't worry about that, then you will eventually find a girl that shares your interests and will be glad to get laid with you.

>>16981636
>She's so hot, this is unreal, holy shit
Guys probably think like that at 17 when they're banging some 16 yr old, but later it's not at all like that. Especially not when you're with some fat chick, just trying to get it done for the sake of it, and you're drunk and have whiskey dick.

I would say porn is more satisfying.

>>16981933
That isn't me.
Secondly, like I said. It's not just sex, if I wanted that I would buy a sex doll for all I care. This is about feeling 'wanted'


>>16982099
She! My male friend's are kinder to me. The worst thing they said was, well woah. I don't get you. Who would want to be in a relationship with you?

I laughed it off but it stung.

>>16982162
It's obvious your personality is repulsing them in that case, or maybe it's just brutal banter I don't know. I'm pretty sure this "TFW no gf" mindset you have is festering itself in how you generally act, but feel free to correct me.

>>16982171
If somebody would tell me how I supposed to act around a strange female. Wherein it's obvious I am seuallt interested in her, but respect her privacy and Opinions. In a way where I am nt being Invaisive or rapey that would be just great, because I never had a father to teach me all this shit, now I am here not brave enough to test out random theories that I think would offend them and marr my name.

>>16979960
>lack of assertiveness
Yeah probably. Why do you think that woman was able to be pressured into sex? They respect a man that has the balls to say what he wants.

>>16982139
Not OP, just want to get this off my chest.

Doing the things you want to is good/great, but this following part just isn't true :

> then you will eventually find a girl that shares your interests

Saying this doesn't add up with reality.

No man will just randomly find a girl who shares the same interests he has.

Most men find girls who want entertainment, who want attractive suitors.

I guess this is one of the reasons why most other men hit the gym and want to be the best mates possible.

This part actually makes sense.

>>16982710
Why'd you delete this?

>>16982142
>>16982142

>>16982142

So much truth in this one post.

Shit even if they are hot shit gets boring quick. Jacking off is so much less trouble, and drama.

A man's value is not determined by his sexual conquests. It's determined by the strength of his character and the good he does in the world. Don't accept the stupid shit society tries to feed you.

But how do I be respectful to women. While still maintaining a degree if sexualness around them. What am I supposed to do, that implies I am interested but I keep my boundaries.