So not to long ago I made a thread about finding my girlfriend in a porn video. We had a huge fight and I went in ready to end things. But when she started crying I lost my resolve.
Conversation kinda went like
>your friend had no right to dig into my past and I dont want to talk about it. Let it go.
>We need to talk and what it means for us
>I do want to. It my past and I have to right not to talk about it
>Just like I have to right to kick you out if you dont
This is how the conversation started which was already a bad start. Then she started bitching about how Im not being fair and how the past doesnt matter and how she regrets that it happened. I told her she only regrets that she got found out and that she was perfectly happy cucking me in the dark.
How do I make a proper decision without being blinded by anger or her tears. I dont want to be with a slut but then I dont want to hurt her.
Friends are all saying dump the slut and they'll never let me live down settling with a pornstar.
Knock her up senpai
How attractive is she? Show the link so I can judge.
How good of a girlfriend is she in other areas?
Sometimes the past is the past and she could be devoted to you now if you give her a hard time on it but let it go
>>16919273
Don't be surprised if your friends are urging you to break up so they can attempt to grab a piece of that delicious pie.
>I dont want to be with a slut but then I dont want to hurt her.
What is your definition of a slut? Are you unhappy that she was with others before you or is it that she was paid to do it?
If she's no longer in porn, and you both care for each other, I don't see how it's cucking you. A lot of people throw that term around on here without actually understanding what it means.
>>16919279
You have no standards, have you?
>>16919278
Shes pretty hot. She played field hockey so her body is really good and shes a really good gf. Except for the whore thing.
>>16919279
>What is your definition of a slut?
Degenerate sexual behaviour including but not limited to multiple partners, porn, high partner count, tinder sex, etc
Jesus, it's not cucking you if she did it BEFORE you guys got together.
Like I said in the other thread, just break up with her! You are obviously too angry and disgusted for this to continue in a healthy manner.
>>16919287
Why do you say that?
>>16919290
>Degenerate sexual behaviour including but not limited to multiple partners, porn, high partner count, tinder sex, etc
She can't go back in time to change the past. If it's not something you can let go of, even if she's pretty much perfect otherwise, then it's not a good idea to stick around. You'll continue to be upset and hold it against her until someone reaches the breaking point.
>>16919273
OP don't be a dipshit. Ignore these retards. There's only one question that matters:
>do you love her?
>>16919292
You can definitely be cucked by the past
>>16919299
Love isn't going to matter if he can't move from the past to the present.
>>16919298
Yeah I can see myself holding a grudge and being passive aggressive as fuck about this.
>>16919299
Love hate right now
I remember you, OP.
Leaving is not your only option, and being a cuck isn't the only other choice. Forgiveness is not an easy path, and it's not for everyone or every situation. But if you really want to try it, it's not without it's rewards.
That said, some caveats.
1) Forgive once and ONLY once. If there is any chance you'd forgive her a second time, do not forgive her the first time. That way lies madness.
2) You do not get to become controlling, nosy, or abusive. There will be times when the old fears strike again, and it is going to suck, but you MUST fight the urge to control or snoop or punish. If you don't think you can handle this, leave.
3) Trust doesn't just come back instantly or automatically. There will be times when you will have to deliberately and consciously refuse to distrust her. If you cannot do this, leave.
4) This is a BIG risk. It only works if you are not betrayed again. So you have to ask yourself: is your partner worth that risk? If your first reaction to that question is not an emphatic "yes", leave.
The reward for staying, beyond the immediate logistics of not having to relocate, is stability. Rock-solid stability, of the kind that people build entire social circles around. If you can survive this with your love intact, you can survive anything. But first you must survive it with love intact, and that is no mean feat. If you want to try, then good luck to you. You'll need it.
OP were any of them niggers in the video
>>16919273
>pornstar.
Not everyone who does porn is a "pornstar".
>>16919273
I personally don't put much value on sex, nor do I get why people put all that much value on it (perhaps I am the dreaded normie, perhaps I am the dreaded cuck, but I wasn't raised religious and I like having sex, so maybe it's just a life of sin).
I think how you're acting is a bit irrational; it's in the past, and there's no reason to believe she'll cheat on you. It wasn't cheating, it wasn't cucking, and unless she had a career of it she wasn't even a pornstar. You also shouldn't listen to your friends unless you agree personally with what they're saying; realize that most people are not going to know, they only know because they found it, and strangers on the street aren't going to know.
That said:
1) If it's something that is going to bother you, embarrass you or linger in your past, then break up with her. It isn't fair to either of you. While I don't think what she did is immoral or a necessary indicator of bad behavior, you disagree, and you're unlikely to change your opinion. You won't be happy with her, and she won't be happy with you. It's better for both of you to end it, especially if you're now disgusted by her or no longer in love with her.
>>16919302
>You can definitely be cucked by the past
fucking retard. Kill yourself.
>>16919329
Does race matter here?
>>16919337
Pretty sure thats a contradictory statement
>>16919342
2) I, personally, would be concerned about what else she's hiding. Now, granted, maybe she really loves you and knows you wouldn't accept it, so she didn't tell you. That said, she may also be hiding more than what you now know.
What if she actually was a whore (and doing porn doesn't mean that, but is an indicator of it)? What if there's more videos? What if she does cheat on you? If any of that comes up, you'll feel like a huge jackass.
I personally would have been hurt by not knowing about it, and also would be embarrassed about my friends finding it when I hadn't found it first.
Honestly, I'd probably end it. I think the differing opinions will be lasting, and I don't think you'll get over it easily, especially since you'll likely be embarrassed and paranoid for the rest of the relationship.
>>16919322
But forgiveness is the path of the cuck
>>16919273
She hasn't been unfaithful to you. I'm inclined to agree with your friends but not because she's a slut but because you will need to talk about this. You can't just ignore and not talk about it and hope everything will be fine. If she doesn't want to resolve the issue like an adult you should up and leave.
>>16919342
>I personally don't put much value on sex
I feel like this can only be part of the mindset of a degenerate. But if even you are saying to end it then maybe Im not crazy
>>16919358
She hasnt been unfaithful. Untrustworthy by trying to keep this in the dark though.
>>16919360
>I feel like this can only be part of the mindset of a degenerate
lol wtf?
I'm not him, but how the hell is it degenerate to not care about sex? I don't care about sex either. Any idiot can go out and get laid. I've got higher priorities.
>>16919382
If thats all you think about sex then you arent really different from him
>>16919385
Sex is a fun thing
That's all it is
>>16919385
What the fuck is even your point, nigga? Why do you feel a need to judge us because we don't care about sex? It's completely stupid.
>>16919382
Tbh, I'm assuming OP is either religious or one of those middle-class white people who came from a religious background and is now a staunch "educated" Atheist that fears Christ more than he realizes.
That said, once you remove all the dogma from sex, it's honestly just a pleasurable act with risks and rewards like everything else. As long as you're using STD/pregnancy protection, not cheating and not doing things out of emotional duress, I don't think there's any problem with it.
I feel like people who make it into something bigger, good or bad, are asking for trouble. You're either going to be butthurt and offended over everything like OP, or you're going to be disappointed that sex isn't the meaning to everything, always.
>>16919279
>your friends just want to snag your gf
Ignore this cucks advice like the plague. Your friends are legitimately concerned with you and only want a good future for you. Do people change? Yes. Is it likely she did? No, particularly as a whorish woman. Go read stories of people getting cheated on, and it's the same fucking story... over and over again.
>my girl used to be a massive slut, but she changed now I swear xD :PP
>WTF I came home and some dindu was balls deep in my girl :(
Play with fire and get burnt anon
>>16919396
Why are you so uptight about being a degenerate
>>16919398
This is how you think about sex once you become a degenerate
>>16919273
Why are you even pretending to have some sort of moral compass when you browse fucking 4chan jesus christ
>>16919410
I assume you browse /b/ or /b/ 2.0
>>16919407
>degenerate
this is how you think about people having an active sex life if you're a kissless virgin
>>16919352
>Can't be cucked by the past
what are kids then?
>>16919407
Proof by repeated assertion?
>>16919415
>only kissless virgins arent degenerates
You do realise that this gives you free rein to do whatever the fuck you want with her?
personally I would relegate her to a sex toy and when she displeased me to much I would kick her out. I'm ok with people having a slightly mirky past but when that past could damage my credibly then it's a red line.
Think about where your relationship is going? at what stage do you think this will not crop up in your life?
climbing your way up the company ladder - oh dear your business rival got your gf video
at the day care center with your kid - why are the other dads chatting and smirking at me
on your wedding day - your best man plays the video for shits and giggles, what fun
seriously. unless you're a low life scum with no future, no self esteem and no pride when having a gf who stars in pornos is seen as a plus then you know what must be done.
>>16919417
uhhh that's not the past cucking you, that's you cucking yourself by getting involved with a single mother.
>>16919273
>porn star
>I remember your old thread and you said it was just a low res recording of her and a guy
A lot of people record themselves fucking. It got leaked. She's not a porn star Lol
>>16919452
No I said it was an amateur vid of her and two guys.
>>16919459
You do know that a lot of "amature" vids are just sex tapes that get leaked. she may not have done it with the intention of being viewed. Honestly though just break up with her, EVERYONE is telling you to, and I don't think this level of anger you have and you referring to her as "the slut" lead to any sort of healthy relationship. It's really immature to stay with her when you clearly can't handle this. You don't really have any place to bitch about her shity decisions when you're acting like a child yourself.
Sage
>>16919429
Im not about to use her for sex even though it sounds like a good idea
>>16919471
>not wanting to be with a girl that did porn is childish
You heard it first on /adv/
>>16919353
Yeah it does
Coal burners are forever trash
Answer the question
>>16919459
There's nothing special about an amateur video. That doesn't make her a porn star. Would you consider every girl whose ex leaks nudes or sex tapes of them a porn star?
>>16919273
Really simple here OP. Are you emotially able to handle it. If you aren't, if it's going to be digging in your head for years. Leave her. Don't settle. Chances are if she literally does porn/did she isn't someone you want to date. Really. She's basically a fuck and toss who has no respect for herself and therefore you should give her none.
Damn OP, I understand you're mad and all...but fucking hell you sound like an awful boyfriend.
Give her some compassion, some understanding. If you can't then fucking let her go, she deserves better.
>>16919581
BURN THE COAL
PAY THE TOLL
>>16919273
There's a carbon copy story of this but the cuck ended up marrying her and having kids, then finding out. You have two options
Use her as a gf while you scout for other chicks to fuck and/or get into a relationship on the side
Dump her + cut all contact and start anew by finding women to fuck and/or get relationships with
Your call.
>>16919357
You basically just called Jesus Christ a cuck. Fucking liberal degenerate.
>>16919273
Become the cuck you were meant to be.
>>16919623
If I remember right the guy dropped her ass when he found out.
Like I said in the last thread: OP is a prude, people call him a prude, he gets mad. OP is milquetoast as fuck and its amazing that his girlfriend even wants to stick around. Just do her a favor and breakup so that one of us can swoop her.
>>16919745
>swooping in for sloppy seconds
Beta as fuck.
>>16919667
Jesus had the foreknowledge to swear off women.
>>16919755
Yeah I'll be real worried about if I'm beta or not when some hot bitch with a rocking bod is bouncing on my dick
>>16919766
Impotent male power fantasy.
>>16919623
Holy shit I can only imagine how devastated I would be if I had kids. Id probably leave on principle then though.
>>16919410
>le asshole of le internets
>>16919273
Besides porn being an indicator of someone being a loose whore, I don't see the MORAL difference between fucking someone on camera for money or fucking someone because they buy you dinner and say they love you.
It's all the same bullshit. You're becoming attached to a girl who has had other men inside of her.
>it's in the past
>she really loves me NOW
>she doesn't actually care about them like me
>It doesn't change her or that I love her
>you fucked him when we weren't together so it has no affect on our relationship
All justifications people use for previous partners and all of them justify cheating. If you date a girl with previous partners you're pretty much already a cuck. Why not just go all the way and accept she's done porn, cuck?
My advice would be to find a nice underage girl to be monogamous with and eventualyl marry
>>16919842
>Give me the link of your gf for science
fuck off
>>16919855
>if you dont let me see your gf having sex youre a troll
Im mad not a fucking idiot. Dont waste your time. Youre not getting anything from me.
>>16919864
>It's cool if my gf fucks other guys
>BUT NOT IF ANYBODY SEES IT
top kuk
>>16919894
I salute you my friend. Bump this shit until it 404s.
>>16919879
Its one thing for her to have sex. Its another for her to have sex with two guys on camera. Theres no excuse for the latter.
>>16919925
Id be furious at your spam if mods didnt exist. Im not in the mood.
>>16919943
>ignoring global rule #10 because you want a link to some porn
Ill be back when the mods get here.
>>16919926
>I'm a respectful person who's cool my gf got came in
>I'm a respectful person who's cool my gf has been cum in by multiple men
>but not at the same time
>AND DON'T RECORD IT
Normal people's thoughts are weird.
>>16919962
Why dont you try giving real advice instead of your usual
>you arent a man if you dont accept your gf did porn
or pedo shit like>>16919812
Then maybe I wont have to make a third thread.
I dont give a damn if your feeling are hurt from my gf being in a porno.
>>16919967
No you are just retarded. Do you see a married couple having sex as the same as a filmed gangbang. Its clearly different. If you think sex is evil then just never have it.
>>16919978
Why is it morally different?
>>16919972
The world would be a terrible place if people started having monogamous relationships with 14 year olds rather than casual sex all over the place up until settling down in their mid 20's.
Those disgusting pedos.
>>16919981
Because sex isnt evil. But if you see it that way then I can see how you can conclude that.
But normal people see the difference. Theres eating a normal amount, then theres eating 13000 calories of junk food.
>>16919981
There is literally no reason to be in a monogamous relationship with a 14 besides trying to rid your crippling loneliness.
>>16919793
>Le epic buzzwords
>>16920001
I'm not saying sex is evil. I'm saying there's no real difference between a woman doing porn, fucking her husband or doing a gangbang except as indicators of behavior or personality.
In either situation you're falling in love with someone who's been fucked by other people, they probably still fantasize about them... hell, they definitely fantasize about other people because it's pretty much impossible that you're their ideal partner. And you know they're not your ideal mate either, everyone can improve, so ultimately you're settling for practical love which isn't love like people like to think, it's just another petty, feeling that people have. Love is a delusion. It's all so trivial and primitive. What's normal is arbitrary.
In conclusion, my best advice is to stay celibate, pursue something worthwhile and abstain from trifling human emotions and activities.
>>16920005
When it comes to monogamous relationships there's no reason not to go for a 14 year old.
The only downside is if you're looking for a high-tier of intellectual discussion which isn't going to be found in a 20 year old female anyway and even if it was there's no reason it has to be a sexual relationship and at this point you're much more likely to find a decent conversation with a male than a female.
>>16919415
obviously a virgin who places too much importance on sex
sex is like fucking pizza, you can get it anywhere
don't be so butthurt cause you have a hard time getting laid
I've got an honest question, OP.
You think everyone who has sex with anyone but you is a degenerate, right? Now, you've had sex with this girl. When you break up with her, for having sex before you dated her, are you then going to not be able to have sex again? Like what if your potential future GF, who despite being in her 20s is PURE AS SNOW unlike these FILTHY sluts doesn't want to have sex with you because you had sex with your ex?
You're saying that you found out not from her, but from your friend? She tried to manipulate you into a relationship by hiding her past, you doofus. She would have never told you this. Who knows what else she's lying about? I can't believe you haven't dumped her IMMEDIATELY after such a large breach of trust. Some men are meant to be manipulated.
>>16919360
obviously a virgin who places too much importance on sex
sex is like fucking pizza, you can get it anywhere
don't be so butthurt cause you have a hard time getting laid
>>16920224
>You think everyone who has sex with anyone but you is a degenerate, right?
Dont know where you got that from
>>16920147
>I'm saying there's no real difference between a woman doing porn, fucking her husband or doing a gangbang
Yep, retarded
>>16920228
If she told me up front I probably would have never started dating her.
>>16920147
There is no reason for a 14 yr old to enter into a relationship except to satisfy your crippling loneliness
>>16920245
Cool argument, dude.
>>16920249
There's no reason for a female to enter a relationship except to satisfy your crippling loneliness
>>16920253
>There's no reason for a female to enter a relationship except to satisfy your crippling loneliness
Is this what you are seriously going with.
>>16919357
>But forgiveness is the path of the cuck
No, getting turned on is the path of the cuck. Forgiveness, provided that it's predicated upon this never, EVER happening again, is not a cuck thing to do. A cuck would just let it continue, or even try to set up more opportunities, not to shut it down.
>>16920257
No counter argument?
pathetic
#defeated
>>16919273
I bet you came right out the door acting like a cuck bitch. You should have watched the video together while you fucked her from behind and called her a filthy slut.
>>16920249
Exactly. She knew you wouldn't date her so she "forgot" to tell you this small detail. She even told you off as if you're a jerk for daring to inquire the past in a relationship. Dude, close this thread and DUMP HER ASAP if you know what's good for you.
>>16920265
You can have that argument. Its honestly a waste of time. I feel to bad for you to argue with it.
>>16920224
>Like what if your potential future GF, who despite being in her 20s is PURE AS SNOW unlike these FILTHY sluts doesn't want to have sex with you because you had sex with your ex?
Womanon here
All the pure girls out there honestly give no fucks if a guy is impure. They give a fuck what kind of chicks they slept with as that's going to be what they'll be comparing and competing themselves against.
Girls don't care about a guy's purity. Just the quality of girls. Not to say purity isn't important, but pure girls even lust over the steamiest douchebags because these douchebags have been desired by high quality women.
>>16920264
This cuck logic
>>16920269
Could you get more btfo?
Oh man I'm laughing so hard.
>>16919357
Oh mylord
>>16919273
I want a woman I can respect and my family and friends do as well. A public video of a her fucking two guys is humiliating and forever you are first the guy that has a gf that did porn and she is the girl that did. You will not be known for anything else.
Decisions based on emotions are not the way to go; they are usually illogical and just fuck things up.
Try to make a decision using your head instead of your heart (I know it sounds cliché fuck you) and think about what would be best for your future. Perhaps she did do that in the past, but if she doesn't do it anymore then it might work out. If there's a possibility she might go back to whoring or whatever then it would be safer to get rid of her
>>16919273
Were you he anon that posted about finding a video where his gf was naked or was your video she was getting gangbanged?
