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I have nothing to say to women I want to talk to. It's such a bogus situation. Like I want to say "I would like to get to know you better". But that sounds creepy to just randomly say.

I am 25 and never had a girlfriend because of this. Why has fate been this cruel? What does it feel like to have a girl like you back?

I am sure no girl has ever liked me more than a friend. What a horrendous feeling.
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I don't think that's creepy. I do think it makes it clear you are romantically interested, but that's not a bad thing at all.

We fucking love to talk about ourselves, so you could always go that route. Don't compliment face/body/hair at first, that IS creepy. Compliment dress or shirt or whatever seems tactful (i.e. compliment a unique top, not a generic one or one that shows a mile of tiddy). Go from there. Ask her about herself. I love that shit. If I like you, I'll ask you about you, but if you want to break the ice, let me ramble about me.
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>>16948352
>I have nothing to say to women I want to talk to. It's such a bogus situation.
You need to meet them in situations where there are things to talk about. This is what makes clubs -the kind whete you meet to practice and discuss common interests, not the kind you dance in- and conventions such good places to meet people. Same goes for classes, as long as they're not part of a school curriculum. Even museums and bookstores can work well.

The rule of thumb is this: if she HAS to be there it's bad, if she WANTS to be there it's good, and when in doubt, assume it's bad.

>Like I want to say "I would like to get to know you better". But that sounds creepy to just randomly say.
You put it at the end of your first conversation. That's the non-creepy way to say it. In fact, it's the only non-creepy way to say it: no sooner, no later.
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I hate going to clubs. Also, let me ask you guys some ethics questions. I work at a university as a research specialist. All I do really is gather data about university demographics in the area and analyze it. i have no impact on grades or anything.

Is it unethical for me to date women who are students here? Assuming the girl is close to my age and not like a freshman or something.
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Well you can forget my last post. Apparently this university has a policy in place that prohibits a employee of any kind from having a relationship with anyone on campus if it were not pre existing before the policy. Just fuck my shit up. Now I won't ever find a decent woman my age. Thanks law policy. Thanks for ruining my ducking life b
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>>16948491
Go to the bars those women frequent and you get one night stands. Practice talking to women at the strip clubs and if u can talk her into giving u a free lap dance then ur ready for the bar scene
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do you have guy friends? What do you talk to them about?

I talk to guy friends about... Movies, tv shows, video games, classes, experiences, ideas, sports, mutual friends- stuff like that.

If you are looking to start s convo with a girl you want to meet, start with a compliment. Not about something physical on her, but a compliment about a choice she's made- her haircut, her shirt, her shoes. Try to spin it in to a mini convo that might get some traction
EX: she's wearing a Pokemon graphic tee "hey, that's a Shirt! Did you hear they're making a new Pokemon game soon?"
Ex: she has boots on- " I like your boots- do you remember where you got them from? My little sister has been wanting a pair like that so I've been keeping an eye out."
Ex:she's got a cool haircut/dyed hair "sweet haircut- that's an awesome color. I've always wanted to dye mine but I'm not sure what color I'd get. Plus None of my friends know how to do hair and I dunno if I could trust a stranger"

These types of convo starters won't work every time, but if someone is interested and good in social settings, they'll reciprocate.
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>>16948690
That's a cool shirt***

LOL do not tell her "that's a shirt"
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>>16948642
They mean employees in a teaching or administrative position, not a postgrad student who also tends the uni bar.
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>>16948672
>Go to a strip club to learn how talk to women.

Really nigga?
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>>16948724
Do you want to learn how to talk to sluts or not?
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>>16948352
>But that sounds creepy to just randomly say.

So you don't randomly say it. I get the impression that you can talk to women and know women, and just want to move from friendship to romance.

Don't do it randomly. Don't announce "I want to get to know you better" Just get to know her better.

Have a nice, ordinary conversation with a girl. If it's going nicely say something like "This is fun. We ought to chat more often" If she agrees, suggest having lunch together tomorrow, or some other not-quite-a-date date.

If that goes well, suggest a more datish date, like dinner or a movie.

The idea is to sort of slide into a dating relationship without having to announce it awkwardly in advance.
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Op here. I have no desire for one night stands or dating bar floozies. I want a healthy relationship.

I just wish there was more venues for meeting women in a environment that doesn't involve alcohol, loud music or drugs.
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