Guys/Girls

What's your experience with telling your partners about your weirder fetishes?

>Have gf love her very much
>Have fetish that I'm sure would repulse her
>Spend time together, have sexual encounters, love it
>Still not scratching that certain fetish's "itch" though
>Have girls on kik who I used to regularly chat with who'd scratch the itch in an instant
>Have the temptation but would hate myself if I acted on it.

Does anyone just have some advice on this? I don't know how long I'll be able to handle this

>>16951264
What fetish is it?

Girls and guys

Have any of you ever watched porn with a significant other?

Me and my girlfriend do occasionally, and I swear she gets super crazy turned on when she sees me get turned on by something. I don't know why but it's hot as fuck.

Is that normal? Getting turned on by watching your boyfriend get a raging hard on because of another woman fingering her ass?

Girls,

How big of a difference is there between "liking someone" and "wanting to go out with them"?

Nothing specifically has happened at all, but there's a few girls where I work and go to school (I'm a Writing Tutor) that I've overheard are into me. Not a whole lot, but some guys in the classes I tutor tell me that they overhear the girls in there sometimes say that they like guys like me, and that's heartening, but I'm really wondering how to tell whether this is just something in passing or if I actually have the romantic mobility to just ask one of them out.

Not relevant, but there's one that I want to ask out. Short, thin (nice butt though), glasses, has a little bit of that ugly-cute thing going on, which I enjoy. I'm not enamored, and I do want to try it out, but unfortunately I don't actually see her that much, so I want to know the answer so I know how to judge whether or not it's worth my time to go out of my way to ask her out.

Posted this in the last thread right before this got posted.

>>16951264
just start with the more vanilla stuff and work into the weirder stuff. or make it like a competition where you're like "i bet i'm into weirder stuff than you". it's mostly up to you, though; i can't read her mind so i can't tell if she's the type to be cool with either of those. maybe have both of you take turns listing fetishes?

idk, my bf's way more vanilla than i am and he was cool with me talking about my weird ass fetishes

>>16951268
I like to stuff my belly full of food while the feeder girl alternates between insulting me and encouraging me.

Completely serious. I'd feel really weird admitting it to my girlfriend, but I used to do it fairly regularly with a few girls on Skype before I got into this relationship. Now, I hunger, no pun intended.

>>16951281
Finding someone attractive isn't the same as wanting to date them. The only thing I can suggest to you is to ask her out. The worst she can do is say no.

>>16951295
the worst she can do is tell your friends that you've been harassing her and destroy what limited relationships you've worked so hard to forge with other people

>>16951283
Honestly, I thought you were going to say scat. I don't think its that weird, I don't know if I would be into it but I wouldn't break up with you because of it.

Have you tried to get your gf to feed you yet? You could start there and add the insults and encouragement later.

>>16951300
Sure, if you want to think like /r9k/.

>>16951278
Enjoy your girl wanting to suck those big cocks instead of yours.

>>16951295
No, no, they have a romantic interest in me, and I'm sure of that, but I don't know if it passes the threshold for deciding, "yeah, I want to date this man."

So that's why I want to know how wide the gap is inbetween having just a little romantic interest and actually deciding that.

>>16951322
I understood what you meant the first time, you didn't need to try and explain it. My advice still stands, and your question is essentially answered in the OP

How do I stop having a crush on an attractive co-worker? I have a gf

Asking either Gender

What the fuck do girls want for their birthdays? Her parents take her out to her favorite place every year, she's super frugal, so she's set herself up to not like purses, makeup, or nice clothes. Her interests are seasonal, things like anime and video games, but she's the type who would buy things on launch so those are usually out.

I guess on the other end of the spectrum, she asks me what I want for my birthday sometimes and I don't know what to tell her since I don't want her spending too much on me, and I'm the same way in my interests changing every few months.

Any girls have advice on how to make cum legitimately taste better? I don't want him to try the pineapple thing because even the smell of pineapples makes me gag and I think sweetness sounds more gross than the current bitterness.

Ladies, what is wrong with you? Why do I keep seeing 8/10s and aboves walking around with scrawny pasty white guys who look like they're still in their teens? Does this generation of girls not appreciate the masculine form?

theres this girl im interested in whos dating someone. I honestly believe that she'd be happier if she was with me, and she knows how i feel and has reciprocated somewhat(she felt guilty about talking to me the way we were talking so we stopped and its been mostly platonic since).

Shes the kind of girl that won't break up with a guy unless shes mad at him about something. Even if she's only mildly attracted to him, and she doesn't feel that close to him, she doesn't want to hurt their feelings so she wont do anything.

Obviously theres very little i can do about this because she will just think its because i want to be with her. How should i treat her in the meantime? Should i ignore the subject altogether and just try to be her friend, or continue to push the boundaries a bit but steer clear of anything that would even remotely be considered cheating(aka dont do anything physical even if i could). Also i could stop seeing her but that'd be a huge pain for me because mutual friends so im not going to, i could stop texting though.

>>16951308
I'm not insecure enough to get salty about her fantasizing or getting turned on by porn, senpai.

>>16951304
>I don't think its that weird
Thanks, that makes me feel a teenie bit better.

>I wouldn't break up with you because of it
That too

>Have you tried to get your gf to feed you yet? You could start there and add the insults and encouragement later
Nah I haven't even touched it yet. I'm actually thinking about going the opposite direction. Maybe if I can get her to dom me like that in general, I'll be satisfied and not have to worry about the feeding.

I work in behavior therapy, and sometimes the way to get someone to stop engaging in a behavior is to find a more acceptable way for them to get the thing that rewards that behavior. Maybe the encouragements and insults are my "reward" and I'm just habituated to get it from feeding? I don't know. It's something. If I could hack this desire of mine into something more acceptable, I might not gross her out, and I'd stop being tormented by these disloyal thoughts.

>>16951344
If she likes anime and vidya, a really great gift to give would be a figurine or something related to whatever her favorite series is. She obviously already has the game, but if you could get her some sort of memorabilia, that would show you did some thinking and came up with a meaningful or creative gift.

Another option, which I don't really suggest unless you are super close or have been dating a while, is to get her whatever her favorite skincare or makeup products are, granted you have seen her using them so know the exact brand item. My aunt's fiancee bought her some obnoxiously expensive eyeliner brush from her favorite company and she thought it was the best thing ever. I've been given my favorite moisturizer by a friend and thought that was a fantastic gift, because it's something I use all the time but is still technically a luxury item.

>>16951326
You misunderstand.
Yeah yeah, the premise of my question is that I already know there's a difference between those two states of mind, which is why I asked, because I don't know how big that difference is, which you never answered.

I do accept your advice, but I am not asking anything at all about whether or not the specific girl(s) like me or not. I JUST want to know what the difference is between "like" and "want to date" because it's something I don't understand. Asking them out (which is what the OP, and you, tell me to do, and what I'm going to do) has nothing to do with it; I just want to understand how the minds of the girls here work so that I can more easily understand it.

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Women: Is my dog cute?

>>16951365
She's adorable

>>16951362
I don't misunderstand. You want to know how big the difference in order to ask her out. I'm telling you to skip that process and go straight to asking her out.

>>16951349
I'm a girl but I want to know this too. So many of the attractive girls in my year at university have boyfriends far uglier than them. Even my best friend, who is a solid 7/10 but can clean up above 8/10 for formal events is dating a dude who is definitely 4/10 at most. But I think she just has a white guy fetish. Either way, he has a shit personality so it's not like he's making up for his crappy looks. I'm foreveralone though so what do I know.

>>16951365
Your dog is amazingly cute. I don't think I've ever seen a border collie who isn't (even the one that tried to bite my dad as a kid)

>>16951377
How did you know your dad as a kid?

>>16951344
lick her asshole and force feed her expensive chocolate

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LADIEZ:

Is saving porn a dealbreaker? I've got like 30 images total. No videos, but some .webms.

>>16951353
Don't push boundaries and don't just stop seeing or talking to her. Just be friends. Try not to do anything weird, it sounds like if you can keep your current status with her constant, you could end up in the right place at the right time if they ever break up and you can swoop in for your chance.

>>16951392
Yes. I'd never date a guy who was stupid enough to save porn in this day and age. What is this, the 90s?

>>16951381
My name is Marty

>>16951396
Why tho

>>16951372
No, you motherfucking baka basketcase I am wondering about this for philosophical purposes. I don't want to sound like a fedora-tipper, but I just want to know about how this little part of the female mind works because it's interesting. I CAN get the date. I shouldn't have fucking mentioned the one girl at all; she's not relevant to what I want to know.

Please, I am not concerned about my ability to ask this woman out at all. I am just wondering about a little part of the female psyche, just to become more knowledgeable about it. Fucking hell.

>>16951344
Buying a gift for anyone you care about means doing actual research on their interests and going deeper than them, with a direction in mind.

Alternatively, buy multiple gifts. One "risky" one (based on her hobbies), one practical one (if you can think of one), and one "safe" one.

>>16951377
I didn't say they were full on ugly, though it may be my opinion. I'm talking frame, size, height. Scrawny guys with more bark than bite. I'm no body builder, but I'm in good shape and seeing these kind of guys getting those kind of girls baffles me. It'd be the same way if some handome af guy was dating a cube-shaped little witch, but I've never seen that. Good to know it isn't just me though

>>16951398
Because who the fuck saves porn these days?

>>16951412
What reason do you have against it tho aside from asking who does it, since clearly I do as evidenced by my asking how women feel about it and why

>>16951396
>>16951412
Really anon, the hell? I just have a bunch of favorite images saved in case they get taken down or something.

>>16951409
Most of the girls I know are into thin, bordering-on-scrawny guys rather than fit ones who actually work out and have muscles, so that might be a contributing factor. I have only seen an attractive guy with a homely girl once. It was in highschool. He was a stud on the water polo team, and she was a 5' fat girl with an unfortunate face on the swim team, must have been 180+ pounds. They ended up getting married. People fall in love based on personality.

Girls and guys, help

I'm so angry and stressed out right now


I was just at the bar with a few of my friends. We were there for a while drinking, and of course girls and sex becomes a topic of conversation. People are going around our table full of drinks just talking and joking. I'm just kind of sitting there laughing along, but not contributing anything. After a while they turned and looked at me and one of my friends say "man.. You really need to get laid, how long has it been for you?" So I said 5 years. They seemed kind of stunned and went on about "how can you go for SO LONG?? You need to use what you have man! Use it!" And they mentioned how I should be able to pick up a decent girl because I dress nice and am not a bad looking guy. One of my friends then kind of wandered off from the group while the rest talked to me. About 30min later he came back with a cute brunette girl with him. And he tried to introduce me to her and get a conversation going. I told her I didn't want to talk and she went away. He got so pissed and said that "you don't know what you are missing!!! YOU ARE 25, you'll regret this time if you don't get it while you can!! Come on dude!! Man up!" I got pissed and left.

To make matters even worse, I went outside and was texting a close female friend of mine. She asked what I was up to, and I said drinking at the bar with friends, and guess what her response was... She said "oh! I hope you have a lot of fun! Make sure to go find yourself a little hottie ;).... But make sure to be safe!! :P"


Aaaaaahhh I feel so fucking stresssssssed right now. I feel as if im like a bad person because I don't have sex. It's like everyone expects me to do it, and I'm wrong because I don't. Is it really that weird that I haven't had sex in 5 years??? It's been by choice. Why? I don't know. I just don't do it. I'm not asexual, and I'm not religious, or "waiting for the one" bullshit. I just don't.


Am I really this fucking bad??

either can asnwer but im a guy.

I think im in love with one of my friends and for the forseable future she will be with this guy. questions not really about that though

i matched with a girl on tinder that looks almost exactly like her. Would it be unhealthy to pursue that in either a purely sexual or relationshippy way?

>>16951438
Sounds like peer pressure. Fuck 'em. It's your choice what you do with yourself. But it's interesting, I think you should discover why you aren't acitvely seeking it out yourself. I don't really see why you would go to a bar to begin with

>>16951438
Your friends intentions were probably good, but the fact that they weren't listening to you wasn't. Some of that might have been because you were all drinking. Be glad that they want you to be happy, but don't take shit from them like this.

>Man up!
I hate that shit. You are still a man even if you don't feel like having sex. You are a person with complicated feelings.

>I feel as if im like a bad person because I don't have sex. It's like everyone expects me to do it, and I'm wrong because I don't.
You are fine. You make your own choices.

>Is it really that weird that I haven't had sex in 5 years??? It's been by choice. Why? I don't know. I just don't do it. I'm not asexual, and I'm not religious, or "waiting for the one" bullshit. I just don't.
>Am I really this fucking bad??
You're not "bad" at all anon. Do you and what makes you feel right.

Do people actually get in relationships over Tinder, or is it just hookups?

>>16951470
One of my best relationships started from Tinder. It didn't work out, but it's a ride I look back upon fondly.

>>16951470
I was sitting next to a guy on the train last month when the train broke down. He had to call the jeweler that he wouldn't be able to make it that day before closing. Since we were stuck there at the station, we got to talking. Turns out he met his girlfriend on Tinder and he was going to go that night to buy the ring, planning to ask her on the following weekend. So I guess it works for some people.

>>16951449
You can try going out with her once and decide based on that. A purely sexual relationship with this girl because she looks like this other girl you have a crush on sounds very unhealthy and pretty hard to explain if that ever comes up.

If you pursue a relationship and end up clicking, that's a different story, since it would be based on her individual characteristics. Looking like someone you like is just a plus. Maybe you'll find you're just attracted to a certain look. Nothing wrong with that.

>>16951456
>think you should discover why you aren't acitvely seeking it out yourself. I don't really see why you would go to a bar to begin with

because I'm bitter. That wasn't the initial reason. But it plays a part. And plus once you go so long without sex, it's easy to forget and then you don't care anymore.

I went to the bar because my friends wanted to go

Guys,
Do you feel like a girl isn't interested if she doesn't make eye contact with you? The guy I like always looks at people directly in the eyes when talking to them, but I find this a bit intimating and I'm a shy dumbass normally, so I tend to look away. But I don't want to come off as rude. Would making eye contact help me? I don't want him to get the impression I'm not interested.

>>16951505
>Do you feel like a girl isn't interested if she doesn't make eye contact with you?
I would think she was not interested if she wouldn't look at me.

>I find this a bit intimating and I'm a shy dumbass normally, so I tend to look away.
Do your best to power through. It doesn't have to be a staring contest, but some flashes of your eyes go a long way.

>Would making eye contact help me?
Yes.

>I don't want him to get the impression I'm not interested.
You could fix that by talking to him more, and/or explicitly expressing that interest.

>>16951505
Yes, eye contact would certainly help.
if you clearly have trouble with that, it can be charming. As in, your eyes dart around and you just occasionally make eye contact. If you never make eye contact and look away constantly, it makes you look like you want me to go away.

>>16951505
Make and break eye contact multiple times per interaction, this is one of natures ways of indicating desire. Prolonging either is typically indicative of hostile intent or not caring.

>>16951515
>>16951517
Fuck. Thanks for letting me know. So eye contact would be better, even if I end up blushing like an idiot?
I haven't made a move on him yet because I see this person on a regular basis and don't want to make things awkward if this doesn't work out. I want to get to know him more first, in order to increase my chances.

>>16951505
>Do you feel like a girl isn't interested if she doesn't make eye contact with you?
Yeah, but I usually assume that even when she does.

>The guy I like always looks at people directly in the eyes when talking to them, but I find this a bit intimating and I'm a shy dumbass normally, so I tend to look away.
That's fuckin' cute m80.

>But I don't want to come off as rude. Would making eye contact help me? I don't want him to get the impression I'm not interested.
It might help. Don't worry if you have trouble with it. The natural reaction to being shy and forcing yourself to look him in the eye is gonna do like 80% of the work for you unless he's oblivious.

>>16951505
It's professional and courteous to look at people in the eye. I mean obviously, if I'm speaking with someone, male or female, and they aren't looking at me, it feels like they aren't listening and I don't feel like running my mouth anymore so the conversation dies out. Hell, sometimes it sends rude implications. At least to me it does. Feels like you're knowingly being ignored. But you need to make eye contact when listneing and speaking. That's how you know you're dialoguing and not monologuing. I know it can be intimidating though, but do it.

>>16951517
This is somewhat true, but you REALLY have to consider if the person will even pick up on such little things. Because a lot of people aren't as interested in body language and signals as a bunch of us introverted fucks are.

Girls

I have feelings for a female friend who doesn't feel the same way about me. Everytime she goes out with guys on dates. I feel physically sick. The thought that she's probably having sex with some other guy literally makes me ill.

Do you feel like that when a guy you like goes out with a girl? It's really killing me, and turning me into a very bitter person..

>>16951533
>So eye contact would be better, even if I end up blushing like an idiot?
Yes. It can be really cute and flattering.

>I haven't made a move on him yet because I see this person on a regular basis and don't want to make things awkward if this doesn't work out. I want to get to know him more first, in order to increase my chances.
Ah that's understandable. Keep up the recon, but don't wait too long.

My girlfriend has an affinity for animals. Like 6 pets across 4 different species right now. Most of them technically belong to her parents since she's really irresponsible and lazy about taking care of them. She's probably moving in with me soon, and since her parents are keeping the pets, she's been hinting at getting a pet for my house somewhere down the line. I really don't like the amount I already have to take care of her own pets for her(I've walked her dog every time I've visited so far), and she even hates some of her pets half the time. I'm 90% sure that if we got a pet, I'd have to be the one taking care of it. Is there an easy way out of this?

>>16951533
Especially if you start blushing like an idiot! That shit cute.

>>16951541
Yes. It tears me up and I feel a physical reaction the way you described. It's the worst. I wish I knew how to make it stop.

>>16951538
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>>16951551
Thank you all for the additional responses! I will try to work on this for next time. Eye contact!

>>16951555

I've been feeling sick all night. She went on a date tonight with some "hot guy" that she's been talking about. And most of the time she'll text me before she goes to bed, well she didn't tonight... She is probably still with him and it's 1230am

I can't stand this. I really can't. The thought of her taking some dudes dick hurts so fucking bad. I like her so much and I feel like people are ruining her. Fuck

>>16951555 >>16951573
Cut all contact
Staying friends will only cause more pain.

>>16951563
Got get em, anon.

>>16951578

But I can't. She cares about me. We are good friends. she would be very hurt and distraught if I block all contact with her.

She doesn't do these things to hurt me. She doesn't even know I'm in so much pain. She knows I liked her. But she doesn't know I'm struggling.

Females
What do you lie to your bf about?

Males
What do you lie to your gf about?

(Homosexuals, what do you lie to your partner about)

>>16951584
If she's your friend, then she'll try and understand that you need time to heal and get over these feelings. It's a hurtful situation for the both of you, but it's for the best. Tell her you need to spend some time apart to sort out your feelings. It doesn't mean you can't be friends anymore or that you hate her or she hates you, you just need time to get back to a healthy friendship relationship rather than this relationship of one-sided feelings that hurt.

>>16951590
>What do you lie to your gf about?
I try to lie as little as possible, but I sometimes glance over moments that I know I was in the wrong about, or fib about how I act around others that aren't her. I might tell her I don't make gross, dirty jokes when I totally do when I'm with my friends but not her.

>>16951599

God I don't know if I can do that. I don't think I can explain this to her. She's always so happy to talk to me. I don't think I can say it

Girls
When was last time you sucked Chad's cock?
Still thinking about it?

>>16951590
I don't lie to my girlfriend.

A girl I used to live with/had a fwb thing for a few months invited me out for her birthday this Friday, just to a pub. I figured I'd go, more out of politeness - I don't know any of her friends, and I've hardly spoken to her since we stopped living together in July. Anyway, one of her friends who might be there is a hot blonde girl. This blonde girl also lives with a guy I know (he's a coach at a club I run). Would it be weird to try and hit on this blonde girl on Friday?

Probably worth mentioning that I'm not sure if the girl I used to live with has said anything to her. She was pissed off at me for a few months, and I know she said some pretty bad things about me to a few other people (she actually almost ruined another one of my friendships due to what she said). So, without even meeting her, this blonde girl might already think I'm a total cunt. Also, any tips on how to approach her?

>>16951484
its really hard for me to date people when i have feelings for someone else. I tried it before and it didnt really go well.

Asking against because I only got one response last time. Sorry if that is frowned upon.

Is asking to hang out at my house and play video games weird for a first date? I live with three other guy housemates who all have girlfriends who are here frequently. There will probably be other people here while she is here if I asked her here.

I know she really likes video games, and I really like video games. we have a class and we frequently talk in it.

>>16951610
It's easier said than done, anon. I can't pretend that it is. You said she knew you liked her, so this might not seem too out of place. You don't even have to explain something that you don't want to, but you've got to think about your own good. If you're feeling this sick and upset, that can really hurt you in the long run. I don't think a good friend would want that.

>>16951617
Kinda? That's not where I imagine going with somebody on a date.

>>16951617
On one hand, I think gaming with a gamer is a good date. On the other, I feel like she might be a little intimidated coming to your house for a first date. Why not do something harmless like coffee or lunch, and if things go well, offer a gamerdate?

>>16951622
I just figured I know we both enjoy it and it's easy to talk during.

>>16951617
It's not really a date if there are your other housemates and their girlfriends there. That's more of a hangout type deal. Not a bad thing, but just thought I'd clarify. I would think a guy is interested in me if he asked me to hang out with him and play video games back in his room, but might be surprised if it turns out there are a ton of people present when I get there.

>>16951617
If you don't call it a date that's fine. It's good relationship points if you just call it hanging out playing video games.

Set terminology aside for an official "first date" though. You're gonna want something a bit more substantial to call your first date.

Would a girl ask how big you are if they weren't attracted? It was over text, and when i told her she responded very positively.

Basically i implied it, then she asked directly, and immediately got embarrassed and said she was just curious and i didn't have to tell her. Then i did and she was very complimentary.

>>16951617

Why not an arcade? Or better yet, something like a Dave & Busters (if you're state side) that has tons of arcade games, drinks, karaoke (some), and lots of other stuff for you to do and feels more like a date event.

You'd be surprised at how many girls nowadays say they've never actually been on a date (because nowadays everyone's lazy and just does kickbacks).

>>16951647
Sometimes it just comes up in conversation and can lead to that depending on how far someone is willing to go. Me and my friends kind of just talk about everything, dick sizes of our friends is a topic that's come up more than once.

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I left home after HS with nothing to escape an abusive family. I went to a new city with zero dollars, established a new life, then decided I hated the new city and spent over a year just being a cowboy and drifting the country being homeless.

I look back fondly on it despite all the horrible shit I saw, I wouldn't be who I am unless I'd done all that.

Having said that, I'm established for good in a new city and have been here with over a year of stability, steady job, savings account, own apartment. I'm looking to finally date, I'm a little older (mid 20s) but that doesn't bother me I've seen enough reassurances on that matter.

Thing is, eventually a serious gf will ask "what brought you here" or generally bring up the past. And I'm worried that if I was just blunt "well I spent over a year on the street" she'd freak out, give me pity I don't really want or need and if she wasn't happy she'd feel too guilty to just leave making an unhealthy relationship.

So I guess I'm looking for how to best explain all this with minimal pity party throwing.

>>16951665
I dunno anon. Just from reading that, I don't pity you. I admire you. You must have gone through some unbelievably hard times, and you came out on top. I think you're alright.

>>16951665
"I moved out after high school, moved to that city, hated that, and I've been here ever since"
Bring up the homeless thing as a story sometime later or if it comes up. It's not entirely relevant for a first date or anything.

>>16951660
i forgot to mention she wanted me to send pictures.

>>16951681
Sounds like she's pretty interested.

>>16951665
"I TRAVELLED A LOT WHEN I WAS YOUNGER, I WAS TRYING TO FIND MYSELF, SOME OF IT WAS KINDA ROUGH, BUT IN THE END I FOUND YOU SO IT WAS WORTH IT."

Then when she asks what you mean by rough, just mention that you didn't have family or friends to lean on when you were traveling.

Guys, why would you tell a girl personal stuff about yourself?

I can't tell if this guy just likes hearing the sound of his own voice and talking about his favorite things, or if he's actually sharing these things with me because he likes me. He's told me some (pretty funny) stories about when he was a little obnoxious kid, things he used to go do with his parents and his sister, told me about his favorite movie director, told me a few movie recommendations that he says I should see because he thinks I'd like them, makes movie and tv reference jokes knowing that I'll end the sentence for him, just a ton of random stuff. Thinking on it, I realize I know so many things about him that I never directly asked him, like his favorite kind of candy, favorite dog breed, how he loves to cook, places he wants to eventually visit and travel to.... Could all this oversharing be normal, or is he trying to get closer to me? FYI I have a huge crush on him but am oblivious to how men feel about me.

>>16951706
All I can say with any certainty is that he trusts you with this personal information. I mean hell, I've done similar things with a friend I have no interest in. Just take the initiative, worst case scenario he says no.

>>16951590
I don't lie, but I go out of my way to avoid talking old history.

>>16951412
People with niche fetishes come to mind. At least, I'd rather save porn than bookmark it.

>>16951718
Yeah, that makes sense that he trusts me. I didn't think of it that way but it makes sense, because I just did not understand how it was that I knew all these things about him without asking. That means something, right? Not in terms of him having feelings for me, but as in progressing any kind of relationship. That's a good thing, then?

What is a nonautistic way of saying hello to a random girl without being a creep?

I'm short, ugly, and fat so I honestly assume that no matter what I do I will always be looked down upon.

>>16951761
ay deh u fugn broad leme cya fakn tits deh yu fukn houh

>>16951761
depends on the situation. if its a classroom setting make a joke at the right time thats just loud enough for her to hear, and just keep talking.

I'm taking this girl out on a date soon. Getting there by bike (no other transport) and the weather's going to be shit. We had an afternoon movie planned and I was going to offer to do some other activity after, but given the circumstances I don't know if I should.

So basically
>rain
>bikes (if she doesn't have her parents pick her up, which is also a possibility and would kill this even worse)
>cinema only
Feels like I'm headed for disaster. Sure it's a nice little time together, but I kind of want to expect more out of this.

It's not a first date (somewhat) and we're very close outside the whole dating scene. What can I do to improve this day or at least be able to impress her a little?

>>16951283
Honestly, that isn't so bad. I really don't think that she'd have an extreme reaction like you think she will. I told my newish boyfriend that I have a fetish for straight guys who crossdress, he was totally willing to cater to it and we ended up having the hottest sex either of us have had while he was dressed in drag.

I think as long as it's nothing extreme like necrophilia, pedophilia, scat, ect then you're in the clear.

You'll never know unless you go through with it, man. It's possible that she could confess a fetish that she's embarrassed about too.

Is 6 inches a good size for pleasure?

>>16951392
Eh, not really. I never really understood why people save their porn, I always get bored of the same videos after a few watches.

>>16951848
I do it in case the wifi goes out.

>>16951842
My BF is 5.5 inches and it's a good size for my backdoor.

>>16951541
I know how you feel anon, I used to have a guy friend that I could never be with. It stung.

If you know that you're always going to feel this way and she isn't at all interested in you, it would probably be best to drop the friendship if this is something that you know for sure you're not going to get over, otherwise you're just torturing yourself. It's not healthy to always be agonizing over the thought of this chick with other men in the sense that being around this chick sort of triggers that in you, you need to move on man.

Girls, is being an Otaku nerd a deal breaker? I'm not a hikki, not fat, and am a productive member of society. But holy shit I don't know what to put down for my dating profile that isn't weeb.

>>16951941
You don't.

>otaku
Don't be proud of that name. It wasn't meant to

>>16951941
You're gonna attract a lot of other otaku nerds, who will likely be fat themselves and unproductive members of society, so if you're going down that path, know what you're getting into.

>>16951584
I felt this way about a girl for a while. I made the awkward mistake of crying my eyes out to her, and her bf whom I was good friends with, professing my love and all the bs. I laugh about it today because I realize that it was never really worth the emotional struggle. We lost contact. Our friendship ended. We moved on. Just move on.

>>16951950
I don't outright say I'm an otaku, but I don't really have anything else to put for favorite tv shows, music, what I do on a friday night, hobbies, etc. Girls just end up talking about my job and dear god I don't want to talk about work after work.

>>16951967
Just go to comic con and shag the ripped manlet cosplaying vegeta

I need to loose weight (5'1, 150lbs). Where do i find a determined weightloss buddy to keep each otger on track and check in on the progress? I tried so many times irl and they all flake or loose discipline after a while. Pls help

>>16951950
>Don't be proud of that name. It wasn't meant to
They're retaking it, like niggers did with nigger

Carry on Otaku man, carry on

>>16951973
Sounds like you need a personal trainer more than a fitness buddy. They're paid not to flake or lose discipline.

>>16951974
>>16951971
I feel like we're moving away from my original question

>>16951706
I think it is much more likely that he DOES like you. Sometimes when I like someone and am overwhelmed i talk allot. My advice is this take initive to start conversations with him, and hang out. When you say bye too him give him a warm slow hug and gage his reaction.

Bottom line is this too me it sounds like he enjoys spending time with you, and talking which is a good sign so just take the initiative to spend more time with him and see where it goes. Good luck

If a girl invites you to something, then proceeds to ignore you, what the fuck does that mean?

>few days ago
>get lunch with qt
>she wants to bring a friend with us
>friend doesnt return call
>she agrees to go with just me
>we get lunch
>hit it off well
>qt tells me to come by to campus art show to see her paintings that will be there
>few hours later decide "fuck it, i'll go cause I want to talk to her again"
>go to the event
>shes there with friend she wanted to invite earlier
>spends most of that time just talking to that friend or instructors that they've both had

I don't know if shes stringing me along or something because we did hit it off well when we got lunch and she said she was down to do it again, but on the other hand she practically ignored me in that showing and it was pretty fucking awkward really

>>16951977
I don't have the money for that. Aren't there any determined people looaing weight?

>>16952021
You could become gay and join /fit/.

Or if you get desperate I think katawa shoujo general on /vg/ has infographics.

I'm a male, and wondering what this means. I asked a chick if she wanted to chill with myself and another friend (guy friend.)
She said yes, and then I found out he couldn't hang, and I told her so and asked if she wanted to still come over or postpone until a day later, and she chose the latter.p
In my mind, I see two possible reasons for that:
A) she thinks it might be awkward (understandable, we've only hung out one or two other times, and always with others)
B) she specifically wants to hang with my friend.
Maybe there's a third reason, I dunno. Anyway, I dig this chick, so it's hard for me to think rationally about what's up, so I'd like a second opinion from guys or gals.
Thanks.

>>16952022
I'm already a long time lurker on fit. And i know a lot about exercise and nutrition. The knowledge isn't the problem.
I just want a real person to check in on and them checking in on me.

>>16952028
I don't think you can get real advice right now. Try again tomorrow evening.

Girls and Guys,

I have a crush on a girl I never actually met in real life. Found her on facebook as a recommended friend (she's a friend of a friend of a friend). I don't really enjoy this situation and would like to get rid off those feelings.

How do I stop crushing on her?

>>16952055
Stop having so much free time

>>16952028
Stop making excuses you fucking faggot and join a gym.

>>16952057
I actually don't have a lot of free time. I work full time and go to uni part time.

Anyone,

Growing up I always had friends from school or work. Now, I have zero friends locally, and my work has zero interaction with anyone that isn't a boss or subordinate. Everyone moved thousands of miles away for new opportunities. How do I make friends with people when there isn't a common ailment/burden?

>>16952055
By reminding yourself you don't have a crush on her, you have a crush on who you imagine her to be

>>16952023
Who cares? She's not hanging out with you on her own whatever her reason

So this girl im dating right at the moment is really into me, we kiss, touch and cuddle a lot and will have sex eventually. But we are not texting at all and we have far more physical than verbal contact. Is this something we/I should be worried about. Is she just shy and doesnt really know what to say and wants me to make the moves and decisions?

I've been feeling like people are only interested in what I can do for them, not interested in being friends with me. It seems like a fine line, but I notice I get asked for a lot of favors but I'm never offered help or invited anywhere. Am I being taken advantage of?

Is it worth trying to chase a girl which at first was shy and didn't give you ground , then she was , why not i ll give him a shot, and then , after learning some stuff about you and your ex (which is simply the ex's pov) is like nope ? I havent really asked her out, I didnt have the time, its just what a common friend of us was telling me.

Me and my ex boyfriend (broke up 2 years ago, on good terms) have started to talk about getting back together. I have moved 6 hours away for uni, so we only see each other around once a month. He says he wants time and space for a while to figure out what he wants, but then he tells me how much he loves and misses me, every day. We both feel that although we aren't together, at this stage we wouldn't fool around with other people. He went to a nightclub and danced in a pretty sexual way with another girl, and I am pretty upset about it. I am in my home town for the easter long weekend (he knew for weeks that I was coming down) and it seems like he hasn't made time to see me, he is out with his friends. I am feeling really helpless about expressing my feelings because we aren't in a relationship, and I don't know what to do.
Thoughts or advice on any of that would be appreciated.

>>16952242


To be fair it looks like your ex was just missing sex or the whole "relationship thing" and not you. If he really missed you , as a person he would be the first to approach you when you came back to your hometown. Apparently, he might got what he wanted from the girl at the nightclub, which is approval, and now he seems to have totally forgotten about you.

This is done by us boys pretty often after big breakups. However, noone can really know whats on his mind.

I ve been in a position where people didn't give me a chance to explain myself, or even a chance to know me, and just listened to what others had to say, without even letting me approach them. And it hurts a lot.

Conclusion is: If you wanna do it, if you wanna reach out to him, do it for you. It might end up nice, or it might end up badly (probably will). If you do nothing and end up wondering what would happen if... that will eat you alive.

>>16951823
Bumping.

I got rejected by a girl, she was nice about it though. I knew I had no chance to begin with but I asked her anyway because I knew it was what I had to do.

I was thinking though, over the summer I am planning on making a number of changes to myself and my life as a whole. I was wondering if I could ask her as a friend for advice - stuff like what I should concentrate on. I'm not one of those cringey guys who ask "What do I have to do to make you like me" - it's just that I know I will meet people I like after the summer and it would be good to be as prepared/ready as I can be before I go back.

The problem is, looking at this empathically, her getting asked out by me would be like a few other friends of mine asking me out - people I am simply not attracted to, and then them asking "What should I concentrate on changing? Be brutal!" - It would be weird and I would feel uncomfortable trying not to hurt their feelings. You can't just say "Everything".

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Guys/girls
If a guy likes to joke that he has extra girlfriends/side chicks/illegitimate kids on the side a lot, is it a red flag or am I being retarded?

He makes a joke of that nature maybe once a week. Is that his humor or is there a reason he keeps going back to that?

>>16952272
I'm hesitant about telling him that I am upset that he isn't spending time with me, because I don't want to come off like I'm whining or nagging at him, or like I expect everything to be my way. I'm unclear on the line between what I can and can't expect from him, because we aren't "official".

>>16951823
Buy a hooded raincoat.. Or Uber if it's in your area.

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>>16952216
You should be confronting her directly about your feelings, just like you don't appreciate being in the dark - if she has considered it in the past, she should be more than willing to at least talk about it with you.

>>16952186
Same advice man, depending on the level of intimacy or connection you feel with her, she should be willing to define your relationship. Weather its mainly physical, that she sees it evolving into a more emotional connection, or if its already a fully blown relationship and she is just shy as you suggest. Best of luck!

>>16952115
Try to make new friends with a common interest. Even if you never become friends with those at your work, outside of work there are always opportunities to make friends. Explore your own hobbies in local settings. Hell, become a regular at bakery/coffee shop/bar and meet your barkeep, or barista, or pastry chef!

Recently, I matched this girl on tinder who is pretty into me and I'm equally into her.

Here's the thing, she's 18 and I'm 20. Now I usually don't even bat an eye at the thought of dating someone 2 years younger or older. The nuance here is that she has a kid. Less than a year old, but still its a kid.

Now I have no idea how serious our potential relationship will get, but how do you go about dating a single mother? How do I get over the fact that the baby is the son of someone else? Or how much/what kind of emotional support is a single mother looking for? Any red flags I should look for?

>TL;DR How do I go about dating a young, single mother?

>>16951264
i told my ex that i was into being bitten/strangled and she broke down into tears at the thought of hurting me

>>16951973
>>16951977

What will happen when your fitness buddy/personal trainer moves on? It's like people take diets, and once they get their goal just slip back into what they're used to because it's over.

Make yourself your own motivation, nobody else is going to help you. The outside motivation thing is a joke.

>>16951254
to the lads and ladies here who are in a ldr, what's the best way to make the approach online

sometimes i meet cool people and i start to develop feelings

>>16951706
He sounds really extroverted, I know some people who do that for no reason. But talking about things like where he hopes to go and travel to is a good one! Give him a chance!

>>16952299
If there's an event in their area that interests you, ask if they'd like to keep you company.

>>16952284

As I said at the previous comment, do as YOU want , and what will make YOU be okay with it. Any other person's choice, if you follow it will be bad.

I told you, as a guy, what it looks like from his part. That the guy was maybe desperate for the whole "i need a relationship now" or "i need sex" scenario and the sad truth is that whenever such thoughts occure, we think of our ex's. The whole dancing with a chick at the club adds a few points on that scenario, meaning that he has not so much interest in you but in just finding a girlfriend.

>>16952287

Thing is i fcked up.
Trying to make this as short as possible. We havea common friend, which is actually HER friend and just a girl i talk to at the gym. We ll call the "common"friend blondie for this post so it makes sense.
I told blondie I like her friend and asked her to meet her. I didnt even know the girl (my crush) I just had seen them together a couple of times.
She told her (i am not a fool - i expected that, didnt mind her knowing htat theres a guy interested in her, would keep the things straight). But the girl was so shy and I didnt even know how to approach her. I did nothing over the first week, and while my crush was at first 3-4 days thinking "no way I do something with him im too shy"after that, they went to a cofee and blondie told me that "She is thinking why not, you seem a nice guy and u re cute". Next day they apparently found out (from a source friendly to my ex) that I had a 2-year-lasting relationship and i acted as a jerk when breaking up (which is probably the thought of everyone who gets dumbed , isn't it ? - real reason i broke up with my girlfriend is that she got me for granted, but thats another subject). Next day I tried talking her at the bus, just a hi how are you and such and we were a big "crew" and we ended up saying some funny stuff from our childhood. According to a girl friend of mine(she is my bestie) how I acted was actually a nice ice breaker and showed that I tried to reach her and make her feel comfotable, despite being shy. So ,next day blodnie comes to the gym and tells me that she didnt like what I said and she s not so interested after all.

My questions are: Why would she change her opinion literally every 2-3 days about the I might want him/ I dont want him stuff?

What are teh chances that the "reason" she said she aint into me anymore is a lie, and that the true reason is the whole ex bitching stuff?

Is it worth trying with a girl that listens so much to what others have to say?

>>16952315

part 2

Am I right to sorta feel betrayed from the blondie ?

I mean I asked her to meet us and she didnt do it, she just said I like her and instead of helping me approaching her shy friend she kinda just said stuff from one to another.

I am pretty aware how girls think. According to common sense blodnie is much hotter than my crush. Could her ego make her think that "Why is he only approaching me for my friend. Why did he see her and not me , who I am hotter? Why does he not give a damn about me?"

And so she intentionally fcked up the whole thing from minute 0 ?

Im not trying to point out blondie likes me, I just know that she has been single for over 2 years and that jealousy might have led her to fck this up on purpose.

>>16952283
Red flag. Or his jokes just really, really sucks.

>>16952282
Continued -

I know I need to find someone who is attracted to me for who I am, and if I have to change myself completely to be someone I'm not then that's something I simply can't do and shouldn't do.

At the same time though, i want to be attractive to people I am attracted to. I get the whole "Be yourself! Be the best you can be!" shit but there's things that people I am not attracted to could do that would make them a lot more attractive.

>>16952327
Yeah I think it's a shit joke. Most of his other jokes otherwise just run around tropes we're both familiar with, none are actually mean since he's not a mean person. Still I keep thinking..

None of my other male friends make this joke with their partners. Only ever hear old guys say it when they're wives are around but they always give them a nudge or a reassuring pat on the back? He doesn't do that to me, just sees that I didn't laugh (I don't make myself look angry or sad, just can't laugh at it) and he just says he's only kidding. I suspect maybe he absorbed that humor because most of them are old engineers, and I don't mind a mean joke once in a while, but I feel there is something so wrong. I've been cheated on before, and it was subtle and impossible for me to tell until someone told me and he fessed up.

Already told him I don't like that joke much (didn't tell him to stop, just say it makes me feel shit) if it matters.

Sorry, I missed typing a sentence - I mean he works all day with old guys, hence why I thought maybe he might hear that joke at his work.

Fellow guys

How often/have you ever DECLINED sex before? I've turned down sex the last 4-5 opprotunities I would have had. Because of that, I haven't had sex in 4 years. Just last night, I was at this girl's house (attractive brunette) and we were just hanging out on her sofa watching Indiana Jones. At some point she put her hand on my and moved it down toward my dick and I just picked up her hand and placed it away. She did it again but then pulled herself into me and went to kiss me and I actually got up and said I didn't want sex. She seemed really confused and flustered. I only stayed about 10more minutes after than then left cause it was awkward.

Anyone else deal with this shit?

>>16952288
That's what I'm worried about. Did you guys work through it?

>>16951264
It really depends on how weird your itch is, and how important it is for you to have it scratched.
With my first partner I didn't dare telling her about what gets me hot and just thought I'd be okay with "good enough", and it took me two years to realize I wasn't, and still I was too much of a little bitch to be honest with her, which resulted in us breaking up.
Now I have a girlfriend gets me and we're honest with each other and I've never trusted or loved someone so much, and I'm happy.

So, I guess what I'm trying to say is, it's a leap of faith sharing your deepest secrets with someone, but it can be worth it, and if you don't you might really regret it and it could poison your relationship.

>>16951278
I've watched porn with my girlfriend occasionally but mostly for the fun of it. I wouldn't say it ever got either of us especially hot.
But good lesbian bondage is hard to find.

>>16951392
Who cares, it's just porn. Unless you have twenty gigabyte of gay midget incest scat, who gives a shit.
I mean, do guys care if a girl reads 'romance novels' or smut comics or some such thing? If it gets your engine going, what's the harm.

>>16952795
Thanks anon. I think I know that that's the right answer to all this, it's just easier said than done. This is me: >>16951283

> just thought I'd be okay with "good enough", and it took me two years to realize I wasn't, and still I was too much of a little bitch to be honest with her, which resulted in us breaking up.
This is exactly what I think could happen and I want to avoid it.

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>/fa/ too busy memeposting about shoes and hats

I would say I need a haircut. What haircut should I get?

Thinking of keeping it big upon the top segment of the head and cutting mostly the hair in the temporal and occipital regions. I don't know this shit that well since my mom and this one chick used to cut my hair all the time.

>>16952833
Well I'm gonna sound lovey-dovey but I genuinely believe if you two love each other, honesty is almost always the best course of action.
If she freaks out over a comparably harmless kink (though keep in mind she might see things differently, of course) she's not the right one for you anyway.
Just try and explain it calmly to her, why it gets you going etc.
When I told a friend of my interest in BDSM, especially bondage and submission, she wanted to tell my mother about "how I want to get raped", so not everybody has to or will understand your kink, but then again not everybody has to know.

>>16952554
You're gay or have had inadequate influence from your mother/father figure growing up.
Stop jacking it, go work out, and eat big. If that doesn't fix you, you have some underlying sexual frustration built up which can be caused by lots of things.

Long ass story but probably doesn’t really merit its own thread

>Meet a girl on a uni trip
>Exchange Facebook
>Go to party week or so later, she’s there.
>We get on really well, people notice us flirting and we go out for a walk together at 1 point, but I get super drunk and she avoids me for the rest of the night
>Next morning I found she’s removed me
>Weeks later, another night out with mates (some of which are hers too).
>The fact I really like her becomes the topic of conversation, end up drunk messaging her saying sorry for ‘being a drunk idiot the other night’
>4 days later, she responds (I think one of her friends may have told her something) saying ‘don’t worry’ and she thinks I did nothing wrong
>End up exchanging a couple of messages about uni and stuff (she seems really friendly)
>Next day I need some help with work so I message her, she comes across as really annoyed giving 1 word answers etc.
>Decide to stop with the messages

I’m normally really shit with girls so I have no idea if she likes me, she’s just being friendly or she generally dislikes me. I still haven’t plucked up the courage to add her on Facebook back. I kind of want to talk to her in person but its Easter break for 3 weeks and we’ve both gone back to our respective towns. Is there any advice you guys can give? Most of my mates are just saying drop it.

>>16952867
I think so too anon. It's just damn scary. When the moment comes, I'll do my best to seize it. Sorry to hear about how your friend reacted. That'd really hurt my feelings if that happened.

Girls,

If you prefer being alone (in short, not needing to be entitled to anyone/giving attention to anyone) is it normal for you to push back your crush/person of interest?
I've been talking with this girl for a few months and she said way earlier that she sometimes gets these moments where she needs some time alone (no communication with anyone) and I find it confusing because she is the first person I meet like this.

Is she simply making a sign of "fuck off" or do things like these happen?
I'm not sure if she's trying to get me to leave her alone or something, we've been talking perfectly fine and she has been really open to me.
Would the fact that she knows that I'm into her but she doesn't know how she feels make this any harder?

>>16952881

I'm not gay or asexual, and I do workout about every 2 days.

>>16952904
Yeah I know it's scary, but the reward is worth it, Anon. You'll be happier once you've got it off your chest, regardless of outcome (and I believe she'll be okay with it, if she cares about you).
It's alright, we were 16 and I don't really blame her. I probably don't look like the kinda girl who wants to be gagged and tied up (or tie up myself). I guess it just shocked her.

>>16952115
Join any sort of club, my roommate was gone for a few months so I went out of my way to join curling teams playing in other towns. While I wouldn't call them friends they'd be close enough to invite me to events.

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Women of /adv/: take a look at my foot. It's scarred and scaly from a fungal infection. This is it after about a day.

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>>16953065

And this is it immediately after using a sea salt scrub.

Since women tend to know about beauty products and etc, is there something like sea salt scrub but more fine? Sea salt scrub is super coarse, I think it might be making it worse. A finer scrub might do the trick.

>>16953065
I can count on one hand the amount of times I've touched my boyfriend's feet in the three years we've been together.

Keep it clean, do what you have to do to let it heal, and get over it. Feet are gross regardless.

>>16952947
idk if you're still here (or if anyone else would like to answer, please do) but I've encountered a very similar problem. A friend went through my phone like the bitch she is and discovered that I'm very much into bondage and being submissive. Since she found out anyway I told her that I'm not ashamed of it and that's that and she said obviously I am since I kept it secret and that 'I should be'.
Now I'm obviously seriously pissed at her but I don't really know what to do, she's like my best friend and we've known each other since elementary. I don't want to lose her over something that is, to me, just a kink. Its a sex thing and that's it, I don't run around wearing a collar all day.
Pls halp.

>>16952883
She removed you. You don't just remove someone for fun or by accident or whatever.

We told you the last times to get the hint already. This time we'll tell you to get some self-respect and find something else to obsess about.

How do I start a text conversation with girls from online?

I am confused. I cannot tell if I am bad at reading signals from women, or getting constantly teased because I'll meet a woman, she's flirty, I flirt back, it's nice and easy between us so I think she's into me. It's not like she's being flirty with other guys or whatever, so in my mind I'm getting 'interested' signals. Yet without a doubt whenever I ask one of these women out I get rebuffed immediately. It's not really a big deal except now I'm wondering if the issue is me, or the issue is them?

Do any girls have a fetish for sissies?

How do I into getting a woman into bed?

>>16953342

Why even bother?

>>16953273
Signals do not speak louder than reality. If she flirts back it's because she wants to flirt. If she declines a date it's because she doesn't want to date. Any connection you see between those things is an assumption you're making and it's a bad one. However you're not doing anything wrong by trying. You don't even need a signal in order to ask if someone's interested in you. You just ask because you want to know. They give you an answer. Easy.

The issue is that you're making this much harder than it needs to be. Remember, simple minded people have relationships. It can't be that complex a process. That doesn't mean it's easy or reliable. It's just simple. Think of it like a slot machine.

For the first time in her entire life my girlfriend (18) went about 3 months without a period. Then it started again on the 17th of this month, is it reasonable to think that it'll be over by the 30th or 31st? She's said that it's been flowing like crazy, most likely because it was absent for a few months.

We've got plans for a special date overnight the 30th and I'm trying to see if we'll be able to have sex, she's not open to sex on her period.

>>16953355
It would be a very significant medical situation if her period lasted (at heavy flow) for even a week, let alone longer. It doesn't "build up" or anything.

>>16952206
It depends on context, I asked a male friend for a favour recently, ultimately because I felt I could talk to him, and as an excuse to get with him romantically..although that would never otherwise be the reason

Sup /adv/,

need a little help or opinion.This is the situation:
I was visiting a friend of mine and his girlfriend. We had a deal that I sleep at the couch of his roommate(shared appartement). She invited me to her bed and was very clingy and the next day she gave me her number and the told me to visit again. Now im questioning myself if I missed an opportunity and if I was to polite? I think I was to blind to see the signs. For my excuse, I was really stoned...

>>16953350
Well when you put it that way, fuck it.

I could be doing anything else with my life instead.

>>16953372
Even if she was into you, would you really want to sleep with your friend's girlfriend?

>>16953399

Not his girlfriend, they live together in one apartment.(He and his girlfriend in one room, and she in another) I dont know the english term for that living style.

>>16953391

Exactly. There are better things

>>16953353
I see what you mean anon. Thanks
> It can't be that complex a process.
It is when you look bad

>>16953406
In that case, yes it sounds like she was interested. Text her.

To both.
I have met a girl through friends. And we talked through text so far since the day we met. Well actually we stopped on tuesday and nothing since. We already agreed to see each other on the next vacations.

My question is how do I deal with communication until then? No message until when I propose something in particular for our date? Or do I occasionnally text her every few days to chat?

I don't want to seem clingy or uninterested

Guys-

Why do you joke about your penis size? Kid in my class got asked why he works out, and he said, "isn't it obvious that I have a small penis?" This isn't the first time he's joked about this, and I've noticed a lot of other guys make jokes like this now too even when he's not around.

>>16953263
Any answers girls?

>>16953652
Penises are funny. It's funny when they are big. It's funny when they are small. It's a simple joke to go for.

>>16953652
Because it's a common thing to be insecure about. Are you asking why he made a specifically self-deprecating comment or why they joke in general?

>>16952908
I think it happens. She might just be introverted, or shy, or uncomfortable with attention altogether.
I'm often and gladly alone, people can be annoying.

Girls and guys

Help

I have a problem I just can not let go or get over. I feel very irritated/annoyed/angry that my female often goes out on dates with guys, and clearly gets lot of sex. She's a good friend of mine. So of course I wouldn't ever tell her that it upsets me. But it just does and it's something I need to let go.

How do I do this?

Girls, do you buy huge cucumbers or small ones?

>>16953699
Tell her you're not a cuckold fetishist.

>>16953699

If you aren't dating her, then it's none of your business. Either ask her out and be the one she sees and screws or stop whining and let her live her life.

>>16953710

About average cucumbers are best.

>>16953711

she lives far from me. And I DO let her live her life. I don't try to control her or "give permission" or shit. She is free and does what she wants. She tells me about these things a lot though. Like "I'm going on a date tonight!!! :D" I try to be supportive because I care about her a lot. But it's hard

Guys,

how much 'value' do you put on kissing in general? Like is it a big deal and do you have to like someone to kiss them, or is it just kind of a part of flirting or something?

>>16953710
Neither, I hate cucumbers

>>16953699
You don't own her. Get over it

>>16953534
Text her when you want to, don't text her if you don't. Do you live your life by every arbitrary rule you come across on the internet or something?

>>16953372
Probably interested, but if you live in a different city, do you really think anything more than a ONS could have come of it?

>>16953355
It should, yes

>>16953342
If you have to ask, just pay one.

>>16953720
It's not a big deal, but it's different than flirting. Flirting is being able to tickle someone's thoughts and emotions. Kissing is a much more direct expression of affection.

> guys like girls that wear dresses and skirts
> i hate dresses and skirts
> feel awkward whenever i wear them

Can guys tell when a girl is wearing something she doesn't feel comfortable in?

>>16953753
Guys like girls who are dressed nice. You don't have to wear skirts and dresses to dress nice.

>>16953753
I think I'm pretty good at telling when a girl is uncomfortable in general.

I prefer dresses and skirts. I prefer a lot of other things too. That doesn't mean I demand them. Wear whatever makes you happy. If you care about what guys think of it then at least make sure it looks nice. Don't force yourself to wear clothes that make you feel awkward.

>>16953720
This >>16953742 basically, although I really really enjoy kissing.

How do I start a text conversation with girls?

>>16953739

>you don't own her

Yes I fucking know this. I don't ever try to stop her. She's free to do what she wants and I've never tried to tell her no.

I'm just asking how ME, I, can inter-personally get over this. Because it eats me away.

>>16952554
>Anyone else deal with this shit?

Sure. Incoming wall of text.

I was a virgin 'til 24, but I definitely had girls try to get at me before then.

One of the more memorable ones:
>we were playing drinking games at a friend's apartment and her roommate dropped herself in my lap and proceeded to play from there for the next couple hours. I didn't really give a fuck. But when every one started turning in she started to try to literally drag me off the couch and in to her bed, when I made it clear I wasn't going anywhere, she finally gave up and walked up up to her ex and took him instead (I laughed).

For me the \abstinence was about waiting for someone who felt special. One day I thought I met someone, it failed, and I stopped giving a fuck all together and just slept with the first chick who wanted it.

So I lost my virginity in the by far the most empty feeling sex of my life. And it reaffirmed what I knew, so I went to at least a fraction of the selectiveness I had before.

For a while I'd have to reject girls advances a ton, but honestly, that was probably mostly on me because that was around the time I started seriously experimenting with dating, I kind of became a MASSIVE fucking tease. Like I'd sometimes I'd escalate things to a point, just to see if I could (Furthest I crossed... I once made a girl orgasm in a parking lot fully clothed, just teasing her... I had no intention whatsoever of sleeping with her )

At some points I went further than I should have, but honestly, actively going as far as I did by intention, helped me recognize that I was subconsciously doing things that were specifically meant to intrigue/encourage women. Whether I consciously intended it or not, I had grown addicted to the attention on some level and was leading girls on.

I've since learned to regulate that and be able to turn it on and off, and I've since had a lot less girls get as forward when I don't want them to.

Maybe something similar is happening with you.

>>16953764
Ask them what they're up to.

>>16953753
No we can't, so keep wearing those dresses and skirts.

>>16953720
Being a good kisser is a big deal to me because it sucks to tell someone they aren't good at something intimate then they might try and compare themselves to some previous partner. I don't have to "like" someone to kiss them just attracted to them is enough.

>>16953775
>>16953764
Terrible advice

>what are you up to?
>not much, what are you up to?
>not much

>>16951254
Ladies how does it feel knowing your only value to men is that warm wet hole between your legs?

>>16953720
Not much, but a moderate attraction is a minimum.

>>16953787
The question was how to start it, not how to continue it. Who told him to answer "not much" or to stop there?

>>16953790
Pretty good. Sex is so important to men, and it's glorious seeing them whine and cry when they don't get it. It makes you feel so powerful, you know?

>>16953342
"Hey girl, does this rag smell like chloroform to you?"

>>16953758
okay cool. do you have any tips for how to dress well? i mean, i don't think i dress BADLY, but i want to improve. it's k if my question should be directed at /fa/

>>16953759
i know that my boyfriend likes dresses and skirts, and i really want to wear them for him. but i just can't shake the awkward feeling whenever i put either of those on

>>16953720
>Guys,

>how much 'value' do you put on kissing in general? Like is it a big deal and do you have to like someone to kiss them, or is it just kind of a part of flirting or something?

It's all relative.

Me, personally, I absolutely give zero fucks.

But I kiss absolutely anyone and I've even kissed dudes (not even bi. I just really don't give a fuck at all so if you try to kiss me, I'll kiss back--unless I'm in a relationship.)

Funnily though, I'm super selective about who I actually sleep with.

Everyone's got their personal boundaries and limits. This is something that has to be figured out on a case by case basis.

>>16953801
And then you get discarded post coitus... As it should be.

>>16953812
>okay cool. do you have any tips for how to dress well?
I don't mind wearing dresses and skirts, but I live in a windy area so it's rare I can wear them. If I do wear them, I always wear tights underneath, I don't really like my legs.

As for how to dress well without skirts and dresses, try accessories. A basic jeans and tshirt combo can be dressed up with different jewellery, scarves, shoes, outerwear, bags, etc. For example, in winter, I like to wear it with my big coat (which has a really pretty, feminine silhouette to it) and knee high boots. If it's a warmer but not too warm, I'll wear flats and a blazer with it. In summer, it'll probably be sandals and a long necklace.

You can have fun playing around with different colours and textures too. Instead of a tshirt and jeans, try a light floral blouse, or a plaid shirt. Shorts maybe, or a pair of printed pants. Try to push yourself out of your comfort zone a little, but don't just make a giant leap and expect yourself to be comfortable

How many activities should you have on any given date day/night? Is doing just one thing and calling it a day too little if you're interested?

>>16953801

I'm a guy and sex doesn't mean jack shit to me

>>16953849
>How many activities should you have on any given date day/night? Is doing just one thing and calling it a day too little if you're interested

As many or as little as you need. As long as you both genuinely enjoy each others company, you could be watching paint dry and be having a blast.

That being said, in general, my most fun dates have always been the ones where we end up roaming across a new town just discovering random things.

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>>16953856
Sure bro

>>16953715
>>16953739
Thanks!

>>16953719
Just tell her that you don't want to hear about it anymore. Stop being so beta, idiot.

>>16952554
You need to get out of the closet as asexual. In your position, I would have banged all of them (at the same time, if needed).

>>16953775
Boring.

>>16953790
That's not true. They are tits as well. I love tits.

>>16953856
If you're a guy and doesn't think with your penis, you can't call yourself a man.

>>16953874
>I would have banged all of them

I need to know who you are, multi-reply slut

You always post in the same format

>>16953790
Indifferent to be honest.

>>16953881
What do you want to know?

>>16953885
Do you consider men only penises? WHY NOT?

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>>16951254
Girls,
I have a female friend who whenever we talk she tells me shit that we have already talked about as if it's fresh new stuff (e.g. a coworker was mean to her today, with all details and phrasing things for me to join her in shittalking about a person, but I remain quiet). I am not sure if it is that she just enjoys venting so much that she doesn't mind telling me the same story twice as if I never heard of it or if she legitimately forgot she had already told me since she tells everything to everyone of her friends and loses track.
The latter I can tolerate. The former annoys me to no end since it feels so gossipy and I feel she is pushing me to join in. Is it ok to call her out on it without being rude/ appearing illoyal or breaking some etiquette here?

>>16953890
How old are you? Why do you come to /adv/?

>>16953890
>Do you consider men only penises? WHY NOT?
Rephrase that?

>>16953874
>if you don't think with your penis, you can't call yourself a man.

You're a fucking cunt

Is there a not creepy way of asking a girl can you talk to her privately.

I want to ask a girl out on a date (don't worry I actually know her) but I'm in a big class and we always sit with our respective friends. I only see her in this one class but would it be weird to just tap her on the shoulder after class and ask to speak in private. I've only ever asked 1 girl out before and it was just us 2 so I'm a bit unsure how to approach this.

>>16953896
28. I had a question for you guys and ended up staying. It's fun to reply dumb questions, post silly questions and sometimes help someone.

>>16953897
Are men something more than just penises to you?

>>16953901
I know, bro.

>>16953891
>she tells me shit that we have already talked about as if it's fresh new stuff
Could really be either. I know people who are gossipers with bad memories that vent the same story at whoever will stand still long enough to listen. They forget who they've told after a while and repeat.

Or she was dissatisfied with your lack of input/ thought you weren't paying attention and decided to grace you with her complaints a second time in hopes of different results.

Third possibility is she just likes the sound of her own voice. Some people never stop talking so dialog repeats after a while.

You could try telling her "you already told me this story". I've done that but there's a chance they'll give you a look that implies they want to stab you to death.

>>16953766

I don't know. Maybe. I've never cared for the "waiting for the one" thing. The very few times have had sex, it was with randoms. And honestly they were really uncomfortable and regretful situations. Then finally. A few years later I met a girl I actually cared about. I fell for her actually. And, because of reasons we didn't have sex (distance). And I wanted to SO FUCKING BAD. It wasnt just about sex. I actually liked her, I cared about her and just wanted to be with her. She is still very special to me. Anyways, I think that whole situation turned me into a very bitter person when it comes to sex and relationships.

>>16953913

like really. You are a disrespectful cunt.

>>16953906
You're making asking someone out into this whole big formal thing. You don't have to ask her to speak in private. Don't do that at all.

Talk to her normally. See if you can hit it off with her without putting a date or anything romantic in your mind. If you're great together and having a blast off each other, go for it and make plans. If you can't even talk with her, why bother?

Girls: On Monday I messaged a friend of a friend that I'd hung out with (albeit only in groups) to have coffee with me. She said that Thursday morning (today) would work and we met up, had a good conversation, and I walked her part of the way to her class holdin her umbrella for her. I told her that we should meet up again next week and asked for her number so we could plan to hang out and she agreed and gave me her number.I already asked if we could hang out next week and she agreed and I already told her in person that I enjoyed meeting up with her. Should I text her something now or just wait until Monday? If yes, what should I text?

Both genders.
What does /adv/ think of girls tagging each other and liking pictures on facebook, about how lonely they are, and their friends being in a relationship and falling in love and they are not etc.

It almost seems like it is a trend.

>>16953935

He's saying he doesn't want to ask her out right infront of her friends. Like she's sitting in a group with her friends. He doesn't want to walk up into their nest and say "hey will you go out with me?" With all of the other Lionesses there.

>>16953906
Well if you know her you should have some means to contact her online or sth. The chillest way is break the ice on some social media messenger or texts. You have her phone number? I know it's sweet and personal to ask a girl out in person but it seems you don't know her that well and talking online is a good way to break the ice and get to know each other one on one. And she can decide in peace if she wants to go out with you and not have to decide in the middle of a busy hallway or sth.

>>16953913
>Are men something more than just penises to you?
In terms of a partner yes. I want a husband.. someone to spend the rest of my life with. If I just wanted a dick I'd marry a dildo. That's probably legal somewhere.

>>16953939
Some people need constant reassurance about the feelings of those around them. Some people don't. I'll let you guess which group most girls fall into.

Girls:

What would you do if a guy you were intimate with asked you to fart in his mouth?

My GF doesn't like texting so much.

When she's busy, such as when she's out with friends or family, I respect her
and I don't even ask her where she is or what she's doing. I just tell her "have a good time and text me when you're back".

The one thing I ask her to do is tell me when she's going out, so I know to stop sending text messages and wait for her to be back home.
Sometimes (like three out of four times) she forgets to tell me and she just disappears without a word.

This drives me mad: I feel like she doesn't even care about me and stuff.
Am I wrong for feeling that way when this happens? How can I tell her that this kind of behavior makes me suffer?

I already told her twice, but she keeps on doing the same thing.

>>16953954
Leave

>>16953954

dude you're fucking gross

>>16953918
Thanks a lot for your input. I'm just gonna call her out on it next time and see how it goes. Will decide if I will kinda distance myself from there on. Might be I will be the next person on the gossip circle but I literally don't give a fuck at this point. I hope she's just a forgetful talker.

>>16953956
>suffer
She's so not responsible for your hangups. Maybe if you need to know whether she's out, you should take responsibility for figuring that out. Giving her that job is wrong.

>>16953939
It's creepy and a little sad.

Immediately after a break up an ex changed his status to single which publicly forced my profile to display that. I was really uncomfortable when I saw people liking and commenting on my relationship status. I ended up changing my security settings and not using the site any more soon after. It's just really weird, especially how public stuff like that is.

>>16953924
This doesn't make me feel any worse, to be honest.

>>16953949
>If I just wanted a dick I'd marry a dildo. That's probably legal somewhere
Haha
Nice answer. Thanks!

>>16953956
You two won't work together. It's time to break up.

>>16953962
Text her this link:
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alzheimer%27s_disease

>>16953939
Seems like /r9k/ for Facebook, but I've never noticed anything like that.

>>16953954
break up with him if he was serious

>>16951254

hey femanons,

how do i ask out a girl that i don't know that well and that i havent seen for 2 months without it being completely awkward?

i had some group work at uni with her until end of january. im pretty sure she has forgotten about me. i found her attractive, but was in a relationship back then and would like to get to know her better now. it's also unlikely that i will see her again anywhere except by chance.

>>16953959
That doesn't really answer the question

>>16953939
>>16953952
I see.
Personally I think: If you want it, go get it. Be the first one to make the move. Nothing wrong with that right?

>>16953974
Why?

>>16953956
How old are you?

>>16953981
The other half of that picture is "social maintenance." You need to participate in the lives of people around you so that you know they'll be there when it's your turn for attention. Basically this is just a circle of people putting on a fake show in order to get reassurance about real feelings. I never said it was smart.