Venting but needing help

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Venting but needing help 2016-03-13 18:44:45 Post No. 16911702
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Venting but needing help Anonymous 2016-03-13 18:44:45 Post No. 16911702 [Report]

I'm feeling horrible right now /adv/. There is a friend of mine and she is making me just feel horrible. I thought we had a better relationship as friends, I thought she valued me as a friend as much as I valued her. Recently I found out that she doesn't really care about me as a friend and doesn't feel comfortable around me apparently. We used to text each other everyday for months shared things, talked about our days, etc. She dated one of our mutual friends but they broke up a year ago, I wasn't trying for anything I just wanted to be her friend. I asked her if she wanted to hangout with me and another guy that she knew since she was like 13 or whatever, she replied later with a message that made me understand what I meant to her. She said "if anon ( her-ex) wasn't going then she's not going. She instantly I got really confused I asked why not? So she started making up this excuse of having different energies with people and how her ex was a positive energy so she needs someone like that around or else she gets tired and whatever bullshit. I had a long ass talk with her about this shit and I asked her this at one point. So let me get this straight, you only want to hangout if anon (her-ex) is there? Does that mean your not comfortable around anyone except him, like you can't have fun with us?

She replied 5 minutes later saying I never said I don't have fun with you guys. She completely ignored the part about feeling comfortable around us. To me this means fuck you guys I don't trust anyone expect my ex so I can't hangout with you guys unless he is there. She acts like were all gonna fucking make a move on her or i dont know, but it made me feel really fucking down because I thought we had a better friendship then we really do.

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Anonymous 2016-03-13 18:45:46 Post No.16911705
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Anonymous 2016-03-13 18:45:46 Post No.16911705 [Report]

>>16911702
Now on top of this she met a guy online and is going to try out a relationship with him by going to his house for a week. This just made it even worse because now im my eyes she trusts a fucking stranger more then me, just like that my eyes were opened to what our relationship really was, and it was nowhere close to what I expected it to be. I really want to be friends with her I had such a fun time but the more I think about it and the more I open my eyes up a little, im starting to think she really isn't my friend and she was just there because of the other guy and stayed because of him.

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Anonymous 2016-03-13 19:31:07 Post No.16911834
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Anonymous 2016-03-13 19:31:07 Post No.16911834 [Report]

Seen this before, been through it myself more than I care to admit. From my own experiences people will be quick to label someone a friend, when in reality it is just someone who is alittle more than an acquaintance.

Its easy too figure out who your real friends are. This isn't one of them from the sounds of it. Take it on the chin and act accordingly.

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Anonymous 2016-03-13 19:36:02 Post No.16911852
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Anonymous 2016-03-13 19:36:02 Post No.16911852 [Report]

just send a final message along the lines of:

'you won't accept me for who I am, I always respected you for your gender and identity, etc. etc.', 'i have nothing more to say to you, but have yourself know during our friendship I would've helped you through any struggle' - which I reckon is true

just make her realise she's being mean and delete and block her

if she tries to get back to you, then good, otherwise protect yourself, bro

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Anonymous 2016-03-13 20:33:17 Post No.16912009
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Anonymous 2016-03-13 20:33:17 Post No.16912009 [Report]

>>16911852
Well right now I stopped talking with her, if she sends me messages I make my answer short and quick and I dont want to have a conversation with her right now. My issue is she is apart of my friend group so I might have to stop hanging out with them for a while also. I hope one day that she can see me as a friend and something along the lines of what she meant to me but I know that is just a stupid dream that will never happen