>>16944296
Did you or your partner do it?

Probably they are bored in the relationship

Do more stuff together and make it exciting, if their attention is going to another person then you should try to put more effort into making your partner feel wanted, excited, ect ect.

I am a man in a relationship with the woman I am going to marry. We've bought a house together because of a particularly good deal coming up through family - it's that serious.

I've been away from her for a month, and she has been distant in terms of communication because she is very busy. I don't blame her. I love her and think she's perfect. But I struggle with depression, and it's never been as bad as it is right now.

I've started talking to another couple of girls to pierce through the loneliness and pain. If, in this situation, I met another girl who was great i might develop a crush for emotional support reasons. That's one scenario.


If you're simply asking why you have a crush on someone else while in a good relationship:

because A. you're human and B. you aren't entirely fulfilled in your relationship.

Talk to your partner.

>>16944384
Do I tell them I have a crush? It's stupid. I don't see this person and we only communicate through Facebook because they live on the other side of the country.

My girl and I talk to no end about our other people we would fuck to each other. You can have a crush. It's not a bad thing. Acting on that crush with disregard to the person you have a social contract with can cause emotional damage to the both of you long term. But just having a crush is completely normal. You're just a bunch of chemicals. Next time you start thinking bout this crush smoke some pot play video games jerk off and chill out. Nothing is wrong as long as you don't make it wrong.

Because monogamy is a social construct.

>>16944605
I'd never act on it. It's just annoying to think about another person.